Many thanks, been searching for "get back at your ex boyfriend" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Woniam Loverman Scheme - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my work buddy got cool results with it.
that's a nice one ! your joke made me lough ! that is what counts these days cheering up, keep smiling seeing the bright side of life the dumper feels lonely he/she may have a "moment of glory" they will actually just go from one relation to the next wondering about why nobody wants to counsel them (they are in need of consultation for a shift in life they will never consider take the change nor the psychological support) the dumper is insecure frustrated unhappy about life they are weak, powerless, full of regrets, antisocial, clueless of the greatness of life fearful beings like a spoiled child that "will not move", stubborn, old fashioned beings (worn out), useless, boring, neglected beings with no self respect do I really want my ex back?!? I think what I actually aspire to have back it's the great version of myself which I have been working on to get back and I am doing a great job and I am proud of myself and I am taking my progress which is steady and fullfilling thank you Coach Lee thank you so much
Diana elz your story really sad I have someone who help me out why I'm tell you is that I know how it feels like try and message him for help here his whatsapp
Hey you! Yes you Guess what?. I want you to know that what ever you’re facing right now, you will get through it. Keep your head up, keep pushing, continue to love yourself, continue to be that positive and respectful person because your blessings will soon come. Don’t be depressed, don’t feel alone. I’ve been through terrible, And scary times, but I’ve fought through The storm, kept myself control, my confidence, I believed in myself, and then I went after what I wanted out of life. If your ex loved you, they wouldn’t have left you. No matter what you might have done to make them angry with you, a person who told you that they love you, and made promises to stick by you wouldn’t dare to leave their lover. Think about it. I hope everyone has a blessed day, and keep your heads up, keep pushing yourselves, and do what you love. Stay positive, stay safe, and keep moving.
M.S.C ISLAND bro that’s such stupid statement saying if they loved you they would of never left you... they did love you it’s just in a lot of cases you did something to change how they felt about you
Well, if the marriage/relationship ends. The best advice is to take it for what it is. It's over and it's time to back off, leave her/him alone and be realistic. As Kahlil Gibran said so nicely: If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If not, they never were.
@@deandavey7112 I think it applies in all situations because true love is forgiving, but that's if the offender is truly repentant and willingly works on changing. When someone loves you, they'll never really leave you, even if you were in the wrong. They may separate and need time to heal. But they'll come back. If they never come back, they were never for you and you were never theirs to begin with. You want to be with the One for you - that will never leave.
Yesterday I was going crazy thinking about texting my ex since its only been a couple days and the time seemed to never pass. But after multiple videos I get confidence to not do it. I try to stay busy but every couple hours when I wanna break down and do it, I come watch a couple videos and it keeps me right on track with the NCR. Thanks coach your videos do wonders!
Just thought I'd post my progress for anyone in a dark place. So its been about a week since she dumped me. At first I begged and pleaded, I wouldnt stop texting her to the point she stopped checking her phone and started ignoring me. I started listening to you coach, I sent a clean slate text 2 days after I stopped contacting her. She replied with a couple words but I didnt reply after, and not even 2 days after that text she texts me saying she misses me! Your were so right about there defenses being up. Make them miss you. This was only a week but in my mind it felt like months, dont beg just listen to coach lee!
My ex dumped me right before Christmas, would not reply to my texts or phone calls. I understand what is going on now thanks to you Coach Lee. You truly have opened my eyes and I will never display such weak behavior again. Thank you!
@@superandersonaldo3874 I hope you're back together but if not keep it that way.recently i found this channel and I can see some points it's going with my ex after 11 long months she is trying to reach me somehow
I know how you feel, I just got dumped a day after Christmas. I hope things have worked out for you and you got your ex back. I hope I can get mine back
@@mollymc Came crawling back after a little more than a month. Have been together ever since. The breakup was painful and we are still processing it with professional guidance. However, we are so good together, and will probably get married in the next few years.
Why does it all need to be a game?....why cant we just talk any issues out and try and fix them..put everything on the table, instead of months of games. Life is too short for it all. Folk should just talk..talkthe issues out, then if they cant be fixed just go your own way. It all seems much harder than it needs to be.
The reason for that is Men and Women take break ups very distinctively and it should be handle with care. This is a very complex situation and Patience is needed in this case Andy.
Its why I wont take back my exes. It feels like a game of if I let you get away with it once you will do it again! Only games I like playing are XBOX and Playstation. Use No Contact to move on in your life. I refuse to be someones second option or have someone coming back to me months later after their new lover fizzled out. I'll talk to you as a friend but you will quickly realize what you once had IS LOST FOREVER.... =)
Good Luck with that. I tried so many times to get him to talk. Then the coach guided me the right way on how to approach this whole situation. The best way for me was to wait. No contact works for those that want to keep trying or if he or she is worth waiting for. Its not a game when emotions are at stake. It was worth it. Our seperation made us stronger than ever. He reached out to me unexpectedly after 5 month No contact. We are two different people now wanting to start over. Stick with the NO contact rule.
@@chonalyn298 lol...my ex told me the same thing thing but last time we had a conversation she told me she's not interested and that she don't love me anymore. 😂 How's the situation??
My wife said we are NEVER getting back together and she's NEVER coming home. She spent the night last night 7 weeks after saying that. We didn't sleep together yet (our kids were here) but we talked all evening, she cried, we held each other, and I think we're going on a date tonight. All this happened because of no contact and following all of Coach Lee's videos and advice. I'm not out of the woods yet, but things have taken a drastic turn since we broke up. Thanks a million Coach Lee.
OMG I NEEDED TO READ THIS. Same my wife didnt talk to me had affair and said she hates me. And she had the affair, and i am wanting to forgive her and fighting the break up. I wonder if i should move out and leave?
@@efthimios What I didn't know at the time I posted this was mine was having an affair too, but we are working through it. She just spent 10 straight nights with me. I had given her a choice, me or him. She said we had too much history together to be with anyone else and chose me. Maybe I'm a fool but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt. So you're still living together?
Southern Fried Funky Monk hi brother we still live tothetger since I found out in January 2019. It started around sept 2018. My wife seems to have distanced him and stopped running around since April 2018... We spent a wonderful summer together but with pain- she seems to be playing both - now it’s looking worse again with her making ugly arguements at home almost trying to make us dovorve - she’s bringing up dovorve. So now i don’t know how to handle it besides I say sorry you feel that way and say I love her and was trying to save it ... she’s at point says she doesn’t love me now and won’t be with me . It’s so hurtful right
@@efthimios All I can say is I watched a ton of these videos and Coach Craig videos and I used no contact and it actually worked. These guys give good advice. But yes, it hurts bad. The worst pain us guys will ever feel is from the females we love.
So true. As men, we often make the mistake of trying to apply logic to an emotional situation. We cant understand why they fell out of love with us, and we try to debate them into seeing our way. If a woman lost that emotional connection to you, no amount of logic will change her mind. Simply fall back and give them their space, and allow natural feelings to take over. Be your best self, and allow that natural attraction to take over. Be kind and courteous if she does make contact after no contact, and approach her as someone you just met. She will want a new you, and she will want to start fresh, like when you first met. Butterflies in her stomach, excitement when she thinks of you, mystery and intrigue. Trust and believe she will feel that with someone else sooner or later so its up to you if you want to step up and make that change to be the “new guy” in her eyes, heart, body and mind. Remember what you had, and use that as energy to redouble your efforts to really make her happy if/when you do ever get a chance to get back with her. DONT EVER go back to the comfort zone of your previous time together. Remember the pain of the loss and cherish the fact you got a second chance with her. Bottom line, never get complacent and take her for granted. Always seek to be that energetic vibrant person and keep that energy going forward. Always remember where YOU personally failed the first time and never let history repeat itself. Start fresh and let go of all the past hangups, blame games, and victimhood. Humble yourself, admit your flaws, and start that new relationship with her as someone you just met.
Indeed my friend. As men we can get complacent or succumbed with work we forget about her. It's time to take back control and live in abundance. Focus on improving yourself in all areas where you went wrong. She will see the change when you are actually unphased by the emotions of the breakup and putting your best self forward.
@@Thigrandil then you did it for all the wrong reasons and she saw through your disguise. You become the best version of yourself for you, not to get her back. Thats the point. Its the mentality that comes with self improvement that attracts. You didnt get her back- so how do you feel? If you feel like it was a waste, then again, you werent being honest with yourself, and she saw through it. Move on, continue to work on yourself for YOURSELF, not for anyone who wont appreciate it. You cant treat your self improvement like a box to check off on list then go run to her for approval. It comes off as needy and obvious. When you show her that you dont want or need her, thats when she’ll want you. You have to understand that after a breakup, she’s gonna know when you’re being genuine in your improvement, and when you’re just “fixing” the bad things she saw in you. As I said before, you have to reapproach them like a brand new person in order to recapture their interest and erase any previous bad memories of you they may have had. When they truly see you as a new person that they’re attracted to, then you’ll have success.
Damn! I have to take a screenshot of this comment, and put it on my wall! So much wisdom! Letting go of the past resentments, having a fresh restart! Most people say things like :"Well if they are the one, they wouldn't leave me" or "a good relationship is always easy" - NO! GOD, NO! No!!!!!! Good things takes energy, and dedication, and during the past month - since my breakup with my SO - I've met so many people, who are having a family or getting married AFTER huge, emotional and rude breakups! These couples are stronger, and more honest with each other than most people I've met in my life! Thanks for the comment!
Tbh this dude is teaching me stuff I knew nothing about. The biggest lesson I have learned: Relax / chill Be the best version of you you can possibly be. Become a high commodity: gold. People dig for gold People do anything to get gold People will rob for gold People will die to get gold People will sacrifice their lives to get gold
I've been through this twice now and every time coach Lee has made me feel so much better. I have yet to go fully into the coaching but just the videos and how straightforward he is about this re-centers my reality. I'm able to really self improve like planned and it really helps me rationalize the whole breakup. It really gives me hope for my future and it's really thanks to him that I can really start my self improvement journey so far its week 1 and I'm still getting used to not having her around. It's the worst pain I've ever felt in my life and just by listening to his videos I can pull myself out of that dark place. Thank you so much coach Lee. Your videos are amazing and exactly what I need.
The best and most logical coach I've ever witnessed. Your advice not only brings about the return of ex, but if not otherwise, it makes me become very peaceful and even stronger.
It's almost three weeks of break up, my world collapse, I can't even eat properly, sleepless nights. He said we are NEVER getting back together. I am suffering like hell but I am hoping one day we will get back together after watching this video. Thanks Coach lee.
@@justinclark1182 Sorry to hear that bro. I wanna tell you something tho. Me and my girl have broken up a few times and she she kept trying to leave me over every little thing last summer. So I finally tried to leave her and she broke down in tears. I told her it was frustrating. I live in Kansas City and I took her downtown and did it in front of everyone. Safe to say after that we didn’t have a major break up till last December which was for 20 days. And I begged and pleaded. But she got jealous that I was with other women and ultimately that’s why she came back. Sometimes if you show them you’re doing better without them they will come back and feel like they’re missing something.
At these times, you just have to tell yourself, that this is just a wave, it will pass. I myself am have started no contact. And you must stay strong. She is posting very bad things about me, but you have to stay strong. Never lose faith. I hope you get you deserve. And finally... It's all binod.
going through exactly what your saying in this video.. everything you say is so accurate.. you are by far the best relationship advice coach on youtube. keep up the good work!!
I lost the love of my life... I had traumas to fight with and she had no energy .. we argued sometimes of hurt and lost us in arguments.. but nothing we can't work thru
My ex said the same thing... She told me she's not interested and that she don't love me anymore. It's about to be 2 months of no contact. 4 years anniversary coming soon next month...she might reach out but I'm never initiating any contact
I have a very uneasy feeling when watching your channel now because I watched your channel a lot back in the beginning when things felt much more terrible than they do now. Over time, I've had a lot of healing thanks to God's grace and I'm praying that time will help me improve to eventually reestablish contact to get my ex back and in the mean time, grow to be able to live without her in the process. There's a lot of things that are a much worse case scenario than others, but some other things are a much better case scenario than others.
We broke up 5 days before my birthday on 20 Jan. I felt devastated and heartbroken. After watching your videos, I feel better and I don't have to be needy anymore towards my ex. I would be lying if the pain isn't there but after hearing what u said, I feel like im better and stronger than this. Thank u coach! Keep it up!
You are my go to right now when my sense of drowning in emotions & pain get overwhelming, when his words recently said really sting, but I am staying calm & being polite & adult.
Thank you one more time to take time helping people like us. Thanks to you i feel so much stronger and ready to do my life and not give up on contacting him :)
Thank you, your videos are amazing I’ve been in no contact for a week. I love the girl but starting to think I deserve better and she’s taking out her insecurities on me. I feel like without her knowing I now have the power.
Coach Lee I knew all this stuff but in the moment you forget it all. I really enjoy your content during this time in my life. Very blunt and to the point my favorite kind of style
He is really good, I feel that he knows and tries not to forget for a moment he is talking to very hurt people. I wish I had a coaching session with him when she decided to move out but continue the relationship. That made me so needy that I messed up my last chances. Plus that I pushed her away during the relationship in the worst masochistic way to bring upon myself my worst fear, of abandonment. Thanks!
Every time I’m feeling doubtful the precise video is recommended to me by CZcams with the exact answers to my questions. Mind blowing. Thank you coach Lee.
Coach Lee ur the man i messed up by asking her if we are ever getting back together and i couldnt give her space but now im hitting the gym taking advantage of this space that shes been asking for to do better for myself im an alpha Male 💪
My ex breadcrumbed me and sent me mixed signals to the point where I broke and tried holding him accountable for those very things he said, leading him to finally being clear that he doesn’t want to be with me. It hurts but I guess it’s better than the false hope he was giving me from his uncertainty.
Every time my heart starts to hurt. Or my eyes start to well up (which seems to be the most random times or when I’m not busy) I come back to coach lees videos. It’s been two weeks since I’ve started no contact. And I still miss him terribly. I hope he’s starting to miss me too.
I’m here at almost 8 weeks NC with just a happy birthday text as the only communication she’s sent. I keep watching his videos to help keep me strong. Together 8 1/2 years, engaged, she cheated and left me on 1/1/22… I feel ya on the random weak moments. Therapy helps, time helps, these videos help, and seeing some success stories of getting back together helps. Stay strong!
@@DigDugDubbs I’m so sorry to hear that ): but her sending a birthday text is a great sign! Have some hope (: I think things are going to work out just the way you want. Just when they do, make sure she values you and doesn’t disrespect you the same way she did. Cause you seem like you were all in with her. It’s the waiting that’s hard. I’ve heard absolutely nothing out of my ex and it’s torture.
Thank you 🙏 😊 relationships are so hard. I’ve always been happiest while being single but there is nothing sweeter than keeping your family together. I’m gonna take it day by day. Not hurting as much as I was anymore. Still have hard days but I think this is happening as a way of leveling up as weird as that sounds. In every sense. good luck to every one. everything will work out 👍🏼 it just does
Jambo jambough, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent! It has strategies for every situation. hppt://myexbackcoach.com/ebk
From the beginning, everything was initiated by her, and on her terms: she found me on a dating site and pursued for two months until we began dating, she decided how often we saw one another, chose to "take some time" in November after 16 months together, broke up with me in early January, chose to reunite less than a week later, then realized she "made a mistake" after three weeks and left again; that was a month ago (as of this Friday). Well, no more! I have been in NC since then, and am taking my power back. Finding these videos a few days ago has also strengthened my resolve to persevere through the difficult moments, which are becoming less frequent. Coach Lee, your advice is refreshing, invaluable, and has definitely saved hearts, minds, relationships and, I'm sure, lives. Thank you so much for what you do!
Exactly... My ex whom I'd dated for 4 years pursued me she we first get to know each other. I was not interested in her but it was all on her terms that that she made me fall in love with her and last October she broke up with me . No contact for about 2 months now
@@hwdareu5848 same lol. Feels so weird. She had a crush on me for a long time and I knew. She was a good friend, we got closer, she asked me out and I said yes. I have never loved someone like I loved her. We were together for 14 months. I became needy and clingy and she lost her feelings for me. And now we don't talk. I've been in NC for 2 weeks. I'm not sure if she will come back and it hurts. We talked everyday everytime and now we are like strangers.
Oh, I really needed to hear this. I think I've watched maybe 10 of your videos. And this is one I really needed to hear. I understand. She was saying it because she wanted relief. I am on day 25 of no contact.
Thank You so much for this! I have been feeling so down after 6 months of break up, also had tried to get back together and he has been rejecting me all this time. Recently found out he went on a rebound relationship just 1 month after breaking up with me and my heart was shattered all over again. Ironically he was mad jealous at me for being with other men after he rejected me...Finally understanding the value of self worth and not begging anything.
God bless you. You are such a nice soul. Thank you so much for trying to ease our sorrows. Compare to your kindness i now really can see that my x had some kind of narcissism. I forgot how caring is.
When they say they don't want to get back together with you, believe it and move on because nearly all of the time they're not coming back. Don't give yourself false hope.
^^^^^ he said he closed that chapter of his life and that things have changed (come to find out, he's in another relationship) so I'm pretty sure he isn't coming back and will stick with her. (Note: this was 4 months after our break up when I asked him so it wasnt exactly right after)
But in my case after he dumped me... He said if meant to be will find our way..... Im stil hoping.... 2weeks afte he dumped me n my 4days of no contact super hard.... I dnt know his side if his enjoying now or what....
@LA BLACK ROSE no news from him... I nver heard anything also from him.... Mybe his enjoying his life.... Let them aftrr they enjoy mybe they will realise also the things.... Me i go bck to my routine... Work hard... Go to gym... Go walk n run with frnd.... Meet frnds.... I dnt hve family hete with me bec im abroad......
@Petty Ceddy hey man Im so Happy for you and that u Response, i mean we really had a bound and shit but I'm bad with emotions .. totally If u want to read I copy Paste a helpless comment a few days and copie it .. I'm really happy for u .. I mean when u love somebody and shit u can work out everything except some things .. Same here man ... And it's hard for me to show constantly love..stupid arguments because of hurt feelings.. she sad that she love me but have no energy for the relationship and stuff.. I also tryd to reason with her that I have made mistakes and it's hard to change but with ur love and help we get this .. so now she broke up after an argument where I was to emotionally or impulsive call it how u want She once sad that she don't want to lose me and maybe if we are both over it in an year we could be friends.. I really don't know how to feel about it In the one hand I think I improve and get her back In the other I think what if I'm over it and don't want to risk it again to suffer .. also she dumb me but idk.. I really can't think clearly and analys who is the problem ... I think we both but mainly me..
I have done EVERY STUPID THING you said not to do. I have been in NC for 10 days now after trying to get back with him for 1 1/2 years. At 68 yo, this has totally shattered me.
Cheers for the video content! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would appreciate your opinion. Have you researched - Mahorrla Bringback Her Method (search on google)? It is a good one of a kind product for getting your ex back fast without the hard work. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my work buddy got amazing success with it.
I wish Coach Lee was still taking calls. My long term (11 years) break-up that's a week old is killing me and isn't covered by any of the videos. I have learned a lot from the videos though. I'm using the No Contact principle but anger and alcoholism (me) played a part in my break-up. I'm in the process of dealing with those issues. But she has started a new relationship with a very great guy. I think I've lost her for good. I'll never forgive myself. Thank you Coach Lee. Your videos have given me something to work with. Phil (Crushed in Connecticut).
Phil Upton im going through the exact same thing man. Alcohol and my lifestyle played a very big part in us breaking up. We have been together for 8 years and she found somebody new and says he’s way better than me and treats her so good. She says we will never get back together. So any updates on your situation??
@@Infinite_being1 not yet, sorry to hear that you're going through what I am. It sucks big time. I'm just starting no contact so it's going to be several months before she comes back from working in Florida (where her new boyfriend lives) before I know how it went between them. I hate theis whole scenario.
Thanks Coach. This came at a perfect time as my ex told me he is not ready and maybe will need a year. I did not ask about getting back together. I had just mentioned something we had planned in a few years (buying a farm which was his dream). I am in NC for about a month and in this month he has been reaching out a few times, he initiated a few texts and video called me once. We are in different countries now. Thanks for your videos, you are a great coach and always make a lot of sense.
Most times those comments come from anger and that’s why it’s necessary to give a person space so those angry feelings can go, staying around would only amplify them
I am only into day 3 of NC during this time my ex has told a friend that there is no chance of us getting back together and he is better off without me which has broke my heart into many pieces. Thank you Coach Lee for this video, it has given me strength to carry on and not to reach out. I just hope in time he will start to miss me and contact me. Thanks again Coach Lee. I will keep watching your videos to help me through this NC time. You are by far the best coach x
I needed that video right now. I was in a NC for 4 days, 5 days from the "breakup". He said on the breakup that there is no chance (the amount of other life issues he is facing right now is insane and he is pushing away a lot of people, including me, and saying that he just does not have feelings for me anymore). We had to meet today because he had to come and pick up a car from my parent's house where I am staying and since I was feeling confident and calm I decided to go out too, to say hello to our dog who was with him. We talked. He actually initiated it, saying that we should postpone our last meeting to divide stuff and discuss finanical matters as the issue he is struggling right now and has no control of (a very costly and huge domestical thing related to his mom's house) has taken a very bad turn and the entire process to solve it takes even more time. I said to him that this is completely fine and we can do it whenever he is ready. He then said again that he is certain of his decision still right now and just sees this as a right thing, he does not want to take another chance, but his entire overall attitude and the way he said things initiated that the decision is done for NOW and at this moment he feels this is not right, and that right now he just needs to be alone and sort out his entire life. I was already happy actually to hear he has given up all the distractions he had in his life and wich made him numb, and he just wants to be alone to sort everything out. I told him that this is great that after years he finally takes a step back and takes care of himself and I respect his decision sincerely. I also took the chance and apologized on how I behaved on our breakup, and I was selfish, and that I did not accept his wish for my own sake back then. We did have a plan to go to a final getaway trip which we have actually planned a year, and I am also glad that he said that we should do it at the end of summer, when he finally has time to truly relax and rest. I stayed calm and positive and I asked questions as he was open to a discussion and led it all the time. I emphasized several times again that I am giving him his space and I don't want to be friends right now, I want more, and thus, I am giving him his space. It was very hard and he even mentioned very subtly when I said that I miss you guys (not in a desperate way but when I was petting our dog and he licked my face) and he said that he knows, he understands, all the memories and habits, and this is very hard for him too, then he sat down and I heard his voice break. We said goodbye very neutrally and politely. No tears, I gave him a huge smile, he gave me a big hug. I was a mess a bit afterwards when I went back inside and cried myself empty, but then I reminded myself that It's only a day 5 and the no contact rule was somewhat broken, and I will now start again, stronger than before, because even though he said there is no hope, I still saw that he has started to crack, VERY little, but still, I just need more time. And Oh, how hard this is going to be... Thanks, Coach Lee, for keeping me sane...
Best coach ever! Thank you so much! Im so blessed watching all your videos. It is very helpful not only to me but to everyone struggling in their relationship. GOD BLESS YOu! #Coach lee
Your videos are great! Keep it like this!! I💯👍in this way you teach us how not to be wrong with ourselves and our partner, you help us to see both sides of the situation.
Watching you is more than getting ex back, inspired me to improve myself, avoiding depression and focus on personal growth. I been watching you for 2 weeks I can se I’m worth it . If someone don’t see how valuable am I. I don’t care anymore I don’t want him back!!! The right one will see how I m worth for him.
My parents have been married over fifty years now my mom said if people were adult nowadays we wouldn't have to have a couch Lee if lady's understand what relationship means they would never leave you would be a team a couple and build a future and stability and security lady's would be loyal and faithful and responsible and respectful and committed to you
It's hard to take an exes words seriously. Especially a woman. They may feel that way or have convinced themselves it's true, but often times they are either telling u something to get u to leave them alone or they really do believe they feel that way, for now. Feelings change and space can work wonders. They can't miss u if u never go away and either way the best thing to do is give them what they want. It will likely be good in the long run to take their word and go no contact
But what if I feel I need to apologize for the arguments saying Ive learned from what I did and to tell them I know how beautiful she is and never meant to make her feel objectified
I never begged but asked for my things to be returned or $$ . Done waiting on that. 2 months NC. He never really cared because he didn’t want a relationship after a 1.5 yr of games.
Ive had someone say she will never talk to me again...then she did 2 months later and asked me out on a date. We dated 3 months. People say what they feel in the moment. Feelings change. Especially in a fight? Ignore anything they say in a fight.
If they leave you once they will do it again my parents have been married over fifty years now they don't play these games commitment is key and lady's don't understand commitment anymore
3 months NC. Elation phase will be over soon. Next 2 months my ex will go threw the remaining phases.. be neutral and then hopefully regret and reach out to me. By then she will be where I was mentally when I walked away. Both partners have to get each other fully out of the system for a full reset to work.
Not sure how my situation applies to this concept, but my ex started treating me badly, saying she was unsure of our future etc... I tried to back away and end it several times, as it only got worse and worse. But everytime I backed away, she would call me all the time and lure me back in. I was weak and started getting my hopes up, only to be disappointed again. A few days ago I ended it properly, since she still didnt want to be with me and I couldnt take feeling like such a low priority of hers anymore. My heart is breaking, but I had no choice. She is calling like crazy and I was forced to block her everywhere, because going back at this point, only to endure more of the emotional torture is not an option. I made it very clear, maybe too clear, that I wanted to be with her. But she didnt feel the same way. Last thing I told her was that if she has something meaningful to say, she knows where I live (we live about 45 miles apart) If not, she needs to leave alone so I can move on. I really hope she will be here one day, telling me she wants to be with me to, but I highly doubt it... Thank you for reading this, whoever you are 🌹
Recently broken up with my guy, I begged in the beginning but have backed off after I told him 'i wished him every happiness and hope he finds what he's looking for, replied with 'just let it go for now' i didnt respond.
Same here man ... And it's hard for me to show constantly love..stupid arguments because of hurt feelings.. she sad that she love me but have no energy for the relationship and stuff.. I also tryd to reason with her that I have made mistakes and it's hard to change but with ur love and help we get this .. so now she broke up after an argument where I was to emotionally or impulsive call it how u want She once sad that she don't want to lose me and maybe if we are both over it in an year we could be friends.. I really don't know how to feel about it In the one hand I think I improve and get her back In the other I think what if I'm over it and don't want to risk it again to suffer .. also she dumb me but idk.. I really can't think clearly and analys who is the problem ... I think we both but mainly me..
My ex decided to break up with me, I texted him, and thanked him for the inauthentic experience. As painful as it was I never contacted him again. He did me dirty.
we agreed on the break up in order to star anew. but for my ex, that meant that he needs to go through multiple relationships and afterwards, if he deems he had something good with me, he'll come back in a couple of years. also, he told me that i shouldn't wait for him. he still wanted to have contact, but after a month i told him i wanted no contact (he kept texting me randomly) (and i texted him a couple of times afterwards, nothing bad though), and after another month i told him that i didn't like his proposition and that he could do whatever he wanted and wished him well. we work in the same place and we say hi, but that's it. it's been a week since i haven't talked to him. still hoping he'll come back, though he's very stubborn. I'm afraid that i'm encouraging him to not talk to me by not talking to him. hope i didn't mess up the no contact too bad. but now i don't know whom should be coming back to whom at this point.
Alice Blue Alice have more value in yourself than that girl. Why allow yourself to be 2nd or 3rd place to him. There are plenty of dudes that will put you as their 1st place, their priority. Work on yourself and let that guy go, any man that says that to a woman has some serious issues and is not a keeper. Best wishes amiga.
Thank you.. now I’ve realized I made a mistake of pleading 🥺 begging him to fix our marriage relationship and stopped him to leave which it did not work of course, it’s been three weeks now since he left, now I will start no contact with him and will focus on myself. Thank you 🙏 you’re a great 👍🏻 coach.
Thank u coach lee !! for explaining without interruption or advertising ur book or interviewing urself like other coaches every other 5 minutes in the middle of the vedio ur explaining lol I stopped watching them actually it makes me stop the video and leaving their Channel very frustrating! Glad I found someone (such as u ofcourse) who is dedicated 100% and who only talks about the subject itself and very clear in delivering the content with no interruptions 🙏🏻 Subscribed❗️😊
My ex broke up with me and I cried and pleaded and asked this exact question. He also used to be the one to say that I was his future wife, future mother of his kids and whatnot. He accepted my flaws and said his love for me was steadfast and that he’s not gonna give up (and vice versa). But when he broke up with me he said he still loves me and he just didn’t like making me cry and hurt anymore (he’s been going through SO MUCH stress lately). I asked if we could give each other time to work on ourselves since we both are taking therapy so we can get back together stronger. He said we can’t ever get back together because we need to get better for ourselves, not the relationship. He also didn’t want to give me false hope. I have a feeling he only wants me to believe that it’s really 100% over so that we can genuinely get better as individuals, and then he’ll take me back once we do. There’s no way we went through so much passion and that he said all those reassuring things and suddenly wants to end it. Thanks for this video, I’m 3 weeks of NC (except only when we have to talk about our moving situation). I hope time heals the both of us, and I hope we can rekindle.
Ok, I messed up and asked that question several times over the past 20 months and she has said; "if you need an answer now, its no, but I can't speak for the future because its the future", "I'm not where I need to be right now", and "I can't just jump up and say we're going to try again right now". What I really wanted to hear was "no, we are never getting back together" because that would have forced me to let go.
20 months??? That would be so hard ... I pestered and brothered my ex for 1 and half months and she told me she's not interested and love me anymore so I walked away politely. It's about to be 2 months of no contact. 4 years of memories together
If a lady leaves you and wants space after you spend money on her and her children and she manipulated you into an engagement and tells you and everyone around her that you are everything to her then she is a liar and if you get back together she will leave again angie did this I was used
you are the best coach Lee, u make so much sense
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You are the best Lee, I learned to much from you, how to accept the breakup with my boyfriend.
I second that
Many thanks, been searching for "get back at your ex boyfriend" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Woniam Loverman Scheme - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my work buddy got cool results with it.
Don’t let your ex live rent free in your head!
Like having a backseat driver and their not even in your car
that's a nice one !
your joke made me lough !
that is what counts these days
cheering up, keep smiling
seeing the bright side of life
the dumper feels lonely
he/she may have a
"moment of glory"
they will actually just go from
one relation to the next
wondering about why nobody wants to counsel them
(they are in need of consultation for a shift in life they will never consider take the change nor
the psychological support)
the dumper is insecure
frustrated
unhappy about life
they are weak, powerless,
full of regrets, antisocial,
clueless of the greatness of life
fearful beings like a spoiled child
that "will not move", stubborn,
old fashioned beings (worn out),
useless, boring, neglected beings
with no self respect
do I really want my ex back?!?
I think what I actually aspire to have back it's the great version
of myself which I have been working on to get back and I am doing a great job and I am proud of myself and I am taking my progress which is steady and fullfilling
thank you Coach Lee
thank you so much
It's easier said than done...Everyone's situation is dfferent, I wish it was as simple as that. No Contact is a way to make that happen though.
My ex after 7 months of no contact he returned back with a wedding ring! No contact works miracles.
Diana elz your story really sad I have someone who help me out why I'm tell you is that I know how it feels like try and message him for help here his whatsapp
Johnson B this comment proves you’re a bot lol
diana elz can you tell us the story? I want to hear all about it
Did you say yes?
WOW
Lesson learned. The moment someone breaks up with me I’m agreeing. I don’t want someone who doesn’t want me!
No point of trying to convince them and definitely do not beg for someone to be in your life. If they want out then grant them that wish.
@@mrjjthor same 3 week no contact got tired of stupid breadcrumbs too...
He called to breakup and got angry I didn't fight for the rship to get back, it's been over a year now.
Same, that was a lesson I learned from this last breakup
yet you're here 😂 don't act tough bhai
Hey you!
Yes you
Guess what?.
I want you to know that what ever you’re facing right now, you will get through it. Keep your head up, keep pushing, continue to love yourself, continue to be that positive and respectful person because your blessings will soon come. Don’t be depressed, don’t feel alone. I’ve been through terrible, And scary times, but I’ve fought through The storm, kept myself control, my confidence, I believed in myself, and then I went after what I wanted out of life. If your ex loved you, they wouldn’t have left you. No matter what you might have done to make them angry with you, a person who told you that they love you, and made promises to stick by you wouldn’t dare to leave their lover. Think about it. I hope everyone has a blessed day, and keep your heads up, keep pushing yourselves, and do what you love. Stay positive, stay safe, and keep moving.
Ty.
Thank you so much for this, stranger :)
M.S.C ISLAND - thank you for your encouraging message and speaking some more life into me during this time. Wishing you the best from ATL. -Paige
M.S.C ISLAND bro that’s such stupid statement saying if they loved you they would of never left you... they did love you it’s just in a lot of cases you did something to change how they felt about you
M.S.C ISLAND I definitely needed to see that message today .. thanks for the motivation.
I don't want someone who doesn't want me life is too short let them walk
Damn right.
Yep
Exactly! One minute they love you. The NEXT they saying how you’re Nothing to them.
Relationship is a full time job, don’t apply for it if you are available part time.
Nothy Saint wow! That’s is one impressive saying! Really effective!
Love it
This is too true. Made my ex drop kick me super quick painful lesson
😂😂😂
Well, if the marriage/relationship ends. The best advice is to take it for what it is. It's over and it's time to back off, leave her/him alone and be realistic. As Kahlil Gibran said so nicely: If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If not, they never were.
What about if you hurt them deeply? Does that still apply if you were in the wrong?
So true
best advice bro
@@deandavey7112 I think it applies in all situations because true love is forgiving, but that's if the offender is truly repentant and willingly works on changing. When someone loves you, they'll never really leave you, even if you were in the wrong. They may separate and need time to heal. But they'll come back. If they never come back, they were never for you and you were never theirs to begin with. You want to be with the One for you - that will never leave.
@@hotta2nitelight53 That's a brilliant persepective and the right way to look at it. Thank you for that 👍🏻👍🏻
Yesterday I was going crazy thinking about texting my ex since its only been a couple days and the time seemed to never pass. But after multiple videos I get confidence to not do it. I try to stay busy but every couple hours when I wanna break down and do it, I come watch a couple videos and it keeps me right on track with the NCR. Thanks coach your videos do wonders!
Just thought I'd post my progress for anyone in a dark place. So its been about a week since she dumped me. At first I begged and pleaded, I wouldnt stop texting her to the point she stopped checking her phone and started ignoring me. I started listening to you coach, I sent a clean slate text 2 days after I stopped contacting her. She replied with a couple words but I didnt reply after, and not even 2 days after that text she texts me saying she misses me! Your were so right about there defenses being up. Make them miss you. This was only a week but in my mind it felt like months, dont beg just listen to coach lee!
Stay strong I'm a month in now
@@Sam-gk3qo thanks brother you too!
Leonardo Gomez what did you text her?
Leonardo Gomez my gf blocked me on everything because I cheated and said she never wants to be with me and her friends and family hates me.
His dry humor is so funny
Gracelike rain i think I just found my next girlfriend coach lee
This guy probably has the best advice I’ve witnessed. Unbelievable.
"Do you trust it?" Is probably one of the greatest points I have ever heard regarding trying to convince an ex back
Coz maybe he will take advantage of it.
My ex dumped me right before Christmas, would not reply to my texts or phone calls. I understand what is going on now thanks to you Coach Lee. You truly have opened my eyes and I will never display such weak behavior again. Thank you!
Any update? I have a similar time frame of the breakup and just recently stopped trying to talk and started NC
@@superandersonaldo3874 I hope you're back together but if not keep it that way.recently i found this channel and I can see some points it's going with my ex after 11 long months she is trying to reach me somehow
kcanter001 I know how you feel.. just got dumped, right before Christmas and New Years Eve ..
just had my relationship of 3+ years end a few days ago on christmas :/ it hurts a lot
I know how you feel, I just got dumped a day after Christmas. I hope things have worked out for you and you got your ex back. I hope I can get mine back
My partner was so indecisive about EVERYTHING. Yet, they feigned decisiveness when dumping me on a whim.
How are you doing now?
@@mollymc Came crawling back after a little more than a month. Have been together ever since. The breakup was painful and we are still processing it with professional guidance. However, we are so good together, and will probably get married in the next few years.
Why does it all need to be a game?....why cant we just talk any issues out and try and fix them..put everything on the table, instead of months of games. Life is too short for it all. Folk should just talk..talkthe issues out, then if they cant be fixed just go your own way. It all seems much harder than it needs to be.
Exactly
People don't know what they've got till it's gone
The reason for that is Men and Women take break ups very distinctively and it should be handle with care. This is a very complex situation and Patience is needed in this case Andy.
Its why I wont take back my exes. It feels like a game of if I let you get away with it once you will do it again! Only games I like playing are XBOX and Playstation. Use No Contact to move on in your life. I refuse to be someones second option or have someone coming back to me months later after their new lover fizzled out. I'll talk to you as a friend but you will quickly realize what you once had IS LOST FOREVER.... =)
Good Luck with that. I tried so many times to get him to talk. Then the coach guided me the right way on how to approach this whole situation. The best way for me was to wait. No contact works for those that want to keep trying or if he or she is worth waiting for. Its not a game when emotions are at stake. It was worth it. Our seperation made us stronger than ever. He reached out to me unexpectedly after 5 month No contact. We are two different people now wanting to start over. Stick with the NO contact rule.
He speaks the gospel about how to get you ex back.
Amen to that it's like he's telling me just be cool everything will be fine a very uplifting guy
Had to watch this video twice because it’s so funny that you know EXACTLY what the majority of our ex’s say in a break up.
Coach lee my ex told me.... If we meant to be we find our way.... But for now i just wanna be alone.... N do whtever i want....
@@chonalyn298 lol...my ex told me the same thing thing but last time we had a conversation she told me she's not interested and that she don't love me anymore. 😂 How's the situation??
Sharon Thanls but I don't need my ex.... I'm perfectly fine 😊
My wife said we are NEVER getting back together and she's NEVER coming home. She spent the night last night 7 weeks after saying that. We didn't sleep together yet (our kids were here) but we talked all evening, she cried, we held each other, and I think we're going on a date tonight. All this happened because of no contact and following all of Coach Lee's videos and advice. I'm not out of the woods yet, but things have taken a drastic turn since we broke up. Thanks a million Coach Lee.
OMG I NEEDED TO READ THIS. Same my wife didnt talk to me had affair and said she hates me. And she had the affair, and i am wanting to forgive her and fighting the break up. I wonder if i should move out and leave?
@@efthimios What I didn't know at the time I posted this was mine was having an affair too, but we are working through it. She just spent 10 straight nights with me. I had given her a choice, me or him. She said we had too much history together to be with anyone else and chose me. Maybe I'm a fool but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt. So you're still living together?
Southern Fried Funky Monk hi brother we still live tothetger since I found out in January 2019. It started around sept 2018.
My wife seems to have distanced him and stopped running around since April 2018...
We spent a wonderful summer together but with pain- she seems to be playing both - now it’s looking worse again with her making ugly arguements at home almost trying to make us dovorve - she’s bringing up dovorve.
So now i don’t know how to handle it besides I say sorry you feel that way and say I love her and was trying to save it ... she’s at point says she doesn’t love me now and won’t be with me . It’s so hurtful right
@@efthimios All I can say is I watched a ton of these videos and Coach Craig videos and I used no contact and it actually worked. These guys give good advice. But yes, it hurts bad. The worst pain us guys will ever feel is from the females we love.
Herakles try to work it out .
So true. As men, we often make the mistake of trying to apply logic to an emotional situation. We cant understand why they fell out of love with us, and we try to debate them into seeing our way. If a woman lost that emotional connection to you, no amount of logic will change her mind.
Simply fall back and give them their space, and allow natural feelings to take over. Be your best self, and allow that natural attraction to take over. Be kind and courteous if she does make contact after no contact, and approach her as someone you just met. She will want a new you, and she will want to start fresh, like when you first met. Butterflies in her stomach, excitement when she thinks of you, mystery and intrigue. Trust and believe she will feel that with someone else sooner or later so its up to you if you want to step up and make that change to be the “new guy” in her eyes, heart, body and mind.
Remember what you had, and use that as energy to redouble your efforts to really make her happy if/when you do ever get a chance to get back with her. DONT EVER go back to the comfort zone of your previous time together. Remember the pain of the loss and cherish the fact you got a second chance with her.
Bottom line, never get complacent and take her for granted. Always seek to be that energetic vibrant person and keep that energy going forward. Always remember where YOU personally failed the first time and never let history repeat itself.
Start fresh and let go of all the past hangups, blame games, and victimhood. Humble yourself, admit your flaws, and start that new relationship with her as someone you just met.
Omg!!!!! I'm doing this!!!!
Indeed my friend. As men we can get complacent or succumbed with work we forget about her. It's time to take back control and live in abundance. Focus on improving yourself in all areas where you went wrong. She will see the change when you are actually unphased by the emotions of the breakup and putting your best self forward.
Did all of the above become the best possible version of myself. Still got turned down 5 months after our break up
@@Thigrandil then you did it for all the wrong reasons and she saw through your disguise. You become the best version of yourself for you, not to get her back.
Thats the point. Its the mentality that comes with self improvement that attracts.
You didnt get her back- so how do you feel? If you feel like it was a waste, then again, you werent being honest with yourself, and she saw through it. Move on, continue to work on yourself for YOURSELF, not for anyone who wont appreciate it.
You cant treat your self improvement like a box to check off on list then go run to her for approval. It comes off as needy and obvious. When you show her that you dont want or need her, thats when she’ll want you.
You have to understand that after a breakup, she’s gonna know when you’re being genuine in your improvement, and when you’re just “fixing” the bad things she saw in you.
As I said before, you have to reapproach them like a brand new person in order to recapture their interest and erase any previous bad memories of you they may have had. When they truly see you as a new person that they’re attracted to, then you’ll have success.
Damn! I have to take a screenshot of this comment, and put it on my wall! So much wisdom! Letting go of the past resentments, having a fresh restart! Most people say things like :"Well if they are the one, they wouldn't leave me" or "a good relationship is always easy" - NO! GOD, NO! No!!!!!! Good things takes energy, and dedication, and during the past month - since my breakup with my SO - I've met so many people, who are having a family or getting married AFTER huge, emotional and rude breakups! These couples are stronger, and more honest with each other than most people I've met in my life! Thanks for the comment!
Nodding my head from moment u started talking to the end!
It’s like u were talking to me
Thank you!
This is all that I needed to hear
You are one of the best coaches in getting back with ex on internet. All your advice is so wise. Keep up the good work.
Coach Lee is awesome, I listen to him everyday, and it is like having,a counselor, everyday and it is soothing.
Tbh this dude is teaching me stuff I knew nothing about.
The biggest lesson I have learned:
Relax / chill
Be the best version of you you can possibly be.
Become a high commodity: gold.
People dig for gold
People do anything to get gold
People will rob for gold
People will die to get gold
People will sacrifice their lives to get gold
Your voice is like resuscitation,giving oxygen to me every hour
I've been through this twice now and every time coach Lee has made me feel so much better. I have yet to go fully into the coaching but just the videos and how straightforward he is about this re-centers my reality. I'm able to really self improve like planned and it really helps me rationalize the whole breakup. It really gives me hope for my future and it's really thanks to him that I can really start my self improvement journey so far its week 1 and I'm still getting used to not having her around. It's the worst pain I've ever felt in my life and just by listening to his videos I can pull myself out of that dark place. Thank you so much coach Lee. Your videos are amazing and exactly what I need.
Those two times, did they come back
The best and most logical coach I've ever witnessed. Your advice not only brings about the return of ex, but if not otherwise, it makes me become very peaceful and even stronger.
Coach Lee your wisdom is liquid gold..knowledge is power..no..applied knowledge is power! Great video, keep up the great work!
It's almost three weeks of break up, my world collapse, I can't even eat properly, sleepless nights. He said we are NEVER getting back together. I am suffering like hell but I am hoping one day we will get back together after watching this video. Thanks Coach lee.
I'm 8 months in. Still can't eat or sleep
Update???
@@justinclark1182 update??
@@giovannimorgan8728 dead in the water. she's GONE
@@justinclark1182 Sorry to hear that bro. I wanna tell you something tho. Me and my girl have broken up a few times and she she kept trying to leave me over every little thing last summer. So I finally tried to leave her and she broke down in tears. I told her it was frustrating. I live in Kansas City and I took her downtown and did it in front of everyone. Safe to say after that we didn’t have a major break up till last December which was for 20 days. And I begged and pleaded. But she got jealous that I was with other women and ultimately that’s why she came back. Sometimes if you show them you’re doing better without them they will come back and feel like they’re missing something.
Just started watching your videos and it’s crazy how common sense what your saying but when you are emotional you don’t think like that 🤦🏾♂️
At these times, you just have to tell yourself, that this is just a wave, it will pass.
I myself am have started no contact. And you must stay strong. She is posting very bad things about me, but you have to stay strong.
Never lose faith.
I hope you get you deserve. And finally... It's all binod.
going through exactly what your saying in this video.. everything you say is so accurate.. you are by far the best relationship advice coach on youtube. keep up the good work!!
How was the result?
I run all Coach Lee videos every night cuz his voice and pace of speech makes things to eas out a little
Lol 😂 what your ex says after a break up meaning nothing l agree my ex has said that and we ended back together 😂🤣
Why she broke up with u ?
I lost the love of my life... I had traumas to fight with and she had no energy .. we argued sometimes of hurt and lost us in arguments.. but nothing we can't work thru
Excellent job
My ex said the same thing... She told me she's not interested and that she don't love me anymore. It's about to be 2 months of no contact. 4 years anniversary coming soon next month...she might reach out but I'm never initiating any contact
Mysteriously Mysterious any update ??
@coachlee what a paradigm shift
“an emotionally undeveloped person .”
WOW!!!
so much wisdom in this one phrase!!!
I have a very uneasy feeling when watching your channel now because I watched your channel a lot back in the beginning when things felt much more terrible than they do now. Over time, I've had a lot of healing thanks to God's grace and I'm praying that time will help me improve to eventually reestablish contact to get my ex back and in the mean time, grow to be able to live without her in the process.
There's a lot of things that are a much worse case scenario than others, but some other things are a much better case scenario than others.
We broke up 5 days before my birthday on 20 Jan. I felt devastated and heartbroken. After watching your videos, I feel better and I don't have to be needy anymore towards my ex. I would be lying if the pain isn't there but after hearing what u said, I feel like im better and stronger than this. Thank u coach! Keep it up!
You are my go to right now when my sense of drowning in emotions & pain get overwhelming, when his words recently said really sting, but I am staying calm & being polite & adult.
I wish i had come across your channel last year. It would have saved a lot of pain I went through in accepting the rejection
Thank you one more time to take time helping people like us. Thanks to you i feel so much stronger and ready to do my life and not give up on contacting him :)
We love you coach lee. You are very soothing and enjoy your videos on daily basis.
Thank you, your videos are amazing I’ve been in no contact for a week. I love the girl but starting to think I deserve better and she’s taking out her insecurities on me. I feel like without her knowing I now have the power.
Coach Lee I knew all this stuff but in the moment you forget it all. I really enjoy your content during this time in my life. Very blunt and to the point my favorite kind of style
Coach Lee,
Your words means so much Thank you for everything you do for people
Yeah I ain’t dating anyone for a while
👏👏👏
He is really good, I feel that he knows and tries not to forget for a moment he is talking to very hurt people. I wish I had a coaching session with him when she decided to move out but continue the relationship. That made me so needy that I messed up my last chances. Plus that I pushed her away during the relationship in the worst masochistic way to bring upon myself my worst fear, of abandonment. Thanks!
Every time I’m feeling doubtful the precise video is recommended to me by CZcams with the exact answers to my questions. Mind blowing. Thank you coach Lee.
Coach Lee ur the man i messed up by asking her if we are ever getting back together and i couldnt give her space but now im hitting the gym taking advantage of this space that shes been asking for to do better for myself im an alpha Male 💪
Same here man
Alpha male...u weak brah!!
I'm glad you continue to give great advice, Coach Lee. It makes me feel more hopeful. Thanks you!
My ex breadcrumbed me and sent me mixed signals to the point where I broke and tried holding him accountable for those very things he said, leading him to finally being clear that he doesn’t want to be with me. It hurts but I guess it’s better than the false hope he was giving me from his uncertainty.
This is exactly what happened to me
5 years later and its still as relevant as ever. Your the real deal Coach Lee.
Coach, you're great. Soon you'll be there with Craig Kenneth and Corey Wayne on youtube. Just keep up with the good work.
Every time my heart starts to hurt. Or my eyes start to well up (which seems to be the most random times or when I’m not busy) I come back to coach lees videos. It’s been two weeks since I’ve started no contact. And I still miss him terribly. I hope he’s starting to miss me too.
I’m here at almost 8 weeks NC with just a happy birthday text as the only communication she’s sent. I keep watching his videos to help keep me strong. Together 8 1/2 years, engaged, she cheated and left me on 1/1/22… I feel ya on the random weak moments. Therapy helps, time helps, these videos help, and seeing some success stories of getting back together helps. Stay strong!
@@DigDugDubbs I’m so sorry to hear that ): but her sending a birthday text is a great sign! Have some hope (: I think things are going to work out just the way you want. Just when they do, make sure she values you and doesn’t disrespect you the same way she did. Cause you seem like you were all in with her. It’s the waiting that’s hard. I’ve heard absolutely nothing out of my ex and it’s torture.
Any updates? Xx
Thank you 🙏 😊 relationships are so hard. I’ve always been happiest while being single but there is nothing sweeter than keeping your family together. I’m gonna take it day by day. Not hurting as much as I was anymore. Still have hard days but I think this is happening as a way of leveling up as weird as that sounds. In every sense. good luck to every one. everything will work out 👍🏼 it just does
Lee, I can't believe how right you are about every freakin word you say! Just thanks!!!!
My heart is broken and it's so nice to know I'm NOT the only one! 💔
Jambo jambough, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent!
It has strategies for every situation.
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From the beginning, everything was initiated by her, and on her terms: she found me on a dating site and pursued for two months until we began dating, she decided how often we saw one another, chose to "take some time" in November after 16 months together, broke up with me in early January, chose to reunite less than a week later, then realized she "made a mistake" after three weeks and left again; that was a month ago (as of this Friday).
Well, no more! I have been in NC since then, and am taking my power back. Finding these videos a few days ago has also strengthened my resolve to persevere through the difficult moments, which are becoming less frequent. Coach Lee, your advice is refreshing, invaluable, and has definitely saved hearts, minds, relationships and, I'm sure, lives. Thank you so much for what you do!
Exactly... My ex whom I'd dated for 4 years pursued me she we first get to know each other. I was not interested in her but it was all on her terms that that she made me fall in love with her and last October she broke up with me . No contact for about 2 months now
@@hwdareu5848 same lol. Feels so weird. She had a crush on me for a long time and I knew. She was a good friend, we got closer, she asked me out and I said yes. I have never loved someone like I loved her.
We were together for 14 months. I became needy and clingy and she lost her feelings for me.
And now we don't talk. I've been in NC for 2 weeks. I'm not sure if she will come back and it hurts. We talked everyday everytime and now we are like strangers.
Oh, I really needed to hear this. I think I've watched maybe 10 of your videos. And this is one I really needed to hear. I understand. She was saying it because she wanted relief. I am on day 25 of no contact.
Coach, you made me laugh and I've been crying for two days straight. Thank you.
Thank You so much for this! I have been feeling so down after 6 months of break up, also had tried to get back together and he has been rejecting me all this time. Recently found out he went on a rebound relationship just 1 month after breaking up with me and my heart was shattered all over again. Ironically he was mad jealous at me for being with other men after he rejected me...Finally understanding the value of self worth and not begging anything.
“Get back with you in a year” means to me .... I KNOW for certain by that time I really DON’T WANT YOU no mo’! (Lol)
😂😂😂 that made me laugh so hard!!
God bless you. You are such a nice soul.
Thank you so much for trying to ease our sorrows. Compare to your kindness i now really can see that my x had some kind of narcissism. I forgot how caring is.
When they say they don't want to get back together with you, believe it and move on because nearly all of the time they're not coming back. Don't give yourself false hope.
^^^^^ he said he closed that chapter of his life and that things have changed (come to find out, he's in another relationship) so I'm pretty sure he isn't coming back and will stick with her. (Note: this was 4 months after our break up when I asked him so it wasnt exactly right after)
But in my case after he dumped me... He said if meant to be will find our way..... Im stil hoping.... 2weeks afte he dumped me n my 4days of no contact super hard.... I dnt know his side if his enjoying now or what....
@LA BLACK ROSE no news from him... I nver heard anything also from him.... Mybe his enjoying his life.... Let them aftrr they enjoy mybe they will realise also the things.... Me i go bck to my routine... Work hard... Go to gym... Go walk n run with frnd.... Meet frnds.... I dnt hve family hete with me bec im abroad......
@Petty Ceddy do u have any update?
@Petty Ceddy hey man Im so Happy for you and that u Response, i mean we really had a bound and shit but I'm bad with emotions .. totally
If u want to read I copy Paste a helpless comment a few days and copie it .. I'm really happy for u .. I mean when u love somebody and shit u can work out everything except some things ..
Same here man ... And it's hard for me to show constantly love..stupid arguments because of hurt feelings.. she sad that she love me but have no energy for the relationship and stuff.. I also tryd to reason with her that I have made mistakes and it's hard to change but with ur love and help we get this .. so now she broke up after an argument where I was to emotionally or impulsive call it how u want
She once sad that she don't want to lose me and maybe if we are both over it in an year we could be friends.. I really don't know how to feel about it
In the one hand I think I improve and get her back
In the other I think what if I'm over it and don't want to risk it again to suffer .. also she dumb me but idk.. I really can't think clearly and analys who is the problem ... I think we both but mainly me..
I have done EVERY STUPID THING you said not to do. I have been in NC for 10 days now after trying to get back with him for 1 1/2 years. At 68 yo, this has totally shattered me.
i hope you are ok ❤
These videos cure my anxiety
This is the best coach I have found.
Cheers for the video content! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would appreciate your opinion. Have you researched - Mahorrla Bringback Her Method (search on google)? It is a good one of a kind product for getting your ex back fast without the hard work. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my work buddy got amazing success with it.
Nenad Jukic how dare you use coach lees platform as a way to plug someone else. Shame
Sandra Sorci yes brief and to the point
Who has gotten a call back after nc? What happened?
Craig Kenneth is good too, very good. These two guys are pretty good
I wish Coach Lee was still taking calls. My long term (11 years) break-up that's a week old is killing me and isn't covered by any of the videos. I have learned a lot from the videos though. I'm using the No Contact principle but anger and alcoholism (me) played a part in my break-up. I'm in the process of dealing with those issues. But she has started a new relationship with a very great guy. I think I've lost her for good. I'll never forgive myself. Thank you Coach Lee. Your videos have given me something to work with. Phil (Crushed in Connecticut).
Phil Upton im going through the exact same thing man. Alcohol and my lifestyle played a very big part in us breaking up. We have been together for 8 years and she found somebody new and says he’s way better than me and treats her so good. She says we will never get back together. So any updates on your situation??
@@Infinite_being1 not yet, sorry to hear that you're going through what I am. It sucks big time. I'm just starting no contact so it's going to be several months before she comes back from working in Florida (where her new boyfriend lives) before I know how it went between them. I hate theis whole scenario.
Thanks Coach. This came at a perfect time as my ex told me he is not ready and maybe will need a year. I did not ask about getting back together. I had just mentioned something we had planned in a few years (buying a farm which was his dream). I am in NC for about a month and in this month he has been reaching out a few times, he initiated a few texts and video called me once. We are in different countries now. Thanks for your videos, you are a great coach and always make a lot of sense.
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Most times those comments come from anger and that’s why it’s necessary to give a person space so those angry feelings can go, staying around would only amplify them
I am only into day 3 of NC during this time my ex has told a friend that there is no chance of us getting back together and he is better off without me which has broke my heart into many pieces. Thank you Coach Lee for this video, it has given me strength to carry on and not to reach out. I just hope in time he will start to miss me and contact me. Thanks again Coach Lee. I will keep watching your videos to help me through this NC time. You are by far the best coach x
Any update Karen?
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Could you tell what has happened since if possible?
Finally someone that makes sense
I needed that video right now. I was in a NC for 4 days, 5 days from the "breakup". He said on the breakup that there is no chance (the amount of other life issues he is facing right now is insane and he is pushing away a lot of people, including me, and saying that he just does not have feelings for me anymore). We had to meet today because he had to come and pick up a car from my parent's house where I am staying and since I was feeling confident and calm I decided to go out too, to say hello to our dog who was with him. We talked. He actually initiated it, saying that we should postpone our last meeting to divide stuff and discuss finanical matters as the issue he is struggling right now and has no control of (a very costly and huge domestical thing related to his mom's house) has taken a very bad turn and the entire process to solve it takes even more time. I said to him that this is completely fine and we can do it whenever he is ready. He then said again that he is certain of his decision still right now and just sees this as a right thing, he does not want to take another chance, but his entire overall attitude and the way he said things initiated that the decision is done for NOW and at this moment he feels this is not right, and that right now he just needs to be alone and sort out his entire life. I was already happy actually to hear he has given up all the distractions he had in his life and wich made him numb, and he just wants to be alone to sort everything out. I told him that this is great that after years he finally takes a step back and takes care of himself and I respect his decision sincerely. I also took the chance and apologized on how I behaved on our breakup, and I was selfish, and that I did not accept his wish for my own sake back then.
We did have a plan to go to a final getaway trip which we have actually planned a year, and I am also glad that he said that we should do it at the end of summer, when he finally has time to truly relax and rest. I stayed calm and positive and I asked questions as he was open to a discussion and led it all the time. I emphasized several times again that I am giving him his space and I don't want to be friends right now, I want more, and thus, I am giving him his space. It was very hard and he even mentioned very subtly when I said that I miss you guys (not in a desperate way but when I was petting our dog and he licked my face) and he said that he knows, he understands, all the memories and habits, and this is very hard for him too, then he sat down and I heard his voice break.
We said goodbye very neutrally and politely. No tears, I gave him a huge smile, he gave me a big hug. I was a mess a bit afterwards when I went back inside and cried myself empty, but then I reminded myself that It's only a day 5 and the no contact rule was somewhat broken, and I will now start again, stronger than before, because even though he said there is no hope, I still saw that he has started to crack, VERY little, but still, I just need more time. And Oh, how hard this is going to be...
Thanks, Coach Lee, for keeping me sane...
I hope you are doing good!! we in this together!! Stay strong!!
Miss Stress, did you get the Breakup kit?
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Best coach ever! Thank you so much! Im so blessed watching all your videos. It is very helpful not only to me but to everyone struggling in their relationship. GOD BLESS YOu! #Coach lee
Your videos are great! Keep it like this!! I💯👍in this way you teach us how not to be wrong with ourselves and our partner, you help us to see both sides of the situation.
Watching you is more than getting ex back, inspired me to improve myself, avoiding depression and focus on personal growth. I been watching you for 2 weeks I can se I’m worth it . If someone don’t see how valuable am I. I don’t care anymore I don’t want him back!!! The right one will see how I m worth for him.
This gave me hope and good good good advice💕💞 thank you so much❤👐💪
You have helped me so much throughout my healing process.. thank you- you’re the best
My parents have been married over fifty years now my mom said if people were adult nowadays we wouldn't have to have a couch Lee if lady's understand what relationship means they would never leave you would be a team a couple and build a future and stability and security lady's would be loyal and faithful and responsible and respectful and committed to you
U are awesome, I love listening to u everyday it's like therapy
Your videos are very good. I like how straight to the point you are. Your videls have been helping me get over a breakup.
Lets get back together nia
It's hard to take an exes words seriously. Especially a woman. They may feel that way or have convinced themselves it's true, but often times they are either telling u something to get u to leave them alone or they really do believe they feel that way, for now. Feelings change and space can work wonders. They can't miss u if u never go away and either way the best thing to do is give them what they want. It will likely be good in the long run to take their word and go no contact
Thanks for the motivation Quinn.
But what if I feel I need to apologize for the arguments saying Ive learned from what I did and to tell them I know how beautiful she is and never meant to make her feel objectified
@@dnap2526 when did you guys break up I bought his kit I can help you out
And sometimes that is what and HOW A WOMAN FEELS! & She need to leave you alone !! Because we feel UNWANTED & You’re a piece of poop 💩
@@dnap2526 you a piece of poop 💩
I never begged but asked for my things to be returned or $$ . Done waiting on that. 2 months NC. He never really cared because he didn’t want a relationship after a 1.5 yr of games.
Thank you lee . So far the best coach on this very difficult topic
Ive had someone say she will never talk to me again...then she did 2 months later and asked me out on a date. We dated 3 months. People say what they feel in the moment. Feelings change. Especially in a fight? Ignore anything they say in a fight.
If they leave you once they will do it again my parents have been married over fifty years now they don't play these games commitment is key and lady's don't understand commitment anymore
3 months NC. Elation phase will be over soon. Next 2 months my ex will go threw the remaining phases.. be neutral and then hopefully regret and reach out to me. By then she will be where I was mentally when I walked away. Both partners have to get each other fully out of the system for a full reset to work.
Interesting point
Buster Nutt any updates? Did she ever reach out ?
@@juliemanso4589 probably not unfortunately..damn..
Why do you ask?
Buster Nutt just curios because I’ve been in NC for 2 months and my ex has not reached out so I’m just wondering if they ever do
Not sure how my situation applies to this concept, but my ex started treating me badly, saying she was unsure of our future etc...
I tried to back away and end it several times, as it only got worse and worse.
But everytime I backed away, she would call me all the time and lure me back in. I was weak and started getting my hopes up, only to be disappointed again.
A few days ago I ended it properly, since she still didnt want to be with me and I couldnt take feeling like such a low priority of hers anymore.
My heart is breaking, but I had no choice.
She is calling like crazy and I was forced to block her everywhere, because going back at this point, only to endure more of the emotional torture is not an option.
I made it very clear, maybe too clear, that I wanted to be with her.
But she didnt feel the same way.
Last thing I told her was that if she has something meaningful to say, she knows where I live (we live about 45 miles apart)
If not, she needs to leave alone so I can move on.
I really hope she will be here one day, telling me she wants to be with me to, but I highly doubt it...
Thank you for reading this, whoever you are 🌹
How are you doing
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Recently broken up with my guy, I begged in the beginning but have backed off after I told him 'i wished him every happiness and hope he finds what he's looking for, replied with 'just let it go for now' i didnt respond.
Rouge red did anything change? Did he come back around?
I "REFUSE" TO GROVEL!! I DON'T WANT "ANYBODY" WHO DON'T WANT ME!!😔 (No Baby, Baby Please!)
Same here man ... And it's hard for me to show constantly love..stupid arguments because of hurt feelings.. she sad that she love me but have no energy for the relationship and stuff.. I also tryd to reason with her that I have made mistakes and it's hard to change but with ur love and help we get this .. so now she broke up after an argument where I was to emotionally or impulsive call it how u want
She once sad that she don't want to lose me and maybe if we are both over it in an year we could be friends.. I really don't know how to feel about it
In the one hand I think I improve and get her back
In the other I think what if I'm over it and don't want to risk it again to suffer .. also she dumb me but idk.. I really can't think clearly and analys who is the problem ... I think we both but mainly me..
My ex decided to break up with me, I texted him, and thanked him for the inauthentic experience. As painful as it was I never contacted him again. He did me dirty.
You're the best in the game coach Lee
I showed all weaknesses even said where ever I am in the world I'll be there for you! My chances are over I think
we agreed on the break up in order to star anew. but for my ex, that meant that he needs to go through multiple relationships and afterwards, if he deems he had something good with me, he'll come back in a couple of years. also, he told me that i shouldn't wait for him. he still wanted to have contact, but after a month i told him i wanted no contact (he kept texting me randomly) (and i texted him a couple of times afterwards, nothing bad though), and after another month i told him that i didn't like his proposition and that he could do whatever he wanted and wished him well. we work in the same place and we say hi, but that's it. it's been a week since i haven't talked to him. still hoping he'll come back, though he's very stubborn. I'm afraid that i'm encouraging him to not talk to me by not talking to him. hope i didn't mess up the no contact too bad. but now i don't know whom should be coming back to whom at this point.
Alice Blue Alice have more value in yourself than that girl. Why allow yourself to be 2nd or 3rd place to him. There are plenty of dudes that will put you as their 1st place, their priority. Work on yourself and let that guy go, any man that says that to a woman has some serious issues and is not a keeper. Best wishes amiga.
Thank you.. now I’ve realized I made a mistake of pleading 🥺 begging him to fix our marriage relationship and stopped him to leave which it did not work of course, it’s been three weeks now since he left, now I will start no contact with him and will focus on myself. Thank you 🙏 you’re a great 👍🏻 coach.
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Thank u coach lee !! for explaining without interruption or advertising ur book or interviewing urself like other coaches every other 5 minutes in the middle of the vedio ur explaining lol I stopped watching them actually it makes me stop the video and leaving their Channel very frustrating! Glad I found someone (such as u ofcourse) who is dedicated 100% and who only talks about the subject itself and very clear in delivering the content with no interruptions 🙏🏻 Subscribed❗️😊
Yeah it worked within 7 days, thank you for the no contact rule, she was like why l you not calling um happy that's a start
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My ex broke up with me and I cried and pleaded and asked this exact question. He also used to be the one to say that I was his future wife, future mother of his kids and whatnot. He accepted my flaws and said his love for me was steadfast and that he’s not gonna give up (and vice versa). But when he broke up with me he said he still loves me and he just didn’t like making me cry and hurt anymore (he’s been going through SO MUCH stress lately). I asked if we could give each other time to work on ourselves since we both are taking therapy so we can get back together stronger. He said we can’t ever get back together because we need to get better for ourselves, not the relationship. He also didn’t want to give me false hope. I have a feeling he only wants me to believe that it’s really 100% over so that we can genuinely get better as individuals, and then he’ll take me back once we do. There’s no way we went through so much passion and that he said all those reassuring things and suddenly wants to end it. Thanks for this video, I’m 3 weeks of NC (except only when we have to talk about our moving situation). I hope time heals the both of us, and I hope we can rekindle.
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Did he come back
Best advise and point of view
Ok, I messed up and asked that question several times over the past 20 months and she has said; "if you need an answer now, its no, but I can't speak for the future because its the future", "I'm not where I need to be right now", and "I can't just jump up and say we're going to try again right now". What I really wanted to hear was "no, we are never getting back together" because that would have forced me to let go.
20 months??? That would be so hard ... I pestered and brothered my ex for 1 and half months and she told me she's not interested and love me anymore so I walked away politely. It's about to be 2 months of no contact. 4 years of memories together
That music.... if I get my ex back.. this music will bring back horrible memories
If a lady leaves you and wants space after you spend money on her and her children and she manipulated you into an engagement and tells you and everyone around her that you are everything to her then she is a liar and if you get back together she will leave again angie did this I was used