The truth about living in Cape Town | My challenges with living in Cape Town
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- čas přidán 19. 05. 2022
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Hey beautiful people🤩
In today’s video I share with you some of my challenges of living in Cape Town.
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Lots of love
Lolly.
You are right tht God has placed you there for a reason. Embrace the uncomfortable, there's a lesson in the season.
Hi, new here 🤩
Moved from JHB to CPT almost 6 years ago and it is a massive adjustment. I don’t make friends easily so it’s been a challenge. But you will find friends, just get out often. If the loneliness gets too much, DM and we can go and get coffee 🤩
Hey Logracia, thank you for subscribing 😅
So glad to know that I'm not the only one struggling to make friends! But I will definitely go out more often to some places I really like. I will be sure to Dm you😊
@@lifewithlolly that’s the best way to start. If I can make it here, anyone can!
Pretoria people are so friendly and welcoming compared to Cape Town. Please here greet!!! I love it
Sending you all great energy 🧡🧡🧡, don’t worry, you’ll find your tribe 😊
Thank you Siya💛 I believe so as well 😊
Thanks for the upload Lolly! Well done!! I first came to Cape Town on a vacation in 02 with a large group for my 40th birthday. Because of the size and type of vacation I wasn’t able to mingle with the local people, but I REALLY LOVED THE OCEAN VIEW, and I made myself a promise to revisit Cape Town. Was born and grew up in Trinidad and Tobago and migrated to Brooklyn Ny at 18. Now that I’m getting ready to retire, I continue to look at the ocean-view homes that are So beautiful. One of the biggest concerns I have about moving back to TnT is(among other things) increased number of crime. Love to hear comments. 🙏🏾 19:14
Hey, I moved here (CPT) FROM JHB Last year and shame, i agree, people here are cold, i still dont have friends LOL, I go to work and come back, good luck doll, God put here for a reason. Trust me you are not alone.
I do exactly the same 😂 go to work and go back home! But I hope it gets better with time for both of us!
You ladies should meet up for a coffee date, maybe you'll get along and possibly spark a friendship. You already have something in common, being new to CPT.
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@@AllThingsLindo Agree that is a Start 🙏
As a new sub and a Motswana living in Hungary, I totally get the lack of "community" esp after relocating. I hope you've branched out since this video. Also new sub ❤
You won’t believe, I had to relocate to Durban late last year and I’m going through the same thing all over again 😂
In the process of making the move to CPT from Pretoria soon! As exciting as it is daunting and, oh wow is rent expensive 🤣 Sorry to hear how much trouble you had adapting to life in the city, my sister. Never nice to feel out of place of that your life is sorely lacking something, but take solace in knowing that it's an experience that is shaping you and teaching you things about yourself that you might otherwise not have known. I tend to be a lot more introverted than they way you describe yourself, but I will obviously need to make some friends, so hoping to make some sooner rather than later 🤣
Are you excited about the move?? Please don’t remind me about the rent 😂 I want to puke every time it’s time to pay😭
Thank you, I do believe that’s it’s an experience that’s meant to shape me, I am learning knew things about myself and im learning to take it all in!
I’m excited for your move, I hope it’s everything you wish it to be and that you make awesome friends!
Hey. Thinking of moving too. Have you adapted? What’s the most “black-friendly” place next to or in Somerset West? Please help😅
I completely get you on the social aspect being important. You will find your tribe hey. Maybe take up a new activity? Hiking, gym? Something that would make it possible to meet new People? I know it won't be easy but it's a start?
Im so sorry that you feel so alone, lonely. You have such an amazing personality, your tribe will find you. You will find your tribe
I will make sure to take up la new activity. Maybe it will help even though it wont be easy like you said.
@@lifewithlolly Im so sorry you have to go through this *big hugs*
3 sugars sisi😂 I’m judging. Thanks for the video though
People don't greet in Cape Town , it's so bizarre, mara nna I will greet 😅
I'm so glad I'm not the only one experiencing that 😂😂😂 the only way to stay sane is to keep greeting shame!
😂😂😂 where are you in cpt? Know anyone in Somerset west?
@@eugenechauke3849 shuuuu Somerset West is very far from me😂
@@lifewithlolly oh no🤥
We also have Venda people at my church 💕
Just bumbed in to this, let me not say how😜. But subscribed
Hahaha let me guess... did you also relocate? 😅😅
Thank you for watching and subscribing!
It gets better after a year. I remember staying there and hating it on the first 10 months but after staying there for almost 2 years, I had a good community and I didn't want to move back to Joburg but work forced me.
I am on my 8th month... let's see what happens in the next 4 months 😅 thank you for the light of hope...I really hope it does get better.
Thank you so much for this. Haiiii but you didn’t make my decision making easy 😂😂😂😂
Are you considering moving to Cape Town?? I would definitely recommend you to take the leap of faith and do it😅
I don't know maybe it's because I'm a guy but I've made friends with some Belgium guys when I visited that side, we clicked rite away at Clifton beach coz we were comparing SA beers and European beers, but the language thing was the issue coz they couldn't speak proper English and I couldn't speak Belgium. I don't get easily bored coz I like my own space and been by myself but I noticed Cape Town you can go mad with loneliness, the Uber driver said to me I should hang out at Khayelisha to mingle with people next time I visit there...
We love you ❤️
I love you too ❤
My last comment 🤭 there are very warm people here, you just need to find them and then it gets easier. Hang in there.
The greeting 🙈🤭🤣 it’s few and very far between shame. I stopped too but decided that people won’t change who I am so I go around greeting everyone and it makes a lot of people uncomfortable.
Imagine people getting uncomfortable just because you greeted them 😂😂😂 it sounds bizarre but it's really the reality!
@@lifewithlolly 🤣🤣 it still amazes me. But maybe it’s strange that we greet all the time. Definitely a culture shock on both ends
I agree 😂 definitely a culture shock on both ends. But I like what you said about staying true to who we are and just keep greeting! I will do that!
Aaah you're Venda 🥰 My hubby is Venda too❤️
I’m sure he is such a cool person because all Venda people are amazing 😂😂😂
@@lifewithlolly Honestly 🤣🤣🤣 I can attest to this!!!
dear sister, you are never alone we the AA community are with you! PS Go see your family
Hahaha I love the “AA community” yes you guys have kept me sane 🙏🏽
Hey Lolly 🥰
New subbie ❤️
Hey Lindo. Thank you so much for subscribing 😅 Let me be a subbie on your channel as well❤️
@@lifewithlolly 😘😘😘
Just bumped to this video and I'm about to move to the cape next month and I'm so scared ayi lol.
How have you adjusted girl. Would really like some assistance bantu
Hey hun😅there’s no need to be scared! Yes change can be scary but it also opens up new opportunities and experiences for you! Please DM on IG (@lolly_serongwa) and I will definitely help were I can ❤️
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Sbu😅 thank you for watching ☺️
Don't go back😂wait for me to get there, will create fun moments😂 my advise, find activities like join yoga classes, meditation sessions, gym, swimming classes, or dance/golf. Use this time to bond with yourself, find your inner being, go for spa, go to nature, to the beach, record beautiful memories and build your channel at the same time while exploring, learning different cultures. While u having fun, more fun things will get attracted to u, you could find even your soulmate in those moments 🙈 I just wish I were u there😂 Enjoy. I'm loving your channel💚
Please you need to come already 😂😂😂 I love your excitement 😅 I have since started doing some fun things around Cape Town and it is making my stay here much better and it is also contributing to building the channel! Thank you so much for watching the videos, I pray you get to relocate soon then we can explore together! 💛
Thanks, I enjoy your videos so much. I can just see myself through you. You are an amazing person and living full. Hopefully my dream to be there will come soon and prayers answered. Looking forward to meet you one day. Keep on sharing your light, we love it🤗
Thank you for the beautiful words Ntokozo. Really means a lot.🤗
I'm also coming guys 😂😂wait for me🏃♀
@@sebabatsomofokeng4540 come 1 come all😂😂😂 we will be waiting for you!
Hi Lolly. Found myself here as I have been doing reaserch on the adjustment of moving from JhB (I'm in PTA) to CPT. This is very insightful. I must say I'm quite scared because I think I survive better with a community around me as well and I dont make friends quickly. I'm due to move to Cape Town soon and already I can tell from this video that I need to find hobbies and commit to them or else I will be frustrated. If anyone wants to start a Gauteng community please I'm available 😂🤣
Hi Lindiwe😅 I love your strategy already 😂 you definitely have to find hobbies and stick to them… this will be your best way to make new friends. Let me know when you get to Cape Town and I will definitely start the GP community! All the best with your move🤗
Hey Lindiwe, when are you moving to Cpt?? I’m due to at the end of May and I’m super CLUELESS!!!!
@@tlhokomelokhumalo6912 hey😊 what are you clueless about? Would be happy to assist or advice where I can
@@tlhokomelokhumalo6912 Hey. Lolly has been there for some time and can definitely shed some light on many things. I'm only there beginning of May. All the best, please shout if it gets hectic we will form a support group 😂🤣
@@lindiwemtshali1643 Lol, Please. But have you found accommodation….? If so how? I’ve already ran into a few ‘No can do’s’ after a couple of questions from agents or suddenly the place has been take in literally 2 seconds.
Aren't there any Facebook groups or anything? joburgers in Cape Town type thing? I don't know, i don't even have Facebook just thinking out loud
I have Facebook but I dont use it so technically I don't have it 😂
@@lifewithlolly 🤣🤣🤣
I am confused there is many Black people in Cape Town now, was not that many during 80's and 90's. People of Cape Town are actually friendly but are overwhelmed by people from JHBG, whom come across as more in your face., though its actually that people from JHBG are more confident in their approach. I moved to the UK and had no friends, i took it upon myself to invite people out for lunch at work and made friends that way.
I moved for Cape Town to Pretoria a month ago and I can relate. I am an introvert and for the first time in my life I feel so lonely. The language is a barrier, I would like to explore but sometimes I will be asking people for directions and struggle to express myself because I speak Xhosa. Sometimes I just nod and or smile when someone say something coz I don't understand, Its unfortunate sometimes people assume I am stuck up because I don't talk much.
I can definitely understand, especially the language barrier... Pretorians dont speak any Xhosa or Zulu🤭 but the longer you find yourself around them you will start to learn it a bit because like you said they are very friendly people and they will always be willing to help you! I think you will love it there! All the best ❤
It will get better with time. Time will reveal all of God's plan.
I believe so as well.
Oh my babe. So rude of that lady not to greet though.
I’m visiting CT this year… would be lovely if we met up if you’re still in Cape Town. Looked for you on IG and couldn’t find you. DM if you’re open to it💞
Hi there. When are you planning on coming to CT? I am still here 😅 My handle is @lolly_serongwa. You can DM me
Capetowns don’t greet at all… sometimes you will greet and they won’t respond
This is true. I am learning the hard way😂
Racism? Ever experienced that..or heard of people complaining about it
Personally I have not experienced any racism since I’ve relocated to Cape Town or heard anyone around me complain about it. I think it mostly happens within different kind of working environments/corporate that’s were people experience but on a social level I’ve not seen any.
Hey girl. Came across your vid and I really felt for you. But hey I'm extending an invitation to you to meet up at my church and hopefully there you can meet some people too. I tried finding u on insta to dm u but I could not.
Hey Kuhle. Thank you so much for reaching out and the invite, you are so sweet. My IG is @lolly_serongwa please do DM me 😊 looking forward to connecting with you.
Hello I'm your new fan 😊
I would love it if you share your other social accounts such as Instagram
Hi Sandra😊 aww thank you. You can follow me on IG @Lolly_Serongwa