Woman Molested By Father Confronts Mother: ‘Why Won’t You Believe Me?’
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- čas přidán 15. 02. 2016
- A woman claims her father abused her from the time was 10 until she was 25. Her father was convicted in court. So, why doesn’t her mother believe her?
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This mother is a sorry excuse for a human being
An absolute vile human being.
She’s an embarrassment to all loving and protective mothers out there.
Agreed
"you have also failed me as a daughter"- what kind of parent says that!?!
@@kuwalathenerdytomboy8089 gaslighting
13 year old CHILDREN don't have AFFAIRS! I can't believe a CPS worker said that! It's not an affair. It's child sexual abuse!!! Smh
That struck me as odd too
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See this is a time cps should have removed her from the home and failed her. Yet they will remove a child at a different home for the same thing. The system is screwed
Believe it or not CPS is an absolute joke.
I'm appalled that the SW said that
Her mother definitely knew it... And she's jealous... So the mother let the abuse continue,..
She sure did...and she sure was. She shouldve been charged also. Allowing her daughter to be molested so she could keep her husband🤢
Maybe he was abusing the mother too, and she was thinking that if he was messing with his daughter, at least she would be left alone because he was occupied with her daughter. Doesn't make it right, but heard of this type of situation before.
she's crazy
Facts!!!!
@@imalionimaqueen7234that's possible, or she didn't have the confidence to leave. Either way that doesn't change anything. she knew everything that was happening in that house and I do believe she was abused but a small one digit percentage of the abuse the children had. Any woman/wife/mom who watches her husband brutalize a child who has access to help but doesn't do anything to stop it is just as responsible and sick as the abuser. She's just as guilty
She believes her husband over her child? The mother is so desperate to have a boyfriend that her daughter is suffering for that.
You can only imagine what the daughter has been through they are traumatized telling her mom that she's been raped and her mom doesn't believe her and then get mad about it when she try to tell her what happened and she still don't believe her she believed her husband over her own flesh and blood like how do you imagine that or how can you wrap your mind around it
Oh she doesn’t *believe* him. She just looks better if her daughter’s lying.
Up until now she’s been able to keep the rest of her family, her financial position, her spot in her community. If it comes out she was complicit she looses everything.
It's absolutely disgusting!
That’s legit my mother
She believes my step father
I told my mom that he said he wants to touch me and he cried every time I said no and the fact that I hate my mother just for not believing me 😒
that is typically the case. HAHA!
WOW! Its astonishing to me how many mothers put men before their own flesh and blood and then twist it to make it the childs fault. So freaking sad
My mom.
@@LuxMeow hope you are ok
That's how it was with my half brother. When I told my mom at 15 she didn't believe me at first. Even though I had severe anxiety and PTSD as a child no help was given. I don't know why a lot of mothers cannot fathom the thought of sexual abuse in families, it happens quite often it seems.
Exactly
@@vadavada7605 💯💯💯💯💯💯
The mother was just upset that her daughter became the competition.
It's Bigger than that 🤬
@@mizrelmizrel what do you think it is? I’m genuinely curious because this is just mind boggling to me
Such a sad truth
It's not like she wanted to be the competition I don't think you should word it like that. The daughter was being abused, not competing
@@anonymous-iy5pd while i agree, i believe the mother saw her daughter as competition
I just need 3 mins alone with that woman
Give me atleast an HOUR . HER DAUGHTER deserves JUSTICE!
😂
This woman and her “husband” needs to meet Daredevil and The Punisher!!
Same
The mother is a narcissist!!! All she cares about is herself. So she blames everyone except herself and doesn't take any responsibility. She doesn't think about anyone else's feelings or needs or how much she is hurting other people. Narcissist never do. The mothers denial is re-traumatizing Amanda.
This was such a triggering for me because this “mother” reminded me of my own adopted “mother”. This is painful to watch.
The sister is terrible as well oh my life has been falling apart for one year she is not the one that got but beinged as a child she’s stupid to even say that!
I was appalled when the mother said “You weren’t the greatest daughter, either” just goes to show she’s just a vindictive, weak woman who just wants a man to make her happy! 😢😢😢😢😢
The mother not believing her is the worst thing ever. She is as much guilty as the abuser.
Oh, she probably raped her own daughter in the process
Poor girl, betrayed by two of the most important people in her life.
I think one of the worst things is telling your mother at 11, and have her forget... not believing is a terrible thing in and of itself, but having your mother not REMEMBER such a traumatic point of courage to find help at such such young age. She is so strong, you can tell from the video, so so strong
Her mother is lying. She remembers but is backtracking to protect her husband.
She hs pressure of her husband to support her as wife owise he wl left her also.. Ect
So she hs to do dis
If man touches your kids n u dont believe them over him you dont deserve to b called mom
Truth! As a mom myself, if anyone touched my kids, that would be the end of the suspect. I wouldn’t even think twice about it.
@@ashleygilliland4331 show u right sis we have to protect our CHILDREN AT ALL TIMES !!!
@@jessicaoleary3281 and they don’t just make up things like & about sexual abuse when they’re 10. They don’t even know how to go about doing so. Sure, they’ll start having questions, but they don’t know how to make things up about such an adult subject.
@@ashleygilliland4331 facts !!!!!
Not just that, parents who put their marriage/other stuff over their kids don’t deserve to have kids and don’t deserve to be called parents
Is this woman serious?? There’s nothing in the universe that would make me believe a man over my daughter for something like this.
Her: She didn’t tell me at 11! People keep saying she did, but I have no memory of that!
Dr. Phil: there’s paperwork that you filed when she told you.
Her: Yes, I was standing behind my daughter.
Thirty seconds later
Her: I was just doing what CPS told me to.
*Lady* can you stick to a story for just *one* minute!?
"It would've had to happen 4 times a week." I'm around pretty much any immediate family member one on one at least 4 times a week. Of course it's possible.
1:55 So I did the math:
so even the mom says if it happened 740 times that's not possible right? She's so wrong.
a year is 365 days. 2 years is 730 days. She said this went on for 8 YEARS. She said it had to have happened 4 times a week for it to be that many times. 4/7 days of the week for a year is 208 days. If it did happen 4 times a week then 740 times would take 3.5 years. He was doing it for 8 years. So according to the girls testimony, 740 times over 8 years is 92.5 times a year, which would be 1.77 times per week over the 8 years to add up to 740. Thats 7 times a month. That's absolutely plausible.
What a sick, sick woman. She chose her husband over her daughter. Sick.
A client shared this video with me. I have to comment.
This mother is clearly aware of the situation. She has chosen to deny the reality as it may cause her to go within and struggle with her own insecurities of why she wasn't enough. Her behavior makes me question why she's so resistant to her daughter.
I think that she is so desperate to have a man in her life that she will never believe anything any accusations of him doing anything. Including ignoring her daughter’s cries for help! 😢😢😢
Yup. There is another clip in this story where Didi is asking why Amanda would let her daughter spend the night at her house if she was concerned about the same thing happening to her daughter. I was very angry watching Didi be so concerned about what could happen to her granddaughter at the same time she cares nothing about what DID happen to her own daughter.
Maybe a lie detector test would make this mom believe her precious daughter. I do !!!
Me too!!
She still didn't believe her. She passed her test. And she still called her a liar.
Children never lie about things like that
I know this is late, the daughter took a LDT & past with flying colors. They still didn't believe her.
I don't think a lie detector would be enough. This so called "mother" is too delusional.
What a horrible mother
The mother treats her daughter like as if she was a mistress she blames her own daughter gif the abuse she endured at the hands of her mothers husband. I feel like the mother felt like she was competing against her own daughter.
It’s sick absolutely disgusting!
Right! This is sick.
The mother makes me absolutely sick to my stomach.
Worthless mother....I feel awful for her daughter 💔
i can only imagine how amanda feels.. her own mother choosing a man over her own daughter. I hope she got justice
There's nothing Dr.Phill can do to change this "mother" just throw the whole thing away
Exactly. The whole THING.
Just the devistaiton on her face ughh, bless that girl mom is cruel
Mommy Dearest is jealous of her daughter because she knows her husband was attracted to the child. She needs to put her child before this man.
Walk away and make sure this horrible woman NEVER has contact with her grandchildren , She’s an unfit, negligent mother , don’t trust her as a grandmother
What a cruel MOTHER... So uncalled for !
Dear Daughters Who Were Molested:
I'm sorry your Mother never believed you. She should have been there to protect you. Some mothers are empty inside and choose to hide the truth. It's not your fault. It wasn't your fault. It will never be your fault. (Repeat this on a regular basis until you become stronger).
Once you find strength and get older I want you to do the HARDEST thing in life. Forgive your mother for not believing you. Find happiness and seek help from a support group. Close the chapter in your life of the predator who hurt you.. One day you will find love and get married (if you choose to).
Don't shame yourself from your husband. Let him know that it will take time to heal your wounds mentally and sexually. Your husband will love you like a love you never felt before. EMBRACE it. 🙏
Thanks so much I felt this in my soul.
I am currently trying to figure out how to re-confront my Mother on my childhood abuse because she is still with my offender. Your words have brought me some peace for the first time in weeks. Thank you.
This means alot
Thank you so much
@@crystaldunham9605 You're welcome. I am rooting for you. May happiness blossom forever in your life. 🙏
This woman is sooo desperate to have a man, she is willing to “forget “ things that will confront her negligence and abuse of her daughter. She is as responsible as he is and both should be prosecuted.
This mom is in denial
What a horrible mother.
2 things stuck out for me:
1) Earl was sentenced to 18 years for both counts which is a 36-year sentence.
2) I have a lot of problems with DeeDee. When you have Amanda flying a polygraph with flying colors, and yes, I get a lot of accusations are false, but Dr. Phil is correct that it needs to be a false-positive system that accusations need to be believed until the facts prove otherwise. But I think DeeDee is failing Amanda as a mother. And my heart breaks for Amanda. DeeDee and her nasty son blame her for her abuse, not believing her, completely ignoring, dismissing her, derogating her and horrible name calling. Even after that recording in the episode was played she still didn't believe her! She is such a nasty, selfish, neglectful person and I hope Amanda goes NC with this trash, DeeDee and her nasty kids.
How could any parent not believe their child?! What a sorry excuse for a mother 😡
My 93yr old gma ignored so much in her home but she will proudly tell you till this day her kids clothing was immaculate ....WHAT?! Who cares that the whites were bright n clothing ironed perfectly🤨
I've been molested at 14 by my uncle so I understand how the daughter feels. I hope the daughter can find peace and the help she needs
same here but the abuser was my biological father and only my brother knows. I can't tell my mom because I don't know if she will believe me or support me. my father abused me emotionally physically mentally and xxually and when u try to voice my opinions he snaps and beats me putting all the blame on me. my mother supports him beating me because she thinks I'm being disrespectful. I feel so betrayed and why should I respect my abuser.
@@artsybabe9591 I told my cousin who told my aunt because my aunt worked for CPS at the time. I wish the best for you and hope you find the help you need
@@gracelott4149 I live in india and here women will choose their husband over their child especially those who are conservative and my mom is.
Toxic woman for a “mother.” She just needs to walk away from her “mother” and never see or talk to her again.
What kind of mother doesn’t believe their own child?
I honestly didn't like Dr Phil in this one. The family was absolutely horrible to Amanda and straight up delusional defending a predator and he seemed short tempered with her just basically telling her to forgive them. I could never forgive my family if they were that awful, especially if they were like that POS poor excuse for a "mother" on stage.
That is not a mother
How can she not see the pain in her daughters eyes?
So heartbreaking when abuse victims lack support and belief from the family members who should be protecting them
The AFFAIR started @ 13?! That’s not an “affair.”
Why isn’t the older woman likewise incarcerated for complicitness??!! She’s as culpable!
I’m a former CPS worker and yes, sometimes they do recant. They feel pressured into recanting, they feel confused because the abuse comes from a parent or other family member and still love that person. It doesn’t happen often but it does happen
Sweetheart, I full heartedly believe you. No questions asked. ❤️❤️. I don’t take these allegations as a joke.
Walk away from this demon!
The mother is in denial.
She chose not to believe
To an extent, I understand not wanting to believe that your spouse would molest your daughter. However, even if you don't want to believe your spouse did it, it is still your job as a parent find the truth. To find out if your spouse did do what your daughter is claiming or if it was someone else who did it. And then it is your job to take your daughter out of that situation.
I would believe my daughter no matter what, I would rather find out my daughter lied and lose my husband, than choosing to believe my husband over my daughter. Either way the relationship would end anyway, whether the accusations were true or not...
Great when your mother doesn’t believe you. Jeez, traumatized all over again.
Mom is such a LIAR that it's not funny
I know a woman who was raped by her stepdad from 12 til her late 20's she got pregnant by him TWICE & yes had both kids . Noone believed her until it was proven he was father of BOTH kids.. she has been so into drugs and self-harm and is an alcoholic now.. those two kids are in foster care.. SO YES ITS HARD TO IMAGINE that kind of sadistic control over someone BUT IT DOES HAPPEN
You are right thanks Catherine
I feel so bad for this family. I’m sorry for your pain.
The daughter DID A POLYGRAPH and it said she was telling the truth and she STILL didn't believe her. The "mom" is a world class abuser and one of the most disgusting moms I have ever heard of.
Why... Why humans are like this just why
If the bastard did it one time isn’t that ONE TIME TOO DANG MANY? This lady knows the truth and she still chooses to TRY to discredit her very own child! I hope EARL nasty disgusting gross behind went to prison and had to deal with BIG BUBBA at least four times a day!
I was raped and for the longest time no one believed me because they supposedly "knew" the guy and that he was, "a good boy who would never do that. you're just looking for attention". it happened multiple times after school and I know exactly where it happened and could give details about what we were wearing, what he did, what he said, ect. and some how ppl didn't believe me. now some ppl do but a lot don't but ik what happened and I've been going to therapy and getting help to get past it and I'm doing a lot better. it's been 5 years and it doesn't hold as much weight over me anymore
How old were you at that time?
I’m sorry that happened to you.
May God heal your wounds and bless you 🌷
This is why kids don't tell. If u don't trust ur own mom who can u trust? How sick..
At this point this lady would never be my mother again. I no people think thats nuts but u can not continue to put energy into this. It's time to put energy into getting mental health so I could live the rest of my life as healthy as possible.
Even if my daughter was lying I would still “take her side” Jesus ….
I honestly think the so called mother is bitter. She treats her daughter like a mistress instead of a victim. She just needs to be done with that side of the family. The fact that they could support that monster is sick. Even when hearing the voicemail?? Even with the polygraph test results??
STOP 👏🏻 PUTTING 👏🏻 MEN 👏🏻 BEFORE 👏🏻 YOUR 👏🏻 CHILDREN 👏🏻‼️
If the mom think she’s lying then why just why would her daughter say these things why would she lie about this? Like cmon she is YOUR DAUGHTER. Amanda is finally standing up for her self from this abuse.
OMG what kind of mother you are!!!
ALWAYS believe your child until the opposite is proven
How a mother could not believe her own daughter but instead take the man’s side.
The mom is giving reformed addict vibes.
The mother does not deserve to have daughter. She is wicked. Cause her daughter a lot of pain.
I want to know how I can contact Amanda to talk with her? Her mother and siblings are so wrong not believing her. It just upsets me 😡🤬
Even if the daughter is lying, why would she try to deny it.
Such an egoistic woman.Hiding and ignoring the acts had been done.Clearly looks like she needed her husband for support to run the household while she was gone for work.Yet she is to be blamed for all what had happen while see was gone.
So heartbreaking. I understand rhe grief and lonliness that happens when moms who choose men over their kids. My mom knew too, and did nothing. She continued to stay with a man whose son was completely innapropiate to me on a daily basis. I started drinking at 11 years old, cigarettes by 12 and all drugs 13 and up. I was kicked out and was happier on the streets of seattle, than home. I was 15. Here is the kicker, her boyfriend was a cop. I grew up trusting no one, till this day it is a challenge. Hold your head up!
WTH is wrong with these women???!!!!
She can't recall anything how mean this woman is
I tell you my cousin put his hand between my legs when I was 3 right in front of my family when they turned their heads. Trust me it can happens. Mother
A 13 year old “initiated” it? This woman should be in prison and the stepdad put in gen pop for prisoners to exact justice.
I have a 12 yr old and a male teacher telling her she “looked adorable” made me question her intensely (turns out he’s married to a man so was genuinely just complimenting her outfit) but I’m hyper protective of her
Ur a good mom i remember my mom being overly protective of me and I hated her for every minute of it I never had daughters I only had boys I don’t think I would be able to handle having a daughter they grow threw sooo much pain in this world I think wow I have a 21 year old son and think what if he would’ve been a girl the suffering he’d have or getting beat by his husband and u see this as ur baby and u wanna protect them .. my point is I wish I would’ve appreciated my mom more and understand her protecting over me .. and tell ur daughter ur way of being will be thanked in the future too many krazys out there
A few minutes in, I can tell this is no kind of mother. She doesn't remember being told? I bet the counselor does...
That mother is EVIL
This is not a mother. Girl, go on
So she didn't remember her telling her but then she says it was 100 percent on her radar 🙄
I live this everyday. My mother gave me to the man by hand that raped me just so she didnt have to change her shitty lifestyle
Affair?!? No it’s sexual abuse and assault!
One of the worst examples of a mother I have ever seen..she isn’t deserving of a daughter.
It's scary. I hope they throw them in jail forever.
That man is ruining the trust people have in good fathers
Where can I find the full episode?!?
My husband was raped and molested by Catholic priests at his church and school he attended back in 2012-2014. He was 12 when it started. It stopped after he turned 14. Because I let him stay with me in Chicago. My parents did what they could to help him. Same with me. His parents dropped the case even though there was evidence of sexual assault. His parents told the police that he was making it up. And he never got justice. It's been 10 years and he's still battling PTSD.
The mom using math and logic to explain everything just proves that she knew
She knew everything that was happening in that house and she did absolutely nothing. Any woman/wife/mom who watches her husband brutalize THEIR child who has access to help but doesn't do anything to stop it is just as responsible and sick as the abuser.
Why would the daughter go in a room alone to give him a hug and say goodbye if that was how he was??? My Uncle molested me and I did everything I could to avoid him!!!
Complete neglect by your own mother 💔 narcissistic mum!! The worst
Why don’t they order polygraph tests? Simple! See if the mother still don’t believe!
What a horrible mother! omg.... your sweet daughter is crying
1:21 she remembers. That flash of something. She remembers.
if your child is saying it, you believe her and you put her first. end of discussion.
My mother knows her husband sexually assaulted me when I was a teenager...and she believes me...she just DOESN'T CARE because he has money and I don't. She will always choose his money over me.
9/27/21: Even when the polygraph comes out positive, she will still be in denial, and that denial will be replaced with more anger towards her daughter because, after all, she will question the fact that she wasn't enough for her husband, but her daughter was (??) and that alone will screw with her head. She needs help!
The betrayal of family is oftentimes just as, if not more, damaging as the abuse itself.
No mother should ever act this way 😢