My Business Partner Screwed Me Over (And They Are Family)
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- My Business Partner Screwed Me Over (And They Are Family)
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This guy sounds like a bit of a pushover. He seriously needs to take this guy to court, family or not
He is not a pushover at all....understands it all went bust, and was used. Not an easy pill to swallow.
Just because he is soft spoken doesn't mean he is a pushover, but he needs to lawyer up.
Needed to happen the next day. Don’t know if it’s been too long? Yikes
@@Spahi77 Are you kidding me?! Brother in law steals hundreds of thousands of dollars from the business and you don't even bring it up? If that isn't a push over, I don't know what is.
Its more complicated than that. If he go after his brother in law then he probably risks his relationship with his sister
NEVER do business with family
Exactly!
That's why you don't do business with family, even worst if they are in-laws
Amen on that
My in-laws are evil - and I had to walk on fire to prevent my spouse from doing business with them
The caller already lost his sister and brother in law as family when they decided to steal hundreds of thousands of dollars.
I'd take them to court because he can at least get some of the money back. If he forgives and forgets, all they learned was he is a push over who won't fight back.
My thoughts exactly!
Not expressing your anger leads to resentment and it eats away at you, not the people who did you wrong. His bro in law has no problem sleeping at night.
Guess I'm different. I would have had words with the guy and it wouldn't have been pretty. That's a criminal act and I don't care if they're family or not. His sister married the wrong guy.
Regardless if it's family, he should have gotten his money back. The brother in law and sister didn't care when they took it.
The courts are useless.....joint venture, will take way more money to fight, cards stacked against him....ask me how I know
Don't automatically lump the sister in with her husband. She may have had no idea- STILL may have no idea (hubby might not have told her & her brother hasn't said anything!). We don't know anything about their relationship. He may lie to her as much as he lied to this caller.
@@Spahi77 I want to hear your story, Spahi77
@@nikan7704 highly unlikely she wouldnt have noticed with all the new expensive stuff they would have been getting
Dave spoke over him when he was saying he lost closer to $1 million dollars. I'm certain the sister knew.
Forgive? They didn't ask for forgiveness. You basically let them walk all over you.
During my MBA from a top 20 business school the Business Law Prof. said the best type of partnership is "None".
Family will mess you over more than anybody else.
Not my family...But sadly, this is true for many people.
Forgive him when he is in prison for his crimes and you have sued him into bankruptcy. If your wife takes his side, tell her to move in with him.
It's his sister and brother in law
i understood
If it's your money, LOOK AT THE BOOKS, never be ignorant to the numbers when your money is involved. Read the statements, be involved in the accounting.
I agree. How in the world can a partner be so uninvolved (in. Clueless) that they are unaware that several hundred thousand dollars has been missing over the course of a couple years? This makes no sense to me.
Take him to court and get your money back.
Yep..he's not blood.
Money is probably spent. He's not getting much back I am afraid
At least this way, he will regain some measure of self-respect. He may not have noticed the theft while it was taking place, but he can at least handle it correctly once he has been made aware of it. The fact that it was done by a brother-in-law didn't matter to the brother-in-law while he was committing the crime, so it shouldn't matter to the brother-in-law while he is paying the figurative and literal price.
Never do business with Friends and family.
Never easy to do business with family - it takes a great deal of communication
Dave "I did not kill that banker" Ramsey
The caller OWNED himself.
It’s happens when family is involved. You want to trust family but probably shouldn’t.
This guy is a doormat. He can forgive him after the lawsuit.
If he reclaims the losses it won't end well.. if he says nothing it won't end well. All he can do is get this off his chest and keep them OUT of his life. This relationship is beyond repair.
He’s got to confront his sister and brother-in-law and demand they return the money, or at least a good portion of it. If they are not confronted by this guy (or through his attorney), then he’s emboldened them to repeat this behavior in another business. They got away with stealing from him, so what’s going to stop them from doing it again?
And family is a no go when it comes to business
Sounds like a job for Tony Soprano.
I thought the same thing. Or Real Housewives of Jersey 🤣
How do you not immediately bring that up? He’s taking money directly out of your pocket
I think because he (caller) feels responsible for not paying enough attention to the books when they were partners
It's not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you.
Don’t do business with family, unless it’s a family business that functions.
He needs to take this guy to court. This guy will just do this again.
He avoided looking at the books, checking their tax filings and that's the responsibility of all owners/partners in a business. Then he avoided confronting and resolve the issue with his sister and brother in law. He needs to change his own negative habits to avoid making the same mistakes.
Caller: it’s my sister and brother in law
Dave: So it was your brother in law
Yeah that was odd huh 🤔
Family and business transactions don’t mix. I’ve gotten burned on almost every one. The trouble is that legal action isn’t easy with family because other relational dynamics have to be considered. If that much can go missing without him noticing, I don’t feel too sorry for him. Just an expensive lesson.
I feel terrible for him.
Everyone learns to not lend money the hard way.
Three sides to a story, he did not do his job, you do not lose millions without seeing the signs.
These mom and pop new business owners NEVER seem to think their books are important. That's why so many of them get into debt and ultimately fail.
what happened to him is horrible, but i would never have let it happen without seeking justice. stand up for what is right.
Assuming we're hearing the whole story, I actually *wouldn't* forgive them for this. Why do they need forgiveness? They're not in prison after committing a crime; that's grace enough. Heck, did the crooked in-laws ever even apologize or acknowledge the wrong?
You should press charges against them unless they agree to pay it all back right away. The only way you can forgive them is if justice has been done, other wise you will be angry with yourself and them. How can you forgive them if they have not made amends?
NEVER run a business as a partnership. NEVER.
Once I had a three way partnership. Talk about a nightmare
I’m sure the sister was along with the whole thing . Let’s not let her off the hook
Sis might have just seen her husband bringing home tons of money from what she thought was a successful business.
"Nice" people wonder why so many bad things happen to them. It's because they can walked all over with no consequences.
I think we've all had something happen to us, and we did nothing. Those are the times that hurt the most - inaction.
But I have to say I would struggle to forgive here. My only step forward would be confrontation, and seek compensation. If the answer is attitude and denial - then I would seek legal counsel and separate for all time.
Yes, agreed!
Gonna take a while to forgive but I think this guy is just more mad at himself than anything. He's playing the could have should have game with himself and that just deteriorates you. Even though it was a shitload of money all he has to do is ask to get paid and have it in his mind that if he doesn't get one penny that he will be comfortable with that. It's time to create a new life and let go of the bitter one. How long can you be kicking yourself is the real question and how long will it take for you to be at the financial place you want be? Make those goals. Best of luck to that guy
Nice guy gets what nice guy gets
The best way he will be able to forgive is to actually confront and expose (punish).
If Paul wants to be peaceful, he needs to confront his sister and brother-in-law in such a way that he did on the show.
He is a good man. Walking away.
This guy needs to take a stand and be empowered and stand up to the brother in law and proceed with legal action.
But how ? The same exact thing happened to me.
The hardest person to forgive is yourself. People just aren't wired that way. We always seem to think we "should have" known, done, checked, etc., even though we may have no past experience to let us know what is happening. We are not omnipotent.
“So its your brother in law” the girl never has anything to with it right lol
The caller indicated it was a guy who handled the books. From this call, the wife may or may not have ever known. He could have been using that money to fund his side chick for all we know. But you assume she’s the bad guy, right?
We don't know for sure if she has anything to do with it. She may have been lied to by her spouse about where the money came from.
Think most obvious thing is he can't forgive himself. Is his sister and brother in law living in a nice house, driving nice cars and going on vacations while you are struggling, unless they gambled it or were into drugs, how do you not notice that someone you are partners with who should be making same as you is living a higher lifestyle sounds like there might be more to the story. I think making a detailed record of exact what happened and how much they (I can't imagine the sister not knowing) stole, then simply passing it out to everyone in the family would be a nice start. You just let everyone know this is part of the therapy you have been prescribed and you just want everyone to know if it seems like you act differently towards your sister these days this is why and yo continue to work on forgiving them...the end
Forgiving yourself is the hardest thing to do.
Brother-in-law ripped him off for hundreds of thousands of dollars. Cut him off.
partners are for dancing. nothing else.
🤔 yes
What is the background music playing at the end? I luv it!
I would SUE them for every penny or he will never have respect for HIMSELF.
Good call, applies to many.
Don’t forgive him as he will take advantage of you again. Sue him.
You have to forgive for you. You cant forgive someone that has not asked to be forgiven.
Big advice never get a business with family or borrow money
I would NEVER forgive that. Pay me back and we can go from there,
He’s dead but I did not kill him😂😂
So 2.PHDs and one who actually went through life.. life beats PHD advice 😝
Family can be the greatest blessing - and sometimes the worst curse. Tough situation to be in. I'm not sure I could forgive and forget several hundred thousand dollars of embezzlement.
True dat. I thought he was gonna say “thousands” not “hundreds of thousands “. Ouch 😣
You NEVER lend money to relatives. NEVER!!
this was an expensive lesson...life is full of lessons. You need to release this anger because it will only harm you (phyisicaly and mentally). Many illnesses are caused by anger and resentment. Think about that and about the fact that they are not affected by this anger (since no one is after them)...only u are!
This guy just wanted to hear himself on the radio! Lol
700k is a lot of money!
I'm surprise his sister is still married to this man. His brothers in law should repay him all the 🤑 he stole plus interest.
Dave: "He stole from me but he's dead now"
Me: 0_o....why is he dead Dave?
there has to be more to this story
There would be severe consequences if that happened to me. Let this be a warning to all of us, so that we are careful in the deals we make.
The same thing happened to me. What should I do ?
Ha I am not surprised that they are family those are the ones you sometimes must love from a distance or Avoid all together ♥️😳
Family and Friends are the first ones to do shady stuff
@@noregertsyamsayin8011 Exactly
I can relate, although my sibling never got me into financial loss they did lose my trust. I'll be honest if they went that far and knew what they were doing was wrong then "forgiveness" has to be earned. First step would be to face consequences which means pursue legal actions against them. The family will never be the same regardless of whether or not you sue them so why not do the selfish thing since clearly they were being selfish.
This guy is a delinquent business owner. You don't know the taxes aren't done?! Dereliction or duty
Completely agree.
This man is TOO nice
Is that you, Vin Diesel?
IT'S FAMILY
Never .,.I wouldn't even acknowledge him...I would let every member of the family know what happened and what he did ...you don't owe him anything...you don't need to apologize...he is dead ...he needs to stew on what he did and now he should fix it..be a better person ..head high and proud
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean what they did is right. It releases you from them.
This guy is over here ready to forgive like it’s nothing. I’d still be on the homicidal urges stage.
You can tell Dave got triggered with this one.
Man I thought I was the only one that ever lived this type of treason
Same here. The comment section of this channel has shown me there are plenty of rats in other family's too
Oh that’s not just going away and the sister is on the line just as much as the BIL. Pay back your debt: Become a better human being sister.
That Fling fool!
I wish they had told him to forgive the guy (and forgive yourself), but get a lawyer to see if he can get anything back. It's not right to let him get away with it! You were "family" too when he stole from you, and he didn't care.
1:31 Dom Toretto? Is that you?
I'd walk away and keep walking.
One thing he could do is report the income diverted to the IRS and at least get some satisfaction that way!! Sister and Paul will get hammered. I wouldn’t spend holidays with those criminals.
This guy is soft, I'd like to be his business partner too.
Did you just say, family?
It's family.......
it's been a long day, without you my friend....
If you never said anything and allowed it.
Thanksgiving dinner must be very very awkward.
Oh never mind.
Your next move is determined by how your sister deals with it when you tell her..
Hmmmmm 😮
I sure wouldn't want such a pushover running any construction projects for me.
Just because he is soft spoken doesn't mean he is a pushover; but he needs to lawyer up family or no family since this is business.
@@stevenporter863 Letting someone steal hundreds of thousands of dollars from his company and not pressing charges against them is what makes him a pushover, not his being soft spoken.
Lock him up.
Brother n law should be in jail
You won't resent them if you make them pay what they took.
They need to be punished, family or not. They will just do it to someone else.
The brother in law is a crook
Physical violence works
Ask Robert says: Mind your OWN business.
Never work for friends or family unless it's free. Anyone who's been in business a while will confirm that.