Are you ok with Your daughter having a boyfriend? What should parents do?

[@user-xy5kz9ew2g]

First of all our Islam doesn’t allow boyfriends/ girlfriends. This should be implemented in our daily lives. You can talk in classes to opposite sexes when the opportunity presents itself regarding classes, education or even pleasantries. But no meeting up on own with opposite sex regarding having relationships. No way this should happen. If you like someone or someone likes you make it clear that you are not that kind of person and that unless someone wants to marry you and that through your parents you should be clear and show your boundaries. Keep your education topmost, respect your parents. Be very respectful, clear and honest with yourself and family. Keep your parents first in your mind.

[@mishalyasirrr]

i love how raw these vids are!! cute sa office environment, friends teasing you and you sharing your thoughts comfortably. & i think girls SHOULD know that most of the times guys are just using them as a tissue paper. ALLAH has alr told in the quran that paak auraten are for paak mard so girls should do their tazkia themselves that how "paak" decision are they making. BARAK ALLAH for the vid.

[@iamrabiamughni]

❤️

[@ahmedsadat1751]

Is ayat ko le kr aik wrong perspective hy wo ye k ye ayat akhirat k liye khi gai h jb hum is ayat ki puri translation prhte to ye chiz pta chalti h k ye dunya k liye nahi h kiun k sometimes achi aurat ki bure mard se shadi ho jati aur ache mard ki buri aurat se we have many examples in our society. But akhirat m kisi k sth glt nhi hoga waha ache logo ko acha return milega dunya ki trha bura nai. Mein just clarification k liye apko reply kia h agr kuch bura lgy to mazrat 🙂❤️

[@UsmanJavedSial]

Most Misquoted ayat of Quran.

[@rabiajozi6819]

Very good conversation on these kind of topics

[@ayesharuqsar1521]

When I was in 10th standard, my mother strictly told me, bete apke ammi aashiqui nai kare, ap bhi nai karna!!
It saved me😊
So, yes these kinds of talks are highly necessary!

[@jannat65514]

Having a bf is one thing.. Even parents now first try to know who is the guy.. But meeting alone is not ok.. That too at 1 in the night.. Even if u r 25 still not ok.. Being modern liberal is good but be smart also.. There r so many examples in the society of girls/women being betrayed and facing bad situation..
Even if the guy is good still meet in the day in public space..

[@aena5995]

what about going on trips

[@A-Hasan]

Dating or relationship outside of marriage is a sin no matter how you wrap it , and there should be more conversation about parent and child relationship in different ages of a child , I have learned from my experiences that we marry our kids without educating them what marriage is and what then we become parents having no clue what big responsibility it is having a child who will grow and be his/her person and how can I teach my child purpose of life , how to be a good human and a Muslim , life is preparation of death and after life

[@FariaRafaqat-vx5eu]

this is the solution to every problem "communication". The most difficult thing to do in our society is communication.

[@FelipeAvila-tq6kk]

Finally someone is putting the right ethics and principles in the proper media

[@carlosocatavious3363]

If there is ao much love that the father has for his daughter, and if he has actually been a father and not just a chokidar or havaldar, then he should give her the benefit of the doubt, let her know she doesnt need to sneak, but she should be aware of how these things can have sour outcomes as well. Educate your kids, prepare them and then let them explore, and if they make a mistake or fail, guide them again.

[@user-lo9lr9fs2w]

Don't get me wrong but i think being a Muslim or being in a religious country we shouldn't pormote in drama and all because i really believe media play a major role model of youth so we should at least try not to promote these.thing in movies and drama

[@misbahhassan3092]

True

[@tabinda460]

Well some drama shows it's wrong .but when u show man following girl and college gpomg girl like danish dramas and people want then to get married..it's shows how we normalize it.
We need to stop this all age level

[@Whitenights164]

These things used to happen even before dramas

[@kashifshehzad2328]

درست تعلیم اور تربیت۔ جب تک والدین بچوں کی بچپن سے جوانی تک تربیت نهیں کریں گے تب تک مساٸل کا حل نهیں نکلے گا۔

[@misbahhassan3092]

True

[@misbahhassan3092]

You are right on so many things.
In my opinion all of this is interconnected. There are several factors which play a role in whether a girl would do such things like meeting someone secretly. It includes the relationship among the family members, her perception about her own self, her perception about Allah. And yes you are right about having a safe space in the family. But unfortunately it is not so in many of them. Now we as youngsters need to start developing a good relationship with our parents. We too should understand them and start having conversations. And that will eventually grow in sha Allah.
This all needs to be done with a lot of wisdom.
Moreover I believe that we all should try to play our own part as parents and children, instead of only complaining about the others.
One more thing is that I don't believe that we should label such secret meetings as "cute". They are not right. We are Muslims and we need keep in mind when we are talking about something that whether it is right in the light of Islam or not. And it is very unfortunate that Muslims in today's day and age are afraid in their hearts to do so because we always feel that pressure of being labelled as backwards or something.

[@maheenhamid2504]

beautifully explained especially last para

[@Hippieheyhey]

May Allah reward you for speaking the TRUTH and saying the right things, misbah! My thought was exactly this... I don't find dramas and scenes like these 'cute'. I am disappointed but not surprised that Rabia introduced the topic with that scene, describing it as cute. If we keep Allah in our minds and hearts as number one and teach our children the same, we have done our bit. The rest is their fate and perhaps result of bad decisions. May Allah guide all.

[@misbahhassan3092]

@@Hippieheyhey Jazakillah and Aameen

[@IK_2004]

I think that even though these 2 points are valid , first to have communication, sit and talk, secondly create a safe space for your daughter's and sons, a comfortable environment in the house where they know they can talk about a specific topic without the fear of the reaction. But the title of video " Do now parents have to accept that their daughters will have boyfriends?" No, why?!... , the simple thing which come in my mind is that I guess nowadays one thing parents lack in the upbringing of the children is the knowledge of Islam. We haven't place the love and fear of Allah in our children's heart. If the children have the fear and love of Allah in their hearts, I'll automatically not to anything which is wrong, you can't monitor your children 24/7 and let's be honest if you place your fear in their heart still they are gonna messup, maybe because they are sometimes ready to face the reaction.I have seen example of genz around me , regardless of what's happening around, they not do anything like this, not because of the fear of their parents but the fear and love of Allah ( bcz maybe fear of parents isn't much , we sometimes become ready to face their reaction) but we can't be fine with the fact that will be face the reaction of Allah.
Whenever a problem comes try to find it's solution in Deen, what Allah's says about this, and we can't judge the rules made by god , we shouldn't even if we don't understand the maslihat behind that. When it's mentioned to lower your gaze, guard your chastity and when have to interact to opposite gender talk to the point and don't soften your voice. Also it's a Hadith " For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him" , so even if the current time is becoming westernised I'll not called it modernization, it's westernization , we should try to follow what is said by Allah .

[@newsshowcase]

I am someone with religious views. I recently heard from mufti sb(tariq masood) that in this situation if the guy is good thn better consider him for your daughter and go for it. Apart from that when we are raising daughters whre they read novels, watch dramas n movies and hearing different stories from their friends so if they have a feeling for someone that's totally natural but the issue is the quality of guys and the mentality. I have been socializing with different type of guys all my life and that population includes guys from my madersa, school, college, coaching and thn 4 different universities I have been to and esp at workplace where we have graduates from iba, lums, fast etc, and from all kind of universities, even foreign quakified. The real problem I see here is with guy's mentality. I am saying this being a father of daughters. The guys mentality in our society needs a huge upgrade.

[@nooraiman3840]

It is the duty of parents to instill in their children the teachings of Islam and connect them to Quran....when one has a strong connection with their Creator then they dont have interest in haram relations..,and Islam is very clear about this, that having girlfriends boyfriends is bot permitted...Sadly we dont try to develop the true essence of Islam in our children...we dont teach them the true meaning of Tawheed and when your base is weak then you're bound to fall

[@rehanaqasim-ux9kb]

I second you, counseling your children then and now is very important, giving them safe space and reacting normal on their mistakes give them sense of confidence. Keep talking to your children about every big and small issue, that make them feel comfortable sharing their problems faced on daily bases.

[@khushboo6699]

Good video no dramatic batein at all Rabia. Its sad how the society is deteriorating and kudos to u for opening a platform for discussion. Out of experience i can tell you rabia it is not so obvious to sit and have communication. Sometimes when you talk with children become aggressive and close discussion. Peer pressure is very powerful nowadays with intermittent c connectivity. On top of that social media and tv are creating havoc in the mind of the youngsters. Only good education according to me can be a saviour. Academic together with islamic education

[@komalshah6341]

I think girl's should be serious about their safety first and do think they are Muslim

[@noorulainmushtaq9657]

I think these talks are necessary for every daughter and younger sister. Nd yes safe space is actually a thing many girls need other than parents. Another thing is that the mindset should be changed for girl and boyfriend by telling examples and solutions not by restrictions and using stick on them ..
In my case i learned it myself that nobody is sincere unless they have a benefit from you, may be a girlfriend or boyfriend 💕.
So girls should be instructed in a way that they build a career that is more important than a relationship or boyfriend.
And even nowadays boys are also humiliated by girls. So be careful and stay safe.

[@TheDoldrum]

In our religion, it doesn't say that parents have the final say for their children life. Like you said safe space and open communication with parents help to avoid these situations. Learn to have halal relationship instead of starting in the opposite manner.

[@rubinaali9164]

Having a conversation is a good thing but having respect for your loved ones and obeying your parents is equally important, in a just and fair manner

[@dnyan6734]

Rabia, it's refreshing to see such topics being discussed! Regardless of where we live, things like this have always happened and will happen.
Open conversation and trust are key elements in any relationship. It's essential that we establish good communication in our families so that we can rely on one another before making big decisions.

[@iamrabiamughni]

Thank you for appreciating

[@dnyan6734]

​@@iamrabiamughni❤

[@anamhsamdani2428]

Excellent topic! So important to openly talk about the concept of safe spaces specially between parents and kids!! Keep up the excellent conversation ❤

[@iamrabiamughni]

Yes! Thank you!

[@user-ln5bz9cw7r]

​​@@iamrabiamughnibut india🇮🇳 me to madam bhagwa love❤ trap chal raha he 😢

[@medfreak]

Amazing❤
Safe space. Agar baap nahen ban sakte,let the mother be a safe space. Qk bache apni umer k bachon s yeh sab share karte hen ,jinko khud bhi koi experience nahen hota. Or bache bohat nuksan mein chale jate hen

[@povAllisWell]

I like the natural flow of conversation and yess these topics are the needs of this time we can't live in the bubble anymore

[@rabiataseer8369]

You are the most decent and enlightened drama reviewer. Impressed by your honesty and integrity.

[@syedabushrabushrasam9840]

Rabia ur the one and only and best. Mei khud aise batein aisw disscussions krna chahti hu aise topics ko. Mgr due to some reason a cant do it openly from all . U r my inner voice..mei khud being a khala being a behen being a czn apni se choti sb cousins r family k liye aise he safe space hu. I m happy k jo kuch hm ne face kia k ami se kahen gy tu agy se pta ni kia hoga. And r b koi ni family mei tu i thought & try k abi jo mjse choti sb cznz behn ha us k liye koi ho family mei jis se wo hr achi buri baat krlein. & yes Bachu ko emotionally blackmail ni krna chaheye k hm piyar krty hn tu aise kro ye sila dia tm ne hmei etc. Why. Apne piyar dia ye naturally tha .

[@Goldenhour21]

You are blessed with such clarity of mind and articulation. It reminds me of old times when we could look upto journalists, actors who were like a light in tough times. Having tons of responsibilities and duties, you chose to discuss these topics here. I am really grateful that you are taking up these. It is really helpful and important to have discussions and look upto someone. I am sure many young girls, people and families will be benefited. I hope it contributes to creating a better mental health environment around everyone. So much respect and gratitude to you Rabia once again. You always come up with great initiatives. Looking forward. All the very best.❤

[@KHANN15]

Thanks rabia 🥰🥰
We need more and more solo talks like this. More raw and about situation which are being cornerized in our society.

[@parusfarrukh9306]

The 1st step towards providing safe space at home is Parents need to understand children can be different from the expectation sketch they have in mind for their kids. They need to understand that it's not the case that child can be wrong at all times.....things are changing so parents need to come out of there humare zamanay and humare khandan type shell. Similarly children should listen to there parents as well as they have life experience and parents are not always outdated. Communication is the key and keeping boundaries and expectations clear.

[@SidratulMuntaha-zk8zc]

There isn't any harm in liking and loving someone but everyone should have strong boundaries with the opposite gender, while in a relationship as well.
Everyone should have ethics and morality that shouldn't be crossed at any cost.
May Allah guide us all. 🙏

[@RAndOm31422]

I'm an undergraduate student and i can really relate to most of the discussions which you do on your channel , for suppose today's topic to be honest I come from a regular old fashioned household and specifically my ammi is not so aware of how new generation kids live and I don't blame her for that but yes if there comes a time then I would definitely place my POV and I'm sure parents will also be able to understand what YOUNG minds think and we ask young minds should be able to understand them .

[@user-ie9tj8ub3x]

Brilliant thinking

[@amna_m1234]

I was in 8th and my mom that "ye mohabbat wagera don't exist in our society" and i was saved from this trouble....
This communication is really important between parents but sadly Pakistani parents are not updated to that mindset...

[@Metamorphosis177]

Omg . Yar these topics are sooooo important. Finally someone is talkingb

[@RAndOm31422]

I would like you talk about LGBTQ and share your opinion on the same

[@worldsbeauty5876]

Nice topics Rabiya, now a days no one talks about it, sab western culture ke rang mai rangte jarhay hain, normalize hota jarha hai...Aesay mai apki ye batain bohat zabardast hain aur younger generation ke liye guidance bhi sabit hosakti hain..❤

[@mishkaatfatimah5276]

I really like your these videos please keep going ❤️

[@Noorul_huda00]

Chatt per ja K milna Baray Dil gurday ka kaam Hai ...or ye wohi larkiyan kr sakti Hain Jin ko Izzat K maany maloom hi na hon ....baap ko agr ghussa aye to wo conservative nhi hai...izzatdaar Shareef admi hai ......apni oulaad Ki terbiyat per agr tswajha di Jaye to ye sub mumkinaat mn se nhi Hai

[@TDFFYT]

I definitely agree with what you are saying 💯

[@ghazalaakhter7853]

Mother's ko friends ki tarah rehna chahiye baccho ke sath confidence me lo and most important tarbiyat

[@samramajeed5315]

I want to be the person i always needed in my life when i was suffering so my mistakes and people's unkindness have taught me to be kind and understanding towards others when they are happy, when they are doing things which they should not do but their is always a reason why they are doing something wrong, when we create that safe space for them to share we can spare so much trouble for them and for ourselves.
Well i would say everything that went wrong in my life has made me quite aware person about most of stuff. Nothing is bad and nothing is wrong we need to come out of taking things personally i believe. I want to be a wife, parent, sister , ant , cousin, friend, colleague, where everyone could talk to me about anything like anything and they have the guarantee that i am not gonna judge them at least that's what I aspire and try to become. No matter how hard it is but that's the way forward otherwise shaming people, judging them blindly brings nothing.
However i learnt all that after living one of the loneliest life on planet, that's how i became sensitive to others suffering. If i would have not gone through pain i would certainly not understand others pain on such deeper levels.
Anyway Rabia you are spot on o agree with you 💯❤
And keep making these videos we really really need to have conversations on such topic.
I lived lonely miserable life just because people were not open for communication were not open to understand how judgmental mindset can push people to severe depression and darkness.

[@atheistonyoutube]

If you talk about real life girlfriend boyfriend relationships are not that common in Pakistan. Most parents will discourage them especially if it's a girl because of morality issues and virginity issues.
My view is it's ok to have girlfriend or boyfriend even physical relationships but only with 1 Boyfriend or Girlfriend it's not good changing them because this will create problems in society same as problems in the west with children going into care and the society will start to implode.

[@muhammadtufail-pn1yj]

Dear rabia plz review novel usre yusra by husna Hussain

[@nasirnasri2030]

Boy frnd girl frnds islam me najayez he, najayez kaam najayez hi rehta he chahe jitni b khibsorat soney k dabey me pack kr k b pesh kren, gandgi gandgi he, ghalazat he, boy frnd girl frnd ka islam me koi wajood hi nahi to jo b ye hrkat kare uski sahi sy tabyat set krni chahye, isme koi narmi ki zarorat nahi, haram kam haram hi hota he or uska kafara hota he, lanat he ese ghalez rishton pr

[@tanimahasanmim5139]

You are right.What is haram is haram.Allah said in quran that it is haram.There is no reason to sugarcoat it. No matter what way you present it, it will always be haram.

[@RAndOm31422]

It's been a good amount of time since I have been following your content on this channel and yes sometimes i visit your main channel (Fuchisa Magzine) but more often i hop into this channel the topics and discussions which you do i closely relate to them ,it was the time when you started doing book reviews i felt ' arey yaar mere jaise bohot sare log books padthe hai aur usi book story kay barey mai bohot dino tak soch the hai ' and from then it was never looking back I make sure that i watch every video of yours which you put here and yes I think you should discuss more about these topics , let us form a small community with in ourselves.
Across the Borders,
India :)

[@iamrabiamughni]

hello... thank you for such a beautiful message. yes I am trying to built a community where we can have healthy and fun discussions...

[@RAndOm31422]

@@iamrabiamughni I'm ready to be part of it

[@afiatehmeen6320]

Very strong message.

[@Emanwaheed001-jq5xk]

Tbh our parents called love in to extreme ways and in wrong perspectives they are also right but when we saw them how they are against the love ..we can't talk with them.irrespeactive of how much they are open minded and we go no where especially being an elder daughter.

[@mylifeboring._.1014]

Rabia u r the best sehli❤

[@tabinda460]

Relationship out of marriages or before marriage sgould be address according to islam..not so called besharam or beghariat..develop conscious for Allah..not parents.show or tell them its not likeable by Allah

[@Mohidusman-oo8cn]

she is puree🥰

[@mcal7702]

Dramo me pakre tu kuch nahi hoga. If this really happens in a village then it reaches upto murders and enmity. Ye dates phir cute nahi rehti. Sab taba hojata he.

[@fatimahm2721]

I really like how you discuss social issues with so much detail, but the religious and moral aspect of it has been completely ignored. Deen mei yeh mna hai. You should've at least discussed, if not highlighted, that islam (or any religion, for that matter) forbids such relationships (and why it's wrong on so many levels).

[@AhmadAli-pv7nm]

I really like your videos ❤

[@QasimAliKhan-qe1yw]

I think nikkah is solution for bfs and gfs now a days❤❤❤

[@farazhussainarain7963]

Good job 👏

[@uzmaiqbal9311]

Now a days daughters tell their parents that they are our friends not a boy friend.

[@ghazalaakhter7853]

Hamare yahan Aisa hi hai dar nikalo baccho ka

[@abdulahadafzal3899]

Bachon ko parents ki mohabat ki price nahi deni chahiay....Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh that's what every parent MUST MUST MUST learn...

[@agul5758]

If its time pass big no no for valid strong reasons time pass type bf gf can b centre of attention thy also b talk of twon their own buddies can spread rumours about their relationship u believe or not false or true news spreads like jungle ki Agg . So parents ought to hv proper discussion with daughter n son with meaningful reasoning while hving good aim in mind its for their betterment.
If its serious relationship which can lead for healthy marrige ya go a head live ur life with proper mannerism ethics norms while considering what our Deen Islam says for marrige Marrige completes ur Half Deen if daughter has wise sensible confident bf who aims for marrige no harm in meeting her bf invite him meet him do some digging etc tell daughter calmly u can do this u cannot do dat .
Healthy meaningful discussion make kids realize parents hv experience.

[@user-tg5ji6tz1e]

Allah has not allowed for a girl to have a boy friend for romance or a boy to have a girlfriend
He has given choice to see or meet infront of other family member to have conversation regarding marriage.
Now what is right , wronge , good , bad
Its not what we are going to decide
If we don't follow Allah's commands its SIN !!!

[@MalikJAVID-bi5bv]

Boy friend, girl friend ka title mat diya krain

[@anoushagulraiz]

Assalamualaikum it's Masha Allah not Mashallah and it's Insha Allah not Inshallah and it's Assalam ualaikum not Assalama alaikum and it's Waalaikum usalam not Waalaikum asalam

[@chikkothewriter]

💔💔💔💔

[@user-mu6tl7gi8d]

🫶❤️🙏

[@mahammemon6614]

[@user-ml4wc7kt8n]

filhal to mere ko tum pasand aai ho lol apna btao koi bf waghaira hai ya mein try marne ki try karun?😎

[@ramlanigar2522]

I always share location either the outing is planned or unplanned, harsh words but *"ATLEAST PARENTS SHOULD KNOW WHERE IS MY DEADBODY"* , regardless of the gender. 😌🤍🤲🏻