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Perhaps the fear of commitment to honest dialogue drives many to choose loneliness rather than risking it all to attempt honest communication and the love that is the bi-product.
Well said, David!
Mobile phones are the new security blanket
Maybe this is why loneliness is at such an all-time high.
I studied urban planning. The big geography change happened after WW2, then the 2010s saw a bit of a “back to the city” movement. But yes, technology, especially smartphones, have turned everyone into zombies. And social media and such “creators” become an addiction. Plus the corporations have routed everything through smartphones now, from shopping to news and of course communication with others. Even Disney requires you to use smartphones more than ever to be in their parks, get on attractions, navigate the place, it takes your senses off the built environment, everything that Walt’s team worked for.
No use worrying, things always sort themselves out eventually. Anxiety is bad for your health.
I've witnessed this phenomenon with my ex, and it's kind of sad to see how their life has evolved.
You are an incredibly thoughtful and deep introspective and self-aware person. These are rare qualities. The devices are more of an excuse for people not wanting to look inward.
Thank you 🙏
It's rude as fuck to lose yourself in your phone after sex. It's avoidant behavior. It's like going from everything to nothing. Confusing. It also seems to be the way culture is going, so you can't take it personally.
Exactly! Didn't take it personally but definitely a bad "after taste" lol
I'm worried about your generation too! But awareness is a start of possible change Keven!!!
I hate phones so much and see it as a violation of my freedom that living without a smart phone is now virtually impossible. I tried to get rid of mine but it was required for the two factor authentication for work. Shouldnt it be up to me whether i have a smart phone? My life went downhill back in 2014 with my first smartphone. Yes its a problem (im a millennial born in 89)
Dude, you hit a nail on the head. The age of smartphones/tablets has everyone addicted, and all the corporations require you to use it to access or perform basically anything anymore. I studied urban planning and even postwar sprawl didn’t hit all these generations that hard that soon in terms of harming social life.
Yeah, ugh.
PS - love how esoteric and niche your CZcams channel is!
@@KevenTalks awww thanks.
Very true, we are becoming a society of emotional zombies
Ironically, the people who use their phones like umbilical cords are often people who actually haven't much in the way of social contacts on their phones. They are just doing it to either act like they are "popular" or as an escape from actual communication with whoever they are with. These are the same guys who communicate on hook-up apps with "''Sup?" and "How are you doing?" and other off-putting communication non-starters. A surprising number of young men on hook-up apps are actually fearful of hook-ups for this very reason and that is what accounts for a lot of the "ghosting" and "flaking". As an older gay man with daddy appeal I get a lot of come-ons from young men on hook-up sites, many of whom are pathetic catfishers. Here are a few of their openers: "Hi sweetheart", "Hello cutie", etc. (Sorry, I do NOT relate to "cute" as an over 60 gay man). They talk like old lounge lizards from the 1950s trying to pick up floozies in a Holiday Inn cocktail lounge., LOL.. You hit the nail on the head, they are "awkward" because they have spent waaaay too much time on social media and way too little time interacting with others in real life. Ironically, "smart phones" are creating a generation of young men devoid of social intelligence.
"lounge lizards" 🙈😅
Phones are turned off on entering cinemas, theatres....it should also apply to restaurants.......and bars....an Interesting talk Keven..thank you.
Ohh now that would be interesting! Ever gone to a concert or show where they make you put your phone in that magnetic pouch (so only they can open it back up)?
It would be interesting if restaurants or bars started doing that. I could see a place doing that as an experiment.
In some cities like mine they are not building out new grocery stores for example without a hybrid of both in person, checkout and automated, I think this is important to keep the human interactions going.
When "SmartPhones" were first sold to the public, they (Steve Jobs) told us "THIS SMARTPHONE is what we all dreamed of having all our lives". Ummm no. Mainly, I'm NOT going to be told that a product; a "smartphone" ... is something that I dreamed of having all my life". I'm boycotting the product while seeing most people around me become brainwashed. This may sound extreme, but I blame the product - and for what it has done to our society. Owners of the "smartphone" are under it's spell and they don't realize it.
Interesting. Personally, I blame society rather than the technology.
There are "temptations" to be addicted to anywhere - drugs, sex, alcohol, gambling...
Technology is just the latest version - the latest thing to distract people from goals, personal development, etc.
It starts early - parents who use devices for a break from disciplining their kids in public, and so on.
I think it's up to individuals to set their own boundaries and self-control.
@@KevenTalks Welp, you've given me some "things" to think about. I'm one of those people who puts trust in things said by an obviously handsome and experienced young man. Of course what you say is true. I guess I might be fantasizing that the only way to solve this problem is to put the devices on notice - for existing among people who can't control themselves. I think it'd be easier to ban the devices than ban human weaknesses.
@@Vport I would agree if there was more harm than value. This technology enables us to do INCREDIBLE things.
I agree with you though on other matters...notably guns.
Your observation is spot on!
Amen, well said. I appreciate that my doctor looks at and talks to me.
lol!
I think you're right about what will be the effect on these newer generations who don't socialize normally. The emotional and psychological effects that it could have. Isolation is not good for people. You can change technology, but you can't change biological makeup. Humans are social beings. We do need it to be happy and healthy. The amount of it varies person to person, but we do all need to have social interaction. Maybe that's why we have more and more of these mass tragedies being committed. You get these young kids who are already bullied or they don't have the emotional and social support they need to be stable, add on top of that, Isolation and you get a depressed, angry, unhappy generation of young people who's biggest validation is social media. Which is not a healthy place to get your self-worth from. So I see why it's so worrying. Not just dating-wise, but just in all aspects of society.
Yes - you hit the nail on the head.
Obviously you can't control other people - only yourself, and influence the people around you (children if you have them, etc) - but still all very concerning to me on a societal level.
Times have changed so much. I enjoy life so much by being old school. I spark up conversations on the bus or while I am shopping, just being out in public. Funny fun fact...... I went to a retail store and went to pay for my purchases with a check. The cashier was a young girl and asked me what it was I was handing her, she told me she never saw one and had to call the manager up😮 hope you are having a great time celebrating pride 🌈 an engage with lots of other handsome men at the events.
LOL too funny! I've always needed checks to pay rent but I guess beyond that there really is rarely a use indeed!
It’s very much like that in my dating experience with men or women.😢
Great topic. I don't understand why people are so drawn to the virtual world as opposed to the real world.
I think because anonymity makes people feel less judged and also requires less intimate effort.
Always bringing up an interesting conversation with such an engaging manner.
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You would have loved the 1980’s Keven!Great times!❤️
Lol I actually am not a fan of 80s pop culture! 🙈
It always seems so tacky to me!
But 90s, I think I would've thrived! ☺
@@KevenTalks It was so much fun!What a decade!Are you going to interview Sam Cushing and his BF for me?I want to see you boys together!He lives in Miami!❤️
I share your concerns, I have not been back to the USA in seven years. I now live in Thailand. Very social here,everyone is out and about interactive with others in joy,smiles and kindness. And yes,everyone has phones but rarely in lieu of human interaction. I'm quite a bit older than you, I lived in Miami for ten years back in the 80's even back then Initiating a conversation with a stranger could result in a response of
"you must have me confused with somebody who gives a f***"
I once hooked up with a Cuban who actually answered the phone during sex. A land line,no cell phones then.
Omg! 😆
That sounds like an SNL skit!
You are taking it personally.
What's so interesting about people,most of them want something from you,my phone >most of people
It’s not you. Gen Z is very this way. It comes from them growing up with parents that use screens as babysitters.
TV was a communal experience but phones atomize everyone.
"parents use screens as a babysitters"
"TV was a communal experience but phones atomize everyone"
You're dropping gems on us, Jonathan. 😅
I had to google "atomize." I need to add this to my vernacular!
I noticed the phone dependency/fixation over ten years ago, like 2011 it started to get bad, people got so antisocial. This definitely started as a millennial problem. They are so used to conforming to everything. They literally conformed to social dysfunction and isolation lmao.
Globally you are right, but i think there is a trap there: People always distracted themselves in public spaces. Reading a newspaper, playing cards, drawing etc. but most of these things now happend on screens. So a full metro everybody on their phone looks wierd and depressing, but some are working, some are reading, some are playing games, some are connecting to their loved once home…. I think its a bit high brow do condem a whole generation because of that. Hanging out with younger people, i realized the have much more of a social connection to each other, because the know how toxic social media is.
Keven I do enjoy your rants! I even agree with most of what you say. I am worried about how technology is impacting society at all levels. As for young people, (those under 40) I wonder what advantage they have because of technology and what disadvantages that come along with that technology. What are the impacts on the development of social skills and knowledge. Overall, the young know far more about certain subjects than we older people knew at their age. They even have social knowledge that some of us are still learning. However, I worry that they are not learning enough about how to have positive and impactful interactions with their peers and elders. Everything gets better with practice, and if the opportunity for practice is missing, learning will be limited.
I congratulate you on your interest in improving the lot of your generation. On another note, you do have beautiful eyes and when you look directly in the camera, your passion bursts through the screen...like you are talking directly to us your audience. Looking forward to your next rant!
I think you're spot on. Thank you for your kind words by the way!
It's quite sad. And everyone wonders why they're still single. Make some effort? Poor guy.
He went to his phone to pull back and regain control, it isn’t personal.
I think a lot of times, people look at their phone to fill awkward silences. Gen Z...they grew up on devices. I don't think they see it as a rude thing to be on their phones all the time. Not saying it's socially appropriate. But I think to them it's nothing.
Side note: you look good in this video.
That's 100% why, and they 100% don't see it as a faux-pas, but these 2 factors are exactly why I'm concerned.
Not only is everyone on their phones constantly, even when they communicate with others they don't actually speak to them, they text. It's a global social evolutionary step that technology has made available and that everyone has embraced. People's phones have become their life, so to speak. And it's a cliché to say, but there's no going back.
It's made us introverts' lives a lot easier, but maybe too easy...
@@KevenTalks Ain't that the truth.
I have had a lot of the same experiences in hook up culture. I have a lot to say about it. You should do one of your interview shows with just a normal gay person like a chat show.
I _don’t_ find it depressing. Our phones are parts of ourselves at this point, extensions of our brains if you will, and maybe this is just me, but I don’t interpret it as necessarily rude or indicative of wanting to be distant. I think we’re just going to have to adapt and get better at interjecting, maybe plan phone-free dates and events and agree to those terms with the group ahead of time.
I've shared this before, but social media is social distancing. You should look up social psychologist Jonathan Haidt.
Social distancing before it was a thing, you're right!
Shucks. That may have been an opportunity for you to go talk to that guy. Just talk nothing more.
But the problem is he's a str8 man chatting to women to try and make a connection. Women get this "angle". For example you're another guy and he nor anyone else said a word to you at lunch. Likewise nobodys spoke to me for no reason in ages
I could of course be wrong, but he seemed like the kind of guy who would make conversation with whoever was next to him. I happened to be at a booth, not at the bar, so I was isolated.
Opened youtube and got brutally mogged
Not sure what that means lol
@@KevenTalks Mogged= an individual being outshined by a much more physically attractive individual
@@somerandomguy7458 Omg 🙈 Well I'll take that as a compliment then! 🙏😅
Perhaps to combat all of this restaurants should turn off the wifi and post a note that states, "yeah, we did turn off the wifi, I guess you will have to talk to each other....you're welcome :) "
Cell Data, though.
@@edsanville true, but hopefully most will will be aware that perhaps they should just talk to each other instead of browsing through their phone.
It might surprise you to learn that I am one of 17 people left in the United States that adamantly refuses to use a cell phone. So many people have congratulated me when I tell them this. And it's so odd to objectively observe, as you did, how others are both so attached (to their cell phone) and detached (from each other).
Whoa! Impressive indeed
It's not by choice. Workplaces often require them. I tried to get rid of my smart phone to at least replace it with a flip phone or something and was unable to because I needed the two factor authentication to log into all of my accounts at work. if we could, we would. We should outlaw requirements like this. If you wanna force someone to use technology, you provide it as the employer. Don't require me to own it such that it interferes with my personal life to such an extent.
(and I'll add that I'm getting really sick of people who say things like, "well then get another job." No. Regulate businesses better. Why is it on me to accommodate businesses by sacrificing my own financial security? Fuck that shit.)
@@alligatorsarecoming78 agreed!
I think you read too much into a guy picking up his phone after a . . I it is a natural reaction and habit . It's an awkward moment. We just had fun ... now I don't know what to say
Using the phone to order food, etc, is great . Far less communication errors and customization of your order can be far more enacting than in person. Who walks into a salad quick serve and tells clerk to hold 5 items and add 4 poppy seeds and pickled onions ?
The funniest thing you said is that before the mobile devices, you had to call to pay your bills 😅. What ? Hello electric company I am calling to pay my bill. Lol 😂
Kevin the world was much better without phones in my opinion mate
I think you're the initiator.
Maybe you are picking men that you feel you need to change yourself for.
Keven it is not in your mind. This has been going on since the pandemic. It just got worse. People lack the social skills and do not know how to interact with others. I say this as a professional in higher education academics. I tell students all the time people want to interact with you. Please do not hide behind email or a web camera. I do not want to have conversation with you on a webcam. People are glued to their phones. It is because of technology, people are losing the ability to interact with others. I was driving to work the other day. I said we walk around with computers in our hands and not engaging each other. The phone is more than just a phone. People must get the ability to interact and engage others back. The social skills are indeed lacking. You said it from your experience. It was like he made you feel afterwards. It impacts us all. Technology has made life easier, but created new problems.
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I appreciate the sentiment but why do I need to have "pride" just because I'm attracted to other men?? My sexuality is not my whole life! It's not 1961 and most people (In America) are now "okay-ish" with gay people. "Pride" is now a capitalist enterprise for shrewd businessmen or a show biz opportunity for gay people looking for a stage. For corporate America it is mostly just a means to increase profits. Call me Grumpy Cat if you wish but that's how I feel.
The millenials and older are generally fine, but the Gen Z and Alpha generations have been raised in a digital environment, their parents give them iPads when they're barely walking. They stopped teaching cursive in Canada in 2006 in schools because people want to have kids to move into a digital age and hand writing will be less and less used. Now putting technology in the hands of young kids cause them to link to the technology for their development, thechnology is what they trust, not people. It also disconnects them from reality (and prevents their parents from giving them proper education and manners), and also the speed the information is transmitted on those devices causes kids to develop ADHD issues, having a conversation becomes irrelevant because it's too slow to get the information they want as opposed to their tech, so they will more and more not be into socializing. So Gen Z is only the tip of the iceberg regarding what's coming with the alphans. And brace yourself, the alphans or their kids are going to take care of you when you're very old, that's the scariest part, imagine an alphan nurse giving an elderly patient his pills, saying oh, he's always getting white pills, i gave him one and now he starts acting weird..... not knowing that white the pill they gave him is for. If parents keep putting technology in the hands of kids under the age of let's say 10-12 years old, let me tell you, it will be a total mess. And by the way, taking his phone after "fun" is not as bad as "during fun", I got one like this once, I was like Jesus, aren't you interrested in whatever I'm doing to you right now! I could write a novel about this, but in the end, I'd say, brace yourself, the best is yet to come.