Orthodox Jewish Couple Responds to Questions on Love and Intimacy

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  • čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
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    What's the one question you've always wanted to ask an Orthodox Jewish couple?
    Why keep your love life so private?
    Why such a divide between men and women?
    Why so many kids?!
    Rabbi Dovid and Chana Vigler of ‪@JewishGardens‬, Florida have a candid conversation about love, sexuality, and relationships. There are stats, advice, and most of all beauty to be learned from a Jewish marriage.
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Komentáře • 226

  • @sanyogitachavan9825
    @sanyogitachavan9825 Před rokem +125

    Although very familiar with Jewish culture, I didn’t know that observant Jewish folks didn’t shake hands. Few years ago I met an observant Jewish person and extended my hand to shake his. When told that he wouldn’t touch my hand and to not get offended, I smiled and said that I understood because in my culture we greet each other with a “namaste” 🙏🏼. I saw him again a few months later and he called out to me saying “Namaste 🙏🏼.” I thought it was so wonderful, thoughtful and respectful!

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +9

      Wow, that's a really special story. Thanks for sharing!

  • @GillyFromPhilly
    @GillyFromPhilly Před rokem +40

    I love how they look at each other. Not all googly-eyed, but full of respect.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +4

      😊😊😊

  • @sistersistera
    @sistersistera Před rokem +37

    I am not Jewish however what this couple says is so true. I enjoyed their talk so much. Thank you.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      You are so welcome! These kind of insights are universal!

  • @lilianacm
    @lilianacm Před rokem +36

    I am Christian .I also have values ,but I have found your message very,very special!
    The way you talk,the way you LOVE each other is an example for all the world👍🌏!
    Thank you very much for sharing!
    May God bless you very much🙏🙏!!!

  • @rosemary4117
    @rosemary4117 Před rokem +38

    As an Azerbaijani Muslim, I would like to say that you guys are today the subject of my prayers, may God bless you both! 👍

  • @MelissaKnoxwriter
    @MelissaKnoxwriter Před rokem +50

    Love the way they look at each other. The trust.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +3

      Trust is so important!

  • @deanedubansky6923
    @deanedubansky6923 Před rokem +65

    Now the whole world will see the beauty, the holiness, and intelligence of our incredible Rabbi and Rebbetzin. Through their examples, their teamwork, and their leadership, our Shul overflows with love, guidance, caring, learning, worship, compassion, holiness, kindness, and acceptance. Fantastic video.
    My sincere thanks and appreciation to you both.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      😊

    • @toddvoss52
      @toddvoss52 Před rokem +4

      You are very lucky to have such a Rabbi and Rebbetzin

    • @superm70
      @superm70 Před rokem +3

      Stunning I'm Christian and this is such stunning advice and a wonderful couple

  • @sistersistera
    @sistersistera Před rokem +18

    This couple gave me so much to meditate on.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      That's great to hear!

  • @DirMaverick
    @DirMaverick Před rokem +80

    Okay...let's talk about how he looks at her when she's speaking 😅😅 That's amazing.

  • @sandypeters5790
    @sandypeters5790 Před rokem +30

    I’m so happy to have heard both of you!! You are a beautiful couple, with a beautiful family and synagogue. I’m so grateful to be a part of your congregation! Arlene Parkin

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +3

      They really are! Glad you enjoyed

  • @MitchM240
    @MitchM240 Před rokem +9

    This dude has a serious way with words. well done.

  • @mslady1521
    @mslady1521 Před rokem +8

    I like when she said that if you found love once you can find it again in that same person.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Powerful point indeed.

  • @beeos_an
    @beeos_an Před 8 měsíci +2

    I'm not a Jew, but this perspective on marriage, 10 on 10.

  • @elizabethwilk9615
    @elizabethwilk9615 Před rokem +49

    As a Catholic I share the same views. Bless you both

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      Thank you so much!

  • @katipohl2431
    @katipohl2431 Před rokem +11

    Feeling great sympathy for this couple. Wise rules and life advice.

  • @miracleswillhappen3401
    @miracleswillhappen3401 Před rokem +15

    I love this so much. You both speak so well. I am a cradle Catholic and though I have never question faith I have struggled with Catholicism. I love to hear your passion and a commitment

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      So happy to hear! Glad you enjoyed, and thanks for watching!

  • @truecynic1270
    @truecynic1270 Před rokem +6

    Beautiful couple with excellent values and great understanding of humanity and the guidance humanity needs

  • @marinamayo7994
    @marinamayo7994 Před rokem +15

    I agree with everything you said regarding marriage! Thank you for this wonderfully informative discussion!

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      You are welcome :)

  • @JewGotit
    @JewGotit Před rokem +34

    that was incredible, thank you Rabbi & Rebbetzin for your Gd given wisdom, and open hearts with sharing golden nuggets with the world. May Hashem bless you and your family ad 120 and see you soon BH in Israel.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +5

      Amen! Thank you!

  • @Rosee3333
    @Rosee3333 Před rokem +3

    Thank you for sharing. 😊 I have been struggling recently and you made some beautiful points that have helped me. From my heart, thank you. 💜💜

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      You are so very welcome

  • @maisobh9390
    @maisobh9390 Před rokem +3

    The thing that we tend to forget that there's so much in common when it comes to religions....as a Muslim we commanded to believe in all religions and all prophets without distinguishing them from each other " as long as it's practiced peacefully and respectfully".....and I found so much sense in what they spoke about in terms of the scarcity of the marriage and the sexual boundaries....all the respect 🙏

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Glad you think so!

  • @StopDropAndLetGo
    @StopDropAndLetGo Před rokem +9

    I love you guys, thank you for the purity, honesty, beautiful and Godly advice and words. God bless you both 🤗🙏🏻

  • @ruslanadovhal
    @ruslanadovhal Před rokem

    I love it! Thank you for sharing this beautiful video!

  • @transformation2479
    @transformation2479 Před rokem +3

    Yes! Great conversation! More people need to be addressing these issues.

  • @paulalepadatu930
    @paulalepadatu930 Před rokem +6

    First time i hear Marriage word in Hebrew is the same as Holly, wow! I am born again Christian and I agree to what you are saying about marriage, that is what I believe. God Bless You 🙏

  • @1951kvk
    @1951kvk Před rokem +4

    I'm a traditional Roman Catholic and your way of explaining the whys is wonderful and agree.

  • @rivkahrayzltsap9316
    @rivkahrayzltsap9316 Před rokem +2

    I love this🙌🏻 And the way the answers are expressed!

  • @mosesandzippora
    @mosesandzippora Před rokem +11

    What a great example! Love love !

  • @sensationallyyours6520
    @sensationallyyours6520 Před rokem +13

    Beautiful couple with the right insights, living life, marriage and family the way it is supposed to be!

    • @KeeHart
      @KeeHart Před rokem +1

      The way it's supposed to be in your opinion, couldn't be further from what I think marriage is about, we're very equal in mine,I'm not treated just a baby carrier or just as mother,I'm treated as a woman where my opinions and wants are respected.

  • @blumberg1982
    @blumberg1982 Před rokem +4

    Shana Tovah! May we all be inscribed for good, for blessing, for health and for maasim tovim in the book of life.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Amen! Thank you!

  • @empowerme8029
    @empowerme8029 Před rokem

    Thank you so much for this! It has helped me understand our marriage better without even realizing what we were doing.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @ThatJewishFamily
    @ThatJewishFamily Před rokem +9

    Very nice! Thank you Viglers

  • @community1854
    @community1854 Před rokem

    I love what they have to say! And the end is the best part. Rabbi, leave ur wife alone 😂!! And she said what she has to say in a subtle loving way!! Anyone can imagine that! Very sweet and very spiritual and very deep!

  • @ks2994
    @ks2994 Před rokem +3

    I love this so much.

  • @michaelbass9321
    @michaelbass9321 Před rokem +4

    Excellent as always from Rabbi and Rebbetzin Vigler .
    Very insightful as we have come to expect and have experienced as relatively new congregants.
    Shana Tova...
    Michael and Brigitte B.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Shana Tova to you too!

    • @mattfreelie55
      @mattfreelie55 Před rokem

      Interesting, we share a last name!

  • @syedabdulwahidsohaily493
    @syedabdulwahidsohaily493 Před rokem +13

    Salam, 🙏🏻 Rabbi Dovid and Chana Vigler, you are absolutely Right in your interpretation of Relationship, Marriage, Orthodoxy & Observance 👍🏻👍🏻🌹and I am so Happy that it is so close to the teachings of Holy Quran/Holy Bible/Holy Torah 👍🏻which binds us so tightly close,& rightly close by the Prophet Abraham's Religions 🙏🏻God Bless Humanity across the Globe 🌎 Amen 🌹 Sohail Karachi Pakistan ❤️

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Hello 👋👋
      Thank you for sharing these words!

  • @tomsik11style
    @tomsik11style Před rokem +4

    Love your view on observance differences vs orthodoxy. We are all different and go through a growing process. But every category always tries to separate us. We are such a small group. Don’t need more division.

  • @KittyM-
    @KittyM- Před rokem +14

    What a loving couple.

  • @jeana-geniawest1187
    @jeana-geniawest1187 Před rokem +3

    I love this. Very insightful.

  • @heatherkulak8633
    @heatherkulak8633 Před rokem +1

    I loved hearing this lovely couples perspective
    Well communicated

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      So glad you appreciated!

  • @Zaxnafein
    @Zaxnafein Před rokem

    Absolute gems of Torah wisdom 🙌🏻

  • @jacquiwhitehouse2924
    @jacquiwhitehouse2924 Před rokem +3

    Hello love this video, I’m Christian & I feel really uncomfortable hugging & kissing friends I’ve never really liked it when people invaded my space. I totally understand your commitment just to your family. Since coming out of covid for me it has now put a stop to this, I missed hugging our grandsons & our daughter so to keep them safe I no longer allow people into my space.
    God bless you both & keep you safe 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @Mindy56743
    @Mindy56743 Před rokem +5

    I love this. My husband and I made the commitment many years ago and we had many problems during our marriage and had to rebuild the marriage many times. We had to fall in love many times. People don’t stay the same and find new parts of each other that we loved. Love is something that happens and you have to grow life a life plant.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      Powerful. Thanks for sharing!

  • @angelaspina8466
    @angelaspina8466 Před 10 měsíci

    Enjoyed this video immensely!

  • @eatandchat7887
    @eatandchat7887 Před rokem +4

    I loved this video. Thank you.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      You are so welcome!

  • @gloriabatel9981
    @gloriabatel9981 Před rokem

    Toda. Love your sharing and honesty.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      So nice of you

  • @hildaovalle1455
    @hildaovalle1455 Před rokem +3

    All men should have a mind and sense of humanity that this rabbi has. Is no wonder that she is in love with him. I fell in love with him as well. God bless them both. Yes, the world would be different and for the better.

  • @marcelofrmo
    @marcelofrmo Před rokem +11

    Beautiful. It made me thoughtful.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      That's great to hear, thank you for sharing!

  • @Missmewithdat
    @Missmewithdat Před rokem +1

    I would have loved to have grown up like this ☝🏼 God bless you

  • @KristaLinford
    @KristaLinford Před rokem +1

    Beautiful ideas. Thank you for sharing these healing values. I am not Jewish, but agree completely with you.

  • @seekpeaceinyalife
    @seekpeaceinyalife Před rokem +3

    This is the best way !

  • @JYO2023
    @JYO2023 Před rokem +2

    Agree thank,you

  • @golda_devarim31.6
    @golda_devarim31.6 Před rokem +8

    really enjoyed this one. thank you for your efforts!

  • @theresefournier3269
    @theresefournier3269 Před rokem +5

    Holy, sacred, set apart!💐♥️ 🔥

  • @elevateyoursoul1020
    @elevateyoursoul1020 Před rokem +7

    I love you both! ❤

  • @pvabotelho
    @pvabotelho Před rokem

    I’m Jewish and this was so wonderful and made me think and meditate about some of the subjects

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      That's awesome! Thanks for watching

  • @toddvoss52
    @toddvoss52 Před rokem +2

    Wonderful

  • @glenanleitner2606
    @glenanleitner2606 Před rokem +8

    Great bring more

    • @joanblack626
      @joanblack626 Před rokem

      a beautiful dialogue between the two of you....so proud of the two of you and feeling so fortunate and happy to be one of your congregants!

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Will do!

  • @c.m.b.7567
    @c.m.b.7567 Před rokem +38

    intimacy and sex is not seen as impure and is not taught as bad like in other religions. it is sacred and holy

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +3

      Exactly!

    • @CalmPotato
      @CalmPotato Před rokem +4

      Curious to know which other religion you are referring to. As most I know speak of the same thing.

  • @kimberley8686
    @kimberley8686 Před rokem +3

    Beautiful words 😊

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Thank you! 🙂

  • @rickv2629
    @rickv2629 Před rokem +9

    Thanks for this! Please gibe more Jewish relationship advice!

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      Will do! Stay tuned!

  • @StephenGrew
    @StephenGrew Před rokem +3

    I definitely agree. I've always felt that, too much touching, feely, feely thing going on between relative strangers.

  • @albertlugassy3610
    @albertlugassy3610 Před rokem +2

    Thanks for sharing great

  • @migdaliavasquez1874
    @migdaliavasquez1874 Před rokem +3

    That’s powerful 😊😊😊😊😊

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Glad you think so!

  • @ec7568
    @ec7568 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I'm not Jewish but I can get behind a lot of these ideas. I think a lot of people don't like the idea of living within any guidelines.

  • @cathy1944
    @cathy1944 Před rokem +1

    I think all your answers are perfect answers and really should apply to all people and all religions not just being Jewish.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      These ideas have universal relevance, and can apply to people of all backgrounds.

  • @jamescairns4051
    @jamescairns4051 Před rokem

    Hello! Lovely video thank you! Beautiful couple. ❤ שָׁלוֹם

  • @a.m204
    @a.m204 Před rokem

    So beautifully explained

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Glad you think so!

  • @monikabaranska6673
    @monikabaranska6673 Před rokem +10

    What a beautiful couple ❤, well done

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      You are so kind

  • @marthaellenconner98
    @marthaellenconner98 Před rokem +2

    Beautiful and Godly perspective on intimacy and marriage. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻💜✝️✡️

  • @helenclarke3517
    @helenclarke3517 Před rokem

    Thank you for sharing! As a non Jew formerly married to a Jewish man. I enjoyed your insight. Although not together we have an amazing grown son!

  • @pamdewall4588
    @pamdewall4588 Před rokem +34

    This is so wonderful. I want to b in a relationship like this so much😅

  • @54leonilda
    @54leonilda Před rokem +1

    Observant…great!

  • @lightwings7957
    @lightwings7957 Před rokem +2

    Ty shalom toda

  • @lisca2866
    @lisca2866 Před rokem +2

    What a beautiful couple!!

  • @angelaspina8466
    @angelaspina8466 Před 10 měsíci

    Beautiful couple! God bless you,,,God keep you!

  • @naomie793
    @naomie793 Před rokem +6

    Wow this video is just beautiful

  • @dafnapns
    @dafnapns Před rokem +1

    I'm beyond happy I've stumble upon this! Like founding a treasure. Thank you and to this beautiful couple. In G-g's will, I'll be married soon.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Please G-d! So happy you found this. Welcome to our channel!

  • @nllee7051
    @nllee7051 Před rokem

    Her hair is amazing! Ouu loving it 😍

  • @amyaias.alagoa
    @amyaias.alagoa Před rokem +10

    G-d's involvement is vital

  • @adriennefranco6227
    @adriennefranco6227 Před rokem

    I love when he says he was looking for a kind person - not a professor. Look for character not externals. Externals change, character does not.

  • @brigitte1221
    @brigitte1221 Před rokem +8

    Thank you Rabbi and Rebetzin for your wisdom. A question I would pose is, doesn't a hug or peck on the cheek of a friend show that you value them and their friendship above just another person you may know? Isn't it just a sign of affection for a dear friend without it becoming sexualized?

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      That's a great question! Perhaps this will shed some more light on the topic czcams.com/video/VinuyZb-ES8/video.html

  • @mdmommy
    @mdmommy Před rokem +1

    I love you guys thank you so much my neighbor has been trying to get me to go to your Shull for a few years now I moved from Jupiter to Stuart but I have to tell you I'm going to show up probably on sukkot. I need to meet you. very inspirationl and many things you said were things that I needed to hear it is as if God just answered my prayers this week

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      That's awesome, thanks for sharing!

  • @bidinosaur
    @bidinosaur Před rokem +3

    When making more of these videos, can you have a voice over for the questions please? It makes them more accessible for people who are blind or visually impaired. I was unable to read the questions.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      Thanks so much for the feedback!

  • @ardentabacist
    @ardentabacist Před rokem

    Yo Rabbi and Rabbi's wife, that was truly expiring and insightful and all that! I believe that what y'all was saying is the secret to happy marriage!
    Once when a young lady was axed if she "liked" a young man that she was dating and answered that she had the same love for him as any other jewish person
    the Menachem Mendel Rebbe said . . .
    “For a husband, you have to have more than basic love of a fellow Jew.” well this rabbi wife seems to have that, if you axed me.

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem

      That's such a great story and message! Thanks for sharing!

  • @ashirahelat4749
    @ashirahelat4749 Před rokem

    We change so much in the modern world that we want a spouse who can change in a similar way.

  • @westberlin4911
    @westberlin4911 Před rokem +2

  • @tudormiller887
    @tudormiller887 Před rokem

    Chanukah Sameach. Watching from London UK.

  • @mimmiblu6138
    @mimmiblu6138 Před rokem +1

    It's fascinating listening to them, because they really believe in what they say and they look very happy. But I also know that my life was very different and there are many different ways to be happy in marriage: I 've been happily married for 21 years and neither of us believe in God or verginity before marriage. And taking away physical contact with other human beings from me would be like killing me, even though I have never thought for one second that I could betray my husband. But hugging my friends of both genders in times of distress isn't certainly a sexual act, but simply an act of kindness.

  • @nancylee1625
    @nancylee1625 Před rokem

    I am a Christian woman and I completely agree with this lovely couple. It would benefit all couples to sit down with them to discuss the realities of marriage. It is all about commitment and loyalty.

  • @hilarykay1777
    @hilarykay1777 Před rokem +1

    I met this couple many years ago at their Yom Kippur service in a hotel. It was my husband’s first time making it through the service without leaving. They are something special. Truly wonderful neshamas. We’ve now become Baal tshuva, but they gave us our first good taste of true chassidus.

  • @aviaronowitz4622
    @aviaronowitz4622 Před 11 měsíci

    I don’t know if I can handle a perfect person with no flaws and never anything to have to figure out together as a team!

  • @sharonlampert7452
    @sharonlampert7452 Před rokem +3

    Beautiful Jewish Couple. Mazal Tov!

  • @davidfriend1919
    @davidfriend1919 Před rokem +1

    These guys have a great thing , this thing is the thing that everybody who is a human and not completely bent will understand and therefore the laws of jews will be understood and the same people , at least the sane people , will get it . And that is a good thing my friends .

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      Glad you think so!

    • @davidfriend1919
      @davidfriend1919 Před rokem

      @@myJLI The contrast of how man and woman explain this thing is very intriguing , surely there is wisdom even by the example of the thing that you are on topic about , man / woman , in marriage and contrast in explaining the thing , two styles that become one ... Thank you for doing these videos , it is a service that deserves thanks .

  • @maryrosed8475
    @maryrosed8475 Před rokem +5

    I must say I missed hugging my close family and friends during Covid. However, people I hardly know hugging me drives me mad!

  • @beorngolden7923
    @beorngolden7923 Před rokem

    It's time to cherish as well, our private life.

  • @pamelagonzalez46
    @pamelagonzalez46 Před rokem +1

    Amazing even if your not orthodox ! Thank you, Shalom

  • @philipluxembourg9013
    @philipluxembourg9013 Před rokem +5

    I love these two beautiful people

  • @channahcastelobranco
    @channahcastelobranco Před rokem +2

    תודה ... שנה טובה🇮🇱🌸

    • @myJLI
      @myJLI  Před rokem +1

      Shana Tova to you too!

  • @iloveyouyoulovemeify
    @iloveyouyoulovemeify Před rokem +2

    im not jewish or religious but i can tell kind ppl when i see it