How Important Is 'Me Time' In A Relationship?

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  • čas přidán 7. 05. 2018
  • Real Housewives of New York' star Countess Luan de Lesseps, says "absence makes the heart grow fonder". What do you think?
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Komentáře • 64

  • @wanatasha3234
    @wanatasha3234 Před 6 lety +163

    On Steve's point on becoming one;don't marry someone to complete you, you should be complete before you get married and then make a good " one"

    • @dw3675
      @dw3675 Před 6 lety +16

      I agree, you should build your self confidence and self worth on your own first, marriage is a great thing but if you depend solely on your partner to validate your existence then you won't have an identity for yourself

    • @JacandY
      @JacandY Před 6 lety +3

      So true!

  • @Zecexoxo14
    @Zecexoxo14 Před 6 lety +28

    Steve said my exact words. “Me time” is very important. Establish an identity and dont let it go for ANYBODY. I always depended on my boyfriend for my confidence, which caused problems. He always hyped me up and builded my esteem, but I started thinking “if we broke up what would happen?” All of it would be lost and I would have a feeling of no self worth. I told him I needed alone time to work on myself to build up my own self esteem and it worked. It actually resulted in less arguments (I would cause the arguments because of my insecurities) but since I’ve found my identity, I ain’t care about who he used to be with because I’m here to stay. And even if he did leave me, I can still be that independent person I was before. I cannot stress how important self identity is.

    • @ARaebow
      @ARaebow Před 3 lety +2

      Yah I'm slowly learning this for myself in my relationship your comment really helped me.

  • @jenbradley4728
    @jenbradley4728 Před 6 lety +23

    Totally agree with the panel here and Steve. We have to find balance between caring for our families/ spouses/ children and having time for ourselves.

  • @BelindaJoy
    @BelindaJoy Před 6 lety +19

    0:35 I so agree with this view. I also agree with Luan, you have to miss your partner. You shouldn't be so joined at the hip that you lose your individuality.

  • @DEMETRIUSblaze
    @DEMETRIUSblaze Před 6 lety +34

    People in a relationship or marriage good one and loving and stable need Alone time their space other wise you get burn out and fall outta of love

  • @mstcherie13
    @mstcherie13 Před 6 lety +13

    It's like 60 40 to me because i need more time to myself than with my other half, to be me but i still need enough time with them to. At the very beginning we were more into ourselves but that caused too much missing of each other and as time goes on you naturally wanna spend more time together.

  • @NODE1975
    @NODE1975 Před 5 lety +4

    There has to be a balance. A lot of people don't know how to balance. That lack of balance is where the conflict comes into play

  • @MrProspec
    @MrProspec Před 4 lety +9

    My girl wanted to see me 24/7... it took me a few months to be able to tell her how i felt about that... I needed some me time alone. She cried, it was roff but now I’m happy and still love her

  • @tieiatalks
    @tieiatalks Před 6 lety +14

    My husband is scheduled to be deployed 10 months this year. I’m good on my ‘me time’.

  • @monkeyloven
    @monkeyloven Před 5 lety +2

    The answer, extremely important.

  • @hlengiwezungu8152
    @hlengiwezungu8152 Před 6 lety +7

    Yep absence is thee best. This is me time ryt now watching this

  • @doncorlione1284
    @doncorlione1284 Před 6 lety

    Good one Agree

  • @zinoudehendji5148
    @zinoudehendji5148 Před 6 lety +3

    I don't speak Englishbut I see all your vidéo i love you man i wish I meet you

  • @rodneshiahughes689
    @rodneshiahughes689 Před 6 lety +9

    Alot cuz i ned my MEH TYME!! Im 1st😍😍😍😘😘😘

  • @tutia3260
    @tutia3260 Před 5 lety

    This is sooooo true! We spend too much time with my husband god

  • @ajohonly3721
    @ajohonly3721 Před 6 lety

    I remember this girl from fashion house

  • @yumyumb7297
    @yumyumb7297 Před 6 lety +22

    I'm not sure I'm ready to hear Luann's commentary on relationships yet...

    • @jayjay189
      @jayjay189 Před 6 lety +1

      YumYum Bean that's what I said too lol

    • @cutienerdgirl
      @cutienerdgirl Před 6 lety

      She's right tho. Your life is based around you because people can disappoint you.

  • @misshglady4lyfe
    @misshglady4lyfe Před 6 lety +1

    The last thing that Steve stated was exactly on point within myself because it's how I'm feeling now super lost except it's because of my relationships of 6 years that went down the drain... now if it wasn't for my kids I wouldn't know how to keep on pushing and I am going thru major depression and a sense of not knowing where I'm going in life sucks big time. But my kids keep me a bit motivated to keep pushing at least for them. but once their gone to college or w.e, idk what Imma do with myself. I'm definitely not starting over with another man.

  • @taneekasmith5782
    @taneekasmith5782 Před 5 lety +2

    I agree of mental space but no... I like being with my 👪

  • @janelleetsitty36
    @janelleetsitty36 Před 6 lety +4

    I made it me time even when my boys were little, in between little league, travel baseball/soccer, practices everyday of the week. The boys were 3 sport athletes thru high school and have since graduated HS and college just this past 2017. I devoted my all for the boys....... So, "It is SERIOUSLY, ME TIME ;*) and I haven't skipped a beat when it comes to having fun. We live once.

  • @zibbiagray147
    @zibbiagray147 Před 6 lety

    🧚🏽‍♀️To be come one 👩🏽‍💻it’s a space Girls Song👏🏽

  • @MikeThaPhilosopher
    @MikeThaPhilosopher Před 7 měsíci +1

    The issue comes when you give them alone time and they step out on you…

  • @mochamommyATX
    @mochamommyATX Před 6 lety +21

    I love when my spouse has times with his friends and sports, he comes back so happy. He likes when I do yoga/pilates he says it make me more horney😍. I think he just likes the tights

  • @eclipseshadowyt5917
    @eclipseshadowyt5917 Před 5 lety +1

    What do woman mean when they say "I need time to find myself" ? [During relationship]

  • @monkeyloven
    @monkeyloven Před 5 lety +2

    I'm raising 4 kids, don't tell me what I have to do. =P

  • @tashawilliams8093
    @tashawilliams8093 Před 5 lety +8

    Don't ever lose yourself in a relationship/marriage.

    • @eclipseshadowyt5917
      @eclipseshadowyt5917 Před 5 lety

      How do you loose yourself in a relationship?

    • @positivityz9643
      @positivityz9643 Před 3 lety +2

      @@eclipseshadowyt5917 This happens when you invest or pour your all into nurturing the relationship or your partner and not info time spent developing yourself as an individual.
      You end up giving your all to them, out of 'love' and losing yourself in the process. More often emotionally and mentality.
      Nothing is wrong with investing into a relationship, but at the same time you must always put yourself first and love yourself!

    • @eclipseshadowyt5917
      @eclipseshadowyt5917 Před 3 lety +1

      @@positivityz9643 thank you, it still a little blurr but i have a better understanding. At the moment I just wish to stay away from relationships, it’s so hurtful and I just had a gf brake up w me recently bc she said she lost herself in the relationship and I did everything to make her feel loved but it wasn’t enough.

    • @positivityz9643
      @positivityz9643 Před 3 lety

      @@eclipseshadowyt5917 sad to hear, I wish you all the best. Work on your healing and loving yourself.
      What was meant for you will always be for you!

  • @eddie5273
    @eddie5273 Před rokem

    Girl in the white smart

  • @kellmenkellmen6472
    @kellmenkellmen6472 Před 6 lety +22

    luann absence makes the heart grow fonder*. not stronger

  • @johnmshaw49
    @johnmshaw49 Před 5 lety +1

    Just like every situation it depends on the individual. Some people will require a lot of me time while others won't. It's definitely an individual thing. There is no set formula for it. Do whatever works for you and your mate in your situation.

  • @tiffanyc8307
    @tiffanyc8307 Před 6 lety +1

    I truly believe in this let me breathe and I will respect your space and do your own thing, because I don't want you to get mad if I'm out with my girls because you are bored...

  • @motivation2k12
    @motivation2k12 Před 5 lety +1

    Im probably gonna break up with my girl if she asked me for that

  • @MacP12
    @MacP12 Před 5 lety

    Who’s the one closest to Steve??

  • @carrisa5056
    @carrisa5056 Před 6 lety +12

    Who? When my kids turn 18, PEACE OUT. It's time to party baby! My husband and I will be going on more vacations. And if your a single woman becoming an empty nester OMG I can just think of all the fun I would have.

    • @gford7561
      @gford7561 Před 6 lety +1

      Carrisa Davis I,

    • @amymusa2
      @amymusa2 Před 6 lety

      I'm 18 and my dad wouldn't let me do so many things:((

    • @carrisa5056
      @carrisa5056 Před 6 lety

      Amy Musa
      Just scared for you and knows how the world is out there that's all sometimes as parents we can be extremely over protective and it is mostly fear driven lol

    • @amymusa2
      @amymusa2 Před 6 lety

      Carrisa Davis I understand that but sometimes I wish he'd at least let me have a part time job or lwt me go outside for fin he's okay with my 17 year old brother going to the military..

    • @carrisa5056
      @carrisa5056 Před 6 lety

      Amy Musa aww well are you in the USA? if so you say you are 18 you have rights. Do you have other family members who are less strict? If so, maybe you can move with them and begin to have some sort of freedom. But, I would try to convince my dad to let me have a job. He will not be able to take care of you forever. You have to learn how to take care of yourself in life and fall make mistakes and get back up and try it again. If you never experience highs and lows as a grown adult it will be hard. Are you in school?

  • @63586jonathan
    @63586jonathan Před 4 lety

    They ask stupid questions. These women and steve are not experts. If you need to ask questions like this they not ready for dating

  • @kl7693
    @kl7693 Před 5 lety

    My kids are still toddlers and I’m crying at this already like they left the house yet their still here. 😔 guilty

  • @yogaflame4128
    @yogaflame4128 Před 5 lety

    Why are the NY Housewives so damn skinny?

  • @michael50694
    @michael50694 Před 6 lety

    Anyone else thought she looked like Beyoncé in the thumbnail?

  • @nicolewhalen6760
    @nicolewhalen6760 Před 4 lety

    It’s FOUNDER not stronger