Should we stay together for the sake of the children? - Mufti Menk
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- Why remain married if the children are going to watch the worst qualities of their parents. Fighting, swearing, yelling, abusing etc. The child will grow up with those bad qualities at the back of his or her mind and may reenact that exact behaviour in marriage later.
So make a wise decision. You might want to separate for the sake of the children.
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As-Salamu Alaikum I came to islam like few weeks ago and i have started to memorize Qur'an and 99 names, i remember 10 names now and i memorized Surah Al-Fatiha💯💯💯
Allhumdulillah, Allahu akbar! Allah guides whom he will, it is a blessing.
Al Fatiha is the fifth surah sent down, but the first surah that was sent down complete (not in portions). Continue with your memorization and recitation. I love reciting from the Quran. My favorite time to recite is at night, when it is quiet. It can feel as though you are floating when you get a good rhythm. It even makes me cry sometimes.
Indeed, we have made this Quran easy in your tongue in order that they might be reminded. 44:58
read what is easy of the Quran...73:20
When you read the Quran, seek Allah’s protection from Satan the rejected one. 16:98
Read in the name of your Lord and Cherisher... 96:1
May Allah continue to guide you, and may you gain much from the treasures in the Quran. It is truly a great mercy from Allah. From Allah we come from, and to him we shall return.
@@StarsabovetheEmeraldForest thank you 🙏
@@StarsabovetheEmeraldForest may the Almighty increase you in faith. Aamiin!
@@basedfinnish1048 Mashaa Allah ❤
Masha Allah May Allah Bless you
My Mom is sick, please make dua for her. May Allah SWT bless you
May allah grant her cure.
She will be better soon inshallah
INSHAALLAH 💖
Assalamualaikum
Allah tala Aap ki Mom ko Achi healthy life de
Ameen 💖
Inshallah she gets better
Mufti u select those topics which are reality of life but few will dare to discuss May Allah the almighty strength and courage and happiness Ameen
Peace be upon U brothers and sisters.
Just in case anyone need it..
*** Once u find the Sunnah u should follow the Sunnah.
czcams.com/video/T4auGhmeBlw/video.html
Saudi Arabia Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem showing & explaining all the details of prophetic salah with mentioning the authenticity of hadith.
& here is another one
czcams.com/video/lilAvv_78gQ/video.html
*** There is no difference between male and female prayer.
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/tBa0rrE-mdI/video.html
Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/G-gz0bPdgGs/video.html
Sheikh Dr Salah's ref
czcams.com/video/Yhb9CtLwZZI/video.html
Dr Bilal Philip's ref
czcams.com/video/dyNafLmguVI/video.html
& if u can understand these points
czcams.com/video/TPKjrkUqW9s/video.html
*** Don’t fight over silly things. Let Allah be judge on the day of judgement.
Allah knows best.
U can watch Mufti Menk's advice on this.
czcams.com/video/dWX4x_nFfas/video.html
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/zHq946JI0XM/video.html
Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/_YwcF2Ve3eE/video.html
If u find it helpful then share it, so that people can improve their Salah.
If u have different perception that is totally okay, Respect everyone's view.
It’s not about who is right or who is wrong.
Let's pray to Almighty Allah so that HE guide us to straight path.
Verily that is the Only thing which matters.
😊
&
Here is the link of Quran's translation by Abdullah Yusuf Ali...
www.biharanjuman.org/Quran/quran-arabic-english-abdullah_yusuf_ali-with_commentary-pdf.html
JazakAllah Khairan brother / Sister.
Alhamdulillah
Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
My mom wanted to stay in an abusive marriage with my dad for the sake of my sister and me, but I told her to divorce him because we refuse to live in toxic atmosphere. She became ill because of stress and emotional/verbal/physical abuse in her marriage, her health was at stake, but she didn't want to separate because she was sure that people would badmouth my sister and me, that we won't be able to get married or have a normal life as children of divorced parents. I couldn't bear to see my mom struggle every day just to keep our family together, picking up the pieces of the marriage that fell apart and trying to have it under control just because of my reputation and my sister's reputation.
Children deserve to live in a healthy space and may Allah, s.w.t reward you for this video, Mufti. You really pointed out all the facts and reality of toxic marriage and families. ♡
You guys take good decision because my father also abuse my mom but she never want to leave because she always want to give good education to us and she always thinks for us but now due to dipression and stress she lost her vision this is because her nerves damage due to my dad hitting on head and every where it’s been so painful pray for her and I know she is beautiful and wonderful mom in this world she get all health issues due to severe stress now my father is not with us he is died but we always pray from him being in toxic relationship is not at all good
@@farhadshaik8566 My mom also suffers from severe depression, early dementia (and she is 43 years old!), diabetes and high blood pressure. Mental and physical abuse have fatal income... May Allah keep your mom and your family safe and may He grant her His Mercy and Reward ♡ I'll keep her in my prayers ♡
ahmed shaik Salam brother. It’s very painful to hear. But ur mom bought up u in good manners. Still u praying for ur dad. Alhamdullilla. Inshallah everything will be fine soon. Always take care of ur mum.
Pls take care of Ur mom ( all the females in the family should be protected by the males not abused!) may Allah guide us, ameen
May Allah reward your mom with Jannat al firdous for all her sacrifices Ameen 💜
My parents stayed together for the sake of myself and my siblings and let me tell you from a childs perspective this is the most toxic and unhealthy thing you could possibly do. Every day constantly arguing, fighting, swear, cursing and the list goes on, so much so to a point where I've contemplated committing suicide because I can't take it anymore. If you're in a toxic relationship with your partner PLEASE leave for your childrens sake and well being.
may allah make it easy on you, always remember Allah in case you think of doing something like that because you know its haram, may Allah bless you
and the worst thing is when they look at you and go like am stying because of u or am going thru this for u
How can you even think of ending yourself over such nonsense and what you are not in control of? Ending your own life is haram beyond repair in Islam. These kind of thoughts are very problematic and you should not even enternain it and mention it so casually like the kfar do.
It hurts to grow up in a dysfunctional family. I've tried to help them, it didn't work. The more I try the more it damages my own sanity and peace, so I've just left it upto Allah; praying is all I can do at this point.
I can relate with you sister.
May Allah give us sabr.
Me as well
Allahu Akbar...
Same here sister.. It's really very difficult to decide whether to stay together or seperate.. Allah SWT should help us all
The only reason why I stay awake till 1.00 am is to watch ur new upload and then go to bed. my last video I watch before going to bed is yours.
Peace be upon U sister.
Just in case anyone need it..
*** Once u find the Sunnah u should follow the Sunnah.
czcams.com/video/T4auGhmeBlw/video.html
Saudi Arabia Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem showing & explaining all the details of prophetic salah with mentioning the authenticity of hadith.
& here is another one
czcams.com/video/lilAvv_78gQ/video.html
*** There is no difference between male and female prayer.
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/tBa0rrE-mdI/video.html
Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/G-gz0bPdgGs/video.html
Sheikh Dr Salah's ref
czcams.com/video/Yhb9CtLwZZI/video.html
Dr Bilal Philip's ref
czcams.com/video/dyNafLmguVI/video.html
& if u can understand these points
czcams.com/video/TPKjrkUqW9s/video.html
*** Don’t fight over silly things. Let Allah be judge on the day of judgement.
Allah knows best.
U can watch Mufti Menk's advice on this.
czcams.com/video/dWX4x_nFfas/video.html
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/zHq946JI0XM/video.html
Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/_YwcF2Ve3eE/video.html
If u find it helpful then share it, so that people can improve their Salah.
If u have different perception that is totally okay, Respect everyone's view.
It’s not about who is right or who is wrong.
Let's pray to Almighty Allah so that HE guide us to straight path.
Verily that is the Only thing which matters.
😊
&
Here is the link of Quran's translation by Abdullah Yusuf Ali...
www.biharanjuman.org/Quran/quran-arabic-english-abdullah_yusuf_ali-with_commentary-pdf.html
JazakAllah Khairan Sister.
It shoul be "THE QURAN"
I hope ur getting up for fajr after staying up so late
@@aden2587 alhamdulliah, no matter what time I sleep I wake up for fair.
@@kulsums.g6402 Almighty God made the night to sleep.
U can also watch..the same vedios...after fazr salah.
Sometimes staying together can cause more harm to the child.
Exactly
I think my childhood would have been easier if my parents would just divorce. I hate see them fight day and night and say “we are together because of you”.
You r one of the biggest inspiration especially to youngsters of this generation. U guide us toward our Islam beautifully...❤❤
Gai0ahaNKala0
"Why remain married if the children are going to watch the worst qualities of their parents. Fighting, swearing, yelling, abusing etc.
So make a wise decision. You might want to separate for the sake of the children." - What a wise man Mufti Menk is mashAllah! As a child of divorce myself I agree with him! Better to come from a broken home than to live in one.
@Raunak Anwar Walaikum assalam! Yes indeed sometimes tough decisions need to be made in life
Mufti Menk speaks beautiful truth and shows the reality of life. The dislikes here are from ignorant people that have small brains
May Allah help you and grant you EASE!!
Beautifully put Imam Murrah but mist people are caught in a web of false state of respect. They worry about what society will say, lack of support they will get and the fear of coping alone. These facts if life are very real and I speak through personal experience that the Road is a very tough and lonely one that not many can carry the burden before they fall apart mentally and physically. You just need to believe in Allah and ask for his help and mercy sincerely and it will work out. For those of you that are going through a troubled time, I was divorced when my husband left us when my daughter was 4 and my son only 2 years of age fir another woman. After much hardship, I put myself through exams and found work which led to a great job to support my 2 children. They are both now studying medicine at university. Mashallah they are really balanced adults and are happy. We didn't have much but had our dignity and self respect. Hold onto that and don't worry about others
May Allah help you and grant you EASE!!
I lived in the middle of a toxic relationship my whole life to the point I wish my parents got divorced before they had me or my younger brother and sister ..or even they never met in the first place.
I believe my parents are good people by they are bad for each other, they ruined us and themselves, they ruined us all ... I'm still suffering from depression till now, and I can't move on with my life even I'm an adult, I wanna marry but I can't, marriage scares me, I keep refusing proposals, I don't even want to have children so they don't suffer because of me.
Anyway, Don't stay together while you hate each other, you will just damage your kids, Divorce is better for children.
And mufti will NEVER make a comment on this one...
easy, marry the right man, dont be afraid to divorce
@@orbitdream6374 how do I know it's the right man ?
Heal yourself first so that your children don't have to heal . I understand your situation and totally agree but I have two cute kids already and dont want them to suffer, I feel helpless too .
@@vazedashaikh6127 thank you sister for understanding, I'm working on myself, going to therapy, trying to be more positive about life and love... I still don't care to have children but if I do I wanna give them the best healthy life ever.
May Allah bless you and guide you to the right choice.
Ya Allah knows our hearts. Divorced 6months now. Hanging in there for the sake of the children is just too sad for words I hung on for 30 years. Our kids are grown. And we just said no more sadness I'm not even angry anymore just massively relieved. May Allah grant us Sabr. The kids are tougher than we think they understood why we got the divorce. They still love and respect us even more now. I have searched for words to express the whole ending to the marriage ..all I can think of was dignity so I have to say Shukr Allah. Jazakalah Mufti Menk always a word of wisdom. 💕
I struggled for 13 years that's all my married years. I have 3 kids and it was the most difficult decision to make but my older kids understood that it is better for all of us because we couldn't tolerate the toxic relationship anymore. I moved out with my kids and alhumdulillah it was the best decision I've made because I feel so peaceful and happy and so does my kids.
JazakAllahu kher Mufti, I am one of those women dying slowly in their marriage just because of the children, I think I have to take a step after listening to this😪😪😪
I'm going through the same phase, I have two kids and it's all that's stopping me from taking a step, I really want to know how it went for you. I hope everything goes well for you and everyone else struggling.
I am drifting away from islam but the only thing that is sort of keeps reminding me of Islam and doesn’t want me to leave Islam is mufti menk! I really hope I can start being the true follower of Islam again and start feeling the peace while praying and don’t feel like a hypocrite
So, you are only in Islam because he inspired you? I hope you look into yourself before it's too late buddy. If you starting doubting your faith you need to make Towba.
@@badhasa431 no s**t Sherlock
In this day and age many younger Muslims drift away from Islam so I'm not surprised but you should do something about it read Quran by meaning if possible. It might help
Why would you drift away from Islam when this religion gave women the right to work, vote, independence, study 1400 years ago. We only got that in the uk in the 1960s,70s. Racism slavery ending from Islam 1400 years ago and in the west we still have racism. Nobody said you have to a perfect Muslim because allah didn’t make us perfect at all. Allah just said be the best you can, the first thing you will be questioned is your intentions not how many times u prayed. Allah will look at your heart before anything in this world. If you care for humanity, understand the religion and u will fall in love with it and that’s when u will try and be a better person, Islam is my defence in day and age from all sorts of abuse either culture, society, family, marriage etc every step my religion defends me. That’s why I love my religion
Don’t let the devil win, u r stronger then that, ur deen is your defence keep reminding yourself no matter what happens in life there is no god but one and his last messenger is prophet Muhammad, after the prophet Jesus, Moses etc Islam is the only religion that accepts the other religions as word from Allah. I pray that Allah opens your heart so you can feel the love I do when I think of Islam. I don’t pray etc but I love this faith because my religion has the final say! It is my justice in this world.
Please pray for my children, subhanAllah they have special needs, 2 prince n princess have autism and my youngest princess has severe cerebral palsy and in wheelchair and wants to walk subhanAllah...please pray for us all and the whole ummah, may Allah grant us all jannat ul firdaus
Aameen
Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum bi rahmatika astagheeth aslih li shani kullahu wa lad takalni illa nafsi tarfataa ainin.. Sister may allah SWT bring ease in all your affairs. Aameen.
I want my kids to be like Mufti Menk, always smiling, happy, respectful and very knowledgeable and wise, very wise indeed insha'Allah that have these kinds of characteristics.
Same here In shaa Allah
I am a Hindu but I found your words eye opening. Thank you sir!!
My parents have stayed together with all of their problems throughout the years. Most of the problems I thought would come from my dad, but now I believe both of them are stuck in the past and neither of them can truly forgive the other. May Allah swt soften their hearts and keep them happy and on the right path.
1.Iman is like an aeroplan ride,the higher you go,the smaller the things on earth look.
2.A friend in Deen is a friend in need.
3.Allah has perfect timimng,never early,never late,it takes a little patience and a lot of faith.
4.It is not the knowledge which should come to you,it is you who should come to the knowledge.
5.Thinking positive is the comfort for the heart and security for the religion.
6.Be patient for what was written for you was written by greatest of writers.
7.No matter how busy you are,always remember Allah.
8.It is difficult to be patient,but to waste the rewads of patience is even worse.
9.If duniya is free from problems,Jannat would have lost it's value
10.Mistake doen't teach to make mistake,mistake teaches to correct mistakes.
11.We are servants of Allah,not the nafs.
12.Islam will win,with or without you,but without islam,you will be lost and will lose.
13.Worldy life is very short,so turn to Allah before you return to Allah.
14.Every person goes to Allah after death,but a wise person goes to Allah before death.
15.Take everyday as a chance to become better muslim.
16.Allah loves you even in your darkest hours,He forgives you even in your deepest failure
17.If your sins are countless,Allah's mercy is endless
18.The tougher the lesson,The bigger the blessings.
19.Allah makes the impossible possible.
20.So what if this life isn't perfect?It's not Jannah.
21.If you have time to worry,you have time to make Dua.
22.When someone does something that hurts you,make a promise to yourself and to Allah(SWT) that you will never do the same thing to anyone else.
23.Doctors can treat you but only Allah can heal you.
24.When things are too hard to handle,retreat and count your blessings instead.
25.Allah understands our prayer even when we can't find the words to say them.
26.Angry is sad's bodyguard.
27.Don't promise when you are happy,don't reply when you are angry,don't decide when you are sad.
28.Don't be embrrassed about who you are,Allah made you the way you are.
29.A mistake is something that you did thinking it was right but it was wrong.A sin is something that you know is wrong.
30.Sin snatch the knowledge of human,the knowledge he/she gained is forgotten.
MashaAllah, all beutiful quotes, all true. Thank you for sharing brother!
How do I send this to my dad without sending it to him 🤦♀️
create annonymus account
Make someone who doesn't have his number send it to him autonomously
Peace be upon U.
Tell one of ur cousins or some relative to send it to him.
May Allah bless u sister/brother.
Anyway, just in case anyone need it..
*** Once u find the Sunnah u should follow the Sunnah.
czcams.com/video/T4auGhmeBlw/video.html
Saudi Arabia Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem showing & explaining all the details of prophetic salah with mentioning the authenticity of hadith.
& here is another one
czcams.com/video/lilAvv_78gQ/video.html
*** There is no difference between male and female prayer.
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/tBa0rrE-mdI/video.html
Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/G-gz0bPdgGs/video.html
Sheikh Dr Salah's ref
czcams.com/video/Yhb9CtLwZZI/video.html
Dr Bilal Philip's ref
czcams.com/video/dyNafLmguVI/video.html
& if u can understand these points
czcams.com/video/TPKjrkUqW9s/video.html
*** Don’t fight over silly things. Let Allah be judge on the day of judgement.
Allah knows best.
U can watch Mufti Menk's advice on this.
czcams.com/video/dWX4x_nFfas/video.html
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/zHq946JI0XM/video.html
Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/_YwcF2Ve3eE/video.html
If u find it helpful then share it, so that people can improve their Salah.
If u have different perception that is totally okay, Respect everyone's view.
It’s not about who is right or who is wrong.
Let's pray to Almighty Allah so that HE guide us to straight path.
Verily that is the Only thing which matters.
😊
&
Here is the link of Quran's translation by Abdullah Yusuf Ali...
www.biharanjuman.org/Quran/quran-arabic-english-abdullah_yusuf_ali-with_commentary-pdf.html
JazakAllah Khairan brother / Sister.
You send to my father, i will send it to yours🤣🤣🤣
🤦😂😂😂
Usually parents (typically women) don’t want to divorce their husbands because of financial reasons. Wives are scared because they don’t have jobs, income, or savings that they can rely on. I know mothers who are scared to divorce because they have no one to pay the bills or house especially if they divorce the father. And looking for a job gets hard and challenging, especially when these mothers have no experience in the outside world
Tahira Saddiq May Allah guide you and bring happiness and peace into your life... Ameen ❤️
Which is why independence is so important
Exactly indeed.
That is why I feel like it is important for a woman to have some sort of education or working experience so it can get easier for her to get back to working if she doesn’t already work when she was married.. Work in general is something empowering to any human being, and makes them feel strong and independant. You still can be in a marriage where you help each other and do things for each other, but there is nothing wrong with also working for your own self and building that strenght for when and if something happens. Even without something happening to one partner, it is good to have that work. For your own good.
@@saraspiano2 exactly
My parents stayed together for me and my siblings sake. And We may be stable financially but we’re broken in every way that you can think of.
We’re all single, Most of us will be 30 soon but the pain gets worst as we’re getting older. No matter how much we try to heal ourselves through Islam, Quran or therapy, nothing is working. On the contrary, the knife that pierced our hearts seem to dig in deeper.
@lovekitties I am you now at age 49.it does get harder as u get older. I was a " passive Muslim" in the sence that I always made DUA but wasn't reading any of my salaah or reading quraan. There was no happiness growing up all I remembere was my dad being physically abusive towards my mum.
I learned from a very early age never to trust men and promised myself not to get married.
But to fulfill my mother's wish I accepted an arranged marriage. Because of my mental state(only known to me) I didn't feel I deserved to be happy. I use to fight with my hubby for every little thing.for some reason I wanted him to abuse me. I guess I was wanting to feel that pain my mother was going through for so long. Fortunately my hubby wasn't abusive but this went on for a few years because I didn't know how to be or live in harmony. I've never ever experienced peace of mind, bliss or happiness. I didn't think it possible. Two years ago @the age of 47 calamity hit me which forced me to go on my knees and pray. My DUA once again was answered. I haven't miss a salaah since. As I continued to better my relationship with Allah
My life bettered. The darkness n negativity in my life lifted. I could now see all the blessings that I haven't been seeing that was overshadowed by my negativity because we live in an environment like ours were pain dominates. Two years ago I went for my first umrah. from the time I stepped Into the haraam I didn't stop crying until I completed my umraah. From that moment something lifted from me. For the first time in my life (47) I felt peace... Of mind.. I felt blissful... I felt happy. And to this day it hasn't stopped for Wallahi Allah says you take one step towards me I will take 10 steps towards u.
That knife will dig deeper if u focus on the pain. Or u could use that knife to cut yourself loose and free yourself. Besides your pain focus on your blessings for if u look closely they will shine Tru. Start with your salaah ( and fulfilling each salaah for me is still a battle)
Quote
"my suffering became easier because my Allah promised me ease not once but twice"
Read Allah’s promises in Quran, insyaAllah youll find peace in heart
Same here
Ya Allah I felt that!! May Allah heal us all.
@@zaiamod1093 MashAllah sister, may Allah grant you Jannah
my parents are separate and I was always blaming them from that but now I understand a bit.may ALLAH bless you.
[Qualities That ALLAH Loves]
1. TAWBAH (Repentance)
“For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly (in repentance)” [Surah Al Baqarah2:222]
2. TAHARAH (Purification)
“Allah loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.” [Surah Al Baqarah 2:222]
3. TAQWA (Piety)
“For Allah loves the righteous (the pious).” [Surah Al Tawbah 9:4]
4. IHSAN (Goodness & Perfection)
“For Allah loves those who do good” [Surah Ali ‘Imran 3:134]
5. TAWAKKUL (Trust in Allah)
“For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him).” [Surah Ali ‘Imran 3:159]
6. ADL (Justice)
“For Allah loves those who judge in equity.” [Surah Al Ma’idah 5:42] “For Allah loves those who are fair (and just).” [Surah Al Hujurat 49:9]
7. SABR (Patience)
“And Allah Loves those who are firm and steadfast (As-Sabirin (the patient)).” [Surah Ali ‘Imran 3:146]
May Allah grant us these qualities
Aameen... 🌹🌹
Aameen
Peace be upon U brothers and sisters.
Just in case anyone need it..
*** Once u find the Sunnah u should follow the Sunnah.
czcams.com/video/T4auGhmeBlw/video.html
Saudi Arabia Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem showing & explaining all the details of prophetic salah with mentioning the authenticity of hadith.
& here is another one
czcams.com/video/lilAvv_78gQ/video.html
*** There is no difference between male and female prayer.
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/tBa0rrE-mdI/video.html
Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/G-gz0bPdgGs/video.html
Sheikh Dr Salah's ref
czcams.com/video/Yhb9CtLwZZI/video.html
Dr Bilal Philip's ref
czcams.com/video/dyNafLmguVI/video.html
& if u can understand these points
czcams.com/video/TPKjrkUqW9s/video.html
*** Don’t fight over silly things. Let Allah be judge on the day of judgement.
Allah knows best.
U can watch Mufti Menk's advice on this.
czcams.com/video/dWX4x_nFfas/video.html
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/zHq946JI0XM/video.html
Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/_YwcF2Ve3eE/video.html
If u find it helpful then share it, so that people can improve their Salah.
If u have different perception that is totally okay, Respect everyone's view.
It’s not about who is right or who is wrong.
Let's pray to Almighty Allah so that HE guide us to straight path.
Verily that is the Only thing which matters.
😊
&
Here is the link of Quran's translation by Abdullah Yusuf Ali...
www.biharanjuman.org/Quran/quran-arabic-english-abdullah_yusuf_ali-with_commentary-pdf.html
JazakAllah Khairan brother / Sister.
@Loqmane Nasar Walaikum Assalam... WA Rehmatullahi Wa Barkaatu... 🌹🌹🙂🙂
Honestly sometimes you don’t need to stay in a broken marriage, my parents have been together for a long time but most of the times they were always fighting and unfortunately I have recently realised that it has come to affect me especially in my teen years. Luckily I fount this channel and it’s so relieving to get advice from a scholar who doesn’t shame but rather reminds people they are humans, mistakes are ok and it’s never too late to repent. I’m waking up to everyday trying to be a better Muslim, May Allah guide us all Ameen and I’m praying for anyone out there who is going through a conflict, inshallah you will get through it 🥰
Yes ,I'm in abusive marriage of 15 years.. I have 2children..14 n 13year....my husband has seen his parents fighting throughout his life....n all his brothers doing the same with their wives....my husband said talaak many times n now he deny n says I never said talaak.....now my in laws are forbidding me from taking khulaa...saying your parents' financial condition is bad....you will be burden on your brother..... because of his physical and mental abuse ...I'm taking depression medicine....I'm suffering from fibromyalgia (caused due to stress)..i experience lower backpain and headache...I take 3antidepressant n painkiller a day .... cannot go for work outside...so I have to rely on my brother.... there's no financial support services in India for divorcee....but I would happy to see my son giving respect to his wife n my daughter giving respect to her husband in the future....it is very difficult situation especially in India.... because society doesn't like divorcee.... whenever I discuss with anyone to end this marriage....people are asking me who will marry your daughter, thinking mother could not continue her marriage,sure daughter would be lacking endurance.... please Allah give me sabr...I'm 36 years old... suffering from chronic illness due to stress... please pray for me
May Allah help you
May Allah give you sabra my sister
Reading till the Talak part I had already guessed you are from India.
Your society is sick sister,ask you brother to talk to your husband,he must to give you respect as human being and wife,otherwise find a “stronger solution” however don’t let such vampire drain you until the death.May Allah guide you!
May Allah give you guidance,honestly my parents got divorced like this, but kids are tougher than you think. And you dont want them to learn to think a husband that treats you like that is normal!
Im very much related on this topic and I think allah has directed me to watch this video. Alhamdulillah. Now, I should not be hesitant anymore from divorcing from my unloving irresponsible husband. I want to give my innocent daughter the life of positivity😢❤
May Allah make it easy for you, Ameen 🤲🏾🤲🏾
How are things now madzrie?
I hope you're doing well
This is my situation my parents dont get along and still together for us but they dont know that we suffer because of the toxic behaviour that we live in thank you for the video your words are always good to hear
Pls, im begging you guys to pray for my mom, she's sick and need prayer.. May Allah, give her more life to live, ya Allah, im begging you for her life,, please i love her very much..
May Allah grant her speedy recovery Ami
May Allah give her long healthy life and fast recovery ameen
I live in an environment like this where my parents constantly fight a lot and other days they stay silent at each other for a long time. Almost got a divorce because one of my parents starts to love someone else but they didn't separate because of us. I know marriage will never be perfect and alhamdulillah at least my parents love me... I am grateful for that . But they should resolve it just like what Mufti said is true. Usually a child growing up in this environment will start doubting and be cynical when marriage is brought up. They'll get the wrong idea. Honestly it is worse when parents don't divorce just for the sake of their children. What is the point of a married couple together when they don't have love for each other?
I love u Mufti Menk for the sake of Allah .
I really wanna travel to Zimbabwe just to give u a hug 🤗.
I just want to thank you Mufti for choosing such a sensitive topic. I know many couples around me that live a miserable married lives, but elderly and people of my parent's age are still against divorce for the sake of the children. And what angers me the most is when the couple divorce, they end up blaming the woman for not holding into their relationship and not having enough Sabr, even though she was physically abused.
@@ebrahimi44 We are not talking about simple conflits. As Mufti said, they first have to give a chance to each others but when the problems persist and the situation becomes unbearable it is better to divorce. Children will feel the tension between their parents constantly.
not only physically sometimes mentally, emotionally and psychologically abused
@@som1 ask for khulaa
@@som1 if he's moving on so should you, turn to Allah. Make duwa for strength, courage and independence from you depression. May Allah support you through this insha allah
so make decisions best for yourself and your kids. everybody elses opinions can take a hike
I couldn't agree more. I grew up in a broken home and my parents were always fighting. It damaged my siblings and myself and traumatized us even after growing up. We were infacr happier when they separated. It was a better decision even after the damage was already done. Alhamdulillah anyway
You just hit the right cord always! I am so happy and blessed that we have good decent people who actually have wisdom like you among us. I see so many people suffering in marriage and they are given advice to tolerate because of the children. Mostly it's the wife who suffers because she is dependent. Nobody understand s or addresses these issues like you do. I was listening to your words and these are words as if coming from my heart. Almost word for word what I have said and believed but nobody understood, Nobody until now! At least one person is there who understands! We need more ulema like you so that our husband and parents also understand this!.
These lectures are SOOOO HELPFUL!!! I learn soo much every time I listen. Thank you so much, I am so grateful.
I've seen people that are miserable unhappy and hate each other for years. Their families are dysfunctional, always fighting, and the kids are depressed and lost. I'm talking about my parents generation that are old school, tough and from a different world (back home of course). But now that I am married myself I wonder what is the point of staying in a marriage just to stay, when you both hate life, each other and are unhappy. I don't see the benefit to the children in that situation.
Masha ALLAH nice recitation and thank you soooooooo much for a lot of good news dear Mufti. May ALLAH SWT bless you and your family
My mentor, my celebrity Mufti Menk. Covering each and every single of the problem people are facing Masha'Allah.
My Allah grant us ease. 🌹
Peace be upon U sister / brother.
Ameen.
Anyway, just in case anyone need it...
*** Once u find the Sunnah u should follow the Sunnah.
czcams.com/video/T4auGhmeBlw/video.html
Saudi Arabia Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem showing & explaining all the details of prophetic salah with mentioning the authenticity of hadith.
& here is another one
czcams.com/video/lilAvv_78gQ/video.html
*** There is no difference between male and female prayer.
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/tBa0rrE-mdI/video.html
Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/G-gz0bPdgGs/video.html
Sheikh Dr Salah's ref
czcams.com/video/Yhb9CtLwZZI/video.html
Dr Bilal Philip's ref
czcams.com/video/dyNafLmguVI/video.html
& if u can understand these points
czcams.com/video/TPKjrkUqW9s/video.html
*** Don’t fight over silly things. Let Allah be judge on the day of judgement.
Allah knows best.
U can watch Mufti Menk's advice on this.
czcams.com/video/dWX4x_nFfas/video.html
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/zHq946JI0XM/video.html
Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/_YwcF2Ve3eE/video.html
If u find it helpful then share it, so that people can improve their Salah.
If u have different perception that is totally okay, Respect everyone's view.
It’s not about who is right or who is wrong.
Let's pray to Almighty Allah so that HE guide us to straight path.
Verily that is the Only thing which matters.
😊
&
Here is the link of Quran's translation by Abdullah Yusuf Ali...
www.biharanjuman.org/Quran/quran-arabic-english-abdullah_yusuf_ali-with_commentary-pdf.html
JazakAllah Khairan brother / Sister.
Alhamdulillah, This video just came in my list when I actually in need of it.
Masha Allah awesome message from our beloved Mufti Menk BarakAllah feeq
I'm going through So.much of depression stress right now. I don't know what to do but listen to you all the time. I wish I can talk to you personally. ❤
Masha Allah. Thanks for keeping us informed. may Allah bless you
omgg u always answer the questions that r in my mind may Allah bless you.... jazakallahi khairrr❤❤
jazakhAllah for bringing up topics like these!! it really needs to be heard
Masha Allah this really answerd alot of questions in my head. Thank you brother
This was exactly my predicament a year ago in the end we divorced and now we live very different lives full of peace and happiness Alhamdulillah 3ala kulli 7aal
Thank you, Mufti. I am looking for an answer to my problem, seeing this makes me feel like it's the answer to my prayer. May Allah SWT bless us all.
Thank you very much, my attitude has changed over so many things when i started listening and watching your videos. Jazakallahu khairan.
May Allah bless you and your amazing knowledge. I recently subscribed and listening your preaching make me more close and love my deen Islam more. You merge the practical issues with your Islamic wisdom so beautifully and provide the solution that people really need ... jazak Allah ul khair may Almighty Allah 🙏 bless you always... ameen
LOOK Into each others EYE's for 4 minutes. Silent without talking. IF you don't fall back in love. You where never in love in the first place. MAKE IT WORK! You took a contract with someone to love them regardless. Get Counseling to be a better human. Learn your trigger. Don't get Mad at your wife!! Treat her with kindness. May Allah Show you a better way :)
I can relate! If a relationship harms your mental health and especially your Iman you have to set boundaries. People often let things slide for the sake of peace but exactly this action may be the most harmful decision for everyone.
Jazakumullah khairan
Very powerful advice MashaAllah
Salam. Thanks for this post. I have been looking for this answer since many years. May Allah keep you in best health.
the thumbnails keep on getting better still because they are trimmed every Friday 🤣🤣🤣
Peace be upon U brothers and sisters.
Just in case anyone need it..
*** Once u find the Sunnah u should follow the Sunnah.
czcams.com/video/T4auGhmeBlw/video.html
Saudi Arabia Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem showing & explaining all the details of prophetic salah with mentioning the authenticity of hadith.
& here is another one
czcams.com/video/lilAvv_78gQ/video.html
*** There is no difference between male and female prayer.
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/tBa0rrE-mdI/video.html
Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/G-gz0bPdgGs/video.html
Sheikh Dr Salah's ref
czcams.com/video/Yhb9CtLwZZI/video.html
Dr Bilal Philip's ref
czcams.com/video/dyNafLmguVI/video.html
& if u can understand these points
czcams.com/video/TPKjrkUqW9s/video.html
*** Don’t fight over silly things. Let Allah be judge on the day of judgement.
Allah knows best.
U can watch Mufti Menk's advice on this.
czcams.com/video/dWX4x_nFfas/video.html
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/zHq946JI0XM/video.html
Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/_YwcF2Ve3eE/video.html
If u find it helpful then share it, so that people can improve their Salah.
If u have different perception that is totally okay, Respect everyone's view.
It’s not about who is right or who is wrong.
Let's pray to Almighty Allah so that HE guide us to straight path.
Verily that is the Only thing which matters.
😊
&
Here is the link of Quran's translation by Abdullah Yusuf Ali...
www.biharanjuman.org/Quran/quran-arabic-english-abdullah_yusuf_ali-with_commentary-pdf.html
JazakAllah Khairan brother / Sister.
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@@jeniferjohnson374 the picture of the video
hi thank you!
Relations with single parents and children can also become toxic because the sole parent in whose care the child is in will vent their anger on the children now that they are separated from their spouse. Before the children were safe because the parents were arguing between themselves. Now you may have a situation where resentment is directed at the child. Separation is necessary if the spouses cannot live together anymore but separating for the sake of the children is not ideal either.
Subhan Allah ,I really needed to hear this, may Allah SWT reward you for your wise words🙏
Assalamualaikum mufti menk... jazakallahi khairrr for these heart touching bayans may Allah strengthen and guide and forgive us❤
All this time I always asked myself if I have done the right thing. Haunted by the feeling of guilt for leaving my child since I couldn't bear it no more living in a hell in this world for 5 years. Jazakallah, Mufti. You give me the answers.
you left your child???
Alhumdulillah Mufti... may your wise words reach those that need it. Because we have so many parents that don't understand the damage they are doing to their kids by staying together.
amazing advice I am so thankful to have found this video on my page الحمد لله
Jazakallahi khair.....for ur beautiful advice and guidance may Allah bless you
I am a recently reverted to islam. I really apreciatte your videos to learn about different aspects of islam. Like a european woman i have to say that i never found the same freedom and respect than the islam gives me in the false "freedom" of european culture try to show. Thanks for your videos🙂
Try Afghanistan, you will experience the true freedom you deserve. And don't come back. Europeans don't like renegades.
@@marcoprolo2299 Europe is not your backyard...
@@wokesheep Really? What make you say that?
MashAllah sister, I hope you're doing great. And please ignore the haters. They will attack you no matter what.
Thanks for teaching us May Allah SWT bless us
MashaAllah Allahumma Barik. I learn alot from you. May Allah reward you for sharing these advice. May Allah bless you Shiekh.
Very correct. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge. People need realistic advice like this.
Please pray for me, my heart is getting sick. I don't want to leave till my good deeds overwhelm my bad ones.
You are so right my parents stayed together bcs of us 5 children and we grew up seing them unhappy and yelling at each other no love no respect, we grow up mentally sick and hurt espicially me bcs iam the unique girl, I wish my parents got divorce and each of them lived happy in his own way.
Thank you!! For your precious advice. May Allah grant you the best of both 🌎 worlds.
Jazzakulla kheir for sharing...
May Allah guide us all
Mashallah. I was personally looking for the answer to this particular question for 10 years now. I’m so glad you answered this question not just for me but for many who are in this particular situation. May Allah forgive us and guide us to take the right path. May Allah bless you Mufti Sahab.
Assalamu alaykum. Hope you're good ln shaa Allah. Akhi, it's Ma shaa Allah. I didn't know, myself b4.
Surah Kahf, Verse 39.
Rani b. Waalekum Assalam. Thank you for the correction sister🙂
May Allah bless me the spouse nd children who will be the coolness of me Ameen
Beautifully explained, JazakaAllah mufti sahb
MashaAllah, thank you very much for sharing this with us, it means a lot
Well explained! My husband and I never argue in front of the kids. We just talk it out afterwards.
MarshaAllah
I actually quit Christianity a couple of years ago, and I'm religionless. This guy makes me wanna convert to Islam. Damn.
Thank you for this guidance I was always worried about this and your words are good guidelines for me to follow.
My favorite scholar. Ma sha Allah
My husband is in to adultery and I don't want my daughter to see him
Doing sins
I just want to give my daughter a good upbringing
We both are in the process of separation
May Allah SWT guide us and I know Allah SWT has written beautiful things for me and my daughter
I don't want my daughter to go through emotional torture physical torture and mental torture
I know my Allah SWT has written something beautiful for me and my daughter
DUE TO A FEW MISUNDERSTANDING MY WIFE WITH OUR CHILDREN IS STAYING AWAY, I WISH SHE COME BACK & UNDERSTAND THE THINGS & OUR RELATION DOSENT LEAD TO DIVORCE AS I HAVE TRIE EVERY POSSIBLE WAY TO GET THEM BACK... JUST PRAY FOR MY BETTER FUTURE IN MARRIAGE
Inshallah everything is fine brother, I have no right to comment on your situation but before looking anywhere else, sit down and reflect about yourself and try to see what she is seeing from her perspective and perhaps draw a better conclusion, inshallah you guys come back together and live happy!
Peace be upon U brother.
Just in case anyone need it..
*** Once u find the Sunnah u should follow the Sunnah.
czcams.com/video/T4auGhmeBlw/video.html
Saudi Arabia Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem showing & explaining all the details of prophetic salah with mentioning the authenticity of hadith.
& here is another one
czcams.com/video/lilAvv_78gQ/video.html
*** There is no difference between male and female prayer.
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/tBa0rrE-mdI/video.html
Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/G-gz0bPdgGs/video.html
Sheikh Dr Salah's ref
czcams.com/video/Yhb9CtLwZZI/video.html
Dr Bilal Philip's ref
czcams.com/video/dyNafLmguVI/video.html
& if u can understand these points
czcams.com/video/TPKjrkUqW9s/video.html
*** Don’t fight over silly things. Let Allah be judge on the day of judgement.
Allah knows best.
U can watch Mufti Menk's advice on this.
czcams.com/video/dWX4x_nFfas/video.html
Dr Jakir Nayak's ref
czcams.com/video/zHq946JI0XM/video.html
Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem's ref
czcams.com/video/_YwcF2Ve3eE/video.html
If u find it helpful then share it, so that people can improve their Salah.
If u have different perception that is totally okay, Respect everyone's view.
It’s not about who is right or who is wrong.
Let's pray to Almighty Allah so that HE guide us to straight path.
Verily that is the Only thing which matters.
😊
&
Here is the link of Quran's translation by Abdullah Yusuf Ali...
www.biharanjuman.org/Quran/quran-arabic-english-abdullah_yusuf_ali-with_commentary-pdf.html
JazakAllah Khairan brother / Sister.
Do not divorce just from what people / relative say . Find peace and talk to her face to face in a kind and compassionate manner . Give her the best version of you . Make solid changes for the better .
Do not let others interfere in your life .
Praying for unity between all good husbands and wives .
@legionary anti-illuminati no bro she hasn't ditched me...it's just we have a few differences between us... & I knw of she & her family handles the situation in a mature way, then In Sha Allah... Things will get sort out
@Valerie Reynolds she has broke all means of contact with me as if for now...so not possible
Barakallahu fiikum sheikh Mufti Menk. Good topic. May Allah easy for us such situations.
You bang on the spot. May Allah have mercy upon us and grant us good understanding. Shukran.
To help prevent and avoid such situations, live your life for the sake of Allah and try to choose a person with moral character. Differences, and harsh times will arise, seek Allah's help, remember the good times, and read surat al baqarah. This will help soften the hearts of both spouses insha Allah, and what seems big will become small.
Love from Bangladesh ❤️
Mashallah! Thank you for helping me find Islam :)
Amen you are so good I love how you explain every topic very clearly
Alhamdulillah, I am fortunate that Allah SWT didn't grant me children in my 1st marriage, as things didn't work out. I now have 3 grown up children from my second marriage and they are definitely a blessing from Allah. Alhamdulillah. Jazakumullahu khairun Respected Sheikh Mufti Menk for your advice... May Allah bless you and your family, Aameen 🤲
I was a victim to this scenario more than once in my life, and Mufti Menk is 100% correct. Although it may hurt to not have both parents under the same roof, it is 1000% worse to witness the neverending arguing, swearing, abuse, etc. He is absolutely correct on the long term effects of such an environment on the children.
Thank you so much. My Allah grant you djanah. Thank you for being so wise and having a beautiful heart.
Jazak Allah khairan
Mufti menk
For sharing your thoughts
My parents fight every day. I think its bad for me to want them to break up? Because I am mentally exhausted, my younger brother is ruined
Subhanallah! I know a man who is so dominant in his marriage that it’s affecting his kids. It’s all he inherited from his dad
May Allah help us all and give us warm hearts Aameen Ya Allah 🤲🏼
Alakumsalam another great video.
Assalamu alaikum sheikh,
Looking at comments it feels sad many people going through such sadness, but i feel you are promoting divorcee and many of your videos. May Allah guide us all.
Shukran Sir Menk you are a blessing. ..today my Day for my tears. .😭😭😭😭
Are u OK dear sister in Islam!???
@@Allahisadicksuckingmosquito Salam. .i am ok. .i was decided to cry today. ..cry is good. ..
And you? ? As well? ?
@@samsardar Oo... Yes crying is good sometimes it purifies our heart and soul and makes us closer to Allah.
I m good too :)))
@@samsardar waleikumasalam ♥
@@Allahisadicksuckingmosquito 😙
It’s true that the your parents relationship affects your mentality and expectations about marriage or your future spouse. I never grew up with parents who had affection for each other especially my dad. It has affected my reality and I believe that marriages are typically like that. No affection no love and it’s just two humans making a family staying together. I hope Allah blesses with me a better spouse InshaAllah
You have always been an eye opener. Mashallah Tabarakallah.
Beautifully explained.
God bless you