Mom Shamed Me at My Pregnancy Party, So I Exposed Her Ab*se From My Childhood, Now My Whole...
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- Mom Shamed Me at My Pregnancy Party, So I Exposed Her Ab*se From My Childhood, Now My Whole Family Has Turned Against Me & I've Cut Ties With My Toxic Parents Off for Good. Hi everyone.
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Dad aint no saint. Man didnt notice his child being starved until she fainted from it, and STAYED with the woman who caused it?? Insane. He only started to care because it began to effect his image too.
The fact that he "stayed" with her, I believe, is cause he would have had to split custody with her, and after that incident, he saw himself as her Jailer and that he had to watch her like a hawk so she would abuse her kids further, I've been in situations like this
him not noticing may have been from the fact he may have been working himself to death so the family had money, which I also do cause I work 75 hours a week cause I have an extreme and irrational fear of being broke and believe that's all I'm good for
Right, right and right again. If it was just the wife who was affected by this you know good and damn well he would have a whole other tune.
@@WTC-1990 the hell there would be a custody battle, I don’t think any court would award custody to someone who starved their child until they had to be hospitalized. OP was also in high school, so she’d have a lot of say about which parent she chose to stay with. The dad was just a spineless loser who’s more concerned with maintaining the status quo than the well-being of his daughter
Exactly he’s only staying with her because he don’t want to pay alimony and split half of his earning money to his wife. He only cares about the money that never changed and the mom onlycared about her image. she was never going to have a lovely family as she thought. but she’s creating a better family. but where is the rest of the family like where’s the cousins where the grandparents why they not saving her?
@@fatoumatadanso1516 What kind of court would grant alimony to a sociopathic mother who abuses her kid?
The mom fucked around and found out. That’s her fault. The dad is trash as well for even thinking those joke were ok. The mom should have been arrested
Or sued
We all know that Dad covered for Mom at the hospital when OP collapsed. During that time OP was too scared to tell the doctor. The doctor/hospital should have pushed it. Had the cops do a report. A good cop might have gotten OP to open up.
Jokes from the abuser like that are never jokes and in any other circumstance is also unacceptable."hey remember when I used to physically abuse you loolll" why yes yes I do, thats why im traumatized.
The father isn’t a saint either, he should’ve realized his wife was abusing their child.
Why do you think Abusers tend to get away with it cause Abusers are good at hiding it and keeping victims in line
@@WTC-1990 no its because daddy cared more about getting laid than he cared for his kid
Ok this may be my own opinion but OP does owe her a bit of a apology but the mother is still in the wrong for doing that too
Mother was an abuser, Dad was an abuser (neglect is abuse and he neglected tf out of his daughter) poor OP, I'm glad her husband is on her side, I hope that she, him and their future child(ren) leave happily for the rest of their lives 💖🩷
It’s crazy if the mother didn’t want that kinda heat then she could’ve shut her mouth
PERIOD.....!!!! folks need to learn to stop writing checks they can't cash!
The dad didn't really think of what was happening with her daughter back when she was just a teen, until she had to be sent to the ER. I feel bad for this girl, the mother should've been arrested for trying to starve her own child, just for some model dreams.
And obviously like any little kid I was scared of my mother. Man this hurt, kids shouldn't be afraid of their parents
I’m honestly surprised that OP kept contact until the party.
I think some people tend to misunderstand what an apology is supposed to be. An apology is not just an admission of wrongdoing, but it's also a promise not to do it again. OP's mother repeatedly breaks that promise, so her apology means nothing. You owe her nothing.
if "bygones are bygones" her mother shouldn't be bringing up past wounds while knowing how much it took for her to recover from them
I'm so glad OP's child will never have OP's mother in their life
The father said that the OP had forgiven her mother in therapy. So she had no reason to have an outburst. But by that logic, the mom should have also quit his BS in therapy too. He basically said the mom can do as she pleases without repercussions. The mom was never going to change, she did the right thing.
Oh yeah, that mother probably just resents OP for the fact that she couldn’t get into modeling and since she couldn’t live vicariously through OP she had to bring her self-esteem and worth down because she didn’t have a way to be in the modeling world, even if it was through the daughter.that mom will never change and still have a temper tantrum whenever you call her out so maybe it’s good that she cut out the family
@@silverblaze46 dad probably also hated the extra expense of a child
The father was neglectful, but the mother should be locked up absolutely The fact there are so many toxic mothers in these stories is so very disturbing, and a indicative of the reality that toxic mothers can be as bad (and quite often worse) than toxic fathers. That doesn't make what the father did okay, rather the mother is obviously the most toxic of the two... and them sleeping in separate rooms tells me that there would be a real mess if they divorced.
Past apologies dont have coverage for current actions. If she was truely sorry, she wouldn't still be obsessing about OP'S appearance. NTA, if she is going to act like that you dont need her in your life.
So basically EVERYONE in your childhood were assholes... there were red flags the school would and should have seen that they ignored, your friends and their parents knew but they ignored it too, and no matter what your dad did afterwards, he allowed you to to starve (my dad worked 18 hr days 6 days a week and he still noticed when things were wrong in the home, there is no excuse to not notice your own child being starved!!!)
To be fair I reported the abuse at home to my teachers and they just brushed me off even though I was visibly loosing weight fast and couldn’t breathe without using an inhaler every half hour.
Abuse makes people uncomfortable and no one wants to be involved. It’s too much trouble for them. People always talk about it on the internet like they would whip out a red cape and save kids like OP or myself but you wouldn’t. Sorry it’s true.
It’s easy to talk but not easy to do. I’m not saying this because I’m angry. It’s just the truth sadly.
@@BrightElk I HAVE done that actually... so unless ypu KNOW me you don't get to come onto the internet and claim what I would or wouldn't do for someone else!!!
@@izzywolflover and those are bad teachers who neglected and abused you... that isn't fair, that is ignoring the VERY clear signs of abuse and neglect
@@BrightElk also... it isn't actually very hard to step up for someone... it just shows how weak of a person you are to support that it is okay to ignore and neglect abused children
I can give the dad points for listening to and believing his daughter and then making sure he was a better dad in the process
I mean he's coming out better because we are comparing him to the nightmare of a mother but he was far off from being a 'Dad'
He did the absolute minimum for her, and that's about it. Unfortunate, but that's just how he is
The only reason he did was to save face, not because he truly cared, he would always chose the abusive wife over his kid
The points don’t matter, why do people always defend the dads for letting their wife be toxic to their kids while barely doing anything about it?
"Better dad." Sorry but to me , he's literally doing the BAREMINUM though 😭
The fact that OP's "dad" chose to turn a blind eye for years (17:05) and had the audacity to call OP's truama "senstive" when she was literally *straved.*
And the fact that the dad *knew* about this *because OP HAD TOLD HIM* yet he chose to *say OP* were the one being sensitive for literally standing up to herself and *defending* the "Mom"'s abusive action.
4:41-4:48 The fact that this really showed *OP DAD* is a workaholic who chooses to work as his first priority instead of his own family.
4:57, this statement from the OP. The *Dad* knew something was off about OP's health, yet the *Dad* chose to say *NOTHING* until the day OP fainted and was in the ER.
5:03 - 5:21 : The doctor announces that OP is getting starved in front of the mom and the *DAD.*
5:31: OP finally told the dad the truth about the struggle she went through and admits it was the mother who had strayed her. (This!!! This should be the very first sign of the *biggest* red flag of getting divorced. *But yet, the "DAD" did NONE of that.* )
9:01 : *OP'S Dad* still *CHOOSE* to *STAY with the wife* and not get divorced despite FINDING OUT the abuse the mom put OP through.
10:54 : Instead of the parents acting like an ADULT , like they SHOULD and doing what's best for the traumatized OP by KICKING THE MOTHER OUT OF THE HOUSE, these two "parents" decided to still *stay together , ACT LIKE CHILDREN , give silent treatment, and force OP into an uncomfortable and tense situation to the point where OP HAD TO BE THE ADULT between them to offer counseling.*
17:44 This sentence is literally *OP's "dad"* exposing himself as someone who would *NOT PROTECT OP.* And he exposed himself, saying that he only wanted to *"save faces."*
That means instead of standing up for the OP like a real father would to protect their own daughter from harmful threats, the *Dad wanted the OP to act as a "little nice decoration" for the guests and wanted the OP to act like the trauma she had endured from a young age was "nothing."?*
*Especially* the fact that the dad was beside them when the "mom" literally continued being openly disrespectful towards the OP in front of *Everyone.*
And yet what did the *OP's DAD* do ? That's right , he did *NOTHING* to stop the "mom" from talking sh*t about the *OP.*
But when the *OP* chose NOT to be silent anymore and stood up for herself, somehow *the "dad"* chose to *intervene* when she DID?
It really seems the *DAD* only wanted OP to not stand up for herself, so he could continue to put on an act of playing "little happy family" in front of others and then go back to "work" and do whatever he was doing and act like OP isn't being abused by the mom.
It sounds like the "dad" just wants to get away from the mess and doesn't want to take responsibility for his own actions of doing *nothing*, but he also DOESN'T want other people to know that he is a *DEADBEAT DAD* for ignoring the fact OP is *being abused and straved by HIS OWN WIFE* and choosing to be silent and continue to *stay* with the abusive wife for *YEARS* after the fact he *KNEW* what his wife had done but yet he chose to defend her, but the fact he *doesn't* defend his own daughter from the wife's action and verbal abused when the dad literally *knows* about the fact his own wife had been straving OP and bodyshamed OP for *years*, because OP herself had stated she had broken down and told him everything before in 5:25 , the part where OP litreally fainted due to starvation in school.
Absolutely disgusting.
His statement proves that he doesn't care that OP is being abused by his wife, because if he really did care, then he wouldn't give a damn about his little "image" being "ruined" and would stand up for OP and protect OP for all causes and just straight up divorce the "wife", but he didn't.
This is right here: 17:44. It really showed how the dad doesn't care about OP, who's his own daughter, being hurt and abused at all.
So , to me, it seems like he's a deadbeat sperm donor.
WTF is wrong with that birth giver?!? She is so freakin terrible!
Dad's a shitbag for being so disconnected from his daughter that he doesn't notice she's two steps from being death camp survivor skinny.
Took OP long enough to go NC
Glad the dad FINALLY noticed and did something about it. Do I think he should divorce her? Not my place to say, but as a father who loves his daughter to 💀i would've left
I'd write out your childhood for your POV with dates and quotes and send it to the dad.
Id point out that everyone should feel accountable for their role in the relationship, the bad and the good. The difference in being apologetic and being sorry is penance. OP has shown grace (showing mercy to people who don't seem to deserve it) to the mom.
Either the dad is trying to even the "playing feild" and trying to re-establish a "normal family dynamic," or he is playing jenga (he poked around, found OP to put up the least resistance and now is committed)
dad didnt care.
i have no business being this early
but jokes aside only finished a bit of the video but that is enough to speak volumes about OP's mom!! pretty sure that's abuse, she should've sued, and dad is no better, choosing to stay with such a toxic woman even after she abused his own child!! yea no respect for either of them
NAHHH
@@gaming-menace1 what do u mean? is that not abuse?
I understand the first part but you pissed me the fuck off when your dumbass said sue.
The abuse was a long time before the party, and because OP forgave them back then, I doubt she'd have any grounds to sue now.
@@DarkEinherjar yea I wish she never forgave them, I REALLY wish she didn't forgive abuse
Good thing they only had one child to disappoint eh?
yo i have no business being so early
but yea op is obviously in the right here every action has consequences wheater it comes today,tomorrow 5 months later,on your graduation,during your wedding,during your divorce,during a car accident or during a pregnancy party like in this situation nobody gets away with thier actions.its either long term or short term
Oh god that, women you call a mother corrupted ops father...
Im just waiting for the inevitable update when the parents come back out of the woodwork after the baby is born and try to "reconcile" with her when they realize if this continues that they'll never see their grandchild
Congratulations on your pregnancy
I'm actually quite happy that Mom started her crap at the party. OP Finally cut loose. Went off with both barrels. Had none of that happened, Mom would have started her crap on OP's kid. She won't have the chance now. OP's hubby is going to have to keep an eye on her. Eventually, she's going to start feeling guilty. Thinking that since Mom and Dad have missed so much of her kids life, they'll be willing to behave. Or that because of the disconnect, they've changed.
OP NTA; OP's mom was forgiven if the behavior was left in the past, OP's mom kept bringing it up. Honestly, surprised the hospital didnt get CPS involved.
Teachers are mandatory reporters and malnutrition is a classic sign of neglect.
Talk about ??? He laid down the law and put her in her place, i believe he actually destroyed her in the fight
First story where your nta, BUT at the same time yata
shitty people should ALWAYS be called out, even if it makes people uncomfortable
3/4s is back story ugh gank me. 14:26 is where the title part starts.
Backstory is really important for this story
very surprised the mother didn't go to jail for *multiple years of child abuse*
side note: the AUDACITY op's father had when saying they're the reason nobody wants to talk to their mother. when here, on earth, in reality, if anybody found out about op's mom's actions beforehand, they would've cut contact regardless of who told them.
those jokes werent okay. end of. "getting better" is only when you STOP DOING THE THING. the mom never stopped, she simply held back. thats not getting better, its getting manipulative
Forgiving someone in a therapy session doesn't give you liscence to crack insensitive jokes afterwards. If she was truly sorry, she would understand the importance of boundaries. The Mother is a monster, and the father is absolutely pathetic.
I don't get it why did the dad change his sides like he went from all how dare you do this to our daughter to why the fuck did you embarrass us in your mom
That's at you do come back to you. No she's not trying if she's still doing it. You, your hubby and baby need to go NC. She gets what she gets. Looking for love from people like her never macks you fill better. You can and will be the mom you who t
Good for OP finally realizing it was time to quit. If I’m honest, it was pretty naive of her to drag her parents to therapy. I get it, and I feel sorry for her, but she could’ve saved herself plenty of trouble not going through all that crap. FYI I’m not trying to victim blame, it’s 100% parents’ fault, I just would’ve handled it differently. Someone who will actively starve their own child on purpose will never ever change.
Little shocked non of the other parents who packed more lunch for their kids for op to eat called CPS on the family at all
Parents doesn't she mean her donors?
There is no way the father didn’t notice there was something wrong with his daughter. He had to notice how malnourished his daughter looked despite working. The mother is absolute garbage and the father is an enabler in her abusive behavior.
Are we gonna talk about the player’s hand being on the left side of the screen instead of the right?
its a setting
Either the left-handed settings or the video itself is flipped
17:41 forgive, but never forget... funny how people assume others would forget past transgressions
Nu-uh, apologies only work if the thing you apologies for don't happen after that, because you actuvely try to be better and change. Jokes are only jokes if both parties are laughing.
The only reason the dad spoke up is because he knew they could get into serious trouble legally for the abuse if he didn't do anything about it, and you can't convince me otherwise. I hope OP stays away for good, and I hope she never EVER brings her child around them as long as she lives.
i gave up LOL
Dude, what the hell. You don't put your child on a diet when they don't need it just so that they can be in baby pageant. Also, worrying about our child's weight and health is fine, but making them be as skinny as bone for your wants is just wrong. Like what the hell. Also, how do you not notice that your daughter is as skinny as bone. She's really lucky that she had friends who would share there lunches with her because of how skinny she was. Then in high school when her father gave her money to buy food, her mother really threaten her not to gain any weight or else she'd starve he at home. Like what the hell, she needs a lot of food for her age, and to give her energy. Then only after her faints and gets sent to the ER does her father find out what her mother was doing. He did at least put his foot down and probably told her that she couldn't do that anymore, then she actually does it. Know she can eat how she wants too and not have to be afraid of her mother. When she comes back from collage, she wants them to have a better relationship with each other so you get them to go with you to therapy. It seems like it's going really great. When you come out that you're pregnant and invite your family members to celebrate the news, you mother starts saying sh-t like you could eat how ever you want now that you're pregnant. You did a good thing telling her that what she did when she was a child like starving her and making her do thing that she didn't want to do. I don't get what your father meant that you went too far with that, because no you didn't. Either way, congratulations with you child and hopefully you don't have to deal with your parents anymore.
Hold up she is supposed to let bygones be bygones but the mother can continue to take cheap shots at her pregnancy party?!? Look at the parents dealing with the consequences of their actions boo hoo hoo
18minutes ago huh ??
Naw this vid was 5 min ago posted?!
You should have apologized about not cutting her off earlier that this will be the last time she sees and talks to you for a long while and remind your dad "you can still come visit your grandchild if you want but your wife is not welcomed in my home or my life or the life of my child"
After he sided with his wife who STARVED his child and was making a cruel jokes about OP's weight, really?
Well nevermind dad##🗑️
Nta. Glad op's father was a decent parent while she was growing up.
Not really... a decent parent would've divorced to protect their child.
@@DarkEinherjar dude, he still saved her life and sanity. Also, divorce always screws up the man. Later the father turned out to be a pos tho.
absentees are not good parents
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Ok so for the dad there might be a reason and because he wasn’t around a lot due to work her mom probably told him that OP has a high metabolism and why she was so thin or even telling him that OP wanted to be a model and he never bothered to ask OP about it because he trusted his wife
Naaah, i have best stories 😂
Nice vid
how are you being starved when you eat twice a day? when I was in HS I only ate once a day during the week while being physically active and I wasn't passing out.
purging maybe. where ops mum might have forced her to throw up, or given her terrible small meals
Too long
This story is boring. Skip it.
.im way to early 💀💀💀💀💀💀
na i have to agree with the dad in the end like why u bring it up again at a PREGNANCY PARTY? like cmon
because the mother decided that it was something to make fun of. op didnt choose the event. abusers need to be called out on the spot.
This sounds fake
Like I grew up CHOOSING TO SKIP breakfast and lunch. I had money I just wasn’t ever hungry I’d eat a bag of chips some days but for real you don’t NEED 3 meals a day just the calorie intake
its very easy to make meals that have next to no nutrition but are somewhat filling