I’ve never made a CZcams comment in my life, but I feel compelled to step out of that habit and thank you for the time, effort, and valuable knowledge that you’ve provided me this entire past year. This podcast has transformed my life, and I’m rooting for this platform to grow to new lengths! 💛
A little favour pretty please ☺️ If you enjoyed this conversation, please like the video so that more people can see it + it’s and indicator to me that you would like more specific videos like this ❤ have a great new year! Let’s do this 💪🏾
1. Remove stress. 2. Get sleep. 3. Replace the habit. 4. Find a better reason to quit the habit. 5. Keep your health and exercise. 6. Don’t deprive yourself if trying to break a bad habit. Provide positive rewards to encourage breaking the habit. 7. Question behavior effect. It’s better to ask the question to something that doesn’t respond, such as writing it down or writing it on a computer. The question reminds you who you want to be and sends an intention. A Yes or No doesn’t allow excuses.
These don't quite match the rules set out in the podcast, plus also miss the final sixth habit! 1. Stress is your puppet master 2. Know your cues 3. Don't focus on stopping bad habits 4. You need a better reason to quit 5. Will power is not enough 6. Pose yourself a question - The question behaviour effect
I’ve never found a youtuber / podcaster that creates anywhere near the amount of value that your content offers, I can’t believe it’s free. Thank you for all of your hard work you put in to your content for us, thank you for being such a huge inspiration for so many people. You’ve helped me get out of a super low depressive episode earlier this year, and discover some real goals that I believe will help me build the life I want to live. I’m currently in the process of saving to move back to New Zealand, on target for January 2024 (I want to have a decent amount saved to make the move as smooth / comfortable as possible) because of the general advice and words I’ve taken in from your podcasts throughout the year. Thank you so much Steven, you’ve really helped me change my life. PS, these solo style videos discussing specific topics are GREAT, you have a lot of knowledge and a way with words that can be really impactful on many of us. Any more of these style videos would be hugely appreciated!
I agree. I'm also going to put my money toward this guy (sorry, dude, I will learn your name ASAP) because information this researched and complete should be supported.
I love this channel too! If you're interested Shawn Stevenson model health channel is good and also Rich Roll! Do you follow either? czcams.com/video/GOhsekY5W78/video.html and czcams.com/video/xV1Q4kOnisM/video.html
SUMMARY: A brain is like an onion, consists of layers. The outer layer is the one which deal with the environment, but habits are controlled by the innermost part of it, like the core of the onion. 4 steps of habit loop: - Cue - Craving - Routine - Reward 6 laws of making or breaking habits: 1) Stress is your puppet master. Reduce stress (at least) at the beginning of your habit forming by among orhers getting enough sleep, exercising, etc. 2) Know your cues. Changing environment might be useful to avoid cues for bad habits or to make cues for good habits. 3) Don't focus on stopping bad habits, focus on replacing them. You can break a habit, but you can't erase it. It could come out again very easily. Thinking too much about bad habits make us indulging more when we relapse, because we are action orientated creatures, not inaction orientated creatures. This is similar with driving a car. The car goes where our eyes are looking. Focusing too much on the side of the road makes us veer towards that direction. We have to look forward into the distance where we want the car to go. For example, if we want to quit smoking, replace the habit with sucking lollipops. If we want to quit drinking wine every 5 p.m., replace it with drinking water. 4) You need a better reason to quit. Because you can't erase a habit, when you replace it with a good habit, you need a better reward than the reward given by the bad habit. An intrinsic motivation is a much stronger reward than an extrinsic motivation, for example: -Intrinsic motivation: having a healthy lifestyle and exercising is like a table with many things, like books, trinkets, etc. on it. If you lose a trinket, the books and other things are still there, but if you lose the table, you can't have any of those things because you don't have a place to keep them. Like the the table, being healthy is the foundation to build relationships with friends and family, to achieve career goals financial independence, etc. -Extrinsic motivation: having a healthy lifestyle and exercising to get a six pack and and chase women. Changes happen when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of making the changes. 5) Willpower is not enough. Willpower is not just a skill, it's a muscle. Willpower, like other muscles in our bodies, gets exhausted the more we use it throughout the day. When setting goals, ensure the goals are small enough and achievable enough to become sustainable, without the need for major sacrifice which will deplete our willpower reserves. This is why we shouldn't try to give up every bad habit at the same time. This is why we can't achieve too many goals at once. Less goal increases the chance to completing all of our goals. This is also why many experts say the best way to create a new habit is not by depriving yourself of old rewards, but finding new, healthier, less addictive rewards, but nonetheless making sure that you still reward yourself in some ways, everyday, along the way. 6) The question behavior effect. Ask a direct question (yes/no question) which prompt you to perform a certain behavior, e.g. "Are you going to the gym today?" instead of saying "I'm going to go to the gym today" or "I want to go to the gym today".
Steven, Thank you from a 78 year old woman who is going to pass this along. All the work that you went to creative this pod cast was more than 100% successful. I am from Ontario, CA.
@@marylynn374 I'm literally crying reading your letter. Here I am, thinking that my life has been difficult, when yours were 1000x more difficult than mine😭. You're one though lady. I couldn't imagine how I would survive if I were you. Thank you for sharing🙏. Your letter reminded me to get up and move forward instead of crying and feeling sorry for myself.
@@tiararoxeanne1318 Dear Tiara, Thank you for your kind words. The message is "If I can do it so can you". I hope that your life burdens become fewer and more manageable". One of my mottos is "Nothing last forever". Example, this time next week this problem will be over. Also, I break the day up as follows: If I have a lot to worry about I will allow myself to delve into the problem for ONLY one -half hour at a time maybe twice a day. Then I turn it off. Controlling your mind is another great podcast. Try it. Believe it or not ageing helps. Best Wishes, Lynn
I lost my son in a car accident in Jan of 21, fractured my back and got covid pneumonia in Feb 21. And my lungs were diminished. I had lost all hope of recovering from any of these. After listening to this podcast, my 4th, I am looking forward to breaking my bad habits of staying in bed taking pain pills, smoking, and not exercising. I do listen to meditations. I just wanted to thankyou and thank Higher Power for leading me to you. God Bless you.
I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious son, I send you so much love I hope you are able to move on when the time is right in a way that is best for you ❤
I will forever be indebted to you Mattia 😇you’ve changed my whole life I’ll continue to preach about your name for the world to hear you’ve saved me from a huge financial debt with just little investment thanks so much Mrs Eunice Mattia
It is really refreshing to see a comment about Eunice T Mattia I got a chance to benefit from her services a few months ago and it has been a very smooth experience
our way of expressing these concepts always attracts me, and nothing, but nothing compares with it-- the tone, the depth of spirituality, I can't put it into words. Your Manifesting Manual is something I can read over and over and soak up. czcams.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq I am in process of making the routine a solid part of my life, and it has made a difference! I LOVE your 12 meditations too! I know I am a different person after 9 months with Super Manifestor, and in process of continued positive change! You deserve accolades every day of the year! Keep on with everything, and as we say in Spanish, ANIMO! Lots of love and every blessing to you both.
KEY TAKEAWAYS: 1) Focus on feeling good. Sleep well, Exercise daily, Don't stress, Meditate. All these will extend your willpower. 2) Setup Cues, Routine, Rewards for any gd habit u want to develop. 3) Don't focus on stopping bad habits, focus on what u want to replace it with. Don't take bad habits out of your life completely, but replace them with more positive, action-oriented habits for your brain to latch onto & focus on. 4) Repeat a habit everyday for 200 days. 5) Make an intrinsic (deep tragedy) reason to pursue every habit u want to adopt. 6) Make Few goals. 7) Make Sustainable Goals. 8) Make Realistic Goals. 9) Don't give up every bad habit at the same time. 10) Don't set too many, big, unrealistic, sacrifice-centric goals. 11) Make your goals small & achievable enough to become sustainable w/o need for major sacrifice, which will deplete your willpower reserves. 12) Don't deprive yourself of all rewards, find new healthier, less addictive rewards. 13) Reward yourself in some way, everyday, along the way. 14) Ask yourself a Yes/No Question about following through on gd habits. Eg. Are u going to the gym today?
This episode was the best way to close out 2022 and sprint into 2023 with clarity and awareness. Huge thank you to Steven and the whole team of The Diary of A CEO. I truly appreciate everything you have done and I'm so grateful that I can listen to the great Steven and learn from him. Wonderful wishes and vibes to everyone. Cheers to 2023. 🎄🎊⏳
I struggled with smoking and sometimes binge drinking then suddenly quit one day. I had smoked for over 10+ years and had tried to quit over 100x so when I quit relatively easily, I was very confused! I later realised why, I had gone low contact with my mum who was a huge source of stress for me and also realised every time I was suppose to visit her, I had a hangover because I would drink and smoke the night before due to anxiety. I fully understand how much stress can dictate our habits.
Thanks - I am in awe of your podcasts. Having just watched this one about breaking bad habits, you have motivated me to make a change. Without a doubt, part of the reason you succeed is because you are a NATURAL communicator. I see you as a force for good in this troubled world.
I literally came back from New years Eve party and I'm listening the episode at 2am. Happy New year everyone, educate yourself and improve your lifes 🔥
As a man who fell from his path and implemented bad habits through tramaua both physically and mentally, unfortunately I've been in dark places because of this, yet have recently had that epiphany moment due to health conditions/current bad habits and my life coming to a point where the change is absolutely necessary. 3 minutes and 54 seconds into the episode, I started taking notes and consuming the information you had gone out of your way to obtain and share. My answer to your final question is yes, I am going to achieve my goals this year. Thank you for this episode, sending love from Plymouth! ✌🏽
Honestly Steven, you have been my biggest positive influencer since I discovered your podcast and I'm incredibly grateful for you, for your valuable life-changing insights, your genuine intentions, openness, self awareness and for dedicating yourself to providing us with very enriching, enlightening, high quality content in literally every single podcast.. I wish you and all your loved ones and happy, healthy, prosperous new year.
@@NA-qi4qq Jordan Peterson is good but he's too personal like he is very opinionated and this was more about understanding things within us not his opinion about that thing but still nice name drop lol
Bless you Stephen. Thank you for wading through hours and hours of research that I honestly don’t have the time or mental compactly to deal with right now. There are plenty of opinions out there on CZcams. However, I am particularly grateful to have found you as I believe you come from a genuine, honest, heartfelt and knowledgable place and truly want the best for us both as individuals and as a species. Wishing you all the best for 2023 ❤
This supports knowledge I have already held around neuroscience, and YET you STILL have had a huge impact on the way I view this. Amazing work all round Steven, I've listened to you every Monday morning for the past 3 months. Immeasurable impact week on week. Thank you
SUCH AN IMPACT YOU'VE MADE IN SO MANY PEOPLE'S LIVES ALL AROUND THE WORLD ! Dear Steven Barlett , thank you for BEING ! KEEP STRONG ! WISHING A PROSPEROUS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR !
After listening to this episode I decided I needed to start the year with three weeks of rest. I decided on the Sunday, found a mud brick cabin owned by a counsellor on the Monday and arrived on the Tuesday. I'm midway through my stay. I've been painting, journalling, thinking, pondering and re-evaluating my life and direction. Thank you Steven for the great advice yet again.
What you just explained about your father’s habit is quite important. Sometimes people are not really addicted, is just a habit. And the word addiction has a heaviness of guilt to it.
I avoided this episode like the plague then it auto played… then I couldn’t stop but listen. Thank you. Amazing.❤Yes, I will archive my goals this year.
Thank you! I watched this episode last night and it has already influenced the choices I made today. As someone with an addictive personality, I truly appreciate the effort you put into this (and every) episode. I learned more in this hour than 2 years in therapy.
Writing this Comment before watching the video. THANK YOU Steve. I was never a fan of podcasts before i started watching yours. Every person that sit infront of you either cry or feel overwhelmingly happy because of the genuine questions you ask them. that's what made this podcast successful and natural flow of the conversation.
With a Social Work and PsychSociology dual masters and I have known these studies. As much as you know, is useless unless you find enough pain (I call the “bottom of the well” syndrome) there has to be a reason to get out /motivation to flee/of their own habits/way/brain! Take the other way! 14 yrs of college I was tighter than a string in discipline and straight A’s. I find myself motivated when I have someone to be accountable to/to impress! I have no accountability-perform or be kicked out of college. Out of college I’m total ADHD and D’s! Great stuff as always! Keep it up!
What a perfectly timed podcast! Thank you for your hard work over 2022, happy new year and I can’t wait for what your advice can bring me and many others in 2023
The sleep thing is so true and I’m sure many parents will relate to me, that it feels soul destroying when you have no control over your sleep because of little ones. I have a toddler who still rarely sleeps through the night and I’m pregnant with my second, and I have chronic illness. Phew. I’ve learnt through my experience of being a parent that prolonged bad sleep really does have a knock on effect for EVERYTHING in life, it truly is torturous. I’m trying to think up ways to make it better but nothing works on my stubborn toddler and the thought of a newborn who will be waking every 2 hours…. I think I need to win the lottery and hire a night nanny so I can function well during the day and be ME again lol.
Our son woke every hour, every night for the first several years. It was pure torture. He is 8 now and my wife still has problems sleeping at night. She has been battling depression since he was about 3 months old. I feel for you. I was able to provide enough money that she didn't have to work so there were many nights I could not be with the boy and she would be a zombie the next day. I would take the nights when I was off the next days... It was extremely difficult all night. We were also fortunate to have her mother to come and take a few nights a month so we could try to sleep. It's hard to sleep when you get used to being up and waking up every hour. Even when we would get to "have a night" to ourselves to sleep we would wake up all night long paranoid about the baby. Still to this day she has trouble staying asleep through the night. She usually only sleeps for 3-4 hours and wakes up paranoid and then can't get back to sleep. Only good hard physical activity during the day, working out / yard work...stuff like that, will she sleep a full 8+ hours and that is only a few days a month. It's tough on us. A good man is a must to have. Unfortunately it is hard to find one willing to do what needs to be done. It was very hard to handle everything that comes with kids for me as a man, but I could only imagine what it was like for her, and my mom when she was single for years raising me and my sister. Good luck. Love overcomes all... Stay strong 💪💪💪
Steven, the 6th bonus rule is one of Robert Cialdini's Rules of Influence - Psychology of Persuasion. The rule > Commitment/Consistency. As humans, we generally tend to act according to our consistent view of ourselves or a commitment made. You're very right - the posing of a specific question in a present, forms as a bold persuasion to act! :)
Just understood habits all at once. I’m at gym listening to this and between sets I am usually daydreaming / taking a while between sets. I just realised this is how my brain has understood how to do a workout.
I don't know if your ever going to read this, but I need to say THANK YOU! BLESS YOU PLEASE STAY AND REMAIN HELPING PEOPLE, YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE IN THE MOST IMPORTANT, MEANINGFUL WAY 🙏 ❤️
great insights for someone like me who's struggling with ADHD and OCD, I'm on a breaking point in my life hopefully this year will be better and i can find peace... All the best to everyone keep fighting and don't give up....
There is only that much we can do in a day. We are all very busy individuals. Reverse engineering it this way and focusing on managing stress, sleep, environment, not overexercising alongside hydration and healthier foods will create more energy which in turn help us have more willpower when needed as opposed to relying on our willpower have the infinite energy, which it does not. This recent realization helped me finally maintain a healthy weight with much less effort on my part. Thank you for another great episode, Steve!
I wish I listened to you, Steven. I literally relived my 2022. Clearly, the pain of staying the same is/was not yet greater than the pain of making a change.
These tips are so helpful! I also like the idea of asking the question 'Why are you about to do this?' before doing it - if I am grabbing a snack, is it because I am hungry and it is nourishing or is it because I am bored or putting a chore off? With the gym, am I going just to help relax (which is fine) or because I really want to smash it and push myself? Have a great 2023 everyone!
LOVED this episode! Took notes in preparation for getting my 2023 organised ahead of time. ADHD has been terrible to my ability to keep good habits going, but your channel and a few others has been immensely helpful in my journey to holistic wellness in all areas of my life. Thank you, Steven.
I found this your most compelling podcast thus far. Admittedly I haven't watched them all but from the ones I have seen. I think you have a great sense of self awareness and your constant journey of self discovery and self betterment is inspiring. I shall apply the bonus instruction to my own my journey many thanks keep up the fantastic work.
These sort of episodes are Steven’s bread and butter, a really fantastic watch. Off the back of this, if you could try and get an episode with James Clear in 2023 that would be incredible!
WOW! What an amazing hour. In fact the best hour of 2022 content on CZcams. I didn’t realise how much I have missed the monologue episodes from Steven. This is just what we all need and to answer the final binary question HELL YES! 🙏🏽❤️
I rarely write comments. I wanted to say this was a privilege to listen to, I’m so grateful I came across it and prioritised my time to actively listen to it. The way you fluently and succinctly put together the amazing scientific studies with the evidence for the tips you provide is highly motivating and reassuring. I now feel strong and intrinsically motivated. The last 10 minutes made me feel quite emotional. Thank you ❤ (P.S., my answer is “YES!!”)
Thank you so very much for making this . I am a smoker I recently spent 3 weeks in hospital and didn’t smoke at all they gave me patches . So since then I’ve been mentally preparing to quit . I want to succeed with this so I was keen to get patches so I could stop for good . I’m 60 and I’ve been smoking a very long time . I knew I would struggle so I looked for videos on addiction it was something I needed to understand psychologically. Your description of the test done on rats I think is embedded into my brain. The way you described the experiment painted a very clear image for me I also found the science behind habit breaking very interesting mostly you sharing your own father’s experience with smoking struck a cord and I related to this story very much so . I’m due to start my journey to quit in a couple of days after listening to your podcast made me very aware that preparation to succeed was very important, so I have patches and gum so I am mindful of needing a reward so I intend to use the lozenges or gum in the way your father replaced his supply with lollipops. This really is a excellent idea . Thanks again for sharing this as I’m now able to look at quitting from many angles I feel determined to succeed many thanks Lorna
Thank you for you, there is a Kenya proverb “self care is medicine for the earth…” you are the praxis of that. You prove we will never have world peace till every individual has inner peace thereby changing the environment
Brother i have been watching your podcasts for a long time now, and I am really in love with them. The Amount effort sir you and your team puts in for is incredible. I just have one question, why do you always say please keep this is to yourself.
Absolutely love this advice man. Habits are the bedrock of success & sticking at something consistently (through highs and lows) generates BIG rewards. Keep up the good work!
Wonderful illuminating podcast. Hi started making simply new months resolutions instead of planning for the whole year. For me it’s easier to live in a month sized compartments, and laser focus on just January, than expanding my sights on a whole year.
I just saw one of your reels about heartbreaks that brought me to your page. Now, I'm not someone who'd watch a 1 hr long video no matter the content but something about the reel on 2023 goals made me want to listen to it, maybe it's God's way of bringing this message to me. You never know. I was also compelled to watch it because a lot people talked about the 6th rule being "the thing". I need to say, when I listened to it, I was shook! It is soooo true! I've been subconsciously doing this for such a long time and I never realized it's a "thing"!! And the idea that it becomes even more powerful when it's in the digital/physical form is so true, it gives us a moment to reflect and know that we are consciously making this choice. Gives us a better idea of who we are, who we want to become, and how we want to treat ourselves. Amazing! Best 58 minutes of the year for me! Thank you so much for your time and efforts in putting this together! Much love! ❤️
Thank you for referencing the masterpiece that is 'Who moved my cheese?' Dr Spencer Johnson. It is an essential read for all business people and budding entrepreneurs. As well as people who just want to improve their lives. Again Stephen, you've given us a great podcast. Thank you. Wishing you a Happy New Year and excited to see what you bring to 2023. 😉
Steven B, I appreciate you and your team for continuously executing such a great podcast throughout the year. I truly looked forward to every episode. I have been able to bring new thoughts, ideas and rewiring, both professionally and personally, into my life because of this podcast. I look forward to seeing you and your team achieve your goal of 1M subscribers+ and wish you all success in the years to come. Thank you!
I love the fact that u research so hard to make this, and I try my best to learn it until the end but my ADHD and dyslexia together make it impossible. I wish I could have a list first, and then go true step by step with not much in between. I may try to do it by listening per part. Have a great year, u sound like a very kind man. All the best for u!
When you said the word addiction...I lit up ...both grandfather's heavy smoker's..my mother heavy smoker...but I will keep trying...fascinating pod cast ..thank you
Love this! Especially 55:30-56:00, where exclaimed YES! Great summary of so many things learned/read many of which I’d forgotten about. Thank you for making this video.
Dang, this is one of the best videos I've seen you make on your channel, and thank you for the transparency and honesty. It's truly inspiring to see your take on personal responsibility for one's goals and, more importantly, your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health. My takeaway from this is to be 1% better every day, and thank you for lighting that candle of hope in me. :)
This episode was beautiful. I truly gained useful information that I can readily apply to my life but also to people around me who may need that help. I've watched/read a lot of podcasts on self-improvement areas and am fairly aware on how to implement those practices into my life, but that idea of cognitive dissonance is so true, we may know what's best for us but don't always apply it. What you said at the end is also very true to me, applying that knowledge to help lift others who may be struggling is a way to show gratitude that I am at least aware of what they're trying to do, since I can very often be judgemental of people.
Bang on steve,on my mtb bike listening to this,and I gave up sugar in March of last year and all my life changed,listening to your podcasts have changed my mind process.and this new podcast is off the scale.you keep up thus amazing life changing stories that are reel.we have been feed shit far to long.this show needs to be in school then we can learn at a younger age.amazing this is.
We did the marshmallow experiment on our son 20 years ago after watching a bbc series child of our time with Prof Winston. My son waited, and he delayed the gratification. It is a good prediction because He has been successful in every aspect of his life to date.
I just typed up a set of questions for things I'm working on and I'm going to write a New Year's Resolution. Thanks so very much for all of the hit-the-ground running techniques and tools. Merry Christmas and a happy new year to you and yours Steven! Big love and good vibes from Spain! :)
Starting this year, I'm counting my blessings, and stumbling upon your podcast is one of them. I'm so lucky to find this podcast at the beginning of the year🙏
What a brilliant episode!! So many snippets of this can be applied to so many aspects of life!! The last bit about 'the question' has blown my mind!! I'm applying parts of this episode to heartbreak / a man i'm trying to move on from. THANK YOU STEVEN!!!!!!! Much love.
I listen once i will watch and listen and again. Since i am so serious on improving all my poor habits. Incredibly insightful to know this. Super grateful😊
This really was a great episode. I love how you had the scientific evidence to back it up. Thank you for sharing this story. It will help so many people, including myself.
Dear Steven, I wanted to express my heartfelt gratitude for sharing your post. It has had a transformative impact on my life. Thanks to your guidance, I have successfully managed to quit alcohol for almost a month. While I wasn't a heavy drinker, I would indulge on Friday nights. However, your advice of using a simple yes or no answer method has been incredibly helpful in staying on track. I wanted to share with you my progress and the reward system I've implemented. I set up a whiteboard, dividing it into monthly milestones and goals. I'm proud to say that most days, I've been able to mark five dots, indicating that I achieved what I set out to do. Additionally, I've made a point of consuming 2 liters of water every day and strictly adhering to the rule of no alcohol. Looking forward to the coming month, I have set two main goals. Firstly, I am determined to cut out most processed foods from my diet, focusing on nourishing my body with wholesome and nutritious options. Of course, I am allowing myself a treat once or twice during the month to maintain balance and prevent feeling too restricted. Secondly, I am committed to undertaking a 36-hour fast. This challenge will not only contribute to my overall well-being but also aligns with my goal of improving my health, both physically and mentally. Steven, I want to thank you once again for being a source of inspiration and guidance. Your post has been a driving force behind the positive changes I am making in my life. I greatly appreciate your support. Looking forward to continuing this journey and sharing my progress with you in the future. Best regards, Josh Potter
Hi Josh, thank you so much for sharing your goals and experiences with us. We're so glad you took so much away from the episode, and we wish you all the best moving forwards on your journey! Team DOAC
Happy New Year!. Everyone says read books to improve. I say these 1hr videos have so much information as well. They are like a mini book. So for me listening to more of these is my resolution. Keep them coming, Stephen. Thank you 👍👌👋
You have brought me to tears! I can’t express. I am SO grateful for this you have unearthed my blind spot with my stunted weightloss journey. Thank you thank you!!
you are so good at what you do. this podcast is life changing. I'm grateful that I've got the opportunity to learn these gems of lessons. God bless you. I'm going to share this to my community
The final question made me emotional for some reason. I love this video and thank you for sharing your wisdom, this has already helped me in many ways.
Great summary and highly inspiring! I jumped ahead and gave up smoking and THC before the year ended, next year will be my best so far, because I am making it the best.
Something I've found helpful is establishing the habit of reviewing my options for the day within my morning routine (usually while I shower). It's like a designated time to identify "cues" and familiarize myself with what alternatives I have available. Using the "Stress as the puppetmaster" analogy, it's like taking time to reconnect the strings. take that with a grain of salt though, I'm far from having my shit together lol.
Great information. Thank you so much for condensing it into easy to digest pieces. Setting a resolution for 2023, now that I know it's not doomed to failure.
I like how you are saying very important things effortlessly yet it is very clear that there is a lot of research that has gone into this podcast. It's not just about opinion and experiences but the information is also backed by science. I haven't watched so many podcasts but I definitely know when I've stumbled on a Gem. Keep it up! Elaine from Kenya😊
Thank you Steven for another great video! Happy New Year to you and the tribe! May the new year bring you 1M subscribers, I've done my part! Blessings for all in 2023.
I’ve never made a CZcams comment in my life, but I feel compelled to step out of that habit and thank you for the time, effort, and valuable knowledge that you’ve provided me this entire past year. This podcast has transformed my life, and I’m rooting for this platform to grow to new lengths! 💛
AGREE. Excellent. Will share and watch again myself. Impressed
i feel the same. Much love and respect 😘🙏
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A little favour pretty please ☺️ If you enjoyed this conversation, please like the video so that more people can see it + it’s and indicator to me that you would like more specific videos like this ❤ have a great new year! Let’s do this 💪🏾
Your energy is so incredibly inspiring
My attention span is really bad...😆
THanks and Happy New Year!
Did my buddy Neil Degrasse Tyson influence this 5 Scientific Facts video?? 🤔
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1. Remove stress.
2. Get sleep.
3. Replace the habit.
4. Find a better reason to quit the habit.
5. Keep your health and exercise.
6. Don’t deprive yourself if trying to break a bad habit. Provide positive rewards to encourage breaking the habit.
7. Question behavior effect. It’s better to ask the question to something that doesn’t respond, such as writing it down or writing it on a computer. The question reminds you who you want to be and sends an intention. A Yes or No doesn’t allow excuses.
Thank you Dragon Fish for this valuable post. I will repost. I love the show, but man,.. I don't have 1- 2 hrs for each broadcast.
@@tres5533 You are nit takin the time. You have all the time for the things you prioritize.
Thank you.
These don't quite match the rules set out in the podcast, plus also miss the final sixth habit!
1. Stress is your puppet master
2. Know your cues
3. Don't focus on stopping bad habits
4. You need a better reason to quit
5. Will power is not enough
6. Pose yourself a question - The question behaviour effect
I like that - 'a yes or no doesn't allow excuses'... thanks
I’ve never found a youtuber / podcaster that creates anywhere near the amount of value that your content offers, I can’t believe it’s free. Thank you for all of your hard work you put in to your content for us, thank you for being such a huge inspiration for so many people. You’ve helped me get out of a super low depressive episode earlier this year, and discover some real goals that I believe will help me build the life I want to live. I’m currently in the process of saving to move back to New Zealand, on target for January 2024 (I want to have a decent amount saved to make the move as smooth / comfortable as possible) because of the general advice and words I’ve taken in from your podcasts throughout the year. Thank you so much Steven, you’ve really helped me change my life. PS, these solo style videos discussing specific topics are GREAT, you have a lot of knowledge and a way with words that can be really impactful on many of us. Any more of these style videos would be hugely appreciated!
Thank you Liam! I’ve shared this message with my team , means so much to us . Proud of you
I agree. I'm also going to put my money toward this guy (sorry, dude, I will learn your name ASAP) because information this researched and complete should be supported.
@bettercallaul no
I love this channel too! If you're interested Shawn Stevenson model health channel is good and also Rich Roll! Do you follow either? czcams.com/video/GOhsekY5W78/video.html and
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@bettercallaul no
SUMMARY:
A brain is like an onion, consists of layers. The outer layer is the one which deal with the environment, but habits are controlled by the innermost part of it, like the core of the onion.
4 steps of habit loop:
- Cue
- Craving
- Routine
- Reward
6 laws of making or breaking habits:
1) Stress is your puppet master.
Reduce stress (at least) at the beginning of your habit forming by among orhers getting enough sleep, exercising, etc.
2) Know your cues.
Changing environment might be useful to avoid cues for bad habits or to make cues for good habits.
3) Don't focus on stopping bad habits, focus on replacing them.
You can break a habit, but you can't erase it. It could come out again very easily.
Thinking too much about bad habits make us indulging more when we relapse, because we are action orientated creatures, not inaction orientated creatures.
This is similar with driving a car. The car goes where our eyes are looking. Focusing too much on the side of the road makes us veer towards that direction. We have to look forward into the distance where we want the car to go.
For example, if we want to quit smoking, replace the habit with sucking lollipops. If we want to quit drinking wine every 5 p.m., replace it with drinking water.
4) You need a better reason to quit.
Because you can't erase a habit, when you replace it with a good habit, you need a better reward than the reward given by the bad habit.
An intrinsic motivation is a much stronger reward than an extrinsic motivation, for example:
-Intrinsic motivation: having a healthy lifestyle and exercising is like a table with many things, like books, trinkets, etc. on it. If you lose a trinket, the books and other things are still there, but if you lose the table, you can't have any of those things because you don't have a place to keep them. Like the the table, being healthy is the foundation to build relationships with friends and family, to achieve career goals financial independence, etc.
-Extrinsic motivation: having a healthy lifestyle and exercising to get a six pack and and chase women.
Changes happen when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of making the changes.
5) Willpower is not enough.
Willpower is not just a skill, it's a muscle. Willpower, like other muscles in our bodies, gets exhausted the more we use it throughout the day.
When setting goals, ensure the goals are small enough and achievable enough to become sustainable, without the need for major sacrifice which will deplete our willpower reserves.
This is why we shouldn't try to give up every bad habit at the same time. This is why we can't achieve too many goals at once. Less goal increases the chance to completing all of our goals.
This is also why many experts say the best way to create a new habit is not by depriving yourself of old rewards, but finding new, healthier, less addictive rewards, but nonetheless making sure that you still reward yourself in some ways, everyday, along the way.
6) The question behavior effect.
Ask a direct question (yes/no question) which prompt you to perform a certain behavior, e.g.
"Are you going to the gym today?" instead of saying "I'm going to go to the gym today" or "I want to go to the gym today".
Thank You.🥰
Thank u Soo much for this comment ❤
Thanks so much for this. I was so fixated in watching, I forgot to take notes ! ❤
Thank you so much for this 😍🥹🙌🏻
Steven, Thank you from a 78 year old woman who is going to pass this along. All the work that you went to creative this pod cast was more than 100% successful. I am from Ontario, CA.
@@marylynn374 I'm literally crying reading your letter. Here I am, thinking that my life has been difficult, when yours were 1000x more difficult than mine😭.
You're one though lady. I couldn't imagine how I would survive if I were you. Thank you for sharing🙏. Your letter reminded me to get up and move forward instead of crying and feeling sorry for myself.
@@tiararoxeanne1318 Dear Tiara, Thank you for your kind words. The message is "If I can do it so can you". I hope that your life burdens become fewer and more manageable". One of my mottos is "Nothing last forever". Example, this time next week this problem will be over. Also, I break the day up as follows: If I have a lot to worry about I will allow myself to delve into the problem for ONLY one -half hour at a time maybe twice a day. Then I turn it off. Controlling your mind is another great podcast. Try it. Believe it or not ageing helps. Best Wishes, Lynn
I lost my son in a car accident in Jan of 21, fractured my back and got covid pneumonia in Feb 21. And my lungs were diminished. I had lost all hope of recovering from any of these. After listening to this podcast, my 4th, I am looking forward to breaking my bad habits of staying in bed taking pain pills, smoking, and not exercising. I do listen to meditations.
I just wanted to thankyou and thank Higher Power for leading me to you. God Bless you.
You will make it, keep fighting! 💪❤️
I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious son, I send you so much love I hope you are able to move on when the time is right in a way that is best for you ❤
I will forever be indebted to you Mattia 😇you’ve changed my whole life I’ll continue to preach about your name for the world to hear you’ve saved me from a huge financial debt with just little investment thanks so much Mrs Eunice Mattia
It is really refreshing to see a comment about Eunice T Mattia I got a chance to benefit from her services a few months ago and it has been a very smooth experience
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our way of expressing these concepts always attracts me, and nothing, but nothing compares with it-- the tone, the depth of spirituality, I can't put it into words. Your Manifesting Manual is something I can read over and over and soak up. czcams.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq I am in process of making the routine a solid part of my life, and it has made a difference! I LOVE your 12 meditations too! I know I am a different person after 9 months with Super Manifestor, and in process of continued positive change! You deserve accolades every day of the year! Keep on with everything, and as we say in Spanish, ANIMO! Lots of love and every blessing to you both.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
1) Focus on feeling good. Sleep well, Exercise daily, Don't stress, Meditate. All these will extend your willpower.
2) Setup Cues, Routine, Rewards for any gd habit u want to develop.
3) Don't focus on stopping bad habits, focus on what u want to replace it with.
Don't take bad habits out of your life completely, but replace them with more positive, action-oriented habits for your brain to latch onto & focus on.
4) Repeat a habit everyday for 200 days.
5) Make an intrinsic (deep tragedy) reason to pursue every habit u want to adopt.
6) Make Few goals.
7) Make Sustainable Goals.
8) Make Realistic Goals.
9) Don't give up every bad habit at the same time.
10) Don't set too many, big, unrealistic, sacrifice-centric goals.
11) Make your goals small & achievable enough to become sustainable w/o need for major sacrifice, which will deplete your willpower reserves.
12) Don't deprive yourself of all rewards, find new healthier, less addictive rewards.
13) Reward yourself in some way, everyday, along the way.
14) Ask yourself a Yes/No Question about following through on gd habits. Eg. Are u going to the gym today?
appreciate you my friend
Brilliant breakdown
I'm going to the gym. Yes.
Thank you for this written summary
Thank you.
This episode was the best way to close out 2022 and sprint into 2023 with clarity and awareness. Huge thank you to Steven and the whole team of The Diary of A CEO. I truly appreciate everything you have done and I'm so grateful that I can listen to the great Steven and learn from him. Wonderful wishes and vibes to everyone. Cheers to 2023. 🎄🎊⏳
happy new year friends!!!
Cheers
I struggled with smoking and sometimes binge drinking then suddenly quit one day. I had smoked for over 10+ years and had tried to quit over 100x so when I quit relatively easily, I was very confused!
I later realised why, I had gone low contact with my mum who was a huge source of stress for me and also realised every time I was suppose to visit her, I had a hangover because I would drink and smoke the night before due to anxiety. I fully understand how much stress can dictate our habits.
Brilliant realisation and self awareness well done and congratulations on living a healthier life
I hope you resolved to engage differently with your mom this year 🙏
@@zoetaylor7818 thank you!
Thanks - I am in awe of your podcasts. Having just watched this one about breaking bad habits, you have motivated me to make a change. Without a doubt, part of the reason you succeed is because you are a NATURAL communicator. I see you as a force for good in this troubled world.
I literally came back from New years Eve party and I'm listening the episode at 2am. Happy New year everyone, educate yourself and improve your lifes 🔥
You too!
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You too mate
As a man who fell from his path and implemented bad habits through tramaua both physically and mentally, unfortunately I've been in dark places because of this, yet have recently had that epiphany moment due to health conditions/current bad habits and my life coming to a point where the change is absolutely necessary. 3 minutes and 54 seconds into the episode, I started taking notes and consuming the information you had gone out of your way to obtain and share. My answer to your final question is yes, I am going to achieve my goals this year.
Thank you for this episode, sending love from Plymouth! ✌🏽
Wishing you much success. 👍
Honestly Steven, you have been my biggest positive influencer since I discovered your podcast and I'm incredibly grateful for you, for your valuable life-changing insights, your genuine intentions, openness, self awareness and for dedicating yourself to providing us with very enriching, enlightening, high quality content in literally every single podcast.. I wish you and all your loved ones and happy, healthy, prosperous new year.
Have you tried Jordan Peterson? I think you'll appreciate him.
Right like normally I don't comment but I was surprised that I had learned so much from one video like this
@@NA-qi4qq Jordan Peterson is good but he's too personal like he is very opinionated and this was more about understanding things within us not his opinion about that thing but still nice name drop lol
Bless you Stephen. Thank you for wading through hours and hours of research that I honestly don’t have the time or mental compactly to deal with right now. There are plenty of opinions out there on CZcams. However, I am particularly grateful to have found you as I believe you come from a genuine, honest, heartfelt and knowledgable place and truly want the best for us both as individuals and as a species. Wishing you all the best for 2023 ❤
This supports knowledge I have already held around neuroscience, and YET you STILL have had a huge impact on the way I view this. Amazing work all round Steven, I've listened to you every Monday morning for the past 3 months. Immeasurable impact week on week. Thank you
SUCH AN IMPACT YOU'VE MADE IN SO MANY PEOPLE'S LIVES ALL AROUND THE WORLD ! Dear Steven Barlett , thank you for BEING !
KEEP STRONG ! WISHING A PROSPEROUS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR !
Hey Emilian 👋. ***how are you doing? You actually took the words right from my mouth. Are you very active on CZcams? Do you make your own videos?***
After listening to this episode I decided I needed to start the year with three weeks of rest. I decided on the Sunday, found a mud brick cabin owned by a counsellor on the Monday and arrived on the Tuesday. I'm midway through my stay. I've been painting, journalling, thinking, pondering and re-evaluating my life and direction. Thank you Steven for the great advice yet again.
Key lesson -Discipline must be a habit so ingrained that it is stronger than the excitement of the goal
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may i ask, where's this takeaway derived from specifically?
@@testing38919See Jocko Willink
Happy New Year Everyone!
Let’s find ways to assert our commonality above our differences this year.
❤
FINALLY a Steven Bartlett Solo Episode! We'e been waiting for this moment!
More of this please Steven in 2023!😃🎙
What you just explained about your father’s habit is quite important. Sometimes people are not really addicted, is just a habit. And the word addiction has a heaviness of guilt to it.
Learning the benefits of delayed gratification is one of the best lessons my parents taught me.
I avoided this episode like the plague then it auto played… then I couldn’t stop but listen. Thank you. Amazing.❤Yes, I will archive my goals this year.
This is genuinely one of the best life changing episode🔥🔥
Beautifully empowering and that’s the #Vibes 2023!
Keep making more of this... Everyone needs a reminder every now and then.
Don't forget to tell people that it's never too late to start afresh!
Thank you! I watched this episode last night and it has already influenced the choices I made today. As someone with an addictive personality, I truly appreciate the effort you put into this (and every) episode. I learned more in this hour than 2 years in therapy.
Writing this Comment before watching the video. THANK YOU Steve. I was never a fan of podcasts before i started watching yours. Every person that sit infront of you either cry or feel overwhelmingly happy because of the genuine questions you ask them. that's what made this podcast successful and natural flow of the conversation.
Means a lot Paven
With a Social Work and PsychSociology dual masters and I have known these studies. As much as you know, is useless unless you find enough pain (I call the “bottom of the well” syndrome) there has to be a reason to get out /motivation to flee/of their own habits/way/brain! Take the other way! 14 yrs of college I was tighter than a string in discipline and straight A’s. I find myself motivated when I have someone to be accountable to/to impress! I have no accountability-perform or be kicked out of college. Out of college I’m total ADHD and D’s! Great stuff as always! Keep it up!
I have MISSED your solo podcasts so much, love this Steven - looking forward to seeing everyone progress in 2023 💯✨
What a perfectly timed podcast! Thank you for your hard work over 2022, happy new year and I can’t wait for what your advice can bring me and many others in 2023
The sleep thing is so true and I’m sure many parents will relate to me, that it feels soul destroying when you have no control over your sleep because of little ones. I have a toddler who still rarely sleeps through the night and I’m pregnant with my second, and I have chronic illness. Phew. I’ve learnt through my experience of being a parent that prolonged bad sleep really does have a knock on effect for EVERYTHING in life, it truly is torturous. I’m trying to think up ways to make it better but nothing works on my stubborn toddler and the thought of a newborn who will be waking every 2 hours…. I think I need to win the lottery and hire a night nanny so I can function well during the day and be ME again lol.
You need The Nanny to come in and train your toddler to sleep all night. This will have a positive effect on the new baby and your sleep patterns
@@michelinefortuin9110 who is The Nanny?
Our son woke every hour, every night for the first several years. It was pure torture. He is 8 now and my wife still has problems sleeping at night. She has been battling depression since he was about 3 months old. I feel for you. I was able to provide enough money that she didn't have to work so there were many nights I could not be with the boy and she would be a zombie the next day. I would take the nights when I was off the next days... It was extremely difficult all night. We were also fortunate to have her mother to come and take a few nights a month so we could try to sleep. It's hard to sleep when you get used to being up and waking up every hour. Even when we would get to "have a night" to ourselves to sleep we would wake up all night long paranoid about the baby. Still to this day she has trouble staying asleep through the night. She usually only sleeps for 3-4 hours and wakes up paranoid and then can't get back to sleep. Only good hard physical activity during the day, working out / yard work...stuff like that, will she sleep a full 8+ hours and that is only a few days a month. It's tough on us. A good man is a must to have. Unfortunately it is hard to find one willing to do what needs to be done. It was very hard to handle everything that comes with kids for me as a man, but I could only imagine what it was like for her, and my mom when she was single for years raising me and my sister. Good luck. Love overcomes all... Stay strong 💪💪💪
NLP! Well explained ❤
“Don’t focus on the habit, focus on the stress “ Brilliant key point!
Seriously appreciate these podcasts ❤️
Literally taught me more than school & anything on TV put together 👏🏻
Thank you 🙏🏻
Steven, the 6th bonus rule is one of Robert Cialdini's Rules of Influence - Psychology of Persuasion.
The rule > Commitment/Consistency. As humans, we generally tend to act according to our consistent view of ourselves or a commitment made. You're very right - the posing of a specific question in a present, forms as a bold persuasion to act! :)
Just understood habits all at once. I’m at gym listening to this and between sets I am usually daydreaming / taking a while between sets. I just realised this is how my brain has understood how to do a workout.
Don't diss daydreaming. This can open the door to creative thought, solutions to problems, evaluating the past.
I don't know if your ever going to read this, but I need to say THANK YOU! BLESS YOU PLEASE STAY AND REMAIN HELPING PEOPLE, YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE IN THE MOST IMPORTANT, MEANINGFUL WAY 🙏 ❤️
great insights for someone like me who's struggling with ADHD and OCD, I'm on a breaking point in my life hopefully this year will be better and i can find peace... All the best to everyone keep fighting and don't give up....
There is only that much we can do in a day. We are all very busy individuals. Reverse engineering it this way and focusing on managing stress, sleep, environment, not overexercising alongside hydration and healthier foods will create more energy which in turn help us have more willpower when needed as opposed to relying on our willpower have the infinite energy, which it does not. This recent realization helped me finally maintain a healthy weight with much less effort on my part. Thank you for another great episode, Steve!
No. 6 👌 An incredible, simple phenomenon - just like the host! This is the best toolkit for a spectacular 2023, thank you Steven 🙏 🥳💫
I wish I listened to you, Steven. I literally relived my 2022. Clearly, the pain of staying the same is/was not yet greater than the pain of making a change.
These tips are so helpful! I also like the idea of asking the question 'Why are you about to do this?' before doing it - if I am grabbing a snack, is it because I am hungry and it is nourishing or is it because I am bored or putting a chore off? With the gym, am I going just to help relax (which is fine) or because I really want to smash it and push myself? Have a great 2023 everyone!
LOVED this episode! Took notes in preparation for getting my 2023 organised ahead of time. ADHD has been terrible to my ability to keep good habits going, but your channel and a few others has been immensely helpful in my journey to holistic wellness in all areas of my life. Thank you, Steven.
That was both intellectually stimulating and practical. Have a powerful New Year Steven, we need clear, non-trivial voices like yours more than ever.
I found this your most compelling podcast thus far. Admittedly I haven't watched them all but from the ones I have seen. I think you have a great sense of self awareness and your constant journey of self discovery and self betterment is inspiring. I shall apply the bonus instruction to my own my journey many thanks keep up the fantastic work.
These sort of episodes are Steven’s bread and butter, a really fantastic watch. Off the back of this, if you could try and get an episode with James Clear in 2023 that would be incredible!
I couln't have asked for a better EP to close the year! Thank you Steven and your team for all the amazing work you do!
WOW! What an amazing hour. In fact the best hour of 2022 content on CZcams. I didn’t realise how much I have missed the monologue episodes from Steven. This is just what we all need and to answer the final binary question HELL YES! 🙏🏽❤️
Nah seriously though couldn’t agree more!
I rarely write comments. I wanted to say this was a privilege to listen to, I’m so grateful I came across it and prioritised my time to actively listen to it. The way you fluently and succinctly put together the amazing scientific studies with the evidence for the tips you provide is highly motivating and reassuring. I now feel strong and intrinsically motivated. The last 10 minutes made me feel quite emotional. Thank you ❤ (P.S., my answer is “YES!!”)
Thank you so very much for making this . I am a smoker I recently spent 3 weeks in hospital and didn’t smoke at all they gave me patches . So since then I’ve been mentally preparing to quit . I want to succeed with this so I was keen to get patches so I could stop for good . I’m 60 and I’ve been smoking a very long time . I knew I would struggle so I looked for videos on addiction it was something I needed to understand psychologically. Your description of the test done on rats I think is embedded into my brain. The way you described the experiment painted a very clear image for me I also found the science behind habit breaking very interesting mostly you sharing your own father’s experience with smoking struck a cord and I related to this story very much so . I’m due to start my journey to quit in a couple of days after listening to your podcast made me very aware that preparation to succeed was very important, so I have patches and gum so I am mindful of needing a reward so I intend to use the lozenges or gum in the way your father replaced his supply with lollipops. This really is a excellent idea . Thanks again for sharing this as I’m now able to look at quitting from many angles I feel determined to succeed many thanks
Lorna
I could listen to this video everyday! So many useful tools, thank you for sharing. Love all the way from Kenya 🇰🇪
Yes! I am going to achieve my goals in 2023! Thank you!
Thank you for you, there is a Kenya proverb “self care is medicine for the earth…” you are the praxis of that. You prove we will never have world peace till every individual has inner peace thereby changing the environment
Brother i have been watching your podcasts for a long time now, and I am really in love with them. The Amount effort sir you and your team puts in for is incredible. I just have one question, why do you always say please keep this is to yourself.
Absolutely love this advice man. Habits are the bedrock of success & sticking at something consistently (through highs and lows) generates BIG rewards. Keep up the good work!
Wonderful illuminating podcast. Hi started making simply new months resolutions instead of planning for the whole year. For me it’s easier to live in a month sized compartments, and laser focus on just January, than expanding my sights on a whole year.
I just saw one of your reels about heartbreaks that brought me to your page. Now, I'm not someone who'd watch a 1 hr long video no matter the content but something about the reel on 2023 goals made me want to listen to it, maybe it's God's way of bringing this message to me. You never know. I was also compelled to watch it because a lot people talked about the 6th rule being "the thing". I need to say, when I listened to it, I was shook! It is soooo true! I've been subconsciously doing this for such a long time and I never realized it's a "thing"!! And the idea that it becomes even more powerful when it's in the digital/physical form is so true, it gives us a moment to reflect and know that we are consciously making this choice. Gives us a better idea of who we are, who we want to become, and how we want to treat ourselves. Amazing! Best 58 minutes of the year for me! Thank you so much for your time and efforts in putting this together! Much love! ❤️
Thank you for referencing the masterpiece that is 'Who moved my cheese?' Dr Spencer Johnson.
It is an essential read for all business people and budding entrepreneurs. As well as people who just want to improve their lives.
Again Stephen, you've given us a great podcast. Thank you. Wishing you a Happy New Year and excited to see what you bring to 2023. 😉
I thought it was Who Moved My Cheese.
Thank you 😊 you're the best! And the answer to your question is A Big Fat YES!!!! Thank-you again
My diary arrived this morning 🎉so inspirational Stephen loved you from the moment I seen your first podcast xxx
Steven B, I appreciate you and your team for continuously executing such a great podcast throughout the year. I truly looked forward to every episode.
I have been able to bring new thoughts, ideas and rewiring, both professionally and personally, into my life because of this podcast.
I look forward to seeing you and your team achieve your goal of 1M subscribers+ and wish you all success in the years to come.
Thank you!
Perfect timing for me. Thank you for being my favourite podcast all year. I’ve learned so much from them!
I love the fact that u research so hard to make this, and I try my best to learn it until the end but my ADHD and dyslexia together make it impossible. I wish I could have a list first, and then go true step by step with not much in between. I may try to do it by listening per part. Have a great year, u sound like a very kind man. All the best for u!
When you said the word addiction...I lit up ...both grandfather's heavy smoker's..my mother heavy smoker...but I will keep trying...fascinating pod cast ..thank you
Your delivery style is much like Earl Nightingale, keeps the listener engaged 💯 % so as to not miss any word. Glad yt alg popped u in my feed. 👍
This is now my go to life learning session. The ask a question resonates with me as well as replace a habit with a better one. Thanks so much Steven.
My best episode so far. Thank you Steven! You're changing lives, at least I know you've changed mine.
Love this! Especially 55:30-56:00, where exclaimed YES! Great summary of so many things learned/read many of which I’d forgotten about. Thank you for making this video.
Dang, this is one of the best videos I've seen you make on your channel, and thank you for the transparency and honesty. It's truly inspiring to see your take on personal responsibility for one's goals and, more importantly, your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health.
My takeaway from this is to be 1% better every day, and thank you for lighting that candle of hope in me. :)
This episode was beautiful. I truly gained useful information that I can readily apply to my life but also to people around me who may need that help. I've watched/read a lot of podcasts on self-improvement areas and am fairly aware on how to implement those practices into my life, but that idea of cognitive dissonance is so true, we may know what's best for us but don't always apply it. What you said at the end is also very true to me, applying that knowledge to help lift others who may be struggling is a way to show gratitude that I am at least aware of what they're trying to do, since I can very often be judgemental of people.
Bang on steve,on my mtb bike listening to this,and I gave up sugar in March of last year and all my life changed,listening to your podcasts have changed my mind process.and this new podcast is off the scale.you keep up thus amazing life changing stories that are reel.we have been feed shit far to long.this show needs to be in school then we can learn at a younger age.amazing this is.
O and I dropped 8.7 stone
We did the marshmallow experiment on our son 20 years ago after watching a bbc series child of our time with Prof Winston. My son waited, and he delayed the gratification. It is a good prediction because He has been successful in every aspect of his life to date.
I just typed up a set of questions for things I'm working on and I'm going to write a New Year's Resolution. Thanks so very much for all of the hit-the-ground running techniques and tools. Merry Christmas and a happy new year to you and yours Steven! Big love and good vibes from Spain! :)
Starting this year, I'm counting my blessings, and stumbling upon your podcast is one of them. I'm so lucky to find this podcast at the beginning of the year🙏
What a brilliant episode!! So many snippets of this can be applied to so many aspects of life!! The last bit about 'the question' has blown my mind!! I'm applying parts of this episode to heartbreak / a man i'm trying to move on from. THANK YOU STEVEN!!!!!!! Much love.
I listen once i will watch and listen and again. Since i am so serious on improving all my poor habits. Incredibly insightful to know this. Super grateful😊
Thank you ❤ I’m a complete sugar junkie. Everytime I break my sugar habit, it’s like coming off a drug.
This really was a great episode. I love how you had the scientific evidence to back it up. Thank you for sharing this story. It will help so many people, including myself.
Impeccable delivery, content and value provided. I commend you for your efforts. You are helping countless people no doubt, myself included.
Dear Steven,
I wanted to express my heartfelt gratitude for sharing your post. It has had a transformative impact on my life. Thanks to your guidance, I have successfully managed to quit alcohol for almost a month. While I wasn't a heavy drinker, I would indulge on Friday nights. However, your advice of using a simple yes or no answer method has been incredibly helpful in staying on track.
I wanted to share with you my progress and the reward system I've implemented. I set up a whiteboard, dividing it into monthly milestones and goals. I'm proud to say that most days, I've been able to mark five dots, indicating that I achieved what I set out to do. Additionally, I've made a point of consuming 2 liters of water every day and strictly adhering to the rule of no alcohol.
Looking forward to the coming month, I have set two main goals. Firstly, I am determined to cut out most processed foods from my diet, focusing on nourishing my body with wholesome and nutritious options. Of course, I am allowing myself a treat once or twice during the month to maintain balance and prevent feeling too restricted.
Secondly, I am committed to undertaking a 36-hour fast. This challenge will not only contribute to my overall well-being but also aligns with my goal of improving my health, both physically and mentally.
Steven, I want to thank you once again for being a source of inspiration and guidance. Your post has been a driving force behind the positive changes I am making in my life. I greatly appreciate your support.
Looking forward to continuing this journey and sharing my progress with you in the future.
Best regards,
Josh Potter
Hi Josh, thank you so much for sharing your goals and experiences with us. We're so glad you took so much away from the episode, and we wish you all the best moving forwards on your journey! Team DOAC
Happy New Year!. Everyone says read books to improve. I say these 1hr videos have so much information as well. They are like a mini book. So for me listening to more of these is my resolution. Keep them coming, Stephen. Thank you 👍👌👋
You have brought me to tears! I can’t express. I am SO grateful for this you have unearthed my blind spot with my stunted weightloss journey. Thank you thank you!!
Thank you Steven . A nice refresher for me. Thank you for encouraging us to build community.
Your videos always show how much work and preparation you put in. Kudos to you bro!
Thank you for this Steve. This is exactly what I need as the year comes to an end.
you are so good at what you do. this podcast is life changing. I'm grateful that I've got the opportunity to learn these gems of lessons. God bless you. I'm going to share this to my community
So grateful to find your podcasts. They really uplift and inspire. Keep going in 2023! ❤
The final question made me emotional for some reason. I love this video and thank you for sharing your wisdom, this has already helped me in many ways.
Man, this guy is amazing. Learned a whole lot in under an hour. *Thank you* for your time and energy. 💪🏽🖤
This podcast is everything and has changed my life. Absolutely amazing and mind blowing.
Great summary and highly inspiring! I jumped ahead and gave up smoking and THC before the year ended, next year will be my best so far, because I am making it the best.
Something I've found helpful is establishing the habit of reviewing my options for the day within my morning routine (usually while I shower). It's like a designated time to identify "cues" and familiarize myself with what alternatives I have available. Using the "Stress as the puppetmaster" analogy, it's like taking time to reconnect the strings. take that with a grain of salt though, I'm far from having my shit together lol.
Great information. Thank you so much for condensing it into easy to digest pieces. Setting a resolution for 2023, now that I know it's not doomed to failure.
Love your diction. So easy to understand you.
I like how you are saying very important things effortlessly yet it is very clear that there is a lot of research that has gone into this podcast. It's not just about opinion and experiences but the information is also backed by science. I haven't watched so many podcasts but I definitely know when I've stumbled on a Gem. Keep it up! Elaine from Kenya😊
Thank you Steven for another great video! Happy New Year to you and the tribe! May the new year bring you 1M subscribers, I've done my part! Blessings for all in 2023.
Thank you Steven ,for NOT giving Up when you felt like ,AND YES iam going To ACHIEVE my Goals This Year
Kudos for having this up on Spotify so I can download it and listen on the underground ✨👊🏾✨