10 things to never do with a man.. learning this would set you free

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  • čas přidán 19. 05. 2024
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  • @triplegrace155
    @triplegrace155 Před měsícem +1802

    1. Never chase a man.
    2. Do not support a man financially.
    3. Never compare your man to another man.
    4. Never have a baby with a man before marriage.
    5. Never let a man move in with you. Especially if the lease is in your name.
    6. Don't talk to your ex about your current man.
    7. Never go past, Go, when a man says , "I'm not ready for a relationship.
    8. Stop doing anything that you feel the need to prove yourself worthy.
    9. Never tell a man over and over again what he already knows he is doing is wrong. The issue is, he does not care.
    10.Never force a man to do his part. He doesn't want to be there.
    Bonus. Never try to control a man so he won't cheat. Your part is to observe him so you know who he is.

    • @j_u_ss_y
      @j_u_ss_y Před měsícem +64

      Beautiful
      Thank you ❤

    • @BL3SSed-Bliss
      @BL3SSed-Bliss Před měsícem +27

      Number 3 can be very difficult. Number 9 can be tough if he says and acts like he does care. Some men are absentminded.
      I feel sad for them, because they deserve love, too, and I oft think of my sweet little cousin who is developmentally delayed (and severely hearing impaired), whose dad also has a language processing disorder. (I also have/had a friend like that.) So, I try to be compassionate. Still, I know that _I_ am not capable of having a partner who is like that, but I always hope that _someone_ is. I'd be _devastated_ and heartbroken if he isn't loved as he _so greatly_ deserves. 🙏🏽
      Life is crazy. Thanks for the list, OP. I couldn't watch this tonight. Good list, though (to Kirk); the rest is cake [for me], most are inherent.

    • @konsciousKirk
      @konsciousKirk  Před měsícem +50

      Thank you so much❤️

    • @tiffocleopatra8382
      @tiffocleopatra8382 Před měsícem +99

      You missed my favorite: don’t depend on potential

    • @sayoutube0415
      @sayoutube0415 Před měsícem +8

      Thank you very much 💗

  • @melanieharris5595
    @melanieharris5595 Před měsícem +448

    If your absence means nothing to a man, your presence doesn’t matter

    • @indrarampersad5781
      @indrarampersad5781 Před měsícem +11

      Love this

    • @martell203
      @martell203 Před měsícem +15

      I did agree. If your absence means nothing to him, then your presence will irritate him.

    • @ericasparks283
      @ericasparks283 Před měsícem +4

      Right on

    • @FEMININELY_ME
      @FEMININELY_ME Před 25 dny +4

      Wowwwwwwwwwww!!! 👏🏽🙌🏽

    • @empressniki11
      @empressniki11 Před 24 dny +6

      This made me cry ..hurts when put so plainly...TRUTH. IN. MY. FACE😢

  • @anonymousreview1049
    @anonymousreview1049 Před měsícem +232

    When a man tells you he’s not ready….believe him and go your way. Please.

    • @Kam876.
      @Kam876. Před měsícem +8

      Amen!
      Look and listen...the answers are there. Dont give yourself a stroke, it is what it is

    • @maryannifeanacho4219
      @maryannifeanacho4219 Před 14 dny

      What if he changes his mind and comes after you once you've pulled Away?

    • @anonymousreview1049
      @anonymousreview1049 Před 14 dny +3

      Reject him.

    • @Kam876.
      @Kam876. Před 14 dny +3

      @@maryannifeanacho4219 most time it's a manipulation, control and attention tactic. They don't want you, but can't stand the thought of you no longer chasing them. It's disgusting actually

    • @teniolaayeni4625
      @teniolaayeni4625 Před 21 hodinou

      EXACTLY! That Yoyo Spirit... It's saying TO THAT PERSO.N.. that thet WEREN'T GOOD ENOUGH THE FIRST TIME ....(they just keeping You on HOLD or Standby, Just in case whatever they're doing to keep them from committing from you doesn't work out).🤦🏽‍♀️@anonymousreview1049 If they backstroke and weasel their way back into your life and proclaim sincerity.Then they definitely have an AGENDA...smh
      I'm in AGREEMENT TO REJECT THEM, because That other party or person has subliminally rejected them already.

  • @spowell8677
    @spowell8677 Před 19 dny +67

    I always say men make time for who they want to make time for.

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 Před 8 dny +2

      Very true. You’d be surprised how many men look for a woman to call and text them first. It’s crazy out here.

  • @tcooper7101
    @tcooper7101 Před měsícem +525

    May I add to the list:
    Don't make a man your CHOICE, when he only makes you an OPTION.

    • @brendacrawford343
      @brendacrawford343 Před měsícem +8

      Oooohhhhhh that’s good stuff!!!!

    • @twila1968
      @twila1968 Před měsícem +13

      Don’t try to make a man live saved, go to church, pray, stop drinking, smoking or running the streets. Bonus : Vet a man (please put a time limit on how long you vet him(. Vet-to evaluate for possible approval or acceptance… Do not allow a man to call you his woman, girly, or claim you as his own until you have vetted him well.

    • @janicewyatt8516
      @janicewyatt8516 Před 26 dny

      That's a good summary

    • @sebclay1526
      @sebclay1526 Před 20 dny +1

      For sure, women must use their Hod given 🎁 and they can be happily ever after, it's OK to loosen up. I got my 💰 and my man. I am women, he is man. He chases and I let him catch me most of the time.

    • @sebclay1526
      @sebclay1526 Před 20 dny +2

      God given feminity is not weakness, it's powerful 🙏

  • @SheritaLee-er4sp
    @SheritaLee-er4sp Před měsícem +767

    My mom told me don't bring NO BABIES home without a husband!!. My uncle told me once if a man wants to be with you then you should be good enough for him to marry you.

  • @StephTellnTruth
    @StephTellnTruth Před 29 dny +203

    Ive spent the last 1.5 years alone and focusing on my relationship with God and healing. God loves us FAR MORE than any man will. His Love is Forever and He never fails us or leaves us. So in the absence of a man look to God because He is the Maker of Men. And if He wants you to find love He will bring it to you. Life is too short to chase men who dont care. Chase God for He Cares for YOU

  • @Yulondia5225
    @Yulondia5225 Před měsícem +493

    "If your absence means nothing to a man, your presence don't either." Cold-Blooded‼#masterclass2024

    • @sandrao2901
      @sandrao2901 Před měsícem +11

      💯 That's a bar right there!!

    • @275MsParis
      @275MsParis Před měsícem +11

      That hit different when he said that

    • @originalmix2546
      @originalmix2546 Před měsícem +7

      so true - ask me how I know 🔥

    • @aquafina6544
      @aquafina6544 Před měsícem +9

      POWERFUL WORDS... that dug deeply and ripped and rearranged everything from with in. 😢😢 💔

    • @vernitajones884
      @vernitajones884 Před měsícem +3

      Amen

  • @melanieharris5595
    @melanieharris5595 Před měsícem +274

    If a man loves you, when you hurt, he hurts❤️

    • @Mimi-zg2bh
      @Mimi-zg2bh Před měsícem +21

      Or he heals the situation when possible. A man who loves you wants to "fix " things. Either way, he will be there for you.

    • @lmewborn4865
      @lmewborn4865 Před měsícem +3

      This is so real....

    • @notperfect2440
      @notperfect2440 Před 15 dny +4

      My ex didn't love me 😢

  • @noemiareis1121
    @noemiareis1121 Před měsícem +289

    conclusion: accept the mistakes you've already made, look to the future and focus on the present make money, take care of your own and stay single, it's ok

    • @tiffaniw8270
      @tiffaniw8270 Před měsícem +8

      Amen!❤

    • @noemiareis1121
      @noemiareis1121 Před měsícem

      @@tiffaniw8270 ❤️

    • @nolubynature9513
      @nolubynature9513 Před měsícem +3

      💯❤️

    • @mswest4706
      @mswest4706 Před měsícem +4

      Facts

    • @tatifelton6919
      @tatifelton6919 Před měsícem +7

      I swear!!! And I'm fortunate enough to be dating someone that I feel is the one but I've been here before too and definitely approve this message 😂😂

  • @Butterflii37
    @Butterflii37 Před měsícem +150

    My mom told me never live with a man that is not your husband!

    • @ElyseeAmaraldThomas
      @ElyseeAmaraldThomas Před 22 dny

      But you can give him your body and let him vomit 🤮🤢 in you. Right ?

  • @candiddeclarations7364
    @candiddeclarations7364 Před měsícem +143

    Pray to the Lord to send the right man.

    • @JustMe-dn9fh
      @JustMe-dn9fh Před měsícem +4

      Yes, but also you must put yourself in positions and environments to meet that right person.

    • @valeriacromartie9401
      @valeriacromartie9401 Před 26 dny +5

      And be specific when you're asking God for your husband!

    • @javajive01
      @javajive01 Před 24 dny +4

      No, God gave you the ability to choose.

  • @deborahlewis967
    @deborahlewis967 Před 13 dny +17

    I so needed this. I kept repeating to myself when someone shows you who they are, believe them but kept allowing him back in my space, Long distance.. God has sent me many signs. Praying, Fasting and still acting weak. Ignoring the spirt that dwells but Tonight June 17th at 11:46 pm, This God Led video was it. Had a 5 min Cry...Blocked all contact with no warning. Now I heal....I will be OK....Thank You for confirming what I knew, Felt and have heard in some Form for a few months.....My Boaz is out there. If you stay with the wrong one, God can never send you the right one. Now that the distraction is over, I need quality time with my Father.....This too shall pass....

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 Před 8 dny +2

      Bless you and good fortune. Stay strong

  • @rukam3
    @rukam3 Před měsícem +47

    Never let a man tell you twice, he doesn’t want to be with you or marry you.

  • @nerviceniles2272
    @nerviceniles2272 Před 12 dny +15

    Never make a man tell you that he don't want you more than once.
    He will be showing you by his actions.

  • @empresshunt7280
    @empresshunt7280 Před 20 dny +20

    My new answer to, “Why are you single?” Because God loves me more than a man ever could.

  • @melanieharris5595
    @melanieharris5595 Před měsícem +92

    Good lesson.
    Women are valuable treasures.
    A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing and attains favor from the Lord🙌🏾

  • @sharonwilliams4761
    @sharonwilliams4761 Před měsícem +109

    I made all these mistakes. Now I’m in control of me. You want me? Show me how much you want me.

    • @ElyseeAmaraldThomas
      @ElyseeAmaraldThomas Před 22 dny

      I'm glad that your eyes 👀 are open now. But what are you bringing to the table ?

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo Před 20 dny

      @@ElyseeAmaraldThomasshe is the table 🙄
      Relationship is not a business transaction. Incompetent good for nothing men always ask what a woman brings to the table cos he’s not masculine enough. Such men want to be the princess in the relationship. Might as well come
      Out of the closet. 🥴

    • @scorpiooct25
      @scorpiooct25 Před 14 dny +2

      Me too.

    • @hennisisyimon
      @hennisisyimon Před 23 hodinami

      Why do you women wait until you reach a certain age to talk like this. Coming from a younger woman, it doesn't look good on yall when you all wait till yall gave away your precious youth and are over 35 talking like this. I knew all of this since I was younger than 18, and I never did anything he listed. We, as women, gave men power they are not do not deserve. They only have the leverage they have because women do not understand their true power.

  • @cherryblossom2215
    @cherryblossom2215 Před měsícem +98

    On the subject of letting a man live with you, my grandmother always use to say “why would he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free” and “never give your bf husband privileges “

  • @lorenatapere2832
    @lorenatapere2832 Před měsícem +54

    Men will dislike you because you are standing up for your sisters. You are telling the truth about men' behaviour 😊

  • @nicolecrichard72
    @nicolecrichard72 Před měsícem +105

    For those who have an ear, 📝Learn baby Learn!

  • @shakiramallette7744
    @shakiramallette7744 Před měsícem +122

    He ain’t never lied!! Damn I wish I knew this shyt 25 years ago! B/c this shyt is sooooo true!!!!

  • @sharonwilliams4461
    @sharonwilliams4461 Před měsícem +265

    This video is me! I was that woman who didn’t see her worth! It’s has been 4 days of no contact and it was bitter sweet but today it’s on the sweeter side. By me watching your videos, you helped me recognize how relationships should be. 🙏🙏🙏 I am so done with the foolishness.

    • @ladynature5
      @ladynature5 Před měsícem +31

      YAY... This Queen Has Woke Up 😊🫂🌷

    • @gracea4229
      @gracea4229 Před měsícem +16

      Good for you!! You go, girl!!

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs Před měsícem +23

      It’s been 8 days no contact but I’m holding on strong. I’m hurt and crying but I will not contact him.

    • @ms.b2130
      @ms.b2130 Před měsícem +8

      Keep going 🎉🎉🎉

    • @appl3pie328
      @appl3pie328 Před měsícem +5

      This video is true words 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @prettynatural1973
    @prettynatural1973 Před měsícem +165

    Do not be friends with an ex.

    • @joycenash372
      @joycenash372 Před měsícem +5

      that part

    • @goddessofpeacelove5341
      @goddessofpeacelove5341 Před měsícem +6

      Facts

    • @sonjajetter197
      @sonjajetter197 Před 22 dny +6

      Complete bs. I get along with all my exes except one real ass.

    • @BLESSEDME222
      @BLESSEDME222 Před 21 dnem

      @@sonjajetter197b!tch 🙄you’re still fvckin your exes 🤷‍♀️

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo Před 20 dny +10

      @@sonjajetter197she said don’t be friends, not don’t get along 🥴

  • @abcdef-ce5kc
    @abcdef-ce5kc Před měsícem +55

    This video is on point. I was talking to a gentleman and he began lacking in the communication department. I brought it to his attention and shared my expectations and what I needed in terms of communication. He voiced understanding and started slacking again. I told him he was a grown divorced man, I wasn't going to attempt to train him how to communicate with me. He was aware. I told him I knew I wasn't a priority for him and I shut it down and moved on. All is well.

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 Před 8 dny +3

      Good for you! He thought you would just except the bullcrap from him. It’s better to show them better then tell them

    • @Carolyn100000
      @Carolyn100000 Před dnem

      You did the right thing.

  • @lovemusic751
    @lovemusic751 Před 19 dny +9

    If your absence means nothing to a man, your presence means nothing too.

  • @cookie-gb3xn
    @cookie-gb3xn Před měsícem +107

    I have a zero tolerance for bull crap!!! period!!!

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Před měsícem +2

      You have to know the difference when someone is playing you and when he's just being human. Don't be so bitter.

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo Před 20 dny +2

      @@danilaroche1156you are right. Some men or women are just immature and need a bit of a nudge in the right direction.
      But ain’t nobody got no time for that!

  • @amayzn30
    @amayzn30 Před měsícem +55

    Be in a loving, trusting, respectful relationship with yourself first. Allow for the universe to match and gravitate someone to you with similar energy. Know thyself and you will know who's for you❣️

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Před měsícem +4

      We don't have a relationship with the Universe. We have it with the Lord who loves & cares for us.

  • @Mrs.Claus4391
    @Mrs.Claus4391 Před 16 dny +6

    MANY YOUNG WOMEN NEED TO HEAR THIS YOUNG MAN…. I HOPE THEY REALLY HEAR YOU AND TAKE HEED!!

  • @MsButterscotch13
    @MsButterscotch13 Před měsícem +53

    The most profound statement that resonated with me was, 'he liked you the way you were when he first met you.' Which translates to Don't change & don't do more.

  • @katflorez7280
    @katflorez7280 Před měsícem +18

    It all boils down to knowing your worth. Never allow ANYBODY to treat you as an afterthought or to breadcrumb you. If they can only send a text saying "hi" everyday and nothing else, do the same and go on your merry way. This world is filled with millions of people who can and will give you what you deserve without you having to be only an option.
    Turn the tables and you be the one with the options, you be the one who controls who deserves crumbs and who deserves the whole loaf.

  • @Ms.T-s3k
    @Ms.T-s3k Před měsícem +73

    That's one thing I've never did was chase a man

  • @wynettewalker2811
    @wynettewalker2811 Před měsícem +116

    You are like the big brother. Thank you for helping us

  • @moonchild66
    @moonchild66 Před měsícem +35

    He knows what hes doing.....he just dsnt care!!!!. Boooom🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥truthhhhh right there

  • @saraaquino1840
    @saraaquino1840 Před měsícem +24

    Not gonna lie the one thing on this list that i did wrong was continuously telling this men over and over and over again repeatedly things he did that were wrong and how he needed to put effort in spending time with me and he just would not change that at all . I got tired. He knew what he was doing

  • @ladynature5
    @ladynature5 Před měsícem +49

    Damn...Do I Really Want A Relationship ⁉️

  • @phyllisjohnson8456
    @phyllisjohnson8456 Před 25 dny +10

    This man is telling nothing but the TRUTH, this is daddy advice. What a loving father would tell his daughter.

  • @hereisayana8207
    @hereisayana8207 Před měsícem +51

    Wow if only i knew this stuff as a teenager!!!! You have no idea how much of a Blessing you are to women that didn't have the privilege of learning this growing up. A lot of men only want their daughters and sisters to learn this stuff because they don't want them to be used for sex... but when it happens to woman that didn't have men in their families teaching them things,,, we are blamed for not knowing

  • @ShellyBomb
    @ShellyBomb Před měsícem +54

    Ten (10) Things NOT to Do in regards to a Man:
    1. Don't chase a man;
    2. Don't support a man;
    3. Never compare a man to another man;
    4. Never have a baby for a man - before marriage;
    5. Never let a man move-in with you;
    6. Don't talk about your current man with your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend;
    7. Don't "Go Past - GO" if a man is NOT ready;
    8. Stop doing more than you are already doing; if they are NOT currently appreciating what you are doing now;
    9. Never insult yourself by telling a man what he is already doing wrong with you; and
    10. Never force a man to do his part!
    Bonus: NEVER try to control a man in order that they don't CHEAT! Just observe ... 🧐

    • @walkabout123
      @walkabout123 Před měsícem +8

      In addition to not talking about your current man with your ex, I would add "Don't talk about your ex or exes with your current man."
      Also, "Don't discuss your sexual history with a man." This includes not telling him how many men you've been with, what race they are, or how old or young they were. It's none of their business. The only exception would be if you have HIV or AIDS, or if you're transgender. Your potential partner has a right to know that so they can make an informed decision about whether or not they want to be with you. Otherwise, keep your dating info to yourself.

    • @ShellyBomb
      @ShellyBomb Před měsícem

      @@walkabout123 Well said ... ❤️‍🩹

  • @macknonymus
    @macknonymus Před měsícem +15

    And if a woman is insecure she will never be worth it till she overcomes herself

  • @Healerslightnlove
    @Healerslightnlove Před měsícem +37

    I agree and the fact this is coming from a male..I hope some young ladies are understanding this. Do not chase what ain’t for you! Don’t take care of a grown adult! Know your worth! Leave the table when you are no longer being served! All in a nutshell

  • @with_natureinmind
    @with_natureinmind Před měsícem +58

    I wish my absent father would have sat me down and spoke with me like this. I struggled in relationships due to lack of knowledge, guidance and parental care. Thank you for opening my eyes so that I dont become someone's 'parent' and keep the cycle of dysfunction going. Men and women change when men and women change!
    Many blessings... I'm sharing your messages far and wide here in the 🇬🇧. Peace ✌🏾

    • @Ssookawai
      @Ssookawai Před měsícem +8

      most fathers don't have these talks either... An absent father is a suffering and a violent one is too, you didn't miss on much, trust me. God bless you, we're lucky to be in such times where others can give us such knowledge for free without even meeting them.

    • @with_natureinmind
      @with_natureinmind Před měsícem +5

      @@Ssookawai blessings to you also and you're absolutely correct. Im so grateful for this information at this moment, as it is making a huge difference going forward. Peace 😊

    • @katflorez7280
      @katflorez7280 Před měsícem +4

      What really sucks is that society has taught women that they should do everything for "the man". This has gone on for centuries. This is why many women will put up with all this bull crap. It's about time that women are empowered and shown that they are better than being an option and better than being breadcrumbed. We need to see our own worth. Women should know that they are important and that their presence is valuable. Therefore, in a world of billions of people, you don't have to stay with someone who doesn't value you. There are so many in the world who would cherish the knowledge that you are there.

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo Před 20 dny

      @@katflorez7280well put!

    • @sonyb9094
      @sonyb9094 Před 15 dny +1

      Today, I heard this pastor say, " Being futhered is the fruit of being fathered!!!

  • @vodkavuitton
    @vodkavuitton Před 28 dny +10

    Never insult yourself by telling a man what ge already knows he's doing wrong. The issue is they just don't care!!! Whewww! This is not just fir romantic relationships 💥💥💥 BOOM

  • @gracebrown9526
    @gracebrown9526 Před měsícem +25

    Kirk, I promise you one day I am going to host a ladies and young ladies gathering and have you as Guest speakers.

  • @EternalflameC.L.
    @EternalflameC.L. Před měsícem +24

    Baby girl what he’s really saying be single as to come across a man like that is one in a million.

    • @vodkavuitton
      @vodkavuitton Před 28 dny +1

      😹😹 this truth is why I'll never envy another woman's relationship like it's ok sis somebody's gotta settle 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @beautybyteal6422
      @beautybyteal6422 Před 9 dny +1

      Basically I don’t have anymore time to waste I rather get my money up and travel .

  • @rosemariecampbell7205
    @rosemariecampbell7205 Před 27 dny +10

    On behalf of all Women id like to say .....God bless you sir!!!

  • @deeliciousArrangemen
    @deeliciousArrangemen Před měsícem +15

    I Definitely Do NOT See this as "Victim Blaming" I See this as more as Guidelines or Conscious Decisions To Make (or Not to Make) To Not Become a Victim in the First Place!

  • @MsCoolGemini
    @MsCoolGemini Před 22 dny +5

    Best 11 rules to learn from early beforehand rather than afterwards.😊

  • @sandrat3500
    @sandrat3500 Před 23 dny +8

    You are so right. If a man is not ready to commit but wants your body still then he should not be ready for your body

  • @dianamashiloane361-uv2ff
    @dianamashiloane361-uv2ff Před měsícem +33

    I have just learned to have guts!
    Back bone, stand by myself 1st!
    Thnx again for the big best school 😢

  • @TheFizziologieNetwork
    @TheFizziologieNetwork Před měsícem +38

    I’ve done all these things🙈. I’m 42 now. My last partner of 10 years passed away two and a half years ago now, so I have found myself single again. Recently started dating. I’m approached a lot… but pursuit is very limited. Very few men consistently call, reach out and ask for time. I’ve had plenty of men tell me to call them sometime… I know what it is to be pursued. I know what it feels like to be loved. These days I’m more patient… and stubborn when I run out of patience. I figure, since I want to be in love and married, I will be…

    • @dcg31free
      @dcg31free Před měsícem +16

      Sis! Im 43 and my husband passed away 4 years ago. We got married when i was 27. Being Single after a soul mate relationship is tricky. I too know what true love feels like so I wont settle and can't fathom being desperate. Self Love is everything! Date yourself too :) I'm talking, getting dressed to the God's and going out and having intriguing conversations then calling it a night, with no expectations.

    • @TheFizziologieNetwork
      @TheFizziologieNetwork Před měsícem

      @@dcg31free ❤️🌺Yes! All that…

    • @moonchild66
      @moonchild66 Před měsícem +4

      ❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏💯

  • @almariedevilliers8927
    @almariedevilliers8927 Před měsícem +11

    I can't remember when last a persons words made me sit up and pay attention. Many thanks for this

  • @pauletteanderson8993
    @pauletteanderson8993 Před 12 dny +4

    Never let a man tell you twice he dont want to be with you. Never force a man to do his part. Good teaching .

  • @QueenOfNY10
    @QueenOfNY10 Před měsícem +6

    I’ve never been faced with these problems , my late husband spoiled me , if nothing else he was a great provider ❤

  • @ladynature5
    @ladynature5 Před měsícem +40

    This Channel Is The REAL DEAL...💯

  • @cordella4746
    @cordella4746 Před měsícem +22

    Been with this man for 10 yrs and he has done nothing for me no special outings I'm the one doing everything and i mean everything for him. He has never done his part😢. You hit the nail right on the head

    • @kckgirl78
      @kckgirl78 Před 29 dny +10

      Well Sis, now that you know, GO!! 👋🏽 👋🏽

    • @brookslew
      @brookslew Před 21 dnem +5

      Time to move on.

    • @soniagodlieb1896
      @soniagodlieb1896 Před 12 dny +1

      JESUSSS AND WHAT ARE DOING NOW.
      MY GODDD.
      I FEEL SOOO SORRY FOR UUUUU.
      DO HAVE THE STRENGTH TO LEAVE HIM.

    • @Ms__Respect_love
      @Ms__Respect_love Před 10 dny +2

      Move on and forgive yourself.

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 Před 8 dny

      “ run forest run “ 😂

  • @victoriadream
    @victoriadream Před měsícem +14

    My ex bf did talk to his ex abt how he was not happy in our relationship. I dumped him. I can’t trust him.

  • @lindafeggans7934
    @lindafeggans7934 Před měsícem +17

    Finally someone is telling the truth. Thank you.

  • @deborahhilliard6152
    @deborahhilliard6152 Před 20 hodinami +1

    This is what the young girls should listen to ages 17-29 years of ages. This is great wisdom.

  • @kimfatica2228
    @kimfatica2228 Před 2 dny +1

    I wish I had heard all of this 35 years ago. My life would have been so much better. Three failed marriages later, I advise all the young women to LISTEN!!!!!

  • @marcishears3774
    @marcishears3774 Před měsícem +11

    Yea this información needs to be heard by young women just starting to date.
    I was unfamiliar with how men think or operate.
    Fast forward 20 years Im single and loving life. I had my first kid last year from a donor. And this is the happiest I’ve ever been. Sometimes I think about all the time I wasted in relationships. To realize the best relationship is with myself ❤ (men and relationships are so overrated)

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 Před 8 dny

      Congratulations on your first kid. And you are right, relationships/sex are soo overrated

  • @TeresaLavonne6919
    @TeresaLavonne6919 Před měsícem +5

    I'm in tears because I did a few of these things for years 😢 . I finally stop dealing with him.

  • @bevcoop6bc
    @bevcoop6bc Před 19 dny +2

    This is the 10 best lessons about men that all women should learn to have. This is the truth period

  • @deborahwrightsman3460
    @deborahwrightsman3460 Před měsícem +11

    I truly appreciate everything you say, I’m 66 years old and I have done all the things you say not to do and it was not good. I have been alone for 15yrs. And I’m at peace. Now I’m feeling like I would like to have a healthy relationship finally! So I agree with everything you said, thank you so much for your wisdom. And I hope you don’t mind me saying you are very pleasant to look at too.

    • @mspiggles6850
      @mspiggles6850 Před 22 dny +1

      I’m 54, twice divorced, 2 children and I have done everything he says not to do and I can confirm, it does NOT work. Finally, on my own and living a peaceful life. Maybe when I’m done healing, I will be ready for a healthy relationship.

  • @kadinethompson9442
    @kadinethompson9442 Před měsícem +4

    Don’t build up no man! I was the build a bear woman and when that man reached where he was going guess where I’m at. Kicked out with NOTHING!

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 Před 8 dny

      Wow sorry to hear. A man will be with you until he feels like he can do better. I will never build a man just so he can leave and find what he really wants. A guy wanted me to help him with a business. Not!!

  • @tiffanyelias2396
    @tiffanyelias2396 Před měsícem +13

    YESSSS YOU ARE RIGHT...DONT LET HIM MOVE IN.

  • @user-cz3md6nc7q
    @user-cz3md6nc7q Před 16 dny +2

    When I say that it's freeing to hear a man acknowledge truth... and yet I'm still single.

  • @sandramirekuayim1161
    @sandramirekuayim1161 Před měsícem +18

    At least I won't insult myself anymore by drawing his attention towards what he already knows he's doing. That could be self demeaning. And this could even apply to a job that don't appreciate you. The earlier you acknowledge the reality, the better. Thanks a lot Kirk. It's time!

  • @Somegirl3602
    @Somegirl3602 Před měsícem +13

    Perfect advise, hope some ladies are listening cause not listening can mess your life up for good.

    • @positivevibe7684
      @positivevibe7684 Před měsícem +3

      @ somegirl Not necessarily. I've done alost all the things he mentioned in my younger years. And I can honestly say they have been blessing in disguise. Taught me very valuable lessons. Fast forward, I've been married for almost 40 years. I'm doing pretty darn good. Learning a great deal of wisdom on my life journey. ❤❤

  • @tawandahaulcy8700
    @tawandahaulcy8700 Před měsícem +19

    Love it! Observe a man's character. Thank you

  • @jenniferhaynes8625
    @jenniferhaynes8625 Před měsícem +26

    This is good advice. Don't give money easily. Don't have a baby without being his wife.And so many more nuggets of wisdom.You are not victim blaming your are being straight to the point. And if people listen they can earn some knowledge that can help them.

    • @ladynature5
      @ladynature5 Před měsícem +1

      PRETTY MUCH ❗

    • @sinceresong9907
      @sinceresong9907 Před měsícem

      Marriage is no guarantee, especially these days. Being married can end up wah harder to get out of the situation.

  • @ladynature5
    @ladynature5 Před měsícem +28

    QUEEN'S...If Your Tired Of Being Taken Down Through There Your Betta LISTEN ❗

  • @carolinejoseph7411
    @carolinejoseph7411 Před měsícem +5

    Wow…I’m 53 and only wish this advise had of come to me 30 yrs ago! This is real talk, straight talk no beating around the bush….done made all these mistakes because I never had a strong male role model to show me what to look for or a strong female role model to show me what to ask for….learned a lot of these through mistakes…keep up your good work…appreciate you 🙏🙏🙏

  • @SheritaLee-er4sp
    @SheritaLee-er4sp Před měsícem +20

    When you know what you have there is no need to compare only those who don't know will compare you to someone else.

    • @BL3SSed-Bliss
      @BL3SSed-Bliss Před měsícem +2

      I'll have to watch tomorrow, but your statement is not necessarily true.
      For instance, I can know I have a good man, but the sexual intimacy is _terrible,_ and it can be tough to not compare to an ex who was _fantastic._ Also, the new man might be a bit more trustworthy, but not nearly as generous. Kind, but not as intelligent. Sweet, but not as spiritual. I can know what I have, but still know what I had. It's hard to not compare.

  • @naturalmysticone7721
    @naturalmysticone7721 Před 4 dny +1

    Please please please please please listen to this man's wise advice. At 50 years old I can say this advice is golden. Save yourself a heartache and the hard knocks.

  • @Pauline-zn8ev
    @Pauline-zn8ev Před měsícem +2

    If he wants you, he will do anything for you. You wont have to question his love. If you have to, then he does not love you.

  • @cocodachocolateunicorn89
    @cocodachocolateunicorn89 Před měsícem +6

    I've done ALL 10 BUT I am learning and listening and definitely taking notes to pass along to my twin daughters! Thank you!!!!

  • @tanyasharadamba1264
    @tanyasharadamba1264 Před měsícem +8

    This list needs to be global curriculum.✨️

  • @Houseforlife
    @Houseforlife Před měsícem +7

    The moral of the story is that you cannot raise a grown man. Love yourself first and find inner peace. This is too much work just to find love. smh

  • @mari-bj2ym
    @mari-bj2ym Před měsícem +5

    You are very wise...learnt these the hard way! But i know better now.

  • @moneypenny3050
    @moneypenny3050 Před 25 dny +5

    You are telling the truth and hopefully helping an entire generation to conduct themselves in a manner that will benefit their life.

  • @Shannonrogersdancer
    @Shannonrogersdancer Před měsícem +16

    Thank you beautiful soul ❤ I didn't understand another person could be so intentionally cruel. I believed lies for 10yrs and your straight talking no BS approach has been so wonderful for me.
    I'm really grateful for you 🌟

  • @275MsParis
    @275MsParis Před měsícem +5

    Love the bonus. You can’t make a man or woman want you. You can’t make them love you etc etc etc. I could have used you when I was dating. I’ve giving up on dating because men play too many games and I rather be alone than to played with. I never knew what ghosting meant until I looked it up. I’ve been thru that with a man in his 60’s which I think he is too damn old to be ghosting someone. He was a some timey man one day he’s treating you good and the next he acted like you didn’t exist. So I fixed his ghosting problem and blocked and deleted him. I’ve had enough of the BS. I rather be in peace than to tolerate his shyt. I wish I hadn’t let my guard down with him. I regret doing so but I learned from that mistake and I will never let my guard down again with anyone. I will be 59 this September and playing games at this stage of my life I don’t have time for

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 Před 8 dny

      Yes the amount of blk men playing games in their 50’s and 60’s is ridiculous. Then when they get in their 70’s and sick and elderly that’s when they want to reach back and find you. No ninja keep moving along by yourself. 😂

  • @joyricherson4570
    @joyricherson4570 Před měsícem +25

    I let a man move in with me just because I wanted to see what the hype was. NEVER AGAIN!!!!

  • @TheElephantInTheRoom12
    @TheElephantInTheRoom12 Před měsícem +6

    King this is one of the best relationship advice videos that I've ever seen on CZcams. I am an MFT educator and watched countless videos on here but this one cuts to the chase and is all FACTS. Thanks for keeping it real...

  • @shereebarends1997
    @shereebarends1997 Před 24 dny +6

    We as women are the gems they have to labor to find and keep. All girls must be taught that.

  • @starletfranklin6031
    @starletfranklin6031 Před 15 dny +1

    This should be given to all junior high high school student girls all over the world

  • @user-hm5dm2gx3k
    @user-hm5dm2gx3k Před měsícem +20

    This is very hard and good information, keep it up love.

  • @rorenee5245
    @rorenee5245 Před měsícem +10

    Potential without consistent action emanating from inside one's own soul is like a seed that is buried...and never gets water nor sunshine.
    (Wow...that's pretty good, I just thought of that as I typed just now...hee, hee) 🥰

    • @Alicia.Ambiance
      @Alicia.Ambiance Před měsícem +3

      ‼️✨️Thissss. " Therefore it never grows, just remains stagnant" I hope that you don't mind me adding to your new catchphrase lol

    • @rorenee5245
      @rorenee5245 Před měsícem +1

      @@Alicia.Ambiance not at all...that's how light grows...🌹💥🙏🏽👑🥰💜

    • @Alicia.Ambiance
      @Alicia.Ambiance Před měsícem +1

      @@rorenee5245 And so it is ✨️Your message reminds me of one of my own personal quotes: "Good intentions without any kind of action is only considered as wishful thinking" - Co. Andrews ✨️

  • @JosannaMonik
    @JosannaMonik Před měsícem +3

    All great advice. Also it's good to separate on good terms, you don't have to be enemies, but a lot of people stay emotionally entangle with an ex for years because they are afraid of letting go. If he's not your current partner, he should not be your friend on Facebook, etc. Let him go.

  • @florencelayne4546
    @florencelayne4546 Před 2 dny +1

    Thank you for the wisdom you share! What I have learned is that when we value ourselves, wecwill not live from desperation or neediness. These are very low vibrational places from which to live. It's a pity that parents don't understand how to love their children to value themselves. They don't know how to instill value into their sons and daughters. When we know that we are Royalty - Created by The King of all Kings we will love ourselves unconditionally and learn to love others unconditionally, the way God loves us. I wish all women would be cherished and lifted up and the same for men. Sending the highest vibrations to all my Sisters. The one you are seeking is seeking you! Do not sell yourselves short! I love you and God loves you more!

  • @angeg100
    @angeg100 Před 23 dny +2

    I keep listening to this, to remind me not to ever take him back. He is trying to get me back, but it's his ego at play here. I have moved on even though I am focus on myself. I like how you say, "that's some BS❤

  • @ladyinspirit
    @ladyinspirit Před měsícem +19

    I sincerely love and respect your content 💗

  • @sarahpruter1546
    @sarahpruter1546 Před měsícem +13

    I loved this video. I can see how much I’ve grown and why I feel so much better about myself now. Thank you for the clarification 16:27 what not to do. For the record, I 100% agree with you. At 52 I’ve seen all kinds of things. I wish I learned all these lessons at 25.❤

  • @hazina1947
    @hazina1947 Před 18 dny +1

    Real talk. We sisters are juggling a lot with the visible and invisible chains imposed upon us by the dominant society...take your time and continue to love yourself first.

  • @theresabarnes4940
    @theresabarnes4940 Před 5 dny +1

    It's not victim shaming it's called knowledge
    This just a blessing to hear we have to own our responsibility in decision that we made acknowledge embrace and evolve and there is nothing wrong with looking back on mistakes you made.This was food for the soul and hopefully it help plenty women or men

  • @tammyevans5109
    @tammyevans5109 Před měsícem +4

    Thank you, I have started practicing these things. I just wished I knew them in my 20"s and 30's. Better late than never, I am single and much happier. it's okay to be single it's peaceful. Thank you for reiterating these things so I know that I'm am doing the correct things.

  • @sarahpruter1546
    @sarahpruter1546 Před měsícem +26

    Thank you for explaining “chasing a man”.

  • @user-wd7fn9zz8m
    @user-wd7fn9zz8m Před 2 hodinami

    I LOVE THIS! I learned the hard way that my man/ husband of 38 years just didn’t care. … didn’t want me anymore bc of years of desiring a non black mate . Once I was able to let go my blessings were able to flow in all areas of life!

  • @danawright8306
    @danawright8306 Před 14 dny +2

    All truths!!! Me my younger years, I made some of these choices, not now. Perhaps that's why I'm single!