Dale Carnegie's Quotes you should know Before you Get Old
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- Dale Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement. Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri, Dale Carnegie was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936), a bestseller that remains popular today.
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People who are older are often depressed not because they never trusted people or never loved anyone. Actually it's quite the opposite. They were young, they had their families, they got married, had children, had many friends, had their careers. They did love and trust their partners, their children, and their friends but, life changed, people change, then, they got older. Husband or wife left or died, friends moved away or died, grown children left home and so on and now children don't want to be bothered with their aging parents. They just don't give a damn. Beleive me things don't stay the same and it can happen to anyone once you start getting older plus everything seems to get more difficult with age. You get sick, you have an accident, you lose your home, you need surgery. Don't be too fast to judge older people You're life can change in the blink of an eye. It's certainly not because they didn't love or trust. It's not that easy for older people to make new friends Older people are more sensitive, nervous and not as capable of handling the punches anymore. People don't have a lot of friends and if they think they do then, they should ask themselves who are the truly good friends that they can count on. Most of their friends are probably just aquaintances, neighbours, coworkers but who are the few true friends. There's a saying that" if you have 1 or 2 really truly good friends in life then, you are blessed or you are very fortunate. The thing to learn here is to have compassion towards your fellow human being no matter how different they are and what they're going through because one day that might be you and you wouldn't like to be judged that your lonely because you did something wrong. We all make mistakes and we all have our time to learn. Yes some people learn faster than others but that doesn't mean they're better. Remember, everyone is on their own journey here on planet earth so, lets judge less and have more compassion for eachother ❤✌️
Most people are trashy and not worth the bother. Be your own friend. How to win friends and influence people. Just the title stinks of manipulation and duplicitousness.
I totally agree. What an intuitive and well put comment Thank you
Well said! My family is all gone and I’ve been naive and have been too trusting of people that were manipulative users with anterior motives because they wanted money or gossipy news. Many have been narcissistic, nasty people leaving me feeling like a walking zombie where I no longer trust anyone. I no longer really know if I want someone as a partner or not. In all honesty, I’m scared of getting older because I’m all alone. I’ve been lonely my whole life and many people are phonies. At best, I have acquaintances and nobody I would really say is a true friend. Your comment said exactly how I view the world and people in general. I’m good with names and faces. Many I see going about don’t even ask what my name is. My immediate family is long gone and I would like to join them wherever they are or in the emptiness of whatever happens when one passes. I have no children and not close to cousins. Too little, too late as I’m along in years. Who wants to really go out to dinner alone or on a trip somewhere alone? You look around and everyone is with their other or family. I’d like all these people to go through the holidays completely alone and not be invited over so you’re not alone and even when someone does think of including you it feels as though you’re violating another family and their time together.
@@jackinthebox6143 I totally agree with you
@@OSTARAEB4 I get what you're going through as I'm going pretty much through the same thing. You're not alone many are going through this these days and it's worse than ever. Even the younger generations are complaining about this. The world seems to have gotten a lot colder in the past 3 years. I go out for walks and I go into shops, not always buying anything and sometimes I end up having a conversation with someone or I talk to some of the homeless and if I can spare change I will give it to them. You'd be surprised at how many are ok to talk with and no I don't go anywhere with them and I don't take anyone home. It's just to get out of the house a little and have some normal human contact. A pet is a good thing also if you're up to it and have the time. I just lost both my cats not too long ago and I thought I would die but thinking maybe I'll adopt another one in a couple of months. I won't adopt a kitten though, I don't have the energy anymore but there are some poor older animals sitting at the shelter waiting for someone to take them home to love them and take care of them. They're lonely to. Of course it's not everyone's cup of tea. Some people buy bird seeds, peanuts in the shell and go to a park or wherever to feed these animals. I live in the city downtown so there's more people around. It's a lot more lonelier if someone lives in a rural area. I love the country side but I wouldn't want to live there. OSTARAEB4 don't give up but be cautious and wise. ❤️✌️
My dear wife died at 68, almost 5 years ago. She was my life. Soon thereafter, I adopted my dog. We immediately bonded. He is never more than a few feet from me at all times. A few months after my wife died, my oldest son and his family offered to sell their house and move in with me (I have a big house). A few months later they moved in with my (then) 3 and 5 year-old grandsons. It’s been like a 2nd chapter for me. I do all the cooking and shopping, put them on the school bus in the morning and meet the bus when they come home - with my dog Prince wagging his tail beside me. I’ve gotten active in a small church with my grandsons who are both ringing the bell, lighting the candles, and taking the offering. I am busy. Too busy to feel sorry for myself. I thank God for my blessings everyday. I am a lucky man.
Your lucky because you made your luck
God truly blessed you!! 😊
So pleased for you but you also did so much for your family when they needed it! Some older people aren't able to do that!
you’re a good man ❤
Yes one must be positive.
I'd rather be lonely alone than to be with someone and feel alone.
True friends will cry when u leave, fake friends will leave when u cry.
great quote!
I’ll have to remember all of this when I get old. I’m only 92 now.
Great attitude!
I'll have to remember also. I'm 57 now. Congratulations 🎉
You are only middle-aged! 😊
That's exactly why you feel young. Age is a number - and not an entitlement to be taken care of by others. All this issue about age become blurry when money and entitlement get involved.
i love your attitude keep up the good work
As someone who has lost many members of the family, but worst of all , my husband who was 38 and I was 34, with ,2 small children, I am a senior now, and I know pain , greaf, and sorrow. I am still here in one piece. You have the power to heal, someone higher than you is in charge. Just believe, and never give up.
👌👌👌🙏♥️🇺🇸🦅🇲🇺🦤
Very good.👍🏻
AAAMMMEEENNN!❤😂🎉😅😊😂❤
Many of our youth friends are gone! I’m 85 years old and I lose someone I knew and loved frequently!😮😢😅😊😂❤🎉😢
@@maxinericheson9210 take good care. Your never alone, I am not alone, I have my children and grandchildren. I also have a job I love, I am a front line worker, I have my house,y yard my garden. My job keeps me busy helping others, and I know so many people there therefore I am never alone. I have a lot to do, that sometimes I can keep up. But that's ok. Keep busy yourself and never say negative things to yourself, because it will bring you down. So I wish you and everyone the best. God Bless.
I am 62, my best friend died last year at age 88. There was standing room only at his funeral. He was a joy to be around.
So he was interested in the people around him.
I'm very sorry that you lost your friend. Please share what made him so popular and joyful to be with. He seems like someone I'd like to emulate.
🌹🍀💕lovely. Memories 4u,
As a 65 year old man, as friends get older, they get married, have a family, possibly relocate to another state, possible illness. There are many reasons that the connection to close friends are broken, and not the fault of the person, its just the circumstances of life.
Very well put.
Surely fostering relationships throughout life is the key 🔐
I took the Dale Carnegie Course several years ago. One of the best moves of my life. I highly recommend everyone take it in their early 20’s before heading out into the world. I’ll never forget one person in the class… he was homeless, depressed and withdrawn, the state paid the course fee. By the end of the month he was doing hilarious standup comedy before the class, full of confidence and charisma. I’ve never witnessed such a transformation before or since.
For me its to late to take a cours , i am 85 years old but I can remember a lot he said .
@@verenaposhofer5369 It’s never too late to keep learning new things, Verena. It helps keep all of us young at heart. They might even have online courses, I would imagine.
That's incredible
@@wiseup8729 It’s like the old saying “you can’t judge a book by its cover”. The untapped potential in all of us is remarkable. We just need to believe this and give ourselves a chance. I often wonder what that fellow did since then.
@@verenaposhofer5369 is only too late if you think it is
Older people often LOSE their friends to death or serious illness !!! Since 2014 I lost my husband, my cousin, 3 good friends and 2 neighbors!
So sorry for your losses.
I'm so sorry...
SORRY!
Same here Shelley..much emptiness and I'm trying to fill the space with gratitude.
It’s the most painful thing about growing older.
Not building meaningful relationships is not why people don’t have friends in old age. It’s not because they didn’t trust people. It’s because they chose the wrong people to trust. And because the people you can trust make up a very small percentage of the people you’ll ever meet.
Cali Blue, well said and so very true.
Yes indeed!!
*I Hate ReLigion & I Hate Jesus!!!!*
*My Mother was a DeMonicBeitch!!!!*
*I Have NEVER had a Friend in My Life!!!*
*I Have Lived My Life in Poverty!!!!*
*I've been Locked Up for BuLL Shit Reasons!!!*
*Ohhh, Never MaRRied & Never Sex!!!!*
*But, ===> I Proved them ALL LIARS!!!*
*I am 75-years OLd & I am HeaLthy in EveryWay!!!*
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Trust is earned not given so if you chose the wrong people to trust you didnt allow enough time to trust them. Then again anyone is capable of breaking trust.😘
"Keep Busy" best advice heard here
I've always been blessed with many friends throughout my lifetime. I come from a very large family as well. Thank God that I've always still considered myself a loner, or never relied on anyone, but I've always been there for all of them when they asked me to. I've been married, had my 2 kids, no grandkids. In the past few years I've lost many relatives, my ungrateful nephews and nieces don't bother to stay in contact, only when they need something. I've learned to get away from friendships that I realized were toxic and needy. My lifestyle has changed, but I've always kept myself busy enough to stay happy and never lonely. People to talk to are abundant, I'm friendly and talkative wherever I go without ever sharing too much. Whenever I read comments like these, I know I'm just like everyone else, I don't rely on others to make me happy. I'm close to God, that keeps me strong 🙏
amen, Sunny, God bless you, I can relate
Amen 🙏
Sunny 😎 your beautiful name must REALLY help you have a "sunny" disposition!!! But your comment is alot like how I relate to others!! 🧡💙🧡 Thank you for sharing ❤
Great post but there is just a god in your brainwashed head
God makr you Rich.
I have read Dale Carnegie's all time hit book "How to win friends and Influence people" and I must say it truly has changed my life.
Isn’t that the Book Manson read?
I guess it really works.
May i ask how it changed your life?Thank you.
@@clairejohnson6522 If you read the book "How to win Friends and Influence People", and apply every single point he mentioned there, you will feel not only confident about yourself but also you will learn how to maintain a good and healthy relationships.
@@aniruddhamukherjee688 Thank you for replying.
I've learned this long ago, and tried since then to be my best friend. And now, as i'm getting older, living well with myself is the best thing happening to me. No one understand and was good to me better than myself, my wife excepted., of course. As of my kids, they got their own life & family and don't care much about their aging parents. So be it.
My preferred quote is the one saying you better be alone than having bad company. So true indeed. And finally, i wish you all to be the best friend to yourself above and apart from any friendship that may come and go.
I received those words the day before Mother's Day from 92 years old friend with three children. "Tomorrow will be hard for all mothers who suffer the indifference of children they raised with love. Put me on the list" ❤
ME TOOOOOO
Me too
Exactly....it happen often ...in old âge..
Me too :(
I'm on that list.
I don't agree with the advice to get friends by showing interest in others' lives and their interests. I read that when I was a teenager. I'm now 73. The experience I had was that the relationships I built up using that advice eventually had me realizing that everything I experienced with those people was all about them. But finally it dawned on me that they knew nothing much about me and had never showed personal interest in me. So I'd continue on with the relationships but gradually begin subtly pulling away, testing to see if they would do anything to try to continue the relationship or just let it fade out, which is always what happened. So you may get relationships with others following that advice but I think in most cases they won't really be interested in you in return. I wish I were wrong. It sadly cost me a lot.
Listening is the most underrated gift. I have been thanked often for listening actively to others' stories/concerns. I always long for someone to listen to my stories/concerns as I do, rather than just focusing on themselves --- talking, talking, talking. I have rarely experienced someone truly listening, but when I did, I found that I shared things I hadn't realized I knew/decided. Such a magical gift!
Everyone has an interesting story to tell. Especially those with some gray hairs on their head. Encourage others to talk of their experiences. Draw them out. I’m constantly amazed by what people have done or experienced. Life is and should be like starring in our own personal adventure story…filled with ups, downs, successes and failures. Hollywood couldn’t dream up some of the stories I’ve heard…or told. The stuff people get up to!! People will often tell stuff to complete strangers that they’d not even tell to their closest friends. Lol!
Sorry but I married a narcissist and beyond weary of listening to him talk endlessly to me about himself 😮
@@76482 I'm so sorry. That must be awful.
@@Tom-tk3du holly weird
cant even come up with
what' I've lived thru!!..
most people wudnt believe me. those that know me, after long time find out a little bit& tell me wow, you shud write a
book..
I am a good listener, I am
interested in people, luv people.. not in ego way, it's been a
magical carpet Ride..
I know it's so sad that we don't listen to others at times. So many lost bits of wisdoms.
"2 men looked out proson bars,1 saw mud,the other saw stars."Needed this this morning!! thankful..
I like how this quote reminds us that keeping busy can be good for our well-being. Work, a hobby or any project can not only give us a sense of purpose but can also be good for our physical and mental health by distracting us from negative thoughts or emotions. 👉 "Keep busy. It's the cheapest kind of medicine there is."
Volunteer to help others less fortunate -- provides great perspective on one's own life.
Aside from my wife, I have never had a ‘best’ friend in my life and I am now 73. I have never considered the lack of close friends a handicap. I have zero expectations of any person I’ve ever met and have never approached them with the hope that they would be ‘my’ friend. Some people collect friends wherever they go. In the past I have wondered what that must be like, but now, with a lifetime lived without friends I occupy myself with activities and there seems to be no shortage of things to do.
Absolutely true. Spin off the fake friends, the people who use you, and pretty soon you don’t have many left. My dad decided to make friends with younger people when he was in his 80s and by the time he passed away, he had many young friends. It takes an effort to do that. I have usually had one or two real friends. Sometimes that is all you need!
Good idea for you....
True friends are the ticket. Many collect any friend to have a basket full of nothing friends.
Very nice! I had two real friends in life. Both are gone. Acquaintances, many. I realized this when I lived with Spanish speaking people. They throw the word amigo around until it becomes a meaningless pronoun! A person is fortunate to have one true friend in this life! I have a new one in my old age and consider myself very fortunate! Always looking for a friend! Thank you!
Shirley, I love your line about fake friends. So absolutely true! Also, its a fact of life that people change. You will outgrow some friends and others will outgrow you. It happens. The best advice I can give you is to learn to become your own best friend and try and develop a relationship with a Higher Power, which ever one speaks to your soul. Good luck and God Bless You! 🙏💪
I tried that but now I'm not allowed within 100m of the school.
Being old doesn’t mean you’re lonely.
anima-L mundi
To me, being alone is not the same as lonely.
Caty999you described my exact sentiments. I went through those journeys. Was married for over 51yrs lost my husband near 2yrs ago. I’m 67yrs old now. And all alone . People don’t want to hang around older folks because u may need little help here and there . To change a light bulb or lift something . Or just to talk with . Despite you did your fair share in the past for many when you look around you see no one . That’s our life in this world . I’m thankful that eternity will be glorious
You got married when you were 14 years old?
@@SFVnative yep the custom with some folks is to get their girls married in early teens . Arranged marriage lasted 51yrs. If he was alive feb this yr would have been 53yrs
@@mintamaharaj9552 I also married at 14. But we were head over heals in love. He was 28, been in th navy since highschool graduation, had never been married. Both of us amazed to find each other and such a love most people only dream of. Still married, he's 81 and I'm 67.
PEOPLE NEED GOOD PEOPLE NOT BAD PEOPLE IN THEIR LIVES❤
People need to search other people,listen to their life stories. That’s how we all become rich.
We can be alone but not lonely.
Love hearing Dale Carnegie again. This guy’s wisdom is timeless.❤😮😅😊🎉
I had such great times in my younger years. I did practically everything I wanted to do and had a fantastic social life. I’m in the 3rd quarter of average life. I never feel lonely although I’m alone most of the time. It’s called contentment.
My Teacher of 30 years ago,
Once my Teacher always my Teacher.
Flummery
A quote from me: "Laziness, procrastination and depression are often the spirit's rebellion against a life that sucks."
It then prolongs the problems of a life that sucks. It renews the commitment to problems.
And they then make that life suck more; a vicious cycle 🔄.
@@patrickmiano7901 Never commit to a life that sucks. Don't embrace or cling to it. Release it. Be open minded. Try something else. Commit to a life which is better.
If that can't be done then commit to the life with the least suckiness. Get happy as best as can be done. Change what you can, accept what you can't and seek the best of what to do. Then become comfortable.
Be lazy if you wish. Procrastinate if you want. If you must be depressed then seek a dark and foggy night to walk in the mist, and like driving on ice when you steer into the slide, walk into the depression.
@@jameshudkins2210 I totally agree. Why continue a vicious cycle?
Don't make excuses for a lack of motivation and a surplus of lies of self-absorption ! Get outside of yourself and help people then you won't be feeling sorry for yourself !
I knew a guy who worked at Salisbury Labs in Iowa. Sold vacuum cleaners in his spare time. He told me he took the Dale Carnegie course. He said he used to argue with people. After the course he never had to argue with anyone
Old people gets lonely because they're alone all the time..Kids & friends are seldom around, outings are limited & reading or watching favorite t.v. shows doesn't compensate the desire to be with friends & loved ones...😢
Good comment 👍👍
Agree - my Mom is 85, vey deaf and short term memry loss, living with us since 3 yrs - just when Covid lockdown happended. My husband talks very less + he works 10 hrs and has other family issues. Mother thinks she has offended him and therefore he is not talking to her and is very upset. She has not offended him and is actually is very low maintenance. Tried to explain but she is not convinced otherwise. I truly don't how to deal with this scene!
@@shantikumar2570 Often old people develop unfounded opinions and/or become bitter about life...their reasoning power may decline...it's sad. Wish I knew the answer but it's not uncommon.
@@shantikumar2570if I dated a guy who is quiet like that it would drive me fully nuts. It is not low maintenance it's more like a feeling of superiority. Which is not low maintenance for other people, this is only in the mind of the "low maintenance" person 😅
There is an issue with being only interested in another. Its boring to talk to someone only interested in you. We like people who share of themselves as well. This is true relating.
Life is reciprocal. It's a giving and a taking. If you are just always giving you will soon run dry. We are to love another....l agree with you.
"No one cares about how much you know until they know how much you care." - T. Roosevelt
When i was younger i had a couple of friends and we did everything together.
We liked the same food, music, sports, activities, movies etc.
Today tastes are very fragmented and diverse.
It’s impossible to find a friend that shares more than one or two of the same things.
In order to stay involved in my favorite 10 or 15 activities today i need 10 or 15 people instead of one or two.
Its too hard to juggle that many schedules so I spend the majority of my time alone but im not lonely because i like my own company just fine.
I graduated a Dale Carnegie course a few years ago. This video reminded me of the significance of that.
People talk about themselves because they know the subject well.
Had huge families growing up. They have all passed and alit if cousins, friends, colleagues and classmates gave passed.
Time you cannot replace.
listen, feel, no one goes away. They leave the human form, but they dont leave you.
I loved, trusted and was very generous with friends and family...Most of them are on the other side already...Even my 30 year old grandson died of a motorcycle accident...I thank God for the few I still have left...But I have the most of them on the other side...
Words of wisdom we can all benefit from. Some sad stories from the comments here. We should always try to be kind and compassionate to all living things. Smile more and hope and courage. No one knows what tomorrow holds.x
"Any moment might be our last. Everything is more beautiful because life is short. You will never be younger than you are now, you will never be more beautiful than you are now & we will never be here again. Don’t Live In Fear. God Walks with You and Will give You Strength to Heal, Endure & Overcome. Reach for God’s Hand and don’t let go." - Anonymous
I use to not trust many people and had only a few friends but yet i enjoyed my own company too. In my older years ive made lots of friends and have a fun social life but yet i tell my friends at times i enjoy my private time so if i dont always participate dont feel im snubbing you all. They respect me for my honesty
Being a friend is more important than having
Two of my favorites, though not from Dale Carnegie...."Old age is a privilege denied to many", and "EVERY day above ground is a good day!"
Not if you're in agony 24/7
Who would want to get old on this wretched earth, filled to the brim with injustice and unrighteousness? I'd rather exchange this world for the afterlife. To many, old age is a curse. Sure hope I don't have to life a long time of deterioration.
This earth is just a passing-through state of being. No need to cling on to it. Unless you chose hell as your next stop. Then I guess this earth is better. But why would anyone choose hell?
@@gardenjoy5223 what if there's no afterlife? you're placing a huge bet on something you will never be certain about. we have but one life, don't waste it
@@practice4089 Oh, but their is. How could you have missed it? It's not a bet. It's a certainty.
Besides, ever since I believe in God, my life became of value. Before, not so much. But now, that I know that everything matters, very much.
Not that I don't rather already would be in heaven, since it's so much better. No injustice or pain anywhere for starters.
But I make my life on this earth count very much.
That's not what I see unbelievers do. They life mostly a small and selfish life. Most waste it terribly.
Also, (material-wise) happiness is not having what you want; it's wanting what you have.
I LOVE the one that says..."the reason birds and horses are happy are because they are NOT trying to impress other birds or horses". So very true...never worry about pleasing others that could care less about you. I am glad I have always known this, and don't care to impress anyone!
I do think he didn't spend a lot of time watching nature, though. I've watched birds at bird feeders, and indeed they ARE out to impress other birds! Some of them get so motivated to do that, that instead of eating, they just strut around, chasing others away (others of their own kind) and preening etc. I think all animals try to impress others of their kind for various reasons.
What about peacocks they try to impress with their plumage. What about that Einstein ?
The whole point of bright colors in a bird is to impress other birds.
It's why they sing and it's why they do complicated mating rituals.
Not good examples at all.
one day to prove to myself that no one ever really looks at you, I went to work without brushing my hair at all, I mean it was a tangled mess (I know but I wanted to prove it to myself) and not one person said or looked at me funny. no one cares, not really. waaaaay to distracted and into their own problems.............
That's one of my favorites too!
Dale Carnegie’s work had a huge influence on my life, and still continues to do so. I attended the Dale Carnegie course as part of my professional development, and went on to become a graduate assistant and then instructor on the course. The quote that has the most influence on me is the one about thinking of the worst that can happen, accepting the worst then working to improve on it. I use it often.
One of the things I like about Carnegie’s quotes is that many of them are action-oriented. They’re practical things that you can go and do today.
Still got my Golden Book!
Its late at night and he made mi think . Hours later and I am still thinking !
I agree, the same likely influenced you to take that thought and share it with others. People do read what you say on here. but only about 5% respond or elaborate.
I like Dr Jordan Peterson's quote.
" Do not talk to people who don't want to listen".
Certainly saved me a lot of wasted time in the last 3 years.
They couldn't care less about listening to you, they only have this obsessive need for you to listen to them as they rattle on and on about themselves and their problems. I do care about others, I just cannot do anything about their problems. I'm just trying to live my life as best I can without unloading my problems on others. I'm old but I love living alone. Life is what we ourselves make of it and the positive attitude we have. I' m thankful each and everyday that I'm "above ground".
NOBODY DISLIKES ANYTHING THAT HE LIKES AND LOVES.
TALK TO ONE KNOWING WHAT HE.LIKES AND LOVE.
THAT MAN WILL NEVER FORGET YOU.
I know people like that, some of them are actually quite nice but just way too overactive. They can't slow down enough to take anything in.
I’m 70 live alone and I Am Not Lonely … I like my own company !!!!
I read Dale Carnegie around 15yo. Then another book around 25yo something about happiness by another writer whom I could not recall. These 2 books indeed helped me through life. Now I am at my 60s I could accept life quite well although things around not too good.
Keep busy is really good. Always keep in touch with friends online, cost nothing. Meeting friends is a must once in awhile.
Be generous with 'unknown' people around you or on the streets. I prefer to help people whom I dont know cos they would not come back easily 😊. Little acts can easily put a smile on them.
If I were to help people I knew well some would rely and always come back to you. Not sure anybody here understand my point. Well my point in 'giving' is magical in whatever ways you can afford. It really gives us some sense of satisfaction and joy 💕💕
this is true. especially there are so many in nursing homes, even kids, who have no one. I know this, I've seen it. families abandoning "loved" ones because truly they do not care one iota, too selfish. they feel forgotten except for the CNAs who come in to deliver their meds, change the bed, etc.
I live in CA and most of my friends are moving out of state. Sometimes circumstances take away friends.
I've seen many people grow up in violent homes filed with substance abuse. I am in my seventies and survived to live a great life. Many, many, did not. Only the survivors of the horror know this.
"Develop success from failures.
Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success." -Dale Carnegie
How about, when you fail, and you're older, it's much harder to come back. Many of these tropes are meant for the young.
My mother worshipped this man along with Vernon Howard and am forever grateful for her introducing him to me ❤
Keep busy is the cheapest kind of medicine! Be it with a book, work, sport! This is ironclad and proven and one of the best self healing methods!
Our fatigue is caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.... and boi I couldn't agree more!!!
Great quotes! Love it!
"If voting made a difference, they wouldn't let us do it." MARK TWAIN
brilliant
Mark Twain was amazing!
Excellent Dale Carnegie ❤❤❤
Friends are people that come and go for their own purposes.
I SAVED a my friend's LIFE last week from a massive HEART ATTACK.
NOW this bastard thinks I am the WORST PERSON on Earth.
I read that book always when I am down and need some inspiration. It amazes me how much it changes you.
Unfortunately as you get old, your friends and acquaintances get sick and die. This is why family becomes crucial to the old.
I took the Dale Carnegie course in 1974. I'm glad to see this coming back. We have come to accept self-centeredness too much causing breakdowns in communication and healthy personal and business relationships. Be the one to care, and they will care too.
"The only thing they hear, is the jingle in their pocket book." Best quote Dale ever made.
I recently lost a friend like that.Retired military.Very well funded/invested,educated(economics major),miserable,bored.Refused to volunteer to serve anywhere..Then he developed Lung Cancer.He totally expected to live into his 90's,and was in total disbelief of his sudden illness;Up until his passing at 73.
A matter of tradition and culture. In my country we used to live together , parents children, grandfather/granmother. No children left their parents although had got married. No feeling of loneliness. Old parents might move from one child's house to another at will, to prevent boredom. We care our old parents full of love . Until one by one we passed away
one problem with that model now is many old folk living until not till 70-75 but often 85-90+ so have 4-5 generations not 3
in a lot of ways this is better, in some respects it can be negative (depends on your family dysfunction or dynamics). anyway, I agree that close families help forge bonds and create happy times together, no one in my family talks or gets together and it is largely due to not having any spiritual awareness or choosing to honor God or wanting to live as God asks. that's my take. the best thing to have is a spiritually loving family, maybe I will get this "next time"
I found the more people i meet the more i love my dog
The best quotes i ever learn and heard in life truely magical inspiration video thank you❤
I have always suffered from a lack of loneliness. Now that I'm older, I enjoy finally being alone for myself
No company is better than bad company. Go out there and talk and be kind to others. Then, go home and live privately. People can be/cause trouble in your personal life.
Friends are easy. Show interest in other people. Ask questions. Even if it’s just standing in a long line talk to the people around you. I was fortunate to work at a coffee store. Our job besides getting the customer’s drink correct is to make everyone feel welcome. Love or hate Starbucks their motto was “it’s not home it’s not work, it’s the third place” I like talking to people. Ask questions, everyone wants to talk about themselves and feel they are heard. Listen and make a short comment every now and then. Everyone wants to feel seen 😊
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Taking the Dale Carnegie Course was the BEST thing I did for my future/career.
I'm amazed at Carnegie's altruism and optimism even if he's occasionally very dark. Great video.
as someone who has had a hard life and been alone all my life I agree with this .
*Be your own best friend - you'll always be in delightful company.*
"talk to someone about themselves, and they'll......." assume you're fascinated by them and never change the subject. That's my experience over and over and over. But thanks, these are interesting thoughts.
Being called a good talker means you are a good listener.
Be a good person ❤
Best is """ dont expect any thing from any one,, believe & trust SELF"""
Listening is one skill that many of us of the older lot learnt to be more adept at after reading his writings.Alas there aren’t many who have the time to listen.Most often we are to outscore others in our interactions
Great quotes
How To Win Friend’s And Influence People is one of the best self help books out there, BUT just reading it won’t change your life you have to put what it say’s in there into practise.
Dale Carnige was a great Master of wisdom and a great psychologist the world has ever created.
A life changing course. I highly recommend it for anyone.
Mr. Dale Carnegie's principles are GOLDEN. We're truly blessed to be able to learn from him.
People get lonely in old age because all their friends have died.
you just gained a subscriber today, thank you for the words
It's been a long time since I read How to Makes Friends and Influence People. Dale has much wisdom, which is an enduring asset to American optimism.
Let go of yourself ♥️🤙😇and true love does find a way.Thanks.True words spoken.Peace comes from within but flows to others in many ways.
I came across Carnegie when my first child was a baby. At the time I didn’t realize how much of his advice got into my marrow.
Prepare for the worst and hope for the best has become part of my philosophy, here fifty years later I’d forgotten where it came from.
thanks for the reminder! that is sage advice......always......
Good words to live by!👍
These are fantastic.
Another one I like is "Just be yourself.
Everyone else is taken.
When Dale said most people are only interested in themselves, I think that’s because as a rich business man, he only associated with other people like him.
words of wisdom, read his book 43 years ago👍🏼
My personal opinion is to keep smiling and feel confident about yourself 👍 Always try to be more Social in your Society Life has different ambitions of courage and disappointments each day Our mistakes which we have experienced are our lessons Yes I agree a very basic word Yes Life is too short we must appreciate each little thing in front of us , nature listening to the birds the crushing waves slamming on the rocks , children singing,the giggles of the children, seeing the sunrise early in the morning with tinges of pink and yellow shades penetrating through the clouds because most of us live in a city these little observations can't be done People wake up with ANXIETY and have to face being in a traffic jam to get to work I've left the city and am currently living beside the sea coast ❤ take lovely walks every morning and ENJOY each second of the day This was a wonderful video 🌹
"Too late" is a depression, not age. The most difficult thing is to believe in oneself. People can do a lot more than they think at a later age they believe
People who unconditionally help others. Have been taken full advantages. They are the fools. I learned it hard way.
I rather follow now:
“Never help a beggar. He will turn on you”
Homer 800 (BC)
Horrible advice
I found that I'm not a conversationalist and I get others to speak about themselves to give them importance and Dale was right it's the easiest way to be conversing with another. The other consideration is when you get another person who believes in Dale's advice too and then it can be awkward as one person is trying to get you to talk about yourself while I am trying to get them to talk about themself and the situation bounds and rebounds ha! Really though the advice usually applies. I apply it often and have had acquaintances for years who talk on and on about themselves and won't know anything about me and then it's a one way street situation ha!
I have the same experience. some won't make eye contact so they can't take a cue that you may have a question or something to say so that they just keep on rattling on about "and then I did this and this happened to me and then he did this to me, blah blah" and more along those lines. I am trying to let go of feeling guilty for not wanting to waste my time any more, my time is more important than the mins I waste trying to help someone feel good about themselves at my expense. I think I need to affirm, "I now attract supportive, spiritual, trustworthy men and women into my life" or something like that. God bless all, take from the best and leave the rest.....
You are using him/her, wdym taking the advice, you are saying rn that you are manipulating the other person into speaking with you
@@Markaras I'm sorry as I didn't say that people are very interesting. Many have intriguing stories about their lives and interests and hobbies, travels etc. I learn from others too, but I'm boring, not much of a conversationalist but it's nice as I'm conversing with another person. They also get excited as they relive experiences and resurrect observations on life and the world. No mal intent. Coming back a few days later... but really they are a tiny minority and even then they expound and expound and it's a one way street. One lady would come to my place and I always got treats for her and tea and for about 2 years she would go on and on about her trials and tribulations. I felt sorry for her but she'd go on for 2 hours! She was very intelligent, but I thought one day, "What does she know about me?" The sum total was my name, where I was from, and that was about it, and that's my fault going down the one way street again.
@@JustMe-uu3bh Hi! Wow great advice! I don't know why not all notices of CZcams replies to my comments arrive in my "Social" box of the 3 boxes with my emails, nor will they necessarily come to that bell icon that lets you know when a reply comes.
I get in numerous situations where people go on and on as if no one else exists. I need a balance like a neighbor just minutes ago in the lobby of my high-rise going on and on about little things because she just moved into a wheel chair apartment, yet the sad thing is she doesn't really need a walker all the time. People give up. I politely said I'd just come in from riding 4 1/2 hours and was very tired and she in the same breath said, "I'm tired too and that's why I'm here." I should have let her feel good for 5 minutes then just begin to walk away, but that’s impolite so the paradox arises…
So that was followed by another one who hangs out in the lobby going on and on about the storage unit she just started renting, and about walks she goes on in the city parks, her new walker... I can see them smile, not look so lonely, and get excited. I try to enhance that but you're right, we only have so much time in life and we need to spend it with people who are inter-supportive and augment who we are.
I still want to make people happy, so I find myself too often getting on the receiving end of monologues. So more tired than ever I dragged my feet home ha! Basically I’ve never had a real friend since childhood and I’m 69 soon to be 70. It of course is my own fault. Cicero the Roman philosopher once said something like the only non-renewable resource we have is time. You are so wise! Thank you!
so sweet of you to take the time to respond and thank you but I too have bent over backwards in trying to be there for others and in being polite and ended up with nothing but feeling somewhat mad at myself for having allowed myself to be "trapped". just being nice and listening, just being there and they go round and round. I honestly am tired of it, I am more important than that and I too am realizing that I am being held captive more often than not, due to my "kindnesses". there is balance in life and if we allow people to walk all over us, most people will just do it, maybe not consciously but I am tired of being a doormat. I understand that Dale Carnegie when he wrote the book in his last chapter did go off on allowing people to use up your time, etc. as he had had enough as well but due to wanting to sell the book, his publisher(s) told him to take that chapter out. So understandably, he got tired of useless banter as well. I remember reading this long ago, so, my take is now value Self and avoid energy vampires who have nothing to say but gossip or "oh, my back hurts" and who don't do anything to improve themselves. I don't think we owe people at our own expense unless we feel it is warranted. God bless you, stay safe. thank you again. @@mwj5368
I have slowly lost all the friends I ever had, many are dead, others moved abroad. The rest just slowly faded away, life happened, interests changed. The pandemic didn't help. The love of my life died in 2018. Last year my 18 yr old dog had to be put down. I'm 50 yrs old and just haven't got the energy to deal with strangers. I see myself dying alone, being found when the smell gets too much.
Join a hiking group.
@@BasementEngineerI’m so sorry that has happened. However, 50 is NOT old. If you want connections, throw yourself into love. Join some clubs, volunteer etc good luck,😊
@@englishlearningexpert3595 Thanks but your reply was not meant for me, I think.
I was widowed at 64 years of age. After mourning for 2 years I decided it was time to find another wife.
I did and we have been happily married over 9 years now.
I’m so sorry that has happened. However, 50 is NOT old. If you want connections, throw yourself into love. Join some clubs, volunteer etc good luck,😊
@@BasementEngineer ah that’s awesome - I don’t know you but it makes me happy! 😀
I agree 100 percent with what's been said above. We will all get there.
I dont mind being alone...the 2 other voices in my head dont get lonely...😮
The author's quotes can be used because he was a successfu & rich in his old age.