It’s her pushing the “fake we are the perfect couple who know it all” but reality is she is well aware of being the rebound who forced their marriage even after a decade of marriage- LOVE cannot be FORCED on someone who doesn’t feel it organically and you can see it all over him
Nick spoke about how he believes the marriage ended because if reality tv. He had no issues doing it with Vanessa and airing their wedding. Trying to make Jessica jealous even though she clearly had the bigger career and STILL makes a lot more money than them.
@SJ-ni6iy 100 percent. I don't think people understand what it takes to have long lasting love past the honeymoon phase. Just like it takes effort to grow as a person it take effort to grow in a marriage together, you have to be intentional. People genuinely don't understand that. It's ONE of the many reasons a lot of people don't last in marriages these days.
That's actually exactly what happened--and they finally admitted it in a recent interview 😂 They broke up before getting engaged because they had been together for about 4 years and she had done all these wifely things and Nick was still refusing to marry her. She said she gave him an ultimatum and he left lol Then he realized after trying to date another woman that she was the best he was going to get if he wanted kids by the time he was 40 (because he couldn't get the actual love of his life back so what else was he to do, ya know?). So ultimately, he's only with her because he couldn't get Jessica back and wanted to fulfill his dream of having a family. It's pretty sad when you look at it objectively, but that's Vanessa's karma for being all over Nick when he would come on TRL to promote his stuff while still being married Jessica. She clearly was willing to take him in any form she could get him. Even if it was him doing it begrudgingly.
Can u imagine living life married to someone you had to STRONG ARM AND say marry me or else? Always knowing inside your spouse didn’t want you and it was FORCED like a life sentence? Well here is the reslut: look at Nicks expression and silence… 😮
First date at hooters would put that guy in friend zone. I'd see myself as one of the guys if I ever spoke to him again. No respect for a female by doing that. First dates are supposed to be for good impressions, getting to know someone, sparking some kind of romance. Maybe I'm old fashioned?
Testing her to see if she's the jealous type and would put up with disrespect maybe? That's nuts to me. I love you probably was cause the answer was that she loved him more than herself.
All she does is constantly preach about her wonderful marriage… that’s all she does. Is she trying to convince herself?? Like he hasn’t cheated on her.
I'm guessing that's not all she does .....but it seems like you should know. 🤔 At least she's willing to work on her marriage unlike 50% of Americans. It's great to have an example of someone actually Doing the tough things In a marriage and not just calling it quits.
Why does Nick always look at her like she’s lying? She knows his first love will always be Jessica. The truth will always come to light. She’s always been trying to convince us they are passionately in love. 🙄
Yeah I get that vibe from her too…if you’re having to try that hard, it will ultimately come across as disingenuous. You just look like you’re hiding sh*t… 🤷🏼♀️
You know…I’m in the camp that’s been saying they’re trying wayyyy too hard to prove they’re happy, but what you said is 100% valid as well. At the end of the day, who cares what we think? They’re the ones who have to live with each other.
@@JustMeDG Anything worthwhile does require a certain amount of effort but love shouldn't be difficult the majority of the time. It should be pleasant for the most part and not be forced. It should come naturally if you are with the right person. Of course there will tough times here and there but if you are compatible it shouldn't be THAT much of a struggle. Otherwise what's the point? I would ask myself: "Does this relationship ADD to my life or diminish it and bring me down?" Is it TOO much of a struggle? So many people hang onto relationships that should have ended long ago because they are terrified to be alone. When the bad outweighs the good, move on!
I just wonder how many of the people commenting on this fall under the happily married. Marriage is not easy. I married my soul mate and we still have had to through garbage together.
You can't tell me that this woman didn't read about nick in the magazines while him and Jessica were together. She most definitely knew how badly he treated her so, i can't feel too sorry for her.
Oh it's worse. She and Jessica became friends after Jess' appearances on TRL in '04 (while Jessica was married to Nick and doing some of those appearances with him). I remember not liking Vanessa immediately while watching those appearances because she was all over Nick flirting with him without shame. She soon "befriended" Jessica and would be the little scheming bug in her ear, getting her to spill her marriage troubles with Nick while they were out for drinks in NYC. Giving Jessica "advice" the whole time. It was a hugely-reported detail back in '06 because Jessica was divorcing Nick and suddenly out pops Vanessa by his side in his new music video about Jess and is papped on dates with him. The media remembered the whole timeline and outed Vanessa. 😂 She is a conniving snake and their own dismal marriage is her karma for actions.
Let’s not pretend these dating shows are focused on healthy relationships. This is entertainment. If being faced with another love interest is the only way to know you want the relationship then something is wrong
Love isn’t supposed to be this hard. This is a little sad :( the work is communication, compromise, seeing different perspectives and so on with your partner. But really the most important work is on yourself. Being the best version of yourself and the rest is easy. That’s what worked for me anyway.
Her Love is hard because she Forced herself on a vulnerable man at the onset of his divorce while the papers weren’t even signed....Even though she hooked and sinked him , I can’t imagine the insecurity that follows her for the duration of the relationship - It’s like enjoying life with stolen goods and never feeling that you obtained someone or something rightfully And always looking over your back to see when the victim will realize what happened
@soozjoo "victim" You obviously don't know Jessica's story. She considered herself lucky to finally get out of that controlling tortuous relationship. I wasn't surprised at all this relationship is as bad as his first one. Who is the common denominator? Hmmm..lemme see..who can that be...🤔
That dude loved Jessica she came in at the time they was going thru stuff Let’s be Real . She knew what she was doing . And what he is . Don’t feel sorry for her .
My husband and I married when I was 18 he was 19 we have been married 41 years. It’s ups and downs. You just have to work them out. I think it’s easy for people just to say, I’m done and get a divorce.
Nick and Vanessa never should've gotten married bc in order to be with her Nick HAD to give up pursuing his career the way he wanted to support hers, which u can tell he doesn't like. And Vanessa lost her identity bc all of her value resides in being Nick's wife, that's why she's so controlling with him. She knows they're a bad fit and she's insecure about it so that makes her tighten the reigns on him to make sure he stays.
REBOUNDS are always fraught with a LIFETIME of “what ifs” & heavy doubts especially when one strong arms the one recovering from a broken relationship - they will always question if I waited maybe the real RIGHT one would have come along but crap I settled…😢
12years of marriage is still quite short but it must be classed as a long lasting marriage in Hollywood. My parents in Japan have been together for 48years, my parents in law in the UK been together for 50years and me and my husband have been happily together coming up for 20years.
This particular video is old, I know from watching the new season of love is blind, if you don't know they are the hosts of that show, they've now been together 18 years and married 13 years, which I mean compared to your parents is nothing, but generally I think is a long time, but like you said for sure in Hollywood years is an extremely long time.
I have always really liked them both and when they got together I thought they make a beautiful couple. He always seemed so down to earth and unproblematic
@@soozjoo I don't think that but she was really young, sheltered and immature when they got together/married. I remember hearing that he told her she needed to learn to cook and there was a couple of other things but I can't remember. But I do remember from the show that she was a horrible house keeper, didn't cook and just spent without a budget.
Don't ever go to the internet to learn about a happy relationship. You don't go to a McDonald's drive-thru to learn about fine dining cuisine, same thing. The internet is the scum of relationships and relationship advice.
Omg I cannot stand Nick when Vanessa said that he should have spoke up and said that he is also working to be the best man for her. Ugh he is so full of himself I cant stand it.
@@jeanniefeaster4325Both Nick and Jessica have admitted she played Jessica in that video (and that the entire What's Left of Me album is about/to Jessica). He even went to Jessica's place to play her the entire album and let her know what was about to be released to the public. They even had sex after listening to the album. The only reason Vanessa is there (and whining here about having to bend over backwards to become Nick's sloppy seconds) is because Jessica wouldn't take him back after he begged her to stay.
@@courtney_paige89 Good details and yes unfortunately her desperation to be the sloppy rebound is still apparent today… Sadly “forced” relationships will never be balanced and the person strong armed to marry will never feel like they truly had real love by choice and clearly here Nick just settled
Nick was brought up on old fashioned work ethics and Integrity. He was grounded ... Jessica's Dad priority was to nurture Jessica's Career and optics, and ignore her Marriage. @@ButterflyPink1121
yeah, when she said every issue they had as a couple she brought up - i thought about nick making jessica into the problem when she wasn't. jessica was just being herself, nick shamed her unnecessarily and terribly. i hope thats not what he does to vanessa. it sounds like the same thing all over again, except vanessa believes him and tries to fix it. ew.
I love this couple they're working on things and NOT just giving up. Marriage is work, give and take, communication, being there through the good and bad times. When you love each other, you definitely need communication to get through things, if you don't communicate with your husband or wife its going to turn ugly and someone will shut down their emotions and not want to talk. You have to be present and patient with each other. You also have to have date night at least once a week and not talk about the kids, its all about the both of you, have fun, laughter, get romantic so your marriage doesn't end. Love and marriage is hard work, but if you love each other so much and can't imagine anyone else other than the person who you are with, its worth fighting for. Again communication is the big key. You both are a lovely couple, please work on things, people give up way too easily. Love you both ❤❤❤
LISTEN WOMAN, relationship 💪 is Wwwwooorrkkk in general, with your girlfriend's with your kids with your neighbour. With your friends, with your grandmother - with humans.... DON T YOU KNOW THAT ? What a cheap comment. Everyone know this. Those 45 people....mmmhhh, strange
@@keepcreationprocess LISTEN UP HERE! I was just focusing on marriage because that's what the video was about. ! It's NOT a CHEAP comment ! Everything in life is hard work, relationships, with couples, jobs, friends, family, working hard on yourself. Life is hard, it's just how we deal with things that matter to us. Please don't say Listen Women ! That's degrading plus my comment was NOT Cheap! Geez, the way you write and come after me....... you are low class !
Yes unfortunately he’s seems so miserable, “stuck” and SHUTDOWN … Almost like she has extinguished “what was left “ of him for her own selfish goal to build her own fame
I always thought Vanessa Lachey has a great sense of humor. To me, you’re blessed to be able to laugh w someone. Whatever, challenges come up in their marriage. I pray they continue fighting for their marriage. They really make a beautiful couple and family
Nick and Jessica will always be my favorite couple even though they’re not together. Vanessa minillo is his wife but to me Jessica is way prettier and nicer.
They drink the pain away. only to see that it makes a person more emotional and those feelings that they felt before the drink is now at the forefront.
Nick has ALWAYS been very private, Ya'll remember back in the day when Kim Kardashian was trying to make a name for herself? Well she used her flirty and baby sexy vibe like Paris Hilton to get him to go on a date with her to the movies. Little did he know, Kim was just trying to make a name for herself in that Hollywood D celebrity type culture, Just like Paris. Kim also wanted to be on the hills and you can see her in a couple scenes for a hot second. Anyway, Nick Lachey and Kim went to a movie. Kim called the paparazzi quietly before hand to let them know what they were doing and when they would be leaving the theatre. Well Nick didnt like that and he was pissed the Eff off at her. He ditched her after that. Part of me understands his reservations, but at the same time, when I see his wifes emotional pain . I feel there is something deeper going on in with there relationship , and especially with Nick!! HE has a hidden side he doesnt want anyone to see, and i am an empath. Its not a good side i feel. REmember how he was with his ex Simpson on there reality show? Train wreck waiting to happen. Just sAYIN.!!!
Its looks, money, and occupation. There is no real love because it all comes down to what's on paper and if the friends/family approve. No one chooses real love.
I don’t understand the hate in these comments. They seem like a normal married couple. Up and downs and in Hollywood to be together this long they are obviously doing something right. I wish them and their beautiful family the best.
I don't think she truly wanted to marry Nick. I don't think she thought she could do better, and felt pressured to give him an ultimatum. Nick wanted a wife and kids more than he wanted Vanessa. Either way they have a beautiful family. Glad they could work through it.
Wow to make a statement like that when you don’t actually know. That’s completely the opposite of the truth. She was hungry for him before and during their dating life. It was a lot especially shortly after the breakup and when Nick was starting his solo tour. She made all her intentions very, very obvious… explicitly. Also, Vanessa was the one who didn’t have a family if you know her personal life. Her Mom abandoned her. She wanted that family life with Nick and made it happen with 3 kids.
@@LV-vj7pw 😂 and you know her personally?? Calm down, none of us do, it's just an opinion. They both had major baggage but they seemed to make it work.
@@cristinarodriguez3157 Yes actually a lot of people were there too bc she went on mic at his concert and addressed the whole situation bc they were addressing the rumors of them dating and how she felt about him etc. It was in NYC. Also there are a lot of places of the info I gave. I certainly wouldn’t just make up stuff.
I love them together I really hope they last I adore nick Lachey and I remember how heartbroken he was after his divorce w Jessica Simpson im so happy he found such an amazing beautiful woman and I always loved Vanessa I remember when she won that vj competition on MTV im so happy they are happpy
This why I don’t believe in marriage did what to be the best women for him forget him you need to be the best women for yourself if he loves you he loves for who you are or it ain’t love
I don't feel bad for Vanessa. Because Vanessa did met Nick when he was married to Jessica. When Vanessa used to work for MTV. The TRL days. When she was a VJ. Interviewing them both as a couple. Gotta remember you're not the 1st wife. Nothing compares to the 1st spouse. Whether you're a man or woman. You're getting the leftovers. It is always disgusting & problematic. As you can tell. Vanessa continues being petty AF & jealous of Jessica. And it has been years. And still hurting deep down inside. That's why you can't take baggage from previous relationships/marriage not even children. Because it was never your responsibility or duty to fulfill the next person's happiness. Vanessa made her bed. Gotta deal with it. Until the day she decides to continue with the marriage or divorce Nick.
Yup! It's like we're all in trouble all the time because Vanessa has to work so hard at her marriage. It's also hard to tell who her anger is directed at because Nick is sitting right next to her while she's yelling at the wind about how much she hates her life. Perplexing.
I noticed this about her also. I am sorry but if I had to give a man a ‘Ultimatum’ to marry me but still work hard at the marriage…maybe it is not meant to be.
You have to love yourself, before you love anyone else!!!!! She is very insecure...... He is a control freak... He always has been... She interruptes everything he has to say!!! This is not going to work, he is to bullheaded......
Feel sorry for Nick… She dominates, talks incessantly and FAILS to listen to anyone… Acts like she’s in therapy instead of a host that should be asking relevant questions and listening for deeper insights… Keeps badgering on and dominating entire conversation and making sure its all about her. Poor man…
The issue here is not Nick. I’m sure he can be a jerk but Vanessa was so thirsty for him way back when he was a married man. I remember her flirting with him on MTV spring break right in front of Jessica and acting a fool on set of his video for “What’s Left of Me”. She was determined she was going to be with him no matter what and she’s always been insecure because she’s never measured up to Jessica. Nick never has and never will love her like he did Jessica and she knows that. She’s nowhere near as beautiful as 2003 Jessica Simpson and never will be.
A submissive wife. and she doesnt want to be one. They're both Scorpios with the same birthdays. I'm not surprised at all their making their marriage "work" She wants more leeway and freedom as a woman and he prohibits her that freedom without him getting all jealous. Jealousy in a relationship will always be the downfall in any relationship 💯💯
@@artflorida0510 Did you see the episode?? She looked close to tears the entire time. Her hair was mussed and her demeanor stiff. I felt for her too much to watch.
I never knew they werw married when I saw clips of them hosting because there didn't seem to be any sort of chemistry lol it's giving very much BUSINESS and staying together for the "power couple" title
If you watched the ultimatum season 1, at the beginning of the season I'm pretty sure it is where she talked about her journey to getteing married to her now husband! But I must say that it is true they do not seem to have chemistry but I think it is because they're hosting and not trying to be all lovey dovey since this is their job. Just my thoughts.
I disagree. I don't watch the show but they seem very much in love. Why would they have kid after kid after kid. They are in a happy healthy loving marriage/relationship. ❤️
@@qutielove2208I am not saying they are not in love. They don't seem to have chemistry on camera and it is true lol. If you watch them host their shows they don't really interact with each other in a lovey dovey way. They do seem more like business partners which they are. They are a couples who seem more into each other than they seem on camera but it's just me. And personnaly I do not agree that since they have children they are in love. A lot of people get and stay married just because they want the title or for children.
Being married to Nick Lachey seems to be quite the punishing experience
Yup.
Think it’s Vanessa that’s the thorn
They are soulmates
😅
nick lachey seems picky and manipulative when married.... Jessica never talked about him
Tell me he’s cheated without telling me he’s cheated
There's always been something off about those two. They leave me feeling, off and unsettled. I can't pinpoint what it is though.
They’re both jerks - to each other and to others.
It’s her pushing the “fake we are the perfect couple who know it all” but reality is she is well aware of being the rebound who forced their marriage even after a decade of marriage- LOVE cannot be FORCED on someone who doesn’t feel it organically and you can see it all over him
@soozjoo spot on I've ALWAYS felt this way about their relationship. She was definitely the rebound that just went on for too long.
Yes-same! They’re just trying too hard.
Nick spoke about how he believes the marriage ended because if reality tv. He had no issues doing it with Vanessa and airing their wedding. Trying to make Jessica jealous even though she clearly had the bigger career and STILL makes a lot more money than them.
I’m getting Stockholm Syndrome vibes from her. Nick couldn’t control Jessica cause her legitimate talent afforded her a get out of jail card. But….
100% see this! Yes. And Jessica couldn't be controlled cause she is just a silly goose / wild card type character. You know?
Jessica , is and was a “ Free Spirit “
A great marriage that needs continual counseling is not a great marriage
I know. Yuck. They seem so miserable.
A great marriage takes a lot of work and if they are both willing to do that, it couldn’t be too bad.
@SJ-ni6iy 100 percent. I don't think people understand what it takes to have long lasting love past the honeymoon phase. Just like it takes effort to grow as a person it take effort to grow in a marriage together, you have to be intentional. People genuinely don't understand that. It's ONE of the many reasons a lot of people don't last in marriages these days.
Before you can be what he wants, you have to become you and what you want. The rest will all fall in place. Just be true to yourself.
So true. Beautiful advice. ❤️
@@soulfuloceanThank you. I.guess when one becomes my age (76), you teach from experience.
It took me until age 30 to realize that!!!
@@italishgirl5601 I didn't say it took me 76 years to learn, I said that at my age you can teach younger women to like and love themselves first.
Not really
Why not be the best version of yourself instead of for your husband? She wants him that bad that she’ll do whatever it takes, including losing herself
What’s new? This is what women are conditioned to do it seems..
She’s always been desperate for him ! It’s obvious and nothing new he can do no wrong
@@SupernaturalLove100 Speak for yourself. Some of us actually have a mind of our own and it doesn’t rely on men.
@@aBBy-pq4tx
Reading comprehension is lacking on your end I see..
@@SupernaturalLove100 That’s cute. Did you think that would work?
I just remember how she latched on after he and Jessica broke up. Seems she was the rebound that Nick decided to seattle.
That's actually exactly what happened--and they finally admitted it in a recent interview 😂 They broke up before getting engaged because they had been together for about 4 years and she had done all these wifely things and Nick was still refusing to marry her. She said she gave him an ultimatum and he left lol Then he realized after trying to date another woman that she was the best he was going to get if he wanted kids by the time he was 40 (because he couldn't get the actual love of his life back so what else was he to do, ya know?). So ultimately, he's only with her because he couldn't get Jessica back and wanted to fulfill his dream of having a family. It's pretty sad when you look at it objectively, but that's Vanessa's karma for being all over Nick when he would come on TRL to promote his stuff while still being married Jessica. She clearly was willing to take him in any form she could get him. Even if it was him doing it begrudgingly.
Seattle?
Can u imagine living life married to someone you had to STRONG ARM AND say marry me or else? Always knowing inside your spouse didn’t want you and it was FORCED like a life sentence? Well here is the reslut: look at Nicks expression and silence… 😮
They both had baggage with them when they met, but at least they stayed together
@@JaniceMaffett-hh1oqnot the Seattle 😅🥴
First date at hooters shouldve been the first red flag for her .her low self esteem is sad to see
First date at hooters would put that guy in friend zone. I'd see myself as one of the guys if I ever spoke to him again. No respect for a female by doing that. First dates are supposed to be for good impressions, getting to know someone, sparking some kind of romance. Maybe I'm old fashioned?
“Testing her” with a first date to hooters and telling her “I love you” on a first date. 😳
Like WTf??😮😮
Isn't that too soon to say I love you ?? Unless they fell in love through text.
What was he "testing"? Her not getting mad he is going to cheat?
Testing her to see if she's the jealous type and would put up with disrespect maybe? That's nuts to me. I love you probably was cause the answer was that she loved him more than herself.
Manipulation!
All she does is constantly preach about her wonderful marriage… that’s all she does. Is she trying to convince herself?? Like he hasn’t cheated on her.
I'm guessing that's not all she does .....but it seems like you should know. 🤔 At least she's willing to work on her marriage unlike 50% of Americans. It's great to have an example of someone actually Doing the tough things In a marriage and not just calling it quits.
I love them as a couple they are so much more balanced than his other relationships they are good together
Why does Nick always look at her like she’s lying? She knows his first love will always be Jessica. The truth will always come to light. She’s always been trying to convince us they are passionately in love. 🙄
he was mean to her too
Cuz half the time she EXAGGERATES and fakes the whole “we are perfect and happy - cuz she knows Jessica is scoffing😮 in the background
Yeah I get that vibe from her too…if you’re having to try that hard, it will ultimately come across as disingenuous. You just look like you’re hiding sh*t… 🤷🏼♀️
Jessica is a billionaire and has a family as well. I don't think she cares at all lol@@soozjoo
Well she clearly got in the way between Nick amd Jessica and now she's paying her KARMA!!!
Vanessa is very drama Queenie. She loves the sound of her own voice.
How could he live with that incessant badgering?!!!!
100%… she is so annoying
I think they both mirror each other a little, that’s how they ended up and stayed together
They both give off certain vibes but that may be all for show. As long as they’re happy, our opinions don’t matter. I wish them the best.
You know…I’m in the camp that’s been saying they’re trying wayyyy too hard to prove they’re happy, but what you said is 100% valid as well. At the end of the day, who cares what we think? They’re the ones who have to live with each other.
Love should not be this hard!!!
Bingo. Love is being single. LOL
Anything good is hard work!
@@JustMeDG Anything worthwhile does require a certain amount of effort but love shouldn't be difficult the majority of the time. It should be pleasant for the most part and not be forced. It should come naturally if you are with the right person. Of course there will tough times here and there but if you are compatible it shouldn't be THAT much of a struggle. Otherwise what's the point? I would ask myself: "Does this relationship ADD to my life or diminish it and bring me down?" Is it TOO much of a struggle? So many people hang onto relationships that should have ended long ago because they are terrified to be alone. When the bad outweighs the good, move on!
Love is the ultimate rollercoaster..Ups and downs are part of the protocol... Love can be hard.. but rewarding also.
It isn’t if you’re right for each other
I just wonder how many of the people commenting on this fall under the happily married. Marriage is not easy. I married my soul mate and we still have had to through garbage together.
You can't tell me that this woman didn't read about nick in the magazines while him and Jessica were together. She most definitely knew how badly he treated her so, i can't feel too sorry for her.
Oh it's worse. She and Jessica became friends after Jess' appearances on TRL in '04 (while Jessica was married to Nick and doing some of those appearances with him). I remember not liking Vanessa immediately while watching those appearances because she was all over Nick flirting with him without shame. She soon "befriended" Jessica and would be the little scheming bug in her ear, getting her to spill her marriage troubles with Nick while they were out for drinks in NYC. Giving Jessica "advice" the whole time. It was a hugely-reported detail back in '06 because Jessica was divorcing Nick and suddenly out pops Vanessa by his side in his new music video about Jess and is papped on dates with him. The media remembered the whole timeline and outed Vanessa. 😂 She is a conniving snake and their own dismal marriage is her karma for actions.
Let’s not pretend these dating shows are focused on healthy relationships. This is entertainment. If being faced with another love interest is the only way to know you want the relationship then something is wrong
Love isn’t supposed to be this hard. This is a little sad :( the work is communication, compromise, seeing different perspectives and so on with your partner. But really the most important work is on yourself. Being the best version of yourself and the rest is easy. That’s what worked for me anyway.
If it doesn't inspire the best version of you, it's not right for you
Her Love is hard because she Forced herself on a vulnerable man at the onset of his divorce while the papers weren’t even signed....Even though she hooked and sinked him , I can’t imagine the insecurity that follows her for the duration of the relationship - It’s like enjoying life with stolen goods and never feeling that you obtained someone or something rightfully And always looking over your back to see when the victim will realize what happened
@soozjoo "victim" You obviously don't know Jessica's story. She considered herself lucky to finally get out of that controlling tortuous relationship. I wasn't surprised at all this relationship is as bad as his first one. Who is the common denominator? Hmmm..lemme see..who can that be...🤔
That dude loved Jessica she came in at the time they was going thru stuff Let’s be Real . She knew what she was doing . And what he is . Don’t feel sorry for her .
Agreed. However, Jessica also has her own issues
actually he was shitty to Jessica not loving at all
@@reneegardner2286 Facts.
Some of y’all still blocked in the past
Its the reason I don’t like Vanessa for him at all & Jessica’s been found her soulmate in Eric Johnson ‼️🤷🏻♀️
She was the other woman….he won’t change honey
Yup
Lol the way she looked in general. Im not surprised. She always had this disappointed look on her face.
Imagine not having a therapist, counselling and a wind chime guru.......how do relationships work outside of all that.
Lol
Other than the wind chime guru, the other resources are legitimate.
My husband and I married when I was 18 he was 19 we have been married 41 years. It’s ups and downs. You just have to work them out. I think it’s easy for people just to say, I’m done and get a divorce.
my gad this is such a first world problem. Really? You rely your relationship to therapists? 🤣
Wind chime guru LOL🤣
She's still the rebound for Jessica
shes not - shes the one he created a family with and ultimately was the one for him
@@cuaxwb1822 lolll right
It took A LOT of convincing. She admitted it in a interview that he left when she gave him and ultimatum about getting married. @@sunshinegirl02
I still don't want them on the shows. Over it.
Nick and Vanessa never should've gotten married bc in order to be with her Nick HAD to give up pursuing his career the way he wanted to support hers, which u can tell he doesn't like. And Vanessa lost her identity bc all of her value resides in being Nick's wife, that's why she's so controlling with him. She knows they're a bad fit and she's insecure about it so that makes her tighten the reigns on him to make sure he stays.
REBOUNDS are always fraught with a LIFETIME of “what ifs” & heavy doubts especially when one strong arms the one recovering from a broken relationship - they will always question if I waited maybe the real RIGHT one would have come along but crap I settled…😢
12years of marriage is still quite short but it must be classed as a long lasting marriage in Hollywood. My parents in Japan have been together for 48years, my parents in law in the UK been together for 50years and me and my husband have been happily together coming up for 20years.
This particular video is old, I know from watching the new season of love is blind, if you don't know they are the hosts of that show, they've now been together 18 years and married 13 years, which I mean compared to your parents is nothing, but generally I think is a long time, but like you said for sure in Hollywood years is an extremely long time.
I have always really liked them both and when they got together I thought they make a beautiful couple. He always seemed so down to earth and unproblematic
Yes you’re right HE IS down to earth and not the problem… She’s the forced “thorn” over bearing personality that is not healthy
@@soozjoo I don't think that but she was really young, sheltered and immature when they got together/married. I remember hearing that he told her she needed to learn to cook and there was a couple of other things but I can't remember. But I do remember from the show that she was a horrible house keeper, didn't cook and just spent without a budget.
Be the best woman for yourself women, not for a man. We already saw how he treated Jessica. Nick ain’t shit
Lmfao WORD
Wow just wow this room is rough... I love them both and glad they are working it through. they are a beautiful family
I know people are just jelouse
Don't ever go to the internet to learn about a happy relationship. You don't go to a McDonald's drive-thru to learn about fine dining cuisine, same thing. The internet is the scum of relationships and relationship advice.
He just got better at being an a-hole when he dated/married Vanessa. Jessica Simpson dodged a bullet.
Omg I cannot stand Nick when Vanessa said that he should have spoke up and said that he is also working to be the best man for her. Ugh he is so full of himself I cant stand it.
Imagine being someone's second reality show wife😂
@@jenniferdefoor1080 Vanessa didn't play the ex-wife. She plays a woman who takes what's left of a man after a divorce. Watch the video again.
@@jeanniefeaster4325this. ‘You can have what’s left of me’ - divorce is very hard on men
@@jeanniefeaster4325Both Nick and Jessica have admitted she played Jessica in that video (and that the entire What's Left of Me album is about/to Jessica). He even went to Jessica's place to play her the entire album and let her know what was about to be released to the public. They even had sex after listening to the album. The only reason Vanessa is there (and whining here about having to bend over backwards to become Nick's sloppy seconds) is because Jessica wouldn't take him back after he begged her to stay.
@@courtney_paige89 Thats correct.
@@courtney_paige89 Good details and yes unfortunately her desperation to be the sloppy rebound is still apparent today… Sadly “forced” relationships will never be balanced and the person strong armed to marry will never feel like they truly had real love by choice and clearly here Nick just settled
She even flirted with him while he was still with Jessica and she was there !! I have no respect for her
Aww, their kids are gorgeous. Good for them.
Nick and Jessica's Marriage could have worked if Jessica's Dad hadn't made it his mission to undermine it.
Maybe he knew Nick had issues. I also blame the show.
Jessica Dad will meet his own day for everything he did to destroy other peoples lives
Nick was brought up on old fashioned work ethics and Integrity. He was grounded ... Jessica's Dad priority was to nurture Jessica's Career and optics, and ignore her Marriage. @@ButterflyPink1121
I feel for her, because looking back Newlyweds Nick and Jessica, he was awful to Jess. A leopard doesn't usually change his spots .. 😉.
What no he wasn't what did he do to her that was nasty
She also flirted with Nick while he was married to Jessica on mtv
yeah, when she said every issue they had as a couple she brought up - i thought about nick making jessica into the problem when she wasn't. jessica was just being herself, nick shamed her unnecessarily and terribly. i hope thats not what he does to vanessa. it sounds like the same thing all over again, except vanessa believes him and tries to fix it. ew.
U all love to blame the men huh
no, blame problematic behavior regardless of what the gender is.@@sarahsilva3481
It’s ❤soo great to see a marriage couple is fighting real for theire marriage❤
I love this couple they're working on things and NOT just giving up. Marriage is work, give and take, communication, being there through the good and bad times. When you love each other, you definitely need communication to get through things, if you don't communicate with your husband or wife its going to turn ugly and someone will shut down their emotions and not want to talk. You have to be present and patient with each other. You also have to have date night at least once a week and not talk about the kids, its all about the both of you, have fun, laughter, get romantic so your marriage doesn't end. Love and marriage is hard work, but if you love each other so much and can't imagine anyone else other than the person who you are with, its worth fighting for. Again communication is the big key.
You both are a lovely couple, please work on things, people give up way too easily. Love you both ❤❤❤
LISTEN WOMAN, relationship 💪 is Wwwwooorrkkk in general, with your girlfriend's with your kids with your neighbour. With your friends, with your grandmother - with humans.... DON T YOU KNOW THAT ? What a cheap comment. Everyone know this. Those 45 people....mmmhhh, strange
@@keepcreationprocess LISTEN UP HERE! I was just focusing on marriage because that's what the video was about. ! It's NOT a CHEAP comment ! Everything in life is hard work, relationships, with couples, jobs, friends, family, working hard on yourself. Life is hard, it's just how we deal with things that matter to us. Please don't say Listen Women ! That's degrading plus my comment was NOT Cheap! Geez, the way you write and come after me....... you are low class !
@@keepcreationprocess AMEN. ✌🏼❤️
Never seen such unprofessional hosts
I’m so tired of this woman!!
Yes that was totally unnecessary to say, Nick looked so uncomfortable…
Yes same
😂😂😂
He's a bore too.
Great job as always
Nick looks amazing its like he's aging like fine wine
Yes unfortunately he’s seems so miserable, “stuck” and SHUTDOWN … Almost like she has extinguished “what was left “ of him for her own selfish goal to build her own fame
Vanessa looks like a drama queen! 👑
Also nick 😂😂😂
I dont think so
She's no drama queen never had . But negative women on here are who bash her drama queens and want people attention on their rude comments
She definitely is, and she’s super annoying and desperate.
I always thought Vanessa Lachey has a great sense of humor. To me, you’re blessed to be able to laugh w someone. Whatever, challenges come up in their marriage. I pray they continue fighting for their marriage. They really make a beautiful couple and family
Nick doesn’t compromise… he’s a one way street. He’s grooming her to be narcissistic just like he is. It’s an image… not a marriage. Such a shame!!!!
Always making it about her 🥱
we saw how he treated Jessica so I'm not surprised she's crying! he's very narcissistic imo
There is then and now, i’m sure no one stays the same
But a narcissist will never change. They are the most dangerous personalities out there
Exactly & I don’t like Vanessa‼️😒
This clip is her praising him so….. maybe watch before commenting
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Imagine the pressure that he puts on her
Nick and Jessica will always be my favorite couple even though they’re not together. Vanessa minillo is his wife but to me Jessica is way prettier and nicer.
Any man who goes to hooters has already committed infidelity. Cuz lets just be honest, you aint going to the hooters just for the food.
Wow, you can’t be that ignorant?
actually the one who sounds ignorant is you @@MyHandle4455
She sure fight to keep him he hasn't done anything for her
Vanessa is so fidgety and makes the weirdest facial expressions. It’s annoying.
Yeah, Either she’s crying or she’s just silly and pulling faces
shes like the Hailey beiber of her time
They both need to stop drinking.
They drink the pain away. only to see that it makes a person more emotional and those feelings that they felt before the drink is now at the forefront.
They are so beautiful together 😢
She is gorgeous. She is beautiful.
Oh wow she's v emotional. Cuties long relationship there😭🥰❤️
I love them together , mariage is difficult but they are working hard to ho through difficulties.
Wow. I love you on the first date. Red Flag.
love bombing
I wish the best for you guys.
Nick has ALWAYS been very private, Ya'll remember back in the day when Kim Kardashian was trying to make a name for herself? Well she used her flirty and baby sexy vibe like Paris Hilton to get him to go on a date with her to the movies. Little did he know, Kim was just trying to make a name for herself in that Hollywood D celebrity type culture, Just like Paris. Kim also wanted to be on the hills and you can see her in a couple scenes for a hot second. Anyway, Nick Lachey and Kim went to a movie. Kim called the paparazzi quietly before hand to let them know what they were doing and when they would be leaving the theatre. Well Nick didnt like that and he was pissed the Eff off at her. He ditched her after that. Part of me understands his reservations, but at the same time, when I see his wifes emotional pain . I feel there is something deeper going on in with there relationship , and especially with Nick!! HE has a hidden side he doesnt want anyone to see, and i am an empath. Its not a good side i feel. REmember how he was with his ex Simpson on there reality show? Train wreck waiting to happen. Just sAYIN.!!!
Really?…..😂
I agree with you 100%! I think Nick wants to be seen as something but in reality is super self centered.
Its looks, money, and occupation. There is no real love because it all comes down to what's on paper and if the friends/family approve. No one chooses real love.
I don’t understand the hate in these comments. They seem like a normal married couple. Up and downs and in Hollywood to be together this long they are obviously doing something right. I wish them and their beautiful family the best.
I don't think she truly wanted to marry Nick. I don't think she thought she could do better, and felt pressured to give him an ultimatum. Nick wanted a wife and kids more than he wanted Vanessa. Either way they have a beautiful family. Glad they could work through it.
Wow to make a statement like that when you don’t actually know. That’s completely the opposite of the truth. She was hungry for him before and during their dating life. It was a lot especially shortly after the breakup and when Nick was starting his solo tour. She made all her intentions very, very obvious… explicitly. Also, Vanessa was the one who didn’t have a family if you know her personal life. Her Mom abandoned her. She wanted that family life with Nick and made it happen with 3 kids.
@@LV-vj7pw 😂 and you know her personally?? Calm down, none of us do, it's just an opinion. They both had major baggage but they seemed to make it work.
@@cristinarodriguez3157 Yes actually a lot of people were there too bc she went on mic at his concert and addressed the whole situation bc they were addressing the rumors of them dating and how she felt about him etc. It was in NYC. Also there are a lot of places of the info I gave. I certainly wouldn’t just make up stuff.
I love them together I really hope they last I adore nick Lachey and I remember how heartbroken he was after his divorce w Jessica Simpson im so happy he found such an amazing beautiful woman and I always loved Vanessa I remember when she won that vj competition on MTV im so happy they are happpy
I really don’t think they’re a good match for each other. I can’t say why, just a very immediate feeling.
This why I don’t believe in marriage did what to be the best women for him forget him you need to be the best women for yourself if he loves you he loves for who you are or it ain’t love
Nick and Jessica need to reconnect
Nick looking like a young Harrison Ford. Aging so nicely
she def. need a thearipeast😂
Her therapist owes her a BIG REFUND
I don't feel bad for Vanessa. Because Vanessa did met Nick when he was married to Jessica. When Vanessa used to work for MTV. The TRL days. When she was a VJ. Interviewing them both as a couple. Gotta remember you're not the 1st wife. Nothing compares to the 1st spouse. Whether you're a man or woman. You're getting the leftovers. It is always disgusting & problematic. As you can tell. Vanessa continues being petty AF & jealous of Jessica. And it has been years. And still hurting deep down inside. That's why you can't take baggage from previous relationships/marriage not even children. Because it was never your responsibility or duty to fulfill the next person's happiness. Vanessa made her bed. Gotta deal with it. Until the day she decides to continue with the marriage or divorce Nick.
Well said and she hooked claws into him deep even before divorce paper weren’t even signed- She’s was “Smash and Grab” the soon to be divorced
Very well said. Thank you!
She has always known Jessica is in his heart. She pretended that he’s so in love with her but we all know better. 🙄
He says I love you while at hooters 🤢
I hope it works out for them. Cute kids. Bless them. 🍎🍏🍎🍏
Ohhh please, Jess is better.
They were so cute together ❤
Attention seeking is a horrible malady of the soul and our society.
I bet she apologizes and takes responsibility for things when she shouldn’t
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Doubt it- SHE DOMINATES and he is scared of her
She's angry...all the time.
Yesss! I've noticed this too 🥺😓
She wasn't like this at all during her 'MTV Host' days, before being married to Nick.
Yup! It's like we're all in trouble all the time because Vanessa has to work so hard at her marriage. It's also hard to tell who her anger is directed at because Nick is sitting right next to her while she's yelling at the wind about how much she hates her life. Perplexing.
Probably because kids stress you out, why they had three, I don't know.
I noticed this about her also. I am sorry but if I had to give a man a ‘Ultimatum’ to marry me but still work hard at the marriage…maybe it is not meant to be.
You have to love yourself, before you love anyone else!!!!! She is very insecure...... He is a control freak...
He always has been... She interruptes everything he has to say!!! This is not going to work, he is to bullheaded......
People wouldnt have all these problems if they just stayed single.
Poor thing is still living under the shadow of “Nick and Jessica.”
Feel sorry for Nick… She dominates, talks incessantly and FAILS to listen to anyone… Acts like she’s in therapy instead of a host that should be asking relevant questions and listening for deeper insights… Keeps badgering on and dominating entire conversation and making sure its all about her. Poor man…
She’s insecure that’s why she always talks and is so protective of nick
I'm not seeing where we should want to model their relationship
I love them together ❤
Especially when Vanessa is crying cause she’ll do anything to please nick
girl if you DONT STAND UP............
Let’s see how long that will last…
The kids are gorgeous
The issue here is not Nick. I’m sure he can be a jerk but Vanessa was so thirsty for him way back when he was a married man. I remember her flirting with him on MTV spring break right in front of Jessica and acting a fool on set of his video for “What’s Left of Me”. She was determined she was going to be with him no matter what and she’s always been insecure because she’s never measured up to Jessica. Nick never has and never will love her like he did Jessica and she knows that. She’s nowhere near as beautiful as 2003 Jessica Simpson and never will be.
Sorry but she’s cuter than Jessica ever was
@@missybee7842 on what planet? 😂
@@missybee7842 you lied to yourself... at her peak Jessica was one of the most beautiful in world.
@@missybee7842No, but she is better looking than Jessica is now.
She seems so annoying
I’m sorry but their both made for each other she’s always been jealous of Jessica nick wants to be in control so either way that’s them
Taking relationship advice from a narcissistic dude and his victim is a relationship suicide.
The common denominator seems to be him, first it was Jessica. idk
Yes to couples and individual therapy!
You can get your message across without the extra hand gestures.
Dirty Laundry? Please Jess and Nick do so you seriously wanted to be the opposite of Jess you are trying to hard Vanessa
Nick is definitely not over Jessica and Vanessa needs to learn that she was second choice…
Why is she crying? And what does best woman for him means?
A submissive wife. and she doesnt want to be one. They're both Scorpios with the same birthdays. I'm not surprised at all their making their marriage "work" She wants more leeway and freedom as a woman and he prohibits her that freedom without him getting all jealous. Jealousy in a relationship will always be the downfall in any relationship 💯💯
HAPPY 43TH BIRTHDAY VANESSA LACHEY !!!!
I noticed she looked very stressed in the first episode so much so I couldn't keep trying to watch.
It was like the unspoken situation...
@@artflorida0510
Did you see the episode??
She looked close to tears the entire time. Her hair was mussed and her demeanor stiff.
I felt for her too much to watch.
I never knew they werw married when I saw clips of them hosting because there didn't seem to be any sort of chemistry lol it's giving very much BUSINESS and staying together for the "power couple" title
If you watched the ultimatum season 1, at the beginning of the season I'm pretty sure it is where she talked about her journey to getteing married to her now husband! But I must say that it is true they do not seem to have chemistry but I think it is because they're hosting and not trying to be all lovey dovey since this is their job. Just my thoughts.
I disagree. I don't watch the show but they seem very much in love. Why would they have kid after kid after kid. They are in a happy healthy loving marriage/relationship. ❤️
@@qutielove2208I am not saying they are not in love. They don't seem to have chemistry on camera and it is true lol. If you watch them host their shows they don't really interact with each other in a lovey dovey way. They do seem more like business partners which they are. They are a couples who seem more into each other than they seem on camera but it's just me. And personnaly I do not agree that since they have children they are in love. A lot of people get and stay married just because they want the title or for children.
exactly
Never do that to a man , it can back
Fire on her.