How to overcome the Trauma of Bullying and Harassment? | Sakshma Srivastav | TEDxRambaug
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- čas přidán 25. 06. 2024
- Do we carry the baggage of our childhood trauma into adulthood without realising? Does that limit our potential & future success? In this TED Talk, she share with us how to use your painful experiences & turn them into swords that will help you fight the biggest battles of life, how to believe in your dreams and how to find hope in the midst of the darkest times. Sakshma Srivastav is a multi-talented personality, from the dream city of Mumbai, India.
In the year 2016, she emerged as a finalist of the National Beauty Pageant, Miss India Universe.
Currently, she has emerged as one of the most popular television hosts among the Gen Z audience all across the globe.
On 5th June 2021, Sakshma hosted an interview on her television talk show E Now, a show that she is the Director & Producer of, where she interviewed the biggest boy group in the history of music and entertainment, BTS.
She has interviewed many other popular celebrities from Bollywood as well as Hollywood.
She kicked off her journey in the entertainment industry at a tender age of 11 and has been a finalist of the National Beauty Pageant, Miss India Universe. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Believe in yourself Cubies♥️ Believe in your dreams!😌
🥺🥺💜🔥thankyou sugar for inspiring us, we love you so much your journey is so emotional and inspiring 🥺🥰. It's so motivating and uplifting me
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You are inspiration!!
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The silent bully thing? Yeah it hurts the most coz if it's physical we can atleast stop it at some point but if it's psychological we can't catch each and every person. In scl I faced it, I was ignored, laughed at, excluded from discussions and it truly hurted. But I had some other good friends and parents in my life. I was like a person living with two personalities that time, who used to be silent in scl and used to be real with my other friends. And she spoke truth that it takes a lot to regain your confidence!! So everyone out there surround yourself with people whom you love and it's the same way back coz that takes you out from everything😇
Similar story here ! •́ ‿ ,•̀
Very well said 🙏
I had the same experience and I know very well how much it actually hurts when faced with psychological bullying or pain than the physical ones. Others think if you are not being bullied physically, they are not hurting you, they can't understand why we're hurting but the psychological bullying, becoming an outcast, not having anyone with you hurts you more than anything. It completely eats you from inside and this leads to never ending depression. I became totally silent, my grades deteriorated, I completely stopped communicating with others. This thought that 'real friends don't exist' etched itself completely in the depths of my mind and stopped me from trying to make new friends or know others.This affected me in every aspect of my life. Now I am not with those so called friends with whom I was always an outcast, a topic of fun, an object for body shaming. I am now trying my very best to get out of that depression and regain my confidence. I am trying my very best to make my life right and normal.
Thanks for sharing !!
@@asmitadas4575 i hope and pray to god that everything works out for you. I hope u regain your confidence and much more happiness will be blessed to you
She said to RM that it feels so intellectual and articular when he speaks
TODAY I'll say that WHEN SHE SPEAKS IT FEELS SO ARTICULAR AND INTELLECTUAL...she is an art💜 being a journalism student, following her is one of the best things I am doing 💜💜
The way she talked indicates that how much struggle she did and doing 💜💜
@Rajat singh where did you she/he compare? Aren't they free to call a particular person articulate and intellectual? Free country~~~
@Rajat singh no one is comparing anyone to anyone just read the sentence.....RM is the best at his position and Sakshama is the best at her position......also we can't compare people who belong to different professions .....so kindly re read the comment and before replying use the brain
@@saltyuser_ dude just let her/him be ....this person is showing his/her mentality nd toxicity
@@swaraaa__03 yes, people always point out what bothers them in a toxic way instead of ignoring it.
@@saltyuser_ exactly.....they just can't digest the fact that people have their own struggles....their day starts with posting negative comments and ends with posting negative comments that's it
I think having the kind of parents who can value your mental health and take your struggles seriously enough to help you overcome them is a privilege in itself.
Exactly
That doesn't mean she / he deserves to be bullied.
@@heytherehowyoudoing6147 no one deserves to get bullied! i'm just pointing out the fact that not everyone is lucky enough to have supportive and encouraging parents. So while it's amazing that Sakshma had her parents by her side, some of us are not even granted that basic comfort and help.
@@ritika8059 totally agree.
@@heytherehowyoudoing6147 Nobody said anybody deserves to get bullied. Bullying is wrong, the end. The point of the comment was to state about the role parents , and how it is sadly a " privilege" to have understanding parents. Coz so many of us, have abusive or uncaring parents to live with on top of being a victim of bullying. That basically bullying in school and bullying when you get home too. It's horrible.
She is honestly worth everything she is receving. We want her and more people like her to bring INDIA on our global platform. I love Sakhma di so much 💜💚💜💜💕💕
Exactly ❤️❤️
You can tell this woman has so much courage & sincerity in her voice. She relives those experiences as she talks about them, you could tell that with her voice ❤I hope everyone can find the courage to tell their story
Wow you validated her sincerity with beautiful reasoning ♥️♥️👍🏼 beautiful comment.
I still remember Kai's interview that's how I came to know her. I'm so proud of her.
I love powerful women like her. No matter how young they are, they shine soo freaking bright.
Having cystic acne is a real struggle but rarely people understand how taxing it is for self-confidence. People get into depression because of cystic acne and suffer from serious body image issues.
I am grateful to her for speaking about her vulnerable moments like a champ. I hope to see her grow more and more.
The BTS episode itself showed how charismatic she is. The worldwide known band did not overshadow her even a bit. She was one of the celebrity on the screen. Her presence on the screen was equally powerful..
You know how hard it was when her sound was breaking. She is so strong to say it out❣
Edit : Thanks for the likes
Even I faced the same situation but not for a long period, I recovered ,it was painful but if you overcome it then you become stronger . To all who have been bullied, please speak for yourself It takes courage but you will feel better and love yourself more 💜 ❤
It was very hard for me to come out i later became a huge introvert but then i started a little recovering from trauma...but its not that easy i still remember and i start crying badly!
@@aprajitasingh2669 same I am an introvert
"Hard work doesn't goes to waste, People would see one day"... Very True....❤
“All you have to do is hard work” ~SAKSHMA SHRIVASTAV ❤️
Every successful person has faced a dark phase in life which polished them
This is how I want to talk to people when I reach my destination of dreams
I gotto know her because of KAI...and i think she's doing a wonderful job...
And Yes i relate to many parts which she shared on this show... sometimes you wanna give up everything and disappear but trust me..just a lil more patience and you'll be done with it..you need to have that confidence...
Thats y this gurl understands the pain that kpop idols go through,so she appreciates every them and make them valued she knows hardship ...i really love her💜
I have always wondered why she compliments even every little things the celebs say but now I know she was giving them all she couldn't have and want to have.....And thank you sooooo much for the talk it gave me tears and goosebumps at the same time...and I truly wish all your dreams to come true and inspire all lil ones having hard time understanding theirself..👍
So true. Let's appreciate her efforts. She deserves better.
I mean she introduced Kai to India.
We have some new Exol with the help of her.
I am sure all Exol support her.
4:55 i wish my parents would ask me such question. And in my opinion not all parents ask such type of questions. I don't know about all but mine are not. No shade to my parents but all I wanna say is in the teenage children will go through so many things like harrasment, bullying etc.. etc.. which we don't talk about actually. I hope all parents take this type of issues siriously and support thier child not leaving them fighting alone. ✨❤️
Even my parents never asked me about hoes my life going, do I need any help, is something bothering me etc etc.. all they do is just questioning me about what I do on internet 🙄🙄 but I'm happy for sakshama she got such an understanding dad! ♥️
Misery loves company "
Damn this girl is just spitting facts.
When she got hate for interviewing BTS from some ARMYs, I really felt hopeless. i mean she represented Indian Girls so well in front of the boys these lil girls dream of "marrying" yet some delulu Indian bts fans bashed her. Those people will never get to meet their idols.
Honestly, there are interviews Sakshma does that I watch for her and not for the celeb she's interviewing. She's such a good host, always super well prepared, respectful and so sincere. I love the energy she gives out to others and makes them feel so comfortable. I will always root for you!
'Next time i fail which i will but i will never lose my confidence' beautifully said❤
you can actually feel her emotions right in her voice...the excitement and also those slight waverings as she's trying to bring up those moments from her past
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She totally nailed it!.....what a girl man! ...so proud of you
She is such an inspirational woman💜💜
Do you know Sakshma you've just given me a hope of embracing myself
I'm just 18 n I am trying to dig me out from my depression
I haven't tell anybody about it but I was feeling down but now I think I CAN DO IT no matter whether I'll be able to pass my exam but I'll try hard
THANK YOU SO MUCH 😘😘
You will Win in Life.... Queen ❤️👑
I relate to you so much, even I'm so worried about my exams and I'm depressed about it for like all the time
But let's give our best & i hope you get all you want in life :)
@@rishhh4525 ugh me too :/ i got 12th boards but i’m not at all prepped. idk how i’m going to study and revise the whole semester in 5 days. plus i feel so dejected thinking about my higher studies. but i’m trying my best to not lose hope.. i think i still have the chance to ace my exams!! and hope you guys ace your exams too !!! hope we all will do well in our future endeavours
@@613tan you'll do great! Just remember it's never too late to start again, just make a time table and follow it with heart, you'll be so well prepared,
And yes, i also have my 12th boards right now & on top of that I have some other entrance exams to give too, that's why I'm kinda messed up,
But I'm sure we both will go thru this hectic time together & everything will be amazing after this, all the best bud :)
@@613tan also don't be very scared or anxious, it's the worst feeling & you won't be able to focus, just think in your mind "I CAN DO THIS" And I'm sure nothing will stop you
The more you're insecure & afraid of not preparing well, the less you'll actually be able to prepare
So just give your all & surround yourself with positive thoughts & motivational videos, I'm sure there's no stopping you
Sometimes, it's your parents who put you in the deepest pitch of life..
And u take too long to realize and accept that, cuz they are your parents.
One who undergoes maximum harrassment becomes the best person who knows the power of love of selfless kind and is gifted with the power of ASSESSMENT as well yet remains and maintains one's absurdity laughing on thyself and discovering thyself endlessly till final breath. It's great that young minds are doing something different and not becoming herd mentality oriented minds is development worth appreciating. Thanks
She literally inspired me. I do not know about others but at some points I just got goosebumps and overwhelmed feeling. I could feel her hardwork and struggles. It's not only us that happens to everyone. She comforted us by her words. After listening to her I may not feel lonely and keep working constantly just by one failure I can't give up.
I cried , but I feel much better , and she feel like a support to me . She truly deserves what she is today 💜
You can feel the rawness in her voice. That is reality. She is so much at her edge and still so proud about all the way she's come through. I think I've found my role model. And I am damn sure I'll be watching this everytime I feel down.
She is my absolute favorite...... I really adore her .... when se says cherish your parents at that point of time I am sure her parents have felt proud on her.....
The next time I fail which I will, I will not lose my confidence - Sakshma Srivastav
Wow, I've never come across something so relatable. Similar bullying and harassment is happening to me in my area I moved to a few years ago. People laughing, spreading rumors, passing comments. This all turned me from an extrovert to a person who hardly steps out of her home. This affects you at such a deep level. And being a sensitive person it hurts a lot more. No matter how much I tell to myself that people's opinions don't matter, I find myself crying hours over it.
But I will keep going, keep pursuing my dream. I'm not there on any social media as one of my resolutions is to start a career first. So, whenever I feel low, I go through motivational videos on youtube and people like you not only inspire me but also give me hope. God bless you and I pray you achieve many such milestones and keep inspiring us.
In these whole 20 Minutes I found a new version of Sakshma Srivastav! Her speech was so powerful! Like she so normal and cute in her videos but her she's a standard!
Sakshama srivastav is a strong women 🔥and biggest inspiration for me and all her CUBIES 🤩💜💜🇮🇳🔥🔥
I am in love with her confidence...such a stunning woman she is💜
It's been a month and I am trapped in a loop of self doubt, hopelessness and feeling lifeless . Initially I tried breaking this loop and putting effort but since few weeks I lost it all .
After listening this , I definitely am going to try again breaking this loop and getting back into life. Thank you for the talk :-)
Trust me you are going to be the best!!!👍
I watched her show for bts but guess what turned out to be her fan indeed 🤗
one of the deepest talks that i ever listened to. Lots of love to this confident, talented, young lady Sakshma💜
She is so strong and positive, she is using her platform to promote positivity of mind and self confidence thats how public figures should be, people love her because of who she is, people should idiolize and look up to someone like her, she is confident beautiful smart and talented, love you Sakshma di be happy and strong always💜💜💜
I'm so so so proud of you as an army...you are great an inspiration people are jealous of you because of your success...💜💜💜we love you soo much and are soo happy seeing how far you have come...
It made me cry . I just love this lady let me tell you most of the people are following her from her interview with BTS but it wasn't the case for me I'd watched this girl from before and trust me from Sakshama I've got so much I repeat again so much confidence when I watched her from the first time I'll like I want to have the confidence like her from then I started working on myself I improve my vocabulary and also I'm more confident now the fear I have now still is MIC but I'm working hope so I'll be able to overcome that fear.❤️ I love you sugar
The Body language,power in her's voice, and confidence... everything is just perfect about her.I know how it feels being bullied...it breaks ur heart it takes down all ur confidence...but trust me u have the power to go through all those shits.They are part of everyone's life...
Yk why ppl hate or bully someone? It's just because they feel jealous they can't really digest ur success and popularity...
But u need to show them your power...remember Stars shine brightest in the darkest night.🤍
Sakshma is literally such a sweet gurl she literally deserve everything
Can you listen little cry in her voice
yes
Coz it is painful to share such memories where you dig back to your past
Literally i've never seen such a humble and confident person in my whole life. We love you so much SAKSHMA
You know Sakshma.. you are the true Miss India we never had because of the way you have fought for your dreams and the way you are inspiring youth today. I truly love and respect you. Jokes on your bullies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for doing the job so well and thanks for embracing the youth of India and worldwide like this. You have made your mark and I hope we cross paths for once or twice or maybe more!!!!! To love and growth!! Cheers!
Exactly !!! You cannot please the world … miserable people will ALWAYS be miserable. These kind of people will never achieve their dreams, will never work hard and blame the world for their thankless lives…
Let’s strive to be the best version of ourselves . And more power to you Sakshma
I loved her interview with bts first….and after this talk i am in love with her. Stay strong girl and we will too.
She is a wonderful speaker😊👏👏 The hardwork she does can be seen clearly in her interviews which is unlike other interviews😌
BTS and recently Seventeen were amazing💃😘
Damn I wanted to know more about Sakshma because I saw her kpop interviews and they were amazing but here I ended up remembering my childhood and listening to her while hugging my pillow and nodding at everything she said ♡
Believe in ur self and ignore the people hate u haters are gonna hate lovers are gonna love!
So boring lines
@@birendrasingh8234 to u girl/boy
True💜
@@birendrasingh8234 it's a line, not ur life.. 🤣
That's why i love her she is so pretty and hard working 🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩love you didi
Sakshma is an amazing and talented girl..I love her voice conference and gorgeous smile😇..She is my inspiration💜♥️
I think didu you are crying from inside, I can hear that voice😥😥
Inspiring Words by Sakshma. Kudos on her achievements and all that she achieved whilst overcoming so many things. Bravo!
Just wanted to meet her see her and talk with her 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜she is best and gave a biggest power and confidence to every girl❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️hats off this powerful and confident girl
I knew her from the kpop interviews and i just love the way she talks, her confidence is everything. She sounds like she has her life together. Rooting for you!
Never thought that this interviewer has these much of struggles 🥺🥺 but I think now not her parents only but we all are proud on her 💜🥺
I honestly admire your struggle you had to go through mam. You are such a inspiration~♡
And you mentioned BTS I got goosebumps bcoz I knew you going to mention them.💜💖
Yaa that's right i also got goosebumps
Sakshma you are an inspiration to young India. You may have not won miss India because our Gods had other plans for you. Today you are representing us Indians so well amongst some of the famous ppl in the world! You are doing much more better job than any nepotistic kid or any other beauty peagant winners out there! Good luck! Keep flying high
What if your own parents laugh at your situation and are harassing you , it feels like its worthless to live...I hope every child may get understanding parents...SORRY I CAN'T RELATE SAKSHMA😔
Then you have your friends to share and if they are also the same then you have your best COMPANION to cheer you up and that is YOU...💜
@@parthsharthi1305 I don't have any friends but this really makes me happy 😊 THANK YOU..
ALL THE BEST SWEETY for your future😊
I exactly know what you are talking about I'm in the same state as u
being a minor who is not stable educationally and financially I seriously cannot help.
But thankfully I have beautiful friends who are always with me.
I genuinely hope u do get wonderful companions to lead ur life.
Please remember YOU NEVER WALK ALONE.
Your life is completely worthy to me, I want you to live a good life.
You are very strong person u atleast shared your problem even if it's through the comments where u might have assumed no one sees. Confrontation is the first step to healing. And you have already recognized the problem!!
I want u to have a happy life. Please hangon a little. I really want you to heal soon and live your best life!!!💖
@@iasoing4919 Looking at all these endearing comments, My heart is overwhelmed with gratitude. Thank you so much...
I can feel her pain in her voice 🥺🥺
And definitely she deserves to be happy
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Last two minutes literally made me cry.
I really needed that kind of motivation to feel myself.
I don't know about other people but literally this is best thing I have ever listened in my whole life.
Yes! its true❤️ and Thank you! 😊
Yeah! That's what i needed too. ✌️
I don't know how to comment on this speech I am speechless such an amazing speech from an amazing women
I would like to say she is really a hard-working and confident girl.
We proud of sakshmasrivastav ❤️💙❤️
Those two lines were quite motivating and actually true.
That what that seed was doing from the past five years- It was developing its roots.
Life indeed comprises of highs and lows as in ECG machines if they are there , it means you are alive but but if its flat it means you are dead. So, we should not aspire for a smooth going life , highs and lows are indeed crucial for you to be alive.
Exactly these kind of bullying happened with me in my school. I couldn't forget till now, whenever I remember these situations I get emotional even it has been decades.
Your interview with BTS is not only your one of the best, but theirs too I’m sure.
sakshma my sugar u still have long way to go ....i love this talk , u r so inspirational and thank u so much coz u r affecting so many people's lives in a better way....and i still watch that BTS interview ,that interview is wholesome and is the best ....i just can't get enough of it...love u sugar
She's a strong woman! ❤️
She deserves a clap🙂👏🙏
13:50 oo my god I literally got goosebumps when you mentioned EXO's Kai 😭
Our nini
Yesss
Yesse
I've got to know her through BTS... And I've become her fan. She's such a sweet heart...
You all know what, this year I am in high school and I got into the trauma of bullying 😢and I was so depressed from days that I can't focus on my studies 😣but sakshma changed it for me I found this video very helpful for me I'll never forget that my parents and you are my excellent motivators 🥹..... Now one I wanna meet you as, you have made my mind to feel confident and not to focus on the people who are making fun of you....🥲 Thank you SAKSHMA ma'am for everything.....
She just made me cry and motivated me so much 🥺💜
That's true we are born in a judgmental society. People will do there best to judge you and try to take you down. But be the first one everytime to encourage and support you 😊😊
When was the last time you had goosebumps listening to someone? Real respect for this woman. Love you Sakshma💜💜💜
Love her sm. Watch her latest interview with seventeen . Her interaction and question are the best. Also her questions were appreciated by svt members.
She is such an inspiration ♥️ I started watching her show when she interviewed Darshan Raval and sweing her growing like this is 🙌⭐🥂
i totally relate with her ... seriously the dad part.. i actually experience it .. i was sitting in my room thoughtless and then my father came and asked me same question I think he was observing me from many days !!! it feels so good when ur parents motivate you that u can do anything like ❤️ anything ❤️
We never feel her past felling that she gone through...now she becomes inspiration for those who is going through there tough time...
I am one of those .. it is hard but I do it✌️
I'm crying....this is so relatable.....but I still can't gain confidence...I want to but I can't ...I am basically weak
I didn't plan to watch entire video but ended up watching because of her confidence in herself! You rock gurll!💜💜💜
to be honest, she is so inspirational 💜
She's very strong and hard working woman
Saksham is literally the queen 💜 I adore and respect her hardwork behind this massive success so much !! She deserves to be here.. Gonna support you endlessly sugar 💗
Sakshma you are such an inspirational, talented and hardworking woman👏👏.Love you Lott 💜💜
Your parents really saved you i had nobody and lost 3 years of my life but now im back on track and aint gonna take nonsense !
I see myself doing this one-day. She made me look up to her so much. yes I'm not confident enough yet but I really want to. I've learned so much from her. She looked so confident and she's is so brave that it makes me want to overcome my low self esteem in a very brave way like She did. She's one of the few people I know who embrace the ups and downs that the life offers.
Thank you Sugar✨
I can connect with you i am not confident either. i also want to be confident it's tough but i am learning I hope you are also doing the same☺️💜
@@diarieswitha.s4623 let's get confident in ourselves together ❤
Same here! All the very best for your life ahead 👍
Wahhh!!!! The only thing I would like to say that if I ever got a chance to speak like this you'll gonna be one of those most most important people in my life who motivated me to become what I wanted to be!!!
You're such an inspiring woman and I really pray you become even successful in your life and do what ever dream to do!! Hata off to you 👏
This is seriously sooo inspiring... I'm sooo proud of her.. Her journey, the hardships she faced shows me that there is nothing impossible...a real queen... Luv you soo much Sakshma.. Keep doing what you love and I wish u nothing more than happiness... ❤
So much relatable things... Bravely spoken the reality
I never imagined that the lady who interviewed bts would become one of my biggest role model. Luv u Sakshama 💜💜💜
right 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺, I Adore Her and Big Fan
I want to See Her 😀 In Miss India Femina
❤️❤️me too
Proud of u girl!
U r making our country India proud...
Keep going 💜
We are with u
yes she is India's pride❤❤
@@harathidanda5762 true!
Thank you Ted talks for this wonderful session by sakshma srivastav💜
after hearing this i feels like one day i can also achieve my dreams ...really motivated me
After this I respect her more 😌