Hey Rob, I just wanted to thank you for these videos. OCD has caused a deep deep depression in me, and these make me feel less alone. Sometimes groups are really triggering, but I feel like your perspective puts me on the right track. You're a great coach and I hope you know how many peoples lives you're helping.
Thank you for explaining the underlying cause that needs to be addressed of OCD being like a drug of reassurance and that self acceptance and life acceptance plus living with uncertainty is what is needed. Yes, concern but do not give into chronic guilt which is so unhealthy. This has been helpful and I will use it to wean myself of of that OCD cycle. Blessing to all as they journey to healing and health.
Robert.. I'm so glad you are on you tube.. Definitely subscribing to ur channel.. I owe alot of my recovery to u my friend. So glad u are on you tube bro 👍🏼👍🏼💪🏼💪🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you so much for these video's, I've suffered with severe OCD, Anxiety, intrusive thoughts since I was a child, hating myself, self harm addiction I'm 41 now and I still suffer, I now know that I have many forms of OCD including P ocd, harm ocd, relationship ocd, confession ocd ,intrusive thoughts ocd What if ocd, its torture
@@JR-bi6lg yup best thing is for going to therapy when you have ocd you convince yourself of the craziest thing. And even after telling a lot of people and turns out is nothing but your mind. You need help, I didn’t know how bad I had and even thought it was normal.
Is it common for people to over exaggerate in a confession? For example, confessing to something that they are afraid they did, even though the didn’t do it exactly the way they are describing, but confessing it that way to be ABSOLUTELY SURE, they are still okay?
That's normal with OCD. I've done it a lot because i want to clarify that the absolute worst possible case scenario ISN'T true and that I'm absolutely off the hook
Post multiple concussions, OCD has gotten way worse. I once had myself tested for HIV because I was convinced I had contracted it from a taco. I convinced myself the fast food worker was upset with me to the point of spitting in my food, and the worker had HIV. The worker must have had open sores in his mouth, because I know HIV cannot be transmitted through saliva.
Looking back on these silly scenarios that seemed so real but funny now. It’s hard when it turns into something that seems very real and not silly but very serious I’m trying to tell my self it’s the same situation but different scenarios
Depending on what it is, you can end up feeling worse afterwards after telling someone because you are then ruminating and panicking about what the person such as a counsellor or doctor thinks and if they’ve wrote notes on file etc. it’s a tricky one knowing what to do sometimes
Lol I used to be like that with std test I use to think maybe they didn’t take out enough blood cause sometimes the blood wouldn’t reach that line on the syringe or maybe they didn’t empty out all the blood of the tube so it was a false negative
@@cathalparker5230 I’m good now where I don’t think about it now , obviously a small part of it was me being risky but now I learn to accept with the uncertainty of the outcome
I feel like I have an extreme personality, I feel things so deeply I can't imagine there is any possibility to feel things any deeper. I want a perfect inner self in order to feel OK, so I confess my sins to God and sometimes to a confidant in Christ, but I just can't live with a feeling of having an unresolved problem or feeling like I don't have restitution on something. Is this OCD? I am not even sure if I have OCD, I just feel these intense feelings all of the time, and if I do something wrong I feel like it eats me alive unless I tell the person that I feel I wronged...but I don't take into consideration how it would make them feel, I just want to say it all in order to feel relief and that people know me for who I truly am meaning they know everything I've ever done wrong. I dno if this is really OCD but I'd appreciate any help!
I've had the urge to confess about something, but I don't know for sure if it's real or not. It's been disturbing me for about a week now, I'm disturbed by the nature of it as it falls into the harm OCD category, but I don't know if my thoughts are some kind of memory or made up. I'm terrified that I forgot, or my brain blocked out things & that I'm a terrible person. Who do you go to for this issue? Hospital? Police?? I'm very scared.
@Hayden Redwood Well I passed the year mark And I'm still dealing with it but it is better. I went back on 200 mg of Zoloft. I've had some of my best times After my worst times. I try to remember that. I hope you're holding up as well🍻
Its your perspective of the fear which is at the core of the problem, the recovery journey is about learning to break down the irrational beliefs contributing here and adopting the rational alternative. I know your struggle all too well having suffered with real event Ocd locked on for many years, I will be covering it in much more detail on this channel. Also check out Oliver's videos from yesterday are also very helpful for this theme.
No, it means that someone with OCD has done something bad in the past and their OCD makes the guilt and pain worse and latches onto what they did in the past
Does any of this apply to real event OCD? I have an issue where I always feel a need to confess this one thing I did in the past that I feel really guilty about because I'm also seeking reassurance. And no matter what the people I confess to say I don't believe them any way. And I've found for many reasons confessing this over and over to the same people it actually makes things worse. But yet I still do it anyway in some false hope I'll get a different result. It's weird I can think this out rationally yet in the moment I can't. So then I do the compulsion.
This describes my situation perfectly. I'm always confessing my real event ocd thoughts to my husband, my mom or my dad.
Same. You’re not alone.
@@smujohnson SAME!!
Hey Rob, I just wanted to thank you for these videos. OCD has caused a deep deep depression in me, and these make me feel less alone. Sometimes groups are really triggering, but I feel like your perspective puts me on the right track. You're a great coach and I hope you know how many peoples lives you're helping.
Thank you for explaining the underlying cause that needs to be addressed of OCD being like a drug of reassurance and that self acceptance and life acceptance plus living with uncertainty is what is needed. Yes, concern but do not give into chronic guilt which is so unhealthy. This has been helpful and I will use it to wean myself of of that OCD cycle. Blessing to all as they journey to healing and health.
Thanks for this Rob. This describes me perfectly.
Thank you. This resonated very much so. Wow.. didn’t realize how deep it goes!
Glad it was helpful!
Robert.. I'm so glad you are on you tube.. Definitely subscribing to ur channel.. I owe alot of my recovery to u my friend. So glad u are on you tube bro 👍🏼👍🏼💪🏼💪🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you 😊
thankyou so much for these true teachings very helpful
Your words are in my head. Thankd
Thank you for this
Rob laughing is very cute :^)))) ive seen only the videos in which he is quite serious and this is more enjoyable
Thank you so much for these video's, I've suffered with severe OCD, Anxiety, intrusive thoughts since I was a child, hating myself, self harm addiction
I'm 41 now and I still suffer, I now know that I have many forms of OCD including
P ocd, harm ocd, relationship ocd, confession ocd ,intrusive thoughts ocd
What if ocd, its torture
Have you gone to a therapist?
@@JR-bi6lg yup best thing is for going to therapy when you have ocd you convince yourself of the craziest thing. And even after telling a lot of people and turns out is nothing but your mind. You need help, I didn’t know how bad I had and even thought it was normal.
How long does it take after stopping reassurance seeking through confession before your mind stops doing this
Is it common for people to over exaggerate in a confession? For example, confessing to something that they are afraid they did, even though the didn’t do it exactly the way they are describing, but confessing it that way to be ABSOLUTELY SURE, they are still okay?
That's normal with OCD. I've done it a lot because i want to clarify that the absolute worst possible case scenario ISN'T true and that I'm absolutely off the hook
The idea of not writing out my feelings when my mind is cycling made my head feel like it was going to split open 😢
Post multiple concussions, OCD has gotten way worse. I once had myself tested for HIV because I was convinced I had contracted it from a taco. I convinced myself the fast food worker was upset with me to the point of spitting in my food, and the worker had HIV. The worker must have had open sores in his mouth, because I know HIV cannot be transmitted through saliva.
Looking back on these silly scenarios that seemed so real but funny now. It’s hard when it turns into something that seems very real and not silly but very serious
I’m trying to tell my self it’s the same situation but different scenarios
Subscribed! :)
Welcome aboard!
Depending on what it is, you can end up feeling worse afterwards after telling someone because you are then ruminating and panicking about what the person such as a counsellor or doctor thinks and if they’ve wrote notes on file etc. it’s a tricky one knowing what to do sometimes
Hey Rob, can i ask what qualifications you hold, and if you're registered with the BACP?
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Lol I used to be like that with std test I use to think maybe they didn’t take out enough blood cause sometimes the blood wouldn’t reach that line on the syringe or maybe they didn’t empty out all the blood of the tube so it was a false negative
How are you know?
@@cathalparker5230 I’m good now where I don’t think about it now , obviously a small part of it was me being risky but now I learn to accept with the uncertainty of the outcome
I feel like I have an extreme personality, I feel things so deeply I can't imagine there is any possibility to feel things any deeper. I want a perfect inner self in order to feel OK, so I confess my sins to God and sometimes to a confidant in Christ, but I just can't live with a feeling of having an unresolved problem or feeling like I don't have restitution on something. Is this OCD? I am not even sure if I have OCD, I just feel these intense feelings all of the time, and if I do something wrong I feel like it eats me alive unless I tell the person that I feel I wronged...but I don't take into consideration how it would make them feel, I just want to say it all in order to feel relief and that people know me for who I truly am meaning they know everything I've ever done wrong. I dno if this is really OCD but I'd appreciate any help!
I've had the urge to confess about something, but I don't know for sure if it's real or not. It's been disturbing me for about a week now, I'm disturbed by the nature of it as it falls into the harm OCD category, but I don't know if my thoughts are some kind of memory or made up. I'm terrified that I forgot, or my brain blocked out things & that I'm a terrible person. Who do you go to for this issue? Hospital? Police?? I'm very scared.
im going through the same thing. It came out of nowhere and its been almost a month and a half. Its exhausting. Absolutely exhausting
I'm going through this . False memories OCD that I cheated on my boyfriend but it's like deep down Im pretty sure I didn't but it's just so crazy 🥺🥺🥺
Still struggling with that?
@Hayden Redwood Well I passed the year mark And I'm still dealing with it but it is better. I went back on 200 mg of Zoloft. I've had some of my best times After my worst times. I try to remember that. I hope you're holding up as well🍻
I hope one day I recover from false memorie ocd
How about real event ocd when you can’t really face the fear?
Its your perspective of the fear which is at the core of the problem, the recovery journey is about learning to break down the irrational beliefs contributing here and adopting the rational alternative. I know your struggle all too well having suffered with real event Ocd locked on for many years, I will be covering it in much more detail on this channel. Also check out Oliver's videos from yesterday are also very helpful for this theme.
Might sound dumb but wat is real event ocd? Dkes that mean that urs ocd thats just happening to u?
No, it means that someone with OCD has done something bad in the past and their OCD makes the guilt and pain worse and latches onto what they did in the past
Does any of this apply to real event OCD? I have an issue where I always feel a need to confess this one thing I did in the past that I feel really guilty about because I'm also seeking reassurance. And no matter what the people I confess to say I don't believe them any way. And I've found for many reasons confessing this over and over to the same people it actually makes things worse. But yet I still do it anyway in some false hope I'll get a different result. It's weird I can think this out rationally yet in the moment I can't. So then I do the compulsion.
Yes, it applies. I also have "real event" themes. It's really awful, you feel like you'd do anything to redeem yourself or change the past
Confessing is a compulsion
Is anyone recovered
My wife quit confessing cold turkey. Is it better to ween off?