Virtues of Adoption and Fostering with Sh Omar Suleiman
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My dream is to be healed from kidney failure and obtain a transplant inshallah to foster and adopt children in need... Oh Allah please grant me this ability... Allah humma Ameen
As Salam Alaykum Amin
May Allah (SWT) grant you complete shifa. AMEEN..
Ameen
mashallah sister ana beautiful 💖
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Why does this have so few likes? People need to wake up and soften their hearts. Ya rabb keep us on the straight path and do not let us be among the hypocrites. Ameen.
The foster care system is so overloading with children. If more people adopted orphans that would lessen the load on the system. And every child deserves to be part of a family and loved like a child of the family no matter how the child is related to the caregiver or "parents."
Agreed, agreed, agreed!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼👍❤️
We been fostering for over 6 years and raised many children total of 10 during this time (only 2 have been from Muslim families) including 3 new born babies, it is very rewarding and it’s a way of life rather than a job. May Allah swt reward u brother for Making this video and increasing awareness.
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I'm single my dream is to adopt kids that are orphans,may Allah bless me with a spouse that will help me to achieve my dreams.
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I finally I found from where to obtain my knowledge, Allah is great🤲🏼
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Please help me Allah. Allow me to be humble and with a clear mind and heart. Bless me with health and the ability to worship Allah.
I'm so glad someone talked on this subject so extensively.
Me too
Subhan a Allah Omar!
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@@hazraali5711 you are
We plan on adopting but I will only do it after I have my own kids. We really love the idea especially after we saw some other Muslim couple adopt.
Insha'Allah, may Allah make it easy
Assalamu alaykom wa rahma'tullah wa barakatuh, adopting a child is a good thing to do always, my neighbur [who was not a muslim] adopted a girl a few years before she had a child of her womb. Children still have need.
Don't put off doing a good deed
yeah please don’t adopt with that mind set. Adopted children will be your “own children”!!!!!
If u have this way of thinking then dont adopt. Pray God gives you His heart.
Allah might make you wait longer to have your own babies until after you adopt, reconsider how you plan possibly, if you adopt before having your own, you will be better prepared for your own. Remember favoritism is not smiled upon, and you are already expressing favoritism before meeting a child, it sounds like.
May Allah bless all the couples to have their own baby and have the intention and ability to adopt orphans also.
Amen (LMAO and have the have the...)
I could listen to imam Omar all day long, hes provided me with so much knowledge. May Allah bless him in this life and the after.
U R right, me too I got so many knowledge on his lectures
Jazakallah for raising awareness about such an important topic....NEVER thought this way before............
This is an amazing lecture. This was the final motivation for me to become a foster parent!! 💚
Allah Akbar. Very beautiful and yummy Ahadith and you explained ihem in a sweet way. I really enjoyed it and I got emotional. May Allah guide us and grant us Janatul-Ferdous. I really love you for the sake of Allah
I can't argue with you, brother, but now a youth past puberty needs to be looked after too-even at age 17 or 20. I enjoy listening to you.
In fact a 17 year old in my state is still a minor. I myself didn't graduate from high school till I was 19 and my dad used my adulthood and his ability to make me homeless as leverage to control me. There were other issues, but I was given too many chores at home for someone who went to school full time. I wasn't an orphan since my parents didn't die till I was 44 years old.
Of course he wants everyone looked after if that was possible...... we all do..... he’s just give me the definition in Islamic term for what is considered an orphan.
@@Aisha-721 I’m sorry 😔 you had to go through alot w/ your family (father)...... you don’t need anyone except Allah you is always there for you!! When you feel sadness.....remember how Allah will never abandon you! 💝 ! Allah loves you, protect you, provide for you..... always!!
Read Surat Al Yusuf, When u Are Sad May Allah Take's You Out Of Bad Feelings İn The ~Akhira😉
Thanks for this really. This is a topic I was really confused of cuz Ive always thot of adoption amd didnt what was Islamically right. So thank you may Allah bless you all=)
@@SummeRain783 ikr. It brings me peace=)
I'm not sure why there would be a belief that adoption would be improper among Muslims, after all was not the Prophetﷺ adopted himself? It is also well known that he had a tenderness towards orphaned children.
@@corazoncubano5372 people lack common sense
Islam is so rooted in social justice ❤️❤️❤️.
Thank you for these inspiring videos Mash’Allah. Allah really gave you a talent to tell the stories of Islam. I am learning so much about Islam thanks to you. The Haddith are so touching. Thanks a lot.
May Allah give you Hayatel Tayeba
We have a problem now with stepparents abusing and neglecting stepchildren now too.
Assalamu alaikum. I don’t know what is up with Sheikh Omar Suleiman’s videos. Almost every time when I fall asleep watching CZcams I wake up listening to Sheikh Suleiman’s video. 😀. This is so strange. May Allah bless this Sheikh.
Jazakallah for always discussing such relatable and important subjects in today's society
SubhanAllah
heart warming session!
MashaALLAH Always so beatiful lectures sheik... barakallah shiek omar sulaiman thank you for sharing this video's
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Amazing lecture and new perspective of information like always, may Allah give you the highest level of Jannah!
سبحان الله
An enlightening speech.
Thank you Sheikh you have taught me a lot. Please consider that women remain vulnerable, in all societies in all times. Women who play the role ordained by Allah for women will always remain vulnerable: she stays in the house, takes care of her husband and their children, does not earn much even if she does something from the home, therefore she is dependent on the goodness and generosity of her husband. If he is not a good man, if her father is not a good man, a woman's life is made miserable.
A woman can earn if she wishes to, if she maintains her hijab and does not go in the path of haraam. These conditions are applicable to men as well. A wife has rights on her husband's earnings, but the earnings of a wife belong to her alone. Muslim or not, woman or not, anyone would have a miserable life if their spouse is not a good person. Thank you for the note of sarcasm, but as a Muslim woman, I would say your viewpoint is quite narrow. Domestic abuse, physical and mental is present everywhere, but if it is present in a Muslim's house, they are not truly following the religion.
The story of the tree is so beautiful 😻❤️🥰
The western idea of adoption was known in the pre-islamic era. Prophet Muhammad himself had an adopted son called Zaid. Islam has specifically outlawed adoption in this sense, and the prophet Muhammad had to marry his adopted son's ex-wife to prove without doubt that the adoptive relationship is no longer legal in islam. Sura 33 Aya 4 in the Quran mentions specifically that "And he (Allah) has not made your adopted sons your (true) sons. That is (merely) your saying by your mouths, but Allah says the truth, and He guides to the (right) way".
Islam instead introduced a different system called "Kafala", which is literally translated as "sponsorship". The islamic system of sponsorship (Kafala) is significantly different from the western concept of adoption. For example while the sponsor provides for the sponsored child's maintenance and living expenses, sponsored children are considered alien to their siblings-by-sponsorship. As in, an adolescent biological daughter must wear hijab and be fully clothed in front of her adolescent brother-by-sponsorship. And it is possible for the biological daughter to marry her brother-by-sponsorship when they get older.
The words "Mum", "Dad", "Brother", and "Sister" are not used by sponsored children to describe members of the sponsor's family. Sponsored children do not inherit any money or possessings from their sponsoring parents, compared to biological children who do inherit.
yes he married the wife of Zaid out of LUST !! How disgraceful is this !
wow being an orphan in some muslim countries must suck
Interestingly Zaid knew Mohd was already sexually involved with his wife. Out of fear he offered to divorce her so that Mohd can “marry” her.
Beautifull lessons Jzkl khayr'
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
الحمد لله رب العالمين، والصلاة والسلام على أشرف الأنبياء والمرسلين، نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين
The problem is adoption is not about children anymore its about money. I was adopted as an infant and it destroyed my family. I had a mother, but she was taught that she wasn't good enough because she was single. So she gave me away and I lost everything. I was made an orphan so greedy people who couldn't have their own biological child could raise me. Yes, helping orphans is good, but adoption doesn't do that. Adoptees are 4 times as likely to take their own lives as non adopted individuals. We are dying. You're not saving us by taking us away from our mothers. Help us stay with our families. That's how vulnerable families can really be helped.
Rebekah ,Your own life experience wasn't unfortunately of any benefit to you, it's a shame that happened to you. On the other hand from my work I have also seen very abusive parents, ones who are a real danger to their children. Unfortunately this topic is not black and white.
@NotACarMechanic Mambutu Family is one of the very cornerstones of our religion! We wonder and strive to change the reality, and the reality of Islam and its emphasis on family values, do tackle the root cause. When majority of people don't question like you mentioned, and many, many factors impact this also, global change doesn't necessarily happen. But we try and we try again. Maybe we won't change the world but maybe we can change someone's world 🌙
I know the issue is not so clear cut. Most of the woman who lose their children to adoption are not abusive or addits. That's a stereotype prepetuated by the adoption industry. Most of the mothers who seem to be seeking adoption actually want their children but lack resources and help. Relinquishing traumatizes the mothers too. Some do end up struggling with addiction to cope with the trauma of losing their children.
For the children that were removed do to abuse, there are other ways to help than formal adoption. When a child is adopted their birth certificate is replaced with a false birth certificate making it look as if the child is born to the adopting parents. Legal guardianship would not do that. The children would keep their identities.
I have been thinking of this idea too. We should help people ,single mothers or fathers too should be able to raise their kids even with help. I hope inshaAllah to adopt a kid but not in the way that i am going to substitute her or his mother and family but to help him or her on the journey of life.
His face is lit up. Masha allah
Lots of people would love to adopt, but thier families are against having a namhehram in the house. You didn't talk about that issue in your lecture. If you can clarify that it will be helpful.
The thing with adoption is that for eg if I adopt someone below the age of 2, definitely I can breast feed the baby, so it’s said that after feeding him for 5 times fully he becomes your mahram. If it’s a boy and you don’t have to observe hijab in front of the boy
And the same applies to a girl, if I adopt a girl, when she grows up she has to observe proper hijab in front of my husband, but if I breastfeed that girl when she’s below 2, for 5 times completely, she automatically becomes a marham to my husband and my kids so she doesn’t have to worry about hijab and all that stuff
I might be wrong as well, but from what I read in Hadith and stuff, this is what they say
I'm not muslim but so many Muslims confuse me. No where in the Quran does it say u have to receive approval of your family.
I would love to foster! But unable due to already im a caregiver to my already sick husband
That's beautiful 💗
Whose here in quarantine
wonderful information....
regarding changing the tribe is it allowed to go for it if the tribe name is Hindu based e.g Bhat....Nanda...Nath....Kumar etc. Because in india there were many times conversions depending on the power of the religion. Presently the person is a muslim but his surname is Hindu( e.g kumar),,,, please suggest.....???
Subhanah Allah mostly they had an excellent mother to brought and raised up famous scholars of Islam.
So if a father abandons his child, but is still alive, what does the child qualify as, is he still considered an orphan?
Eif Mubarak
السلام عليكم سيد عمر
اكتشفت امس بالصدفة فديوهاتك. كنت احتاج لتقوية اللغة الانكليزية في مجال الدين ورايت لك محاضرتين رائعتين مع القس والرابي. وفقك الله
Why is there music in the beginning?
Much wisdom ,so beautiful ❤️ be blessed .
Asc my name is Hodan Elmi and I adopt two kids through the foster care Alx
JazakAllah for this talk. I would like to ask do you get some reward when you are a teacher for children who are orphans in your classroom when you care for them? If anyone can please assist me on this question.
May Allah (SWT) make easy for all of us.
InshaAllah
There is no reward for good, other than good. Surah Rahman verse 60
Yeah whatever you do as long as its good and you did it with pure heart and because of Allah you will get a reward
Where do we sign up?
Alhamdulillah
Very good brow🤗🤗🤗
May Allah SWT allow me to adopt an orphan(s) in sha Allah
Inshaallah
Anyone knows where to watch Part 2 please? Chokrane
Fostering or being a big brother/ big sister is good. Adoption isn’t for everyone. You have to know how to be a parent and deal with baggage esp in an older child. And then there’s the whole issue of mahram. Just saying think three times before you commit. Not a product you can take back. And if in the midst of journey to adoption you have serious doubts then follow your gut.
Honestly one could say the same about choosing to have your own children
When he says “cut off” because of losing their mother does that have any connotation of ‘cut off from the Creator’? I’m just curious! I know that’s not all it means, of course, but if it does I can understand that, to be frank. It happened to me, my brother, and separately happened to my high school friend. And I’ve seen what it can do to the shaping of ones character, if during childhood. It can do very bad things to the character of a man, genuinely. We’re not made to be without that part of us..
I’m divorced and my child’s father is not in her life and never was. If I re marry as a Muslim woman my husband can’t see my daughter without hijab what.....
Allah didn’t make it hard on us. I don’t know I’ll continue to study and ask Allah. Pray to him because my daughter is my world and I’ll never want to become a nightmare in her life. I want to lead her and I have been for 7 years alone. A Muslim woman told me she must wear hijab in front of her step father... but my goal is for her to become muslimah but also not force and lead her to the direction but Allah is the only one who guides.
Anyway Allah knows best. I’ll follow my heart and pray. I need to stop listening to Muslims and pray he will guide me. Inshallah
Sister there is MORE than Hijab in a muslim life ! Teach your child to love and respect ALL people, to love to learn and become productive in this life too. Make her to repect herself and let her grow in the inner being ! A strong personality will save her from being abused more than a hijab is doing so that she will not expierence the same you gone through. God loves you isten to your heart!
Dear Sister, please look into it, as far as I know, your future husband, that is your daughter's stepfather, should be her Mahram. Since it is a huge decision for you, do not base it on one person's advice, be it the Muslim woman who told you or me, a stranger on the internet. Please reach out to the ones who study about the laws and investigate. Allah knows best, may He guide us.
@medina her step father can see her without hijab. There are no opions in this matter. All scholars agree on that as it is clearly mentioned jn the quran. In Arabic, step daughter is called Rabeeba.
Sister, her step father will has no problem to see her without hijab once you consummate your marriage.
Indeed
Can you explain to me why the arabs states keep slaves? aginst their will?
Asssamualaikum from Malaysia
What would a neglected vulnerable child be called in Islamic terminology?
A neglected vulnerable child with no loving caring parents is worse. An orphan has no parents and can get loving caretakers
I want to be a hafidh please make dua
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I have been expecting he will says that adaption is permitted. so does this mean Islam allows adaption. So far I heard that Islam doesn't permit adaption cuase the child can't be a mahrem for the wife or father or for your biological children.
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I'm just curious regarding a woman who wishes to adopt child since she is not blessed with one of her own, and husband refuses e idea and left her alone in old age by marrying another one and have child?
I hope you dr omar will talk about a topic on a childless barren woman life in today society....
Yes...like what about single moms adopting. And issue of mahram...what if she adopts a girl?
Assalamu alaykom wa rahma'tullah, you said 'forced marriage was normal in the time of the Prophet [saw]'... but that is not actually correct is it, he [saw] said the parents need the consent of the one getting married, they always have choice, especially virgin girls who are shy and who have no idea of what to expect. they still had the right, and the choice of who they wanted to become wife to.
I presume he meant that forced marriage was a norm in the non-muslim communities/civilisations.
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Adoption is HARAM. But raising other's children is rewarded
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Now you see, I bet sheikh had to throw the caveat in there to not go up to random orphans and start playing with their hair... Because somebody has done it before 😂
Legal adoption means giving ur name is haram i guess
But actual adoption is firbidden in Islam you can't give them your Name
Its haram to adopt
adopt no haram
KAFIL I didn't know the meaning is caretaker 😂😂😂😂
Also wondering why arabs countries doesn't allow adoption as well....whereas Asia and europe has easier access for adoption..
Prevention of later romantic incest relation. In your adoption you ligaly give the child your last name. In islam the child can not change its last name . Also DNA matches, illnesses, other brothers and sisters whi have other names than the child due to adoption etc... etc.
@@rachidanait707 we are talking on legal adoption, of course without changing his/ her family names. Just so sad to see orphanage without having care and love , what more when they go homeless.
Why is islam in the west totally different than in the middle east?
What the different?
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