Beware The Blame Shifting
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- čas přidán 2. 09. 2023
- Blame shifting is a pattern that can leave you feeling like you're responsible for ALL the problems, even when that's far from the truth.
If you're in a relationship with a #narcissist you've likely found yourself consistently taking responsibility for not only your actions but theirs as well. You might have even shouldered the burden of problems that aren't yours at all. It can feel like you're the only one invested in fixing problems and making the relationship work.
But here's the reality: Despite any promises they make, this is not a person genuinely seeking change.
If this resonates with you, know that you're not alone. In this video, I shed light on the tactic blame shifting, helping you recognize the signs and regain your sense of self.
Don't forget to subscribe, hit that notification bell, and share this video with others who might be trapped in the blame-shifting cycle. Together, we can support one another on the path to healing and self-discovery. 💪❤️
#NarcissisticAbuse #BlameShifting #Accountability #HealingJourney
*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist
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Yes this is too true 😢
Driving interstate for a family holiday, the narcissist fell asleep at the wheel. Utterly terrifying. 2 young children in the back seat. I was in the passenger seat, quickly woke him and regained control of the car. He then blamed me for him falling asleep, stating that i had taken too long to get ready to leave home that day. It was early afternoon when this happened. He couldn't accept accountability.
Very true that they don't want to change no matter what they tell you.
My favorite are the people who get mad when you start treating them the same way they treat you.
Or, they get mad at your reaction to their reaction toward what you say.
I love baiting tactics. I can't express how I feel after they take the initiative to express how they feel.
They say by me doing it it means I am silencing them...but when they are doing it it's quite alright.
Spot on
Yep, my abusive narc ex-wife would do that when we were married....And that is one of the many reasons why I made her an ex-wife...
Just had to find out what this is called cause me mom does this to my dad all the time, and he’s a legend for putting up with it
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Not anything …EVERYTHING.
I used that behaviour to say goodby😉 Told here when I am such a bad guy and I wish here a happy life, I will leave 😜. After that I blocked and deleted all connections , information of here and here related people. Within two weeks already felt much better and released. At that moment you find out you lost nothing 😉
A sibling decided that it is my fault that her life turned out the way it did. Entirely my fault because “for my entire life you told me what to think, feel, do.” She is in her 50s and somehow I made her life what it is. Yeah. I told her to her face “i refuse to take on your $h|t.” Not the response she was expecting - It was as if I threw water in her face. Because I laughed at her as I said it. It was the beginning of the end of my just putting up with her toxic self.
Good for you darling😊
Like asking mental health professionals for help with things I'm being told I have problems with only to be told I'm not having those problems. Not the problem.
Sounds so familiar... Thanks.
My evil, demon mother 🙄😭
Ive been in a 2+ year relationship and it unfortunatly goes through a rollercoster of being great until it really isn't. My partner has high anxiety and insecurity relating to various things in his life and during the bad moments things (related to me or to other people / situations) will set him off and he will rage. He will rage at me verbally and will do so for hours and hours. He has said very horrible things and threatened to harm himself or block me out of his life. Ironically if he has shouted me down to tears and I am tired and say I can't take anymore he goes 'I knew you would always leave me, everyone does eventually'. I ask for a break but I never even get one day to myself. I have to spend all my time with him, even if he says I can have my time. He will message me saying how lonely and alone he feels, he will react to my posts (even old ones) on social media so he is always 'present'. I don't actually get alone time. Recently, I've been going through a depressive episode. I have no energy for anything and I explained this to him, apologised and said I just need to time to get out of this hole and asked for patience. Then yesterday he wanted a 'are we good' relationship talk because I wasn't 'better'. I once again explained and apologised that I am still really feeling low and just needed more time, but he kept pressing and pressing the issue, wouldn't let it go. It unfortunatly made me snap and I started an arguement, and called him out on his bad behaviour and he went 'ah ha! I knew it' (paraphrasing). At that point I was just feeling really done and set a boundry that over the past couple of years I have let slide and overly forgiven his rage and bad behaviour and this was to be the last time. I wanted his apologies after the arguments to actually mean something. He went on to write walls of love of how he couldnt be without me and that he always supported me and I was his rock, but nothing about how he was going to work on his rage and so on. I gave him suggestions of what he can do to help his anxiety and job / life situations. Things he has said he wanted to do but haven't taken action on. He took offence to this and then walled me with excuses and how I was being disrespectful and a true partner would never. All I wanted was for him to try, as even little steps forward show me he was sincere and that I was standing firm with my boundry this time. I got more love bombing, which I see clearly what it is now. I just really hope he will try because I do love him. I am running on fumes and am really tired...
Ók noted.
I hate blame shifting
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