Full Episode: How I Was Catfished And Lost $1,000,000 | The Mel Robbins Show
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- Catfishing is the #1 way adult women in this country are being scammed. On today's episode, Mel explores the characteristics of a "catfisher", and the impacts they have on their unknowing targets.
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One fool-proof way to avoid being scammed: Never send anyone money. Why is this so hard to understand?
I can’t send money 💵 because I’m broke 🤷🏽♀️
@cat Moore So Very Well Said Cat!!!
@@donnarupert4926 me too, but I NEVER would anyway!
@@normasouthwood3182 so you & I ARE immune to it, huh? Cuz I wouldn't either
Don't talk to strangers!
This is the perfect example of someone who needed a therapist INSTEAD OF dating
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One victim said her therapist suggested she seek out online dating.
It's so easy to fake profiles. I became a 35 year old man from Alberta Canada, and uploaded any photo of a Welsh child killer, all on Fakebook. I did this so I could send photos of him marrying a little boy, to everyone who knew my housemate paedophile, including his children. It worked and it proved Zuckerberg was a liar when he stated all his profiles are authentic.
@@susand495😵💫😵💫😵💫
I don’t understand HOW Debbie could fork over, OVER a million bucks to someone shes NEVER met.
The catfish really struck gold with her. Who would even have that much $ to hand over?
Exactly how you can be so naive
wow 😲
Women are stupid.
It's absolutely beyond me! I'm 67, been divorced over 35 years. Sure, it's been hard at times, even lonely, but OMG, full-time teaching wages were ALL needed to raise my 2 baby daughters. Sorry, but I just DO NOT get it!!!
It's frightening that this person was an intelligence officer. Giving away a million dollars to someone you have never met is insane.
Makes sense why masks were mandated, despite them being studied for over a decade and show no ability to slow or stop viral spread. The fact people in charge can send someone they never met in person a million dollars helps understand masks....
@@mysurfing3550 TRUTH
No, she was not intelligent, because as soon as she learned he was in "Malaysia" or any similar far or third world countries aND black, , ALL her red warning lights should have gone on!!! these love scams to Western women from african countries have been going on FOR DECADES!
@@mysurfing3550 that is patently untrue. you can't stop viral spread, but you can slow it and they do that effectively when properly worn. where do you get your nonsense from?
Just another greedy woman who wants more money oh a international business man
What wrong with Joe from the loading bay the forklift truck driver oh he has no money and no business forget about him
Kids are taught not to take anything from strangers and ironically enough, adults need to be taught not to give anything to strangers...
I HAD THE EXACT THOUGHT.
René van der Westhuizen so true, truly these people are but case but It’s their money not mind
Best comment and 100% fact!
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Or anyone else.
Quite disturbing how much she lights up talking about her phantom boyfriend. Dopamine rush from a scammer on a computer in Nigeria
Exactly! I don’t think it helps to shame lonely people who are scammed. I don’t have millions of dollars to lose, but I would be sick and humiliated if I did. I admire her for speaking out to help others. I would be too embarrassed to tell people. Also, people are very critical. A woman I worked for was scammed, but not to this degree! I was afraid she might do something to herself because people were not empathetic.
She was divorced and so lonely. A perfect victim. She also said she felt like a teenager again. Who wouldn’t want to feel that way and I’m married!
Spreading information is good. Please be kind to these men and women.
I won't even buy a guy a cup of coffee! 1 million dollars? Lady , you are A FOOL!
Don’t be rude beautiful
None of them answers the first question- "what was it about their profile that attracted you?" They go off on another topic but never ever answer that one.
Romance Scammer Checklist:
1. He or she is out of your league
2. He or she started asking for money $$$
3. He or she wants gift cards instead of real / actual gifts
4. He or she sends his or her Identification Cards (or other legal documents as proof of legitimacy without being asked)
5. He or she always has a back story with drama and need urgent financial assistance
6. He or she asks money for food
7. He or she asks if you’ve eaten
8. He or she calls you King/Queen, Dear, Hunny, and very poetic (not to mention confesses love early on)
9. He or she won't video chat often (mostly due to a bad internet connection) and will usually refuse to answer phone calls
10. He or she will delay your meet-up for months or worse, years
Let me know if I missed other signs. Hope this helps!
Seems like a very comprehensive list. I’ve been watching some of these on Catfished, and Trilogy Media - love those hilarious guys! The Jodi one is hard to believe (and frustrating to watch).
* He is widowed/single father
* He is on a peacekeeping mission overseas
* He is a doctor
*He’s in the military overseas.
*He’s on an oil rig.
* This person who is so much "in love" with you immediately gets rude, nasty or even threatens you if you refuse any requests for money or gift cards.
LOL. I used to get friend requests from high ranking, widowed, retired military guys all the time. For fun, I'd play along for a couple of days then I would ask what part of Nigeria they were the from. LMAO. Then I would be blocked. I must have been put on some list because I never receive friend requests anymore. Hahahahahaha!
I ask them how the weather is in Lagos 😂
I did it as fun as well. When he asked for money I told him I hope he had friends to help him. Lol He started getting a little agressive as I just laughed. Never heard from him again. Hahaha
@@NanaTop70 pd
Got them all the time, wanting cards, phones, laptops, help coming to America, help with school money. Military usually wanted money for cards for their phone😂 Such fun, blocked, was so smart, then got caught by someone who never asked for money! Said he was a contractor from England, waiting to get paid for work he did in Denver🤬
Think he might have been trying to apply for loans, credit cards in my name😡
Yeah bullshit.
I am flabbergasted that this grown woman, who apparently is not stupid…got scammed by such an obvious catfish. The red flags were everywhere.
probably she is a pervert
Apparently she IS stupid!!
We do need to keep in mind that this case happened back in 2012, when these scams weren't as prevalent or well-known. But still. 🤯
The red flags are ALWAYS there, but they all get ignored when someone is desperate for affection and attention, and doesn’t have enough inner confidence.
Who better to pick on but the vulnerable. Some sociopath can just check obituaries, look up the survivors & play on them. Too much private info about each of us is made public with very little effort. WTF.
Here’s an example of how important it is to be your own best friend..I was totally alone (no parents or kids) when my husband died, but I focussed on my pets, my job, and taking care of myself.
Amen!!!! I would hope to do the same ...
@LiveOkie Pets are loneliness busters,
Exactly.
My husband died 4 & a years ago. I was surprised that men, a lot were Army, or some type of service.
I left my profile as married, pictures show that I'm elderly & they start telling me how beautiful I am, (I know I'm not) what a beautiful smile I have..ect..
They tell me to send them friend request.
( i don't)
Couple just flat out ask if I can still send them Google play cards or phone cards. (I CERTAINLY do not)
At first I was upset & wondered how they can get on my Facebook page without my permission or sent request..but now I know they can manage that, I've been told/ explained to me but now I don't remember..( remember I'm old..lol.)
I do have money in a savings account from selling my home when my husband died, & as I say often, nobody is going to get any of that money except myself, my 2 sons & 3 granddaughters. My sister (she 75 yrs old but don't act or look it ) & I like to shop sometimes once a week & eat lunch & just have fun acting like we have good sense.
@@shirleyharrison2580 Be careful with requests from men online, especially army types..many are fraudulent and sent by the fraudsters in Africa (or others places) looking for vulnerable (usually older) women to manipulate into sending money.
I was exactly in the same position.
Talked to him only 3 times in 2 years RED FLAG!!
Common sense ain’t common
@@kidneycarecoaching3766 ~ My favourite saying and unfortunately so very true.....
@A H she was in a fantasy world and paying for it
I'm going to make this very short. A man found me on FB. We were talking for about two weeks he told me that he was in the Army, single dad and his wife passed away in a car accident. Within two weeks he said he loved me I didn't feel the same. He asked for money. I said no. I stopped talking to him and blocked him. I wasn't going to fall for that.
smart
.. Well the red flag is a proclamation of love after two weeks to someone you have never met.
That's how most people would react
I like a short story with a happy ending 🎉🎉
The story he fed you is typical. They seem to have a similar script/bio. They often say they were born in another country (usually Europe), and are engineers working on a project here in the USA. I’ve been contacted by so many of them…it’s downright funny.
I flew home a few days ago and there was a woman at the airport that had flown in from Texas days before. She had been staying at the airport for days waiting for the man she had never met to be released from a private hospital or for friends he would send to pick her up. She had sent him money over a period of several months and had flown in to take care of him when he finally got out of the hospital. She said he had no siblings and his parents had passed so he was alone, she was all he had.
I told her there was a very good chance she was being scammed... after I retrieved my luggage and went back outside she was gone. I do hope she is safe and has since returned home.
Just a reminder to everyone out there, if someone you never met before starts asking for money run the other way don't walk
Even more importantly, if someone you have never met claims they love you and wants to be your boyfriend.......run even faster.
RUN 🏃♀️
I've connected with men and every time they've asked me for money, i've cut them off..
Block them!!!!!
Smart Woman!
Yes! Someone with a brain...
I would use three words: NOT A CHANCE BABY
You cut them off physically or just cut their communication line. Just pulling your legs. Hahaha
The first sign to end a relationship is when they ask for money. I was speaking to someone for a few months, the moment he asked for money and immediately cut him off. Never, ever give money.
After a scammer depletes your bank account completely, they usually either dump you or they will often confess to you in the hopes that as you keep working and earning more money you will continue to send money to them.
Shocking
When a man ask me for money my antennas goes up scammer and hell no I do not need a broke ass man. Dealbreaker ladies!
Carole Carole no Carole would want a broke ass man lol
Carole Hardy aahhh I see what you did there 🤣 good one Carole 👍🏾😆
Yep!
well said
WELL SAID.
I had the utmost empathy for this lady as she thought she was in love. But as I got further into the video I realize " a fool and his money go separate ways".
absolutely true Nola
@@connielanzaro2203 dork
she is is extremely foolish, i can't believe her!! i was trying to be understanding but it's too much!
His smile said it all … he had hit the jackpot, literally .. evil
@Nola Parker, an even bigger fool is the person who thinks they're above being scammed. Plus, if you're prone to shaming people who get caught in some kind of deception as you did here, you're also more likely to fall deeper because you'll hide and be embarassed.
The woman in the first story needs psychological help. She’s got journals of conversations but has never insisted on meeting him in 2 years? She’s saying she’s a smart woman but actions speak louder than words. I think she’s lying about him saying he wanted to keep things going. If she was my mother, I’d be advocating for her not to go out by herself or use the Internet without supervision. The second woman doesn’t have time to FaceTime but has time to send nice photos and videos?
Marian Hanson - - - - - - You comment in every video about catfishing... And ALWAYS blaming the victim... Unbelievable!
@@lux.mea23 but it IS her fault!
@@debbiegrimison6705 Truly! She knew she was wrong as soon as she began hiding her actions from her family. She earned the badge of VICTIM, but she will recover. Seeing the face of that young Black man blew the door to her delusion wide open! She will survive.
You’re communicating with somebody for TWO YEARS and yet talked to him only three times - plus in all that time he couldn’t visit you, even once? How deluded can a person be?
And the second woman - she “didn’t have time” to contact the guy by webcam, but apparently she had plenty of time to send him nude photos? 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah this is craaaazy.
2nd woman kept making g excuses...1st woman is just plain stupid!!!!!
Agreed Gradkat. I really don't understand, how you can have a boyfriend and be in a relationship for two years, with someone you have never actually met, and have hardly talked to verbally. Makes absolutely NO sense whatsoever to me.
@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat I was once in a 2 year long distance online relationship. We would video chat for hours, so I knew that he was the same person as his pictures... but I didn't really know who he was. I never gave him any money, but I did send a few care packages. I was shipping from the US to the UK so the postage was very expensive.
This woman needs treatment with a physiologists for life. When the guy ask for initial $45 That was a clue to run fast. So sad what desperation and loneliness can do
She was a widow who apparently was in a good marriage . I think her experience with her good marriage clouded her judgement . Perhaps she thought most relationships are good ones , like she had with her late husband .
@@annfeeney1662 I agree, when woman fall love she hard to see around & get out!
dork simply a dork
I agree. The windows/widowers, who where in long marriages….need grief counseling and also someone to educate them about the tactics the scammers are going to use…BEFORE they ever decide to go on a dating site. They’re lonely and vulnerable!
I’ve been twice. First time when I was young (19), second time married for 37 years. Maybe one reason I’m not buying into what scammers spew out is because I divorced both of those men. I’m not lonely or needing a man.
No excuse for such stupidity
If these clowns ask for anything; iPhones, iTune cards or money delete and block. Don’t engage.
Like seriously honey??
@@peterkherisson5186 Are you one of them why are you all over the comments defending scammers fck off
When you lived an honest life and surrounded by good people , it is easy to trust people. She's so brave to share her story.
Not very smart . And the topper is she wanted to get closure from a scammer. Like he cares 😂. But I thank her for bringing this scam to light.
That's true. Shielded from the "ugly" world
Honest is how you say stupid?
Who in their right mind would ever conceive of sending or even taking nude photos of themselves in the first place??? APPARENTLY THE YOUNGER GENERATION HAS NO PROBLEM WITH THIS. PARENTS PLEASE RAISE YOUR CHILD RIGHT WITH HIGH MORAL STANDARDS!!!
Who else is reminded of Sally Jesse Rapielle with Mel....
That was my first thought when I saw her. She is the younger version of Sally back when she was a show host. It freaks me out every time I look at this woman.
Also my first thought when I first saw this show.
Sorry but the best advice for girls and women here and always should be don't date and look for love when you are feeling sad and lonely. Nothing good comes out of it.And beeing scammend has nothing to do with how smart you are. It's the lack of ability to nourish, love and support ourselves what makes us vulnerable and attracted to wrong people. That's what I've learned in my 40 years of Life. Sorry for my English :-D Take care, love yourself and know your worth
MaraBlue Well said!
@@-Diana469 Thank you
COMMON SE SE
Your English is fine .
Yes!
I was in a relationship with someone for 13 years in RL who wasn't who they said they were. They lied the entire time. It seems that these people are everywhere in some form and it's not a nice thing to go through, no matter the level or form. It's all deceit.
Yes it is terrible to experience that. But at least your experience was real life. I don't understand how you can be in a relationship online with someone you have never met
RL?
@@almohvn33 real life
I was engagd supposedly 3 times irl. Tore my life up. Wish theyd leave us be.
Anyone could be scammed when they're feeling especially lonely and vulnerable. It's not just old people.
Not anyone, but at any age for sure.
While he was confessing, he was laughing all the way to the bank! His smiling face tells it all!
they prey on vulnerable women who are single or divorced lure them to sending money because of love actually this women are ignorant about it and they give them willingly as a bitcoin and forex analyst I’ve discovered they convert it to crypto in other to avoid suspicion from their local bank now calculate how much is being circulated to this scammer because following “Thelma lee Gaddis strategies a verified broker and financial advisor on forex trading and binary option, just 500$ could give you 2500$ in 2 days guaranteed which is a very nice way to make good money because I know of it and it works, but she had to waste it on a stupid scammer she could’ve have just invested in her children future actually it’s a pity
@@minoritymindset6464 Never mind her children, how is SHE going to be able to afford it if she needs to be put in a nursing home or needs assisted living when grows older??? Smh
The guy she was talking to was not getting the money himself. More likely than not he was working in a sweat shop internet café owned by someone who can afford a bunch of computers and internet access. The money these guys scam, goes to that boss, and he'll divide a percentage out for all his scammer/workers. It's literally a business in places like Nigeria and India.
Yeah, makes you want to slap that satisfied smirk right off of his face.
Asking for money is when I say goodbye.
It took me 90 seconds to realize that this wasn't a SNL parody.
I will never understand how people can have conversations, fall in love, and give money to anyone they’ve never met or spent time with. What are you falling in love with? Words? A profile? At least do a Video Call and go on a first date.
I 100% don’t get it either. The very _minute_ someone asks for money doesn’t that ring enormous alarm bells? If I find out one of my friends or relatives is embroiled in this I’ll do my damndest to get them out!! 🤬
@@neighbourhoodwitch18 yes, I understand that people can feel lonely and can maybe fall for words but I agree, the minute someone starts asking for money, that would be a red flag. The fact that the guy from the first story asked for $45?? Wouldn’t that indicate to her that he’s broke? but to give away $1,000,000? I can hardly believe it 😮
@@mariancounsellor - Agreed. If someone is so skint (especially an "international businessman") that they have to ask for $45.....
No more social media dating. Only date in person. Meet them in the coffee shop, church, work.
Even with that,scammers still set bait at those placeses
Back to basics
What a brave women to publicly admit to her misgivings , amazing person.
Not very clever though.
Yes I agree, it is brave of her. I would feel too embarrassed to admit this sort of sheer foolishness and stupidity on national television.
Think maybe it's not true just entertainment value
@@jackwills7092 why would you think that? how ridiculous!
One of the reasons why these women get scammed is that they can't admit they are wrong when they family and friends tell them they are scammed.
One woman who was scammed drove two hours to send money after bank refused to send money telling her she is getting scammed.
Thank God for the work you guys do. I met a guy online and after chatting for 4 months, I went to meet him in Bilbao (Spain). His demeanour changed at the airport which set off alarm bells. To cut a long story short....upon my return to the UK, he started asking me to send him money via Western Union. I refused and that was then the end of the relationship. Please women, DO NOT send money to anyone you've not met!
Don't give them money, period!
Well done. You are smart not to send money to anybody.
Or traveling to meet them. Let him travel to you.
Thank God you're black. If you were white that money would be flowing.
That whole confession thing is part of the scam. I’ve seen it multiple times. It just makes it easier for the scammer by not having to keep up the ruse. He didn’t have feelings for her. You’d be surprised how many women fall for this as well and keep sending money as the scammer claims they’re living in poverty in Nigeria. Meanwhile they drive luxury cars & live in extravagant homes.
I don't understand. All you need to do is have facetime or Skype with the person. And then yes, do research.
Apparently they have technology that can put the persons face on and it will move as well
@@yungaterror so they have become sophisticated this much, ahh I never new
@A. A. but the feelings of heart overwhelms even our experience and knowledge
Yeah someone tried that with me and I laughed and said I'm not that dumb if i can't see you personally not happening and if you are always asking for money big red flag and I didn't work where this women worked
@@abdurrahmanwakeel3923 Nah; not me! It takes more than video chatting for me to fall in love. I am a skeptic. Words are just words. Actions are what I am interested in.
Please ladies and gentlemen if someone asks you for money and you do not know them face to face, do NOT give them any money! The best thing you can do is not to speak to strangers online.
While l really feel sorry for these victims, l notice that the immediate reaction is to totally place blame on the scammer. ?
Well, in my opinion BOTH of them are equally to blame.
After all, one cannot operate without the other.
Remember that old adage. "It takes two to tango".
Agreed. I wouldn't even give anyone I know money, let alone someone I have never met. I never lend money. Although being poor makes that stance easier to do.. ..
Hell, even if you know them “in-person,” don’t give any money!
When Mr. Scammer decided to come clean about the scam , Mr. Scammer recognized a lady of quality . People like this victim have pure hearts and don’t immediately see the evil in others . I truly hope God sends a good man into her life .
I think he thought she was desperate enough that he could get even more from her. He thought she could bring him into the country and get him a visa.
Yes, I agree: it is easy for others with hindsight to question why it happened, but good kind people do give others the benefit of the doubt. A good catfish will be so believable and so manipulative that you are put in a position that you cannot refuse.
They find your weak point
But remember, even if is not much comfort, you get into these problems because you are a kind decent trusting person. And that is worth more than any amount of money.
Wth is with these women, over £1000,000 and naked pics and videos. Women have more respect for yourself!!
@@Angie-jm8kp, has nothing to do with self respect.
@@JessBlake2 well what has it got to do with then? Show naked pics and videos you have no respect for yourself.
Loneliness makes you do certain things. My heart goes out to you...
Reverse image search is step 1. I’ve known that for at least 10 years.
These type of scams have been going on for YEARS. Here in the UK, you get older ladies going to countries like Turkey on holiday and are flattered by the attention they get from the young men there. All those men want is their money and a Visa!
All the women want is male attention and validation of their inherent feelings of superiority over other women. It's an ugly transaction but reciprocal.
Turkey?not sure honey. Its global job. You can fall in love and choose, but send money to someone you have never seen and person who are not real is something else. People lie in Usa also, scammers are everywhere
From what I have heard about the Turkish holidays, it seems that the young men give their ladies a good time. I suppose it’s a bit sordid, but at least there’s some kind of exchange.
@@sirennem.6890 Countries like Turkey - yes it's rife in many other countries where a Visa for the UK is the main goal.
I can still remember going to Cyprus as a 15 year old with mum. I was swimming with her and a waiter started smiling at me . I i was very shy and it felt embarassing but at the same time a little part of me was flattered. He came up to me and asked me if I wanted to go for a drink with him. My mum was furious ( she was late 40s at time ) and told him in no uncertain terms that young girls like me didnt go out with grown men . He turned round to mum and said Oh Im sorry you want to go out with me yes ? Put me off mediterranean waiters for life!!!
What gets me is that so many of these women are older. One would think they’d be wiser? I’m embarrassed for her watching this 🤦🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️
Scamming happens even if you know the person in blood and flesh. Never give money
just because you have book smarts, it does not mean you have street smarts and you need street smarts to survive online.
WHEN DID IT BECOME WOMEN RESPONSIBLITY TO SUPPORT MEN? ladies ask yourself this when men ask for money.
Lazy men. Btdt unfortunately. Stay single and stay sane! 💖
Women have been doing it to men for years without it being called catfishing. Someone wanting your money should be a red flag for both men or women.
musima41 - It shouldn’t be a “man’s job” to provide and it’s a red flag if a woman expects that from a man simply because she’s a woman.
In the UK, it happened when social security payments ceased to be considered something that you only turn to in times when you have no other option, and became an acceptable way of life generally. I am fully in support of the welfare state, especially looking back on times when children would starve. But honestly? I've been fleeced by partners only too happy to be completely inactive. There's an old-fashioned joke about marriage, "making a decent woman of her" -- but if you really look at it, a "kept woman" had no choice ... they were either not allowed to work at all, or only in certain limited circumstances. Just watch out for parasites.
Men have been doing it for decades.. you never heard of a pimp?
Never fall in love without making a video call
Don't even do it then. Just count that video call as ''info' that you can put into your "Data Collection" files. Now-a-days, the short video calls they do with you could be rehearsed and done by a friend rather than the person themselves b/c they both could be in on scamming you. Don't trust everything you hear nor see, trust what you KNOW and what you know is all in the "Data Collection" files. Once 6 months or a year is up and if you've collected nothing but 'suspicious data' and data about him asking for monetary favors, and being extra nice just before asking you for a favor, data of him NEVER sending you money nor taking you to dinner, and etc. then dump that loser.
Don’t fall in love with a long distance relationship period. They rarely work out. Money should not be in play either
And still beware!
people seek for love, thats naturally but its meeting site not dating site,, you need to meet men, girl and if you want build a health fundation.and relatinship. All these conversations are not real, scamms, lies, whatever if someone is scammer from other continent or want money or if someone is pedophile or sicck, or married. Go on.face time, skype etc and meet person fast. This is like prince charming imagination, not romantic, thats bot healthy
No...meet in person...they might have unbearable breath.
One of my friends was in a slightly similar situation but when he started asking for money, she shut him down.
Hello Karen
CAn we talk
The best advice is to love your self FIRST. Each time I hear these crazy stories the victims always know they are being scammed but the do it anyways because they are lonely. Scammers know who they can prey on.
Glad my husband didn't turn out to be a catfisher. Not all online people are this way. Thank God Almighty.
Mine either....
Congratulations!! I meet my current boyfriend through a dating app. 🙂 It has turned out better than I ever could have hoped for. 💖. We celebrated our first year anniversary last November and we are still going strong. 🙂
Did he fall in love with you right away?
I like to think he never asked for money
How can this not be against the law?!? Need to create that law!!! Damn.
Another clue: Their English isn’t good, usually. I had an army General with terrible spelling, grammar and punctuation. Duh!
And if they are from Nigeria they usually write "Am" rather than "I Am", that's just what they do.. maybe the smart catfish avoid it though, no idea... But anyway, always easy to tell by reading their terrible english, yeah.
But in my case the Nigerian was exceptionally good in English and knowledge of geography of Afghanistan, well aware of the latest happenings. I think he underwent scamming course for years
Real ones are honestly not the sharpest ones too 😂
@@daisigner most scammers are well learnet, coz for someone to brainwashed his fellow Human with just convincing words, isn't common dear.That person most be a genius
I don't know why you think an American army General might be good in grammar and spelling- most armed forces personnel are very poorly educated, even at the highest levels.
That wasn't a "UK" British accent, it was a African Nigerian accent she was hearing.
The second some guy asked for money that's your clue Debby. You're a giving person and that guy figured out your greatest need. I'm glad you told your story. Women will learn from you.
Not "giving" so much as desperate. If she were "giving," she'd have given that money to St. Jude's or something. Repugnantly stupid.
@@whateverchannel22 I agree you are right
The lady here her Debby?
Blows my mind how no one said Video Chat to know if they are real or not...
and to check their profiles to see if they have family listed and look for interactions with them.
Exactly especially when sending nudes!
These days, the tecnology allow fake video chats too. So be careful.
My mom taught me something about dating and it has helped me TREMENDOUSLY I hope that whoever's reading this will take the advice. A man should NEVER ask a woman for money (esp. so b/c he's NOT her husband and that should be limited b/c he suppose to be the provider). Be it a big or small amount, he should NEVER fix his lips to ask YOU. If he has to borrow it from his momma, a friend, or a bank, if he's trying to impress you and win you over, asking for YOUR money should be the last thing on his list. (This is a Red Flag ladies).
A man should never ask a man for money, he can ask his friends before he ask a woman, I really feel like people try to buy love, because it's no way they would give all this money to a person they see homeless in the street
And never ever send explicit photos. No way no how!!!
This lady is STILL in denial! Always offering an excuse!
“I’m always one step ahead of the game” whilst getting catfished because she “has no time to FaceTime”. She is pretty dumb in my opinion. Sending intimate photos and videos although they have never met or FaceTimed
I met my husband online. We are still together for 8yrs now. Women should be vigilant! If the guy send feelers about needing financial help, RUN! DO NOT BE BLINDED BY THESE MEN’s SWEET TONGUE.
they prey on vulnerable women who are single or divorced lure them to sending money because of love actually this women are ignorant about it and they give them willingly as a bitcoin and forex analyst I’ve discovered they convert it to crypto in other to avoid suspicion from their local bank now calculate how much is being circulated to this scammer because following “Thelma lee Gaddis strategies a verified broker and financial advisor on forex trading and binary option, just 500$ could give you 2500$ in 2 days guaranteed which is a very nice way to make good money because I know of it and it works, but she had to waste it on a stupid scammer she could’ve have just invested in her children future actually it’s a pity
Same here! Together 11 years, but he never asked for money!
Me too! Together 20 years, two kids.
Don't give money to anyone, whether in person or online, but especially online!
Lil T but to close friends
I can tell almost immediately if a guy is a scammer. My ex taught me very well.
Even I GASPED when she said 1 million!
$1,080,762 - to be precise!
My husband was in the hospital for a few days and I remember thinking how empty that bed looked at night without him there. I knew he would be home soon, but it really made me think about how lonely a person can and probably does get on their own all the time. Now after watching several of these videos, if you end up being alone I think a dog or cat would be a better choice of a companion.
AGREED!
A really sweet pit bull.
@@annbelmonti3737
Anything but an evil pit bull.
@@VeledaG she said sweet and, i'm sorry, but the nature of the dog comes down directly to the owner. No dog is born nasty.
One of the reasons I've stayed away from marriage. To be with someone for 20, 30, 40 years and then wake up one day and that person isn't there, that would be a very hollow feeling.
Thanks for this show. Hopefully this will help others. My mom was being catfished. She met a guy online that said he was from Texas, but was working overseas. They were talking for hours. Luckily my mom kept me in the loop, and when he asked for money I said hell no. She didn’t give him any money and he quit talking to her. My husband works for a grocery store and they have Western Union and he said lots of elderly women come in and want to send money overseas. They will refuse to send the money if the women sending it doesn’t know the person and have not met the person. The women get so mad when they refuse to send the money, but the grocery stores are trying to prevent the money being sent. Great show. ☀️
That's wonderful that you helped your mother avoid disaster, and that your husband helps elderly women ... even if they can't see what is really going on. Keep up the good work!!
I have seen so many shows where the old ladies ignore or get angry at all warnings amd cautions - and then complain that they weren't warned enough and the bank should have stopped them! So hypocritical. You can see why it is hard to prosecute when the person wants and insists on doing what they choose with their own money.
Yes, I used to work in customer service and I processed Western Union transactions. As my position required online training for Western Union transactions, I learned that as well, to prevent theft and money laundering. This one particular woman started coming in to send $200 to Nigeria, about twice a month, so I asked her what the purpose of the transaction was and she said: I can do what I want with my money and asked to speak to my manager who allowed it. So, moral of the story, you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help.
Amazes me that a scammer would reveal his face and true name. I appreciate this woman sharing her story but how could she be so insanely blind?
Yes but probably wasn't after all. Most steal names and identities
Well, seeing the face of a young Black man woke her up out of her delusion pretty quickly!🤣😂🤣
Never Never ever look for love when you are at your most VULNERABLE! PERIOD!
I would NEVER go on a dating site, let alone send money to someone I didn't know.....53 and SINGLE ❤️👍👍. And that's the way it's STAYING, THANKS ❗❗❗👍🤗
Ditto!!
Way to go 💕💕
I am too.
I don't understand people who can't be alone. If you can't be alone, then you have no business being in a relationship. Pathetic.
Exactly! I am far better off to stay single for the rest of my life. I've had marriage, divorce, dates, friendships, and so on. Now I'm done. I have other things to devote my time to. I only wish I had reached this point about 30 years ago ok, lol.
Wow over $1 million dollars. That is sad.
Ladies ( especially seniors) this is a piece of advice. You are not alone GOD is with you. GOD loves you unconditionally. Pray to GOD all the time🙏🙏🙏🙏
I get scammers on face book at least once a week. When they say anything about money of any sort I block them right away.
I've been on FB for years, and never once been contacted by a stranger. Know why? Because I have a strictly private profile. Don't complain when you created the problem.
It just goes to show that it doesn't matter how smart you are, emotions are strong. And when you're vulnerable you'll forget everything you've learned. So glad this is being talked about.
Well said.
who was smart? they are gullible. they already believe all kinds of nonsense.
Theyre not smart
Not smart at all..really stupid woman
I've watched about a dozen of these and all the "victims " think they are so highly intelligent people. So from now on I will stop watching.
I've been catfished on Facebook too many times. I found that if I use a photo of my husband and I together they stopped. I've had more than one message from a "military man". I hope a lot of women will stay safe because of this.
But a lady with pic of her husband on Facebook catfished one of my friend for a thousand bucks
Lol. The “military” must be loaded with “widowed” officers!
@@abdurrahmanwakeel3923 Like Abraham Lincoln once said, "You can't believe everything you read online."
Stay safe!
@@layasaul28 hahaha, there was nothing like online in the days of Lincoln. Everything was offline
@@abdurrahmanwakeel3923 Exactly!!! :-D
If you can go stand in a crowd and not have a beautiful woman or guy come up to you and say they love you, why would it happen online? If it seems too good to be true, it always is
The ladies were very honest and open. Very brave to share their stories.
The second one spent time for nothing but the first one 1m. Huge difference.
I was almost catfished until the guy started asking for money. I told him to send me that amount which was $ 3,000 then after , I learned not to let my loneliness get the best of me.
Smart. Get a dog. Great company
I've been a widow for 20 years now. My dearly beloved husband died in 2000. I'm still grieving his death. We'd been married for 35 years, after going out for 5 years before (the way we did those things then). I was also a church member and the older ladies suddenly clustered around me with newspaper reports of 80-year old old-age homers being married. I've not remarried, nor been on any dating sites. Now I'm sincerely grateful!!!!
if my partner passes before me. i don’t think i could ever date again. i feel like id be cheating.
@@sounds0fmeows I simply don't think that I'll ever again meet a man so honest and kind and loving, of me and of our three children And over many years of teaching I've met a few thousand men). To me, he was a prince among men.
Yeah, I've been out there and online dating is a sh**show. I've been single for nearly 15 years, and I'm okay with it. I like living alone.
Perry Skye Phoenix I miss my prince, but why would I even try to replace him? Anyway, he was my bridge to the rest of the world. because I am, by nature, a hermit. (Tiny flat, many books, few clothes, no meetings, not even a cell 'phone ...)
So sad that you're book smart and not street smart. You learned a very expensive and heart breaking lesson.
How are you beautiful
Why would you send explicit photos to someone you’ve never met ?
she sounds a bit codependent and obsessive. why are you screenshotting messages and making a book out of it? she was sooo infatuated. also, never send a man money. that's rule #1
this is sad though. i hope she's gotten therapy.
Yes that's just outright FOOLISH!
She needs a therapist
@@dawneipeldauer-awanderingn825 she definitely does. I would see her as a client to unpack everything that happened.
I disagree that the saving of his messages was codependent and obsessive. Many lovers throughout history have saved their love letters. Texts are simply the modern equivalent.
Where was God during all this? She’s rather arrogant.
I honestly feel catfishing should be an internet crime, until it is made a crime of identity theft, it will continue.
And then what different
Ummm ppl commit crimes……..
Unfortunately being an idiot isn't illegal. It's pretty easy to figure out when an account is fake
If thats the case they should also start prosecuting the "victims" for actively participating in the fraud, which often involves money laundering.
There is also and issue of jurisdiction since most of the scammers are in countries where they won't be prosecuted.
Many scammers do confess, and they do that to keep the scam going. The host said the man stole Travis' identity. He didn't steal his identity, he merely stole his photos.
How are you and that was a wise judgement, I will only scam you to love me and and not to hurt you
Happend to my daughter. She is very beautiful and now posts no photos other than her cat !
It has nothing to do with intelligence! It’s an emotional addiction.
Addiction is too severe . It’s simply an emotional need for a connection with a person .
It's also the effect of an intimidating form of manipulation but hidden behind nice words in the beginning but there is an agressive spirit behind it.
@@annfeeney1662 Yep and also a little victim blaming bc it happens to people in all kinds of positions, socially and economically. The Human desire for a connection is no weakness it's just the human need being extorted.
Honestly I do feel shocked that people give money so quickly and easily. But maybe their intruders were extra strong in their manipulative approach by pushing them into the corner. Mental violence can be very subtle, passive agressive. People react and obey commandments out of subconscious fear.
State of paralization.
Just like sexual intimidation when people think they had a choice but looking back they were forced..
No it’s just downright stupidity
Maybe she should have seeked grief support. Not romantic attention.
'Seeked'??? As in what language? Definitely not in English. Past Simple and Past Participle are both: 'Sought
' - I wish people would speak their own mother tongues at least. English is my third language only and I speak it better than you do. What a shame.
when my partner of 28yrs died in2012 was a loverly sweet soul i went to grief support to see if it would help ??? met a guy who started writing down evrything i said i asked why he was doing that he said for my notes later i picked up the paper put it in my bag walked out and never went back // all you need is the beleief that you will ge over it it will take time and if you got anyone to listen to you cry and all that it helps///// the internet is recording all our data mobiles etc we are in a sarvelliance ridden world now/// nwo
@@blondecat666 u r soooooooooooooooo smart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@MegaPsychodrama Just basic grammar, no flattery needed. LOL
The creepiest catfishes of all expect that an invasion of someone's privacy while a person is trying to learn online with another window open is going to draw that target into that pathetic game of theirs.
AirForce intelligence officer? Jeez! We need to review everything that passed through her hands - everything!
I would be put off straight away if any man asked me for money. Who wants to even date a man who has to ask a woman for money?
Exactly. Pathetic and he would lose his attractiveness right away. I can imagine the same goes for men: if a woman pleads for their financial help after two weeks of only texting it's such a turn off.
Book smart ain't street smart.
Paradoxically women seem incapable of being both and that's nothing to brag about. Perhaps the proceeding female generations need to elevate their daughters, instead of subjugating them.
You ' re right! I m a psychologist and,there are nine types of " intelligence". She has just one. This means she is pretty low,regarding the scale of intelligence. You must have more than four,five types,to be considered really intelligent.🤣🤣🤣
Mirela Irina Petre 😂
We need to be Street Smart these days. I ain't very Book smart, though have become much more Street Smart as the years go by and better off for it Ama!
obviously.
She was an intelligence officer!!! And the fact he was asking money from her wasn't a red flag in her eyes!!! SMH
Not only scamming, but also pouring her heart out to. What an experience.
It is always the same: they are widowers, they are in the military, they want to get married... They tell you that you are their queen , etc. I am Mexican and this happened to me twice. I just laughed at the things they said and immediately blocked the liars.
I saw the title of this video but my mouth still dropped in shock to hear her verbally say how much she gave him 😯
It’s been discovered recently that it is actually a syndicate. A large group of criminals involved in the scam
Black axe
It must end. A Really big lawsuit against all social media that allow someone create more then one account using the same pictures. This is the way all social media stop scammers, at least wouldn't be as many scammers...3000 profiles from the same pictures???? Insane!!
100%
Funny. I am vulnerable too, and would love to fall in love with a great guy. However, I just struggle to understand how women let themselves get roped into this cat fishing. I cannot fathom losing a million dollars over the course of a very long time and many different payment transfers and somehow, just not catching on. It's not wrong to be vulnerable, but you must remain street smart!!
She got addicted to the adrenaline rush of it all!! The grammar on one page would do it for me.Grammar is a must! A fool and his money are soon parted. She got something out of it or she would have stopped sooner.Brave of her though to speak out, as this happens frequently.
if a guy doesn’t have 45$ in his pocket why would any female date him? He’s not ready yet to be in a relationship
I know. It's ludicrous. Two grown professional men can't manage their own lives without asking a stranger on line for $45! That would have sent me running away fast!
This guy recently texted me on FB saying he live in Texas just got out the hospital and his house has busted pipes, no electricity, and no water b/c of the snow and ice there. He said the hotel he's in is going to throw him out if he doesn't come up with $42.00. I figure, if he's going to need more than $42 to stay there until the snow storm subsides so this must be food money he's trying to get. Then unless he's in an old run down Motel, WHAT HOTEL CHARGES A RATE OF $42/ Night??? Then my final thought was, okaaay, when is he going to fix his mouth to ask ME for the money cuz I already know the answer will be a solid, bold-faced 'NO'. I told him if I had the money I would give it to him......riiiiggghhhht. But, wanted to see how he would respond. He thanked me and then began calling me Queen and 'Baby' I cringed every time I read it. As much as I LOOOVVVE AFFECTION, I'm beginning to hate when these men call me pet names b/c I already know there's a sneaky underline motive behind it. Now, I'll be NICE to a stray dog with rabies, BUT, I ain't nobody's fool and flat out REFUSE to give ANY MAN any money I DON'T CARE HOW HARD OF TIMES HE'S HAVING LET HIM GO ASK HIS MOM, DAD FRIEND, PASTOR, NEIGHBOR, CHARITY, SHELTER, OR BANK LOAN OFFICER FOR IT!!!!!!! NO MAAM, I'M A WOMAN I DON'T SUPPOSE TO TAKE CARE OF NOOOO MAN, HE SUPPOSE TO BE THE ONE WHO PROVIDES FOR "ME' WHEN I'M IN LACK. NOPE!!!!!
What if he lost his job or something bad happened to him??
Can't you be considerate sis🤨
@@peterkherisson5186 This could happen. But asking a near-stranger for money? I'm sorry. I've been down and out. Never would I have considered such a thing. No integrity, to ask for money from someone you've been talking to for two weeks. That's begging. I would not date a person who did this. And it wasn't like he needed something essential. He told her it was so "his friend could make a dating profile." Really??? Oh God no. Maybe if we were dating...real dating...for a while and if we basically went more or less back and forth paying for various things, dinner and the like.
The guys, most of the time lie about who they are, their job, what they look like, their marital status, their intentions. So, they lie about everything to get a woman to develop fondness for him.
Once he can see that she cares about him?
The lies unravel slowly, like the analogy of, "How to boil a frog."
Women fall in love with what they hear, guys fall in love (though it's 99% lust) with what they see. So, guys lie & women wear makeup. It's sad, yet, true.
When they "confess," ladies, it's just another phase of the scam.
Do not send money to ANYBODY on the internet. Period.