Cell Memory and Grief
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- čas přidán 13. 04. 2024
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So many thoughts, and recalls, not just dates, but all and any times. The loving times, the awful devestating times😢. This is so validating to hear. Thank you..❤
my sister commited suicide in 2023, it has completely changed my coping and feelings in my body .14 days before her birthday, we lost our brother in Jan 2004 to murder. and then the other brother to drug overdose in 2010....I have no one left....
@fw201Outa Hi. I was so sad reading of what pain and grief you've been through. My deepest sympathies. Please take care of yourself as best you can. Is there a church group that would suit you? My family experiences have not been the same as yours but I finally had to choose between Gin and God, when I realised that drinking too much was making me quite unwell.
Sending you so much love. XOXO I lost my mom almost 2 years ago. I'm first generation here in this country, so I understand the feeling of being alone.
What you stating is absolutely absolutely absolutely True True and True.
I can so so so relate this Vlog with my Life and to my Grief Anxiety, that I have been dealing with, struggling with past 14 yrs since my Beloved Mom's sudden death due Heart Failure.💔
Thankyou
Our grief continues because our souls know that we are grieving an eternal being.
That is very touching…and true.
"Cell memory" how to channel, other then Journaling and meditating, I lost my mobility, lost my mother and our dog, all within two years. I can't just get into car and drive into forest to ground myself. I can't walk stairs. Grief has such a strong hold on my bones and muscular system.
But thank you for sharing your wisdom on grief, it's a much overlooked topic.
It's coming up to 3 years for me. I truly believe that my husband imprinted onto the very deepest cell of my body. I'm doing better in many ways but I fracture at certain times of the year. The moments of significance. I believe they are cell memory. The day I met him. The day we accidentally found our first home. The day ( to the month) his dog died and I'm convinced she called him because they were so bonded. I live with these moments, learning and trusting that as each year passes, I can feel less pain and relive the calm friendship and humour of our life. I believe he is nearby and live with the belief that "he's there" as I did when he WAS there. I'm not as alone anymore. Too often he has answered my call for assistance ( as he did while alive) for me to think he's not around, guarding me and clearing difficult paths for me. I'm a grounded and practical adult. However, his spiritual presence is palpable to me and I'm fine with that regardless of whomever scoffs at me.
this is definitely NOT "way out there." I experienced this to the T, waking in the early hours of the morning, body grieving and bringing me to tears seemingly "randomly," but it was definitely not random. They were days/nights/events leading to the death of my loved one. I have implemented a "grief week" every month leading up to the death date, and then to the one year anniversary date because my body would wake me in the early hours of the morning every month during that week (now I understand why - thank you).
This April marked the one year death anniversary and I anticipated it being difficult. It was, more than I wanted it to. It was good to practice gentility and self-compassion each month during the grief week because my heart, body, and soul needed it, especially during the one year anniversary.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge on this platform.
Thank you for this channel, we're out here, and we do appreciate your insights and compassion.
My daughter died September 1, 2000 from cancer at age 18. I was a teacher and every year had to cope with new beginnings at school and the worst ending of my personal life. By 2015, I'd retired to Florida, where I wasn't writing the date on the board every day and didn't have weather that reminded me of Fall. But, I'd start to feel "off" the end of August which was my body remembering. I don't make any plans for the times around her birthday or death day. My husband and I focus on taking it easy. That's very hard to do when you're working. I don't think I fully grieved until I'd been retired a few years because I threw myself into work to cope with the void. Not that grief has ended, rather acceptance has begun.
I think I just went through cell memory. My husband was in the hospital last year around this time. He was going downhill due to his battle with cancer. This was the time he was placed on hospice and I was not able to be at work due to staying with him everyday he was in the hospital until he was released and sent home. I had nightmares for 2 nights this past week, dreaming that something was causing me not to be able to get to work. It had me worried and I told a co-worker and dear friend, if I do not show for work one of these days to please call 911 and have the police come out and check on me. I love my job and that is the only thing in my life right now that keeps my mind off of losing my beloved husband and soulmate. It will be a year since his passing on June 19th 2024. I know that is going to be a mentally hard day for me.
This video is very helpful, and right on time. The first anniversary of my husband's passing is coming up. For the last few weeks I am bone tired, though I am not doing much. I am also experiencing flue symptoms.I have fibromyalgia, so at first I thought it was just a flare, but it is persisting. Now it make sense. The last weeks before my husband died was excruciating- he was in hospital, battling cancer, and first had blood clots in his lungs and brain, and in the end he had a massive brain bleed due to the blood thinners. My days revolved around hospital visits and waiting for results. I have been through hell in eleven months- my mom died and my dad within a month from her. While I was still reeling, my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and by the time he lost his battle I didn't have any energy left- not emotionally nor physically, and I was in a world of pain.
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Thank you so so much I had a terrible March month because of my husband's birthday. I journaled so much, but was frustrated with myself for not getting over my grief at times like this. Deep grief. Thank you for your advice.
My mother died on my 54th birthday. I can never forget that. I was present for her last breath and final exhale.
Me too!😭😭😭
@@ghoostnnnit haunts us. I'm sorry you have to go through this too. It's not easy. Be kind to yourself. ❤
For me it's dates as well as events and places. for example the grocery store makes me really sad now because I used to go buy food when I was caregiving.
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Thank you so much for confirming this because I think every time I go through this ....why?
Thankfully I work with a wonderful lady who has encouraged me on each anniversary (2 years now since my Mum passed away) to take the day off work and celebrate Mum's life in some way - it has certainly helped me ❤. Each time I approach an anniversary I think I can manage a normal day at work but the closer it gets to the date I just can't. Sending love and thanks for all you do x
We buried my mother on my birthday and I'm 60 this time but my body reminded me that she died on the 3rd which I sort of ignored but my body remembered. My mother married, gave birth and was buried on 18.4 so this year is significant because her mother died at 59... and I'm 60. I always asked people who think they've got the flu I ask them if there's an anniversary and usually I'm right...I am not surprised I've had a rough weekend...
Now is the month my soulmate left earth. Year 3 and I feel worse than I have in a long long time. Like I’m back peddling. I cannot be around anyone. Cannot fake smiles or force anymore boring mundane conversations with family or friends. I feel so angry at his way out and ponder this morning if I’ve been in such a state of survival the last three years that I’m at level one on my grief. Maybe I have done zero work after all. Idk. Maybe when I find a safe place to call home I can ground myself again and start my new life. Idk. Isolation has been my main issue. Thxs for your channel. It’s a blessing on this lonely journey
I haven't experienced too much of this yet, I'm only two months into the grieving process, so all those firsts, (first birthday, first Christmas) and anniversaries are still to come. My loss is of my father. My mother passed away 17 years ago and her wish was for their ashes to be mixed together. On the first month anniversary of his death, that's what I did, I took their ashes and mixed them together forever. The second month anniversary is coming up in two days time, tomorrow would have been my mother's birthday. I have not slept well the last few nights, and maybe I understand why now. I will mark both these upcoming days by volunteering or donating in their memory and channelling my love for them into something useful. Thank you for this video, I'm sure it will help me a lot when these anniversaries roll around, at least I'll know to expect and have a better understanding of my body's physical reaction to them.
This makes sense now. I’ve been a basket case around certain times this last year. Seems like the body is saying hey you I know what really happened even if you won’t acknowledge it
It was when my gran had passed I was the last who annoyed me that I was the last to find in the person I have have expired it during my birthday and hers and Christmas
What was helpful was doing artwork or nail art work.
I definitely validate this... I dry crying that stutter breath comes out randomly
Thank you Jo, just what I need right now, lost my Mom almost a year ago.
I have nighttime wakings every hour or two during the night and I don’t know why-but I lost my wife of 43 years in February. I am not aware of a specific connection but I suppose there must be one. My wife was living with our daughter when she passed, not me.
hi one thing that sticks in my mind is my wedding reception when I threw my bouquet from the stage I turned round grabbed the mike and sang you've got a friend yes I felt so good when I sat down I expected him to say what he normally said I am so proud of you but no all he did was criticise me you were behind the beat there wasn't any beat to be behind Ime a trained singer and he saved criticism for them at the reception I can't get it out of my mind it really cuts what do you suggest please
💚✌🏽Blessings🙏🏾
Have stable routine. I want this to stop, to end First birthday, first Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter. A “friend “ kept telling me “snap out of it. She is gone”. She even trips next” your mother was 71. She wasn’t live forever.” And keeping me you are going reinvent yourself. She is gone and will bring her back.” Very cruel woman. She hasn’t suffered death. Her mother, who is in late 80s is still alive along with her daughter and her two husbands. And her father is also still alive. I lost all my family. Last heard from her was New Year’s Day. Never heard from her ever again.
This is very interesting maybe that’s why I’ve been feeling so terrible lately. I’m approaching the 2 year anniversary of my husbands death so maybe there is a connection there.
Every time the 13th comes around for me
3-6-23 tattooed on my wrist with a ladybug 🐞 Kimmy
Help me doctor Jo I’m struggling I’m grieve alone in secretly
What's the difference between cell memory and a trigger ?