You won't stop binge eating until you understand this.
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I stopped binge eating when I realised eating excessively won’t change the fact that my mother was a narcissist
Oooooof you just hit waaay to close to home 😢🥵
This is just facts right here 😢 was it an overnight realization?
Such a fantastic insight! Thank you.
Hi, Im Rebecca.
Your her client?
Me too!
no youre andrea molnárová
Same here
I'm Rebecca as well lol
I have been consuming binge-eating content for almost a decade and I have NEVER heard anyone describe my experience so perfectly. This is an amazing video!
me too
My mind is blown.
Same for me! I feel like she's describing me. Lol
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a decade?? seems like the content hasn't been helping you if you still around
Today is my 4th day without binging. I am so happy. It’s possible, my dear, never stop believing and seeking it!
im rooting for you 🫶🏼
Yay! Keep us updated :)
YAYYY IM SOOPROUD AND HAPPY FOR YOU!!I'm gonna stop binging tomorrow I hope it'll stop forever
Hey I am 13 years old I binge on sweets alot I have recovered ed but now I am fed up of this binge eating
How did you recovered your binge eating
I am definitely binging because I am bored and feel suppressed. I do t feel like I can go out and do what I want without checking I. With my partner first.
I have done this for 20 years, I’m exhausted
I binged again today. And yesterday. And the day after. I want to be better. I will try again, and again ❤
That’s ok. Focus on calming your mind and body down. Eat slower. Eat what you like. After your body and mind are peaceful then you can decide what foods are better for you. Eventually you’ll move to what’s better to eat and what amount is better. Slow down, breathe, slow your mind and body down. There is nothing wrong with you, this is just a habit, a coping method. You can focus on finding new, healthier coping methods and slowly, calmly change.
In America, there is more fake food than real food. As a person who has chosen only to put mostly real food in my body, it's extremely frustrating that you have to work so hard to find it. I'm constantly having to think and plan about food simply because real food is not available in most restaurants
My cravings when under depression meds were INSANE, I gained 8kg, which might not sound like a lot but it was to me. I stated writing everything down (like a diet journal). For the first step I tried to only eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day and once I got that down I started swapping the unhealthy choices with healthy ones + 20' of exercise 3-4 times a week. It took over a year but my old clothes finally fit again! It was a slow change but a change nonetheless 😊
I also want to lose 12 kilo. I am in second month. I lost 3 kilos. But I overeat on cookies yesterday 2700 calories. And I need to eat 1300 calories. I afraid to think about weighing myself after this
I’m suffering with mentall illness too and I’ve gained 10 kgs , I’ll try your tips ! Thank you🙏🏻
@@kotenoklelu3471 Hi, I hope you are doing good! About what you asked one month ago: I don't think one day of overeating can outdo months of hard work. Don't beat yourself mentally for having an off day once in a while. Just make sure that day is an exception, not the rule.
Same am on antipsychotics since jan and i have gained 17 kg and it's so concerning and i just can't stop myself I feel so empty without eating
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@@dikshasharma5642 I don't know how antipsychotics affect appetite but I heard it's even more extreme than antidepressants...try to do things that make your heart full, maybe swithing your focus to something other than food is the key.
I hope you find your balance💙
These are the type of videos that need to go viral.
What world do we live in?
I want everyone in the comments to know that you all deserve to be heathy and have all the nutrition you need to thrive. You are worth more than how your ED is treating you and i wish you all happiness and health
It’s my 3rd time trying recovery and I feel more hopeful than ever. Of course I’m still scared of things going wrong, but my need to get better is stronger and videos like this make me feel more seen and comforted. Thank you
That's really lovely to hear. You're very welcome here. You can do this ❤️
Did it help u??
3rd time's the charm
@@monopoly340 I hope so :)
Thank you for this video. I am 63. I have been an emotional eater forever. I eat to comfort myself when I am afraid, stressed, lonely, board, ect. I grew up with an angry, distant mother. We weren't allowed to have feelings. We didn't dare show any anger. My sisters became alcoholics and I turned to food for my comfort. Gaining weight is also a shield to hide behind. I have healed a lot through therapy and prayer, but now I am left with not knowing how to be happy and have a fun fulfilling life. I feel a lot of grief for the loss of a happy life all these years. I use food and sweets as a fake social life. If I could just, "get a life", maybe I would be able to exchange love of food to love of people and activity.
I feel the same :(
You should look into food addiction. Dr Vera Tarman is a good place to start and Dr Anna Lembke for easy to understand information about addiction. Eating disorders are not the same as food addiction although they are linked in some ways and can coexist, too.
this is a very late reply, but i say take a walk or two everyday! start with a 5 minute walk, get comfortable with that and add 5 minutes whenever you are ready. create a playlist you love and just take a lovely stroll! i know this may be a bit counterintuitive, but take a walk to a bakery whenever you want a treat, get some fresh air and converse with the people you meet along the way! wishing you the very best 💗
I have been struggling with ED for the past 6 years now and I never once even thought about it that way. Being/feeling this way has been making my life miserable because I constantly think about it and for once in my life, thanks to you, I finally understand that I am not stuck, that I can get better, that it will get better. I also feel understood and seen and I never felt that way before. So thank you so much for posting this video !
I ma so glad to hear this has helped you in this way ❤️ You are understood here, I assure you.
This is me. It serves a purpose; it allows me relax, to zone out, to occupy my thoughts, etc. Every morning I'm a different person, researching and learning, and then the afternoon or evening comes, I binge, feel relief (not from restriction but from my thoughts of my day or because it is my habit and I look forward to it).
I don't know how to want to stop; how to find something as worthwhile.
this is the most helpful video I've watched on youtube on forming a healthy relationship with food, lightbulbs went on multiple moments throughout. i never understood the importance of learning new ways to feel self assured that aren't dependent on being smaller, until now. I read the intuitive eating book and it didn't help much at all but you've really managed to explain and help a lot in just 10 minutes
That means a lot to me to hear. Thank you for taking the time to write that ❤️ Above all else, I am glad it has led to some light bulb moments for you.
Agreed with this comment! This video was crazily at the top of my recommendations page when I opened up the app and its just blown my perception up. I imagine this is what paid therapy does for people 😅
Honestly... thank you so much for this video! I am 100% Rebecca and what is crazy is that since a couple of days I have started to realise that what I really crave is to feel loved and accepted and that i should go out more instead of staying home to count calories. You are so insightful, great great job and congrats for overcoming it!
Well done!! I'm really happy for you 🎉❤️
I love how insightful this comment is. I had binge eating disorder for years and when I was most strict with my eating is also when I was most depressed, alone, isolated...yet strict diets pretend to sell "freedom." It's such a trap!
@@sugarsober ❤Thank you! I hope you are doing well right now and enjoying life :)
I just skipped youth group the other night to meal prep 😅
@Brynn Campbell I think choosing Jay you really need is more important than sticking to a specific meeting schedule
I’m literally Rebecca, i have had binge disorder for the past5-6 yrs and I didn’t even know it was a disorder until last year, the part where you described binge and a replacement of entertainment is so accurate and also the point that planning for next meal is sort of a distraction from current stressful stuff and anxiety is so spot on, I couldn’t have described what I was feeling better than you have,thank you❤️
I wasn’t even aware that all my thoughts around planning food, diets, tracking, etc, is a disordered behavior in and of itself. This is eye opening. I don’t need more planning to do better. I need one simple way of eating, on autopilot, and to stop using food as a hobby in any sense.
I could really relate to this video, always binge eating when I‘m heavily bored, frustrated or stressed which I‘m very often due to lack of social touchpoints. When I‘m out with friends I don’t even think about food, I have joy I could go hours and hours without food, I feel more alive, I just feel something at all.
I am right now mostly 16 in a month, I’ve always been obsessed with how I look, how much I weight and how perfect I am at least since the age of 13…
Right now I feel like I can’t stop thinking about food, it’s hard to restrict myself as well and hard to even enjoy food after I “eat the whole fridge”. I decided it’s better to fix the problem right now; this video helped better than ever
I never thought there would be people who would be exactly like me
You described how overeating is literally a hobby to a T and it's really opened my eyes ... Thank you, this was excellent. A real description of what emotional/boredom eating looks like and it's really changed my perspective on my binges.
this is the most helpful video i have ever seen. I am a 41 year old mom of 4 and let me tell you, you don't grow out of this behavior, you grow into it. I am now binging, dieting, watching endless food shows, taking baths and shopping to regulate my emotions and distract from the stresses in my life. I never realized the positive things i was getting from this behavior and it feels like the missing puzzle piece . I always wondered why I couldn't stop doing something that was so self destructive. Thank you thank you thank you. im saving this video to rewatch for years to come. ❤❤❤❤
I cannot believe how perfectly you explained binge eating and why it occurs
Wow this is crazy. I feel like you uncovered every reason I restrict and binge and told my whole Story of Mt relationship with Food. Channels like these are the ones we need. Thank you!
I don't think I have an eating disorder yet, but I've been getting to a point recently where I feel like I'm at a little bit of a tipping point. I have friends who've been through eating disorders, and I don't want to get to that place, so I decided to do some research to understand what I'm going through better. This was one of the first videos that came up and I'm so glad I found it. I resonate with this a lot already and I'm going to try hard to take your advice and seek out what I guess I might classify as "distractions," or just other methods of "fun" or "entertainment" that can replace the relief feeling you were talking about that I get from food.
Well said! I hope you don't ever reach the level of a disorder. Our health is above the rest. Stay well, my friend😊
Thank you. This is painfully accurate for me. I started dating when i was15-16 years old, im now 22 and finally single. The more im single the more i binge and i kind of think its because i miss being in relationship and cuddling. I tried intermitted fasting (16-8) and it honestly fucked me up so much. I was on it for a month and felt so proud of myself, it was my little accomplisment every day. But i felt really obsessive so i stoped and now i just binge all the time even more than before. I feel so out of control, and when i binge its Like i try to eat as much calories as possible in a short period of time and feel Like that's wrong but cant help it.
I’m going to listen to this every. Single. Day. The first few minutes of the video and you’ve immediately listed everything I’ve been feeling… you’re amazing. I really never thought of it this way 😢
I have struggled with ED/Binge eating for 7 years now. It’s kind of a blessing that your video popped up on my home page. Thank you so much for this video. I related to every part of the story. For once, I did not feel alone❤️ I hope and pray to start a journey of recovery
An incredibly amazing insight into my 75 year old brain. I worked in mental health for 35 years, did many bouts of therapy for years. But....here i am. I do have successes dealing with my disordered eating but it never lasts long. Food takes up SO MUCH SPACE in my brain.
This scared me, because you just describe my two last years and I didn't realize that was like that until I saw your vídeo. It shock me a lot, but it helps me a lot to see what was the real problem of everything. I was so convenced that my problem with food is because how my body looks like, that seeing myself as Rebecca, shows me that it's not.
Thanks You so much for this vídeo, and sorry if I don't speak English very well, i'm from argentina and I'm trying My Best xd
This is such an insightful comment. I'm so excited work like this is changing the entire conversation!
As a 61 year old man who spent most of my career in the food business, I found this very informative and it helps me to understand my love hate relationship with food and myself. My current diet I’ve lost 24 pounds in 32 days by one Keto meal a day. I now understand how to lose weight in terms of the mechanics. At my heaviest I was 20 stone, currently 16 and targeting anything under 14 as NHS healthy weight. I’m sure however that my real challenge is emotional though, so this was interesting and opens up a new area to explore. Ideally I’d like to come off the blood pressure tablets I’ve been on for 20 years, with the doctors agreement that I no longer need them.
Oh my goodness…one of the BEST videos I have watched about binge eating hands down! Thank you for your clarity and honesty. So good and so true❤️
I don't think I am a full-blown binge eater, but I think I'm nearly there. Trying to find ways to stop before it gets worse.
This video actually made me cry, I always knew I felt something wasn't right with myself but you've just described me in one! I hope I can turn it around!
every attachment in life needs to be looked at this way. once you resolve all your attachments, you will have liberated yourself. all the best everyone, it's a long and hard journey for all.
the "sense of entertainment" part is SPOT on. I've always felt this way but never heard it articulated....I really wonder if I'm just bored and often use my body as something to fix my attention to and find feelings of accomplishment - which of course come with the shadow that when I gain weight I feel a sense of extreme failure...thank you for making this video, it's been eye-opening
I don't feel like I can say I've got an ED or anything, but I got a really unhealthy relationship with food. This really spoke to me, and I'll try not to feel good about just watching a video about it, and try to do something about it. we're all trying.
Hi, it's like my 3rd binge this week and I'm losing my mind. Everything goes so well, I eat healthy all day, I'm careful about my calories and don't starve myself as much as I used to... until I find out about another assignment for school. It stresses me sm I want to distract myself from it, especially when I know beforehand I won't be able to get it all done in time. I fall into this spiral of "just one more" and then it becomes "I dont care anymore I'll always be ugly anyway" and I cant do this anymore. I've started getting fit and exercising everyday and getting enough protein but what does it matter if at the end of the day I'm gonna stuff my face with chocolate? I haven't been in school whole week because Im too fucking embarrassed to show up and I cant get anything done
Hey! Thank you for this video! I related to nearly everything in this video. I have been struggling with eating disorders for almost four years now with little to no help. It is easy to be overlooked or disregarded if you are not underweight. I always felt like a failure because I couldn’t just lose the weight, instead I would go back and forth with binging and dieting. I am mentally stretched because of all of the pressure I put on myself to be skinny. I am ready to put all of this behind me and make food a normal part of my life and scratch it off of the list of things I have to stress over.😊
This video means a lot to me and has truly helped me understand myself and that I am not alone in my troubles. Thank you!❤
Your video confirmed my thoughts..I grew up obese because of sedentarism, loneliness and too much sugar to cope with my hard feelings. I always hated myself and treid to use all techniques to stop binge eating on sugar and pasta. I am totally Rebecca...the fact that I could not live my life socializing, doing meaningful connection with people and being optimistic and loving myself, I tried to eat my feelings when I felt down. I needed so much help, there was no one for me. This was a way to cope with depression and anxiety, I think without food I would have been much worse. But I will repair my self esteem in time. I hope. Thank you ❤
I have never felt so exposed when it came to my food habits. This story is EXACTLY what I have been going through. I recently found out that the reason why I deal with having a bloating which in turn made me restrict was because my body can't consume gluten well. I got checked by a doctor about this, so it is not my own self-assessment, but in all honesty, I really wished I would have seen this video a couple months back. I feel a weird sense of comfort- but it is still great, thank you so much for making this! I definitely needed to see this.
I cannot believe how you described my life in such detail. Now I need to find something that I would think is fun to do, nothing comes to mind- but you've given me such hope. Thank You !!!
This is the most honest, accurate, and helpful video I’ve watched on how to recover from binge eating disorder. I’ve been struggling with binge eating since I was 12 years old ( 5 years) and I’ve been on this roller coaster of emotions. And I’ve been trying to find a solution.. also I realated to the story that you told which was so surprising to me
I'm about to finish this video but I just need to say, that I think I've never felt more understood in my life than now. When you talked about how it's hard to go out, get out of your comfort zone, or eat healthier when you're also feeling insecure about yourself... I totally resonated with that. Thank you so much for this video, it's so nice to feel understood and like I am not alone.
Right now I'm dealing with a lot of instability in my relationship (with my boyfriend) and I know that the problems started when he basically installed some insecurities in my head that I didn't really had before (he compared me with a celebrity and even though I know it might sound stupid or immature to be so offended or hurt by this, I can't help it, wish I could but I can't). So now, apparently, I need to go to therapy (which I am, I started last week and I'm very happy about this since I'd been wanting to go for a long time) to help myself be more confident so I can stop just trying to break uo every day. But if I'm honest, deep inside I feel like after I get more confident, I might actually break up with him since I've been feeling miserable on a daily basis after he hurt my self-esteem and we've been struggling with this for over two months now. I know that it can sound bad, as if I was "planning" on leaving him. But that isn't quite the case, really. I just don't know if I want to be with someone who hurt my feelings and who also after doing that and seeing that it's not that easy for me to get over it even after they apologised, they don't even want to talk about the issue anymore, like it was nothing. But he says he loves me and doesn't want to lose me, and neither do I, so I don't know what to do.
That was sort of unrelated, I know :/ but I wanted to say it, too and see if anyone can relate with me and maybe give me an opinion, or advice. And yes, I know I'm already seeing a therapist but I feel anxious right now.
To all the girls (and/or boys) who could be reading this, thank you for reading and also I wish you a good day or night :')
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your story. I'm not going to give you advice as that is not my place. That doesn't mean you're not supported here. You are. I'm sending you so much love in this difficult time for you ❤️❤️ I hope that therapy brings you clarity and direction. I'm sure that it will. These things can be more complex than they seem on the surface!! Xx
@@RachaelWrigley Thank you, you're very kind 🥺❤️ and yes I believe that therapy will bring me clarity and direction too 🥲
He doesn't want to talk about the issue anymore even though you told him that it still affects you? I think you should leave him.
@@laolualuko9417 we're still together and I'm still not over what happened but tbh it's like each time I get to communicate he seems to be more and more uninterested, like he ran out of patience. I get that I forgave him but idk... Another thing is that he doesn't let me end the relationship. He even told me he was gonna kill himself some weeks ago and that made me feel pressured and guilty even though I'm aware it's not okay to threaten like that. I think he thinks the relationship will work effortlessly and I'll learn to trust him out of the blue...
@@pinkmuffingirl Those are more reasons for you to end it. He won't actually kill himself. The longer you wait before you end it, the more painful it will be when you actually do it. I pray that you have the strength to do what you need to do. Please keep me posted, thanks.
Yes! I needed the control and something else to focus on because I didn't like what was happening in my life. When i started to fix my relationship with food, I noticed I needed something else because without a disordered relationship with food there was a void. That was a big focus of my life: it gave me a type of purpose.
This is so insightful of you. This 'void' is a real thing for a lot of women (that I have worked with anyway). Who are we and what do we care about when it's not food and weight? Such an important question to ask from the get go. You hit the nail on the head there with 'purpose'. It really can be like that. ❤️
i watched some of your videos, and i concluded my emotions and mindset causing me to binge. so i took what you said to heart and i have been eating intuitively for the past 3 days. I haven't felt the need to binge for the past 3 days after hearing your advice. I don't limit myself. I eat more healthy and when I'm hungry, I stop when I'm full. if I want a snack, I don't tell myself I can't snack, I'll eat a snack. when you said that your bingeing is not a problem you need to stop doing but a symptom of something in your life, it really helped me to see food differently and stop restricting/binging. it's crazy how simple it was after all this time. I've struggled most of my life to become a "normal" eater, but all I needed was to be taught why I binge and the psychological factor, and now I feel so free because I can eat what I want, but be healthy at the same time. also i am a boy. ❤
had a full breakdown realizing the connection of my relationship with food is also related to how i regulate with my feelings and how it was addressed by my parents growing up
I never knew that my eating habits could be identified as an eating disorder, and this video explains perfectly! I would crave attention from my emotionally withdrawn mom that idolized beauty. My sister was bulimic and my mom would praise her habits for being skinny, but my mom couldn’t have a food relationship with my sister and used me to get that part she craved by taking me out to eat or bribe me with food as a kid for good behavior. Being “fat” l, when looking back I was actually average weight for my tall height, I felt that was all I would ever be and just turned to food in all the ways that Rebecca did 😢 now at 32 after having 2 kids my body is starting to wear.. I’m so embarrassed to admit that my husband who is recovering from a soccer injury can walk faster than me while holding our kids 😢 I’m afraid of who I will be without using food as a crutch, I’m afraid of diving into the unknown and most of all I’m afraid to take the leap of faith within myself. But I need to try. Thank you for sharing this story that gave me a better understanding of myself and where this addiction came from. You and everyone watching this video have my love and support for a brighter future ❤️
Jesus helped me re over from food addiction
i’ve never heard anything that’s resonated with me so much… it’s so hard for me to pinpoint where it all sort of started but i feel like this just said it all..
Please start a podcast!! Your knowledge and pov is invaluable to many women. It’s such a fresh take that I can honestly say this has been the most helpful channel for me.
Thank you for your kind words ❤️ I'm so glad that this channel has been helpful. I'm sure one day I will start a podcast! For now I'm busy working on my program /course ❤️
How have I not watched this sooner you are describing me. Even the weight lost in how many weeks to the clothes I will wear. I have been on a diet nearly my whole adult life and I still struggle everyday and am still overweight. Everything revolves around food. It is draining but thank you for this video. I know it is not just me that deals with these thoughts every single day.
This made me cry. Sad tears then happy tears from feeling understood and hopeful. Thank you, Rachael! ❤
i feel like u really understand how it is, i feel so gratefull because someone can put all of that on words to say it, i will be working on this
Every second of this video describes me to a T!!!!!! I felt like you were literally reading my mind hahaha you are so insightful, and understand This topic so well!!! I can’t wait for a follow up videos of us learning about ways to fix these thought processes!! You are the best!!!
It's scary how interchangeable I found my own name with Rebecca's, but somehow it's comforting knowing that I'm not alone in feeling this way. This video is really truly helpful, and i love how clear and to the point you made it.
You're exactly right, it's never been about the food, it's always been about the control and a desire to self soothe immediately.
Working on the aspects of life that truly instill fear and anxiety, like school and relationships, is the only way forward. ❤❤❤
I have to stick to a diet because I’m histamine intolerant. I miss food then I binge and purge to avoid the reactions. I wish I could stop but my body hates foods I’ve only been able to eat 5 different foods for 3 years I’m so tired of eggs squash zucchini 🌶 and avocado 🥑
Same here.. i suffer from rosacea so no grain, no dairy, no red meat, no sea food, no cocoa, no peanuts & i have to be careful with fibre as well...
So like chicken, turkey, salmon, coconut milk, avocado, cucumber, zucchini & egg yolks are pretty much my diet. thats it.
Check the channel nutrition Made simple. It’s a doctor who digs into the science of nutrition. He has one video about his mom. She had an intolerance and slowly with a specialist they introduced food little by little. The aim was to level the threshold of reaction of her body. And she could eat more foods afterwards.
As a licensed clinical nutritionist, I TOTALLY understand this. Diets are THE trigger to then binge. And yet some diets are medically necessarily. Have you worked with a clinical nutritionst to find an expanded list of food that work for you? (I'm not pitching to you, I promise! you should be able to find one in your area so health insurance covers it - if you have insurance, of course)
@@andreamolnarova2185 Hey love, this is a pretty extensive elimination list - it sounsd SO challenging! Have you worked with a clinical nutritionist to see if there's an expanded diet for you? And it seems like a major opportunity would be legumes! Vegetarian refried black beans, bean chili, lentil soup, mediterranean lima beans, rosemary white bean soup - there's loads of options!
@@sugarsober Hi there! Thanks for the tips, i def try to eat more of the legumes for i have lots in my pantry! I havent worked with a clinical nutritionist regarding my anti-inflamatory diet regime yet, they are either pretty expensive or mostly not even available here where i live, but i can def try the tips u mentioned. thanks a lot! :)
i’m literally rebecca down to the T. with wanting to be pretty and skinny and popular, with distracting mysed with food, to making plans
i’m going to cry she is me
I’ve been struggling with a vicious cycle of bingeing and restricting all my life (I’m 45 now) and I’m realizing that I been using food as a coping mechanism from trauma. I have a therapist now, but still am stuck in this cycle and I really would like to see your approach.
I haven't had problems with food in years and I don't know why this video was recommended to me or why I watched it, but this has got to be some of the best advice I've ever heard, not just for food but for every self-destructive cycle.
Funnily enough, though my problems right now aren't an ED, they were CAUSED by an ED-it basically set me back three and a half years of my life and I've been playing catch-up ever since. I feel so far behind everyone else my age because while they were studying and getting jobs and applying for colleges I was in and out of treatment centers.
Though I no longer struggle with food, it seems as if I replaced my one massive disruption with a bunch of tiny disruptions that are beginning to make a significant impact on me. My perspective on tackling those issues has changed after watching this video. Thank you for being so wonderfully insightful!
this video resonates with me so well and I just realized that after 2 years of quarantine desolation I relapsed to this binging mindset again. It's like my defense from dieting. I lost 6 lbs in a week of becoming more fit and adopting a healthy lifestyle, I know on paper it's not healthy but I don't see any other way. One day I worked off more calories than I ate, I was exhausted and realized I couldn't keep the fitness up (running, walking for 3 hrs a day) and the calorie counting was rotting my brain. Back then when I binged, it was really bad, I was so lost then I don't know if it was really about being prettier. Those binge ED videos where they'd eat like 2000+ calories... yeah that was something like it. But now, truth is it was very thin girls at school that made me want to be thinner again, and I gained 20+ lbs during quarantine, having already wanted to lose weight when I was at my thinnest. Another deep truth is that my sibling is trying to lose weight as well and competitivity is one of my main motivations. I do not have access to a gym though I wish, and I work part time so yeah. I want to give up, I can't do what it takes. Sorry for this vent it just spilled out.
You really just made me realize how much of a serious problem I have. Like it was so eye opening and felt like therapy session honestly
I’ve never been able to explain what goes through my head and you explained it perfectly. I think the reason I do it is because it gives me a sense of control. It’s one of the few things I can control in my life but I also feel so out of control of it at the same time and idk how to fix it.
i've been in recovery for two years, and lately ive been feeling so close to slipping back into my disorder. this video helped me so, so much to gain back perspective and motivation to keep healing
I hope you're immensely proud of yourself. I'm really pleased to hear this video could be that help to you in a moment of vulnerability ❤️
I'm doing counseling and medication for BED, and you answered SO MANY questions I had.
I told my Dr's binge eating feels like a cigarette at the end of the day I have stress and anxiety all day long and eating at the end of the day is the biggest relief.
And... as a child we lived next to a taco bell, that's when I saw my mom get abused and my father went to jail for m3der. For years taco bell was my main binge place. My mind is blown I can't wait to share this discovery with my therapist. Thank you.
This was so helpful! I have also noticed that past traumas can make you binge eat. It is easier to eat yourself numb or to be overweight than take responsibility for healing from those traumas..
after 10 years of trying to recover from BED, I’ll tell you that I’d never heard this perspective before. looking at what we can add to our lives instead of what we should take away is so…liberating. thank you. I believe this may change my trajectory.
I know from experience you are correct in saying it's easier to plan your next diet when you are so stuffed from binging that you feel sick. It also makes you feel as if your regaining some control and from now on it will be different..no more binges...that is until a few days later and it happens again. 😢
i have watched dozens of videos desperate for help over the last 3 years. i think this video finally did the trick. thank you thank you thank you!!!! ❤❤❤
I'm so glad this helped! Thank you for telling me ❤️
I have to say this video and reasoning is one of the best, if not THE best, I’ve seen. And I’ve been struggling with this for over 15 years.
Oh that was super helpful! I hadn’t thought about it that way. Thank you for discussing solutions and not just explaining the problem!
Finally a story that really matches my life rn. I had that initial theory of me needing some kind of emotional replacement for my stress from school and all that. I keep trying to restrict thinking that's the way and always find myself in envy of how my mother can eat just one satiating meal at the right times and not eat for hours on end between meals with such ease while also being so diligent in her work. I thought I just need to push it more. Ur vid opened my eye to the true nature of this cycle which I probably wouldn't have realized for a while. Thank you.
I eat most (if not all) of a pizza nearly every day. I love pizza, it's always been my favorite thing. As a kid I had it for birthdays, as a reward for good grades, any time my family wanted me to be happy for any reason. I eat almost nothing else and it's absolutely destroyed my health in recent years. I just discovered I have a binge eating disorder and your channel is my first contact with addressing that. You've explained my situation so much, I've been dieting off and on for years and never quite getting anywhere.
Brilliant! Really great insight. Thank you for sharing. I don’t have these issues now but hearing about them helps me stay clear on how to not fall back into those traps and self-sabotage that I’d fell into in the past.
that's true, when get home from school, I have lunch and then really look foward to having a desert, coffee with some chocolate, everyday. I think it is one of the very things in my day that isn't done for progress or something, I can literally sit and relax. I never thought of that, thank you
Wow. I’ve been searching so many different BED resources for so long and this is the first and only time I’ve ever felt really understood.
The power of CZcams- this resonated more with me than anything I discussed during hundreds of £s worth of therapy ❤
This is the most helpful video I’ve ever watched. You put everything that I was feeling into words. It all makes sense now. Thank you so so much.
I'm so glad! I really am ❤️❤️
This video is incredible. The way you explain a complex system with such simplicity is so helpful! I have found this to be true of other relationships and external things we use for emotional regulation as well.
THANK YOU for this, I am still struggling with binge eating and restrictive eating but I am doing my best. I needed this, thank you! You earned yourself a sub
You just described this experience better than I’ve heard anyone describe it before ❤
Thank you so much for this video ❤. There was lots of parts where I resonated and it really helped me to understand where I am constantly stuck. I am really very grateful to you for this
this video is the epitome of "the truth hurts". crying but also feeling very seen. thank you.
Thank you so much for this. This explained a lot of addictive behavior I've never been able to explain
I’ve never found a better video that explains exactly how I feel and exactly what I go through. I’ve tried to explain it to people but they never understand I feel so seen right now.
Your video was truly the most accurate with the best well structured way of thinking and presenting things, and I say so as I have watched hundreds of videos on how to stop binge eating etc.!!!
Intuitively eating will help me gain my confidence while connecting with my inner child seems to me as both a solution and an outcome. Going back to eat the way we used to eat as children seems like a great escape of the 'fed up with diet culture and certain body images' life as well as being happy!
After more than 10 years of thinking food (I am currently trying to figure out the exact timeline of everything), I just yesterday made a decision of giving up on my (current) diet, while I am not even on my highest weight and even if I am higher than... (well, I don't know higher than what-food for thought), the fact that I have been going to the gym for the past few years has made an impact in my body! Binge eating is something I realized like 3 years ago and still not totally over it while -still- trying to get to my body goals. (it is so exhausting!!!)
So yesterday, after confronting myself and accepting the fact that I am not happy since I am constantly thinking about food (what to (NOT) eat-when to eat-the exact timeline) I quitted my diet plan (after almost 2-3 weeks, it wasn't going good either way).
PS. Yesterday after making this hard decision, coming home from work I had the food I wanted and at the time that I wanted. I was full. It was a long before bedtime. I didn't get hungry again. A thought of crossed my mind. I did not, cause I was full and I ate nothing till the next day.
If I was 'dieting' and had messed up my meal plan a little, I would go ....
Thank you for your video it gave me such strength to start this difficult journey of getting back in touch with myself and my desires and my happy self!
Cheers from Greece!
Thank you so ,much for sharing your story and words of inspiration! I wish you all the luck and support in the world as you embark on this new path. It takes guts. And it takes a commitment to learning a lot about yourself. I have the utmost respect for anyone that decides they deserve a healthy relationship with food. I doubt it will always be easy, but you are always welcome here when you need support ❤️
You word this all in a way I have been trying to for over a decade! Thank you!
Thanks rachael for helping me understand the concept of binge eating.. I've been struggling with ED for the past 3 years trying to fight my anxiety, stress and depression. It never really helped me cure the stressful situations and never made me feel fulfilled. Tbh this video helped me a lot and changed my view of unhealthy food.. Hope you keep spreading positiveness and help people out by giving them your expert knowledge.. Love ya❤
I feel so seen , this has literally been my life 😭 Thank you for sharing this🤍
this made me cried, i had a really bad binge that made me scared of myself and all foods so ive been starving myself for two days now, i want to have a healthy relationship with food, i want to be normal
This video just made me realise that food symbolises forgiveness to me. As a kid whenever I got screamed at, the next day my parents would give me a treat to apologise or bc they felt guilty. So now when I allow myself to binge, it feels like I'm forgiving myself :'(
Wow I’m really thankful to you for making this video. I needed to see it. I feel identified in it. Coupled with depression my binge eating has killed my social life because I feel so ugly due to the weigh gain. I’ve really been trying hard and not ordering take out as much but I did slip late last night and order pad thai. Also been trying to workout more and walk 10,000 steps but it’s hard. One step and day at time.
I have a similar food roller coaster. I have autism, which makes it difficult for me to feel like I fit in with other people. When I was very young I learned from experience that the easiest way for me to fit in was to eat what other people are eating, eat something that is offered to me, etc. Sharing was the key to unlocking how to build friendships for me as a child and it is impossibly ingrained in my behavior today. When other people offer me food, I always feel like I have to accept it in order to maintain a connection with them. If someone orders a burger, I feel like I have to do the same in order to show them we have similar interests. And I need to offer food also, and the more indulgent the food is that I’m offering, the more people will appreciate it and participate. So I feel like I always have to have indulgent food on hand to offer to others, which I of course end up eating myself. When I’m by myself, I have no problem eating healthy, but that is rare. So I’m on the same roller coaster, but it’s for opposite reasons.
Thank you for this. You kind of described me to a tee. I am just now realizing my mind with food is so messed up and it’s holding my life back
I have had food disturbs since I was fifteen, more or less. Now I'm 51.
Most of the time I overeat, although I had long periods of anorexia, or spiritual fasting, but it was like building a dam that sooner or later cracks, flooding everything around.
I had medical help, did a lot of travelling but nothing worked. Finlly I just learned to live with it, accepting my defeat, because it's like a swamp, the more I struggle, the more I sink in it.
Thank you so much for this video. I have never been able to hear this or feel this. I cannot thank you enough ❤
My binge eating came from a young age when i was a young child i always had food and everyone around me would constantly give me food not because of emotions but just because. Then when i got a little older we had money struggles where food became scarce and when we had it i would eat a lot for the fear we wouldn't have any.
But now im learning to heal my broken relationship with food.
9:07 my issue was all the things I wanted to do for fun and excitement I couldn’t do because I hated the way I looked. I didn’t want to be seen at all. I was too embarrassed and anxious. I lost about 10 years to total isolation due to body image issues. All I did was sit at home and eat and wish I had a life. Now I’m feeling better but I can’t get that time back and I’m suffering for it.
I hear you and empathise fully. I don't know if you made it to the end but I went on to say 'the very things that help us get out of an ED are the very things it can be so hard to do because we have an ED'. While we can't get that time back we can use that experience as fuel to make the absolute most out of every year that is ahead of us and to build amazing new highs of confidence and live life on a higher plane than perhaps we would have if we had never suffered at all.
I couldn’t help but cry, you literally just described my life right now and i am so sick and tired of it.
Also, this video did more for me than my first two sessions with my psychologist lolol
Really wholesome and worthy video, thank you for sharing, more people should watch it.
This is perfect. Thankfully I’m good again, but it would truly have helped to see this. Thank you so much for putting this out here.