Should I prioritise myself in a relationship?

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Komentáře • 387

  • @brendenpraise_
    @brendenpraise_ Před 3 lety +378

    Si La!!!

  • @amahlemakhaye3315
    @amahlemakhaye3315 Před 3 lety +169

    “Babe, which concealer is this one” 😂😍

  • @amo_keebine
    @amo_keebine Před 3 lety +169

    Brenden’s honesty is so refreshing and freeing a lot of people right now. We need to stop trying to make our “productive” habits to mirror each other. Let’s try harder to learn what works for us and be true to that.

  • @galaletsanglephogole8366
    @galaletsanglephogole8366 Před 3 lety +4

    "I pour into myself so that I can pour onto others" 👏

  • @didihighly-favoured7163
    @didihighly-favoured7163 Před 3 lety +66

    You don't want to make a routine that makes you unhappy.
    👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
    Routines are seasonal.

  • @khumisojulianmompoloki4115
    @khumisojulianmompoloki4115 Před 3 lety +49

    Joyce Meyer once talked about it saying simply because I pray in the morning doesn't mean I should wake up my partner to do the same, and even the way I pray I shouldnt disturb the other person who wants to rest.
    I love u guys.

  • @nandiandtshepo4960
    @nandiandtshepo4960 Před 3 lety +51

    What Brendan said “You choose stocks based on Potential and a partner from their patterns” lovvveeee it! Loved this!

  • @tshepangmokwena8738
    @tshepangmokwena8738 Před 3 lety +130

    I appreciate Brenden's honestly. I would like to believe he is one of the few people who are okay with being who they are and are okay with being transparent about who they are, which is beautiful, especially for some of use who are getting to that place

    • @khanyisagura4377
      @khanyisagura4377 Před 3 lety +6

      He is the most genuinely confident person I know on these social media streets. Its admirable to see.

    • @thokongezile5259
      @thokongezile5259 Před 3 lety +1

      True

    • @nomsa06
      @nomsa06 Před 3 lety +1

      I love that about him. He’s true to himself, all the time.

  • @Nandipa83
    @Nandipa83 Před 3 lety +32

    "If this person never changes would I be okay?" question was my saving grace.

  • @zubenathi_mkondo
    @zubenathi_mkondo Před 3 lety +66

    “babe which concealer is this?”🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️

  • @duduzilematumba1919
    @duduzilematumba1919 Před 3 lety +23

    I love how Brenden notices and compliments Mpoomy and notices the small things

  • @tshianzimadzivhandila167
    @tshianzimadzivhandila167 Před 3 lety +41

    "I am so much happier when I am being honest with myself". I love how Brendan says its okay to not be what the Gurus say we should be. It's okay to be whoever works for YOU!!!!

  • @tebogomolefe
    @tebogomolefe Před 3 lety +17

    "Once you fall inlove with yourself there's very few things that can get you down in life"

  • @TheWinningNadz
    @TheWinningNadz Před 3 lety +87

    I saw this and shouted, "the Ledwabas have posted," my whole family knows my obsession😂

  • @tinotendamakova5563
    @tinotendamakova5563 Před 3 lety +37

    Prioritizing myself has been the best thing I did for myself. I used to suffer from depression and that’s because everyone else had to come before me. I was very resentful of others and generally a negative person to be around. My therapist said to me if someone asks you for a billion can you give them. I said to her no I don’t have that money and she said to me yeah you are giving people what you don’t have that’s why you are exhausted. You are not a super human. You are just as important as the people who you want to please

    • @nokuthulatana5653
      @nokuthulatana5653 Před 3 lety

      Can I steal that? Love it

    • @nqobilemkhize8110
      @nqobilemkhize8110 Před 3 lety +1

      Oh my word so profound!!!😍💖❗

    • @seegos
      @seegos Před 3 lety

      Glad you went for therapy, it's the best thing one can do for themselves. People like you give me so much courage.

  • @mbinaomukuambi2459
    @mbinaomukuambi2459 Před 3 lety +97

    This is gold and might I add not only for relationships but even for those who are in their singlehood journey. It’s a beautiful practice… 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @_just_nelisa
      @_just_nelisa Před 3 lety +6

      True. I've been single for years and I always relate or take gems from their content

    • @wanderingcucamber7082
      @wanderingcucamber7082 Před 3 lety

      It’s so true love. I’m single too and this resonates x❤️

  • @nomfundozungu2859
    @nomfundozungu2859 Před 3 lety +6

    "You choose a partner based on patterns"...that is so profound and I needed to hear it❤🙌🏼🙌🏼

  • @thuliswaklaas261
    @thuliswaklaas261 Před 3 lety +48

    Indeed the stigma of trying to get a routine has put a lot of us under unnecessary pressure😂... Thanks for sharing Brenden

  • @osirohT
    @osirohT Před 3 lety +21

    "You don't want to have a routine that makes you unhappy" and "routines are seasonal" 👊🏾 so true guys

  • @naiyemaipelokgang3387
    @naiyemaipelokgang3387 Před 3 lety +35

    Brenden Praise, thank you for the masculine transparency, for harnessing a man conversation, in all honesty. God sure means business with you my brother. Soar on. Many should just learn from you

  • @thegifteddr
    @thegifteddr Před 3 lety +27

    “I’m just not that guy” , so honest Brenden. And this gives me so much perspective cause I’ve always wanted my boyfriend to be like me🙆🏽‍♀️🤣

  • @naiyemaipelokgang3387
    @naiyemaipelokgang3387 Před 3 lety +22

    Mrs Mom you're such a gentle reminder of so much for me and you're radiating Glory momma. Keep on gliding on those wings like eagles'. Rooting for you beautiful ❤️

  • @kaonewillie4492
    @kaonewillie4492 Před 3 lety +20

    Brenden s honesty is top tier. 👌

  • @minkz002
    @minkz002 Před 3 lety +8

    To the 21-year-old - please go back home and end that relationship. Just to keep it short and not to ramble too much.
    You will thank yourself at a later stage in life. It will hurt to let go especially because you are so invested , but babygirl please , you will truly thank yourself later.
    The right person for you will find you on your path and you will not have to hope they’ll change to be better for you. 🌸

  • @matshidisocatherinekomako9150

    My comment to the 21 year old. Choose you. Im 39 and if i was 21 id choose me and books. Trust yourself.

  • @BerniceMB
    @BerniceMB Před 3 lety +24

    I always enjoy these chats. Always so relatable! “Choose your partner based on patterns!” Loved that!

  • @anointedchosen141
    @anointedchosen141 Před 3 lety +4

    Brenden is dropping nuggets , I love what he says about get to know yourself and do what makes you feel alive.

  • @mpho8728
    @mpho8728 Před 3 lety +17

    This was beautiful, Brenden highlighted the important part about routine. “Do what works for you”🥺

  • @mela_tyibz
    @mela_tyibz Před 3 lety +7

    All I'm getting from this is be you for the right reasons. Gravitate towards your truest form of self, fill up however so you can be the best to the next person!!! Urggggg thank you!

  • @tlholohelontlele5077
    @tlholohelontlele5077 Před 3 lety +7

    "You don't want to build a routine that makes you unhappy" ....i felt that🙌🙌

  • @nomsa06
    @nomsa06 Před 3 lety +48

    Mpumi I’m like you - I’m so afraid of marriage because I feel like marriage will strip me away from “me time” because mornings are mine lol 😂. I pray to God for an understanding husband who’ll be happy to do his own thing otherwise I’m going to be unhappy.

    • @timbawangu3038
      @timbawangu3038 Před 3 lety

      I pray you find that one🙏🙏

    • @nomsa06
      @nomsa06 Před 3 lety +1

      @@timbawangu3038 Thank you 🙏🏿

  • @michellenhove2244
    @michellenhove2244 Před 3 lety +15

    This is so insightful. Prioritising myself is also having a morning and night routine, skincare, cleaning, meal preps etc

  • @buyisilemohale2881
    @buyisilemohale2881 Před 3 lety +6

    This is so good! Because at times you become somewhat grumpy Because your spouse doesn't do what you deem couples should do together! My husband is NOT a morning person and just like Brenden,he prefers his coffee/jogging and good music then all other things can come...hearing Brenden say this has kind of opened my eyes that I should accept how making HIMSELF a priority looks like...thank you for this topic

  • @NothingNewHere777
    @NothingNewHere777 Před 3 lety +19

    You choose stocks pased on potential, you choose a partner based on patterns!

  • @elizabethmmapaseka7364
    @elizabethmmapaseka7364 Před 3 lety +16

    Mphoomy hypes Bren ALLLL the time.
    Today Bren is out here trying to give her a compliment and she straight up brushed it off and diverted straight to the topic.
    🤣🤣🤣😂 Noooo Mrs Mom.
    #UMUHLE _NTOMBO!!!🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️💣💥

  • @shupiwevakaira9470
    @shupiwevakaira9470 Před 3 lety +10

    I just love how timely this came for me as an individual, thank you guys... Love you guys, too much Wisdom there! ♥️🇿🇲

  • @BuhleN20
    @BuhleN20 Před 3 lety +4

    This has helped me so much with my studies, I’ve been pouring so much into my work, sacrificing time with myself, friends and family, that I’ve been miserable and starting to hate what I’m doing. So I’m going to start prioritising myself, my loved ones and get a routine going.

  • @mela_tyibz
    @mela_tyibz Před 3 lety +11

    I died when Brenden asked, "babe which concealer is this one?" love you guys ♥ 😂

  • @celinethomas3168
    @celinethomas3168 Před 3 lety +8

    When someone shows you who they are,believe them!✨

  • @didihighly-favoured7163
    @didihighly-favoured7163 Před 3 lety +24

    I'm clapping for this couple 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
    😍

  • @leratothekiso2917
    @leratothekiso2917 Před 3 lety +5

    What Brenden said about a morning routine is SO profound...I relate so much to that. Used to beat myself up and feel bad when I don’t do “what I must do”. I ended up resorting to the natural flow of my life and happier. I’m not alone, THANK YOU BRANDEN!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @matshabellomonageng3841
    @matshabellomonageng3841 Před 3 lety +5

    'God help me discover what my thing is'

  • @veebee0115
    @veebee0115 Před 3 lety +15

    Mpoomy and Brenden you're both amazing souls.

  • @mbalenhlehlongwane855
    @mbalenhlehlongwane855 Před 3 lety +1

    Completely agree and enjoyed this topic. It’s important to prioritise yourself, especially in marriage.❤️❤️

  • @moses782
    @moses782 Před 3 lety +2

    Brenden being open and honest, love your character Man!!!

  • @SbahleMkhize
    @SbahleMkhize Před 3 lety +5

    This was so good!!!!🤌🏾🤌🏾😍😍 the power of loving yourself has truly changed my life.

  • @karabomolobela7955
    @karabomolobela7955 Před 3 lety +19

    Aiii this was interesting hey. Especially about routines. Lol I am soo not a morning person and been struggling with being a 5am club lol but ever since I left my 8 to 5 job. I have become such a morning person but I think it's like you guy say the stage of the life I'm at now. Because I've found it to be much more beneficial for me to wake up at 5 and pray 6am start cleaning the house. While the kids are still asleep. Haven't been consistent with it past few days and I see that it's struggle if I have to clean the house when the little ones are up. Thank you soo always sharing your stories with us. And @brenden I felt you brother when you said date nights haven't been happening in a while. Same here. We will fix this and @mpoomy I'm also not a nice person when I didn't start my day with Jesus😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @nomsa06
    @nomsa06 Před 3 lety +31

    Not sure if you have a video that’s existing, but I’d love a “go shopping with Mpoomy” because I absolutely LOVE your outfits Hawemah 🙀😍.

    • @Syndzz
      @Syndzz Před 3 lety +2

      Oh yess!!! Brilliant idea!

    • @seegos
      @seegos Před 3 lety +1

      Mpoomy's fashion sense is my kinda style.

  • @Mbali_Rocks
    @Mbali_Rocks Před 3 lety +22

    Just discovered you guys at the right time. Been losing myself lately and this podcast is just the best for me right now. You guys are just amazing ❤️😢 thank you

  • @bongiwekubheka2965
    @bongiwekubheka2965 Před 3 lety +5

    Eish......... Patterns!! 🤒 My temperature just went high. We Jesu he makes me a better person. God please give us wisdom as women to not put ourselves last in relationships.

  • @tapiwachimwaida4175
    @tapiwachimwaida4175 Před 3 lety +1

    I totally agree with you Brenden on the stigma around those daily routines. There's really no 'one size fits all'! We are different and yes - ROUTINES ARE SEASONAL!! I like it..

  • @evanahkatsande3787
    @evanahkatsande3787 Před 3 lety +1

    Here for Brenden not wanting to make it gender specific in order to be inclusive of people who identify as non-binary 👏🏾👏🏾. This conversation was so refreshing!

  • @nkosinathinkosi949
    @nkosinathinkosi949 Před 3 lety +7

    This topic has landed yazin, it just became so loud and it hit home. Thank you for the awesome show

  • @katlegohlongwane8068
    @katlegohlongwane8068 Před 3 lety

    You’ll are a powerhouse, so much wisdom for your age, God at work🙌🏿

  • @portia309
    @portia309 Před 3 lety +1

    You guys are so amazing and are God sent! Thank you Mpoomy for highlighting being lost and not knowing your "thing" or passion rather. I am turning 33 years and i am just moving with life and till today i do not know what is my passion. Grateful for my job as it has good benefits and i can pay for my bills. I will pray about it and ask God for guidance as i always feel miserable and purposeless. I need to feel fulfilled (it is never too late).

  • @andreashitaa7926
    @andreashitaa7926 Před 3 lety +2

    I'm so much like Brenden. For so long, I felt terrible (and felt it was wong) for not being able to pray in the mornings like most people do. It is so relieving to have listened to both perspectives. Love you guys!

  • @malethaboskhosana2001
    @malethaboskhosana2001 Před 3 lety +4

    Brenden's honesty 🔥
    Thank you 🙌🏽

  • @michaelalyn4265
    @michaelalyn4265 Před 3 lety +2

    my brother recommended this channel to me and meeeeehn I am loving both of you. 🇺🇬

  • @tebogomolefe
    @tebogomolefe Před 3 lety +4

    " You choose a partner according to their patterns" Wheeeeeeew!!!!That hit hard😅🌈🧡

  • @mphotoniamosotho3545
    @mphotoniamosotho3545 Před 3 lety +4

    This conversation was meant for me!!! I feel like it's the added push I needed.

  • @gracehlatshwayo2789
    @gracehlatshwayo2789 Před 3 lety +13

    Brenden's honesty👌👌

  • @hlengiwepriscagasa4523
    @hlengiwepriscagasa4523 Před 3 lety +1

    When Brendan said 'At the end of the day you dont want to build a routine that makes you unhappy' I felt it

  • @delphineiracyadukunda4608

    You guys are 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
    Am so grateful to God for finding you .....this can only be grace and outpouring of God's love ...am 23 and listening to your stories and wisdom and knowledge with everything happening around me and in this season of my life is a pure blessing🙏🙏🙏 thank you thank you so much...😅 literally can't wait to share with my friends the treasure ( you people) that I just found so that we can all learn and grow together..once again thank you so much. May God bless you and continue to increase you in all areas of your life.
    Lots of love all the way from Zambia ❤️

  • @tshifs
    @tshifs Před 3 lety +16

    #Marriage is not therapy. What did not work when you were dating only gets magnified in marriage.

  • @refilwemokone2329
    @refilwemokone2329 Před 3 lety +12

    "I have my Jesus in the morning "❤️❤️

  • @kundaipatson1771
    @kundaipatson1771 Před 3 lety +7

    Thank you guys for sharing yourselves with us, your content has made me a better person❤️❤️

  • @_nceba__
    @_nceba__ Před 3 lety +6

    Mpoomy and Brenden are Godsent 🙌🏿🙌🏿♥️.

  • @Sindisile
    @Sindisile Před 3 lety +2

    Very important this topic, routine, self discipline, balanced lifestyle

  • @nelisalayini3847
    @nelisalayini3847 Před 2 lety

    "which concealer is this one" 🤣🤣🤣 love you guys ❤️❤️❤️

  • @luchulumancomani1009
    @luchulumancomani1009 Před 3 lety +3

    Sibonge🙏 I HAD to hear this. I have been doing sooo much and wearing sooo many hats that I lost me. Only now that I calm myself down and say "look make time for you". Coz I lost that after the birth of my 2nd born and the new level at work. Now I am okay with my failures. I am okay with knowing that at times I fall short. I will reboot and startover

  • @lindakhanyile3252
    @lindakhanyile3252 Před 3 lety +3

    This was for me 🥺🥺 I am moved. The last advise, that was definitely for me. Advice taken ✔️. Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden. ❤️

  • @pksimom2429
    @pksimom2429 Před 3 lety +16

    You guys are literally what makes me feel like my high self. Prioritizing myself is waking up in the morning and consuming your positive wisdom. Podcast or CZcams video.
    I literally become so self aware in the most beautiful light! Simo (my partner can advocate to this) ! One of the things that’s makes my cup full is you guys❤️.
    I love your union. ❤️

    • @pksimom2429
      @pksimom2429 Před 3 lety +1

      Absolutely loved this podcast/ CZcams video 🥺❤️🙏🏽

    • @wanderingcucamber7082
      @wanderingcucamber7082 Před 3 lety

      🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @khanyisachavalala8035
    @khanyisachavalala8035 Před 3 lety +18

    Notification gang 🥳🥳🥳 perfect way to start the week ❤️

  • @tebohophuthi
    @tebohophuthi Před 3 lety

    "Even if you never change!" Woah! 🤔

  • @thomotshipinyane7980
    @thomotshipinyane7980 Před 3 lety

    'At the end of the day you don't want to build a routine that makes you unhappy ' 🔥🔥🤞🏾

  • @khanyisagura4377
    @khanyisagura4377 Před 3 lety +4

    Yho uBrenden, is the real Baba of the nation bethuna. Yho!

  • @nelzg5819
    @nelzg5819 Před 3 lety +4

    This podcast is such a pleasure to watch. The transparency and sharing of helpful info. Wish there could be another 1. Thanks fam😇

  • @tshepangmokwena8738
    @tshepangmokwena8738 Před 3 lety +3

    Beautiful on all levels. Truly words to ponder upon. I keep reflecting on my relationship with my partner.🙂❤💞

  • @naiyemaipelokgang3387
    @naiyemaipelokgang3387 Před 3 lety +2

    My cup is surely overflowing with wisdom. I feel fueled for the week and ahead in as much as my mind and soul are concerned. I treasure knowledge and quality kind of knowledge just does it for me, I can never be fully informed but I honestly appreciate authentic gestures like you guys do, having access to such information for me is a surreal privilege. Thank you guys. May God continue to pour more into your cups

  • @PurpleAngel1550
    @PurpleAngel1550 Před 3 lety

    A minute in and I hear Brenden just full on appreciate how snacky Mrs Mom looks ♥️ love to see it 🙌🏾🥰

  • @phililekalekometsa7614
    @phililekalekometsa7614 Před 3 lety +1

    I am that church member who has been here for a long time and has just been absorbing and sorting lessons that resonates with me. This has been one that definitely warrant a comment for me. Day made

  • @moagabosatekge6734
    @moagabosatekge6734 Před 3 lety

    Brenden came in with wisdom, wow that "even if u don't change " AMEN

  • @ndifelaniramalamula
    @ndifelaniramalamula Před 3 lety +5

    We are here!!

  • @biancacave3898
    @biancacave3898 Před 3 lety +1

    I was really encouraged by the Routines part. I've been battling to find my own, because I'm constantly comparing it to the norm! Routines are seasonal👏 that will really help me find my balance in routines.

  • @mologadihazellegodi8626
    @mologadihazellegodi8626 Před 3 lety +1

    Love this podcast because it's not only for married people, as a single person I feel so much catered for❤️
    This podcast is what I needed.

  • @asemahlekose8980
    @asemahlekose8980 Před 3 lety +1

    I'm always looking forward to watching you guys so much because I know I'll take something constructive or learn a thing or two. What you said "I am a better servant to you when I'm fulfilled". That for me was everything.... Brandens response to the letter👊👏👏👑🔥🔥

  • @celinethomas3168
    @celinethomas3168 Před 3 lety +1

    Girl,You deserve to be filled the same way you pour❤

  • @pettie_
    @pettie_ Před 3 lety +10

    I am just like Brenden, In the morning I just want praise music that wakes me up, I say a prayer though. Evenings are my time, Thats when I can journal, bible study and read a book. I even work best at night. I am such a night owl.

  • @nnatalie50nn
    @nnatalie50nn Před 3 lety +2

    You both are so cute 🥰 together, I first learn about this couple when I heard them singing” Blessing “
    Love their accent.. just beautiful
    I can tell this is true love ❤️ God is good..

  • @seipatistomberg1091
    @seipatistomberg1091 Před 3 lety +4

    Such wisdom in both Mpoomy and Brenden. Shuu!!❤❤

  • @tejaanmusic8357
    @tejaanmusic8357 Před 3 lety +2

    I hope I can have podcast like this with the one I love.

  • @okuhlempisane4012
    @okuhlempisane4012 Před 3 lety +4

    Notification gang, what a great way to start off the week!! thank you Mrs.Mom 🥳

  • @theeamaithe
    @theeamaithe Před 3 lety

    😭🌻 "You choose stocks based on potential, you choose a partner based on patterns! No compromise on that."

  • @katlegon_
    @katlegon_ Před 3 lety +4

    Mpoomy is so beautiful 😍😍😍😍

  • @phumliledlamini9406
    @phumliledlamini9406 Před 3 lety +3

    I love you guys❤️. Thank you for being open with your relationship. God continue blessing you

  • @thandekamlangeni5341
    @thandekamlangeni5341 Před 3 lety +3

    Kept loudly agreeing with you, I forgot I am in the office with people around. Great job!

  • @leratontw
    @leratontw Před 3 lety

    "You choose stocks based on their potential. You choose a partner based on the patterns." 🔥🔥🔥 I felt that! It also reminds me of the quote by Maya Angelou: "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time". She has seen who he is and needs to leave asap!

  • @mrspboledi
    @mrspboledi Před 3 lety +1

    I love that point about knowing what centres you, I’m an extroverted introvert, I enjoy so much time alone, I have to have my workout too or I don’t become nice🥴.

  • @judy-et1vm
    @judy-et1vm Před 3 lety +1

    Awwwww! Can't get enough of you.your just blessed.keep on educating and empowering us.

  • @asandagomba6504
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    💃💃💃Notification gang 💖🎀what a way to start my week this podcast spoke to me in so many ways I'm in a journey of loving myself I just love you guys so much 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥you're just spitting facts❤️🙌🏾