Ep. #7 ADHD and anger issues in kids
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- čas přidán 30. 04. 2019
- ADHD and anger issues are manageable if you apply the ADHD strategies taught in podcast #7. For many kids with ADHD, ADHD, and anger issues often go hand-in-hand, and dealing with it is stressful. In the ADHD Smarter Parenting podcast #7, ADHD Parenting Coach, Siope Kinikini, helps parents understand the real reason behind their child’s anger and gives parents proven ADHD strategies for handling their child’s anger.
How to deal with a child with anger issues is something that parents ask as they want to deal with the situation in a way that won’t make it even worse and reduce future episodes of ADHD and aggression.
When dealing with anger issues, it’s essential to understand what is happening in your child’s body and why we get angry. We get mad because what we want or hoped for didn’t happen the way we wanted it to happen. Think about that for a second. Anger stems because someone’s behavior or actions didn’t go how you wanted them to go, and that leads to feelings of frustration.
Understanding anger means understanding how you, or your child, arrived at that emotion. This is especially important with talking to your ADHD child. Most children with ADHD are already working on something that has a level of frustration for them. What do we mean? They may be already working on sitting still, paying attention, not talking, or focusing on what is being said. They’re already feeling anxious and frustrated. They're trying hard to fulfill what we’ve asked them to do, and they’re struggling to do it. When we add another instruction on that, it becomes overwhelming, and they become frustrated, which often manifests as anger.
We may look at the small instruction we gave to them as “no big deal.” To them, it’s actually a “huge deal.” They’re feeling anger/frustration with multiple things. The last instruction you gave just happened to be the instruction that pushed them over the edge.
Understanding this principle will help you teach them about what is happening with their body and how to deal in a more positive way when an expectation isn’t met. Your goal is to help them understand there are consequences of anger. Disappointment happens, but we want them to deal with ADHD anger management in a better way.
Most parents have a hard time breaking down complicated feelings or ideas in a way their child can understand. Especially if they have young children. Breaking things down into small instructions is essential as it keeps them from feeling overwhelmed and frustrated as it makes the task manageable.
How to calm a child with ADHD who is dealing with anger is to remember three things. First, remain calm as it helps to deescalate the situation. Second, stay focused on the original issue. Third, be consistent in the instructions you’re giving.
It is possible to positively deal with ADHD and anger issues by applying the ADHD strategies learned in this podcast.
I was this child growing up. I can tell you 100000% everything he’s saying helped me so much!! I’m a reliable, functioning adult now. No medication. Some things I’m still learning about my adhd in other aspects in my life but the anger part has subsided for the most part without medication. Good luck parents. Stay calm!
It’s very difficult. My 11yr old son got angry and he turns into a different person. Yelling, swearing, gas lighting and cannot even communicate to him.
Thank you. You explained that well, with a good tone.
As a parent with an Adhd child....I am a usually a very patient person...but sometimes I break after the 10 melt down of the day and my anger comes out. Raising a child with ADHD is the hardest thing I have ever done. I talk to my child about everything thing you talk about....is there light at the end of this tunnel? Does medication work? Or if that just a bandaid?
@@NostalgicVibe I am not complaining. And you are a troll.
Medication works only if it is really monitored… but i don’t recommend it because it does cause an addiction to it … so why not try to help him/her naturally.. God made them perfect, maybe try to tap into your ultimate love mode, where you can understand anything in the world, and your child is only acting out of not understanding how to do something right or how to cope with a emotion…. The better you deal with it in love and understanding will bring you both closer together… build trust.. build touch… and continual discipline and discipline is not a hit to the butt, its a showing of a parent how to deal with the situation by role playing some times…
@@thommyjeffery2880 I do not do medication...I feed him organic whole quality foods. Supplements for brain and calming. Minimal sugar or dyes. Lots of exercise. Out in nature. Discipline that is strict and structured but kind. He has slowly gotten better at impulse control and his anger has lessened. We have a strong relationship to God and our Father in heaven has helped guide his maturity. It has been a very challenging road...but I am seeing a shift happening in him.
@@thommyjeffery2880 I will add...he has very limited screen time!
@@Bluestella33 you are such a good mommy! Btw in the Bible it says don’t worry about what you eat..organic is just a label…. Continue down this road.. and at every turn see it as joy, because god. Gave you this task,,, and you get to do it for another human being.:: your son. You are blessed and loved and supported buy god.:: you are a lucky human being,
Increible helpful
Very helpful. Thank you for the clear explanation
Great advice. Thanks for sharing!!!
I’m sending this to my sister who just found out her 7yr old has adhd and they both struggle to communicate so this was very helpful to hear before sharing thank you!!!!
I have ADHD, as well as depression and 2 different anxiety disorders. My anger is really bad. There is a hole in my wall because I got mad and threw a water bottle at it.
such good advice
This is my son since the day he was born. He's incredibly intelligent, rarely misses a beat and tied to this is his ADHD. He's only 2.5 years old but I can tell he has so much He's thinking about and so much to say, he gets frustrated incredibly easy to the point he hurts himself unintentionally quite often during his melt downs. When he was born we suspected he had cerebal palsy, still a possibility but thankfully our state offers 100% free therapies until the child is free, regardless of income or insurance status(Nevada). So while he now has full functional use of his arms and legs, couldn't use his right arm or left leg much until 10mo, there's so much else to work on. He rarely sleeps through the night, not unusual for him to wake every 3 hours or so. It's certainly been a difficult road particularly for my wife. I feel terrible, I work out of state for weeks at a time, leaving her to deal with this all in my absence. I'm off for weeks at a time too but still... I am generally very calm in the majority of situations and try to keep him on task but I'm at a loss.
Thank you for your video. I would like to know what would be in the conversation after about other options
Very simple advice that I do intend to implement 🤧
Your videos are very helpful . It’s so nice to have help at our fingertips. I can’t imagine what was missed in past generations and how these kids grew up and probably struggled more than kids without adhd . I’d love to see the other video you mentioned in consequences but I can’t seem to find it lol . Do you have a link you could share? And I hope it’s not already listed lol .
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I just checked again and doesn’t seem there’s a link in the description
I am a Forty-three year old neurodivergant, who lives with a short fuse... Against my will.
I am not violent or get physical with people but boy oh boy. Ok, it was bad as a kid, seemed to be under control through my twenties up until around the late thirties.
I did not go to medical school so, I don't have patients. I have had a couple speeding tickets when I was younger but now, geez Louise. I drop stuff a lot and after the fourth time picking up the thing that I might be dropping. It just might get imbedded in the wall, broken or the good old F it I'm done.
I can feel the anger coming on but I can't do anything about it. It's like there are two different people. A neurotypical and a neurodivergent. I can hear myself in my head telling myself it isn't a big deal. That happens to everybody. Everyone's has to deal stuff like this and they do it with grace.
But the other side it feels like its response with, We aren't like everyone else. My body goes so hot my shirt will get soaked with sweat. Heavy breathing, breath holding and a very quiet but aggressive look on my face. I try to calm down but it can last my whole shift at work. My brain will stew on the bad stuff ALL day. 😞
Most researched mental health disorder (developmental disorder) and still misunderstood 😢
I have Lack of understanding and pick up things sometimes I do not get it what everyone saying but my brain is not normal
Im sorry bur its not always like this my kod throws a tantrum wheb i ask her if shes hungry
U guys please help I can't sleep eat go anywhere she controls my life with temper tantrums and screaming it's 3in da morning n I'm pregnant hungry tired with Crohn's disease I need some kind of help me n her dad's don't really live together I'm back n forth alot but it's better then living in a broken home I sacrificed my life for her n she spits on me yells I have no life please help
Are u saying that kids are born with anger?
Everyone is lol, people need to stop trying to suppress emotions from children and in adults and I mean all, anger, sadness, frustration, isolation, happy, etc the list goes on there's so many emotions , it's about how you go about teaching them how to handle and cope with those emotions. Anger is a normal emotion for every human no matter the age to experience.
@@autumkennedy4133you have no idea what’s ADHD
Ya well ur gentle parenting made it so much worse made it walk all over us n now it's to late