I agree completely. I think it is also important to build trust with our kiddos. They will remember and be potentially traumatized from being restrained like that. I know I don’t want my child associating his parents with those types of feelings. How would an we as adults feel being restrained for the same purpose? Children deserve the same respect as adults do. Lots of patience, calm and praise is what is needed. As well as the above we also realized that our autistic son loves watching himself get eye drops and take medication in a mirror. Seeing himself makes it easier on him. You guys are doing a great job and B is lucky to have you.
I love my dunkin iced coffee with french vanilla! You guys have to do whats best for you and Braylee! I think she did amazing between the first drops and the last one you showed, she was able to get herself through it! Just like everyone she has difficult times but as she gets older she will progress just like she has already! Just keep doing what you are doing cause its working, she is beautiful and smart inside and out! You all are such a joy to watch! ❤😊
I Left a comment about eyedrops. NEVER RESTRAINING THOUGH. I had 3 brothers, no sisters. I had a twin and 2 older. They would sit on me, and hold my arms so I could not move. TRAUMATIC FOR SURE. Being restrained is torture for me I commented that seeing an eyedropper above your eye is a really difficult feeling to deal with. You see that eyedropper above your open eye and not only is it a bizarre feeling, but you don't know when the drop is going to go in your eye. My suggestion was simply told to me by my eye doctor which was to just go from the side of the eye and just open the lid gently and just drop it in. The fact is you are Braylees parents and obviously you tried a lot of different things and you know what works and how to make it work overtime. But we don't have that information so we don't know that you've been doing all those things. That's where it gets tricky sometimes when leaving comments. I have asked this question a couple of times before but I never got an answer and I think it's a good question. How do you guys feel about masking? There's a young lady on CZcams, she's probably about 16 or 17, I don't know but she said that masking was the worst thing ever and being told to act like neurotypical people really harmed her in the long run because it was as if it was told to her how you are is not okay. And I like that about you David and Stacey, that I get this feeling that you don't want Braylee to have to mask and do things like neurotypical people do. If she's stimming or whatever, that is who she is, how she is and it's totally okay. I actually tell people about how you guys are with Braylee, because I think it's super cool that you don't try to you know form her into a neurotypical child. I really find it heartwarming the way you allow B just to do what she wants to do, to express herself how she wants to and that is totally okay. You know,p she's not harming anybody and she's not harming herself so what does it matter. I know you guys know Jennifer Masumba, and she is quite candid about this boarding school situation that her parents sent her to. they literally put shock ankle cuffs on her, and basically tried to punish the autism out of her. To me that's disgusting, and beyond abuse. ❤ Yay Wee Fam. Ive been watching for a very long time, and am always stoked when I see you uploaded. 🐦🐦🐦🐦♥️🐦🐦
I totally get it! I don't know if is because I have heard you say it before but I never would have suggested holding her down or restraining her. I guess I have watched her enough to know how she would react. I think it is good that you took the time to explain your reasons, though, so others will understand why you don't do that.
I have autism and some of the related sensory processing difficulties. I'm not a very anxious person, but the thought of being held down, and not being able to control my body, yeah that's the stuff of nightmares. When I was around 18 months old, I poured paintbrush cleaner in my eyes, and had to be taken to the hospital. At the hospital they had to flush my eyes, and I was very combative, so five people had to hold my head, my arms and my legs. I learned to speak earlier than most children, and could string full sentences together before the age of two, but the experience of being held down and having my eyes flushed was so traumatic for me, that I didn't say a word for two weeks. Sometimes, restraints are necessary, but they should always be a last resort. You made the right decision for Braylee. From an adult with autism, thanks for respecting your daughter!
Regarding putting in eye drops for anyone, pull out the lower lid by pulling DOWN on the skin under the eye. A little pocket will form and you put the eye drop(s) there. Presto! You could have Braylee practice pulling the skin DOWN under her eye first.
Good vlog, restraining means something is being done TO her - passive methods means B is PART of the process - this leads to the next step of doing it herself. What you're doing is setting B on a path to empowerment 🖖🏻👩🏻🎓
If you have to restraint her now, you may have to later. If she never gets used to it... she _will_ grow larger and stronger. If she does gets used to being hold against her will, there is a risk for abuse in the future. Your approach is time consuming, but it makes me realize how much I would have been helped if people would have been more patient with me in the past. Getting my hair cut... going to the dentist.. horror! And then I smile. Your little girl is lucky.
You might try having her hold her head way back or lying on her back. Have her close her eyes. Add the eye drop to the corner of her eye near her nose. Then have her open her eyes. Presto! And blink blink blink. Worked great when my kiddos needed eye drops. 😂
You may want to check with your doctor first, but if you have her close her eyes and just put one drop in the inner corner of her eye, than open her eye and the drop will just flow into her eye. I actually do this for myself as I have to use eye drops daily. Perhaps you could even do this with both eyes at the same time. It’s a whole lot easier than having to actually “see” the eye drop coming.
Exactly. And you wanna help show and teach her that doing stuff like eye drops or any kind of stuff like that. Is good and is gunna help. If you make it traumatic for her. She will fight it. Btw with eye drops. You gotta blink a few times. For it to get into the eye fully. If you wipe your eye right away it doesn’t.
I won’t restrain my son either. I have considered doing saline eye drops once a week or so just to keep him used to doing them though. Both times he has had pink eye, the drops were dreadful for him and having his eyes dilated took a lot of time and patience.
If you watch the original eyedrop video, Stacey was actually demonstrating on herself. They were doing "my turn, your turn" I suspect that in the case of an IV or something more serious medical like that, they may opt for sedation, like they have for her dentistry in the past
I personally think you were being far too diplomatic David lol. IMO, as an autistic adult, restraint is an absolutely last resort measure for utterly essential (possibly life saving) medical situations only. I would even suggest sedation first, if possible. Things like getting an IV placed, getting blood drawn. The trauma caused to an autistic child (or honestly any child if it's repetitive enough) by being restrained is absolutely real & can't be reversed.
I agree completely. I think it is also important to build trust with our kiddos. They will remember and be potentially traumatized from being restrained like that. I know I don’t want my child associating his parents with those types of feelings.
How would an we as adults feel being restrained for the same purpose? Children deserve the same respect as adults do.
Lots of patience, calm and praise is what is needed.
As well as the above we also realized that our autistic son loves watching himself get eye drops and take medication in a mirror. Seeing himself makes it easier on him.
You guys are doing a great job and B is lucky to have you.
True!
I love my dunkin iced coffee with french vanilla! You guys have to do whats best for you and Braylee! I think she did amazing between the first drops and the last one you showed, she was able to get herself through it! Just like everyone she has difficult times but as she gets older she will progress just like she has already! Just keep doing what you are doing cause its working, she is beautiful and smart inside and out! You all are such a joy to watch! ❤😊
You, her parents, know what's best for your child. ❤
I Left a comment about eyedrops. NEVER RESTRAINING THOUGH. I had 3 brothers, no sisters. I had a twin and 2 older.
They would sit on me, and hold my arms so I could not move.
TRAUMATIC FOR SURE. Being restrained is torture for me
I commented that seeing an eyedropper above your eye is a really difficult feeling to deal with. You see that eyedropper above your open eye and not only is it a bizarre feeling, but you don't know when the drop is going to go in your eye. My suggestion was simply told to me by my eye doctor which was to just go from the side of the eye and just open the lid gently and just drop it in. The fact is you are Braylees parents and obviously you tried a lot of different things and you know what works and how to make it work overtime. But we don't have that information so we don't know that you've been doing all those things. That's where it gets tricky sometimes when leaving comments.
I have asked this question a couple of times before but I never got an answer and I think it's a good question. How do you guys feel about masking? There's a young lady on CZcams, she's probably about 16 or 17, I don't know but she said that masking was the worst thing ever and being told to act like neurotypical people really harmed her in the long run because it was as if it was told to her how you are is not okay. And I like that about you David and Stacey, that I get this feeling that you don't want Braylee to have to mask and do things like neurotypical people do. If she's stimming or whatever, that is who she is, how she is and it's totally okay. I actually tell people about how you guys are with Braylee, because I think it's super cool that you don't try to you know form her into a neurotypical child. I really find it heartwarming the way you allow B just to do what she wants to do, to express herself how she wants to and that is totally okay. You know,p she's not harming anybody and she's not harming herself so what does it matter. I know you guys know Jennifer Masumba, and she is quite candid about this boarding school situation that her parents sent her to. they literally put shock ankle cuffs on her, and basically tried to punish the autism out of her. To me that's disgusting, and beyond abuse.
❤ Yay Wee Fam.
Ive been watching for a very long time, and am always stoked when I see you uploaded.
🐦🐦🐦🐦♥️🐦🐦
I totally get it! I don't know if is because I have heard you say it before but I never would have suggested holding her down or restraining her. I guess I have watched her enough to know how she would react. I think it is good that you took the time to explain your reasons, though, so others will understand why you don't do that.
No restraint sounds like the right choice. You know best.
I have been restrained many times in hospital. In have scarred me for life.
I have autism and some of the related sensory processing difficulties. I'm not a very anxious person, but the thought of being held down, and not being able to control my body, yeah that's the stuff of nightmares.
When I was around 18 months old, I poured paintbrush cleaner in my eyes, and had to be taken to the hospital. At the hospital they had to flush my eyes, and I was very combative, so five people had to hold my head, my arms and my legs. I learned to speak earlier than most children, and could string full sentences together before the age of two, but the experience of being held down and having my eyes flushed was so traumatic for me, that I didn't say a word for two weeks.
Sometimes, restraints are necessary, but they should always be a last resort. You made the right decision for Braylee. From an adult with autism, thanks for respecting your daughter!
Thank you for sharing your story. Yes, restraint must be a last resort. We learned that early-on thankfully.
I agree with you whole heartedly! Restrain makes our son more angry and irritable so we negotiate with him instead.
Regarding putting in eye drops for anyone, pull out the lower lid by pulling DOWN on the skin under the eye. A little pocket will form and you put the eye drop(s) there. Presto! You could have Braylee practice pulling the skin DOWN under her eye first.
Good vlog, restraining means something is being done TO her - passive methods means B is PART of the process - this leads to the next step of doing it herself. What you're doing is setting B on a path to empowerment 🖖🏻👩🏻🎓
❤❤❤ You guys are spot on.
I agree, David. I don't want extra flavors in my coffee.
If you have to restraint her now, you may have to later. If she never gets used to it... she _will_ grow larger and stronger. If she does gets used to being hold against her will, there is a risk for abuse in the future. Your approach is time consuming, but it makes me realize how much I would have been helped if people would have been more patient with me in the past. Getting my hair cut... going to the dentist.. horror! And then I smile. Your little girl is lucky.
You might try having her hold her head way back or lying on her back. Have her close her eyes. Add the eye drop to the corner of her eye near her nose. Then have her open her eyes. Presto!
And blink blink blink.
Worked great when my kiddos needed eye drops. 😂
You may want to check with your doctor first, but if you have her close her eyes and just put one drop in the inner corner of her eye, than open her eye and the drop will just flow into her eye. I actually do this for myself as I have to use eye drops daily. Perhaps you could even do this with both eyes at the same time. It’s a whole lot easier than having to actually “see” the eye drop coming.
Exactly. And you wanna help show and teach her that doing stuff like eye drops or any kind of stuff like that. Is good and is gunna help. If you make it traumatic for her. She will fight it.
Btw with eye drops. You gotta blink a few times. For it to get into the eye fully. If you wipe your eye right away it doesn’t.
I won’t restrain my son either. I have considered doing saline eye drops once a week or so just to keep him used to doing them though. Both times he has had pink eye, the drops were dreadful for him and having his eyes dilated took a lot of time and patience.
Good video, David. Take good care of braylee
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how is braylee doing on her eyedrops. i been still praying for her just for you guys :)
Yeh restraining not work for all children but some children do actually need too be aswell
Can you show her on a doll to show her? Like if she has to do iv or other medical things.
If you watch the original eyedrop video, Stacey was actually demonstrating on herself. They were doing "my turn, your turn"
I suspect that in the case of an IV or something more serious medical like that, they may opt for sedation, like they have for her dentistry in the past
Restraint not work on me and my older cousin.
I personally think you were being far too diplomatic David lol. IMO, as an autistic adult, restraint is an absolutely last resort measure for utterly essential (possibly life saving) medical situations only. I would even suggest sedation first, if possible. Things like getting an IV placed, getting blood drawn.
The trauma caused to an autistic child (or honestly any child if it's repetitive enough) by being restrained is absolutely real & can't be reversed.