Bachelor Alum Colton Underwood Reveals What Helped Him Realize He Wasn't Gay (Exclusive)
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- čas přidán 30. 03. 2020
- ET’s Lauren Zima exclusively spoke with Colton via video chat, where he reveals he's questioned his sexuality after years of bullying. This is just one revelation from his new book 'The First Time,' which is out now.
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CZcams is so shady for recommending this 😂😆
Just saw the recommendation. Never knew of this interview.😁
💯😂
Yeah and he is such an ass for telling lies to basically everyone! Real men don't lie about their sexuality! I'm gay and we do not approve this message! Jus sayin
Yup, I just watched his interview last week😂
@@harrydelvalle3754 You have no idea what being in a religious, conservative home and background can do to you.
Anyone here after the Robin interview?
Me😂
Me🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️
Yep 😊
Hell yeah
This popped up in my feed as a recommended video.🤣
I know I’m not the only who came here after hearing he came out 😂😂
I’ve been watching other videos about him and this popped up. Crazy that it’s an old video. CZcams knows what you want to watch.
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Bruh I had to look at the date stamp cus I was hella confused
I never heard this interview but I knew he was gay when he was on the Bachelor.
As they say, the truth does eventually come out and it shall set you free. I’m glad he’s come to accept himself.
@@peatier7626 yes,some gays live for awhile in the closet,for their own safety.
This aged like milk. Happy for him though.
Well, this didn't age well 💀
Triston, he evolved
🎭
😭😭😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
He sounds so much more honest, relieved and happy talking about his sexuality now than a year ago
Who else is here after he came out? I guess it's time for him to write a new book.
A new book😂 every time the man comes to a conclusion he should write a book. You're savage😂. He owes us nothing. I love how funny your comment is. We would be great friends if we lived in the same area😂😂😂
He’s making a whole documentary about it lol
@@sheridan7475 I am definitely watching. I hope it helps a lot of people.
@@azikiwesnay7718 it won’t but he will make money so there’s that.
@@Salutations26 is he even gay😒 did he ever even spiritually struggle or mentally. Some people are so desperate for attention they'll resort to homosexuality.
Came here after finding out today he is gay. Good for you now you can live your best life and don’t have to hide
Right, the ones who should be hiding are the guys who can potentially run into his stalker/manipulating ass
@@steffvm Explain
I don’t think he knows what he is
CZcams is shady showing this on my feed after coltons reveal 😂
What straight guy googles am I gay? that's a red flag.
Some people have HOCD (homosexual ocd)
@@brooke4608 Yes! Thank you for mentioning this. As someone with OCD, our disorders rarely get mentioned.
@@brooke4608 Thank you for mentioning this. I have terrible OCD, this is one of my subtypes along with symmetry and harm obsessions. When I was younger, I had contamination worries but thankfully those have gotten better for some reason. As a teen, I started driving later than all of my friends because of OCD. When I did start, if I ever heard a noise or drove over a bump, I would panic that I hit an animal or even a person and I would have to get out of the car every time and check. OCD is exhausting and debilitating.
@@kaylajude8855 what is homo ocd
I’m all for him living his truth but it doesnt take back how bad he was to his ex. This doesn’t erase the stalking and harassment!
agreed!
I feel bad for his future potential partners
as long as he did not harm her physically he should be forgiven for any behavior as a result of lovesickness. he should be forgiven. pay the price, fine. he might have had to do something like community service or something and maybe take a class on privacy or possibly pay a fee to her, and guess what he should be utterly forgiven for that
well... it's not that he was trying to cover it up, he's taking ownership of all the bad things that he did. y'all should guys know that him coming out is not about him trying to erase all of the bad things that he did, but it's him accepting his truth.
@@yourmajesty1630 LMAO why is he entitled to be forgiven?! do you realize what a horrific experience stalking is? go listen to the Strictly Stalking podcast, or go look at the amount of women who are murdered by their partners- or who have PTSD even though they weren’t physically harmed. stalking has been described as “slow homicide”, because it kills your soul.
what a disgusting comment.. “he should be utterly forgiven” LMAO because he’s GAY?
Why is this being discussed? Let the man live whatever way he wants to.
Marvellous Marv Because he talked about questioning his sexuality in his book which he is promoting. Duh.
because he's been bullied about it for so many years.
because he’s promoting his book and mentioned it
It's been discussed because he wanted to hold a interview with Robin Roberts hello
Your statement alone is why the world is soooooo fucked up
Y’all are mean. He’s being vulnerable and talking about something he went through. If Colton says he is straight then let him be. What good does it do by calling someone out of their name?
Its unfortunate people see vulnerability as a weakness to attack, instead of a strength.
@@psychiccrocodile3679 Sorry but, Isn't that the definition of a vulnerability?
@@senselesswtf no, the definition is: the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.
It does not mean weakness at all. It means someone can prey on you. Really, the predators are the weak ones. Projecting their insecurities or using someone to gain something
But he should be called out for lying. Have you ever heard a straight man say that he questioned his sexuality?
@@milhouse14 they will never admit it. Colton had the guts doing it. I know men that also felt maybe they are gay in school because of bullying. If they are not in the in the popular group, are nice to girls and don't like to fight you are easily labeled as gay and bullied.
GUYS I'M SCREAMING
Hahaha same
We all are
Turns out he lies Dicks
Wow, now he finally came out! Good for you, Colton!
Pape Diop. he can no longer live in the rural side .
So was his book an entire lie? I’m so done with the whole Bachelor franchise. He lied to all those women.
This is a fascinating interview to watch in light of Colton's coming out this week...
There's also demi-sexuality, where you don't experience sexual attraction until you find a romantic interest, emotional involvement.
Karen Becker mane gtf💀😂
That's what I was thinking. He seems demisexual to me.
So you mean....women
sue she Yes. He has said he is straight.
I get why you guys think that, but if you go back and look, that's def not the case wut Colton. My evidence is a clip called "Jubilee's arrival in Paradise- Bachelor in Paradise 2018" and just watch Colton
One year later...
“Psyche!! I’m gay!” - Colton
Who cares! Colton is a human being like all of us. Let him be. His thoughts, words, opinions are his truth. He still fine tho
i never watched the show but i don't think i am equipped with a good gay dar. He is very pretty but its like he zero hombre flavor to him. a stocky Mexican will snap this up real quick.
Colton is being honest and upfront with himself👍🏻, a good man. All pp are broken with a past. People grow at different rate. Keep the communication open for a “lifetime” to understand where the other is coming from. Think people argue because of the business of the world and to not stop together to smell the roses. Admit the differences and compare values. If values don’t match, then see if both can compromise or better yet to chose a partner that does have the same values. We tend to want the other to have similar values and try to change another to it which isn’t a good match and will be stressful for the long haul. Looks is superficial and fades; a mistake pp make to fill one’s own insecurities or trying to look good to others. Keep faithful to your Christian values...is super👍🏻.
This is caused by ignorance, miseducation, or brainwashing. Glad he already accepted who he is and hopefully isn't confused anymore.
Who or what do you think brainwashed him?
@@IWantToMature85 religion
@@IWantToMature85 society. He said religion and sports. They told him it was wrong, so he convinced himself he wasn’t, and then he spiralled into insanity.
@@RobAndrews18 religion doesn’t brainwash people. No one is perfect, even religious people sin.
Why is it wrong to think it’s wrong to be gay? The Bible says we are inherently evil, we are all born with disgusting selfish things about us. I was a drug addict for a while, Thankyou Jesus I’m past that. Just because you’re born with gay instincts, doesn’t mean you gotta have gay sex. Go to God about it and figure out what real love is, the creation of life to serve the kingdom. I’m not hating or anything.. I just know how messed up most people are behind closed doors and you certainly can love God and be gay. You just need to let Him guide you on what to do about it just like everyone else who sins
I missed Lauren’s interviews so much, happy to see you back!❤️
this was a year ago.
If you question it ...you usually are
Because he is sharing his thoughts, he is being bullied as an adult. So the bullying continues toward him, note from bullies. It is very common for adolescents to wonder. They just don’t share it on social media.
He wrote a book for money and has to discuss this stuff. Of course people are going to talk about it. He knows that. It is what it is.
ss He is Bi , so what.He is in denial. What he says is double talking🤦🏻♀️He is basically telling us and then takes it back , confused 🤷🏻♀️
By talking openly about this he could help someone whose struggling♥️
I love how CZcams recommended this to all of us now 😂
Thanks Lauren and Colton ❤️. I was a virgin until I got married and honestly LOVE that being part of my husband and my story. 7 years, 3 kids later we are crazy in love and have a beautiful, amazing life, in... all departments ;). It’s not the way everyone does things but many do and it feels good to have it acknowledged as a valid, great way to do relationships, love and marriage. Lots of people all over the world don’t have sex until they’re married, it’s really not that strange :).
Not that he has come out as gay, I think this speaks to how difficult it can be to come to terms with being non-straight. In all the confusion, some people will try so hard to be straight because that is seen as the only option. It fucks with your mind, it really does. I'm happy he made it, good on him!
Lmfao!!!
@@lopear111 What's funny?
He seems like an amazing and intelligent dude. Very handsome too. Hopefully, he recovers quickly from the Coronavirus but regarding his sexuality, I think he seems happy so we should just leave it at that.
Very interesting to watch this now.
This didn't age well.... FYI
Not at all. I’m so confused
Oh how the tables have turned
Colton is such a sweet and genuine guy! I wish him and Cassie the very best!!
Love him so much! I have had a similar journey to his and I completely understand what he has gone through.
I LOVE HIM. I’m sorry he even has to talk about this so publicly but he handles himself like a champ
Colton is such a sweet guy I think all this gay talk has went overboard it needs to stop .Colton has never been gay and he isn't gay now so stop with this nonsense
@@beverlyangermeier8697 He is indeed a sweet guy. He has always been gay and is gay now and I’m so happy for him that he’s found his way to self-acceptance and self-love. And how wonderful that his parents are so supportive of his embrace of his true self.
@@beverlyangermeier8697 looool check again! he’s gay hunny!
@@beverlyangermeier8697 how do you feel now?
@@beverlyangermeier8697 this is why we need to stop assuming things about everyone, we can’t always tell if someone’s gay or not. And we should respect their process.
Who's here after after he came out
Well this aged well... am happy for him though!
OMG, this conversation is wild. I wish he would have elaborated some more cuz I feel soo sad for him. Did he begin to question his sexuality
because of the trauma he endured as a child, when he was bullied? Or did he always know and just would hide it...!!! The struggle was just too much for him and I couldn't imagine the pain.
He knew.
Considering he just came out - I'm actually proud of his journey and happy that he can finally live in his truth. I'm sure that there are other people who have struggled similarly and I hope his journey can inspire them to live their truth as well. It's not easy for everyone, but it's beautiful that he got there eventually.
He staIked and harassed Cassie but gets a pass coz he’s into men.
And now we’re here...
So glad he is able to be himself. This public example is gracious of him - it will help lots of others living in similar shoes.
He is s GREAT guy and his girlfriend is super awesome too! I have so much respect for them both!!!
now that he has come clean. looking back it kinda makes sense when he said googling for answers etc. I guess he stalked Cassie to hold onto the one thing that he thought could make him look straight. He chose Cassie coz she wasn't into him and he knew that. I thought that it was just a typical man wanting what he can't have. But Cassie and him never had a connection and there was never a moment that they were truly focusing on themselves. He dismissed Hannah B, Hannah G and Tayshia without listening to reason.
I think it was pretty obvious he was gay . I always thought he was struggling with it . Glad he can be himself finally.
We’ve come full circle
I’m praying for you Colton. I think that God will put you on the path you need to be on. I really happy you’re getting better.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗😷😷😷🤟🤟🤟🤟🤟🤟🤟🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕💕💕
Bravo Colton! I know exactly how you feel man. I've been there, and I've grown up in a religious home as well. You're so brave buddy San Jose
Ummmm if you aren’t attracted to men your not gay... why is this even an issue. One has nothing to do with the other. But hey live your life bruh more power to you.
so he clearly is attracted to men. lol
Robert Paul Champagne No? He literally said in the video that he's straight. As a teen he didn't understand why he didn't want to have sex so he thought it was because he's gay - which he later figured out didn't have anything to do with that.
he only brought this up because people literally think he's gay just cuz he's a virgin.
You already knew why it was an issue.
I am really happy for him. And I hope I come out like he did. ❤️
Scotty, wish u all the best . Choose the best time for yourself.
Lauren is an amazing interviewer!
I think we might need an update to this interview
Straight people don't question their sexuality. He'll come out later in life.
Like clock work
Yes
Chiiiiilllleeeee
Welp!
Wow 😨
I LOVE that he is opening up about this. So many people struggle with their sexuality and don't talk about it. I firmly believe sexuality is on a spectrum - he can be into both yet not be interested in men now because he has Cassie
Yes! Most guys don't open up like this so its great for him to be so open
Victoria Shore
He’s not into both.
I think when there is a lot of people calling you gay, and when you aren't meeting an extreme gender stereotype, you can turn on yourself and start questioning your own sense of truth about your sexuality. It can cause a person to question well into adulthood.
They were calling him gay and it turns out they were right. He was lieing to himself his whole life and suppressing his sexuality. I've been there, and I can say it's so much better to stop lieing and start living
@@hagencarter8834 He said he knew since 9th grade. :| He was living in West Hollywood. the only ones being lied to were us and his girlfriends.
I feel like he basically told us he was gay in this interview.
I lowkey think this guy is so confused, and it's making me sad. Like, it seems like he's been told his whole life that he's "soo good-looking, and has those blue eyes and blonde hair and is big and muscular" and "so for him to be a professional football player and NOT have already had sex with plenty of ladies, MUST make him gay". That, combined with the fact that he was bullied in high-school, and that he had a very Christian upbringing in which certain topics were taboo and he COULDN'T talk to his family openly about insecurities, led to him having a serious lack of confidence
Myself : *sees bachelor alum Colton Underwood...
Myself: *reads full title
Myself: *high-pitched* Whattttttttttttttttt.
Off to watch now😂
Edit: Ok. Good vid 👏🏾👏🏾
And he came out today. Good for him. The only people that will care that he’s gay and judge him are religious people. The judgement and disrespect my gay friends and I have faced for being gay, has only come from religious people. The nicest, most loving people in the world to us are not religious. Oh, the irony.
Wish you the best, Colton.
I'm gay and I'm not usually judged by other Christians, but then I don't go to church. You're stereotyping Christians.
@Travis Phillips I’m praying for your soul which is filled with hatred.
So why did he jump a fence for cassie?
And he said that the show confirmed that he was straight. Something is fishy here
Not all religious people are against gays. You are being ignorant.
Well look how the table has turned
The skepticism in Lauren’s voice when he said he didn’t realize until now that he wasn’t gay lol
damn, this hits different
Nathalie, you like ?
I'm glad you came out. Now you can live a happy life. Don't be ashamed of Who You Are. And keep your morals. Still look for love. Not cheap meaningless sex. Sending prayers your way.
Oh honey, hes been looking for cheap meaningless sex, just lying about it. Its cute you believed that though.
You tube is shady for leading me here😂😂😂😂
Maybe he is just demi, and on the asexual spectrum. Sex isnt as essential as people try to make it seem like especially for men. Good on him for being true to himself and not forcing himself to fit in. Pretty sure he couldve easily done the deed with a woman even if he was gay to get out of the stigma but he stayed true to what he wanted for himself.
Yeah, I was going to say he definitely sounds a lot like asexual friends before they knew what asexuality really is (like yes you can still want to makeout with someone or have a physical relationship, etc). It's also very possible that he's demisexual/bisexual with all of the questioning. Who knows? It's cool that he's chatting about it, but his conclusions I guess are none of our business or concern unless he wants to publicly talk about it. I just hope he's explored or does explore what asexuality really is and looks like.
I was thinking the same as I'm learning about it recently.
Oh man. Signs were always there he just couldn't handle it. I always thought he was gay from his first season on tv. Glad he has found himself tho
You know what? Good for Colton!!!! He came to his own truth on his own time!
this is a bruh moment.
On another note, it’s pretty ridiculous that the media treats a “virgin” like a unicorn. Heaven forbid someone chooses to keep their virginity intact for whatever reason it may be. It’s rather asinine imo
He literally says he's gay like 50 times in this video
He really said a year ago the show made him realize he is straight.
Also Coming-out and presenting a Netflix Show about this one day later. This is so weird.
Its because he was having an internal struggle with accepting himself. He was trying to be straight and he used the show as a way to convince himself that he could be.
I think he may actually be bisexual. He said he felt in love with Cassie. Also stated he is not emotionally attracted to men. So maybe he is only sexually attracted to men and emotionally attracted to women. He’s never had sex with a woman. Maybe if he tries it once he may then change his mind and think he is bisexual. Only time will tell.
💓U Colton So Happy Your Feeling Better
colton is great. he deserves to be happy.
This is called soft disclosure.
It's so funny, it feels like people are pushing for Colton to say he's gay, is it that hard to believe that he's straight, lol. It seems like he's at peace with himself, good for him..
The only thing that's straight about Colton is that he's straight up lying because he's gay as parade....
What makes you so sure that he's gay, what are you basing that on
Yes, it's hard to believe that Colton is straight because no straight man questions or questioned his sexuality ever.
Milhouse well that’s not true
@@milhouse14 He just wasn't feeling sexual attraction to people. Geez
How the tables have turned...
He just came out and so what......century 21 and we still get so shock for things like these
His book should be called "Love, Colton"
Why do people act like they didn’t know what gender you were attracted until you had sex
For him it's because he was a professional football player and was often called "gay" because was open with people about saving himself, and wouldn't engage in certain demeaning conversations about women... and people seem to have an extremely hard time wrapping their mind around the fact that he, as a blonde haired, blue-eyed, big, muscular guy in the NFL, can be a virgin, so they resort to assuming he's gay. And that combined with the way he was bullied a ton when he was younger, and the way that he was raised in a conservative, Christian home where many things were taboo and they didn't have discussions, allowed him to now, in his 20's, let everything get to him and start asking himself "Wait, everyone has been saying it, and I don't have anyone to talk to this about,... Am I gay?"
@@kparker905 lol tho
@psychic crocodile What?
@@kparker905 hes come out as gay
He might be on the asexual spectrum tho
You people just can't stand the fact that Colton is straight ( well not all of you just some of you)
@@beverlyangermeier8697 You can be on the ace spectrum and straight
That would explain a lot
@@beverlyangermeier8697 this didn't age well lol
@@beverlyangermeier8697 about that...
CZcams really recommend it after his coming out video 😭🤣
The way he treated cassie, not right...wish you all the best....
I know he says he didn’t “act on it.” But i wonder if he ever had romantic attraction to men.
Jazzy Cakeup he literally is saying he is not
Sarina Gatjikjan he literally did not. He says he knows he’s straight now, but sexuality is a spectrum let’s be real. And you can have sexual feelings for a certain sex and not have romantic attraction. And Vice Versa tbh.
Yeah, I mean it's possible hes still slightly confused, but it doesnt matter to him now cuz cassie is all he wants. He probably just falls in love with the person, and hadn't found that until her. I'm also just pondering, cuz his answer was open to interpretation
Super Thuggin Agreed! I have no doubts he loves Cassie💕
@@darcyhopkins9055 LOL. Right?
Can someone explain why there is annoying background music?
Yep. Knew it from Becca's season.
Really!?!? How ? He was tears all the time. He even dated the Tia for a while before the bachelorette , thinking it would be her. Dated an athelete ,even said her sexual abuse story was a reason why he couldn't get to the point of having sex with her.etc etc.
How? I never seen it at all. Ofcourse i never do much. But him i never guessed. I was waiting this whole time for him to announce he found someone else, definitely not this. I was shocked for days!
I sharpened my gaydar to watch this and i can tell by his voice he is lying 😭💀
I'm gay and I knew his ass was gay by the way he spoke about the NFL locker room issues and him being ... whatever that story was most likely a lie also. Honestly he gives gay men a bad name! Real men don't lie about their sexuality, especially when it has already been put on the table ... and he just lied and lied to all those women. I cannot remember the last time I was this upset with a male hurting a woman with lies about being gay .. okay, Bruce Jenner should have said something. SMFH
Next year: Hi everyone, I’m Colton Underwood, and I’m Bisexual!
he only recently learned that gay people can be fathers. so learning that you can love/be attracted to more than one gender could just as easily be unknown to him. if he actually loved & was attracted to cassie like he still claims, then technically, he is bi.
I think your right. He has no intention of finding a guy, getting married, and becoming a father. He might go through the motions. Maybe a gay bachelor type show. But that will be unsuccessful. He will just say I explored that side of myself and then have another epiphany.
Don't tell me you came because of the Robin Interview.
So now we know that he knew that he was gay but still had to hide the fact during this interview.
shady youtube algorithms. Good for him!! He is definitely more attractive to me now that he is getting real.
* This is confusing to me. Could this all be done, for fame or not? … Just last year, Colton stated that the three shows the bachelor franchise gave him, helped him realize he was straight; not gay... Now, one year later, he says he’s gay…Could he possibly be confused, or does he really know this time?
I can’t imagine anyone coming out for fame, as I understand it is often very difficult. You pose great thoughts and questions. I would think he would likely be gay, as he finally let himself accept that part of himself. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for reading mine.
@@LisaLGruman ~ You are welcome & thank you for sharing your thoughts, as well...Hope he's not struggling anymore... Two thirds of the bachelor/bachelorette shows end in engagements. Of the bachelor proposals, 11% get marriage while 30% of the bachelorette proposals lead to marriage...Some engagements last the 2 years, just to keep the ring; then they break up... Many will do whatever, just to get that 15 min. of fame, hoping it will lead to big success...It sometimes does. :-)
@@karibu1361 Interesting information. And, you’re right, some of them end up finding fame. Take care.
@@LisaLGruman Are you kidding? He only came out because he realized this was the only way he could clean his face. After restarting, he had no carrier. He came out and became popular again and sold his story to netflix, He's all about fame and money
@@faezehanisinia8685 I read somewhere that information about Colton’s being at a spa frequented by gay people was about to come out and he wanted to get ahead of the story. Regardless, I’m glad he felt relieved to have publicly come out.
CZcams the shadeeee
Questo programma è come un film .era elegante ma il suo cuore a preso il sopravvento. Viva la serenità interiore l'anima in pace.
Ciao Colton..Love 😉😉
I thought this was going to be an interview about his coronavirus diagnosis BUUUT NOOOOOOOO, IT IS SO MUCH MORE IMPORTANT TO TALK ABOUT HIS SEXUALITY
Constanza Garrido He did an interview for Good Morning America about his coronavirus diagnosis.
Hes literally promoting his book and he discusses these themes in his book CHILL
Cory Schmidt when your on your phone it only gives half the title, so for me it said “ Bachelor alum Colton Underwood reveals what....” under the thumbnail. Since it’s public knowledge that he has COVID-19, that’s what she thought it was about. No one could have guess this was the title.
He wrote about his sexuality on his book which he is promoting. Duh
I realized I was gay after I said oh shit that guy is hot to Chris Evan in Fantastic 4.
I've been gay my whole life because of him🤣
Me too
Bruh CZcams is messy! 😁😁😁
Colton: Hey google am I gay?
Google: Eh...are you serious right now? Girl get outta my face! Lol
Wow this was just one year ago
So he's still a virgin???
So wait he didn't have sex with Cassie? Really? I find that hard to believe. They seem like they have an odd relationship anyway like almost a brother sister thing. Just an observation.
kermitcyeh I think he’s running with the old virgin narrative for the interview and in the book. But he said at ATFR, that he wasn’t going to answer if he was or wasn’t a virgin anymore because Cassie was in the mix now and out of respect to her, he would not answer. I don’t think he’s still a virgin.
They live together, don't they? I'd be shocked if they haven't had sex
@@humankaleidoscope4989 , no they don't she has an apartment and he a home, but unless they recently moved in together but her family would not approve of them living together....
@@bluerivers5053 , correct, because her parents would not approve of them having sex and broadcasting it....
That would be a red flag for Cassie. She would not bother if she thought he wasn’t attracted to her.
CZcams is so shady for recommending this video! Lol
He wasn't ready to embrace his TRUE IDENTITY during this time