I had a great night time sleeper until 19 months. We had a routine and he slept all night and would wake around 5:30/6 every morning. He started waking at 3am for the day and not going back down. 2 months in, we decided to transition him to a toddler bed so we could have the crib for baby 2. Just like the video said, 3-4 weeks in we were stoked at how easy it was. Now at week 5/6 he won’t stay in it and yells for Mommy until we come in. We started to soothe him by rubbing his back and he fell asleep. This is something we NEVER did with sleep training. It’s like they start talking to you and you cave! Back rubs turned into him waking every time we moved and we couldn’t leave until he was in deep sleep. I’m 8 months pregnant and getting off the floor is hard enough but having my legs and arms go to sleep and trying to tip toe out is ridiculous. I put my foot down! He knows exactly what he is doing! I found this video THANK GOD and by the first try of locking (holding the door shut and explaining) i saw on the monitor that he ran back to his bed, had a tantrum and cried himself to sleep! It took under 2 minutes and now we are enjoying our evening again!! Thank god I found this before the baby comes in 7 weeks!!
Some of you guys need to toughen up, that’s why these kids get away with so much. Consequences are a natural thing and stop making everyone else parent your kids when they grow up just because you want to stay the softy/good guy. This works btw.
The mother is the comforter, the father is the disciplinarian. Sucks for us fathers. Because we have to take the blunt of it, and be the bad guy, but you know what? That’s ok. It’s ok with me. I’m looking around, because we have our 7 year old who super hard to deal with at night. Our five year old on the other hand is quite the opposite. I’m military and have had the wonderful opportunity to be there most of her life. My 7 year old I was gone for quite awhile, being deployed, her mama did what worked for her. Really screwed things up. However, I do not blame her. Anyway... everyone has different circumstances that led to what they are now dealing with.
@@zach3699 thank you and don't worry, I mostly understood that you are frustrated with both, the bad sleeping, plus having to establish rules when you want to have positive quality time with your little ones, as well. Which is the reason why hubby chose that path, after finally having more time. Now we've got to rectify that, as no one is happy with the situation any longer. Friends & family keep saying it's only a phase. Hope that's true, but it keeps going. Has the sleeping situation improved for you?
@@janego2018 thank you for the understanding. So this is what we did to improve the situation. It worked. So I told both my girls.. 5 and 7, that our bedroom door would be locked, and that when they knock, I’ll get up and put em back in bed, OR they can sleep on the couch in the living room, and I won’t take em back to bed. NOW... the first week or so was rough, but they got it. We finally started to wake up, and they’d be asleep on the couch. We finally started getting a full nights sleep, without two children on top of us! Which really saves our backs, we were waking up tired, and sore with both of them squeezing in bed with us. So what’s happening now is they finally are understanding they are sisters, and if they wake up, they have each other, so literally the last two nights, we’ve woke up in the morning to get them ready for school, and we find them sleeping together in one of their own beds!
Love to hear anyone with success with this. We tried it for 2 nights and it was a complete failure. Our 2 year old seemed absolutely fearful, panicked and hysterical. I just couldnt do it for long. Like I told my wife: "if you knew people were watching us do this, would you feel good about it?" That's all it took.
This worked for us. I still have to do it every night a couple times, but our toddler went from 3 plus hour bedtime struggles to fairly quick bedtime. She likes the door open, so having to shut is a consequence for her. And honestly to anyone who thinks it’s a harsh thing, shutting a door is an actual big deal. It just feels like it to them. My daughter was much worse off not sleeping than crying for two minutes a night. She was sleeping trained at 8 weeks through Dana’s infant methods and it was a glorious three years until she switched to a bed! So I whipped out the book and this worked too. Now I just need her to stay in bed all night, because 1am visits e her newest thing!
Thank you for this tip i didn't get the honeymoon period. On Saturday we were up til nearly midnight. So last night I used this and it took 5 times for her to realise that it was bedtime. Thank you so much
I remember my mother doing this to me when I was around 4 or 5 years old because she wanted me to sleep on my own. I remember after maybe 3 days or so, I stayed in my bed feeling scared and lonely. I knew from then on I couldn't count on my mother to save me if something were to stress me out. Maybe this approach will work for some children but I am certain that others will be traumatized by it.
We tried this with our daughter she freaked ! She trashed her room tipping over a cart in her room banging on door . She was so freaked out she was shaking. I felt so bad. Not sure if I will continue this.
Hi Dana my name is angel and I have a problem at night get my child to go back to his bed after coming back from his dads cuz he sleeps in his dads bed on the weekends that is. has him. It constant fight every night back and forth to get him to stay in his own bed what should I do?
Great advice! My daughter is going into her big girl bed for the first time tonight and will definitely try this. I feel it will work except that she will probably like me closing the door haha if so I'll remove her blanky. Will let you know how it goes!
Why do mothers get offense but request help? Listen, if you don’t discipline your children the world will and that will hurt more than taking the favorite blanket away. Perspective! My children have rules and play time... trust yourself to get the job done NOTHING will come easy.. being a mother is the hardest job to do...best luck to everyone , I truly wish you all patience and information to guide your kiddos tot he best path you can..... after all that all we can do. Guide them and have faith they will one day remember all mommy and daddy said...
Toddlers need love and security first. Bedtime alone is scary,its not about a child being bad and needing discipline. The child needs security. I always sang to mine until they fell asleep.
Hello Dana , I love the idea .. I've been looking all over the internet for a way to keep my 2 year old in bed after she finally discovered how to climb out of her crib and this is the only one that actually made sense and I believe it should work as I sleep trained her when she was an infant where I used to put her in bed and leave the room and she would sleep on her own .. But not anymore .. Now with the toddle bed she wants me to stay with her , read stories and pat her in the dark until shes out .. My question is.. My daughter sleeps in the dark.. Not even a light from out side should be on .. Do you think i should keep a night light in her room when I try the locking the door method?
My problem is that shel do it at 5am and she loses her sleepy ness then it gets to 6 & 7am and there’s no point, plus my 7yo then has to get ready for school, think she needs to nap less and less gradually to no naps
Thank u I'm gonna try this. My daughter's been in her own room now for 2 weeks but I've been sleeping in there with her. We've come a long way she use to co sleep with us.
I'm having trouble. My son stays in his bed and he goes to sleep in his bed but a few hours after he wakes up and try to come in our bed. we tell him lay down go to sleep. Then when we are asleep he ends up in our bed. I really want him in his bed all night and until he gets up in the morning hope you can help.
My 3 year old climbs out at 3 am, so I can’t really stand there and wait to lock the door. I’m so exhausted, she’s been doing it for a month every night, waking me up at least twice. :(
legushonok1 eto nam ochen pomoglo! Check out all the comments too for more tips from other parents.The trick is to be consistent no matter how tired you are. If you give in once, you go back to where you started. Good luck!!! www.babycenter.com/0_dealing-with-late-night-visits-from-your-child_64933.bc
Hi Dana, are you "locking" the door every other time? Am I waiting for 1 min then opening the door, putting her in bed, expressing the warning again then leaving the door cracked for a repeat offence? Or am I putting her back and always doing the lock thing until she just stops coming to the door?
Totally disagree with the advice. When I was a child and would have bad dreams sometimes it was comforting to know that I could always go to my parents room to calm down. Instead this advice from the “sleep sense” lady is basically causing a child to be fearful to leave their room. This advice is cruel and short-sighted which will probably lead to negative issues in the future for the child. I’m glad my parents didn’t do this and my wife and I will never do this either. It takes a little while for my child to get to sleep and he comes into our room sometimes during the night but it’s ok and we manage without traumatizing him. For any parents reading this, don’t take this lady’s bad advice for the sake of your child!
Norman Coyle, I doubt a toddler is having nightmares unless they’ve been watching rated r tv or been abused. My child is almost 2 yo and I would say this method works but the consequence doesn’t have to be close the door. I take away my child’s favorite pillow and if she wants it back she knows not to get out her bed and I’ll bring it back. But I see why you suggest not to close the door, I suffered from nightmares about demons learned from Sunday Church but I was much older and able to communicate what my nightmare was instead.
My child sleeps with a baby gate. Lots of kids are not allowed to leave their rooms until mom gets up. As a new mother you sleep with one eye open so I listen out for her and always wake up when she calls in the middle of the night.
I tried this lol doesn’t work let’s just say that I didn’t get to get to bed till 5 am and bed times @ 830 he was scared I left him and wouldn’t stay in bed unless I was in his bed hugging him
Ashley Nicole, the “close the door” consequence didn’t work for me. What did was taking away my child’s favorite pillow, it’s has Peppa Pig on it, and she did NOT like it at first but she understood the consequence. I would only give it back if she was IN the bed. Now she smiles when she gets it back, like it’s a reward. I guess you have to tailor it to fit your child.
That's just it. My 2 year old is savvy as all get out, but not sure he understands "I'm locking your door now". I get that he will get the idea that he cant get out, but not sure he is putting this concept together. Rather, he is probably initially in shock, which leads to fear. I think this method may work for some toddlers, but with mine, it feels like I am creating fear (and potentially instilling a phobia), rather than teaching consequence.
A toddler doesn't understand consequences. This comes around 2/ 2.5 in kids development. Toddler stage starts at 12m or early (as soon as they walk). So much rubbish
OMG! We have been dealing with this issue for 8 months, and this worked after the third try!! TY!!!!!
I had a great night time sleeper until 19 months. We had a routine and he slept all night and would wake around 5:30/6 every morning. He started waking at 3am for the day and not going back down. 2 months in, we decided to transition him to a toddler bed so we could have the crib for baby 2. Just like the video said, 3-4 weeks in we were stoked at how easy it was. Now at week 5/6 he won’t stay in it and yells for Mommy until we come in. We started to soothe him by rubbing his back and he fell asleep. This is something we NEVER did with sleep training. It’s like they start talking to you and you cave! Back rubs turned into him waking every time we moved and we couldn’t leave until he was in deep sleep. I’m 8 months pregnant and getting off the floor is hard enough but having my legs and arms go to sleep and trying to tip toe out is ridiculous. I put my foot down! He knows exactly what he is doing! I found this video THANK GOD and by the first try of locking (holding the door shut and explaining) i saw on the monitor that he ran back to his bed, had a tantrum and cried himself to sleep! It took under 2 minutes and now we are enjoying our evening again!! Thank god I found this before the baby comes in 7 weeks!!
Some of you guys need to toughen up, that’s why these kids get away with so much. Consequences are a natural thing and stop making everyone else parent your kids when they grow up just because you want to stay the softy/good guy. This works btw.
The mother is the comforter, the father is the disciplinarian. Sucks for us fathers. Because we have to take the blunt of it, and be the bad guy, but you know what? That’s ok. It’s ok with me. I’m looking around, because we have our 7 year old who super hard to deal with at night. Our five year old on the other hand is quite the opposite. I’m military and have had the wonderful opportunity to be there most of her life. My 7 year old I was gone for quite awhile, being deployed, her mama did what worked for her. Really screwed things up. However, I do not blame her. Anyway... everyone has different circumstances that led to what they are now dealing with.
@@zach3699 with my husband and me, it's vice versa. I'm bad cop and he's in, cuddling with her, as I write.
@@janego2018 I apologize. Reading my statement back I completely just grouped/stereotyped roles. I apologize for that. Really!
@@zach3699 thank you and don't worry, I mostly understood that you are frustrated with both, the bad sleeping, plus having to establish rules when you want to have positive quality time with your little ones, as well. Which is the reason why hubby chose that path, after finally having more time. Now we've got to rectify that, as no one is happy with the situation any longer. Friends & family keep saying it's only a phase. Hope that's true, but it keeps going. Has the sleeping situation improved for you?
@@janego2018 thank you for the understanding. So this is what we did to improve the situation. It worked. So I told both my girls.. 5 and 7, that our bedroom door would be locked, and that when they knock, I’ll get up and put em back in bed, OR they can sleep on the couch in the living room, and I won’t take em back to bed. NOW... the first week or so was rough, but they got it. We finally started to wake up, and they’d be asleep on the couch. We finally started getting a full nights sleep, without two children on top of us! Which really saves our backs, we were waking up tired, and sore with both of them squeezing in bed with us. So what’s happening now is they finally are understanding they are sisters, and if they wake up, they have each other, so literally the last two nights, we’ve woke up in the morning to get them ready for school, and we find them sleeping together in one of their own beds!
this is true I did it to my 2yr old son and it's work
you must do firmly with consistent voice without anger
Thank you I wasn't sure if this would work for my 2 years old boy! He discovered that he can climb out from the cot lol
Whoa! This worked tonight after only one time!! I feel like there is peace in my house tonight that hasn't been there for several months!! Thank you!!
My 2 year old won’t come out of his room he just gets out of bed and plays with toys. Doesn’t even cry. Jut doesn’t listen.
Love to hear anyone with success with this. We tried it for 2 nights and it was a complete failure. Our 2 year old seemed absolutely fearful, panicked and hysterical. I just couldnt do it for long. Like I told my wife: "if you knew people were watching us do this, would you feel good about it?" That's all it took.
This worked for us. I still have to do it every night a couple times, but our toddler went from 3 plus hour bedtime struggles to fairly quick bedtime. She likes the door open, so having to shut is a consequence for her. And honestly to anyone who thinks it’s a harsh thing, shutting a door is an actual big deal. It just feels like it to them. My daughter was much worse off not sleeping than crying for two minutes a night.
She was sleeping trained at 8 weeks through Dana’s infant methods and it was a glorious three years until she switched to a bed! So I whipped out the book and this worked too. Now I just need her to stay in bed all night, because 1am visits e her newest thing!
Thank you for this tip i didn't get the honeymoon period. On Saturday we were up til nearly midnight. So last night I used this and it took 5 times for her to realise that it was bedtime. Thank you so much
I remember my mother doing this to me when I was around 4 or 5 years old because she wanted me to sleep on my own. I remember after maybe 3 days or so, I stayed in my bed feeling scared and lonely. I knew from then on I couldn't count on my mother to save me if something were to stress me out.
Maybe this approach will work for some children but I am certain that others will be traumatized by it.
We tried this with our daughter she freaked ! She trashed her room tipping over a cart in her room banging on door . She was so freaked out she was shaking. I felt so bad. Not sure if I will continue this.
My daughter did too. Books everywhere
Hi Dana my name is angel and I have a problem at night get my child to go back to his bed after coming back from his dads cuz he sleeps in his dads bed on the weekends that is. has him. It constant fight every night back and forth to get him to stay in his own bed what should I do?
Call caesar milan, follow thru is important.
Great advice! My daughter is going into her big girl bed for the first time tonight and will definitely try this. I feel it will work except that she will probably like me closing the door haha if so I'll remove her blanky. Will let you know how it goes!
How does this work if you share and room and toddler doesnt have a lovie?
What if your two year old sleeps in your room?
But what is she keeps crying after you open the door.
Dude this worked like a damn charm thank you 🙏😁😁😁😁
Why do mothers get offense but request help? Listen, if you don’t discipline your children the world will and that will hurt more than taking the favorite blanket away. Perspective! My children have rules and play time... trust yourself to get the job done NOTHING will come easy.. being a mother is the hardest job to do...best luck to everyone , I truly wish you all patience and information to guide your kiddos tot he best path you can..... after all that all we can do. Guide them and have faith they will one day remember all mommy and daddy said...
Darlenne discipline and mental abuse are two different things
Toddlers need love and security first.
Bedtime alone is scary,its not about a child being bad and needing discipline.
The child needs security.
I always sang to mine until they fell asleep.
5:28 You mean take away Mr. Sheep?! That's outrageous! I'm a parent not a monster! :-) ,
Arthur Hakhverdian she is a monster. This will damage kids locking them in their room.
Hello Dana , I love the idea .. I've been looking all over the internet for a way to keep my 2 year old in bed after she finally discovered how to climb out of her crib and this is the only one that actually made sense and I believe it should work as I sleep trained her when she was an infant where I used to put her in bed and leave the room and she would sleep on her own .. But not anymore .. Now with the toddle bed she wants me to stay with her , read stories and pat her in the dark until shes out .. My question is.. My daughter sleeps in the dark.. Not even a light from out side should be on .. Do you think i should keep a night light in her room when I try the locking the door method?
Do you lock the door with the lights off?
That's a good tip I'm gonna try it even tho she will act crazy
My problem is that shel do it at 5am and she loses her sleepy ness then it gets to 6 & 7am and there’s no point, plus my 7yo then has to get ready for school, think she needs to nap less and less gradually to no naps
Any advice dealing with different bedtime schedules
Thank u I'm gonna try this. My daughter's been in her own room now for 2 weeks but I've been sleeping in there with her. We've come a long way she use to co sleep with us.
I am very surprised these videos don't have millions of views.
I'm trying to find a video hope I find one
I'm having trouble. My son stays in his bed and he goes to sleep in his bed but a few hours after he wakes up and try to come in our bed. we tell him lay down go to sleep. Then when we are asleep he ends up in our bed. I really want him in his bed all night and until he gets up in the morning hope you can help.
My 3 year old climbs out at 3 am, so I can’t really stand there and wait to lock the door. I’m so exhausted, she’s been doing it for a month every night, waking me up at least twice. :(
legushonok1 eto nam ochen pomoglo! Check out all the comments too for more tips from other parents.The trick is to be consistent no matter how tired you are. If you give in once, you go back to where you started. Good luck!!! www.babycenter.com/0_dealing-with-late-night-visits-from-your-child_64933.bc
Baby gate
Hi Dana, are you "locking" the door every other time? Am I waiting for 1 min then opening the door, putting her in bed, expressing the warning again then leaving the door cracked for a repeat offence? Or am I putting her back and always doing the lock thing until she just stops coming to the door?
What if your child doesn't have a door?
Can I do this in the day time. My child bugs me every 1-5 min I’m going stir crazy 😜 help
I just did that and worked! lol.
Totally disagree with the advice. When I was a child and would have bad dreams sometimes it was comforting to know that I could always go to my parents room to calm down. Instead this advice from the “sleep sense” lady is basically causing a child to be fearful to leave their room. This advice is cruel and short-sighted which will probably lead to negative issues in the future for the child. I’m glad my parents didn’t do this and my wife and I will never do this either. It takes a little while for my child to get to sleep and he comes into our room sometimes during the night but it’s ok and we manage without traumatizing him. For any parents reading this, don’t take this lady’s bad advice for the sake of your child!
Norman Coyle, I doubt a toddler is having nightmares unless they’ve been watching rated r tv or been abused. My child is almost 2 yo and I would say this method works but the consequence doesn’t have to be close the door. I take away my child’s favorite pillow and if she wants it back she knows not to get out her bed and I’ll bring it back. But I see why you suggest not to close the door, I suffered from nightmares about demons learned from Sunday Church but I was much older and able to communicate what my nightmare was instead.
My child sleeps with a baby gate. Lots of kids are not allowed to leave their rooms until mom gets up. As a new mother you sleep with one eye open so I listen out for her and always wake up when she calls in the middle of the night.
@@Revealthereal_ I had terrible dreams and crawled in bed with my sister because my mothers bedroom was downstairs.
I agree. As a child who had nightmares.
I tried this lol doesn’t work let’s just say that I didn’t get to get to bed till 5 am and bed times @ 830 he was scared I left him and wouldn’t stay in bed unless I was in his bed hugging him
Ashley Nicole, the “close the door” consequence didn’t work for me. What did was taking away my child’s favorite pillow, it’s has Peppa Pig on it, and she did NOT like it at first but she understood the consequence. I would only give it back if she was IN the bed. Now she smiles when she gets it back, like it’s a reward. I guess you have to tailor it to fit your child.
Subscribed to your videos!
My toddler doesnt understand the concept of locked door so for him this negotiation doesnt work.
My toddler cries and hit his head on the floor... in literally 1m of me out of his room :(
That's just it. My 2 year old is savvy as all get out, but not sure he understands "I'm locking your door now". I get that he will get the idea that he cant get out, but not sure he is putting this concept together. Rather, he is probably initially in shock, which leads to fear. I think this method may work for some toddlers, but with mine, it feels like I am creating fear (and potentially instilling a phobia), rather than teaching consequence.
Should you allow your toddler to get out of bed if they need to use the bathroom? Also, I think that locking the door is abuse to a toddler.
I was really down with this video but c'mon... taking away the lovie is just cruel.
my problem is with my 6yr old will only sleep in her bed 60%
My problem is I dont want him getting upset an pitching a fit when his sister is already asleep and he can wake her up. So this isn't a good option.
A toddler doesn't understand consequences. This comes around 2/ 2.5 in kids development. Toddler stage starts at 12m or early (as soon as they walk). So much rubbish
A 12 month old is definitely NOT a toddler. That is still a baby. Toddler starts at 2 years of age aka 24 mos
My husband won't let me do that otherwise our son would have been staying in his room a year ago.
He has two doors 🤦🏻♀️😆
This WILL DEFINITELY CAUSE PTSD!!! Your Pschopathic strategy borders on ABUSE!!! Guaranteed ANXIETY, CLAUSTROPHOBIA AND MORE FEAR OF GOING TO BED!!!
Try 3 days lol
Nope this is cruel.