Don’t Get Into Another Relationship Before You WATCH THIS (Matthew Hussey)

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  • @EileenSloane
    @EileenSloane Před 3 lety +1388

    "You don't need to be happy before you find another relationship" Matthew coming at us with the controversial opinions, but I'm glad someone said it! If you wait until you're 100% happy and whole before you get into a relationship, you'll wait forever.
    Happy enough is good enough ❤.

    • @mette1983
      @mette1983 Před 3 lety +7

      Agreed!!

    • @teenash6823
      @teenash6823 Před 3 lety +3

      Makes Sense..

    • @HouseMDaddict
      @HouseMDaddict Před 3 lety +31

      Well, it's not really controversial, but you really should be able to handle your own stuff before getting into a relationship. No one should depend on someone else to fix their problems or be burdened with other people's problems. That breeds resentment in the relationship. Same with if someone is only looking to a relationship for happiness and can't create their own happiness, that's a lot of demand from the partner to be that person's only source of happiness or entertainment.

    • @EileenSloane
      @EileenSloane Před 3 lety +33

      @@HouseMDaddict absolutely nobody said anything about it being okay to bring emotional baggage into a relationship and making it your partners responsibility. Obviously that's not the case. Matt just said that you don't need to be blissfully happy to be in a relationship, which is true. Even the most well put together people have their minor flaws or their bad days, that doesn't mean they're not ready, or unworthy of a relationship.

    • @Anniloves21
      @Anniloves21 Před 3 lety +3

      This has been very hard for me. Thanks Matt!

  • @calliecutsinger8812
    @calliecutsinger8812 Před 3 lety +1359

    I just lost my job and my relationship within 48 hours. I am currently on this journey for myself. I'm about to take a 3 month road trip by myself to prove that I am the person I want to be. I love your advice. Thank you so much!!!

    • @VaneRamirez90
      @VaneRamirez90 Před 3 lety +36

      Everything is going to be alright. This will only make you much stronger 🤗

    • @stacibee224
      @stacibee224 Před 3 lety +38

      You will get through this. A road trip is a fantastic idea!! I admire that so much. This is just the end of one chapter and beginning of a new one full of endless possibilities and opportunities. There’s a beautiful life ahead of you. You got this. Safe travels on this next adventure! God bless!

    • @pink_stain
      @pink_stain Před 3 lety +24

      Rejection is redirection.. Hope you get through this and feel better after your trip

    • @abcxyz820
      @abcxyz820 Před 3 lety +7

      Sadness to Happiness feeling, only takes an afternoon. Ride it out 💪. The sun will shine again tomorrow.

    • @jessicaw9011
      @jessicaw9011 Před 3 lety +4

      So I love this idea and good luck to you, but-- how are you going to afford a road trip if you just lost your job?

  • @jenwinchester1941
    @jenwinchester1941 Před 3 lety +677

    Somebody once said: "I know what I can bring to the table that's why im not scared to eat alone". (And especially with the table you pictured, strong and sturdy legs!😀)

  • @selynasteriska
    @selynasteriska Před 3 lety +796

    "You should be happy before you meet someone" and this advice usually comes from someone who is in a relationship who was not happy before the relationship - FINALLY SOMEONE SAYS IT, THANK YOU!

    • @zenlife321
      @zenlife321 Před 3 lety +3

      🤣🙌🏻🙌🏻

    • @Sarafara7
      @Sarafara7 Před 3 lety +3

      I know, right?! Lol I was thinking the same - finally!

    • @Helen-fs3ol
      @Helen-fs3ol Před 3 lety +1

      I agree 💯

    • @jclyntoledo
      @jclyntoledo Před 2 lety +4

      This is why I thought for the longest if you had issues with depression or even anxiety relationships weren't for you. It made it seem like you have to be at this optimal level so even if you were trying it wasn't enough. Then I kept thinking well it's going to take forever to heal yourself even with the right resources and I recently realized we are all works in progress and the healing journey doesn't necessarily have an end date. Funny he said happy enough since I've discovered Complex Ptsd and how it relates to me and Pete Walker talks about not being perfect but good enough.

    • @naterk9460
      @naterk9460 Před 2 lety +7

      Like how 99% of the people who tell you "You shouldn't worry about money" have enough that if they lost their job and couldn't find another one for 3 years, they'd still have no problem making ends meet.

  • @TanzaniteHayley
    @TanzaniteHayley Před 3 lety +378

    The only people that can tell me what to do are my parents and Matthew Hussey.

  • @NagoyaHouseHead
    @NagoyaHouseHead Před 2 lety +40

    You don't have to be HAPPY to go into a new relationship but you do have to be HEALTHY

  • @sharonannehenry
    @sharonannehenry Před 3 lety +190

    Couples think, because they found each other that they have the answer and give unsolicited, conflicting advise like "you'll find the the one when you're ready" or "you'll find the one when you're not looking" or "you'll find the one after you visit the oracle and are deemed worthy."

    • @96wordpass
      @96wordpass Před 3 lety +10

      This made me laugh 😆 “the Oracle” 😂😂😂

    • @underclassh3r058
      @underclassh3r058 Před 3 lety +4

      "The oracle" that was awesome😂

    • @nadiacalembe1546
      @nadiacalembe1546 Před 3 lety +11

      Well the Oracle I consulted last week told me I need the blood of a virgin born on a full moon on February 29th, the scale of a mermaid's tale and the horn of a unicorn. Simple stuff really 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 Před 3 lety

      Sharon Henry,you look stunning dear

    • @jojobeanforever
      @jojobeanforever Před 3 lety +2

      @@nadiacalembe1546 I have a unicorn horn! I’ll mail it to ya after my fairy bring me the others for my ceremony 😌

  • @memastarful
    @memastarful Před 3 lety +390

    I have been single without dating anyone for 12 years and I'm really content and happy. I'm not against relationships at all I just personally rather be alone than go thru drama or toxicity.

    • @TmHudsonArt
      @TmHudsonArt Před 3 lety +37

      19 years for me....not like I ever wanted kids so don't need to find a partner for that reason. I just do what I like to do and that's it.

    • @tailgunner2
      @tailgunner2 Před 3 lety +24

      Heh, I have you both beat.
      22 years

    • @amamamamamama97
      @amamamamamama97 Před 3 lety +21

      @@tailgunner2 now now. It's not a competition you guys. But isn't it scary that you're so used to being by yourself that you can never connect with a partner even if you want to? Because you're comfortably single. I'm just curious to know

    • @tailgunner2
      @tailgunner2 Před 3 lety +16

      @@amamamamamama97 Why would it be scary? I already lived it.
      Besides, I have more important things to worry about, like paying my debts off. My jobs soak up most of my time. Other things simply had to be sacrificed.
      Not everyone gets things like paid vacations or time off to do other things.

    • @d.matthews3103
      @d.matthews3103 Před 3 lety +37

      Over 40 yrs. Had a very good job & income, educated, independent person, just never met anyone with whom I connected. I think I just met too many men who weren’t secure enough to be involved with a strong, grounded woman who was financially independent and who felt perhaps, that they wouldn’t be more dominant in the relationship.

  • @sensualgoddess5336
    @sensualgoddess5336 Před 2 lety +147

    3 components of being happy enough
    1. How do you communicate ? ( communication)
    2. ( Confidence)how do you treat yourself well and allow others to treat you well
    3. You’re life ( health, fitness, careers, friends, hobbies)

    • @victoriaporsiempre
      @victoriaporsiempre Před 2 lety +1

      * your …you are life could make sense if you are having a life of your own like “you are your life” 🤔

    • @saidissaad7231
      @saidissaad7231 Před rokem

      Friends can be lethal to your relationship...you need to keep them nice n sweet but they should not in your life as much as your family can!

  • @sandrace87
    @sandrace87 Před 3 lety +231

    And that's exactly the state in which I met my partner. We're getting married this year.

  • @surdogal
    @surdogal Před 3 lety +189

    Phew .... what a huge relief ..... I can do ‘happy enough’ 😀

  • @samanthajane11.11
    @samanthajane11.11 Před 3 lety +74

    Im happy enough.
    I would just like to share my bit of happiness with someone else's bit of happiness, and then we would share a lot bigger piece of happiness together 🙂

  • @tacrewgirl
    @tacrewgirl Před 3 lety +36

    Slow clap. "You need to be happy" is often said by someone who was unhappy when they got in a relationship. PREACH

  • @yesreneau
    @yesreneau Před 3 lety +391

    1 minute in, and I'm vibing with this video

    • @benhartart9487
      @benhartart9487 Před 3 lety +3

      No one really cares but good for you

    • @michaelswinney9154
      @michaelswinney9154 Před 3 lety

      Like a werewolf and a newborn.

    • @susanmcguire4664
      @susanmcguire4664 Před 3 lety

      @@lolalola9323 people are hear on this You Tube channel to listen to what Matthew Hussey has to say. We do not need your relationship expert.
      Matthew Hussey has lots of fantastic advice here. I have learnt so many helpful things from him this year by watching his videos.

    • @robertcollins7034
      @robertcollins7034 Před 3 lety +2

      @@lolalola9323 going back to your ex is like trying to put poo back in your bum !

    • @akilasultana2368
      @akilasultana2368 Před 3 lety +2

      You’re here too?! 😂😂😂SAME

  • @Vincasssssss
    @Vincasssssss Před 3 lety +194

    Is it wrong that I'm a guy watching Matthews videos? They really help me and sometimes even help understand women psychology more.

    • @cidweinberg
      @cidweinberg Před 3 lety +16

      Nope not at all. I’m a guy have been watching Matthew and a few others off n on for years. Helps me understand myself & other guys. Happy to be single.

    • @olabalu6597
      @olabalu6597 Před 3 lety +1

      My brother also watches Matthew's videos :)

    • @rockfelloweades
      @rockfelloweades Před 3 lety +1

      Smart!

    • @gilmourishgilmourish6205
      @gilmourishgilmourish6205 Před 3 lety +4

      No! Not at all... at least you are working on yourself

    • @stevek33
      @stevek33 Před 2 lety +1

      im with ya too my man

  • @katherineking7824
    @katherineking7824 Před 3 lety +18

    "Happy enough" allows for those little pangs of discontent -- without some discontent there is no room or desire for growth. Perfectly happy leaves no room to invite change.

  • @noofshaif3240
    @noofshaif3240 Před 3 lety +61

    *Happy enough by* :
    1- Communication.. Your needs, emotions, values, standards, expectations.
    # learn how to communicate your needs .
    2- Confidence.. How do you treat yourself, how to allow others to treat you
    # Understanding that you have needs and you are worthy of these needs to be met.
    # be able to walk away from someone when u communicated your needs and he didn't met them.
    3- Have a rich life.
    Health and fitness.
    Career.
    Passion and hobbies.
    Family and friends.

  • @SamElle
    @SamElle Před 3 lety +32

    communication is KEEEEEY to any relationship including friendships. A good relationship is built on a foundation of communication

  • @TheSoundofTanay
    @TheSoundofTanay Před 3 lety +28

    I came out of a relationship (close to 4 years). I was in it for the longest time just because it provided comfort. I was not even attracted to her by the end of it. When it ended, I realised all the heartbreak and 'loss of hope' that came with it. Then, I realised that it was really me... my love, my value and my talents that brought so much to the table.
    Today, I am with someone new and I find her to be amazing. There's still hurt/wounds from the past but I know I will get through. I deserve the best!

    • @flutterby8462
      @flutterby8462 Před 3 lety +1

      Out of curiosity why do you have wounds and need to heal when you just stated your weren’t attracted to her and only in it for the comfort you got. so surely the break up was a relief for you no? This is a genuine question because what you said is a bit confusing

    • @TheSoundofTanay
      @TheSoundofTanay Před 3 lety +4

      @@flutterby8462 yes you’re right - the breakup was a relief. There are two major issues I faced: one, it was a codependent relationship so I was heavily dependent on this person and had no social life outside. Second, I wasn’t into it but stayed and suppressed my feelings for almost two years. When I told her (multiple times) that I wanted to leave, she wouldn’t let me leave because she wanted us to keep going. I was too intimidated and still cared about this person, hence I stayed. So, right now after I got out and it’s been quite a while, I am facing all the hurt and pain that I suppressed for so long.
      Also, when I got into it I was 19 years old and still forming my identity. So you can get how it impacted my younger self.

    • @TheSoundofTanay
      @TheSoundofTanay Před 3 lety +1

      @Helle Thorning both. I never had a girlfriend before and she admitted later she was latching onto me.

    • @michaelstrickland3235
      @michaelstrickland3235 Před 2 lety

      Just got done with a divorce after a 6 year for similar reasons.

  • @tulinbeyduz920
    @tulinbeyduz920 Před 3 lety +17

    I’ve been pretty happy single the past 4.5 years . I’m open to a relationship with someone that is open, kind and stable . Otherwise I keep myself busy with my work, daughter animals and fitness .

  • @christinelindberg-gilhus1590

    I always took the "You have to be happy." as you have to love yourself enough to know what you deserve so you don't get in and stay in bad realationships.

  • @Indigomaja
    @Indigomaja Před 3 lety +47

    I like this. I usually say that I was unhappily single, but that usually was met with all of the "you need to be completed in yourself" blah blah blah. And I had to let them know my cut off game is strong. You can't come into my life and takeaway from my happy.

  • @liamashton645
    @liamashton645 Před 2 lety +16

    The best thing is to train yourself to let go of what you've lost. Moving on does not mean moving onto someone else. It means letting go of who hurt you.

  • @thehappychakra2579
    @thehappychakra2579 Před 3 lety +38

    Looks like I’m “happy enough” folks! Yay!! Let’s do this 💪🏼🔥🤗👏🏼😍

  • @afshah.7972
    @afshah.7972 Před 3 lety +91

    Wow this makes complete sense why I settled with people even when there were red flags whereas I’m quite intuitive when it comes to choosing the right employer for my career. I’m glad I’ve worked on myself and sorting out my life to be at a “happy enough” place to not need a relationship to feel happy or complete or fulfilled.
    Much love to you Matt! 🌸

  • @gabymcknight3291
    @gabymcknight3291 Před 3 lety +95

    This message really resonated with me! I feel that modern society tells us that we should be able to achieve a perpetual state of happiness, and if we can't, something is wrong with us. This is a flawed perception of what it means to be happy, we should strive to be happy enough instead. Thank you Matthew, and I look forward to seeing you in the next video!

  • @anuragrajhans3808
    @anuragrajhans3808 Před 3 lety +28

    I just had a breakup, i needed it so badly😶

    • @calliecutsinger8812
      @calliecutsinger8812 Před 3 lety +4

      Me too. It seems like his advice lands just at the moment we need it.

  • @jessicacruz2974
    @jessicacruz2974 Před 3 lety +52

    I’ve worked on my life for years getting myself to a place where I can find happiness in many places of my life, my career, my family, my cat, my home, my friends, my SELF. I’m finally at a place where I am walking away from many things (and men) who come to me offering me crumbs when I know I deserve so much more. It’s still hard bc I do want love in my life.. but I needed to build the strength to walk away from situationships and not settle for less than what I deserve. Not sure I’ll ever find a man for me.. doesn’t quite seem that way. But I’ll leave that in God’s hands. All I can do is what’s best for me and that means loving ME no matter what. Whether I have a man or not, I am worthy 🖤 thanks for sharing videos like this, these helped me on this journey so much and still do

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear,I can introduce you to Dr okado,he was the one who help me to bring back my ex few days ago after six months of separation,he can also help you retore your relationship back and make you happy same way I m happy now

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp and thank me later

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      +2439130316818

    • @jessicacruz2974
      @jessicacruz2974 Před 3 lety +4

      @@luisjoy5734 I don’t have an ex I want back. Thanks

    • @anjaknatz7157
      @anjaknatz7157 Před 3 lety +1

      Can not agree more!

  • @sunnyday157
    @sunnyday157 Před 3 lety +13

    I never believed you need to be happy to meet someone, what is happiness anyway? Constant, 24/7 bliss? No way. It is alright to feel shitty sometimes and I believe we are naturally happy enough so that we don't make a choice out of desperation.

  • @guisellalosa7557
    @guisellalosa7557 Před 3 lety +18

    I LOVE being single! i can stay one Saturday reading a full book... but when the right one arrives to my life will be lovely too!

  • @positivelyela3286
    @positivelyela3286 Před 3 lety +20

    I totally get the "happy enough" thing. When I was a kid, I was depressed and took every negative thing to heart and it was really hard to grow out of that. I'm still not happy with where I am, but I know things that make me happy and things that don't and I pursue the happier things other than just accepting and hiding from my life.

  • @robinyarborough4727
    @robinyarborough4727 Před 3 lety +6

    When “he” comes into my living space and is putting me down, cursing as his example of what he is. It is time to not allow that person back into your living space.

  • @monday2756
    @monday2756 Před 3 lety +26

    " the 3rd Circle " Yourself".. I value myself so much that when a guy enters my world and they aren't good enough based on my qualifications.. I ditch them right away . No wonder I'm still single up to now... This is onother great lesson.

    • @lasvegasnevada7514
      @lasvegasnevada7514 Před 3 lety +3

      Same, I ditch them even though they’re kind to me as I have a hunger for life, doesn’t have to be rich or successful but a slight success or accomplishments is enough. I do things like exploring, both around me and the world that requires a 16-hour flight. Go out and explore. It doesn’t have to be traveling/exploring but a career change, or walking into a new path and leaving things that doesn’t serve you.

  • @kristinreviewsthings
    @kristinreviewsthings Před 2 lety +3

    (standing ovation) someone in a relationship tells you that you need to be happy even though they werent happy and their relationship made them happier 🤣🔥🔥

  • @KatieFleming
    @KatieFleming Před 3 lety +61

    The best is when I tell my sister I wish I was married by now and I don't want to be single and she just tells me "I know lots of single people who are perfectly happy". Well gee...thanks... Meanwhile, she's on her 2nd marriage, has 2 kids...so helpful right? I remember she was NOT "perfectly happy" when she was single. Thanks for this Matt, "happy enough" I can normally get by with this but do have my down days.

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 Před 3 lety

      Katie Fleming,your lovely smile can make the news!

    • @arorajivlogs1641
      @arorajivlogs1641 Před 2 lety

      well she says so coz she is not as happy as she thought she would be in marriage.... just her own projections..

  • @monicalevyt
    @monicalevyt Před 3 lety +82

    I'm so happy and complete that I don't need a relationship anymore! 😂

    • @anu-kriti6146
      @anu-kriti6146 Před 3 lety +8

      🤣🤣👍

    • @robertmicheal1332
      @robertmicheal1332 Před 3 lety +1

      @Monica Relationship is sweet when been with the right partner because both partner will share things together

    • @ginger05
      @ginger05 Před 3 lety +3

      Look, that's great Monica, but I really feel you missed the point of the video. And your emoji choice feels kinda condescending to those of us who are on their journey to "happy enough" for now. Nothing wrong with what you wrote... Just a little careless.

    • @monicalevyt
      @monicalevyt Před 3 lety +2

      @@ginger05 just one more "internet type" around here...

    • @anu-kriti6146
      @anu-kriti6146 Před 3 lety +7

      @@ginger05 don't worry when u have a purpose that actually fulfills u emotionally, mentally , then u r 'happy enough' ,her comment shouldn't bother u much she wasn't intentionally doing so to hurt anyone she's just been a little more happy than u today, keep goin ,good luck 👍

  • @daffodilgene
    @daffodilgene Před 3 lety +7

    You almost always inspire me to keep improving myself Matthew Hussey, not just on how to be better at selecting the right partner. You help remind people that they are already blessed, although we need to be better at knowing how to use them effectively. More power to you and your crew. God bless

  • @jenwinchester1941
    @jenwinchester1941 Před 3 lety +11

    This concept is so simple and yet so powerful! Thank you

  • @christinaoneill1711
    @christinaoneill1711 Před 2 lety +1

    He's fantastic this world needs more people like Mathew

  • @lovetodaylisa3967
    @lovetodaylisa3967 Před 2 lety +5

    Can I be happy single? Yes . Can I be happy in a relationship? Yes. I think that's all I need to know.

  • @chelseaellis1626
    @chelseaellis1626 Před 3 lety +5

    Yes! Omg I always felt like something was missing through my journey and it was “Your Life”... I mean I have a life that I’m very thankful for but I could definitely improve things and aim for more. Thank you!

  • @norrona5923
    @norrona5923 Před 2 lety +12

    Love this. The “be happy on your own before you get into a relationship” I think is a new concept or trend to prove self-sufficiency and non-neediness. It creates a very lonely generation where we don’t reach out to others and build relationships or communities.
    We have the want and need to have relationships, family, friends, romantic, colleagues, community, neighbourhood, etc. And that is OK to rely on others or want to be with others.

    • @andrewebeagbor136
      @andrewebeagbor136 Před 2 lety

      I know of a man who would help you restore back your relationship either you ex or soul mate

    • @andrewebeagbor136
      @andrewebeagbor136 Před 2 lety

      ±2348134090209⏯⏯?????????

  • @trishwilliams3153
    @trishwilliams3153 Před rokem +1

    This is just simply beautiful. Of all your videos I’ve watched, this is hands down my favourite. You addressed spirituality, common sense, ownership and love and respect for Self and “other”. With clarity, no bullshit, complete honesty! Free of ego! Yours and ours…which is the whole point of this channel from what I take away from it 🙏

  • @Rosa-fs2zk
    @Rosa-fs2zk Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for this video! I totally agree with the 'happy enough'. 💖 It's so annoying to be told all the time by people who are in a relationship 'you need to be 100% happy first'. They have no right to give their opinion in the first place and my experience is, they are often in crappy relationships themselves or have hardly spent any time a a single in their lives....

  • @roxanaschiwek5764
    @roxanaschiwek5764 Před 3 lety +3

    Love the "legs under a table" - example, so true!

  • @ArielLeighJ
    @ArielLeighJ Před 2 lety +3

    I'm married and I just come here for his voice. 🤣🤣

  • @roxananasturas
    @roxananasturas Před 2 lety

    I love the honesty and simplicity with which you articulate things and the place you are speaking from. It transpires. You bring a great contribution on many levels, Matthew. Thank you!

  • @livingstoneoteng9307
    @livingstoneoteng9307 Před 2 lety

    Matthew is gifted. U would first think his content would be trite and boring, but he would come through as very edifying and refreshing.
    Bless you, man.

  • @keisee1378
    @keisee1378 Před 3 lety +19

    This makes more sense. After all, isn't this what being in a relationship is all about? To be happier than before? There's no point pretending that we were as happy when we weren't in a relationship.
    Be happy enough when you're single, and be even happier when you've met the right person.

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear,I can recommend you to a relationship expert who help me bring back my ex few days ago after six months of breakup ,he can also help you bring back your ex and fix your broken relationship too without any stress or delay

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp

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      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      +2349130316818

  • @WhyYoutubeWhy
    @WhyYoutubeWhy Před 3 lety +7

    Oh Matthew! 8 years ago, I was at the top of my game. Then I met a great guy and we dated. 3 months later it's over and i'm crushed. From then on, my life went downhill. Being happy enough, or even being super happy still doesn't save us if we think we lost the man of our lives, or at least the greatest man we ever met.

    • @frankl7370
      @frankl7370 Před 2 lety +6

      I think you need to dig deeper if you think a guy who was with you for three months is the love of your life. Sorry for being blunt

    • @linnette6493
      @linnette6493 Před 2 lety

      You knew that after ONLY three months??

    • @WhyYoutubeWhy
      @WhyYoutubeWhy Před 2 lety

      ​@@frankl7370 Oh darling, Ive known that after a night!

    • @waylander7777
      @waylander7777 Před 2 lety +1

      @@WhyCZcamsWhy That's chemistry, one component, not love itself which takes years to build. And trust me if you lose that deep love you will know the shattering difference.
      i wouldn't wish it on anyone.

    • @WhyYoutubeWhy
      @WhyYoutubeWhy Před 2 lety

      @@waylander7777 Oh so the 9 years of depression i got are nothing?! Shut up.

  • @ANDJELINA
    @ANDJELINA Před 2 lety

    Just the fact that I have a friend that was open enough to share he was very depressed and that I could understand him and we were able to talk about it. Means a lot. You just have to be okay with what you do and move forward and to be the best you can.

  • @hannahdevriend2692
    @hannahdevriend2692 Před 3 lety +3

    really good perspective!

  • @starrynight6982
    @starrynight6982 Před 3 lety +6

    I was literally having his BREAKUP videos in my recommendation weeks before I broke up NOW I'm finding this I'm dead 😂😂

  • @MetanoiawithMonalisa
    @MetanoiawithMonalisa Před 3 lety +3

    This was absolutely life altering! ❤️

  • @paredescax
    @paredescax Před 3 lety

    You have no idea how much have done for me, Matthew. You're like my best man! Bless you!

  • @lesleybrady3948
    @lesleybrady3948 Před 2 lety

    It’s mind blowing how engaging you are MH within seconds and it continues. Absolute value in such a short clip, consistently! X

  • @BluieBeth
    @BluieBeth Před 3 lety +6

    I hear this ALL the time. I hate it and it makes me cringe because it makes me feel like it’s my fault. It feels like I’m doing something wrong.
    Thank you for this!

  • @marjoriebertrand
    @marjoriebertrand Před rokem +3

    Thank you so much for this video!
    I cried when I heard it cause it is really painful for me to hear this fucking sentence!!! Your « enough » changes my pain in hopes and makes my life lighter!!! ❤️

  • @laviki5190
    @laviki5190 Před 2 lety +1

    The table legs really brought SO much clarity!!! Thank you forever!!!💙💙💙

  • @carolmforde
    @carolmforde Před 2 lety

    I’ve watched a lot of your videos for years and this is by and far my favourite! You are so very authentic and clearly living your message. 🙏🏻

  • @Going-Postal
    @Going-Postal Před 3 lety +3

    Love this so much!!! I dont want to settle for anything. I just want to enjoy my life and be with the love of my life and have some kiddos. That's good enough for me. Well if I am being honest it's all I ever wanted. To have a family and be happy with them.

  • @laurachase
    @laurachase Před 3 lety +3

    I can highly recommend his retreat I attended 2 retreats and it is truly what he promises about giving you the power to be strong and to live the life you desire... best coaching I ever decided to invest in!!!!!

    • @kealeyadrian7926
      @kealeyadrian7926 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear,I can recommend you to a relationship expert who hlep me bring back my ex few days ago after six months of breakup ,he can also help you bring back your ex and fix your broken relationship too without any stress or delay

    • @kealeyadrian7926
      @kealeyadrian7926 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp

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      @kealeyadrian7926 Před 3 lety

      +2349130316818

  • @katrissh
    @katrissh Před 3 lety +1

    What you just said is simply amazing. I was told all the time that I HAVE TO be happy on my own, that I have to love myself and try not to need anyone and then the person will come. How can I be fully happy without love? I think you can’t just fully do this with yourself, you need other people, their attention, love and presence in your life - just much as we need family and friends, we need a lover. Simple. But I am happy enough, I know what I can give and what I expect. I do not need someone to fill my life, I need someone to enjoy the journey with me. Now i know it. ❤️

  • @neoshajohnson1033
    @neoshajohnson1033 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you Matthew! There are so many things here that many of us can learn from-just the easy and honest life skills. The main take away for me is to be my healthiest in all 3 areas to only attract healthy individuals. You tha best!

  • @irina.mio.
    @irina.mio. Před 3 lety +8

    Legs of the table concept earned you a like Matthew )))

  • @metaphisix6036
    @metaphisix6036 Před 3 lety +6

    Idk why in the middle of this I thought about the marker scent... it’s strong! 😄

  • @DforDado
    @DforDado Před 2 lety

    Came here for the title but stayed because the content is much better than I thought I was getting. Thought it was love advice but turns out it's a life advice. Thank you.

  • @navymed3
    @navymed3 Před 3 lety

    I love your definition of confidence, understanding that you yourself have needs

  • @ball5772
    @ball5772 Před 3 lety +3

    “happy enough” is a good plan 😂

  • @ehunter3700
    @ehunter3700 Před 3 lety +18

    This gives me confidence to manage several areas of my life. Thank you

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 Před 3 lety

      I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me manifesty my ex back and fix my broken relationship few days ago after six months of breakup, He can also help you manifest your ex back and make all your heart desired comes true, without any stress or delay.

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp💯

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 Před 3 lety

      +2349130316818🙏

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 Před 3 lety

      E Hunter,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🌷🌺🌺

  • @Kikafrangarcia
    @Kikafrangarcia Před 2 lety

    I feel sooooo happyyyyyy. More than happy enough. It all starts from the foundation, our families, our backgrounds, the way we were raised, is all part of our journey, if we just change, or better said, improve the way we see the things that happens to us? That’s when we are invincible. We are learners, we learn from everything, nothings is never too bad, it all makes us stronger, and wiser. This life is so amazing. Love your videos.

  • @oliviaharris5957
    @oliviaharris5957 Před 2 lety +1

    This is the most helpful blueprint for single life!! Thank you!

  • @TheDaanmulder
    @TheDaanmulder Před 3 lety +4

    Absolutely love this! The advice: you gotta love yourself first makes me crazy. As if you have to earn iT first. Everyone deserves love.

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear,I can introduce you to Dr okado,he was the one who help me to bring back my ex few days ago after six months of separation,he can also help you retore your relationship back and make you happy same way I m happy now

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp and thank me later

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      +2439130316818

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 Před 3 lety

      Danielle Mulder,your lovely smile can make the news!

  • @archiylevent9387
    @archiylevent9387 Před 3 lety +4

    Wow, happy enough! This made my evening (this and the homemade hummus I just made🤣) thank you, I never got the happy alone thing. Thanks !

  • @cherylthomas7843
    @cherylthomas7843 Před 3 lety

    Hallelujah! We’re all human and have bad days, maintaining a permanent happy vibe is just not realistic, and sets you up to beat yourself up when you have a bad day!

  • @susane945
    @susane945 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for this. I totally agree about the people who give you advice who are ALWAYS in a relationship. And just judge us single people.

  • @AziTala90
    @AziTala90 Před 3 lety +3

    You are getting actually the wisest coach I have known, Mathew. Thank you for your crucial wisdom.

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear,I can recommend you to a relationship expert who help me bring back my ex few days ago after six months of breakup ,he can also help you bring back your ex and fix your broken relationship too without any stress or delay

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      +2349130316818

  • @stephanie5471
    @stephanie5471 Před 3 lety +7

    Look at romantic relationships as a bonus, not the end all be all! 😉

  • @fire.empath
    @fire.empath Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for your compassion and for your honesty, Matthew! :)

  • @maryhailstone8475
    @maryhailstone8475 Před 2 lety +1

    Matthew this is fantastic! This is what everyone needs to learn in order to keep themselves safe from people who would harm them (rape, sexual assault, human trafficking, abusive relationships, etc.) Because we all want love, when we get desperate, we are willing to put ourselves in dangerous situations to get some sort of "love." It's so sad but we can learn to be "happy enough" if we know how to get there. This video shows you the beginnings of how to get there! I just want to say thank you for sharing this and thank you for having the courage to help others.

  • @XxChaysterxX
    @XxChaysterxX Před 3 lety +5

    1:11 my eyes wide open, me sitting on my bed screaming "YES, THANK YOU! FINALLY SOMEONE SAYS IT OMG" and spill my coffee all over my pyjama. Thank you Matt, I love you ☺️❤️

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear,I can introduce you to Dr okado,he was the one who help me to bring back my ex few days ago after six months of separation,he can also help you retore your relationship back and make you happy same way I m happy now

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp and thank me later

    • @luisjoy5734
      @luisjoy5734 Před 3 lety

      +2439130316818

  • @ladygypsysoul122
    @ladygypsysoul122 Před 3 lety +4

    Good thoughts. The three in a circle.

  • @CareCici
    @CareCici Před 2 lety

    This video is definitely one of the best. Thank you Matt. This just enlightened the darkness in my life after he suddenly disappeared with the reasons he didn't say but we always knew... Now I know what is the right thing to do.

  • @ninovsqz
    @ninovsqz Před 2 lety

    This is how I feel these days and it's really beautiful when you're happy enough!

  • @user-sw4cl4yb2g
    @user-sw4cl4yb2g Před 3 lety +18

    Question is who’s cutting Matthews hair during this lockdown 😂😂😂❤️

    • @andlj.179
      @andlj.179 Před 3 lety +2

      I think it's Chris Appleton, his fellow Brit and also LA-based famous hairdresser. He made him look alike with the current hair cut. Although it's great to change the hairdo occasionally, I think the Rockabilly style haircut Matt had some time ago suited him best.

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 Před 3 lety

      Kloe B, you look stunning dear

    • @katherinenewton73
      @katherinenewton73 Před 3 lety

      He looks thinner, I wonder if he's been jogging more, lifting less? Always looks good and has great advice =)

    • @user-sw4cl4yb2g
      @user-sw4cl4yb2g Před 3 lety

      @@katherinenewton73 haha this man has been looking food for years , I mean look at his shoulders alone

  • @gregtheflyingwhale6480
    @gregtheflyingwhale6480 Před 2 lety +3

    Why are you considering happiness as a key desire, if emotion is the least stable component ever? Today you're happy and tomorrow you aren't. I'd prefer to target stability instead of happiness since the most long lasting relationships are stable. The life is much more normal and (for most people) less satisfying, because many cannot handle a boring marriage for decades. Modern world needs stability

  • @MistaTurdburgerz
    @MistaTurdburgerz Před rokem

    YOU
    CAN
    DO
    IT
    HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF AND YOUR GUT AND YOUR POWER!! It’s not easy for anyone, and you are worth it!!!

  • @Goddessglow888
    @Goddessglow888 Před 3 lety +1

    Looking good Matthew 😍😍 you’ve been taking care of yourself and it shows

  • @artistic_mama2295
    @artistic_mama2295 Před 3 lety +3

    I’m pretty sure I was talking about this concept yesterday lol...

  • @Rimxsha
    @Rimxsha Před 3 lety +4

    Love yourself before you love someone else

  • @monkeymind3917
    @monkeymind3917 Před 3 lety

    I’m so grateful for you Matthew! This is just what I needed to hear- really clicks and is so empowering! This is just the perspective I needed to pick me up and remember the mind set I need to be in again. Thank you so much!

  • @elidaqt
    @elidaqt Před 5 měsíci

    On a more extreme level, I’ve heard that if you’re suicidal, you cannot expect someone else to commit to you if you don’t commit to your own life. Also great advice on this video of having the legs of your life support the bigger picture of being happy enough.

  • @meaghanparent8740
    @meaghanparent8740 Před 3 lety +4

    Loved this video! Thank you!!!! I always felt guilty that I wasn't joyfully happy being single, lol. Thank you for this concept, because I am definitely happy enough:) and now I feel relieved from the pressure to be perfectly happy all the time

  • @him8206
    @him8206 Před 3 lety +3

    Bro thank you for this 🙏🏾 this was the one I needed, my god. Whoever thought a ven diagram would be what I’m gonna decided to plaster on my wall and look at every single day with what I want and I’m gonna achieve in these three areas 😂 This was it man..you’re a damn godsend 🙏🏾💯

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear,I can recommend you to a relationship expert who hlep me bring back my ex few days ago after six months of breakup ,he can also help you bring back your ex and fix your broken relationship too without any stress or delay

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 Před 3 lety

      +2349130316818

  • @toenytv7946
    @toenytv7946 Před 2 lety

    Where is anybody happy enough. Great job Matthew.

  • @clairelouise4834
    @clairelouise4834 Před 2 lety +1

    I have always thought for myself , that I need to be happy in 'myself ' before being in a relationship, knowing like Matthew said that I am making good choices, and that i am strong enough in myself to know when to walk away and to know I deserve better. Being actually happy in a general sense, no one can be happy 100% of the time. Its subjective and situational sometimes ... a journey not a destination. If you are unhappy in your life and yourself , then you have nothing to offer anyone else. If you can't even give it to yourself that's your answer really. Too many people run around trying to fill the void within themselves with other peoples energies. They are energy hoovers!

  • @jolielive3
    @jolielive3 Před 3 lety +8

    Okay Matthew. I see what you’re doing. Your “happy enough” steps sound a whole lot like being regular happy.
    You’re just trying to make the concept more palatable to people who don’t want to accept the fact/start truth that you really do need to love yourself and be happy on your own in order to be in a good place of pursuing a relationship (which happens to be 99% of people).
    I’m not mad at all. Gotta put food on the table and keep the lights on. I respect (and a little bit amused by) the hustle 🙏

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      Hello my dear,I can recommend you to a relationship expert who help me bring back my ex few days ago after six months of breakup ,he can also help you bring back your ex and fix your broken relationship too without any stress or delay

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      Message him now on WhatApp

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 Před 3 lety

      +2349130316818

  • @marissagomez3809
    @marissagomez3809 Před 3 lety +17

    I wish I could do your retreats! But they’re so expensive :(

  • @julia3061
    @julia3061 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for telling about the happy-thing. It’s so annoying and heavy to live up to..

  • @vin2629
    @vin2629 Před 3 lety

    Matthew Hussey you changed my life for good.. Thanks for all of this..