Found Out My Wife's Affair on the Same Day I Planned to Share My Terminal Diagnosis. Now....
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- čas přidán 12. 01. 2024
- Found Out My Wife's Affair on the Same Day I Planned to Share My Terminal Diagnosis. Now I'm Rethinking How I Want to Spend My Days Alone.
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Rest in peace legend
Well said
So true
Humanity lost a real one
@@ianscott2735 fr
AMEN rest in perfect peace ❤
Oh hey it's Swansong's story. And yes for those wondering, he's dead now. His daughter still updates every now and then. She did say he died in his home peacefully and was cremated.
RIP legend
He deserves better. May God rest his soul. 😢😔
What is his username?
So... assuming this is story is real and years old by now, OP is not among us anymore...
People strive to be legends. Legends strive to be like this man.
What a fantastic person. I hope to have this kind of fortitude when my time comes.
He mentioned living through the start of 2023. Somewhere I was hoping a family member would have updated the post but ah well
edit: nvm someone mentioned the daughter updated the post
He died early last year, but passed the mantle to his daughter who informed us about his death and the aftermath. She wrote a heartbreaking post on Father’s Day last year and the final update last week in his honor.
@@whitehawk7082 do you remember the reddit username, or is there a video with all the updates?
@@therealneutrxl, I posted it several times but the mods of this channel removed all my comments. A few other posters also tried and theirs were also deleted. Sorry.
Women cheat more than ever.
“I hope I can bounce back soon”
That broke my heart to hear, because I know that he won’t bounce back… his condition is just downhill from here and I wouldn’t be surprised if this is the last we hear of it.
His daughter announced in february of last year that he did indeed pass, a couple of days after he himself posted giving what he considered his "reddit family" words of wisdom, amazing read and makes you realize how grounded and smart of a individual he was. His daughter has made 2 posts talking about his dad and a slight insight on the situation, one as recent as a month ago.
@@federalknight1949 Is there any chance you could let me know the Reddit accounts they posted on? I’d like to dive in and read everything. The CZcams videos never link any sources besides the title.
@@theutubenooob throwawaySwanSong
legend
I tried posting the link, but my post got deleted. So I’ll post the title of his reddit post “I discovered the affair when I came home early to tell her about my diagnosis” by ThrowawaySwanSong. He has since passed, but not from his cancer, but in his sleep from a heart attack. So he was granted mercy from the amazing pain the illness would have caused.
thanks ❤
Thank you!
Thank yoy
He died of a broken heart ...
I encourage everyone to go read the updates. It was somber, but really heartwarming.
i cannot imagine how devastating it was for him to be hit with terminal diagnosis and discovery of the affair on the very same day. yet, he carried on with dignity and kept his head high despite all of it. and honestly? it was probably the best revenge on his ex anyone could ask for. if he raged, abused or threatened her then she'd have another reason to justify her unfaithfulness. if he tried to win her back or acted on his anger, it'd just feed her ego.
the most devastating blow to a narcissist is to make it completely clear you don't care about them. they build their entire worth and sense of self around other people's attention and approval. once you take it away - there's nothing left. they will never really recover from it and will always remember it as a personal failure.
...Helpful life advice.
Jane reputation is probably as bad as it can go "cheating on a terminal ill partner." Not to mention they want a divorce. If you can't even convince a dying person to stick around you know you are awful.
She bought another car just to make cheating easier. Her reputation was COOKED.
I went on Reddit and found this story. I went to OP's page, and sadly, OP passed away in February 2023. One of his kids is running his page now. Rest in peace, OP.
OP literally "ghosted" his wife as revenge lol.
Even his ghost ghosted her
Truly legendary shit
Nah bro, shouldn't joke abt this shi even if its a joke
Edit: i swr i was high or smtn when i made this comment🚬😵
Bro gonna bully her even after death what a legend
...that cold.😅
Carol didn't care if it was robbing the reaper she wanted her late game swoop and by god she was gonna make it happen come hell or high water!
I agree... if catching the old fish would bring in some greens. I don't blame her, but that is some despicable behavior if she has that in mind. But kudos to her if she doesn't have any such thing. Though it will certainly be hard to believe
I thought the same ngl I was oh she's playin her cards
I thought Carol was genuine. I forgot her introduction and relationship to everyone but maybe she’s also an older slightly lonely person and was just genuine in offering a dying man companionship. I feel like she wasn’t hot enough 😂 but I still like her
Maybe not. I've kept company to someone with a terminal condition. It was part selfish and part for them. Though it was never sexual. There's an odd peace of connecting with someone you know won't be around for long, and they always have a calming and understanding personality. You know they won't be around long, so any memory you have with them is so vivid. And as morbid as it sounds, you feel more open. Because you know they won't use it against you, and that a part of them just doesn't care. They have bigger worries. Being around someone terminal is a feeling you don't really understand until you are. Your problems seem so inconsequential when you are with them that you want to be. Their focused on enjoying the little things, and it gives you an appreciation for things you've never thought about. It also gives a peace of mind that that that person is safe. You don't have to worry because they are right in front of you. Especially as their condition gets worse.
I watched my grandfather fight the same cancer. Good for OP for refusing treatment. My grandfather was an army man (lied about his age to get into WW2, but since he was a genius and spoke 3 languages they kept him). So being a army career man he fought tooth and nail. But all that treatment did was make him suffer. Shame on the doctors for even doing that to an old dieing veteran. They knew the chances of his survival but were all too happy to make a profit. If you find yourself with the same type of cancer, please, don't let your family watch you suffer. My image of my grandfather went from a nazi fighting hero to a crying old man begging for death.
The problem is families can be to focused on tomorrow rather than today. Yea it would be nice if grandpa was alive tomorrow but watching him suffer for that today, rather than just enjoying how much time he has left isn't worth it. Enjoy today rather than hoping for tomorrow.
I've loved the quote "Tomorrow is a hope, never a promise" From a character that symbolizes death.
Enjoy the now instead of hoping for a tomorrow. Also if you are planning a treatment, its better to get a second opinion, they will tell you you're odds better than a person selling false hope.
Doctors don’t make more money from getting extra patients, they give treatment options and try to abide by the patient’s wishes. Of course there are bad doctors out there, but you shouldn’t shame doctors for doing their job. A lot of the modern issues stem from the medical system as a whole and not from individuals, as medicine nowadays is much more focused on treatment than it is prevention. That’s not any sole doctor’s fault, and they shouldn’t be blamed when people inevitably suffer when something doesn’t end up working out
@@agx8447 i have a pal who wanted to go for a less intrusive, more leanient treatment for his cancer, he wanted to go with a vitamines procedures or sum shit
his doctors told him to get chemo for a very regular and not that dangerous cancer
why? chemical companies pay doctors to recommend them using chemotheraphy so they make a profit off it. so yeah, is not that rare that doctors bank on patients. not all doctors should be judged, aswell as the many MANY examples of doctors wanting to make more money should not be denyed either
its more horrible when its a doctor cause they should take the hipocratic oath to hearth, but many times they dont. the rason they are nice, is because you arent exactly between them and more money
The final update:
To my father's Reddit family,
We have rung in 2024. This will be the first year of my life without my father. And that weighs heavy on me. I wanted to stop in and give you all an update on my father's family. You all already know that we celebrated our week long celebration of the holidays that my father so cherished. While bitter sweet, the week was very good. Dad has succeeded in bonding us all as a family, and that included Carol. Her romantic, for lack of a better word, time with my father when he needed the most, means so much to us. He left us all letters for this year, and one final present for each of us. They were thoughtful and brought us to tears. One last act that he entrusted Carol. Though I expect that there are letters for the grandkids at all of their major events. The first one came about at last spring's high school graduation.
The home building is progressing. This year I started to realize what dad loved about this farm. The cycles of the seasons. The cycle of life that is present here. I understand a bit more about his decisions last year.
While I still don't agree, I better understand. I have also started watching the sunrises and sunsets at Dad's spots. Not as religiously as he did at the end, but just another anchor between him and me.
Jane's life has not gone well. In the fall she suffered a stroke. It was caught early enough and she survived.
She is currently still in a care center doing rehab. She has regained rudimentary speech, but it is still tough for her. She is still working on walking again. She has a very long road ahead of her. Her health issues have gained her a bit of sympathy from her social circles.
Even Mom and Steve as well as Dad's grandkids have put aside their hurt and pain and locked in on her l am not that charitable as of now and may never be.
I do not have much information on the AP. He has disappeared from my business circles. The only morsel I have is that the company did receive an inquiry letter from a bankruptcy law firm. So far we have not seen any official filings. As for the company, without his leadership and financial anchor, the company is in the black and we got the debt manageable and did give every employee a nice bonus.
I want to thank all of you again for what you did for my father. I am sorry for not responding to any DMs or responding to any comments. It has been difficult enough to just give these updates. And I expect this update to be my last. You all have my gratitude.
throwaway SwanSong's daughter
Thank you for this! ❤
Thank you
What kills me is he was apparently only 60. My own dad died two years ago at 54. It's too young.
hugs
Yea we really don't know how much time we'll get in this existence. I'm sorry your father passed so early.
The average life expectancy is that of 75. Anyone who died younger than 65 is still young by a lot of means, even if they were in their later years
Having stage 4 cancer usually means you should get ready to enjoy your last moments. Which is understandable for op. Prolonging his life for a stage 4 cancer treatment requires a miracle.
Organ transplants isn't going to cut it. Stage 4 cancer will spread to other areas of the body. Kinda like a rebel force, appearing in one area slowly growing once they are ready take over other areas, consuming a nation in violence and chaos.
Not necessarily. One of my moms has stage 4 bone cancer. She was originally told she'd have 5 years at most, and a year if the cancer resisted treatment. But she went into remission. She will be on chemo the rest of her life, but today it's been 7 years since her diagnosis, and things are still looking good. One woman at the chemo center she goes to has been on her treatment for 15 years. It's a terrifying and painful thing to go through. But stage 4 doesn't mean all hope is lost.
@@generallyuseless5821 congratulations that your mom have beat cancer. Her determination to live is strong! You should be very proud!
However realistically it usually does mean you should prepare. It's practically almost impossible to beat.
You destroyed one area and they will pop out in other areas.
Because not everyone is willing to take chemo forever. Only the luckiest or people with the strongest of wills is able to beat stage 4.
But I think your example is good and inspiring, that it's not impossible to beat. Even if 99% of patients die there's still that 1% that will be triumphant. That's why I always respect cancer survivors and medical staff.
My brother got diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer. He was told he had a year to 2 years and he lived a year and 5 months. He passed away in the morning after strugling thought the whole night and passed away peacefully.
This guy is a true gigachad. Dude is close to dying and women still want to be with him (especially Carol) shows how manly he is they just can't help but loving him. Jane can go eat dirt.
I believe it was more of the money, but yeah the man was a keeper ngl. Maybe in real life as well ;-)
@@SubhamChowdhury97 nah, if it's about the money when he told her to not getting close she will just up and left. And yet she still stuck around
RIP Old Timer. Crazy the backend of his life he got to enjoy more than what he thought he would. Realizing the others with his ex was nothing but an illusion. Marriage scares me for this reason. Just be single and do what you want to do entirely, Why destroy someone’s else life, mental health, emotional well being all for a financial or sexual gain of some sort smh. Genuine people really are becoming extinct . I’m glad he is or did go out on his terms. 🤞🏽
Simply put human beings are complex and imperfect and shouldn't wield the power that family courts allow some (*moslty women*) to wield agaisnt their STBXs and strangely enough in no fault states cheating partners can clean out their victim financially even after cheating on and destroying their marriage. Now my comment isn't a (*women are bad*) words but the courts absolutely must and should be abolished and marriages made private legal matters written in by both parties on each marriage certificate
half of this story is missing, it gets very emotional, I remember crying listening to it
What's missing?
@@tumultoustortellini The ops son posts about the death of his father a few days after his last post , hes also visited by more people in hospital , I dont remember too much
There are actually 3 more updates.... with the last one being only 7 days old... and yeah op passed away
The last 3 updates were all made by his family
Got a link?
Yeah I found it, throwawayswansong
@@juliancumbia6443 Thanks
may i ask (no trying to be funny im just really invested and dont know hot to use reddit ) how do i find it just scroll down
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@ferchyzcv have you found it yet? If you haven't try pressing the search button and write his user or if you want, i could find it for you & send you the link
This is how you live and die with dignity. Knock a girl up? Take care of her. Marry a rich woman? Protect her assets. Rich woman cheats? Divorce her quietly. Ready to die? Retire to the farm.
Friends with his baby mamas husband. Keeps his old friends close. And when the time comes, moves into the unknown.
Damn
Missing final update from his daughter logging into account. It was great and hard to not get emotional
Maaan this is sad.. Hope he had a good last days... Rest in peace
I've sat and watched my great grandmother deteriorated, from 2014- early 2020. I understand that daughter's rage at the hospital, I understand wanting to make it go on longer, but I also learned that you can't fight for someone all the time. You can only fight when they ask you to. Op's decision to accept his fate is one I think we should all come to terms with. Besides at a point like that with something that is essentially un-curable (stage 4 cancer of the pancreas), it's easier to accept when it's time. The ex lost a lot here, and the AP is gonna face punishment after death.
Yeah. Cancer stages are..
1-2, there's a solid chance. 3 is a bitter fight.
Four.. You have the decision of trying to bargain a few more months, or simply accepting that the rollercoaster lasts until the track runs out.
OP is an angel sent from heaven. He has now returned.
RIP man. I hope you find rest in the after ❤
My ultimate ambition is to be rich living on a farm. I'd probably just monopolise the local roads and zip around in various road versions of various vintage rally cars. You know: Austin Mini 1000, Lancia Delta Integrale, Ford Escort RS. More expensive versions of the everyman car. Have a garage and service daily drivers for those in need for free and build insane project cars on the side. I really empathise with this guy's lifestyle.
Have farm,dont have fancy cars but I do have bihc ass tractor that i take for a spin around town,2 bikes,my trusty quad since childhood and buggy when I feel going crazy across fields and forest.
@@potatoes8414 nothing I listed is fancy, but I still like your style.
@@Mark_Proton once came to my friends wedding in blinged up tractor decor,flashy lights the whole deal he busted up laughing calling it disco on wheels ,eventually borrowed it to him so he can drove into sunset with his wife...ahhhh fun time.
Frugality is a respectable quality. RIP OP
Out of all the Reddit stories I've heard all I got to say Opie's is very stoic and humble and also I feel super bad for him even in your golden years the dude receive some devastating news only to find out that your significant other is cheating on you
This from years ago. Remember reading it. There was an update by one of his kids at the end.
I'm not surprised that the creator of this channel refused to put in the update in this video. Talk about pure laziness.😒
There was also an update from a week ago , Jane had a stroke but she survived and she is in rehab.Ops daughter told her that she will give her an apartment in the city if she changed her last name back to her maiden name (she was trying to contest the will but it didn’t work)the daughter said that house was a small price to pay for the change of name because she didn’t want Jane to still have the same last name as her father . AP is long gone after he sold his shares to ops kids. Steve , Sarah , the twins and the grandkids, all moved in the farm and build houses there so they can all live close. Op had given Carol gifts for Christmas 2023 to give to everyone, and Carol has become part of their family.
it sucks that we won't get to know the aftermath with WW but hopefully, it'll be exactly as earthshatering for WW as OP had hoped for.
The story didn’t end here. The OP posted more updates, including how his WW reacted to everything and the fallout before he died early last year. His daughter has kept his Reddit account active and posted a few more updates after his passing; she posted the final one last week in his honor. I’ve tried posting his username in these comment threads, but the mods of this channel keep on deleting them. 😢
@@whitehawk7082 oh no :c that really fucking sucks :c I really wanna find out how this ends. I wish YT had some kind of DM function :c
i tried too. same shit @@whitehawk7082
@@muggyatethat man is my hero 😢. It sucks that he has to go to through so much bullshiit before he passed away. Even in his last days, he managed to beat everyone at their own game. Like that mike Tyson quote he mentioned, everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face.
As the saying goes, the rich stays rich by living like the poor while the poor stays poor by living like the rich. Nevermind if he still drives a 15 yrs old truck instead of a flashy new supercar, he was rich but lived a frugal life, while his shitty ex wife wanted a life similar to the dynasty TV show from the 80s. Fuck her.
@@whitehawk7082deleting the username seems like a scummy move, they’re stopping OP being credited
Hope he’s resting in peace and watching over his family, also hope his family and friends are doing well and healing well
"Why won't you fight for us" holy shit that infuriated me. Feels bad for anyone who had to hear that from someone who cheated on them
He went out like a boss. I hope when it’s my time I can have even a fraction of his grace
Rest in Peace u/
Sorry for how things turned out
This is a re-upload but I was thinking about this story the other day and glad it got re-uploaded. Rest in peace to a total legend
If Jane is reading this. Im not going to be like everyone else and shit on you. But youre never going to live down what you did. It sucks, but you live and learn. Your life with OP's family is over. Not even your dead ex wants you around.
Time to move forward and try to be better.
Fake story dude
I think there's an update to this where his kids replied to the redittors who followed his story as remember when he writtten letters? Apparently in the end he gave one to us who followed his story through his son after his death and I recommend that you search for it, man is this what I call a "Great Man" and how he deals is swift, calculated and powerful yet humble and kind.
I swear, these stories break my heart. I love my husband so much and could never imagine taking him for granted like this, especially by abandoning the vows and sanctity of our marriage. Stories like these make me want to love him as if it is the last day that I get to every single day. You never know when you will have your last moment with someone. It's complicated to get a divorce, but there is so much more dignity for both parties when you can just admit that you're no longer happy and would like to separate or explore options. He deserved so much greater than this fate and May he rest in peace.
There is an update where one of OPs sons provides insight into OPs end of life. It's really nice
A man after my own heart.
There is more to this story! It goes past his death as his daughter posts on his behalf.
Can you please tell me what updates they posted?
@@kpopopedia7402 the guy unfortunately passed away. He had a good end.
@@gregoryrainsborough1715 May his soul RIP🙏 ....I'm glad he was happy in his last moments.
I've intentionally listened to this story about 5 times on a different channel, with the last time being about 6 months ago. Now, yesterday, i was thinking about this story and how I'd make it into a movie if i could, and how I'd listen to it again but i dont know the name of it or how to find it, all for me to find it on this channel today. I love this story from top to bottom, and as usually, RIP LEGEND 🙏🏾
Rest In Peace King 🙏
shed a tear for a legend
today
I like how there's a sense if continuity with OP mentioning the "Unpredictability is the enemy of infidelity" which is also present on this channel from another post that's equally as interesting as this one
This is so sad.. Currently in my family my grandmothers friend has Stage four pancri aswell at this moment so.. Its so difficult to know theres someone else who is passing to.
I hope the family copes okay and is alright after the passing.
Probably HIS last update. I want to hear from the family. He sounded like an amazing human being. Rest in peace
Op was a real one, wish i could've met him😢
What a legend, rest in piece. F
This one seems real. It's not overly detailed like some others. It feels realistic, and the story is inline with how great of a man op seems to have been. The love for his family and the non profit and everything.
Hero’s get Remembered. But legends never die. Rip OP
OP has been confirmed to have passed away both his son and daughter had posted on his behalf and confirmation of his passing was passed by his daughter
AP only got 20% shares and ran away
Jane only got the shared assets that had no value and begged to get a property that was owned by OP prior to the marriage, it was given but she was forced to revert to her maiden name
Carol got a 1% stake in the business as a thank you and will also be treated like family
This isn’t the finished version, there’s another one where the daughter takes over the account says he’s passed on, says goodbye for him and thanks everyone for being there for him
Goddamn. This dude was a god amongst men. Rest in Peace
Rest in peace a truly legend
Such an honorable man to the end may he rest in peace
Rest in peace man. Hits you like a ton of bricks that video ending means he's gone
He went out with good in his heart may he rest in pease and watch over his family with god by his side
This post was particularly heartbreaking as we know that there will be no more updates...😢😢Hope that OP's soul finds peace.
Only criticism bro should have embraced Carol even if it would be short lived she knew what it was and still supported him. RIP op
Descanse em paz, você já fez muito, e espero que você saiba que aqueles que te amaram nunca irão esquecer de você.
I remember reading this post and there was an update by the son telling us that his dad has passed and etc. And how his son showed him the reddit acc bc everyone on reddit helped him out and stuff so he wanted to update it from there
Godspeed, friend...I hope you're somewhere happy now.
Carol sounds like an OG
A great and classy man!
To live a good life, to leave your mark on the world, to be remembered by true friends. And to be truly loved by those left behind is all a man could ever ask for and you did every single one of those in spades my friend
I'm pretty sure that there was a final update to this story by his son using the account to notify that OP had passed away the day prior and thanked the community for all the messages and for supporting his Dad.
Son also talks about his mother as well and how she was in a bad state of mind and stuff but I dont know what happened after that besides the fact they had his funeral and are moving forward then he thanks everyone on reddit
This guy is a legend, had his lawyer waiting at a restaurant just to serve papers lmao
Rest in peace my good man. You did your best and gave it your all. At least he did his best in this world. He's a legend for destroying the AP and the ex-wife.
Praying you are okay your amazing person 🥰
if i remember correctly there was 1 more update not from OP but a relative of OP stating along the lines that OP has passed surrounded by loved ones and thanking the support that the reddit community gave OP. it wasnt mentioned in the video but still rip OP may you find peace
The open ending broke me man. I fuckin’ knew it was coming before his own family, had it condensed down into less than an hour of my life, and still, regardless of all of that, this fucking broke me when it just went from a beautifully tragic telling of a simple man, (aka. What “The legends” really are) him in the hospital having closure himself for his life experience and then cut to black. We not ok out here as humans man, we are not fucking ok. The bad ones do get theirs for their evil ways, but man, the good ones still get done dirty asf by the evilness inside those people and that kills me.
RIP to a real one
Rest well, sir.
Rest in power king 👑 ❤ you will be cherished and missed
Rest in peace u dont deserve anny pain u were a good man in your last moments
rest in peace op
fly high legend🕊🤍
Hell of a man. Love it
This is 💔
how about a link to the original reddit post?, especially now after you have gotten ur YT views
Rest in Peace OP 🙏🏻
God rest him. 🙏
Rest well till we all meet in the next life hopefully with new stories to tell.
Can you link the fucking stories in the description please
This channel never links shit for viewer retention reasons. Just another money grabbing bots tricking CZcams algorithm
@@l-l-l-l-l-l-l what a fraud lmao
There was a final update by his son informing Reddit of his dad’s passing…
It's a shame OP was on borrowed time when posting, he seemed like a decent enough guy. I hope he had peace in his last days and his family was left with harmony after his passing.
I hope he got to live out his last days on his farm. I wish my grandma could have done that when she passed.
Rip bro
This story just… hurts
AP didnt get a just enough of a comeuppance
💀 that… that’s one hell of a shitty day, bruh
Not in this Life but Man I want OP just to update again saying how he is feeling rn in The Heaven
I never saw My Grandpa and Man hearing his story teared me up
Sorry you had to go through such pain
Rest Well
throw away Swan Song. Delete the spaces.
Cant believe you didn't include the daughters updates after he passed.
Ikr?!!! I followed the OP from the start, interacted with him and his followers and became so fond of him. I want his story to live on, so I’m pissed that so much was left out. It’s so disrespectful imo. And all my comments that mentioned his Reddit username in these comment threads were deleted by the mods of this channel. It’s like this channel doesn’t want people to read his actual posts on Reddit because they think they have ownership to his life story.😤
@@whitehawk7082 what's the name?
@@juliancumbia6443throwaway Swan Song
I'm surprised this wasn't a Rambo first blood situation since he already dying
Bro start putting the original story in the desc if u just gonna cut it 🤷🏾♂️
This is so sad. Why would he say he hopes to bounce back when he knew in the beginning of the story that he was cooked. Goddamn I wish it ended better for him but it wasn’t horrible.
It hurt my feels
A king passed this last year.
The living wake 29:45 is great idea if have the chance.
My mother in law had one, and my wife due to health experience was with her until the end.
It was sad but everyone got time with her as she was a very family oriented person and gave her peace at the end
If I remember correctly there an update from one of OP's son that he had passed away...