How The British Upper Class Live | Stacey Dooley Sleeps Over
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- čas přidán 23. 11. 2023
- Stacey visits the Arkwright family, in their beautiful Georgian Manor House - Hatton House - in the heart of the Warwickshire countryside. Johnnie Arkwright is a direct descendent of Sir Richard Arkwright, who made his money opening one of the first factories in the Industrial Revolution. As someone who grew up on a council estate, outside of London, Stacey will challenge her views and theirs on inherited wealth, hunting and private education.
Stacey Dooley is fascinated by modern family life and wants to find out what how the more unusual households across Britain live. These families have lifestyles that others might judge but Stacey isn't here to judge, she's not here just to visit but she's here to stay! Experiencing all aspects of family life, to find out what really makes them tick!
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As an American, this family is definitely the stereotypical old money English that we typically think of... but they're the most down to earth family I've seen in a long time. Especially their son who recognizes how privileged he is and knows as long as he is his authentic self, he will succeed in life, regardless of his family history. Good on his parents!!
I’m fascinated by your criticism of Stacey & defense of these upper elite parents. If this family were any other family (lesser means, religious, or anything really) the pornographic placemats at dinner would be criticized. I see how Epstein got away for so long. We normalize and glad over this “brand” of sexual entitlement.
(Not to mention their other behavior (subtle reactions) like mocking her accent, putting her in place.)
The wife Arabella is a Brexit nutter who thinks Muslims will take over the UK.
Great morals and balance , 100 quid is a lot of money . Loved that .
yeah they have Heinz ketchup on the table thats so petty
You don’t remember how many bedrooms? Come visit, I live in an Efficiency
The children were amazing. That shows the good parenting skills of the parents.
True
Not the parents that have raised them, tho. More down to good teachers at the boarding school
Their son left home at 8 lol how do you come to that conclusion
@@veronicav1779 Because their son left home at 8....
sorry I wasn't replying to you but to the OP saying the children were the result of their 'good parenting' , I agree with you, it was probably down to the good teachers they had and certainly not their parents
I like the fact the kids are not on their phones at the dining table, and they are grateful for their riches! I like them.
@PurposefulDistraction-wp7in Oh, they've got a lot more than that going for them.
The fact you needed to comment this with nearly 300 likes tells me there are a lot of parents out there who don't know how to discipline their kids enough to tell the little shits to get tf off their phones at the dinner table - in fact - don't even think about bringing them to the dinner table AT ALL! Sad.
@@MissPerpulhonestly considering how trashy their home life is and that parents could care less about children, most do actually make sense to be on that phone even then🤷🏻♀️😂😂😂 I don't blame them, especially these cases
@@words-island1011 Yeah that's true too!
The stars of this show were the Arkwright family. Very warm, welcoming and wholesome people. It was a pleasure to be in their world for a little bit.
If Harry and Violet are your quintessential example of private school “products”, it’s to be recommended for sure. Lovely kids, both of them :)
Indeed. 'They are to be commended'
They put on a good show. Look up some of Stowe pupils self-made video clips online. YT used to have quite a lot of them. With parodies of orgies and sex slaves in boarding houses. Buggery and grape. Lovely children indeed. What they are is very camera aware and switched on enough to put their best foot forward under such a public gaze. I would think it far more interesting to have a fly on the wall experience and get to see them outside of P.R. mode.
I certainly hope that they are camera aware. My mother used to prepare me when the best manners where required at home and in public. Bad manners just embarrass everyone.
@marigoldbeam5475 Ha. And you think drugs, and sex ain't happening in public schools? 😂
These are the ones who actually let you into their house. A tiny sliver.
Its interesting that "Tracy" wears a Rolex and travels with an LV suitcase. Its not a criticism, it just highlights the fact that we all want to succeed and have the best. To me this family is a perfect example of old money. Classy but understated.
Which is something the Nouveau Riche don't grasp, generally--that money doesn't buy class. These people are understated and correctly humble.
Classy? There's a nude of mom in the hallway.
Lol! What's classy about them, besides them being white and having money?
LV and Rolex are about as new flashy money as it gets lol.
@@jeffreysommer3292 Old money don't grasp it either. At least the nouveau riche usually earn their money instead of instead of inheriting the castle made of the peasant bones for bricks and their blood for mortal from their old money rich daddy.
The family treated her well and they tolerated her ridiculous questions with calm. To insult them by saying things like the kids shouldn't go to private school while staying under their roof reflects poorly on Stacey. I really love how the family handled this experience, especially the two kids, they've been raised in a good environment, and they are very understanding of where they are. Clearly private school has taught the kids well too. What an amazing family.
The family also collected a fee from the producers. They watch their money.
She has asked provoking questions to the nuns and she was praised for that.... Don't know why she's not allowed to question the rich people
Stacey was being herself, and so were her hosts. Nothing wrong with that. I could easily move in with the world of the gentry ! Good parenting skills
Private schooling is a choice and should be respected.
How odd that you'd expect Stacey to not have opinions--that somehow expressing a different opinion is rude, 'ridiculous' or 'insulting'. Licking boots isn't attractive.
It's interesting how she sees them as "very different people," but they see her as a regular person like themselves and treat her with respect and humility, while she is condescending towards them.
Extremely rude and low class.
I concur. She was very condescending to them.
I knew as soon as I clicked on the video that this would be the case. Stacey has come across like this with her previous vids as well.. she hasn't healed
That's it! She's having a hard time with it. II hope she heals.
Probably pays to mention that these fears are borne from the unknown, and I am sure the rich family have engaged with many more working class folk in their lifetimes than Stacey has met aristocrats. Don't blame her for being uncomfortable in a new environment, surrounded by the aristocratic class who are posited as "the enemy" by Probably the majority of the population. Please extend her the same compassion and understanding that you extended to the rich people :)
Interview masked her discomfort with preconceived notions and mild aggression. Her hosts were gracious.
What a lovely family. Very down to earth. Mom does the cooking. Children are lovely, thoughtful, and respectful.
And the 150 servants he was very proud of
@@geegee3318so what? They get paid for their work it's not like back in the 1800s when servants were NOT paid. You got food a uniform and a bed.
Why on earth is Mum doing the cooking something to be proud of?! Talk about 1950s attitude.
@@catholicfaithofmine2664 I only mentioned it because the original comment said "mom does the cooking" and they're down to earth as if they do for themselves just like everyone else. But I don't think so, you just didn't see all the help that goes on behind the scenes.
@@geegee3318 Not servants, employees and a 900 acre estate will no doubt be farmed so that number will include the people running the farms
Johnny is a great man. He took what he had, got creative, took a risk, and built something that benefits the whole area. I really admire people who create jobs. His wife is also very obviously a very hard worker. "Love and labour" -- those are strong values. The only snob here is Stacey.
I agree!! Stacey definitely came across with a giant chip on her shoulder.
@@JustDiane71100-percent correct ..The whole time she was truly getting on my nerves.. these people were hospitable and wonderfu what are they supposed to do.. I don't understand... In life you are given the cards You must play them well either way good or bad ..You You make the Best Of it... were they supposed to decline their inheritance ..would You ?? I Don't think so ..I cannot stand people who automatically put everyone in the same box I have NeVER once had envy or jealousy of someone else .. I guess that's strong suit Comes with DNA as well , I believe because my whole family is like that.. we do not judge people whether they have , or have not.. It is unreal to me that she walked in there and she was judging them right away.. and their house is big but it's not that big for Christ's sake.. They are a wonderful family that through generations continued to keep the families inherentance on top ..that is a very hard thing to do.. to not lose the wealth ..because to lose it, that is an easy thing to do ..I think they are very strong noble people... May they all be blessed❤
@@JustDiane71I absolutely agree with you! I hated her line of questioning. I’m sure that it’s for the “ratings”, but I thought she was incredibly rude.
Totally agree, I thought Stacey was very rude.
I think Stacey is a socialist.
Harry
is an utter gentleman 😎
Any parent would be proud
The family has over 800 acres, large house, etc. but I see them working, cleaning boots, cleaning their own horse, making their food. They don’t have a cook serving them, they don’t have a maid cleaning, his boots, etc..
Don't be ridiculous. They didn't show the staff on film, but they certainly have them. One woman is not cleaning a twelve-bedroom mansion on a faulty basis.
At 29:58 he literally says they have 150 people working for them.
@@JolieJamesBut not inside the house😅
@@claravrsnik7858 How do you know that? If you have 150 people working on your estate, they're surely not all gardeners. Just because we didn't see any housekeepers or cooks these 2 days of filming, doesn't mean they don't have them.
@@JolieJames
Employees!!!
and "regular class" Stacey Dooley is traveling with a 3000 pound Louis Vuitton suitcase and using 250 pound Frederic Malle's "Portrait of a Lady", I have to mention ;)
Indeed, Portrait of a Lady, did it for me, the cheek of her to question if 100 is too much to lose on a bet.
And this suitcase a d perfume is comparable to the life of those people 🙄 good for her that she can afford what she wants, she achieved it herself and can be proud of it.
@@smiley9872 she doesn’t realize it in the upper class and among the multimillionaires you only do a gentleman bet which is about one dollar in the United States or 1 pound in the UK and it’s only for having fun it’s not about how much money you can bet on some thing. It has nothing to do with the amount of money. and yes, they take their 100 pounds very seriously when you are wealthy that’s how you become wealthy as you take money seriously.
"The poshest people I have ever met"
Yeah the lady says "there's a lot more posh people than us" and she's thinking
"You are from London. Working for the BBC. Get real"
There is nowhere posher than London. Especially not out in the countryside. Kensington, Knightsbridge. Wetherby School, Royal Albert Hall, Buckingham Palace. The British media is full of aristocrats.
She is trying to get an interesting spin on the family which is fair enough. But it is real pot kettle situation for a Londoner working for a glamour video magazine to call other people 'posh'.
@@annaal7480 Well sure, but it is a tiny bit hypocritical to pose as lady of the people instead of acknowledging they are all priviliged at that table.
I hear the word privileged a lot coming from a woman who’s on a TV show, traveling, and carrying a LV suitcase. She has worked for that and just like she’s worked for what she has these families ancestors have worked hard to establish generational wealth and security. Of course wealthy people have more privilege because of money and connections however I don’t like to dismiss their hardwork just because they were set up right. I highly doubt if she has children she wouldn’t set them up for the absolute best because as parents that what we want for our children to have better than us. These kids seem lovely and down to earth as the parents which is wonderful to see.
You have to remember that while she is asking the questions, and she may be responding from her biased perspective, she is also asking generalised questions that the average or lower-incomed person is likely to be thinking. Privilege is subjective. If you notice, at the end, while they are eating in the pub, she says to the family that they are the poshest people she has ever met, and the mother responds by saying there are many more families even more posh than them. I, for example, don't have a good income. I rent an older townhouse and have almost nothing to my name, but I have a decent car, food in my stomach, I'm getting an education, and I have a comfortable place to sleep every night. That, for many others in the world, is absolutely privileged. I agree, the family seemed lovely. Out of touch at times, yes, but that is to be expected. I enjoyed their humour and even being open enough to let a stranger into their home with a cameraman for the weekend and answer questions that may or may not be somewhat uncomfortable. I appreciate the different perspectives a lot, and the children were definitely lovely.
Well Stacey did a lot to earn just for LV suitcase and never even seen hunting😎
@@amandaelynch1 Well said. The first part of what you said is especially astute because many people in the comment section don't seem to get the point and perspective of the show lol.
a woman wearing a 350 quid perfume...
I believe it keeps a lot of work to keep the generational wealth. Laziness leads to poverty.
Lovely family! I can’t believe Stacey by the end still insisted that they were “the most posh people I’ve ever met and ANYTHING but normal”
Harry should be a Ralph Lauren model. He epitomizes the 2023 collection.
He is true gentleman and very good looking.
And fair play to the old boy, patriarch of the family. He did inherit a large estate, but form what I gather it wasn’t in great order. He managed to build something out of it and employ far more folk than when he started, he is involved in the community. Good on them.
The interior of this home is exactly how I would imagine an upper class country home to look like. I love the colors on the walls and the very large oil paintings everywhere . It’s not cluttered and not bare. Feels almost family cozy.
Yeah, it's a modernised version of a grand, traditional house - quite tasteless tbh.
The interior feels old and outdated. I expected it though because of these landed families struggle to financially maintain these huge estates.
@@farzana6676 yeah being old and outdated is the purpose, no need to change everything wastefully each 15 years to look like what Dwell magazine says is modern.
@@souslesbombes The interior doesn't look 15 years old but rather looks 50 years old.
@@farzana6676 oh how vile of them lol
Poor Tracey was really looking forward to having arguments about wealth and privilege and suddenly everyone turns out to be rational, down to earth and appreciating of what they have. She was quite disappointed which had me smirking and giggling the whole time, loved it, lovely family.
I noticed that wealthy people keep their possessions such as furniture, household items and clothing for decades. Unlike people with much less money always buy the newest and best, completely wasting money. No wonder they can pass money to the next generation. Lovely family!
To buy the stuff that lasts costs more money. You need the money to start with
That’s because it’s worth something!!
would you keep a rug-like, ripped clothes? i would love to look neat and tidy at least
The difference is well made, quality versus cheap. It’s deeper than just furniture!😂
But the rich can afford to buy more expensive high quality products that they keep for years as for the rest of us who can't afford high quality furniture we buy cheap and replace the furniture when it goes bad
Seems like a nice family and the young man is a delight
This visiting woman is so condescending. I will continue to watch as i love this down to earth and humble family.
100% agree with you
She's awful. And no I'm not rich, far from it. She's obnoxious and rude. When she was sitting on the couch talking to that man, she had her feet up on the furniture. Her behavior on this episode sucked.
Yes, The familiy shows true class and 'real' gentility in her presence.
I totally agree. It almost made me lose interest in watching it. I am glad I did and got to know this family. They seem to be doing an excellent job with their lives.
She’s bitter for sure
Your Louis Vuitton suitcase is quite bougie!!
Surprisingly, I love this family. They were super funny, very welcoming and more down to earth than I expected them to be. I think most people here in the US with that kind of money would not be so welcoming, funny and down to earth.
They’re old money. Different than new money.
@@hezmydaddyo2722 Yes. New moneyed people are more snobbish and judgemental. They don't have the Class ,or the self confidence , imbibed in them to welcome people into their home so well
I noticed that, too! Ooh, Stacey, you have been a bit of Tracy after all.
English upper middle-class temperament?
@@jacqueline8559It greatly depends on the upbringing and what their values are. There are plenty of down to earth and honestly not even showy rich folks. So well hidden and humble you would never know they were rich.
Loved this family. Yes I was a bit disappointed in Stacey in this episode. Thought the family made her so welcome
being rich and being class are two different things. and this family is so lovely they have both of them. Life dealt them the cards they have and they just ran with it ; they appreciate what they have and they focus on values instead of living extravagantly. Sure they live comfortably, and that's what everyone wants when you're rich, which is absolutely normal behaviour. Stacey isn't wrong to say Britain isn't what it like in 27:18 when you grow up with privileged kids but she needs to remember that in any society in the world, there's upper class, middle class and lower class, her version of growing up does not represent whole Britain entirely.
What a beautiful and down to earth and humble family.
Stacey on the other hand 🙄 She seems like the type of person that tells everyone else to share their wealth, but will gladly keep hers.
Yes, just think how much money she could have donated to children in need instead of buying a LV suitcase. She comes across like a champagne-socialist. Absolutely ridiculous .
Can't stand her.
You really overestimate her income haha she has a one bedroom flat, if she was a millionaire, she'd not be living like that haha
People who have a normal income where they can live comfortably in a non-moldy flat in London are not really the bad guys in capitalism, sorry, your argument is just silly. Buying a LV suitcase (you don't even know if it's a genuine one or a copy bought on holiday in Vietnam) doesn't mean you're swimming in money
@@phoebeel The fact that she would need a statement suitcase with the logo of a luxury brand, genuine or fake, written across the whole thing is silly. You don't know about the status of her income neither, but there is one fact: she has a need for bling, which is totally fine but also totally inappropriate when visiting people who are living at the brink of poverty. Anyway, opinions may differ....
She’s too woke. Hypocrite
What a lovely positive family Open minded, fun, not arrogant, good people 😊❤
Oh dear! Stacey, you MUST take some basic etiquette lessons! I cringed, repeatedly. What a graceful, poised, gracious, hilarious (love the musical and comedic bond sooo passionately!) absolutely endearing , genuine family! Truly enjoyed them! But, tut tut on Stacey’s end.
What exactly are you tut'ing about? If you are going to comment on someones etiquette, probably best for you to help them improve on their mishaps.
I agree with you. Stacy was completely biased against them. She couldn't see through her own prejudices. I was very disappointed to witness this.
I also agree on this. I LOVE Stacey, but she seemed to be quite biased from the very start, and a lot of her jokes made me cringe. Normally her videos help show how people with very different lives still share a lot in common with others, but I think she didn't do the best job here. That being said- I probably would have acted the same way as Stacy, that level of wealth is baffling.
She's ignorant, dumb
What was she wrong about her etiquette? I would love to know
Love seeing the pan of the camera to the sons pheasant dinner doused with Heinz ketchup. Relatable in any household no matter the economic status.
Lol, yes I noticed that too!
I would gag if I had to eat pheasant
I was thinking the same thing😂
Oh my GOODNESS I LOVE THIS FAMILY SOOOOO MUCH!!!!! Also this should be the way children should be raised regardless of what education they get, they appreciate what they have and have been raised to work hard. They are so polite and charming and truly love and adore their life and family.
This is a cool family. It appears they’ve maintained their wealth through a great work ethic. Love their personalities as well.
Yeah they took that huge risk of taking out a loan against the estate to open an amusement park, and they run the pub. They weren't working in those places themselves, but I'm sure it took a lot of planning, guts, and ongoing management.
In my opinion, Stacy needs to act more like a guest, she sits herself down at the dinner table before anybody else, and she eat faster before anybody else she finishes first. She also starts eating. It looks like before anyone else.
Why should she change her upbringing to conform to the family’s norms
@@maureenbrophy7852 it’s just good manners however you’re brought up to be a good guest. It doesn’t matter who your parents are or who you’re staying with it’s always kind to be a good guest.
Her feet on the chair made me so angry…
@@enjoystraveling Please explain how this makes you a "bad" guest? And don't say it's poor manners or that it doesn't conform to etiquette. How could what she did cause any harm to anyone else? Unless they asked her to wait and she disregarded them, they have no reason to be upset other than some pretentious dining etiquette rules created for no reason hundreds of years ago to satisfy someone else's preference. People sitting down before you or starting their meal first, or eating faster shouldn't negatively impact your life. If they do, that's a sign that you have a pretty privileged life void of actual problems that you have to invent things to be upset about.
@@Scotter4536 you seem to be totally oblivious of a term called "courtesy." It's because these families, especially, learn to know their place, or at least are taught to, which could either be struggle or a joy for them. Either way, you, going in there acting like any of that are irrelevant show that you care only about yourself having no decency to consider what others might think or feel.
The ancestors of the upper class family earned their money. Smart enough to start and run a successful business. Some are born with the drive and intelligence, and others who aren't as successful may not be so driven.
Starting and running a business is not easy.
Her knee up at the table killed me, no matter what status have some manners girl
I was so shocked too. Of all the things I noticed was that!
Definitely 😂
Right?!? My father was a truck driver and even I know you don’t do that lol.
Her table manners were appalling.
Please come to my house and spit food at me while you speak ..............
Stacey you need to visit Mapperton and have a good chat with the earl of snadwich. They can tell you just how hard it is to maintain an estate. They work there buts off to not only maintain the house, but to also provide for all the people they are responsible for.
Yeah I think it’d be a massive headache to be responsible for maintaining a big old house like that.
What a lovely kind hearted family.
With great privilege comes great responsibility. The manners of the family are immaculate. They are great fun and wonderful hosts. I'd love a weekend there. ❤
True old honoured British values. Sad to see how they are being destroyed in the big towns.
They seemed very down to earth the whole family which is nice to see and sense of humor
Stacey is the snob here, there is such a thing as working class snobbery, where they fail to try and understand where other people come from, and have a chip on their shoulders because of their insecurities. Johnny may have inherited the estate etc, but unless you work and diversify, you will not hold on to what you are given. Also he created decent jobs in his locality.
Well said
100% agreed she's snobby the family is not but actually down to Earth ❤
yes and she also has prejudice towards private schools. If you receive really decent education about what is right and wrong, sense of value, and how to become a nice person, it does not matter if you are in school with other prestige kids or not.
It seems like you haven't grasped the concept here. She is intentionally challenging them, so she can understand their values better as a priviledged family when they show their true colours. They're a lovely family at the end of the day.
@@bingboyify She is VERY nice to that Roc Stanford guy and his privately educated children. She likes loony environmentalist who block traffic,
The Arkwright family inc their grandma r the outright stars of the show - funny, warm, hospitable n increasingly endearing as the show goes on. The two children are wonderfully polite and a delight to any parent. I am impressed.
I noticed that the mother was responsible for most of the entertaining, the planning, cooking etc.
I doubt it
That looked like a delicious Sunday roast at the end.
I’m watching and annoyed with Stacy’s arguments and line of conversation. I’m from a poor background but what does she expect privileged people to do? Walk around and hang their heads in shame? It is what it is we all couldn’t have been born into riches.
If that woman was a guest at my house she wouldn't be asked back.... the borderline snideness I suppose was part of her schtick, but it grated.
The only pople in the UK who can publicly be affronted or jeered at are the upper class. isn't it weird?
I agree with you. I thought she was rude. But that is probably all for show.
@@Chahlie Just remember that the show is edited. They would have had close to four days of footage and had to compress it down to 40 minutes. For that reason you will not get an accurate depiction of the entirety of the conversations that occurred.
@@Chahliebut she isn’t just a guest, but an interviewer, and her job is to ask into their lifestyle.
It's hilarious that Arabella's nude portrait is facing the family patriach's portrait! 5:42 Johnnie did very well for himself marrying her!
I did not expect nude portraits of family members, and the grandmother urging someone to play The Stripper on guitar! My American white trash self was scandalized by those placemats haha.
Why did the host feel the need to be so rude to this lovely family? Honestly,I would much rather spend my time with them than this snobby,and downright prejudiced TV host..
What an absolutely lovely family! They were so very gracious and down-to-earth. I thoroughly enjoyed this episode.
I like them. They’re decent people.
To the Arkwright family,
You represent seemingly the best of old English values. A lot of gratitude for this.
Stacey went with questions and asked them!! Frankly i cannot understand why so many are accusing her of being judgemental and rude. The family were very welcoming, gracious and full of humour. Asides from some tense moments i think they all enjoyed her presence and would be surprised to see the reactions of ppl who viewed this programme.
People are truly minding their place in this comment section.
Right?? I enjoyed this video😂
Most are commenting on Stacey’s rude behaviour. Poor table manners and often too familiar and privileged in her attitude.
What a lovely family! Their discipline and hard work comes across very clearly. I loved seeing their get together and sense of humour! May they continue to be blessed. ❤😊
Like teaching them to shoot the birds?!
Lovely home, humble and kind family, dogs, horses, home cooked meals, drinks and laughter. What’s not to love about this life? Ralph Lauren has made a fortune marketing this dream!
Its funny how our upbringing and deep rooted beliefs and stereotypes affect how we judge others. I felt Stacey still couldnt let go of her deep rooted judgements and alluding to privilege as a negative. This family was incredibly nice and down to earth, the children were not spoiled and all work hard and recognize their privilege and even though Stacey enjoyed her time with them, she still felt they were the 'others'. What I found interesting is how negatively Stacey viewed boarding school and private school - knowing a bit about the public education system - it is far from a good standard. Stacey clearly has managed to achieve success despite her dropping out of school, however that will not be the case for the majority of kids who go down that path. Why wouldnt you want to give your kids the best chance in life by receiving a good education, have a better chance at getting into university, and making friends and connections that are likely to help them in future? Why would you choose (given the theoretical choice) to give them a worse start in life? That I do not understand.
Exactly
Answering your question about the objection to private schools, there are several good reasons. One is that while those kids get a great education and connections that will serve them well for life, they are surrounded by a very limited portion of society that represents the most privileged. They miss out on diversity of thought to a large degree and having empathy for other people. I'm not saying that these people have no empathy or don't want to be empathic, but I'm sure if you had deeper conversations with them, there are plenty of topics that they can't understand or relate to given their lack of experience.
More importantly, private schools are a way for the wealthy to escape the public school system and give their kids an exclusive education. Imagine if you could outlaw private schools and force rich kids to go to public schools. Do you know how much better public schools would be if the kids of the most privileged and powerful people in that country went to them? How many more resources those schools would have, because the wealthy and politically connected would use all of the resources to make sure that the school had the best of the best teachers, facilities, opportunities, and so on?
Well, we don't have to imagine a country with an education system like this, because Finland only has publicly funded schools that are required to teach the same curriculum and can't charge any private funding. Oh, and Finland is the #1 public education system in the world.
@@Scotter4536 This is not entirely correct. I went to private school in Finland, two actually and spent all my years in school in them. My parents paid tuition. What is prohibited however is education for profit.
This family is so sweet!!
I’d love to come stay a vacation with this this family. They seem lovely and fun, down to earth and just normal.
Now the question is if they will be happy to welcome you😂
I could not eat with them
For me as a foreigner it is quite striking that some words are never used by upper classes, the most obvious is “posh”, the word visibly makes members of the family cringe. Another funny example is “wicked” when Stacey described the lad riding the horse, he just did not understand her and she had to use “amazing” instead.
I know, right? He said, "I'm sorry?" Because slang words were just so foreign to him. Admirable.
The Arkwrights made their fortune in the 18th & 19th century by employing impoverished children to work in cotton mills for 13 hours a day. During the most profitable peak of their ancestor Richard's mill empire, more than 60% of his employees were poor children. Whole families had to work to keep themselves from starving.
I'm also not convinced by the suggestion that the almost-empty amusement park provides sufficient income to support that entire estate, complete with over 100 employees & a wealthy family accustomed to the finer things in life. I'd guess there's at least one significant family trust involved.
On the other hand: Stacey is an incredibly charming, warm & funny host--and clearly an incredibly charming, warm & funny guest as well. I'm off to find more vids from this series.
You also left out the part where his ancestor Richard invented the spinning frame rotary engine to expedite cotton manufacturing. It’s not like they did nothing to deserve their wealth.
@@lj5116 Lmao Arkwright did not invent the spinning frame. Arkwright was an entrepreneur--he employed the men who invented the spinning frame, & took credit for & patented their inventions in his own name. He was the Elon Musk of his day:
"Richard Arkwright employed John Kay to produce a new spinning machine that Kay had worked on with (or possibly stolen from) another inventor named Thomas Highs. With the help of other local craftsmen, including Peter Atherton, the team developed the spinning frame, which produced a stronger thread than the spinning jenny invented by James Hargreaves. The frame utilised the draw rollers invented by Lewis Paul to stretch, or attenuate, the yarn."
And in fact Arkwright's patents were effectively challenged in court, on the basis that his patents did not demonstrate original invention & that he'd had copied the inventions of others. The court ultimately decided against Arkwright, cancelling his patents.
@@tothelighthouse9843 do you have any alternative means in mind for how resources should, and could, effectively be distributed; in a more meritocratic way?
She was less judgmental with the family who have no rules😂 I prefer these lots by far!
In the U.S., the people who hunt are mainly middle class, it's interesting that it's considered an upper class sport in the U.K..
Aren't they called rednecks in the US?
People have - prior to Industrial Revolution and, more recently supermarkets - hunted and fished in various manners also in the poorest of British communities.
Idk where you're from but the poorest in the u.s. deerhunt...the deer and other game they shoot is their family's food for the year- At least where I grew up. The richer you are the more you don't have to depend on hunting cause tou can afford nice meals out and grocery store meat.
@@aimeeciszek6672 Yes, it's lower and middle class.
Actually alot of them are lower middle class too.
I must say I was a bit disappointed with Stacey in this episode. She came into this with a lot of preconceived notions. Regardless of how kind, gracious and welcoming this family was, she behaved with extreme prejudice to them. They were so friendly and jovial, they didn’t judge her once, but she treated them with clear disapproval from the start.
I 100% agree!!!
I would say they were judgemental - the 'three / free' comment, the eating boiled egg. Yes they were also welcoming etc, but you can't say they weren't judgemental
She has the right to do that.
shes common as muck stacey
The one with Down Syndrome was nice though.
Has Stacey never read a British novel or watched a miniseries? How is she so "unfamiliar" with this lifestyle? 😅
She's just trying to create a narrative that they're so different to the common man.
They seem lovely. Also the granny not knowing where Luton was made me chuckle.
Stacy did not pronounce it right, that is why she did not understand her, she doesnt pronounce the T.
She did, you don't say "near London" without knowing where Luton is. Add to this Stacey's ill proounciation
More to do with Stacey's inability to pronounce the T in Luton 😂 when she repeated it with the T the woman knew exactly where it was.
It was stacey's pronunciation that threw her! Lu-on instead of Luton. For some reason, it has become a habit (and I see it even on TV anchors, and the like), to leave out hard T's and D's. I watched a famous cable personality continually saying Pu-in for Putin and it drove me mad!
Stacey purposely did inappropriate things in this video just to be annoying and make it seem like she's very different. The family are quite normal and moderate. It's entertainment after all.
I find people who come from lower classes often do this as a way to be defiant when in a posh setting. It's rather irritating if you ask me. If the tables are turned, Posh people would certainly have the manners to adjust their behaviour accordingly.
An estate such as this takes very hard work and a lot of money to sustain itself. This family obviously works and plays hard, and they seem quite likeable.
Yes. Most landed gentry are struggling to keep the lights on in the modern era. The houses are just too large for them to maintain. Asset rich, income light.
Love this charming family, mom has such a fun personality, grandma is hilarious! Great episode!
To Grandma! Cheers!
I thought English thought Americans were blunt and straight forward but she’s taking the cake on these questions. He’s handling himself with grace with all these rude questions. Definitely a better way to phrase it
In the USA only in the North and Great Lakes are they are blunt. Not in the South or on the West Coast.
Stacy Dooley's children will definitely be privileged!
It's ironic that she finds that a problem for posher families!🤔
Yes but Stacey doesn't have an estate or wealth so she feels like shes not getting her fair share. She only has common privilege.
She has fame and influence she is just as privileged. Just blythely ignorant of it.
You don't understand the British class system...
What a lovely lovely family- they may have different hobbies/ lifestyle but these are normal people doing their best it’s admirable 💞💞💞
I think lots of Americans picture Britain like these people. Honestly, I was shocked that Stacey had never seen those hunts or country estates in real life. I thought it was more common to see, but seems like a sort of hidden life.
It is common to see if live in a rural or semi rural area, A child brought up in a city would not be venturing out to rural areas unless the parents enjoyed rural pursuits and took the child out of the city at weekends
It’s really no different from a kid in LA being familiar with the wine estates of Sonoma. It’s always there but many people don’t ever get to see it and living at that level is for the very rich and privileged. And it always was. US citizens are delusional if they think most Brits always lived a Downtown Abbey lifestyle. Most Brits would be the servants and the people in the local village with a small holding or butchers shop and there would be ONE rich family in the Manor House. Only a very few can own 800+ acres in England.
It's not common for British city people to see hunts out in the countryside though. The hunts mostly take place on private farmland and estates.
Imagine how much this hunting costs😎 how much does it cost to own a field, horses, people taking care of horses, dogs and so on. And all that is just.... for a family hobby. In US you go for McDonald's as family tradition paying 20$ and they just do hunting which costs millions😂
@@svetlanap5276 yep anything to do with owning horses is a privileged lifestyle.
Totally off-topic and I'm not American but it makes me think of school murderer Ethan Crumbley who brought himself up on video games while his two middle-class parents spent every last cent and time that they had free on their 2 horses.
“Conversation turns to wealth…” ie Stacey brings it up with an invasive question.
What did you think she was there to do? Have a picnic?
That is the point of this programme that the family agreed to
I feel like she was just hating on the fact that they were wealthy. there is no issue, in order to stay rich you need to continuously work hard, and that's not something she's willing to understand
To love and to labour is the sum of life - wise drunk grandma
Anaïs Nin quote
Or a stupid old woman that exhibited all the traits that make the privileged an item of scorn. The children seemed to be nice in spite of the attitudes of the older generation.
No wonder this country is rooted when you read all sycophantic comments here. They can’t really grasp how difficult life is for some people and subtly, and not so subtly in the case of granny, imply it’s peoples fault that they are poor.
This family is incredible down to earth. They don't boast of wealth, they hunt for their own dinner, they prioritize values for their children, they don't have servants and other assumed privileges. I think she was unfair with her tone at dinner regarding how good they have it. They displayed humility and gratitude and generosity in hosting and serving her.
They actually are delightfully normal
For some people, “normal” is rude, is tv and TikTok, the Daily Mail, swearing and road rage, public disorder, leaving school with no GCSEs, single-parenthood etc. Aside from their wealth, this family appear to be unusual in that the children - not to mention the parents - are open, sufficiently self-aware, welcoming, caring even and listen and are polite to a young woman who is, surely unintentionally, a little rude at times.
They are modest, charming and civilized which is definitely not the norm in the UK and more.
I thought Stacey was rude. The family was lovely to her and she kept picking away at father uncomfortable if not taboo subject matter
This family is gracious, open and friendly, good on them!! Send your kids to the best schools align them with the best association and guide/teach them. The end result usually pays off in many ways.
I thought the family was pretty polite, esp the son, and felt like Stacy was a bit rude which was surprising.
This family is amazing and hard workers, can you not see they do work they are not sitting around doing nothing they hunt for there food, they don’t go to grocery stores. Good on them. They work very hard.
I love this family.I love there values.The kids and parents are lovely normal family.❤
I was interested that the Arkwrights did not have servants--at least no wait staff, no coins, no personal valets, or maids. The second thing that I found amusing was that Stacy called the Arkwrights posh, yet she was the one sporting a Louis Vuitton suitcase!
Stacey... Typical 'new money' snob, actually common and ill-educated
Uhm you do realize not all people living in mansions or castles have servants !?
Louis Vitton is a tacky brand for poor people who want to look posh.
I am from the US. Definitely not “posh”. Very low income currently. But we were middle class when I grew up. Raising my family we were also middle class. Until my divorce.
I have 2 Louis Vitton purses’, 1 bag, 2 wallets. I would love a suitcase. They do sell them at TJ Max.
Maybe tax season or Santa clause hey.
So just saying. It isn’t just the very rich that can have these items.
Cause I am poor asf and have these things.
🤔 maybe I should sell them
An LV suitcase these days shows how nouveau you are …
Coming from a relatively poor background we
(all seven of us)were sent to boarding school at age ten (secondary).Not alone did we receive a good education but we were made stand on our own two feet (decorum, fair-mindedness and the ability to live within our means). Former classmates have/ are putting their kids trough boarding school atm, please God someday I too will have the same privilege. This has got to one of best vlogs / episodes ever, a truly warm and engaging home full of love and respect for each other.
To Harry & Violet's parents,
We salute you
for a job well done,
Keep up the good work 'Tracey Pigott' 🏇 😁
I enjoy an educational conversation or friendly debate regarding public vs private schools and people's stances on it. I have only attended public school, so I have no experience with private schools. I also wonder if location (country) matters in the overall experience. I think even having differing stances on the subject has a level of privilege underlining it since public school, for many, is the only option for parents. If I had a child entering school, I would likely choose homeschool. If there were advanced learning opportunities, I would also look into options for that, also. I think the public school system is flawed, and I did not enjoy my time there; however, I acknowledge how access to free education is a necessity, and I am grateful it exists. I also understand the potential problems with private schools, like having limited to no access to different socioeconomic classes. Ultimately, I support whatever option is best for the individual person, and whatever helps them grow into a decent and capable adult.
Minute 9:02 , note the beautiful freshly cut flowers at the bedside in the guestroom! Such a nice detail to make Your guest feel welcome 😊💐
Stacey is often critical of the host family's lifestyle, doesn't seem most of the commenters are aware of the show's format
Its kinda her job to be critical and question them. The whole point of the show is for her to go to into people's homes who live very different lives to her own and learn more about them and question why they live the way they do. If she agreed with them on everything, there wouldn't be a point to the show. Her job is to sometime's play "Devil's Advocate".
She doesn’t have to be rude while doing it.
This was such fun to watch . Such a delightful family and so welcoming to Stacey. ❤
A calm, welcoming, animal loving (exception re fox hunting of course) family who dealt with Stacey's differing perspectives with warmth and humor. If ever I had the chance, I'd be happy to become the interloper for a weekend!
TO STACEY, IF YOU CAN'T ACCEPT THE FACT THAT THERE ARE ALWAYS GOING TO BE A DIFFERENCE WITHIN SOCIETIES, LIVE IN A CAVE. YOU ARE NOT ENTITILED TO JUDGE & CRIMINALIZE OTHERS JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE RICHER THAN YOU. THIS FAMILY MADE A MISTAKE BY INVITING YOU AN UNGRATEFUL WOMAN INTO THEIR HOME. THE WORLD NEEDS INDUSTRIOUS & SUCCESSFUL FAMILIES LIKE THE ONE FEATURED HERE WHO PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES & EMPMOYMENT TO OTHERS. FROM, NORTH & WEST INDIA
They've been in their family mansion for merely four generations (probably apx 100y, since 1910s-1920s). Within british upperclass standards they're still 'new money'.
i liked the Arkwright family much more than I liked Stacey. Just saying. They were way more polite and honest than she is. And dang, that family works hard, and no hired help, either! Wow. Go, Arkwrights! You deserve what you have, and you seem to all work for it. No noses in the air here.
It was a delightful episode, and I think Tracey😅 did just fine. She has to ask the difficult question and she did it with grace. What a lovely family.
i loved seeing the dog sit in the trunk as stacey was leaving. so cute!
I would never, even as a small child, act as rude as this women was here. And I’m American
This girl seems to have an attitude toward those who have more than she does.
Not the cap-doffing, know-your-place servility you were hoping for, eh? Atta "girl".
Envy, because this family was splendid contrary to the expectation.
I also sense a feeling of sadness, longing for something non material.
It is just too much, they are delighful, hard working, well educated children and a stunning mansion.
It is just too much.
It made her feel sad somehow. In my opinion.
Pity she went upstairs when the family had organized a dinner, obviously in her honour as a guest.
The evening with the guitar playing and singing was really nice.
She missed something there.
She was also introduced to a gentleman, she was placed next to him at the table. She could have had an interesting and more insighful conversation with, he was willing, it showed. Missed that as well. Why.
I don't understand.
Pity.
This family is a rarity.
I would set it as an example.
A lot of people with an inferiority complex and psychological blocks towards deserving good things, abundance etc, tend to. Esp if they haven't looked at those and worked to heal them.
Not everyone who has little, has these traits. Also, many who have a lot, have those traits.
It is always unpleasant tho. 🙃
YES
@@prezkrkI don't know what you were watching but she was clearly present the entire dinner and sitting listening to the guitar and the singing. It cut to shots of her going to bed but that was after the fact. Hence why she said the questions would have to wait until tomorrow because they were all listening to the music.
I think the family is very gracious and charming
Stacey seems very judgmental. She is also very privileged but for some reason being rich and living in the city is fine.
Yes, it does seem the kettle is calling them black. I agree that the diversity in attitude seems to be more reflected with Stacey , as if she is waiting to make comparisons . I sense the family holds healthy values and from what has been shown the parents have done a lovely job raising their children to be decent human beings , no matter what their status or privalege. This was a very good documentary and I, sure if she interviewed other rich families their would be differences all over the map .
It is amusing, isn't it? Supposedly living in an expensive city like London, earning a good living through entertainment and wearing trendy clothes is a-okay but not being rich and living in the country if you're from old money. Weird.
Money simply cannot buy class
Is it really that expensive to live in Brighton in a one bedroom flat?
it's impossible to watch really
Min 28 "[In] their desire to succeed, they understand that that comes from a hard work. Whatever gets in your way in life you myst, you just got to keep going. keep believing, you know; it's always going to get better and if it doesn't get better then it's not the end."
"To Love and to labor is the sum of life."
I‘ve been watching a bunch of these sleepovers back to back and always had a look at the comments. This is the first comments section that truly stands out to me.
Staceys behaviour hasn’t changed at all across all these different living situations. She asks some daring questions and they‘re all different, but hit deep spots in their own way for each family. This comments section likes to point out her „rude“ behaviour and how she „needs a course in manners“ apparently. Now I wonder why the people act that way. Is it a very British-centered comments section and the brits just love their Lords and Ladies so they don‘t want to hear insults? Do people like the idea/fantasy of growing up and living rich so much, they don‘t want to talk down on it? Do people believe they‘ll gain some sort of respect from rich people for „defending“ them?
This seemed like a very nice family and Stacey had some great points. It is an extremely privileged situation they‘re living in and they might‘ve worked hard, or some of them have, but they would not have been able to gather this amount of wealth if they weren’t in these positions in the first place. Acknowledging privilege doesn’t make these people bad, but it acknowledges the fact that of course everyone wants nice things for themselves and their children, lots of people will never be able to provide these things because of the financial disparity.
Pointed questions and ill manners are not an "economic" factor. My family were middle class immigrants, but we were taught table manners and that there is a way in which one asks a question as to not insult a host. It is not a matter of how much money a family has, it is how one is taught as a child to behave in a mannerly fashion. Learning to be mannerly makes it easy for one to mingle with all economic stratums of society.
I watched few sleepover episodes b2b too, and I liked Stacy a lot, but here I found her manners really odd, like she felt challenged or something that way. I'm not even English but lived quite a bit of time in England and had opportunities to meet wealthy people and absolutely they can be annoying, but this family is fantastic, so I can't understand Stacy's behaviour at all
For those who are attuned to it, it is the sound of Marxist ideology which colors her questions. One is supposed to, in her mind, feel badly about being rich, about generational wealth, about the life-styles. Yet, one notes that she has Louis Vuitton luggage and a liking for luxury herself. That is what I find disturbing. Marxism is an ideology full of envy.
@@LeeLee-ct2vv
I'm irish and could give no fucks about British anything. Stacy is rude in this because she has no basic human respect for a genuine family giving her respect. Its simple courtesy. I'm a single mother who has lived under the poverty line. Yes there can be alot of privilege inherited for sure. But sit at their table and downplay hard work is just plain rude. There's ways of articulating things without being disrespectful. The family clearly understand where they have been lucky and are extremely humble and accept Stacy as she comes. The same simple concept cannot be said the other way around. Again its about basic respect.
This comment section is extremely suspicious. I mean people are surprised that most English people don't own horses and don't hunt foxes on sprawling private property. They think this is a "rural" thing. I think we're talking bots and foreigners who romanticize nobility. And of course, good old woman hating- they're focusing on Stacy, while conveniently overlooking that the guy never even bothers to remember her name. Oh and, nobody mentions how this family MADE THEIR WEALTH- which is absolutely hilarious. A missed opportunity to showcase how the rich mistake profiteering for "LUCK".
It’s interesting that Stacy sits at their breakfast table with her leg up and her foot on their chair, talking to them about privilege I find that she’s very rude sitting like that at someone’s table, there is no winner in this argument. People that have lots of money are very frugal, and they are a product of generational wealth where many generations have contributed to where they are. There is no need to punish families that have worked very hard for generations to get where they are. it’s an obvious class difference and you need only to look
Yes, the frugality of historical chattel slavery. One saves so much money when one doesn't have to pay the workers.
@@EdwardLindon I sense some jealousy. It must be hard to live in a society where your birth determines how far you can go.
@@EdwardLindonyou are aware that slavery was outlawed in England over a thousand years ago..by one of the saxon kings?dont ask me which one ..I cant remember.
Lovely family. Country vrs city. The stress of keeping a home and land,employees, repairs on the property is I feel sure overwhelming. I didnt see posh in this family. I saw country people that hunt ,ride instead of going to plays etc. Family is close, sacrifice for their children to be educated vrs the family that didnt educate their children and lived off the government. Stacy lives in a 1 bedroom flat in London,I cant imagine the cost but very expensive. Plus I bet its warm . 1 offers employment to 150 people,impressive.
The Arkwrights are a good familly .. Well done for accepting Stacey and allowing the video.. I wish you all well for the future !!
Im absolutely loving this sleepover series. Especially as an American. Brilliant show
I'm not a fan of the concept of the aristocracy, but the family is absolutely delightful.
This has been thought provoking. I grew up upper-middle class in Canada. We had a 3000 sqft house with 3 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms, a high ceiling foyer with big chandelier and curving staircase, and a full unfinished basement, on 1/2 acre. That was considered a huge lot where we lived. I identify more with the Dooleys than with Stacy. I was taught a lot of the things that they do, in regard to things like table manners, how to sit, how to talk, how to entertain, how to be a guest. I think Stacey came to their home with a big chip on her shoulder, they were really warm, welcoming, and nice to her, and she was brash and near rude to them. She could have at least tried to eat her egg nicely. Sweats on her first day? Really? I remember when my half sister would visit, and we'd all be put off by how crudely she held her fork, like she had to kill her food before it ran away. And one of my childhood friends who came over and drank from her bowl and licked her plate like an animal. I know many of you won't understand that, but to us it was like barbarism. So I have learned about myself. It's odd because I've lived most of my adult live financially poor, under $30,000./CAD/yr, only briefly rising to middle class once. Class is about more than how much money, or how much land you have. I now am the proud empress of my own 4300 sqft estate in the frozen north of my country, and my own 726 sqft mansion.
I was most touched by when Mr Arkwright said the hunt saboteurs don't like them.
Talking with food in the mouth ..knee on the table...loud .. extremely judgmental.... calling people posh n they insist they're not...its all very crass
She had horrible table manners. Even sitting down at the table first
She was cringe. They work hard. She tired to tell them to come down to her level. They politely refused and even the granny demanded they stay hard working and bring others up to their level. She, Stacey, was horrible. They are amazing and a great representation of the good parts of Britain.