A Woman's Presence is Help, Not Her Money

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  • @femininelogic5078
    @femininelogic5078 Před 5 lety +1707

    Men feel nothing when they leave women that they have used up. Be just as ruthless when you reject them or tell them that you are leaving them for a man that is going to spoil you. They never have remorse for what they do so don’t feel bad for them either.

  • @SagRising19
    @SagRising19 Před 5 lety +1314

    "Never build with a man, unless you're an architect." 💯

    • @umsiee
      @umsiee Před 5 lety +44

      I wish I got the memo in my 20s!!! 🤔😪😭😭

    • @TheWholeWorld1
      @TheWholeWorld1 Před 5 lety +7

      ...how does your husband feel about that.. oh wait...

    • @umsiee
      @umsiee Před 5 lety +18

      @@TheWholeWorld1 😂😂😂 who u talking to? 😂

    • @dcaramelone
      @dcaramelone Před 5 lety +20

      @@TheWholeWorld1 you know she's married right? 18 years and counting.

    • @georgec8210
      @georgec8210 Před 5 lety +3

      Her husband is 80. U can find normal men at a normal age with money or with a career. She is a loser. Even Viagra can't help her husband. She is probably using toys on herself and watching golden girls with him.

  • @Popoutandhandle
    @Popoutandhandle Před 5 lety +978

    Only broke sensitive men will see this as bad advice to women. I'll love for my daughter to have this understanding.

    • @wonttrickmea1869
      @wonttrickmea1869 Před 5 lety +43

      michael Murray-smith smart man

    • @demonkid16
      @demonkid16 Před 4 lety +9

      Farhiya A no father wants their daughter to struggle when they don’t need to. But no good father wants to enslave their son to a woman who only seeks material possessions.
      Men who only work to pay the bills live miserable lives. Women who do not love the men they are with but only like what they get are toxic for a mans wellbeing.
      Disregard that this rat-race is dating/marriage strategy results in the vast majority of women in a position worse off than had they actually worked-the smart father makes sure his daughter is set with the best future she can by enabling her the best type of education she can get and preparing her for the real world.
      I want my daughter to grow up to be an adult that can handle being independent if necessary but hopefully she find someone that both loves her and treats her right.
      Read my response to the man because by trying this out the likelihood of you failing are vastly greater than your probability of success. Unless you are middle eastern and already set in an arranged marriage what Shera advocates dooms more than 90% of the people that try it to a life of misery.

    • @demonkid16
      @demonkid16 Před 4 lety +2

      @Farhiya A If the men that approach you are traditional and want that traditional nuclear family. Go for it. Nothing wrong with that. The problem lies when you are overall toxic to men. A lot of the women commenting on this are toxic to men. They do not care about men. They only care for what a man can get them.
      If you can find the traditional man...you have to lock him down soon or he may not be traditional for much longer (I was one such case). The longer you wait the fewer the men like that exist in the dating marketplace. And Shera is pretty much pushing a pyramid scheme. There is a limited number of men of means and that number drops even further when it comes to those who want the type of lifestyle Shera wants (some of us don't have a problem with a stay at home wife if its a decision both party come together on but meeting someone who's life aspiration is simply to stay at home is pretty... offputting.) I don't see myself being challenged by a woman who does nothing but watches tv all day and spends maybe 45 mins working out. Also, it puts a smart man at a big disadvantage if the marriage falls apart. The smart man understands the law and how that low works and how to mitigate risk. A stay-at-home wife is a big liability in more ways than one.
      This is cultural though. If you are middle eastern where that is kinda the norm--it can be ignored. I have quite a few middle eastern or Indian friends who had arranged marriages. It is so deeply ingrained that it somehow works. They sometimes learn to love the person they are with (and also they have a rather high ceiling when it comes to divorce). So people must stay together and work on their problems. In the states? People don't work on their problems. They look for the easy solution which is leaving the situation altogether. Which is smart for a woman who has a win-win situation going on but for a man? That's a lose-lose situation.
      So if you find yourself in a position where you think you are lucky? and the guy thinks so as well. Go for it.

    • @tiffanyjohnson172
      @tiffanyjohnson172 Před 4 lety +3

      🔥

    • @moontears3887
      @moontears3887 Před 4 lety +22

      @@demonkid16 That's a lie, there's actually more men than women. Everything you posted is wrong.

  • @sarinakarim2513
    @sarinakarim2513 Před 5 lety +689

    Men these days make you feel guilty or bad for saying you want a providing man to marry.

    • @cookiefacetwgirlxoxo5947
      @cookiefacetwgirlxoxo5947 Před 5 lety +91

      That is so true males in my family give me grief for wanting a provider, all their girlfriend build with them. At least we know it's worth it in the end.

    • @sarinakarim2513
      @sarinakarim2513 Před 5 lety +83

      @@cookiefacetwgirlxoxo5947 lol that sad depressing life of being a financial supporter and a housewife two in one.

    • @cookiefacetwgirlxoxo5947
      @cookiefacetwgirlxoxo5947 Před 5 lety +55

      @@sarinakarim2513 true I watch my sister kids and taught me I wanted to be a housewife. I appreciate my mom all the time she cook, clean, working at the hospital. I love her but I can't do all that.

    • @sarinakarim2513
      @sarinakarim2513 Před 5 lety +73

      @@cookiefacetwgirlxoxo5947 Nah I wouldn't be able to do both either and then be expected to look my best being well kept and forever active to make love. Too much stress doing everything.

    • @cookiefacetwgirlxoxo5947
      @cookiefacetwgirlxoxo5947 Před 5 lety +11

      @@sarinakarim2513 true

  • @marthadivine8426
    @marthadivine8426 Před 5 lety +566

    Men who want women to build with them, often times leave the women for someone that's younger. The younger women often times reaps the benefits on what the Bob the builder chick has done.

  • @brownsugarbaby5003
    @brownsugarbaby5003 Před 5 lety +1177

    My sister is married and she does work, but her husband supports her and their son and she keeps 100% of her paycheck! All she does is go to work to have somewhere to wear all her clothes LOL!

    • @SquirlieMcSquirrel
      @SquirlieMcSquirrel Před 5 lety +40

      💯👏👏

    • @ingood0867
      @ingood0867 Před 5 lety +106

      Well done, I like that scenario as well. Lol

    • @Shtotagdetotryot1
      @Shtotagdetotryot1 Před 5 lety +134

      Lol my sister is also married and works and her husband pays for everything

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 Před 4 lety +114

      This should be the norm but too many women being taught to be equal to and impress the man.

    • @hazelbaby8081
      @hazelbaby8081 Před 4 lety +27

      that’s the life 😍❤️

  • @EmpressofChrist
    @EmpressofChrist Před 5 lety +470

    Omg! She said a line that I used when I was dating my husband lol. I told him my daddy never let my mom work . He has always been the provider. Anyway when I got married I told my husband. (My daddy said when are u gonna put me on your insurance and he got on it asap. Ladies be assertive!

    • @EmpressofChrist
      @EmpressofChrist Před 5 lety +59

      @Paul a sucka with a set life insurance, traveling the world, and shopping with his credit cards 😁👈

    • @EmpressofChrist
      @EmpressofChrist Před 5 lety +64

      @Paul of course you wouldn't, you cant afford it👈😁

    • @EmpressofChrist
      @EmpressofChrist Před 5 lety +51

      @@alanpapashow1926 while I'm enjoying my wealthy life with my husband 👈. You'll just spend the rest of your dusty life being a (parasite 👈) to the dusty community 😆

    • @moontears3887
      @moontears3887 Před 4 lety +11

      @Paul I feel sorry for your girlfriend.

    • @brianjohnson241
      @brianjohnson241 Před 4 lety

      @Paul they claim their independent and need no man they good

  • @vanessajay1077
    @vanessajay1077 Před 5 lety +610

    I noticed working women (including my mother in law) have a serious issue w me because I don't work. I decorate the home, take care of our children and study my spirituality. Oh, I shop too. I'm actually likable and I'm loving my life.

    • @khwezay
      @khwezay Před 5 lety +15

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @Glass088
      @Glass088 Před 4 lety +17

      The same hand that feeds you can also starve you. Handle it your way

    • @khwezay
      @khwezay Před 4 lety +64

      @@Glass088 shut up dusty

    • @leeslyrose
      @leeslyrose Před 4 lety +20

      Khwezi Lourdes 😂😂😂♥️♥️

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 Před 4 lety +72

      They're jealous and bitter. Ignore and enjoy.

  • @madamsophia1503
    @madamsophia1503 Před 4 lety +231

    Gold Nugget: A man don’t love himself or his woman or the baby in her stomach, if he gotta ask her to go out and work and help him, while she’s super pregnant.

  • @SAE9880
    @SAE9880 Před 5 lety +380

    I can't stand when a man asks me about my goals financially. It's because it should not matter is you are a provider

    • @Metaphysicalmindspace777
      @Metaphysicalmindspace777 Před 5 lety +60

      Nikki Luminous Don’t answer that question. I’ll never tell another man any financial information. That’s personal and not his business. If he keeps asking LIE.

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +3

      @@Metaphysicalmindspace777 and then hell dump you

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  Před 5 lety +159

      my answer would be, To be lucky like my mom and Find a man who takes care of everything .

    • @phalynwilliams4119
      @phalynwilliams4119 Před 5 lety +56

      If a man asks you about your $$$ then he is a dusty. Red flag..... Run!

    • @demonkid16
      @demonkid16 Před 4 lety

      @@alanpapashow1926 Don't worry man. If I asked that and someone avoids the question I immediately know they aren't worth my attention. That means they are either in debt or have no future outside the one where you make it for them. It also means I know exactly how to protect myself and my assets against them. I won't say how because they would just try the opposite and that just creates even more problems for the men dumb enough to fall for it.
      Much like their distaste for "dusty's" some if not most men of means have the same idea about women with no future or of little value. You get relegated to "I can have fun with you but we won't be serious with you". This means we absolutely bring our own condoms.
      AKA: they are losers.
      I would much rather marry a doctor that makes half what I make and have her quit her job indefinitely or temporarily while raising a child than not. Based on what we mutually decided than a woman whose only aspiration is sitting at the house watching tv and doing who knows what else (besides shopping). In the end--my wife could at least be shown around in high society as a doctor or former doctor. It brings a level of prestige in social settings.
      My wife just shops around and does nothing all day doesn't carry that type of prestige around. If anything I would be the joke of all the guys.
      And Shera's response would tell me it's a generational thing. Which means I will not be getting along with the parents. This means a mandilon/whipped father and an overbearing mother in law.
      This is true for at least those of us who aren't black and would be targeted by these types of females.

  • @salescustomer-service2050
    @salescustomer-service2050 Před 5 lety +584

    My ex told me he didn't want a woman who is financially dependant on him. He wanted a woman who is financially independent that doesn't depend on him. When he said that to me, I told him he isn't a man. It's not a wonder why he's had two failed marriages.

    • @amasion2882
      @amasion2882 Před 5 lety +59

      I like men like your ex. He was honest about what he expected. Less waste of time.

    • @salescustomer-service2050
      @salescustomer-service2050 Před 5 lety +143

      @@amasion2882 he wasn't honest. In the beginning, he pretended to be on the same page as me. His honesty came once he was tired of faking. 😂😂

    • @amasion2882
      @amasion2882 Před 5 lety +8

      Sales Customer-Service : Well at least less time was wasted than if he continued the pretense.

    • @Metaphysicalmindspace777
      @Metaphysicalmindspace777 Před 5 lety +21

      Sales Customer-Service the women that married him thought he would change. Oh well.

    • @salescustomer-service2050
      @salescustomer-service2050 Před 5 lety +5

      @@Metaphysicalmindspace777 you know I didn't think of that factor. 😂😂

  • @sophabreela6023
    @sophabreela6023 Před 5 lety +185

    Just broke up with my bf of 2 years. He’s not my level at all. Just because he took a few flights to come see me, he kept complaining about how he has done enough and i should be the one paying for the hotels not him. Told him he needs to date a man. Done with his dusty ass. There are many men out there who would be happy to spoil me and know i’m worth it.

    • @alunalalune8691
      @alunalalune8691 Před 5 lety +29

      Girl he did not ask you to grab the hotel?! Lmao you would be literally paying for a room for him to give you some D!

    • @villcat9750
      @villcat9750 Před 4 lety +32

      Lol. Yes he totally needs to find a man.

    • @tijeraslack3
      @tijeraslack3 Před 4 lety +8

      Sophabreel A Hell no! He needed to go. Bye, bye!

  • @loveself6396
    @loveself6396 Před 5 lety +318

    I’m losing so many friends & family. That’s how I know I’m leveling up. Way up

  • @DearMsFabulous
    @DearMsFabulous Před 5 lety +273

    TashaK has over 500 thousand subbies in a year for gossip. You should have over a million subbies. Women priorties are in the wrong order. Soaking up your knowledge!

    • @hsohliyt
      @hsohliyt Před 5 lety +88

      When a student is ready the teacher will appear. Let them come on their own time.

    • @LetsGoLaNita
      @LetsGoLaNita Před 5 lety +14

      😂 I just literally left Tashak's channel to come finish this video.

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  Před 5 lety +50

      " Here we measure success by how many people successful next to you, here we say you broke if everyone is broke except for you>" .Jay z.... Boss ( The Carters Album )

    • @breannanouveaux5132
      @breannanouveaux5132 Před 5 lety +20

      SheRaSeven1 BOOM!!!! Leveled up women understand that it is quality over quantity.

    • @ThingsILikke
      @ThingsILikke Před 2 lety +3

      I loved Tasha K before she blew up. Once she blew up her jealousy over white people really came through in the really nasty things she would say and I found it very gross.

  • @DearMsFabulous
    @DearMsFabulous Před 5 lety +364

    The movie "Diary of A Mad Black Woman." She built him up, he kicked her out of their mansion w/o anything not even her clothes, and moved his woman in. But she got the last laugh. Love this movie.

    • @SEKHMET-7777
      @SEKHMET-7777 Před 5 lety +136

      Unfortunately, in real life most women dont get the last laugh, we are heartbroken.

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +7

      Get a job ladies

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +1

      @@goldenmoon739 get a job ladies...we don't feel like paying your food stamps

    • @sb4074
      @sb4074 Před 5 lety +32

      Also the movie Waiting to Exhale. Her husband did the same shit.

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  Před 5 lety +165

      @@alanpapashow1926 Why so we can out earn you and then call you broke and still look for a man with more money anyway???

  • @Ms_Sharpie
    @Ms_Sharpie Před 5 lety +244

    Women, please stop auditioning for the part of wife (i.e. cooking & cleaning for him and being available for his bed when he wants you to be). Too many of us have wasted our youth doing just that until he leaves or until you wake up and leave.

    • @mark01ization
      @mark01ization Před 5 lety +2

      So you honestly expect to land a man without doing any of that?

    • @Ms_Sharpie
      @Ms_Sharpie Před 5 lety +40

      @@mark01ization I'm not saying don't do these things at all. I cook and clean at my house so he knows I have the skills. Sometimes I cook and invite him over to dine then sometimes I cook at his house. I'm saying don't use up your life doing them at a wife level (usually living together) if he hasn't married you.

    • @mark01ization
      @mark01ization Před 5 lety +4

      @@Ms_Sharpie OK was just curious. Sounds reasonable. Best of luck.

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 Před 4 lety +1

      Yessss

    • @emmajohnson1744
      @emmajohnson1744 Před 3 lety +9

      Wish if I could get my twenties back😔.

  • @Italiza587
    @Italiza587 Před 5 lety +573

    You are telling the truth! My ex husband would say, it takes two to build and the days of a woman staying at home was over. I was told I was lazy because I stayed at home with our baby, cooked cleaned up behind him, etc. On top of that , I was up in the middle of the night. When our child was not sleeping or sick. He would be snoring and never get up but I was expected to find and work a full time job. I ended up working grave yard shift jobs. He didn’t care what time I came home, if it was inclement weather etc. As long as I brought home money. He expected me to work like him. When we were moving, he asked me if I would help pick up the other side of the couch. I said no , I am not doing that. He said , women pretend to be weak but you all should be doing more instead of wearing men out.He was immature, selfish and would speak bad about women and how vaginas were ugly and he don’t get why other men are so pu*sy whipped. He said it is not that good. I said well evidently you don’t like me.He would get mad and say everything isn’t about you I am talking about women in general.. Thank God, I finally woke up and got a divorce. We got married really young. My dad told me to leave while I still had youth and looks. I have learned my lesson. Also, I would never be with a hood guy from the projects ever again. The mentality is warped.

    • @Karineeni
      @Karineeni Před 5 lety +1

      Teigan London njhj

    • @niccijanelle8319
      @niccijanelle8319 Před 5 lety +65

      Glad you got out that situation!

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  Před 5 lety +270

      girl..... I could never date a man like that ... I would be in prison ... This is another reason I cannot date dusty men.... It would bring out my criminal mind!!!, You know we are #2 on the serial killer list ( Pisces) VIrgo is #1. lol ....

    • @Italiza587
      @Italiza587 Před 5 lety +19

      @@SheRaSeven1 Lol ,right!

    • @Italiza587
      @Italiza587 Před 5 lety +24

      @@niccijanelle8319Thanks me too!! I am glad I am not stuck on stupid anymore!

  • @Rontlc3317
    @Rontlc3317 Před 5 lety +234

    I soo took your advice and did different than I've done in previous relationships..I Dont cook n I dont clean his whole house all the time..I gave his children chores n I barely lift a finger! He cooks dinner every night n I explained to him that once we marry I'll do those things,but I also insisted we get a maid to come in possibly three times a month.I am looking for rings and I'm getting a little makeover (liquid face) before my birthday this year and we've been together a year now.Shera I make it a point to look fantastic all the time n it has paid off!Thanks for reminding me of the things my grandmother taught as well as my mother! You snapped me back to focus!😘

  • @namiromero5530
    @namiromero5530 Před 5 lety +275

    So... my ex fiance was a firefighter. He wanted to marry me but told me I need to go to work too because he is not able to take care financially two people. As a firefighter he doesn't earned much money even tho he was getting some additional work here and there. I asked him why does he wants to marry me if he is not going to be able to take care of his wife. He told me because he loves me and wants to be with me. It was tough decision but I had to break up with him. I'm pretty sure in few years he will be promoted and will earn better money and he won't ask his new partner to work.

    • @amandaspaintinglessons9908
      @amandaspaintinglessons9908 Před 5 lety +61

      firefighters make great money and benefits. he's lying

    • @livelife2thefullest413
      @livelife2thefullest413 Před 5 lety +39

      @@amandaspaintinglessons9908 no they don't and it depends on the state they're in

    • @Metaphysicalmindspace777
      @Metaphysicalmindspace777 Před 5 lety +31

      Nami Romero I’m glad you stopped wasting your time. Yes. He will ear n more Most of us have been in that position but upon improving our self esteem made us make better choices in mates.

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety

      @Paul all good points 🤣🤣🤣

    • @alunalalune8691
      @alunalalune8691 Před 5 lety

      Hen Si lol 😂

  • @alphasthrive1906
    @alphasthrive1906 Před 5 lety +142

    If ur man wants you to split bills, 🏃💨. Learn from Jesse William's wife, he's moving on now that she's all dried up & he's doing good! Men won't hesitate to use a woman so ladies need to catch on.

  • @annakarina6999
    @annakarina6999 Před 5 lety +136

    1 Timothy 5:8
    But if anyone does not PROVIDE for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has DENIED the faith and is WORSE than an unbeliever.

    • @EmpressofChrist
      @EmpressofChrist Před 5 lety +11

      Facts

    • @teena5723
      @teena5723 Před 5 lety +24

      We have similarities in islam 🙌 God knows how it should be and these men trynna change it but NOPE!!

    • @annakarina6999
      @annakarina6999 Před 5 lety +28

      the dude Amen! They are trying to change it how God design it. If we already know women were built to have children and feed their babies why is it hard to understand that men where built to provide and protect their families? 🤷‍♀️

    • @chocoflan6672
      @chocoflan6672 Před 4 lety +3

      Imma use that! Thank you!!!!

  • @leakufner6422
    @leakufner6422 Před 5 lety +322

    Just broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year. I loved him very much and I'm only 19 years old. But now I need to level up and find me a provider. Since my heart is still broken your videos are very therapeutic for me, you make me think more logically instead of paying attention to my heart and how much I miss him. So thank you. Very much. 💜

    • @tijeraslack3
      @tijeraslack3 Před 4 lety +34

      Lea Kufner I am glad you are learning at a young age. I’m learning at 36, but I’m doing well and have changed so much. It came because I was a bit misguided.

    • @zainajenkins
      @zainajenkins Před 4 lety +16

      I am so happy for you! I hope you are still leveling up or are already accomplishing your dreams and desires.

    • @leakufner6422
      @leakufner6422 Před 4 lety +35

      Hey guys just a quick update; I leveled up and I actually found a guy that is a provider and his family has money. Of course we're not getting married yet since we're so young. But I think we will be married in a few years ❤️

    • @zainajenkins
      @zainajenkins Před 4 lety +17

      @@leakufner6422 Yay! This is so awesome and inspiring!! I would like to add that shera preaches how marriage should be done within 1-2 years if he's serious. Men typically know if you're the one within the first 6 months. She says to make this happen make him feel or know that he is still missing something from you until he puts a ring on it, she uses exclusivity as an example of something withheld until marriage. Thank you for the update ❤️

    • @leakufner6422
      @leakufner6422 Před 4 lety

      @Zaina Adesso yes but even if we're 19 and 20?

  • @mastermind0981
    @mastermind0981 Před 5 lety +373

    I am going to tell other women about your channel.
    It needs to grow. Women need more self-esteem and self-worth.
    You are the queen of advise.

    • @ladiiyb
      @ladiiyb Před 5 lety +14

      I just sent Shera's chanel and this videos to 4 of my cousins + everyday I teach something new to my mom about Sheras videos

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +1

      You're lost

    • @danmeck5978
      @danmeck5978 Před 5 lety +18

      I have told other women and i got shot down in flames. The only woman that i have told that watches Shera is my mother and she's got my dad already and he is good!

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +1

      @Chocolate Bunny you must enjoy being single then.

    • @goldenmoon739
      @goldenmoon739 Před 5 lety +22

      @@alanpapashow1926 better single than with a dusty parasite

  • @rachiewoo6973
    @rachiewoo6973 Před 5 lety +325

    You are literally aging in reverse. Your makeup, hair, lips, body... You look great. Such an inspiration! You should a daily health/beauty/skincare/diet routine video for us 💕

    • @WilliamsPinch
      @WilliamsPinch Před 5 lety +6

      Rachie Woo legit!

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  Před 5 lety +30

      Rachie Woo thanks 🙏🏽

    • @jonwigfall
      @jonwigfall Před 5 lety +10

      I think you’d have more subscribers if your videos were shorter

    • @rachiewoo6973
      @rachiewoo6973 Před 5 lety +37

      Jonathan Wigfall ... And more people would go to college if class was 15 minutes. It doesn't work that way. There's a lot of information to convey. Those who are wise & willing enough will watch a long video.

    • @thedadyouneverhadchannel3544
      @thedadyouneverhadchannel3544 Před 5 lety

      Rachie Woo she’s A FAT COW and everything on her and about her is fake!!

  • @mastermind0981
    @mastermind0981 Před 5 lety +380

    What i don't understand is why you don't have more subscribers.
    You are on point.
    You are giving women the real deal.
    You are a blessing.

    • @EmpressofChrist
      @EmpressofChrist Před 5 lety +49

      Because there's too many pick me chicks

    • @DearMsFabulous
      @DearMsFabulous Před 5 lety +34

      I was wondering the same thing. The truth must hurt for alot of women because she is preaching to the choir.

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  Před 5 lety +91

      mastermind0981 Lol Slow and steady wins the race !

    • @amazinggrace313
      @amazinggrace313 Před 5 lety +2

      A blessing? Are you sure you want to ordain what she is doing as God's work? Lol..how lost some women are. Just say she gives women good game to throw back at men but dont say blessing.

    • @MaRiAm936
      @MaRiAm936 Před 5 lety +40

      Bcs they are brainwashed and it's so hard to change their mindset.
      I am from middle East and I think Shera is a godsent to the women all over the world.
      Greetings from an ex-pickmesha

  • @rami1513
    @rami1513 Před 5 lety +95

    They shouldn't have you if they cannot take care of you ..

  • @a.rafaelaparrales9729
    @a.rafaelaparrales9729 Před rokem +43

    “You don’t have a dad…make one up in your head’” LMFAOOO

  • @karensmith2076
    @karensmith2076 Před 5 lety +253

    Lol...if you start feeling guilty, go slap yourself.😂😂😂😂

  • @EvaWright
    @EvaWright Před 5 lety +55

    A LOT of men today are looking for sugar mamas for their come up. After you give them a come up they move on. Save the come up for yourself. Build yourself and your empire.

  • @nicolesmith7611
    @nicolesmith7611 Před 4 lety +119

    I've always saw myself marrying and being with a older man. My mom started giving me issues about it, so I decided to give men my age a chance and it was horrible.

  • @emilykinsella5788
    @emilykinsella5788 Před 5 lety +92

    You teach people how to treat you.

  • @msalexxa2012
    @msalexxa2012 Před 5 lety +250

    You are leading a Revolution, Woman! ❤️

  • @mariposamimosa2897
    @mariposamimosa2897 Před 5 lety +244

    You all better listen to this lady. She is telling all kinds of truths!!! I have experience in this building nonsense and it is not fun!!! Do what you need to do to get out of the situation. Please ... for your own sake.

  • @carissam1735
    @carissam1735 Před 3 lety +102

    People talk so much mess about these kind of channels, not realizing these channels are ultimately about self love and not accepting anything less. Women need this message!

  • @HavInspires
    @HavInspires Před 5 lety +258

    Shera, your thumbnail was lit!!!!!!

    • @Aquariuswonder86
      @Aquariuswonder86 Před 5 lety +7

      WINSPIRATION 4 ALL Yasss 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽 just beautiful ❤️

    • @LuxLife24
      @LuxLife24 Před 4 lety

      What time does she show the dress...

  • @prettyarmor
    @prettyarmor Před 5 lety +72

    Ill bet this pisses a lot of people off, but it's the cold, hard truth

  • @cirquedumaiquel
    @cirquedumaiquel Před 5 lety +141

    Outfit on 10. Makeup on 10. The whole look - A TEN 💯💯💯

  • @candykane5442
    @candykane5442 Před 5 lety +144

    Women on average these days are getting married at 27+ with most being in their 30’s. So no. You aren’t considered undesirable. They talk about you being ‘over the wall’ at that age yet they CLEARLY aren’t marrying the 19-23 year olds either. Something isn’t adding up 😴

    • @artrise1156
      @artrise1156 Před 5 lety +5

      Indeed. It's 2019 things have changed.

    • @SquirlieMcSquirrel
      @SquirlieMcSquirrel Před 5 lety +34

      Its only the mgtow women haters who have to have sex w plastic dolls who say this

    • @lezel4swarts
      @lezel4swarts Před 4 lety +2

      So true

  • @siateel6545
    @siateel6545 Před 5 lety +82

    "I'm valet, she's drive-thru."

  • @mastermind0981
    @mastermind0981 Před 5 lety +134

    So basically my aunt who was young and beautiful was the lover
    And eventually she got married to him.
    The first wife made my aunt's life a living hell for a couple of years but she is enjoying a good life.
    So her husband built with the first wife. When the wife thought okay, won't have to work enjoy the fruits of my labors. Her husband exchanged her for my aunt.
    True story.

    • @queenbutterfly4888
      @queenbutterfly4888 Před 5 lety +26

      Sad!!

    • @EmpressofChrist
      @EmpressofChrist Před 5 lety +47

      Omg no way! Wow it is so true Do not build with a man!!

    • @josephinesyoutubechannel1770
      @josephinesyoutubechannel1770 Před 5 lety +10

      mastermind0981 , She will age out eventually and he will do the same to her as he did with the first wife.

    • @mastermind0981
      @mastermind0981 Před 5 lety +23

      So far, they are still married.
      Their daughter is studying in China.
      Her daughter is highly educated, speaks Mandarin fluently, English and French.
      Studying international business in one of the best Chinese University.
      Yeah, we are Dominican. It's almost impossible to have this kind of education without money.
      They're always traveling abroad.
      She comes here to visit me here in USA. Last i heard she was vacationing in Punta Cana.

    • @mastermind0981
      @mastermind0981 Před 5 lety +18

      This is great advise Sheraseven1
      Is doing you all a favor.
      I am married with a guy who doesn't give me a grear life.
      It's hard. But, i am restarting my business. You even though love the person, you think to yourself why did i settled. I don't work outside the house but trust me is not easy.
      Thanks to sheraven begun to think for myself, going to be successful.
      But, i married a dusty.

  • @dd5753
    @dd5753 Před 5 lety +110

    SheRa your advice is on point ! I was watching Wendy Williams interview with 57 yrs old Karen Huger's Housewives she was speaking about the way she met her 73 yrs old husband . Karen was never the bob the builder type of chick! She did what a lot of women should do. If you wanna meet a good man, go to places where they can find you!
    Thank you for waking these women up.

  • @percyastronautstatus.8780
    @percyastronautstatus.8780 Před 4 lety +33

    "I'm sorry ..my nails..I don't build"........damn shera...I love you

  • @wowso4
    @wowso4 Před 5 lety +47

    The reason they want 50/50 relationship is they want to take the 50% your providing and putting into a another household for the other woman which they could now afford to get since they only need to pay 50% which his only paying for his half of the shares of the expense. He has enough money to afford another woman don’t do it ladies!

  • @deejolie3045
    @deejolie3045 Před 5 lety +51

    I love you omg “never build with a man unless you’re an architect” lol 💀💀💀💀💀

  • @Tnc874
    @Tnc874 Před 5 lety +160

    I left a 6 year relationship a week or so be4 valentines day. I starting to recognized my issues when I found this channel. I never had self love..... But i started getting it. The stuff that she said really hurt my spirit. but it caused a shift.. a shift that was needed.

    • @lilllllxxm
      @lilllllxxm Před 11 měsíci +1

      Did it get better after 4 years?

  • @Stormy867
    @Stormy867 Před 4 lety +150

    SheRa you hit the spot. My body is getting tired, health issues, I am not looking the same . I look run down. All because I choose the wrong men. Especially men who gave me the kids. I just wanted to cry when you said how your looks and body will show.

    • @ritasjourney
      @ritasjourney Před rokem +20

      Same. In fact it's probably a little late for me to get a provider man but at least I'm going to look better and not put up with disrespectful garbage men anymore.

    • @eternalabundance39
      @eternalabundance39 Před 11 měsíci +20

      @@ritasjourney I don't think it's ever too late. I seen stories of women in their 70s getting provider men. Shera had made a video not that long ago how it isn't too late ever.

  • @olgachafeeva2828
    @olgachafeeva2828 Před 4 lety +25

    A little tip: if a man asks you what you do for a living - RUN. any man who wants you for the right reasons will not care what you do for a living, what is your pay cheque like, etc...

  • @SaraFJones
    @SaraFJones Před 4 lety +44

    I don’t think this is a game it’s simply getting back to having standards.
    People were fooled into not having standards! And now it’s simply getting back to having them!

  • @antisocial_socialite
    @antisocial_socialite Před 5 lety +40

    I hate to hear women say they want a man they can "build" with.

  • @ariah457
    @ariah457 Před 5 lety +93

    I'm still confused as to why there's grown ass men on this channel. Who do not agree with what you say yet are here typing essays and having debates in the comments of those who do agree.. like okay so u don't agree find you a girl who will be your mother and baby you then move along 😂

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +1

      Men don't need mothers. They make their own. But women need daddy's right. Sugar daddy's. Oh the hypocrisy...you women need to get it together.

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  Před 5 lety +48

      @@alanpapashow1926 yes we do... this is why the father gives away his daughter to her husband in a wedding .... he is then responsible for providng for her as her father did...

    • @SquirlieMcSquirrel
      @SquirlieMcSquirrel Před 5 lety +11

      Theyre dusties and they mad thats why

    • @tripleVirgo
      @tripleVirgo Před 5 lety +22

      They're unemployed. Too much free time

    • @phalynwilliams4119
      @phalynwilliams4119 Před 5 lety +2

      Exactly. Well said. Sad sacks! Smh

  • @missxgx1
    @missxgx1 Před 4 lety +60

    My sister is in a longterm dusty/abusive situation. He is sometimey with his HALF of the bills while she works over 40+ hours a week. He literally stacks his money and hides it and this same effeminate toxic user has the gall to COMPLAINS how she's not feminine enough and doesnt give him what HE needs. I am watching Shera's words play out before my eyes. So take heed ladies, level yourself up because the rewards are everlasting. The poor unfortunate women who feel like they are a "better" person than the strategic feminine winner as Chloe_ dubs it will end up dry, haggard, alone, bitter, and working past 60 just to make ends meet. Position yourself to win ladies. Thank you Shera, your words are life giving for those that have ears to hear.

  • @wowwee0
    @wowwee0 Před 5 lety +82

    I am crying so much. God bless you Shera. I was never taught any of this and wasted so many years. My mother suffered a lot and so does my older sister. I won't let this continue to happen to me.

  • @Speakyourmindgirly
    @Speakyourmindgirly Před 8 měsíci +8

    I literally told one of my guys I am not going to help you financially. & in the moment it seemed like he was offended but it’s actually triggered him into a more pleasant person. 😅

  • @mchlljls
    @mchlljls Před 5 lety +58

    Love you Shera- you are so real- and say what we all thinking, but afraid to say out loud or face the truth! These men ain't scared to ask for sex from us- so why be shy???!!!

  • @katlehophillips7041
    @katlehophillips7041 Před 11 měsíci +14

    If he's broke, STAY KNOWING YOU'RE not his type 😂

  • @VintageAfro91
    @VintageAfro91 Před 5 lety +42

    The title of this video is so true. The presence of a feminine woman is powerful.

  • @kwclove7623
    @kwclove7623 Před 5 lety +40

    No more blaming him. You are so right. It’s the truth. Thank you.

  • @danmeck5978
    @danmeck5978 Před 5 lety +57

    There is a record number of Billionaires in the UK right now. Where is the economic crisis? 🤣

    • @ladybee0881
      @ladybee0881 Před 5 lety +9

      Donna McKinson 👀🏃‍♀️

    • @GSmith-wf8os
      @GSmith-wf8os Před 5 lety +1

      Do why don't you have one?

    • @danmeck5978
      @danmeck5978 Před 5 lety +7

      @@GSmith-wf8os I'm still in the process of levelling up. They are here and ready for the levelled up ladies!! 👍

  • @brownsugarbaby5003
    @brownsugarbaby5003 Před 5 lety +37

    And if the man won't or don't do what you want him to do then LEAVE!!!

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +3

      There's the door bitch. Enjoy them food stamps 🤣🤣🤣

    • @brownsugarbaby5003
      @brownsugarbaby5003 Před 5 lety +10

      @@alanpapashow1926 the food stamps your tax money paid for nigga LOL. Sure will! Dusty patrol!

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Před 5 lety +4

      @@alanpapashow1926 Do you realize how you're making yourself look..

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +1

      @@user-zx5xw4yw2e pretty good I think.

    • @wonttrickmea1869
      @wonttrickmea1869 Před 5 lety +1

      brown.sugar305 Lol shoot I ain’t eligible for food stamps anybody wanna give me theirs lol

  • @vibesthatheal
    @vibesthatheal Před 5 lety +184

    Say it again for the Dusties in the back!! 😂

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety

      Do you have money? You must or u wouldn't be making fun of guys who dont...

    • @goldenmoon739
      @goldenmoon739 Před 5 lety +16

      @@alanpapashow1926 women statistically get half of a man's pay for the same job, especially black and brown women. if you're an able healthy man from developed country not having money is pathetic for you

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +1

      @@goldenmoon739 wage gap is a myth sweetcheeks... I work with plenty of women including blacks. Stop making excuses for why you wanna be lazy.

    • @tidey4
      @tidey4 Před 5 lety

      @@alanpapashow1926 These the type of women who stay single for life complaining about there's no men on there level.😂😂😂 My boy a dentist his wife paid all the bills why he was in school, so now she dont work. She put skin in the game and got rewarded. My wife helped me with my last year in graduate school now I gladly take care of my wife. But these woman on here want something for nothing. Bitch Please!!!

    • @LadyAngela678
      @LadyAngela678 Před 4 lety

      👂🏽👀👂🏽

  • @BeautybyKym_7
    @BeautybyKym_7 Před 5 lety +125

    Shera for president!!!! 👏🏾❤️😉

    • @elizabeth0813
      @elizabeth0813 Před 5 lety +5

      She wouldn't do a good job.... she will be too busy with her kids and velvet and enjoying her life rather than stressing with politics

  • @dreammeransome4784
    @dreammeransome4784 Před 5 lety +50

    Your vids are so addictive..... I can't never just watch one.... soooo informative.....

  • @Thestarrwashington
    @Thestarrwashington Před rokem +18

    Damn I can’t t believe this was recorded 3 years ago! The truth never expires!

  • @tabitaeguangs
    @tabitaeguangs Před 5 lety +52

    I saw a woman and her husband today.The woman looks old and busted and her hair was looking terrible.Her husband was looking good and put together and looked much much much younger because he probably is less stressful.Looking at her husband I could very easily date him.I don't know what is happening in the world today.The man had nice clothes on.

    • @topup4563
      @topup4563 Před 5 lety +11

      Pity

    • @toussaintstraditions547
      @toussaintstraditions547 Před 5 lety +32

      Poor woman killed herself keeping him clean, ironing his drawers etc. I see this all the time, the older couples, the lady always looks broken down and the man looks strong and healthy!

    • @BLESSEDME222
      @BLESSEDME222 Před 12 dny

      @tabitaeguangs umm.. 🤔 why would you want to date him? You’re trashy 🗑️ and the fact that his old lady looks haggard (that’s her fault) omg 😒 🤦‍♀️

  • @angelnetworkascension2039
    @angelnetworkascension2039 Před 4 lety +30

    Once we shift our perceptions...losing toxic, immature, selfish, boys trapped inside a man's body are a gain...for us...they are unworthy and they do not value us. When we step into FULL acceptance of that...we won't be so upset...we will be thankful...we will be happy to move forward with confidence, to
    go about our business and look forward to better because better started the moment they were out of our lives....automatically.
    Additionally, I was reminded of how my father sat my sisters and I down when we were young girls and told us: "My girls are a prize!" He always drove this point home. Sometimes we need a reminder.
    Speaking for myself, I am a total package when meeting these individuals and yes, I
    have the ability to independently provide for myself, however, a man is meant to compliment us and I refuse to lower my standards for this breed out here today.
    So grateful my life is starting anew.
    Be Blessed Queens!! 💜

  • @businesslady7840
    @businesslady7840 Před 5 lety +23

    Look at how Steve Harvey did his first wife who stuck by his side.

  • @jaistar3189
    @jaistar3189 Před 5 lety +98

    Shera, with all this dust in the comment section, girl I’ve gone into full allergy mode🤧😆

  • @artisticagi
    @artisticagi Před 5 lety +33

    1:04:35 golden wisdom. After going from chick to chick with no result, he will realize he can’t get anywhere and will change

  • @AngelFriend911
    @AngelFriend911 Před 5 lety +49

    I agree with that the value you put on yourself is the value everyone else puts on you

  • @sondossoliman9658
    @sondossoliman9658 Před 4 lety +20

    Separate bank accounts ladies 👍keep your money and share his money 😆💥💥💥

  • @Aja.S
    @Aja.S Před 5 lety +32

    👏🏾I'm honored to live in the same era as you ! getting knowledge from the master herself

  • @mastermind0981
    @mastermind0981 Před 5 lety +46

    Love you Shera, like I told you
    Beginning to wake up my inner lioness thanks to you.
    Adore you.

  • @success_theorylive
    @success_theorylive Před 5 lety +21

    People watching is my new found hobby!!!! I don't feel bad and anxious being out alone.

  • @ImabelleRegine
    @ImabelleRegine Před 4 lety +52

    This is so true. I cried so hard watching this. I wasted my whole 20's being Bob Builder Pickmesha. Got tore down the ground. 29 now. Changing my whole life torn in btwn happiness and regret sadness. Happiness will prevail because I'm putting me first. I'm the prize. 💋 Thank you for your knowledge.

  • @asiaj1
    @asiaj1 Před 4 lety +31

    Very well said and straightforward advice. This mentality takes us back to our very nature as woman. The men are the hunters and gathers/ workers. Women be the Women , take care of home and kids and self and look good by his side. Own a business if wanted. Rather than women working like a dog , coming home, take care of the kids, take care of home and look good all at the same time. While the man is only working (which would be his part). It wouldn't be fair...this is interesting to think about.

  • @kellarenna
    @kellarenna Před 4 lety +30

    I grew up w a strong Male provider father, he would do absolutely anything to make sure we were 100% taken care. I mean quite Frankly I'm spoiled rotten but I'm so grateful and I respect my father so much! All the men I've dated however have been resentful toward me for it, but that's because they're dusties who are actuallyjealous. Feminine, woman-hating losers like a lot of these trolls in the comments. No more dusties.

  • @kimberlyh5202
    @kimberlyh5202 Před 5 lety +34

    I wish I came across this channel yearrrrrrrss ago

  • @gina72916
    @gina72916 Před 5 lety +24

    Bob the builder women get cheated on a lot.

  • @phoenixsun6956
    @phoenixsun6956 Před 5 lety +72

    Everything she saying is the truth it's happened to me 3x. Except all three married women without kids and very unattractive, however I'm gorgeous with kids. Men of status and financial stability are more attentive with me.

  • @afshanchaudhary3180
    @afshanchaudhary3180 Před 5 lety +27

    Brilliant title !
    💜
    Execute your plan
    💜
    Be the queen - no matter what !

  • @bjmartin6684
    @bjmartin6684 Před 5 lety +18

    Women beed to wake up. It is not a woman's job to help a man build. If his parents didn't teach him to be a provider before he thinks about being in a relationship, then he needs to take care of himself first by himself. Too many women are helping these men and then these men turn arou d and leave them for something better. All because women are lonely and dont want to be alone, so they settle for these sorry losers. Have some standards.

  • @madeinhisimage3447
    @madeinhisimage3447 Před 5 lety +25

    I love how they know how to make such a good case for why he might need financial help as it’s ultimately to benefit the relationship! This is where she gets tricked...he’s using excuse that the help will benefit “them”. I’m not doing it again!!!

  • @heymisswest
    @heymisswest Před 5 lety +54

    Omg your makeup look... Wow please do a look video

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  Před 5 lety +9

      Hey Miss West I did it’s in my beauty channel Ashera Star

  • @gina72916
    @gina72916 Před 5 lety +16

    I totally agree. It starts by setting boundaries.

  • @carlaarancibia2119
    @carlaarancibia2119 Před 2 lety +14

    Ughh I have learned my lesson. Not going to lie but it hurts to think that someone wanted to build with me was just trying to get to his next dream woman, but you’re 100 correct! I block them after we break up, but I’m sure they’re out there with someone else after I build with them.
    Thank you for the tough love.

  • @taliahali9827
    @taliahali9827 Před 5 lety +37

    Omg you look gorgeous 😩 you’re the GOAT Shera and you practice what you preach! Ive watched you level up in every way and while encouraging us to do the same 🙌🏾

  • @mastermind0981
    @mastermind0981 Před 5 lety +24

    It happens all the time.
    My aunt took her husband away from her husband.
    She is enjoying a good life.
    The other was old and all used up.

  • @1DNETTA
    @1DNETTA Před 5 lety +21

    "Oh I don't build...my nails💅...Lol!😅Go head SheRa girl!

  • @WilliamsPinch
    @WilliamsPinch Před 5 lety +29

    This makeup is a BOP!!!!! 🔥

  • @bellobel1662
    @bellobel1662 Před 4 lety +12

    That’s what my brother did.. he drop his help n got da women he wanted .. cute n girly .. so true

  • @Deserttree001
    @Deserttree001 Před 5 lety +31

    Just when I thought your messages couldn't get any better YOU once again impress me!! Thank you Ashera. You look Amazing btw🙌🙏

  • @FashionBombshell
    @FashionBombshell Před 5 lety +41

    Shera you are looking like a perfect 🏆 wife.

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety

      She's a nightmare of a wide you mean.

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 Před 5 lety +1

      @Femme Fatale were not talking about me... We're talk about shera and how she uses her old was husband for money. Try and pay attention sugar tits.

    • @littlelam3691
      @littlelam3691 Před 3 lety +1

      Alan papashow you’re so triggered

  • @mahoganycreative7492
    @mahoganycreative7492 Před 5 lety +24

    You appeared at the perfect time. You are apart of the ancestral universe that I pray to guide me through this life! Thank you!

  • @sara-yy3hn
    @sara-yy3hn Před 5 lety +22

    honestly been watching her videos for a week only and already people noticing change in me getting so many compliments i have a different look about me in reality im just being more confident to be honest thank you shera also ready to get the man with means now will update 😏

  • @Mia-sp8jc
    @Mia-sp8jc Před 5 lety +32

    Hey Shera. Yup. Just like Jessie did to his wife-help. A video on your beautiful kimonos and gorgeous necklaces for the smart women who married well, to float around the house during her days of creativity and luxe.

  • @keefabulous
    @keefabulous Před 5 lety +31

    SheRaSeven1 is Nothing but the truth. I Love all her commentary. Also Hilarious. Beautiful dress. Straight Fabulous!!

  • @Crystal-t6g
    @Crystal-t6g Před 5 lety +33

    Thank you for sharing your brilliant advice, l am living my best life no money stresses no worries. Because of your intelligent video, wish l had found you years ago, would have save me from my first marriage to a dusty. I am on my second marriage to the best king husband living my best life, running my own business. Thank you 🇬🇧💶🙏🏾 💶💍💶😊💶💄💶👠💶💅🏻💶💶💶💶💶💶💶

    • @littlelam3691
      @littlelam3691 Před 3 lety +4

      Can I ask what age you were when you met your second hubby?

  • @honeydove_4844
    @honeydove_4844 Před 2 lety +10

    How many times I gotta bump my head SheRa 🙃🙃🙃…two years watching you and my life has definitely changed but I still more work to do 😘.luv ya

  • @DH-zi5ob
    @DH-zi5ob Před 4 lety +16

    Listening to you I get more positive feedback and knowledge than going to my counselor and psychologist.

    • @KeyonaThesweetest
      @KeyonaThesweetest Před 8 měsíci +1

      No because really!!!! This helps with self esteem and what we need to do. Versus telling a random person our problems. When the problem is we need to be more feminine and ALWAYS put ourselves first

  • @phoenixbg2096
    @phoenixbg2096 Před 5 lety +30

    Life is so simple, my dad always say that to me, you figure it out everything. Love your chanel so much, so wise and so on point every time!