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i hope things come to a peaceful resolution and if not we doobies support you, thanks for keeping it real !!!
Couldnât have said it better đ
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The authenticity of her struggle is quite gripping! It kind of leaves you torn. đ„Č
I donât watch CZcams to become depressedâŠ.
"There is a fine line between control and guidance." I am Asian too and I feel you đ„ș
I am 26 and I know that I am a responsible person and at the right age already but sometimes it's so hard whenever I try to explain my point of view to mom (especially about religious beliefs, my personal relationships, stereotypes, values, etc.) without having her guilt trip me with why I think that way and play the "back in my time" card đ
It just sucks. Expected to take on adult responsibilities, yet still treated like a kid.
I feel you on that. My views and perception is way different from what they grew up to
That last sentence is exactly what Iâm living with my mom right now. Itâs so frustrating.
Bro, this guilt trip is the universal trick card that every Asian, South-Asian family has .. I am only two years younger than you but we still face the same stuff.
Rules get changed as per their convenience.
@@ojaswitatoppo5306 and south east asian
This piece of content delivers like a film. Subtle, honest, beautiful, and even poignant at times. Have been enjoying watching your approach to food as thatâs a topic of interest for me as well, but this tells me a lot more about you because you seem to be certain as to how you want your story to end. Wish you best of luck with everyone you love.
@@Dr.SmegmaJones ?
As a fellow Asian who was dropped off at the airport for studies when I was 9, having parents who didn't have high education but wanted the best for me. I know things can get really tough when values don't align and you do not want to disappoint. Hang in there Dooby, time will sort itself out!
As long as you marry a white boy you will be forgiven.
@@Dr.SmegmaJones what?
@@Dr.SmegmaJones itâs japanese. and tina is in the photo (and took it) so i donât think itâs a subliminal message⊠she probably forgot to edit it out or didnât catch it
@@madisonbryan3111 i dont see anything like that here
@@madisonbryan3111 weird. does it seem natural that itâs in the footage? Must be a subliminal thing
Tina I saw your story and ran here to verbally ë°ìì€ some haters but instead was met with an endless scroll of your community sending you support and love. your creative work has a wonderful effect on this world and creates community. May the hate comments be zapped like mosquitos in one of those electrifiers đ
what was on the story?
god dammn all this suspense , whats the story? please tell
@@purpleskies1709 She was saying how she loves White man and White penis and all the brown, black and yellow men who hate on her can get F'ed.
@@okashiname8326 it was a screenshot of a bunch of comments complaining that sheâs dating a white guy. The text she posted said something along the lines of âleave me alone stupid incels, this is why I donât like sharing stuff on the internetâ
@@user-rw6be7yk7v dammn lol why do they care so much who she's dating?
Absolutely loved this vlog. Your openness and vulnerability is so refreshing, and itâs such an important conversation as well.
So proud of you that you put your foot down and are making choices and living the life that is most fulfilling and suitable for YOU. You were dead on when you said âthere is a fine line between guidance and controlâ. Your parentsâ idea of âwhat is best for youâ does not necessarily equal your idea of what is best for you. Hopefully they will realize this soon and come around â€ïž
Wait until you are a parent! đ€Ł Naw you live your life kid! Smash through barriers and love. â€ïž
Always want the comfort, safety and wealth from âdifferent generation and different way of thinkingâ awww. And âhe is so different â what is that a good thing now? A chimpanzee is âdifferent â too. So? Just admit you are yet another Asian with white fetish and he likely has yellow fever. Donât try so hard to sound deep.
Classic -- The folly and romanticism of youth -vs- The experience and cynicism of age. True wisdom comes when you realize that what is right for you now, will likely not be right for you in the future... and you are okay with that and will cross that bridge when you learn the lessons you need to learn. You cannot be told a lesson.
Being a father I understand wanting the best for your daughter. When my girl grows up I need to understand that I raised her to look for certain traits in a husband/boyfriend. I dont have to like her choices but I always have to be there for her no matter what happens. If you have good parents then trust, that although they will not be happy or 100% on board, they love you and they will be there for you Dooby.
Boyfriend/husband but also maybe girlfriend/wife?
@Morfran Iâm actually not American nor ever lived there
Sucks that this family situation is bringing you down. Life is so short (and can be cut even shorter) and I'm glad you're prioritizing your happiness. And this is coming from a single dad who raised a 24-year-old daughter. We have our differences but never, NEVER to the point where I'd stop seeing her. At the end of the day, it's her life and her choices. All I can do is be there for her when she needs me. Hang in there. They'll come around soon.
Well done to you but every family is different and have different values how does u telling us how amazing you are makes a different to her..
@@billcaan4192 Lol I never said I was amazing. Just giving perspective as a parent that raised a daughter around her age and giving encouragement that her parents will hopefully come around soon. Not sure where my messaging went off the rails for your comment to question my intention but here we are.
As much as I admire the transparency, I really can't see how posting about all of thus and sharing so many relationship details is healthy or indicative of anything normal. Just like how couples with the most troubles typically are the ones showing off on Instagram, it seems like you're incredibly insecure about all of this and there's more rotting beneath.
@@purpleskies1709 I'm just giving support and words of encouragement to someone who's having issues with their parents. Being a parent, I thought I'd share my experience with my own kid (which I already mentioned before, we've had varying differences in opinions when it comes to everything and anything). How you got that I'm "incredilby insecure" and "instagram" has more to do with you and your perception than my comment basically (and literally) telling Dooby to hang in there.
@@purpleskies1709 how do you manage to judge someone as insecure off of only one comment?
" there's a fine line between controll and guidence" - spoke to me in so many ways. Thankyou as always Tina, and I'm so happy your happy, you deserve to do the best for you.
I resonate so well with the last few lines đ„č thank you for sending warmth thru my way!! Very happy for you finding love â€ïž
This hit home way too hard. I'm crying. There are millions of us all over the world going through almost exactly the same as you so thank you so much for telling your story on your platform. Maybe one Asian parent will see this and it might spark change in them that will help out a fellow dooby.
Thanks again Tina, this took balls â
@@Dr.SmegmaJones
She's lesbian or some shit?
"there's a fine line between control and guidance" - felt this on so many levels
btw, we're happy that you're happy :)
Same here
While all our experiences are unique, this video resonates. It was a similar experience when I started dating with my own Korean parents who took some time and their own process to get onboard. Years later Iâm married to a man that took the journey to get to and one might even say my parents like him more than me! Itâll work out- your parentsâ love will prove truer than their initial disagreement. Stay true to who you are!
I am loving the heartfelt stories in your comment section! We have very similar situations, which is why I'm afraid to even mention my partner's background to my parents. In time, things will fall into place for everyone. I feel that your parents will see it too (speaking from someone who has had very difficult, hurtful convos with my mom). Stick with your happiness! Lots of love and support to you and â man.
having seen a glimpse of the love you have for your mom and vice-versa, this breaks my heart for you
These last two vlogs have been like episodes of a well directed miniseries. Beautifully done!
Being able to find your happiness after you've been in a dark place is really inspiring. I can feel your bliss dooby. Thanks for this one đ
Tina Iâm beyond words to admire your courage to be so vulnerable to share this hard situation of your life to way. This video definitely hit home for you. I was literally in your situation 3 three years ago. Like you said â time is only the remedyâ itâs so true! Hang in there - this all shall pass. Love will be the ultimate answer!!! Sending so much love and support your way!!!â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
You look so happy itâs so nice to see. Itâs super tough making those decisions especially when it involves your own family, itâs not easy to navigate in or out of, youâre handling it with such grace and maturity I truly respect your courage and heart. Your family will always be there, maybe not now but itâs okay, this time youâve given yourself a chance for your choices and you are thriving. Love your content, canât wait to see more in the doobydoobop future. â€ïž
thank you so much for sharing this. I also feel that my parents can be over controlling and it's true there is a fine line between guidance and control and when it gets over controlling it gets really hard for us. i've experienced the exact same thing as you except i'm a lot younger and live under their roof. my parents haven't talk to me for over a month because of this and i'm so devastated. i too love my parents a lot and they too have sacrificed a lot for me..but at the same time it's hard to give up on the person you love đđ...it's nice to see another person experience the same difficulties as you. love you doobyâ„ïžâ„ïžâ„ïž it'll all be okay with time :)
Tina, absolutely love how relatable you are đ„čđ fell in love with your story telling and personality!! â€ïž
This vlog made me cry. It's awful that you're going through all this hardship with your family. But you look so happy and I'm glad that you choose your happiness about someones elses. We doobies wil support you no matter what!
This is my favorite video of yours yet. Thank you for being so open. I have no doubt that things will work out for you and your partner. I can feel the love and sincerity that you put into each one of your vids--you are inspiring and I'm rooting for you. You got this!
This vlog is so sweet!! It warms my heart to see you so happy! I'm glad you found someone you love and loves you.
Me: the momento has come.
Tina: shows everyone the scenes, like a movie.
I'm gonna support Tina how matter what, I'm into food and she has inspire me since I've found her (almost 2yrs ago already hehe).
I'm rooting for you Tina, Hfighting! AND YEES DOOBY DOO!
Just want to send you a word of encouragement. I was once in a similar situation. My parents completely disapproved of my boyfriend, who was working construction & retail and didn't have a college degree. They couldn't see that he *did* have enormous respect for and belief in me. We were long distance, too, for the first 3.5 years of our relationship. It got so bad that I wasn't sure if my parents were going to come to the wedding. That was 20 years ago last month. We have an amazing marriage & life together and my parents eventually came around! It took many years of them observing my happiness and the way he treats me. Some people really are worth the fight. Much love and luck to you.
Funny how parents think that he's not good enough for you...maybe your parents should have stopped to think maybe you are not good enough for him ...see how absurd and insulting that is. Image how that made him feel and image parents thinking they are better humans that another human over a fing degree. That story is disgusting all around .. bunch of ppl owe your husband a huge apology
I feel for you. - I really do.
My mother has been very controlling all my life. I am 38 now and I've followed mostly "what is good for me". This has left me unable to make important decisions in life.
Our families may be right in many things they tell us, but we have to remind ourselves that this is OUR life and if we don't follow what we decide to do we loose control or may start blaming others for the things that do not go right in life.
In life we're bound to disappoint our parents in many ways, mainly because they have expectations based on their (unsatisfying) life experience. In their life they have developed their own core values (i.e. security, stability) based on what they went through in life. We have had different life experiences and also thanks to the stable life our own parents have provided us with we have a different set of core values. If we do not satisfy our own values and needs our life will be deeply dissatisfying.
This comment really struck a chord in me. Iâm almost 29 but most (more like ALL) of the major decisions in my life was made for me by my parents, my dad especially. And now, I donât know what I want for myself and is constantly second guessing everything. I donât even have a proper goal or vision for myself. I keep thinking, âWhat will become of me when theyâre gone?â
Anyway, I just hope youâre doing good, internet stranger. May things fall into place for us :)
@@aerynertia6155 Hello internet stranger, I'm glad my message touched you. I hope you find the courage in yourself to change and not wait like me until the bitter end.
At the end of 2018 my father lost conciousness during his holidays in Thailand. Soon after he received chemotherapy and ultimately died in 2020, one month before his granddaughter, my niece, was born. At that time I was working for him (not happy at all), but this situation also took away my safety net and forced me to change. At the end of 2019 after receiving a few weeks of coaching lessons I felt like I had finally found a way out of the labyrinth. I discovered that I have skills that others value and I overlooked and I had to reevaluate my "wasted time" working for my father. But then covid happend and it took another coaching session to realize that "job coaching" is what I want to do right now. I can help people in simular situations like me. So I took online classes to get some necessary qualifications and just started work last thursday.
My life is a work in progress - like anyone's I imagine. Without having taken so long I would not have developed an understanding of what it means to be jobless and helpless. Some would say I've failed in life. The pay certainly is not very good in social jobs, but I am happy not to be part of the rat race. We will see what happens next.... yeah tomorrow's job qualification exam.. gotta go. All the best stranger!
Aww this is so cute! As an Asian kid with similar family background, I always say that nothing could ever come between me and my parents. I have lived my entire life to please to them. So I understand the pain and difficulty you are going through right now. But you are right, some things are worth fighting for. Weâre young and we deserve to be happy (and have our freedom too). Hopefully, they will come around đ„șđ wishing you all the best!!!
As a person with Asian background, I know exactly what youâre talking about. Going through the same exact thing. I understand the toll, the blame you feel for yourself, the guilt. You keep doing what makes you happy. You keep living for what you believe in. Become the best part of yourself you can. Your heart is true and only time will tell when things will align again.
It is so beautiful that you found each other as was watching you journey to this point. I have so much respect for your strength and trust in yourself und your partner, it's inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing all this private insight I think it helps many people on many different levels and situations.
I'm tearing up watching this đ„ș growing up with the same situations listening to this break my heart. Big hugs Tina and keep your Heart up HIGH doobies are here for you! đ
My therapist is back. I love a Doobydobap vlog. Itâs relaxing and refreshing for the soul and mind
100% agree
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Love u my dooba đđ@@Doobydobap
totally agree!!! i recently discovered her and subscribed right away i love her all the contentsâ€ïžâ€ïž
No but seriously đ
Its funny the way you have portrayed is so soothing but being an Asian, and also faced the brutality of having controlling parents as never been this resonating.
I wish more strength to you because at the end whoever has to make a choice of family vs love there's always this invisible guilt or a feeling that is unspoken off.
All the best đ
im so happy for you! I love your videos I found you when I was at a very depressed point in my life and binge watched all your videos for serotonin. You help so many people without even realizing! I love that you are real and share your experiences I am excited to see you open up more and more! I also wanted to say that you usually find your soulmate when you least expect it! I met my husband when I told myself I wasnât gonna date anyone ever again. Weâve been together for nine years and married three! Sending you love and light! Your family will come around, but always stand your ground for what you believe in! this is your life, the people that truly love you will always love you! i come from a very toxic family & I promise you are on the right track to finding truth and strong relationships with family and your â man! Some people are definitely worth fighting for!
Thanks for putting this out there Tina. I went through something similar with my parents a few months ago for what sounds like similar reasons. My parents are also very traditional/somewhat controlling and it was tough, but we are on good terms again. I hope your parents come around soon and happy that you are also choosing to be happy
there's something so surreal about Dooby's vlog that calms anyone â€ïž
I can totally relate what youâre going through. We went through the same thing (we also did long distance as well) and my parents love him now as theyâve seen me happy. It just needs a bit of time. Loved your vlog and thanks for sharing your life. đ Sending the positive energy to you both.
You look so at peace rn! And I love how you guys make the long distance work. Not many couples do and not many are willing to make it work. You give me hope that there are people in this world that worth fighting for. I hope someone can do this for me one day
When it comes to love is a learning process and YOU should always stay true to you ! Thank you for being so transparent with your followers definitely A FAN!
I havenât finished the video yet, just wanted to say that I was in your exact situation. I followed my gut and my husband and I have been together for 21 years. My parents learned to love him and understand why I loved him. It was very tough at the beginning for the same reasons you listed. Follow your gut, your instinct and things will be fine đ§Ąđ§Ą
thank you for sharing this with us ;-; been struggling if i should commit to a ldr knowing my family would disapprove since they are more conservative. growing up in a Filipino household, family to me is always #1 but it's a hard decision between meeting their expectations or being with someone who makes me happy. your vlogs are always so relaxing and inspiring
I love this side of you being with someone and making you happy! Canât wait for more vlogs!
i resonate as a fellow asian who's feisty as hell with borderline controlling parents (whom im very close with too!) you deserve great happiness dooby! thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story
I can only imagine the emotional turmoil that must have been through before taking this decision. But you know what, it will all work out at the end, like it has always been. Real doobies are proud of you for staying real and vulnerable here and being a fucking strong one. You go gurl!! â€ïž
Iâve been on both sides. My exâs family didnât like me because I wasnât Chinese and therefore assumed I wouldnât be able to understand their culture. On another occasion, my parents were dismayed that I didnât bring home a Korean gf thinking she wouldnât understand our culture, language, mannerisms, etc. In any case, after years theyâve come around. Right now Iâm engaged to a woman that isnât Korean and they couldnât be more happier and supportive.
I think you brought up some great points. Parents simply want their children to have a good, secure, safe life - and much of that, to them, relies on finding a partner of similar background, culture, upbringing. In their minds, there is a higher risk of disappointment if one was to be partnered w/ someone from a different culture. While that isnât exactly 100% wrong, our parentsâ opinions in the end, are theirâs alone. I think as long as we show our parents that we are confident in our lifeâs decisions and can forge ahead despite what life throws at the us, itâll make them rest a bit easier. So even if letâs say things donât work out between you two, show that it was a valuable experience to you, and that you took something away from it. Lastly, parents are also just humans.. with all the flaws that come along with it. I think you showed maturity by understanding where they are coming from.
Also.. Iâm sure you donât need encouragement in this arena⊠but donât listen to the haters on IG or CZcams. There are way too many young folks on social media being harmed by bullies, itâs just not worth getting worked up about. In the end, this life is yourâs and yourâs alone.. be selfish about it. Weâre simply along for the ride on this platform you graciously opened yourself up on. Cheers, and thanks for all the great videos.
I had a difficult time with my ancestry when I was younger. My grandparents never had a problem with who my parents and uncles and aunts dated/married. I have a mix of Asian aunts and uncles and white aunts and uncles and my extended family never had any trouble with anyone's lineage.
But when I got older I saw a lot people of Asian descent didn't have parents/grandparents that accepted non-Asian romantic significant others. Almost out of a fear that they'll "pollute their identity and bloodline." I also, to this day experience, didn't have an easy time to ask many Asian girls out because I don't know any Chinese dialect. And their parents think I'm strange because I can't understand Cantonese or Mandarin or anything despite my ancestry.
People should be proud of their heritage. But I don't understand why people equate two different people in a romantic relationship to corruption.
Well said! đđ
Incredibly well said! Thank you for sharing. đ
As much as I admire the transparency, I really can't see how posting about all of thus and sharing so many relationship details is healthy or indicative of anything normal. Just like how couples with the most troubles typically are the ones showing off on Instagram, it seems like you're incredibly insecure about all of this and there's more rotting beneath.
Honest question, i just want to learn, im a southeast asian. I feel like our cultures here (thailand, malaysia, singapore,indonesia) are all so mixed and similar. I dont get how marrying/dating a chinese when you're a korean means you'd struggle with their culture or vice versa? Isnt the chinese, taiwanese, korean, japanese culture very similar and mixed cause geographically is very nearby?
I applaud you for being so transparent especially in front of a camera among thousands of people online. All the doobies support u and we have nothing but love for u :))
Just catching up in your vlog life here, and crazy how I just saw this in [almost] an exact one year period of time. And it makes me so happy that youâve been following your heart (đ§ I know) and accomplishing the dreams you and Kevin saw that no one else did. Keep killing it xx
I totally agreed with the parents are sometimes controlling bc thats literally my parents rn. Now that im adult i realized how sheltered and gatekeeped i am from the real world. :( Anw im genuinely happy for you and for fighting your happiness/love. ⥠thank you for sharing this to us...
Always look forward to your videos! Love the way you edit and how you are super real!!
I just discovered you and your vlog style is gorgeous. The way you tell this story not only really conveys your emotions but you do it so beautifully in so many ways. Stay strong and be patient. Even though I'm new here, you have my support
Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life. It is tempting to show only the "highs" on social media. Love your work on CZcams; you have a real gift of storytelling! Thanks for bringing us along on your life journey. Lots of love - a recently converted Doobie :)
when your gut is telling you it's worth fighting for, things will work out eventually. sending my love and positivity (that we all know you already have lol) to both of you!
I feel like everything is coming full circle, thanks for the advice and honesty đ
Also flash backs to the vlog where you said u didnât want someone who cooked
@@isabelle_S she contradicts herself a lot and she has admitted to this hehe... don't we all?
@@Guapogiboy ikr
Iâm so happy for you Tina!!!âșïžđ€ Your family will come around eventually, and thank you for being vulnerable with us!! Much love to you and yours!!!đ«°đœâš
I only discovered your channel yesterday and I just want to say that your videos bring me so much comfort
for so long iâve struggled with this and you have expressed how iâve felt so well ! truly a cinematic masterpiece
Not gonna lie Iâm really thankful for this vlog, thank you for letting us be part of such as personal and vulnerable moment for you. Iâm sorry for the mean people commenting. However, I understand the situation youâre going through is difficult to meet others expectations while trying looking for the best for you. Hope your family understands and things get better!
As fellow belonging to a desi Asian household I can relate to the things you have to go thru with your parents itâs just hard but I hope things work out for you. You taking a step for yourself has inspired me a lot. Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us. Wish the best
Tina, this is why I love your videos so much - not only the funny moments, the beautiful montages, but also your real and raw thoughts... your honesty makes your content one of the most relatable I've ever seen on the internet. I'm so happy to hear your good news and sending you tons of love and support đ€
I can relate as an only child, who now is adapting to living independently for about 3 years, but people who truly loves us will be the one who shall understand that we, only childs, are the only person who they can trust to make our own lives good and happy as they hope it to be. Happy of your brave heart. Love and light, dooby đ
"There is a fine line between control and guidance" - so true...Love you Dooby.
Iâve never seen story telling the way you do it before! Itâs absolutely BEAUTIFUL! Let me just say this love is đŻ worth fighting for! Everyone told me my man wasnât stable/couldnât provide and he literally didnât have a penny to his name when we first got together⊠but heâs the BEST decision I ever made and everyone was dead wrongđ«¶đŒIâm glad I followed my heart and not the opinions of other pplđ
As an Asian guy who literally went through the same thing with the person I loved(me in the place of your boyfriend in my scenario), this hits hard. I still wish to this day that my former partner fought for me even when her family was all discouraging her. They never really got the chance to know me well enough to make an educated decision.
It's just one of those things that are incredibly difficult to let go.
I feel you man, the woman loved didn't fight for our relationship as well since it was long distance. Irks me to this day, though I'm happy it didn't work out since alot has come to light now.
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Me and my partner are also from 2 different worlds. And she being the only child it was hard at first but thankfully both mine and her parents understood and support us. I really hope your family comes to reality and see that you're genuinely happy, fingers crossed for you my dude :)
Love this đ
If you havenât noticed from the comments but weâre all proud of you. My spouseâs father had the same problem with me but here we are 27 years later and still going strong.
AWESOME!!! đđ
Beautiful brođ
I have never seen you eaten so much. Must b love in the air.
Virtual hugs girl đ€
Hope youâll find peace with your family and everything đ
Usually hate vlogs but decided to watch yours and I loved every second of it. Glad you are choosing your happiness and standing your ground. Hope I run into you while Iâm in still here
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I really know what you're going through, because I went through the same thing hahaha đ. I come from a Filipino immigrant family who moved to Brazil and when they found out I was dating a guy who wasn't rich they freaked out. It was difficult at first, but over time they accepted him, especially after meeting him in person. Know that you are not alone and that everything will get better eventually! I wish you all the luck in the world and much happiness in your new relationship, you deserve it so much!
Fala pro cara ganha mais dinheiro.
I am proud of you for going after what you want and following your heart. If you are happy with this man then that is all that matters. Its tough when family doesn't support your decisions but one day they will come around. I hope that whatever the rest of this year brings you and further on in the future that its nothing but joys and laughter. And that you create wonderful memories with the one you love
IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU
I really admire that you can respect yourself and your own boundaries, while also holding a nuanced view of the people involved. There is a lot of love and grace there. I hope things smooth out and ease up in time. â€
I am honestly happy for you that you find someone you really like :) hope things will work out for you!
I started watching you quite a while ago, and have seen you go through a lot, but Iâm really glad to see how happy you are!
You deserve nothing but happiness. Itâs hard to have relationships where your family isnât quite on the same track as you are. But your judgement and capability of love should be bigger than any other bitter times. We doobies support you â„ïž
Thank you for sharing this little snippet of your life! I can totally understand where youâre coming from. My parents were very against me dating out of my culture, but with time, they have grown to love my partner (sometimes I feel like more than they love me!). As long as your parents see how happy you are, they will accept it and your partner. Just continue to do what makes you happy because it is YOUR life. And f the haters. Theyâre just jealous.
Really wishing for you that everything can be smoothed over in the short future, Tina. There are unforgiving notions around at times, but there are also those who fight for freedom through which we choose our destiny. Keep on fighting for what you stand for and who you are! Doobie army stands with you T!â€
Iâm so happy for you. Your family will come around once they understand this is what you want. Love always wins â€ïž
I have always believed that you meet your person when youâre least expecting it!! That was also my experience with my husband. My family didnât care for him either at times, but they did see how he treated me and they came around. Donât force anything with your parents. Give them time to sort out their feelings. Theyâll come around! Much love from America đđđ
The word is changing ever so quickly and sometimes trying to find a constant or control is what parents cling to. One whole side of my family did. And so does my mom. It's been difficult but lessons learned and now I can keep doing better. Many well wishes for you and your family.
P.s. chefs are wonderful I got one too. đđ
Tina, sending you so much healing and love. Iâve gone through the same thing when I was 21 (28 now). Iâm now married with a kid to the man my family were against. But, my parents love him now. My parents felt hurt initially, but they had to work through it. They had to open their minds a bit, be more progressive. Xoxo wishing you the best
I hope for the best for you guys. Iâm in a somewhat similar situation, long distance and huge differences between my partner and I. Also parents are not so happy about us but we just put it under the rug and havenât found solutions after all these years. I do also hope that miraculously they will understand that Iâm happy with him. Honestly idk how things will turn out but Iâm hoping for the best, also for you guys. Thanks for posting this video, it made me feel like Iâm not alone đ
I canât say Iâve been through what youâve been through, but in my experience one of the hardest things to accept is that youâve done what you can. It gets to a stage where itâs up to the other person, and, at least for me, that helplessness that you cant control other people is deeply frustrating. But Iâve come to learn that other people have their own inner workings and if Iâve done all I can then itâs up to them to oil their gears and get the emotion machine pumping. Suffice to say I think itâs truly lovely that youâre not blaming yourself for the rift between you and your family, or if you are and didnât decide to voice it I hope this piece of wisdom is helpful. Sending much love â€ïž hold strong :)
Heâs so different but we complement each other in so many ways- đâșïž thatâs how I describe me and my boyfriend. Iâm from India and heâs from Ukraine. So different from cultures and backgrounds.In the end, we make each other so happy where we even enjoy learning about each otherâs cultures. Love Is always worth fighting for- isnât that what life is all about. đ youâll get through this alright. I send you strength. The different backgrounds and experiences make us a stronger team as we face this world together and Iâm sure you both feel the same. Iâm so excited for you â„ïž
Go girl
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Damnnn there are more indians who watch her than i thought!
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That takes a lot of strength, good for you!! Hopefully time heals but keep unapologetically chasing your happiness.
Im so happy you met someone you love!!! The best people always come around when you least expect it â€ïž ive been following you for a while now, youre a pretty amazing person and it seems like youve found someone who compliments the real you!!! Best of luck in your love endeavors!
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this side of you.
Finally a CZcamsr I can relate to. I see all these CZcamsrs that have wonderful relationships with their families which I could never relate to, but Iâve never had that. My parents were never there for me and I never received any love or support from them, just criticism and reasons why Iâm not enough. Thank you for being honest about your family and I hope you know youâre not the only oneđ
The difference is that she still benefits a lot from her parentsâ income. Check out the international trips, fancy apartment, and even the expensive meal at the end of this video with her new boyfriend.
Tina I can explain just how proud i am of you!!! You have overcome so many obstacles in the last couple of months and got to your happy place. No matter how comfortable you have gotten being alone nothing feels more amazing then sharing life with someone you care about.
Wish you all the best! You looks really happy in this vlog. đ thank you for sharing all this, as I understand family could be harsh sometimes. đ
I know it's not easy but standing on your ground, fighting for what you believe in is the most important thing. Making it work through tough times takes a lot of courage and energy. I have been watching your vlogs for a long time now and to see you happy makes me happy as well. Time heals all wounds and I know you and your family will get through this. Keep safe and stay inlove! Much love from Philippines. đ
Not a min gone and I'm here!!
Dooby your videos and content is so wholesome :)
Thank you for postingâšïž
I really love what you did with the egg salad! Adding the soft egg yolk. I'm gonna try that right away! My parents also didn't approve of my now husband, even though we are different culturally, it's still a hard pill to swallow. But I believe parents shouldn't make you choose and I know your mom loves you, she just needs time to adapt, nothing can get in the way of a mothers love for their daughter â€
Ohh god, Iâm so happpppppy for youuuuu!!!!! You are so true when you say that time is the only option that will heal at such points! Always rooting for you and also for your đ„ș relationship. Fightiiiiiing Dooby-do-bap, youâve got thisđȘâ€ïžâ€ïž
Brought a little tears in my eyes towards the end....aaaaw so touching...I wish things workout with the two of you as well as between your you and your mom...I'm sure if she opens her heart a little bit and give you guys a chance and really tries to get to know your boyfriend, she will slowly understand why her daughter fell in đ„° love
The best part of this Saturday...... doobyvlogs. The intro is soooo fine. My weekend relaxation therapy â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
If it feels like its worth fighting for, it definitely is, trust yourself! So proud of you and wishing you all the very very best!! Thank you for sharing your story, you didn't have to, but we're grateful you did
Love the song Ruby Sparks. Thank you for introducing to this beautiful song. Cheering for you Dooby and your happiness. Every single word you say resonates with me and its okay to trust your guts some time. At the end your happiness matters. Keep being you.
Thank you for sharing this. Message at the end was so beautiful â€