Entitled Daughter Calls Single Dad "Broke Loser" and Insults Dad Online for Not Paying $150k...
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- čas přidán 6. 03. 2024
- Entitled Daughter Calls Single Dad "Broke Loser" and Insults Dad Online for Not Paying $150k Wedding, He Simply Cancels Support.
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I’ll be honest, Op’s daughter DOES sound like a complete brat, but Op isnt a saint either.
Tbh the only person in this story who ISNT an asshole is the sister.
Classic story of what happens when entitled kids grow up to be entitled adults.
Thank you! I was just going “yeesh your no prize either man the entire time”
The saying "like father like daughter" did come to mind a few times.
But at least, they got together and started to work things out. To me, that is all that matters.
True
Who is saint?
Kids... If you decide to get married, you made an adult decision. Start paying like an adult. Your parents are done paying for your entitlement.
I would add the caveat of expectation. Some parents actually want to pay towards the wedding, as they see it as the last time they get to support their child before emotionally accepting that they are an adult. I have actually heard from fathers what a mindf*ck it is to see their daughter in their wedding dress as it breaks their mind's perspective of that 6 year old daddy's girl.
@@Maninawig that's fine. That's the parent decision. But kids need to come into adulthood needing to understand that parents are not expected to pay everything they wants.
@@Maninawig yea i agree, parents paying for a wedding is kinda normal... or at least recieving help of any kind, like getting the venue paid for, or even suggestions on using the family house for the venue etc etc...
Expecting a WHOLE LAVISH wedding to be paid for is... well.... you better check your silver spoon. That or if you are well off and are in an arranged marriage then maybe?
parents.. raise your kids not to be spoiled
@Maninawig no one here is stopping parents to pay for wedding but don't you think children should also know the financial condition of parents being little practical never hurts😅
Sister has her head screwed on correctly, she warned him about spoiling his daughter but like every parent who raises an entitled brat, he didn't listen.
Sister is the only decent person in the story. OP is dense, OP's kid is spoiled.
That was my aunt for my father. And thankfully, he heeded her warnings. We were never well off, but we were alright. And I know getting everything I wanted would have done damage.
And was correct in pointing out his double standard of only taking action when she was entitled against him. He even stormed off. They’re both self centred in their own ways, she’s spoiled and he gave her a pass since she wasn’t directing her actions at him.
Not listening is a common characteristic of someone who raises an entitled brat, and how the brat comes to be entitled in the first place: the parent doesn't listen to the people who raise concerns
75k is already a batshit insane amount to spend on a wedding, let alone 150k. Once again OP is a petulant child.
Depends if they're Indian Indian weddings are crazy. But you are right 40k is already a shit ton
i stopped watching after seeing the 75k. Im like... 30k is steep for a lot of people, its what most make in a year after all. Let alone 75k, which is a salary of someone with a decent job. 150k is something someone doing well for themselves would make in a year
am i measuring wedding expense off of salary? HELL YEAH I AM why the fuck are people trying to spend 5 years worth of pay on a day when signing the damn paper is at most 50$
I'll bet my parents didn't spend 10000 on their wedding. And from what I've heard it was incredibly beautiful and so much fun. I remember them telling me my Grandma and all of my aunts did the cooking so the food was beyond awesome.
Both father and daughter sound like real pieces of work.
Yeah he's an awful dad, going from a pushover to petty asshole demanding debts he never even wanted back, saying it purely just to hurt her.
That's not a father who's teaching a person how to be an adult, he should never have had kids. I expect dead wife did all the child rearing before
I was really for the dad at first, apart of me still is but holy shit-like father like daughter I suppose...
150k for a wedding?! That is ridiculous.
even the 75k wedding fund... who the fuck even needs 75k??
Especially for a wedding she knew that was canceled smh
Yeah, you could get 3 softcore hazbin hotel animations for that.
@@lordcirrhosisofliverImagine spending 50k only to become known as the king of gooners.
@@lordcirrhosisofliver 💀
"I didn't teach her to act like this, I just didn't teach her not to." 🙃
Me, who definitely needs therapy: "All these people need therapy."
Operah up here shouting to the crowd: "you get a therapy session and you get a therapy session and you! Therapy for everyone!"
Agreed, it's like my life might be a cluster fuck, but atleast I'm not that bad
Two flawed people being able to admit their faults and work through it?
Happy ending.
This. Lots of people crapping on OP. But he held himself accountable and is working to better himself. Isn't that the point?
While op isn’t wrong for not paying for the wedding he’s definitely at fault for raising her that way. I’m glad he could admit it but after hearing full thing it sounds like his daughter is exactly like him 😂
Right?
He acted just like her, even copying her words like a teenager
I'm suprised at the amount of people suporting him, he created this whole situation by raising the brat like that
Exactly, they are both equally petty, immature, and not good people
75K for a wedding is already huge omg did they springkle diamond on top of the cake or something
I dunno if there is edible diamond... there is edible gold though.
As for the price, I have seen some excuses for very expensive wedding dresses.
Probably got the most expensive venue they could, with the most expensive catering, as well as expensive everything else as she wanted the whole thing funded by him including all the dresses for her and her bridesmaids.
@@Maninawigi mean diamonds are 100% carbon so i'd assume all of the are edible (assuming there arent sharp edges)
@@1999moniz "Diamonds cannot be digested as they are impervious to acid. Acid is used to clean diamonds. Swallowing a diamond is dangerous as it could tear through the digestive track. If you don't have any issues, it will come out in the exact same condition as it was when it went in!"
@@Maninawig I mean the same happens to gold, you dont digest it, it just goes out the same.
The sister is an absolute goat! She has every good opinion, didn't take sides, all the best to her!
"That was just $75,000". Wow, that's till $50,000 too much. She expects him to basically buy a HOUSE for a one day party.
If my dad was still here and I talked to him like this spoiled brat did her own dad, I wouldn't be here to comment. Heck my very existence would be erased and no one would be able find me because I would be 6 feet under 😂
My Asian dad would have made sure to leave no signs of my presence.
Well, I was NEVER raised as "daddy's little princess", seeing everyone being praised often made me jealous and this post makes me sad. Even tho I just want a little feeling that my parents are proud of me but nevertheless I've never heard them praising me. Life sucks man...
If what you're saying is genuine then your father was a terrible person and father.
Wait so your dad is capable of doing that to his child? Or is that a figure of speech
Sorry for your loss.
@@thousandyardgavri2785 I'll tell you mine. I'm 18 and my parents have a very significant presence in making my life choices, since they're paying for everything. I'm nobody to speak against them until I'm independent, and If I ever did something wrong like making some significant choices my parents will surely cut me off. And make sure I don't see them ever again, I'm currently living with my parents so if I misbehaved badly or didn't listened to them I'll surely get beated with broom or something. I'll be emotionally exhausted from all their taunts and fight that they'll be blaming each other for raising a ungrateful brat like me. So from a early age (yeah, when I was you my mom use to beat me for scoring low or misbehaving) I learnt to zip my mouth especially in front of my father. I don't talk with him much since he's never home, he never hitted me but it's emotionally exhausting to have a convo with him. And in the end I just end up guilt tripping because my father works so hard and I can't even do what he said.
So yeah, I avoid talking to him but heyy I've my lil bro, and I do love my parents tho. And growing up almost every parent I knew were almost like this I guess? Except few. Idk I'll soon move out for college and will grind hard to secure a good job to move to another country where I can use my independence hehe.
It's sad how the daughter treated her ex who cheated on her multiple times better than her father who did everything for her.
OP couldn't afford her entitled wedding so she blasted him online. Yet her ex cheated on her and she initially decided to protect him from the backlash smdh
GOOD LORD!! OP failed as a parent is an understatement, glad he never had any other children.
Parents are not solely responsible for raiaing bad children. It's ridiculous to beleive otherwise.
@@davidnash8208 You are absolutely correct. However, in this story, his treatment of his daughter directly correlates to the issues that she has now. Her entitlement is a result of him spoiling her. It's ridiculous to look at the kind of person she is, look at the upbringing he gave her, and say that those two things are unrelated. And the person you're responding to never said he was solely responsible, they said he failed as a parent. You straw-manned what they said.
@@alext9320 I said "Parents are not solely responsible.." The key word being 'solely'.
@@davidnash8208 Yea I know. I pointed out that the person you're responding to never made the claim that parents are solely responsible. What you said was just kind of irrelevant, you were debating an argument that no sane person would make.
@@alext9320 At least I wasn't rude about it. Perhaps you could make your points without being rude.
JUST 75k he says as if that isn't a giant amount
You created a monster, she's an adult now, let it figure it out.
At first I felt bad for him, but as he kept speaking all I can think is that it was well deserved. He created a monster and now it bit him in the butt. They deserve each other and it's incredible how he admits to his faults but can't give an apology or discuss things like an adult, in that sense he seems even worse than the daughter.
🙄Its an apology. Not a hostage negotiation. If your apologies are dependent on if you know they will be accepted or if they are sorry first, you are disingenuous.
"I'm sorry for what I've said and done. I would like to maintain space for awhile."
Put it this way, I would rather spend a hundred dollars to know that my friends are genuine rather then find out later when they cheat me out of a dollar. Same energy, I would rather apologize when I don't think I'm entirely in the wrong to see if the relationship is worth keeping.
Normally I would say the "give me back everything I paid for" would have been too much but since she said "his wife probably died cuz he neglected her" all bets were off
Two narrcasists, op's sister must be a saint to be able to deal with those two.
1:46 “Just $75,000”? Jesus Christ. Does this kid know how extravagant a $75,000 can be? Jesus.
Even 75k is too much for a wedding!!!
“just $75k” man get out my face 😒
But he needs a loan 😅
I can imagine how bratty your daughter acted growing up and your sister really tried to warn u.
$75k should be plenty.
Op sister is a walking W. I wish everyone is blessed with a sister like op’s sister.
Also, why didn’t she get her boyfriend/fiancé family to help pay for the wedding if she wanted it so bad.
Crazy how people are so dependant on social media for such personal ordeals.
Gotta love that his last lesson for her was "You don't need to keep your promises, because other people don't keep their promises"
That's not really what OP said, and I wont disagree with exposing a cheater. I get the worry though about that lesson since he hasn't done a good job setting examples for her.
imagine thinking your parents should pay for your wedding and college
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Considering how the OP raised her, it’s not unimaginable.
Eh, most people pay for their children’s colleges and that’s the best thing to do to set your child up for a good life without debt, maybe you’re just an American looking at this though.
@@dashiyamonique2983Americans are the worst for debt from student loans from their overrated, overunflated schools. They are no role models for healthy finances.
75K wedding fund is underfunded? All these people suck!
I watch this and only feel that how much that father felt after hearing those words from his own daughter
Hope he is alright
Even 75k is a ridiculous amount of money for a wedding. What a waste of money.
That's a good way to be written out of the will...that kid is inheriting air.
"Only $75,000" That is a lavish wedding already! And that wasnt enough? What a brat.
I’m sorry but finding your partner cheated on you and a dirt bag isn’t an excuse for snapping at your parent for not being able to pay for your wedding
Isnt even connected at all
Horrible father and a horrible daughter.
I just don't get spending so much money on a wedding, why not use it for a house down payment or something...but for a wedding. To me it's just dumb.
Entitled daughter ffed around around, and faced the consequences
Great job dad, but he was still wrong as well!
He very clearly did not do a great job as a dad
Just noticed you said around twice as I was going to repost what you said but replace 'daughter'with 'father'. He could use some family counciling to learn how to be a better dad.
@@ManinawigI agree with you too, but the daughter was also in the wrong by taking advantage of the dad.
@@alzhencs yeah, both were in the wrong.
@@ManinawigI agree
Wow, she's actually gonna try and better herself. Was not expecting that.
Who thinks spending $150000 on a wedding? The wedding fund is $75000 and that's not good enough??? Good grief, this girl needs a reality check. On the other hand Dad is also very immature.
as i get older (i m 20) i have been appreciating my dad although he doesn't talk much or we really didn't spend much time together as i have gotten older i m seeing that his working hard my only hope is to repay him some day in future 🙏🙌
She was willing to throw her father under the bus for something. He didn't do... neglect her.. but she wasn't willing to out her cheating boyfriend until he told her to?
well…at least we can see exactly how trisha turned out the way she did
$150,000 for a wedding??? Hell that's a house!!!!!
Even 70k is crazy for a wedding.
Who in their right mind pays that type of money for a wedding that may not last 6 months in todays world. My marriage has lasted 55 years but today probably not 6 months. Todays world is insane.
I will never understand these people who just assume/believe both college and wedding are the financial responsibility of their parents. That's just selfish, makes little to no sense and they clearly need to work on their entitlement issues.
This sounds like it was written by a 10th grader.
He screamed at his daughter to pay him back for the things he's bought her since she was 18, then hung up the phone when he was done screaming.
She sends him a check, and he's upset about it. "I didn't want her to pay me back, I wanted an apology!"
What did OP expect? She was literally doing what he screamed at her to do. She's an obnoxious brat, but her father sounds just as insufferable.
2:02 They’ve only been together for a year that marriage is not gonna last long, especially with her being a spoiled brat
Yep, this is all OP’s doing, he did not teach her and this is the result. OP is the AH because his daughter apologized and realized what the root of her problem was: him. He didn’t apologize to her for screwing up her upbringing, he is proud and not in a nice way, the daughter is so much better than him.
Notice how the first thing they do together after patching up, is to immediately hurt someone else, albeit someone who deserved it, but still 😅
She grew up to be exactly like her dad
That is exactly what I thought. He raised her to be entitled, but he doesn't even have the necessary good traits to pass on to her.
Op types: allegedly “spoiling”
Should type: “allegedly” spoiling
He 100% did did spoil her and that allegedly had no place in the sentence. He makes it seem like the implication of him spoiling her is ridiculous, but by his own words he never punished her for her actions in the past and funded her adult life more than he should have
So, OP gave his daughter money instead of attention or a sense of family and he was fine with that, until she got made when he plainly stated that her wedding is not as important as a business deal? Yeah, ESH. OP sounds like an enormous baby, not a parent. Way to absolutely wreck the shambles of your relationship with your daughter.
A business deal has a return, a wedding is a straight loss. Idk whats complicated about that and its a very stupid comparison. Plus he seemed to have an issue when she called him a broke looser and implied her mothers death was his fault. Not defending the father, but you seemed to have missed some details. Hell even after her initial blow up he still was willing to giver her 75k, it wasn't until her fb post she lost everything.
I hope that they can reflect, repair and improve. But my God, the ball was dropped so many times.
Didn’t have much time to save and only 75k in wedding fund? Math ain’t mathin
I just hope that OP's daughter learned a valuable lesson in this whole mess - don't trust cheaters.
Being a sucker runs in the family it seems, atleast the dad has a reason for it. What amazes me is that the daughter treated her cheating boyfriend better than her father.
The dad yelling at his daughter is literally justified. Yes, he spoiled her and created this monster but this girl went out of her way to confidently talk trash about her dad being the 'cause' of her mothers death. Im just glad in this case, spoiled child finally opened her eyes after her dad yelled at her, and dad opening his eyes to how he has been taking and handling her. Glad they now doing better and getting therapy.
He did not create a monster. If parents are responsible for how their children turn out bad, the parents of criminals should slo be sent to prison.
@@davidnash8208 you are making very binary comments with no middle nuance. You are making contradictory/antagonistic comments but adding nothing of value to any discussion, yet call other people rude for challenging your claims.
1. Criminals are most often criminals because of environment problems (not enough money to survive, cannot meet basic needs) so blaming parents for crimes makes very little sense (unless the parents are also criminals, teaching their kids to do crimes, your comparison adds nothing substantial to conversation. It comes off as a throwaway "nuh-uh, you're wrong!!")
2. Parents can and often do perpetuate cycles of abuse. At some point a child grows into an adult who either fights that cycle or has given into it. The people and environment surrounding a kid as they grow can really impact how that kid is as an adult. It's not 100% the parents or the kids fault, but at some point they [as individuals] cross from victim to full perpetrator.
3. Parents might not be "solely" responsible but you cannot say it's either all or none. Parents set examples, teach values, and has some level of control over who is an acceptable peer or adult role model to a child. OP wasted seemingly every opportunity to correct misbehavior and raise his kid right. But he raised his kid by feeding her materialism even though she mistreated other people. So she became entitled to money, low emotional maturity and weakened social skills. She was never forced to face consequences and got anything she wanted. That's a literal direct consequence of OP's poor parenting.
@@ayceinquisitor190 Good lord, you're going to blow a gasket. I have no inention of reading such dribble, yes, I am being rude, but I am trying to be and you can't help it (acknowledgement to F.E. Smith)
This man essentially dedicated his life to his daughters happiness after just losing his wife and his reward was to be called a broke loser who was responsible for his wife's death just because he only had half of the 150k that brat wanted for her wedding with a guy she's only been dating for a year.
To make it even worse he's now being gaslit to believe that her behavior is his fault, because even providing a child the best life a single father possible can has to be twisted into something wrong.
And in the end all of this was done because his daughter FOR SOME REASON wanted to be married to a *confirmed* cheating PoS.
Good men can literally never win, even if they try to do everything right they're still made out to be the bad guy by bad people 🤦♂
My mom and sister used to fight all the time. They were the two that were most alike.
Every relationship goes through ups and downs. They'll get through it
😅 still crazy there's dad's like this. If I ever talked to my dad that way I wouldn't be here 😂
You don't let people like that back in to your life.
A father is a daughter's one true love
the hero of this story is sister. she told OP exactly what would happen if he kept spoiling his daughter and he acted as though he knew better and ignored her. now he has an entitled adult to deal with and no one to blame except himself
it’s the fact she thinks that 4k is all the money he spent on her is so incredibly spoiled like what
Op isn’t 100% blameless. But the moment she said he caused his wife’s death, I’m sure he wasn’t trying to be nice.
Dude thinks the grown up/parental thing to do is to play stand-off with his daughter instead of reaching across the bridge. smh.
Yeah the girl should have been raised a better but it still baffles me that anyone can grow up to be so naive as to bite the hand that feeds her.
9:33
"I don't owe her an apology."
Yeah you do, you owe an apology for failing to raise her.
14:29
"I haven't replied to that message yet because I don't know what to say."
Uh, how about, "I love you and I'm grateful that you've sincerely apologized, but all this has been so much that I just need time. Maybe we can have lunch together some time next week?" You know, like a mature adult? Good grief this guy isn't mature enough to have had children.
Both OP and the daughter sound like nightmares. This is why some people shouldn't be parents.
What is it with people and expecting their parents to cover the cost of their extravagant weddings? You're making an adult decision, pay for it like an adult. A wedding is a privilege, not a right. You have the wedding within your means and deal with it.
For a lot of people, religions, and cultures a wedding is giving your child away to their partner and the pay for it (if they can). Nowadays it’s more shared but they’re given money during the wedding parties/wedding
It is absolutely not unusual for parents to overcompensate when they end up becoming a single parent due to their spouse passing away. Unfortunately, OP went overboard, spoiled his daughter and now she's an insufferable nightmare. He's not totally clean in all of this. They sound like they're both equally toxic individuals who have immature reactionary behavior to the most innocuous or inane things. The worst part, it doesn't sound like either of them are sorry for their gross lack of respect for boundaries and have nothing even in the same ballpark as a sense of accountability.
75k my dad didn't give $1 on my wedding
Both Dad and Daughter need to go to therapy. Dad is dealing with some serious shit in his head and so does the daughter.
Well.
At least they both come to realize they were both the problem here.
I "only" saved 75k for her wedding. Man this family is really well off. I couldnt even imagine *wanting* to spend that kind of money on a wedding. But maybe that's just me. Cant imagine getting wed in the first place and if i did it'd be a small gathering, as public events are as close to modern torture as it gets. But 75k? Even a car would be a more practical use of that money, and i fucking hate cars or driving lmfao
It's good that op and his daughter are getting therapy because they both need it. However I must glad op convinced his daughter to expose her cheating fiancee because he should not be allowed walk away without repercussions.
Why tf is OP so stubborn that he can't apologise to his daughter for not raising her right?
This story reminds me of my own life. I only had my mom though. She spoiled me rotten and I had the freedom of an adult and could use her money like I wanted to from a very young age. Now I'm 21 and trying to learn myself how to be a normal person and have discpline but it feels impossible sometimes. If you ever get kids remember that having rules is really for their own benefit.
Emotionally stunted OP flies into rage easily and refuses to own up to his mistakes wonders why his daughter turned out like him. 🙄
Edit: He probably sent the money back so he can have a "reason" to be mad at her. What a tool.
I cant imagine breaking my fathers heart like that
Getting a loan for a wedding isn’t the same as getting a loan for a house. Dad needs help himself.
What does he mean by allegedly spoiling his daughter. He turn her into a completely entitled a hole
Omg. This is my sister and her husband’s future with their daughter! This is how she has been since elementary school and is still like this now.
My stepdad is someone who doesn't like saying no to me and my older brother since he knows that we have shitty bio dads and he genuinely loves us as his kids. On the very rare occasion we would ask something from him that we wanted since we knew he would get it, but we never abused his kindness. We didn't need him to buy stuff for us or spoil us for us to love him.
He made us feel better about having shitty bio dads by just simply being there, it didn't involve spoiling us since he didn't want us to be raised as spoiled brats. The few occasional spoiling, which were small things. He succeeded where our bio dad and op had failed to as a parent
$75k wedding fund is MORE than enough ??
75K would be better spent on a downpayment for a house. OP’s daughter is dumb to expect 150K for one…. single…. day.
Major takeaway from this story- OP is an idiot.
He wasn’t going to talk to her until she apologized, even though he did wrong in his reaction to her? What an AH.
He clearly should have apologized for the way he responded, because it excessive and needlessly cruel, while also indicating that until she can see what she did as wrong and give a legitimately apology, he’s stepping back from the relationship, which includes the wedding.
Only has 75k..........75k would radically change my life.
Owe I'm so sure the narcasist daughter was the one cheated on and the ex will give the exact same story.
People who spoil others expect them to be grateful and even if they treat others poorly they can't imagine it happening to them, but then it always does.
I wonder if it just something mental. If a person receives too much, then what they receive loses its value. If it looks like it is easy on the provider to spend money, then no amount will ever be enough. If it is hard on the provider to spend money, and the spoiled person has to pick and choose what they can afford, they learn value and appreciation. How can you appreciate something if 10 seconds later you already have something else to replace it.
First of all, $75000 is a lot for a wedding. Kids are only kids once and every parent wants their kid to have a better life than they did, and kids don't come out with directions.
OP is 100% at fault.for not checking that attitude when she was growing up. The reap what you sow, fool.
Op may not did a right thing. But his daughter is another level.
Op is so unbelievably immature. Its actually infuriating!!! Your supposed to set the example and your acting like a spoilt brat too???!!!, The sister is the back bone in this cause without her, he would NEVER have a relationship with his daughter ever again!!!!!,
Thankfully for OPs daughter she got some self-awareness from somewhere because god knows that wasn't a value system instilled by her father. OP is a horrendous parent and it's kind of sad that his sister wasn't able to more involved because none of this would have happened otherwise. OP and his daughter need to do an AA apology tour because they've undoubtedly wronged a lot of people, OPs sister first and foremost.
Apologize for how you said it but not what you said. Cut her off from funds and apologize for raising her incorrectly
OP is such a bad dad that I actually struggle to feel negatively about the kid.
OP literally says he wanted her to believe she could have everything ... Then is surprised that she blows uo when told no.
He then says awful things to her. Truly despicable things to her and doesnt think he has anything to apologise for.
And to make it all worse. His sister warned him. He ignored all the red flags and warnings and only got mad when the monster bit him.
The daughter even tried to do as he asked. And he still was incapable of putting his pride and communicating. His phone call with her was rancid