Let's Chat Ep3: "I WOKE up, but my husband is still a Jehovah's Witness" - exJW Story
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😄 Welcome to episode 3 of "Let's Chat".
Can you make a relationship work if you wake up and no longer decide to be a Jehovah's Witness, BUT your spouse continues believing and practicing the religion? And how do you deal with the kids if you've been raising them as JW's, but now the parents are split on their beliefs?
Meet Wendi Renay. She woke up completely in 2020, and her husband is still a practicing JW. Listen in to see how she approached the 'I-don't-want-to-be-a-Jehovah's-Witness-anymore' discussion with her husband, and then the conversation(s) she had with her children.
😄 ALSO:
Wendi is also a life and health coach, to which she is a positive force in helping others who have also woken up from the JW religion. Here are her links if you're interested in following up with her:
Tiktok: www.tiktok.com/@wendirenay
CZcams: tinyurl.com/wendirenayyoutube
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Great interview, I disassociated August 2019 after 36 years in, my husband continued going to the meetings until Oct 2019 as when he asked me a question I used jw literature and the bible then he woke up. Sending love from U.K. 💜💜🇬🇧
Thanks for sharing, Anita. Good for you in reasoning from the scriptures! 🤗💛
@ex JW uk Anita -- what question did he ask you, if you don't mind sharing?
So glad the newly Ex JW’s that are exiting have these videos! It would’ve been so much easier for me 26 years ago had I had this kind of support.
Most definitely! 🤗
Thank you so much for this opportunity. Was such a joy meeting you!!
Absolutely! It was a joy for me too!! x
Thank you for sharing your experience!
Wishing the best for you and your family !
@Wendi Renay on TikTok too!..... thank you for sharing your story... I woke up In 2017ish but due to my husband and kids I stayed in....the overlapping generation teaching is what had me in Mental gymnastics state for years..... I finally allowed myself to research and it was over....long story short I stop going to the meetings August 2019 when my husband confronted me about not going to the meetings I started crying and told him everything..... tears running down my face and a crying mess..... I told myself if he leaves me I was ready for it......after 30 minutes of crying and telling him all I had learned he turned to me and said .... your just now realizing it’s a cult... I’ve been knowing it’s a cult!!!!!! I was shocked..... my husband was apparently a PIMO for 20 years!!! We all left August 2019....I’m glad your out and I hope your husband wakes up
@@MJ-ej5ok Wow.. that took courage! what a great ‘wake up’ story and I’m so happy to hear the results! Thanks for sharing!
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@@LivingTruth1 thank you we have our good days and bad bands but we are happy we are together and out!
Since hubby is so low key, he is probably relieved not to have so much pressure and fuss over meeting attendance and prep and being told that he is not reaching out enough. He is doing what is comfortable and at his own pace according to his schedule. I think during this lockdown more witnesses will become comfortable with the fact that being a witness does not have to be life encompassing with a set number of ministry hours. And now that they can take the meeting on the go with zoom and camera off, when the doors open to the hall again, I would not be surprised to hear of a great decrease. Any way, good that the wife feels happy and supported; and hope that the won't be any pressure or issues if the kids want to become active.
Good perspective, thanks for sharing. :)
This makes a great deal of sense. Thank you for sharing
Love your story. I'm recently awake and am working to break free. Its by far the most difficult transition of my life. Best of luck on your journey!
Thank you, and for sharing. Best to you 🤗
@@LivingTruth1 thank you
I like these chats that you are doing especially with people who are so recently out. I've been out ( df ) 40 years and except for losing my biological family, I don't think much about it.
I'm glad that you're able to give them a chance to tell their story !
🙉🙈🙊
Thanks Dan. 🤗
Dan. Very interesting I also left 40 yrs ago. I also lost my entire biological family BUT am still married to my high school current JW bride. We raised 3 children, 2 are Christian like me and 1 is a new ager basically no religion. So it ca be done IF there's enough love in the marriage. Thanks for these chats.
It's wonderful to see Wendy's children have the opportunity to grow up without the FOG and be free of this trauma based mind controlled cult so they can develop their authentic selves...hopefully her husband will follow suit. It's great to know that this family wasn't torn apart by the witchtower. Great interview! Cheers from Alberta, Canada!
Thanks, and for your comment!
Thank you so much for this comment 💕
I'm catholic and my husband is JW. We are both strong in our beliefs but have attended very little of either of our religious meetings, I think out of respect of each other. We also have a 7 year old who is starting to ask questions on why we're different and why our families are different. It's interesting and we just take everything a day at a time. As well as try to be as open as we can if she has any questions.
Thanks for sharing. 🤗
I left in 2007, Was unable to wake my wife. She just said " Well, you'll have to find a place to live"
We had a 7yr old son.
There was no chance of forgiveness.
Wow, that is harsh. 😢
@@LivingTruth1 Yeah it was.
But, I have a new family now 😃
Luv from Australia
@@gcsoulsurfer Yay! Luv from 🇨🇦
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Same Situation for me except I am 70+
and my wife is too chicken to try and throw me out.
A clean break no matter how painful for you short term, is a blessing in disguise.
It may Sound harsh,please forgive me, but it doesnt Sound as though she truly loved you.
I have to face up to the same questipns as you.
Wendi and I could be sisters! Same boat and same time line. I was the devout one too, same thing I told my husband I love him more now and nag him less. Agree you can't wake them up, the more you try the more they dig in.
Wow, amazing! Good for you and thanks for sharing. x
Hi Rosie !!:) Thank you
Such wise women! Love this channel!
💜 Thank you 🤗
I can’t be unfriended -That was another great one -
We appreciate-.
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Thanks Stace. 🤗💛
Thank you for this inspired interview 😊
Love this thank you!
So happy to see more of these videos!
Thanks! 🤗
Congratulations and welcome to your freedom Wendi!! Blessings!!
Its interesting to know wherever we live, exjw has same experiences. Its horrible that pimos need to struggle & feel scare of the consequences by shunning!
So true. Living in fear is the worst.
Wonderful discussion once again Tammy! And thanks for sharing your experience Wendy - it will help many, I am sure 🤍 I know I will be sharing this chat with someone who will definitely relate. Well done and oh so relevant!
Thanks Brenda! 💞
Thank you so much for watching
I love this video. Thanks. Greetings from Liberia West Africa
Thank you 😊
@naomi nyarku Liberia, wow! I love to see comments from people in Africa because that's where much of the growth of JWs is taking place and I feel a lot for them.
Enjoyed your interview a lot.
Thanks!
Thanks so much :)
Family is more important than a Cult or a Religion, get out! !
Great interview...you both sisters a just Great and wonderful...🙏🏻💝
Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you x
I figure a therapist who understands cult mentality is essential to breaking the mind kontrol of 2ion's Watch Tower cult. It's MK-Ultra on steroids. It's not something we can unravel on our own. Support is essential.💔
Friends are also a type of therapy. Having someone to share with is important to process through. Thanks for your comment, Esther. 💛
@@LivingTruth1 Absolutely!💗👍 Unfortunately, when the entire congregation of false "friends" and family turns against you for leaving, sometimes ex-members find themselves utterly alone. That can be traumatic. There is a difference between shock, loneliness, and solitude.
Very interesting chat lady’s what’s sad is so many people fall for it and spend many years of there lives teaching it my grand was in it 17 years I’m born again Christian I used to go see granny on Sunday evening after church I used to tell her all my stories what jesus had been doing she used to say that don’t happen in are congregation I said know because you don’t have Holy Spirit any ways she woke up not by me telling her all the time but my Daly praying for her and a move of god on her she had a dream where she was back as a child holding her father hands he picked her up to stop her stumbling on pavement well when I seen her next she told me dreams I said jesus is your father in heaven he wants you to hold his hands because as a child you 💯 trust your father but as a adult and the programming you are in a place of I’m not shore now my gran said she never dream s at all something in dream was telling her it means something this was jesus talking to her in dream but not realising it she said wow that speaks to me big time following week my gran went to a born again Christian Church but not my church so I was not there to influence her she went on her own now we know jws would not like this any way when I seen her next she told me she went and absolutely loved it people were so lovely she said she then started coming with me after and god done mirricles like heal her relationship with my mum as my gran was not good when younger but she got born again eventually gran went in to a home I was very busy over few months had not much time to go see her I remember but god showed me in a dream of my gran stood st the widow looking out for me to visit her so I knew jesus was telling me go see gran she’s missing you that’s a bit of story I have freinds wife iv been trying to reach recently but they are not allowed to see videos of say you guys talking about it so sad how brainwashed it can get gbl for now x
James, how can you possibly be bright enough to see through this ridiculous religion but still remain a Christian?
Did you not realise that part of the problem of being a JW isnt just how corrupt and disgusting the religion is, but how ridiculous and immoral The Bible and Christianity are.
Why on earth would you want to follow and worship a disgusting monster like the god of the bible?
Youve escaped one barmy religion and jumped into another. You havent escaped anything. Wake up.
You talk about brain washed, yet you still believe something laughably naive and absurd.
Im not trying to be harsh or a dick, but you are still trapped in hilariously unjustifiable beliefs and following a repulsive book and doctribe.
How long does it take to become deprogrammed & how do you help someone ?
The answer to that is different for every person.
Lovely interview 😊
Thank you 💛
Awesome women!!! Thank you for sharing…
Thank you.
Interestingly enough. This CULT is made up of mostly WOMEN. SO GLAD THAT THEY'RE STANDING UP AND LEAVING. THE ABUSE OF WOMEN IN THIS CULT IS OUTRAGEOUS!!!!
My husband married me as he knew I am a Born Again Christian. Before we were married my, then became our friends and family threw him 3 bday parties. We celebrated Christmas and I had all traditional family gatherings here. He had dabbled in the jw religion. Then he went to truck driving school and met a practicing witness. He started attending meetings ect. a few moths after we got married. He grew into another person. After our 1st anniversary we were separated. Its been since December I have seen him 1 time.
So can be so many difficulties when couples have different beliefs. Thanks for sharing.
Sometimes differing beliefs can be the spice to any relationship. Unless those beliefs have a destructive ideology
Wauw, very encouraging. Love you sister😘
So glad!
@@LivingTruth1 I wish there were more women like you coming out to witness the way you do🙏🏽😉♥️
@@Roger-wi2wk Thank you so much. You just made my day. 😊
Hi Ladies. I'm 3rd Gen JW. My Husband knows I'm a PIMO and He's okay with it. Ever since the generation overlap crap I've been very vocal about it; one good evening at dinnertime, in a very calm conversation, I told Him my feelings about it being just another religion with some very nice people but that was all to me. He understood and we're alright, having a great time together as usual. He used to be more into it, but not so much since the covid mess. I am soooo glad that our relationship survived my letting go of the religion.
Good honest conversation. Glad its worked out for you🙌. Thank you for sharing! 💛
Fantastic women!!! Thanks 💗💗💗
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This was great, but I hope that a follow up interview is planned!
Thanks Rick! A follow up is likely to happen :)
I’d love that!
Loves this Lets chat!
Great, thanks!
Wow, 10:10 really struck home. It's amazing that we all go through roughly the same situations.
So you did an Eve, you decided take of the fruit and presented it to Adam 😂
Eve was a genius.
LOL. I never thought of it that way - I guess so
Hi! I know its extremely off topic (i like your channel btw, the organisation is the epitome of all evil!) but how do you call the striped curtains with wood in the background? Thnx in advance
Thanks. Do you mean the ‘room divider’?
@@LivingTruth1 YES room divider! THANKS!
Try to wake your husband gradually until you convinced him
Enjoy Freedom! Think Critically! Travel make Real New Friends!
Yes, yes, and yes! 🙌
@@LivingTruth1 I Love You🌹
My best fader friend is married to Ray Franze great niece ....he and the kids left watchtower in 2006 ......all is well ....She dresses up for zoom meetings ,and recently proclaimed that it is a sin to save money ......She is not pestering them ,and is keeping herself in check .....her husband's checks !
How’s your day dear?Happy to see you.
It's been great, thank you! Hope you're well. :)
Excellent conversation, she is handling things well. I do wonder if her husband has asked her any details on what made her not believe any longer?
Thank you. Good question.
Hi there! Yes he definitely asks and I respond with info only from JW literature. When I told him about my son and his reaction to that Sunday talk, he was pretty understanding and I do realize the rarity of that
@@WendiRenay - Thanks Wendi- Hopefully he will also begin doing some research and wake up- Your sons experience is similar to when my parents told my daughter that she and I would die at Armageddon because we weren’t JWs. Over 30 years later she still remembers this.
Ex JW ladies are so nice and good looking, beautiful and well dressed, no wonder they dont fit in this CRUEL religion. Wont be easy outside, get involve with large church groups, reach out to people and select the honest for truth people. My best regards, blessing for you all.
Thank you.
Thank you !;)
Good video
Thank you :)
Wendi!!!!
I wish I would’ve seen this 2 years ago. I’ve made so many mistakes with my husband. 😥
Mistakes are just another way we can learn... which it sounds like you have. Best to you. x
Same Situation for me except I am a 72 year old man.I was SUSPECTING the SCAM since 9.11.I left 6 years ago....and family life is hell.
If it wasnt for love on my part, I would have ended it years ago.
Thanks for sharing 🤗
Interesting thing is I read Martin Luther’s story and how the Catholic religion treated him and persecuted him sounds much like the watchtower treats ppl and shuns them . Yet watchtower has no problem quoting him.
Totally agree, and when you take a close look at the history of religion you’ll see persecution, shunning, burning... organized religion has an ugly past, and still continues with much of its practices on non-believers or anyone stepping out of line. For shame. 😔
@@LivingTruth1 that is one of the reasons why I began to doubt this cult. Their shunning policy and how superior they feel towards everyone else. If you don’t have goals or a title you don’t love Jehovah enough. 😒
She’s cute
Thank you !!:)
“For there will be a period of time when they will not put up with wholesome teaching, but according to their own desires, they will surround themselves with teachers (Lloyd Evans) to have their ears tickled. They will turn away from listening to the truth and give attention to false stories”.
They will refer to abandoning true worship as waking up.
2 Tim 4:3-4