WHAT IS MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING? | CONFESSIONS OF A MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMER| YOU ARE NOT ALONE

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  • čas přidán 27. 07. 2018
  • Excuse my hair because I am doing a twist out lol, but hey everyone this is just a short video of a condition that I and alot of others have to deal with and just wanted to bring awareness to this toxic illness
    and for my fellow MaDDers' that you are NOT alone, and that I love you all!!!!!

Komentáře • 40

  • @UniqueSouls
    @UniqueSouls Před 6 lety +23

    This topic is definitely a hard one to talk about. daydreaming is a very personal thing. thank you for making this video.

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 6 lety

      Unique Souls ❤️❤️❤️

  • @myfun20230
    @myfun20230 Před 5 lety +15

    I feel exactly the same! When I found out that my condition that I'd been keeping secret my whole life had a name, I cried. I actually just found out maybe a week ago from a Tumblr post! All these years I had been keeping it a shameful secret. I figured if anyone found out, I'd be shamed, and someone would try to heal me of it. Honestly, I never want to cure it. It's a huge part of my life, and it's my personal therapy. Reality is scary, and my personal world makes it a hell-of-a-lot easier to live through.

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety

      GMMythicalBeast thanks so much for your kindness sweetheart. Unfortunately I am only telling bc I CARE, but MD is actually not necessarily good for your mental health. I completely understand how you feel about it’s your therapy! There were times when I just wanted to be alone in my room after a long day and just daydream for hours. But the problem is, that once you come back to reality you feel very empty don’t you? As if in your head you’re something different and when you come back to the real world you feel like you don’t have a sense of self. I know you don’t want to cure it love, but I will genuinely advise you to try to atleast limit how much you do it, because you do have a actual life to live for and I don’t want you spending decades in a daydream. And I actually have a tumblr MD post and I would love for you to follow me and vice versa! The MD community up there is soooo kind and understanding people❣️❣️❣️

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety

      Also my tumblr is lexiikiaraa if you ever have the time to follow💜

  • @elevenpoisons2484
    @elevenpoisons2484 Před 6 lety +18

    my anti depressant meds are giving me madd block so I feel forced into reality and it gets overwhelming sometimes. Being a little more 'normal' is overrated to be completely honest lol
    great video, you're so lovely!

  • @Hamza7308
    @Hamza7308 Před 5 lety +8

    My MaDD kicked into overdrive when I heard Cranes in the Sky lol. Thanks for making this vid it's super helpful, I'm just realizing I have MaDD.

  • @ruffey1748
    @ruffey1748 Před 3 lety +4

    I've been day dreaming since I was 4 or 5, mine was triggered by loneliness as a kid, and I learned to live my life around it. I got good grades, got into a good college undergrad and post-grad, have held down busy, fast-paced jobs in news and marketing, and have a strict routine about personal hygiene and keeping my environment clean and tidy. I never miss a rent payment, and I still call and meet-up with friends. So I'd say that if your daydreaming is interrupting your basic necessities of life, it's something you'd want to address with a professional. I say all that to say, there are different experiences with MaDD.

  • @DollyWalt
    @DollyWalt Před 6 lety +7

    Wow! Thanks for sharing! I'm 30 and this is the first time I've heard someone else describe my habits!

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 6 lety

      DollyWalt Of course! I felt like it was time to be open and honest that this a real thing that people deal with and I just wanted to reassure everyone they're not alone! (:

  • @sylvaine5924
    @sylvaine5924 Před 6 lety +5

    thank you so much for this video. MD has been in my life for about 4 years now and gotten worse over time. it got so bad this year i actually have to stay back a grade in school (i was failing almost all of my classes) i never really knew why i was daydreaming so much but found out about MD a little while ago. this video explains it perfectly and helps a lot thank you

  • @iamyourfather7159
    @iamyourfather7159 Před 5 lety +3

    I can relate to literally everything you said in this video, it scares me haha. No, seriously, thank you! I needed this. I have had MDD since as long as I can remember and the older I got the more I realised how far from reality I was living. I lost so much time... Thanks again for this great video. Next week I will finally tell my therapist about it. Phew.... Wish me luck :')

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety

      Iam Yourfather Good luck at therapy!! I went this year in February, my therapist was actually the first person I told and I never felt so more relieved. I know you’ll feel the same (:

  • @IDK-bw7sb
    @IDK-bw7sb Před 5 lety +5

    omh you must be my cosmic twin. I have MDD too as a black female.

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety +4

      IDK TBH we probably are! I can only imagine how many of my fellow sisters deal with this and l just wanted to bring light to it honestly and if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to message me❤️

  • @thesoulporpoise
    @thesoulporpoise Před 5 lety +2

    i relate to every single thing you said, and trust me i know how scary it must have been to make this knowing how secretive I've been about my MD my entire life. I commend you for bringing awareness to this!

  • @puremnlght
    @puremnlght Před 5 lety +5

    Thank you for this video, you are awesome :) I am 19 and I am daydreamer too. I am from Russia and unfortunately it's not talking about this phenomenon there :(
    I am waiting for your videos!

    • @puremnlght
      @puremnlght Před 5 lety

      by the way, do you have an insta? i'd like to follow ❤️

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety +1

      rena chan awwwwww thank you!!! And of course I’d just thought I would share what I deal with and hoping it would inspire someone else and it has. And yessss its lexi_kiara and I will definitely follow you back❣️

    • @puremnlght
      @puremnlght Před 5 lety

      Lexi Kiara ❤️

  • @T0xiccO
    @T0xiccO Před 4 lety +2

    I think i might have maladalptive daydreaming disorder bc since i moved to the us im often alone (bc i left all of my close friends and some family members) and i didn't do this back where i used to live. But what i do is i kinda just walk around and pretend im in different situations but mostly i day dream about fighting like big huge monsters or things like that idk why tbh. And sometimes i daydream about adventures i would have with my old friends and stuff like that. And i used to think that i did this bc i was still a kid (bc i moved when i was 10) but im 14 going to 15 and i still do it everyday. I wanna tell my mom but i don't think shell belive me so idk what to do

  • @bbchoux6892
    @bbchoux6892 Před 5 lety +2

    also thanks! for the video cuz that's prove that i'm not insane

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety +1

      You are definitely not insane I promise you that, I know that feeling all too well just posted this so you guys have some reassurance and I’m here for ALL of you!

  • @meganwitoski2851
    @meganwitoski2851 Před 5 lety +2

    this is amazing! please make more videos!

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety

      megan witoski thank you! And I promise I will do so 💗

  • @dimmerswitchdisco8255
    @dimmerswitchdisco8255 Před 6 lety +3

    Fantastic video!

  • @IndieBirdieMusic
    @IndieBirdieMusic Před 5 lety +2

    Great video!! But guess what my MD having self did? I saw the chickfila in the background and daydreamed about going there with someone I admire. Then I had to rewind the video. Damn it

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety

      Those triggers are something arent they?? I cant watch a movie without immersing myself into it lol

  • @bealambwouldya
    @bealambwouldya Před 5 lety +1

    Mine started in 2012. It’s my coping mechanism when things get hard it just happens everything is my trigger. I was playing with barbies with a friend I was 13 don’t judge 👀 and the next day I jus started daydreaming after awhile I started enjoying it now it’s boring too me bc I can’t have a normal life bc of it. Mine started off as doing dreams abt being a celebrity, fictional characters 😭 now I jus do it around me. My mom neglected me I wanted her attention & till this day she don’t say I love u I always had to say it first it still affects me 😭. I wanna stop the longest I went was 2 months but then I slipped bk into it. It’s hard to slip into it 😭 I thought I was the only one to a couple years ago I found it. I only do it bc I cope with it & I know how to stop when someone comes in the room. I can stop. 😭I’m jus going to keep it a secret my mom doesn’t kno wat it is she wanted to send me to a psych ward I’m not crazy I kno reality & fantasy i jus wanna stop I think I’ll have more friends n did better in school if I didn’t have it

  • @xyrakim5453
    @xyrakim5453 Před 3 lety

    You explain it better thanks

  • @briannaolsen7169
    @briannaolsen7169 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you for this

  • @myfun20230
    @myfun20230 Před 5 lety +1

    Also, you're super adorable and beautiful

  • @shahespinoza195
    @shahespinoza195 Před 5 lety +1

    Yo..you better be uploading soon ..i subscribed.
    It feels like no one can help

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety +1

      THEKING_EVIL23 I’m so sorry I am late responding to you, school has just started for me so I have been trying to get my shit together lol!! But I will definitely be uploading more I promise ❤️

    • @shahespinoza195
      @shahespinoza195 Před 5 lety

      Lexi Kiara appreciate it.
      You were saying it like it is on this video.

  • @davidsolowsky6119
    @davidsolowsky6119 Před 5 lety

    I dont daydream excessively but I talk to myself damn near nonstop.
    I'm my own best friend.😳

    • @Llllll98
      @Llllll98  Před 5 lety

      David Solowsky I’m guilty of both 😂🤦🏾‍♀️