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Hello, my people! I wanted to make a little commentary video on a recent type of "relatable" Tik Tok I've seen floating around a lot that can be really dangerous. I think it brings up an interesting, conversation. Are there certain things we shouldn't be making "relatable"?
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Fully agree. It's possible to make relatable content without it being harmful or an instruction manual for extremely harmful things.
I’m not sure these people get the weight of what they’re doing. People with substance use disorder do the same thing, they just write songs and make movies about it.
Well, not eating all day IS relatable. Everyone's experienced a day when you're too busy or stressed then you just forget. That's when I take a bite of the smushed granola bar that was left in my pocket since that morning and move on. A little fasting never hurt anyone.
@@Em_Elizabeth okay but that's still not something content should be made about. Not when it's harming people.
@@ElizabethNicoleSchwartz why not ? Something is always going to trigger someone.
@@Sekyebes not sure why you've replied to something that's like a year old... But anyway, even if that's true, it's still possible to say things to avoid hurting massive amounts of people and to make the amount you're offending as low as possible.
*Trigger warning- self harm*
It's weird how the competitiveness was present with people like me who self harmed. When I'd hear about different people's self harm habits it would give me ideas to try which was extremely harmful and detrimental.
It's a weird cycle of ones self harm isn't valid if they don't do a specific form a self harm.
😪 I'm glad I'm out of that rut right now but dang it was rough.
Much love to those who struggle with self harm❤.
Yeah, it’s so horrible to feel like what you’re doing isn’t “valid” and you get this imposter syndrome, and the only way to get rid of it is doing whatever you heard someone else is doing.
Yeah, I'm in that situation now :/
It's rough but I'm trying my best to fight those thoughts.
I also did self h@rm in the age of 11 and idk but i wanted to see myself hurt, i fought back those thoughts so many times and i had a lot going on that i wont write here, i want to start a new page but school is hard :( then when i was talking to my friend i accidently said that i do self h@rm (she was the one and only person who knew that, expect my kinda online friend-?) and next day at school her hand was covered with scars. It literally was one of the worst things and i did it even more bc i made my friend did that and i was a horrible person..
Now, i dont do it anymore and it was a rough time. Seeing ppl talking abt self h@rm in some ways hurt me a lot making me remember those things i did. I agree with Jessie (OUR QUEEN) like, there is so much more weird relatable thingsz why do we normalize disorders or h@rming-?
To anyone, please, i know its hard but i hope you can get out of those things and start a better life. I send you love from here 💝
@@flintii I just want you to know that's not your fault, you may have triggered it but she has to have been in a bad place already. It isn't your fault, you couldn't have known that that was going to happen. Of course, I only know as much of the story as you said so I can only say so much because I can't know for sure.
@@probably_noah9417 yeah i think its like that too. When i wrote to her we didnt speak for a couple years (covid) and didnt know her current situation.
Weird thing is, a friend of mine, (not the one i told abt) came to school with scars and told me what happend (that she did self h@rm and didnt even want to live anymore) this happened after i wrote my previous comment idk it was just weird and im sorry for her. We do relate to each other a lot and i hope she can get thru whats happening.
Btw, i have a speech tomorrow and i have social anxiety. Lets see how THAT goes...
Reminder that we are only in middle school and she has tried un-aliving herself and we both have gone thru a lot of things. The world is fucked.
This is the best way to address this topic. I much prefer this over coming after specific creators, possibly making them spiral further, while picking apart everything they do.
Agreed!!!!
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used to have possibly an eating disorder, definitely disordered eating when i was younger. Took me a long time to realize I even had a problem. I'm a lot better now but I have to always remember to eat, otherwise I could and have gone hours to an entire day even without eating. Watching your videos, especially now that you're recovered makes me feel better for you.
I'm not sure if trigger warnings help or if they pull people looking to get triggered in. I know that sounds harsh but the reality is that if you want to recover you gotta shut those triggers out. Those who don't want to recover will hunt the darkest corners of the world for triggers.
It probably helps the people genuinely looking to avoid those triggers. Buut, yeeaahhh, not much you can do about anyone who's looking for them for the wrong reasons unfortunately.
As a person in recovery, i appreciate tw, but when i was sick i would search for the tw
TW: ED
I think you're beautiful the way you are and it helps me so much seeing you loving your body on Instagram. I had Anorexia when I first began watching you, and now I'm recovered but it's messed up a lot of my self esteem. Seeing you talk about it is just, I can't find the words for it. I look forward to your content each Saturday and your music is amazing
me too 🥺🥺
I just started recovering (actually) I eat things I used to avoid and allow myself enjoy more food recently guilt hits sometimes but tbh I don’t rlly care anymore 🎊🎊
I don't and never had an ED but appreciate this video SO much! I've been wanting to do reaction and commentary videos on the IG trend of people posting what they eat in a day coming from a fitness professional stand point and I think it's so important to keep this in mind as well. Definitely another great perspective to keep in mind because this kind of content can be so damaging to many people.
I love that you're not shying away from what you feel is important. You always bring up important topics that need to be discussed, and you do it in such a mature and good natured way. Your content is so important, more people need to see it
I once had a therapist ask me if I was scared of healing my depression and anxiety because I would lose myself and I feel like that question also applies to EDs. I have yet to tell any professional that I think I had an ED (because I have ADHD and forget) though.
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Eating disorders are serious, I hate how romanticized its been in media and just in general. My mom is the cause of mine and I finally have gotten mine under control. I was basically told to count calories in middle school and to "hold my tummy in" I was barely 100 lbs. I was more muscular than most of my peers and my mom equate it to fat (side/back base for cheerleading)....It's so ingrained in our older generations too...
For clarification I blame my mom because of the counting calories and ignoring my food allergies. I ended up with Binge Eating Disorder. As much as a blame her I forgive her because if you met her mom you'd understand where it came from.....Either way IF I decide to have kids I definitely don't want to give my kids my same eating disorder...
I love that you care so much about us and want us to be okay 💜💜💜 you're literally so nice omg
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As someone who is still struggling and battling an ED, I can agree with what you're saying 100%. when these types of videos pop up on TikTok, it feeds into my ED even more and it effects my entire mood and day. I'm still learning to distance myself from media in order to recover. I think TikTok should be more mindful of the videos they allow on the app.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through something like that. I’ve personally never had to suffer with an ED, so I can’t pretend I fully know or understand exactly what you’ve dealt with, but I wish you the best for your recovery and future. Social media is so toxic, the fact that things like this are normalized is heartbreaking. Stay strong
BTW good job on making sure you can't see the comment without clicking see more and keep the trigger warning in full see
you are 100% correct. this has happened to both my brother and sister who are 14 and 15. they changed schools and at the new school it is normal not to eat lunch. after a few months, it started becoming missing dinners. now one wont eat hardly any food and is borderline anorexic and one is a few months away from the other and makes jokes about anorexia like its funny! its not!!! One is so thin you can now see every rib, he lost over 100 lbs in less than a year(and not just from normal puberty), just because of the comments. but he is extremely popular, his home life is fine, its literally just because they all think its "relatable" and "quirky" to skip lunch to walk around campus to talk and then brag about it later. the environment that people are in really matters, and the comments, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARENT INHARENTLY BAD, still can have NEGATIVE effects! Thank you so much for addressing this Jessie!!!!!
guys i ate three full meals and snacks yesterday :D
I know this 2 years old and you may not see this, but I'm so proud of you!
@@hayleystubbs591 hi! thank you so much, that's really kind of you
@@noabutterfly2607 hi! You're veey welcome
Good Job! :D
I am proud of youu :)
🥳congratulations I'm soooooooooo proud of u even if u haven't recovered or even if u have immm soooooooooo proud u took that journey and ya I haven't seen u but I am 100% sure ur fcking Butiful loves uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
one thing i do appreciate is that you always tw your tiktoks where you talk about EDs in detail, and never share pics of your sick self without warning. i know EDs can be super competitive so good job. (also stan phil)
Tik tok really needs better monitoring, stuff gets taken down all the time for no reason and yet all this kinda stuff gets left up.
You are so right! These videos do give people ideas, but there’s also the possibility of sending someone into a spiral. For me personally, if I saw those videos I would’ve minimized my ED. I would have said “well I didn’t do that so I must not be that bad/deserving of help.” Everyone deserves help and I’m afraid these videos might make someone feel not sick enough to get help or think that they are not suffering from a mental illness
jessie you are absolutely right, especially abt how eds are competitive and THRIVE on content like this. ive been struggling for years, and any time i see or read (i know exactly which memoir you mentioned LOL) anything abt specific ed behaviors or fear foods, my brain just latches onto it and tries to put those same unhealthy habits onto me so i can be “better” at this thing that is killing me. it’s exhausting and im having a tough time breaking from that cycle. im so glad you’re speaking up about this topic jessie
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I relate to having this experience not with an ED, but with self harm. I thought the method I was doing wasn’t “good enough” or “valid” so I started doing the most “popular” method (I’m not gonna say WHAT those methods are.) it’s almost like getting an imposter syndrome sort of feeling. Like I can only be truly suffering if I suffer in a way that others do.
i feel u sm
You're so right about that, making harmful things relatable content, really does normalise them.
Hi! I wanna say I'm so glad Jessie mentioned Helena Rose as a good example because the two of them are my comfort content creators
thank u, I think it's so so important to make people realise that what you post is open to EVERYONE... and that being cool or popular is not worth harming people or putting people in a though spot! so thank u!! (this goes for a lot of subjects btw)
Thank you for saying this, and no, you are not asking anyone to change for you. I have known I have tendencies for an ED for a year now, and I’m doing everything I can to not slip into it. From somebody like myself who has that perspective, these kinds of videos would have only given me ideas. In my brain as a teenager, I would not have been able to see the harmful nature of it all, and I would have fallen so far without realizing it. So no, you are not unreasonable. Thank god I never truly fell into it. Anyone who is predisposed to these issues need to see videos like yours. It will help so many.
Thank for being so vocal about things like this. It’s so important. Love u Jessie 💓
Yes, more people need to be talking about this! Your videos really help me stay recovered from my own eating disorder I had for a while. No one should be specific about what they did during an ED because not only is it unnecessary, it's extremely harmful. Fantastic video. Plus GIbson looks cute lol
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I have massive eating guilt that formed when I was 16. I was already extremely skinny and underweight, but I started losing more and more weight even though I thought that I had still been eating normally. I had at one point lost a lot of weight that got my doctors concerned for me, but I was never diagnosed with a specific ED and I have since recovered and try my best to help others that I do know are currently suffering.
I had some people around me who would brag about how they had anorexia or bulimia when I tried to turn to them for help, and that's exactly what it feels like most of these people are doing.
I hope they get the help that I did and can see that what they are doing is not helpful to others with eating disorders.
Thank you sooo much for your take on this, it helps me understand the people in my life.
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In the fall of 2019, I started trying to count and restrict, i only got about a month or 2 into it before my best friend and my mom both noticed, (they have both struggled w/EDs) and my friend intervened and lectured me about it.
I'm so glad she did, I can't imagine what might've happened if it had gotten any farther.
It's scary how easy it was to get into that mindset, and what helped push it was definitely online content. I could apply different techniques I had seen online.
It's so harmful, and I'm glad you're speaking up about it.
11 years in recovery from anorexia, and I relapsed 3 months ago. Tik Tok played a HUGE part in my relapse. I'm in kidney failure and on dialysis so I also think I'm just feeling out of control. Anyway I just found your channel and I think you are so strong and beautiful! Subscribed!❤
THE INTRO STILL GIVES ME SUCH A SEROTONIN BOOST
I imagine the people sharing what they used to do are thinking it'll maybe help others realize they are doing things that are symptomatic of an ED.
But a lot of professionals agree that this stuff gives ideas and incentives and is instructional like you said. Thanks for speaking up about this stuff!
Tw: ED and disordered eating
Ngl I've searched up videos like this to trigger myself on purpose. I've never had a full blown ED, just bouts of restricting but never for very long periods of time. I used to see these videos and learn about new ways to try to lose weight. But I'm really happy I've learned to accept my body for the most part and realized that all these average weights and shapes and sizes are a spectrum. There's still a little ED voice in my brain every so often, and I appreciate my therapist so much for finally being the person I could talk to about it, so now I can usually tell that voice to shut up.
Much love, Jessie. You're such an icon.
I personally have never had an ED, therefore this would not trigger me, but I understand and have first-hand seen it affect people. You never know what your words can do to others, I'm not saying that you should dictate your own speech based off of others, but be mindful of others who may be struggling still. And if somebody tells you "hey this triggered me," do not make fun of them, take that info and use it to be better in the future.
Sure there are "snowflakes, everything offends them," but there are literally people who may be VALIDLY triggered or even su*cid*l, and you never know what your words may do to them.
Be kind, be caring, hydrate, Love Thy Neighbor. I love you.
it'd be cool to see you talk on the "almond-mom/sister" thing that is going around now that is basically eating disordered eating, it is truly annoying
I am recovered from my eating disorder and sometimes my friends make comments like “oh I haven’t eaten all day so I could eat at this dinner” or just “I haven’t had anything today” or literally just listing like the one thing they had today and I feel like a lot of them knew that I struggled with an eating disorder so idk why they still say these things! They bother me and I wish they would stop.
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you are so right. i consume this harmful content on PURPOSE because i always compare myself to others. it won't stop until im dead. and the worst part is that i don't want to get better and i won't lol
Im recovered from anorexia so no longer worry about the number on the scale but I still have an eating disorder called food neophobia and ARFID(avoidant restrictive food intake disorder) and am looking for a therapist because in the past counselors have told me usually kids and teens only have this eating disorder. I would never want anyone to go through the health problems that I have because of my eating disorders. Even when someone doesn't have a eating disorder like bulimia or anorexia I still find there is people being competitive in there disordered eating even in groups I am in of who limits the the most types of food, and even parents saying well my child eats less food than your child. Anyways i don't get on tik tok much but for the teenagers out there these type of tiktoks can be harmful.
Ps your music rocks and you are such a beautiful soul.
my tiktoks used to get 50-100k views when i was very thin but now at a healthy weight i don’t get views at all. the algorithm sucks. even with 18.6k followers my videos at a healthy weight barely push 400 views
I have disordered eating (not an eating disorder, just disordered eating) and i already have trouble eating a lot of the time, (sensory issues, safe foods, meds that affect my hunger, etc) and Jessie, you're videos help me want to try to remember to eat more, thank you. Im currently at 96 lbs as a curvier 14 year old, and im trying to get back up to a healthy weight, so thank you
There is so much harmful content on tik tok and you have no control over what pops up on your fyp either. I used to really like the app for connecting with the lgbtq+ community, especially when I didn't really know people lgbtq+ irl. But I ended up deleting the app bc I saw all sorts of triggering stuff or "jokes" that upset me and honestly the app was just not good for me. Plus you can spend hours scrolling on it...
this is exactly why I refuse to be on tiktok.. I recovered pretty recently and altho I'm pretty comfortable in my body now, if I see stuff like that on a bad day it would set me back
Your body needs calories to do its stuff! No matter what size you are you NEED TO EAT FOOD!! Also this is why I hate that intermittent fasting thing
I know this was posted forever ago but i am so proud of you. Seeing you now and remembering what you looked like forever ago im just insanely proud of you. I have watched you for years and its just so insane to watch you again. But im just so so so proud of you Jessie you are amazing and i love you ❤
Really great thoughts! I agree and hope internet culture changes thanks to folks like you!
Genuinely, thank you for this ❤️
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I ended up deleting tik tok entirely bc I kept seeing things that were triggering for me without trigger warnings and it was not good. And not related to eating disorders or anything, that's not something I've been through, but tik tok can be so toxic for all sorts of mental health things.
I support you. You are really kind and special. I am so proud also for your recovery. I love u. * your people*
Trigger warning: Mentions about self-harm, s*uidal thoughts, and attempts and ED
I know I’m late for this, but omg I agree so much! I am currently recovering from my ED, self-harm, and almost k*lling myself, and these types of TikToks, movies, books, and “memes” triggered something in me and gave me ideas for what I was going through. And now I am in therapy and I still have trouble looking at myself in mirrors or pictures, and I still get triggered by hearing just the word “weight” or “fat”. And what’s worst is these videos I keep running into that make starving yourself look okay and joke about starving yourself to look skinny. I get so mad by this and I cry by thinking of it. These also trigger me into a depressed state and I try so hard to keep myself up.
In conclusion, these types of content are very harmful and I am tired of people telling me that it isn’t a big deal or I’m just sensitive.
I love your merch 🥰 and you’re so inspiring! Well said 👏🏻💕
Tik Tok is already TOXIC tbh
Thank you so much for this video queen
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Thanks for talking about this, I don't have an ED but I got rid of Tik Tok because it made me start thinking about it.
Okay but like memoirs are so dangerous lowkey cause when I started abusing drinking at a young age I 100% read a shit ton of memoirs from alcoholics and while they were trying to be educational it deffo 100% encouraged and gave me ideas to continue my alcohol abuse. Also the "quirky" characters who had an ed or substance abuse problems.
completely agree, I think there’s some details that can be omitted and you can talk about what you went through in a very general way while stile making an impact!!
*still oops haha
Thank you for also talking about disordered eating and eating disorders that fall outside of body image/wanting to lose weight. I have ADHD and ARFID and I definitely agree that a lot more people have disordered eating than realise it and even just a relatable haha I forgot to eat video is still normalising it and can make people feel like it's a normal thing and not a big deal when it really is, no matter where it's coming from 💖
Thank you for this.
I joke about depression and anxiety as a coping mechanism - and my friends have anxiety and depression.
But when I make a joke around my mom like that she is all just ;-;
I think a better thing to do with the shower thing is to say instead of "haven't eaten all day" is "forgetting to eat"
My son and I love your music we jam out to it all the time he is obsessed with “ur a zombie”
You are glowing. You look so good
Jessie you’re so wise and sweet and gorgeous and we all love you sm ❤️
🙌 Proud of you ❤️ thank you for sharing that
Off topic but YOUR EYES ARE SO GODDAMN PRETTY
when i was little, i read a journal my sister kept when she wasn't doing great and for years i had in my brain "oh, as long as i eat this or more im doing fine"
I came across this recovery channel where the girl has just stayed extremely underweight for quite a while now and she post all these what I eat in a day to recover and it’s all extremely low calorie and tiny portions. She always makes the food look extremely pretty. She always includes a full body shot and is always dressed extremely nice with perfect makeup. She comments are filled to the brim with admiration. Just constantly people saying how proud they are of her and how beautiful she is. That feels so much more dangerous than anything Eugenia Cooney has ever done in my opinion. I don’t believe in banning or deplatforming people just for being mentally ill. I feel like that is an absolutely insane take. I do think people should be responsible for their own triggers to a certain extent and I’m not even fully against ED community spaces like edtwt. At least that gets relegated to a certain section of the internet. But this girl has a massive following with an insane amount of likes on her videos and it seems to be glamorizing this disorder way more than Eugenia ever has. I don’t think this girl is a bad person either. I feel like she thinks she has to take this route or she’ll risk ending up with nonstop hate and harassment like Eugenia. Severe chronic anorexia is one of the most difficult disorders to ever overcome. If people want to just exist online with it I think they should be allowed to as long as they aren’t basically giving out how to guides on how to become like them. When it gets to a certain point it should be clear that a person is struggling and if they don’t want to talk about it they shouldn’t have to. I would rather them not speak about it at all rather than lying about what actual recovery should look it because they risk falsely making viewers think they don’t need to seek out actual help and they can just follow what they’re doing and also not actually have to get better but just claim to be. It’s just so insanely toxic the way this problem is viewed online. I genuinely do not understand why some people think these people with severe EDs are these evil and manipulative monsters that just want to make money off giving children eating disorders or something. Reading the comments on certain people’s content like Eugenia’s is just insane. Like it’s some of the most horrific stuff I’ve seen said to a content creator. There are other content creators who have made entire careers off lying about her and spreading rumors about her which just makes the harassment even worse. It’s truly disgusting.
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jessie looks so gorgeous in this video :( i love her sm
*TW* self harm
I don't struggle with an eating disorder, but I do struggle with depression and all of this "relatable content" about self harm and specific things that they do is just giving me ideas honestly. I never would have thought about cutting myself if I hadn't heard so much about it, but now I am struggling to keep myself from cutting myself. Sometimes I feel like my pain isn't enough if I hear people that are doing worse or are doing worse things. It makes me think things like "should I be cutting myself?" and that really isn't healthy
I haven't started cutting myself and I hope I never do, because I'm scared if I start I won't be able to stop, but it's really hard sometimes to keep myself from doing so.
The dark hair is iconic though!
I dont have an ED but i take medication that pretty much evaporates my appetite and i dont eat for 24+ hours at a time (meds dont actually work lol but it really boosts my mood + self confidence whenever i drop kg really quickly like that so i keep taking them, but that’s besides the point). I still agree that those “relatable” videos are really harmful cuz it could definitely find its way to the wrong persons feed.
*about the pb2 video* ~ you know what’s funny too? (not actually funny but cynically / ironically, obviously) .. the video w/ the TW laid over just a budget rack of PB2, making it out to be more of a comedic caption than an actual warning, was actually the only video of all of these to make me start tearing up lmao. none of the videos being descriptive did anything but make me sad for the struggling people watching them- but the PB2 one actually WAS the MOST triggering
Same over here.
I totally agree but also I think whether there’s a trigger warning or not the contents harmful and I think it just shouldn’t be made or tiktok should be more ontop of it because when you’re going through that like you said it’s competitive so even with a trigger warning that wouldn’t matter sometimes that feeds people. Tiktok is so huge now you would think they would be more on top of content like this which is a shame again like you said such young ages are on there which it will really influence even subliminally. Thank you for all the content you make educating people and showing people how to be better it’s so amazing you learnt how to do it yourself and you share that with others I hope one day I can be the same 😁😁 also love preach !! And seeing you thriving !! 💘💘💘
Unless they are directly promoting disordered eating and weight loss we should be controlling what others say or do on their platform. The world is full of triggers, it is our responsibility to learn to deal with them, not everyone else's
I love the foundations of decay I've listened to it A MILLION TIMES
This video is so true and important.
I related to some stuff from these tiktoks and like. ik I ate less than normal and sometimes not at all. but I didn't knew that that already counted as an ed??? I had an eatingdisorder and noone told me? how was I supposed to know?
I don't think it's really disordered eating. For instance I can relate to the "forgot to eat all day" ones. I often never eat all day then take a bite from the granola bar I left in my pocket but there's nothing wrong with that. I even had a counselor tell me that it's perfectly normal and that my days without eating were not disordered at all.
Two months later, i can tell you that during the time i was absolutely developing an ed, it wasn't that serious but definetly an ed. I'm better now tho.
I love your makeup Jessie
We'll support you through everything DADDY
#preach
I clicked on this video so I wouldn’t cry about previously eating one of my favorite foods, recovery is hard
8:50 those trigger warnings are for ed girls who seek to get triggered so that they can continue their fast etc, they arentfor recovering ed girlies
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honestly, one of the things that i find most disgusting about tiktok is the way that most people act as though no one will see their comments or posts. something that especially upsets me is when someone who is skinny - either in a way that appears to be unhealthy or just in general - posts a video of themselves and is greeted with floods of comments saying "this is why i st@rve myself", "get help" or just throwing around the term "bodychecking".
what these people do not seem to realise is that by making these comments, especially to people they believe have eating disorders, they are potentially fueling and encouraging it? they make the poster feel like they look unwell, which just validates and buries them deeper into the disorder.
as well as that, the term bodychecking has somehow come to mean "any skinny person showing their body", which i personally think is incredibly harmful, as it is a serious part of a mental disorder, rather than just a word to throw at people who are just trying to exist.
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If jessie was to ever release an eyeshadow palette it would have shades called mommy, daddy, and “subscribe if you’re new”
Tw: ed just in case
I feel like the only times I mention that I haven't eaten all day just in my freind group is usually before I go to eat something and say "oh, no.." if someone says "same," or smth I say, "yikes that's not good, you wanna eat smth together?" Im in recover from an ed, im thinking subconsciously my hope is that the people around me will encourage me to eat/not shame by doing this me because I do live in a bigger body. Eventhough the people I chose to be in my life aren't toxic and won't shame me for eating ever but I still have this knee jerk reaction to shame myself which is dumb as fuck. Its like passively asking for support.
You are a kind person and i allow you to eat. I believe in you. Everything will be alright.
We totally agree.😉
eating disorders should not be glorified or normalized. yes you can relate and share your story, help others. but there is a fine line between having a problem and being the problem. i’m very lucky that i don’t get easily triggered even in my active disorder but that’s is not the reality for everyone else. eating is a basic function of life, and for a lot of people it is an everyday and sometimes lifelong battle. yes, no one is responsible for your triggers but actively putting out content that could possibly really effect someone WITHOUT a trigger warning in the forefront, is a beyond harmful.
I need to go to sleep. Self care check. I'm binging your content. I would try to say this more eloquently, but it's nearly 4 AM, and I'm
moving apartments.
I already had a body image issue and struggled with my mental health long before 3rd grade, age 8. I was in a car accident with my dad the day Karen Carpenter died. In reality, the news of her death was on the radio as we crashed. I began seeking out information on her cause of death. As I read about AN, I was given the roadmap to destruction, and, as you said, although while in the illness one would be loathe to admit it, it's a competitive illness. At the same time, it's out of a desperate and dark place. It's difficult enough for me to understand on the other side. To those who are in the illness and those who never have it, untangling this knot is part of recovery. The need to be best at something, to be sick enough to deserve treatment, to wanting to be the thinnest/sickest (again untying that knot) in IP. This hurts my heart to think of my younger self and to think of any of you in the darkest of your ED struggle.
ETA: A Seventeen article I read WARNED of sharing details like this and the "tragedy of (the illness) escaped (her)" as she followed someone else's roadmap from their story.
Someday I'll get merch when I have money... I'll finally be as pretty as Jessie Paege ✨
Sadly, there are people who use this as a "manual" of sorts for an ED. I know I did at age 8, even after reading how this author admitted that the tragedy of the other person's story had escaped them and they did it anyway to their deteiment. I thought I was smarter than that and would be able to stop anytime. They called it the skinny disease, which sounded very appealing!
Me eating while watching this bc I’m not gonna let me ED voice get the best of me ❤️
Omggg I watch helenaaa that’s so cool to see her in your vid ❤️ Sending much love ❤️❤️
samee!!
I played fairies but didn't get threatened by them 😂
I've never considered this while watching short videos similar to ones you reacted to. Thank you for the new perspective.
That's a good point. I remember in highschool when people would talk about all the types of body harm they did and the specifics and it was catching and spread through the school.
I used to watch you and ur journey abt a year ago I didn’t know that today I’d be dealing w an ed
You do look pretty!