The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal (animated book summary) - How Willpower Works
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- čas přidán 23. 08. 2024
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Willpower is a general strength that improves everything along with it. In fact, willpower is a better predictor of how well you do in school or how successful you are at work, than intelligence. If we want to improve our lives, willpower is not a bad place to start.
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Better Than Yesterday Hi there guys! This was a great video! But I wonder if you can you share the references with us?
You sound like that guy from "Calisthenicmovement."
1.get some quality sleep:7-9 hours of sleep
2.Slow breathing meditation for 10 mins per day or 4-6 slow breaths per minute
3.Physical excersise-aids in self control in all aspects of life
4.when we fail we should feel guilty and dont criticise on ourselves too much and instead take steps to improve it to become better than yesterday👊
We should feel guilty?
@@forestnraindeers3690 we should NOT feel guilty. 🙂
Whenever I get negative thoughts and just feel like giving up I talk to myself in 2nd person and it really really works and sometimes I even write shorts to me and now all the negative things that others say to me doesn't effect me that much anymore.
Im on day 12 quitting marijuana after extremely heavy use for 15 years, it takes a ton of will power. Your mind is your strongest tool to overcome anything in your life.
Yay Josh thanks for sharing. All the best on your journey.
I bet you fell off the wagon tho
3 months clean boi
but u said you were on day 12 a month ago lol you must be high right now lol
@@moisesthomas6071
Tf is wrong with you?
Honestly your videos have been helping me make very positive changes in my life. This is one of my favorite CZcams channels now, thank you.
I agree. This channel is amazing!
It is because he reads as much book as he can...you can gain this knowledge too
if I watch 2 more videos I'll be overwhelmed by the urge of starting a random business.
I am currently working on everything in my life, all at once. I call it Flat Tire Theory. The tire is not just flat on the bottom, eh? That's what the old timer's always say! And, they are right.
Also, when you patch the hole, and start putting air in, the air goes throughout the entire tire; not just the bottom (where the grandson thinks it is flat), and not just to the hole you repaired. The air fills the whole tire evenly. Flat tire theory rides the coat tails of university study theory; the idea that you self-educate on any subject at all, since all of reality has something to teach us.
So, watching your videos is a part of my daily regeme of continuing education. As such, everything I learn here helps to fix every other area of my life (it's all connected), and this channel helps more than most other sources of continuing education I have found!
Willpower is like programming your brain. It requires consistency and continuous feedback to develop. The question arises how to program your brain...lot need to be researched. Thank you for a very informative video!
I completely agree with the positive mental effects of exercise. I started working out with weights a couple months ago, which led me to better emotional stability, and then better eating habits, and now I'm noticing a tendency toward sticking with things I start (something I've struggled with my whole life). Even starting with just a daily walk around the block could grow to great results down the road. Thank you for your motivational and informative videos!
discipline = freedom
@@mantyxxx Correct. Kantian thought spotted. ;)
I agree, Joyce! He also has a great video on Keystone Habits that talks about how one of three habits can vastly effect the other two. If you have not seen it I definitely suggest watching it.
@@lukeanddaleigh Thanks for the suggestion!
I have practiced my willpower without doing any of those techniques (except exercise but that really took alot of willpower to begin) i simply said no to the majority of things that were keeping me back in life, then i started working out eating better and not bother with my ''psychological issues'' at all. I still felt it was imperfect and here i find more techniques to further improve and hone myself so thank you very much for this informative video.
I was struggling with the willpower to do some work a few days ago, so I tried slowing down my heart rate by taking longer deep breaths to calms my nerves and this helped me focus better.
The reason why your videos are different is the fact that your explanations are backed by scientific facts and theories.
Your way of explaining is also different yet interesting. This has been helping me in a lot of ways, specially in this lockdown period.
Thanks a lot. Love from India 🇮🇳
Thanks :)
I have been watching your videos for awhile now. I started playing them in the morning and at night when my husband was at home.
Exercise is something we have always struggled with, but one night after watching one of your videos he suggested that we start riding our bikes together in the morning and I painted a sign that said "Today is going to be a good day" per one of your other videos.
Now, ever day we wake up, look at the sign, and say to each other, "Today is going to be a good day". We have been doing that for a few weeks now.
Monday through Friday we ride our bikes to the park, sit for a bit and catch some sun and just relax, then we ride home. It has been an amazing improvement to our days and really sets the tone for how we would like to remainder of our day to go.
I just want to say thank you for helping to motivate us and giving us amazing ideas on how to improve our lives.
Now we go to bed by 11pm and wake up at 7am so we can ride, so that has also improved our sleep. We also drink a shake after we ride because we are hungry and want something both filling and healthy. I know you talked about Keystone habits in one of your other videos and the Keystone habits are a real thing. It's amazing! I am thinking aout creating a video with my experience with Keystone Habits. I will definitely credit yout channel for the information.
Thank you so much for helping to change our lives and making us BETTER THAN YESTERDAY!!
This reminds me alot about the 12 step program for addiction and alcoholism. There is the trade off betweenSelf Will and God's Will. Self Will would be to have the cigarette, cake, drink. Since the 12 step program is non religious, God's Will is simply "Good Orderly Direction" which is simply doing the right things at the right time and doing the next right thing so the next right thing can happen. Also, the program teaches progress, not perfection and that we can go easy on ourselves, we didnt become addicts or alcoholics over night so we dont recover over night either. Willpower for me is the courage to change, to constantly evolve into a better vertsion of myself than I was yesterday. It means that each day I set my goals and then in the evening I review how my day went and if I achieved all my goals. Following my goals during the day is God's Will (Good Orderly Direction). Deciding on a whim to have a piece of cake which i never planned for in my goals at the begining of the day is "Self Will". Acting on self will either costs me time, money, emotion, spiritual, relationship. Sticking to my goals and God's Will keeps me safe.
Also, besides meditating, other activities that can help with prefrontal cortex development incude mindful activities such as; drawing, painting, journaling, cleaning a room, washing clothes by hand, gardening,. Mindful activities often distract the mind to keep you in the present. I had difficulty with my mind getting stuck in the past, which filled me with guuyilt and shame or my mind would get stuck in the future and filled me with anxiety, fear or false expectations. Being mindful gently brings me back to the present.
I've been clean for 9 months off drug addiction, alcoholism, and sex addiction after going to a treatment center for rehabilitation.
May you all be blessed with a life worth living.
"Dear God, they even stop flossing." This made me giggle. 😅
I need to work on flossing more and I am not even a college student. Anyone else?
Most people don't even floss
My key takeaways: quality sleep and meditation recharges our willpower battery. Once we have a good habit in place (e.g. exercising), it produces spill-over effects into other areas of our lives. Thank you!
Thanks so much for including the text of the video along with the video itself. I discovered it after I was trying to take notes, stopping and starting the video. This is great to allow me to review what I learned and keep it!
Willpower is tied to self worth and purpose. There are many many people who have willpower with no place to channel it.
NIce video, keep going, I had a look on your channel, you are uploading content but not growing that much, I hope 2018 becomes the year which skyrockets your growth, Good Luck
Thanks for the encouragement! :)
Omgosh, can i just say....YOU totally ROCK! Sooooo happy I stumbled upon your channel. XO!!
Between all unpractical and over motivational talks on internet, I found this treasure which gives the real and beneficial things
I follow Ms. Kelly Mcgonigal's extraordinarily wise, deeply researched and eminently practicable insights and and advice, to my increasing benefit! Outstanding lady!
Keep on doing what you do brother. The world needs more of your kind!
I just wanted to say thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Your videos have been encouraging and informative. Today is the first day i am implementing the 2 minute rule to change my habit of procrastination to a habit of productivity (3 new habits to start off, tracking through habithub). Thanks again for the positive work you do. I would love to donate more than $5 and support you while you support others, so after covid19 has run its course and i can begin working (serving) again, i will be sure to share the love!
Keep up the good work, i appreciate it.
Hi my name is Kacper I'm 28 and i been stuck in a mental rat for most my life and struggling with axiaty and depression for over 10years, i have tried multiple times to seek help from sources such as counseling, Christianity, medication, exercise ect and even though they all helped and thought me alot i all ways find my self spiraling down same path after a monh or two. And I can never figuer out what im doing wrong that every time I get this feeling i can never hold on to it, up to the point where I just except I'm a failure and I can never be happy. I'm at a crucial point of my life, my future wife is fighting with a nurological condition and her mental health at the same time she is 24 weeks pregnant. Without going to much in to it, I found your channel 2 days ago while i was looking for info on how to lucid dream. I have just returned from seeing my partner from the hospital, I remember I couldn't get any weed which made everything so much worst as it was the only thing that was keeping me calm (stress frew/relaxed) however I have noticed positive change in behavior in my partner (Jessica). Seeing her better and watching your channel, I noticed a change in how i felt, I felt determine. And my mind went from zero to a billion and it felt great.
I enjoyed the animations as they made it easy to understand and vision it, I actually have been awake for 2 days and 3 nights now as my brain refuses to switch off and even i know it's unhealthy i just wanna study study study, I just really badly wanna stop living my life in fear, I'm a good person and I just want to belong somewhere and be good at something and be liked and respected by others and just feel good about my self. I just want to thank you for what you are doing for me and other people, your videos are amazing, I'm gonna go to sleep now my mind been playing tricks on me last few hours but i will be writing you again as I did have a few questions which i can't remember now. God bless you
It seems you are going through some tough times right now. However, don't give up and lose hope. I believe you can get through this and find that light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you and your partner all the best.
Kacper Chudzic you would think if you anxiety for 10 years you'd know how to spell it...
Mate if you cant even use proper english with a normal sleep cycle then i cant even begin to imagine what you would say after staying up for 2 and a half days.
well all i can say is that your awesome. I admire how you are fluent with your thinking and your words it's beautiful. No one is perfect we all havr problems but we also have the moment of time to live in and to just choose how we think, thats a blessing.
Please seek professional help. See a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. I, too struggle with mental health issues but my life improved dramatically with the help of my psychiatrist. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to get on the right track.
I decided to give my self a 30 day break from my video games, and im going to start working out, and working on my mental health, i want a strong mind set at 15
Finally a video that tells you something that actually works
I am trying to do the hardest thing....a total change of direction. My children are now grown and I need to find myself again. Stop smoking, lose weight and get into better shape. I've not been kind to myself while I was raising great young adults. I'm scared and nervous, but hopeful.
In this video , willpower is actually dopamine , the chemical that is produced in our brains when we do some relaxing or rewarding work.
Wut?!
I sleep 6 hours a day during the week and it makes me feel good, too. The problem is that we think that everyone is the same and end up applying the same cake recipe.
True.
Yes I’m trying to overcome my drug addiction. I was sober for almost 6 mo. Then I relapse. It seems to be hard to get back on track in my recovery. Great video btw! Thanks!
Your useful tips for my personal development dreams will be much appreciated.
Been really inspired to be Better than Yesterday because of your videos. Thank you so much! ❤
Great video, awesome explanation.
Keep going like this.
Watching in Brazil.
Thanks for watching!
Your videos are excellent.
It works for me. I stopped smoking just simply follow the second method, taking deep breaths, and observe them, whenever I breath in I know I am breathing in, whenever I breath out I know I am breathing out. I reduced smoking about 50% for first week, keep practicing that I completely stop smoking after 5-6 weeks.
I have an intuitive sense of the meaning of willpower, but how is this measured? How is it defined for studies like the one on exercise?
Always love your videos.thanks alot
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Thanks for this video. I needed the reminder this week
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Thank you for making this :) It saved me hours.Also,I am glad to know that I am doing the right things in life(workout and meditation).
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I watch your video everyday and I am learning a lot. I love improvement so much. Thanks for your videos. :)
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Thank you a lot!
Quitting smoking cigarettes was the hardest vice I ever had to give up. Its definitely physical but I think it's even more so mental. In fact I know it is. At least for me it was.
I have been trying to start my own business for a long time. After many failures I have stopped trying, I feel that there is no point in continuing to try, I even feel that I will not be able to cope with another failure. I am tired. Even when I have good days and I do one or two things on my list of goals, I feel a resistance to doing them. It is like carrying two blocks of cement. It is terrible. Do you know what you can do?
Thanks a lot! The idea is really amazing.!
Great book. And great review!
Best video i saw on this topic👍👍
I keep procrastinating things, let it be anything. I want to do better in life, Better than yesterday.
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Thanks for this video. I decided to quit smoking since I watch your video. Thank's bro.
Hey bro, you are really changing my life.
That's why Pillars are practicing their Breaths
Demon slayer reference? :D
i want to thank youtube recomedations for this vid 8 am having hard time with low will and want loss weight but so self critical to the point that is crippling me .
Thank you sir! Just what I needed! 😁
Great video man
eating & healthy eating... i eat unhealthy & i eat too much (3 meals a day + snack). it’s so hard to stop but i’m here to stop it with WILLPOWER
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Im a high school learner and my grades are so bad i end up stressing and failing more. But from tdy imma try the advice you gave and see if it works
I really like this video
Interesting video.
Hi bro can you make something on how to be consistent or how to keep doing the things which are necessary even if we don't like doing them
This is amazing
I like your voice and I love your approach
Good content... subscribed mate :)
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As I stated earlier here, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your channel...the main reason is, b/c you give THE BEST advice on many HIGHLY IMPORTANT topics, A N D ...MY OWN SON would GREATLY BENEFIT from your videos, since he suffer's from EXTREME INSOMNIA A N D as a result, has become a COFFEE ADDICT!!!
The PROBLEM tho is...you see, I KNOW him, & I KNOW that he'll throw back the following response in my face (if I tell him to watch your sleep vids)...he'll say, "The guy giving the advice in all these vids seems to be ADDICTED TO COFFEE...YOU WANT ME TO LISTEN TO H I M ?!!"
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You got me with his video...
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Very good quality video for quality life. Thanks @Better than yesterday. I've been carrying some english self improvement books for years like you can win, one thing but struggling to complete reading those books just because they are english books but my local language is not english. But I'm reading often, since I don't recall the concepts I read just because another language I keep reading from scratch but never finishing. I feel guilty. How can improve process ???
You should try reading some easier material and build up your English knowledge first. Then after you've built a solid foundation go on and attempt to read some harder books. For recall, I'd say make some notes about the book and it's contents in your own language, as it will help you retain more information. No need to feel guilty, as long as you're improving - no matter how slowly. Good luck!
Hey Prolly won’t get reached but... I have been on a journey to break free from my jobs and stresses. Its been a real challenge.😅 I get the material and I learn it and *sometimes* review it. But the material mean nothing if I dont put in the action it calls for... and thats where my Will Power comes into play.🙃 I always feel drained or uninterested when its time to just push out the objectives for the day. I honestly dont know what it is. I have the will power to watch and study the content but not enough push out my objectives for the day. One answer could be my expectations or vision for what I truly want, another could be a weak willpower. Whats the best way to go about this?
Trying to read non fiction book daily... to form as a habit, but I just can't. Any suggestions?
I am preparing for a exam , I do not do any instant gratification activity yet I find myself difficult to study for more than a hour
Actually the willpower is like muscle. If you are using it for long time the willpower will be tired and become weaker but if you are regurlarly using willpower it will get better.
Very good video
Hi just saw your video and i facing problem in my weight loss goal as i fail in the beginning itself either by missing out gym session or diet.. can you please advice something ... Thank You 🙏🏻
Thanks bruh
Thank you very much for another unique & interesting video when applied can significantly make us better than yesterday ❤
I have a problem with reading. I try to get all my reading done in the morning but I eventually burn out and suffer exhaustion later in the day when I want to continue reading.
Awesome Video! What video editing software are you using?
None. Only Videoscribe was used.
What mic do you use?
To be consistent in studies
I am recently suffering from marijuana withdrawal after 5years and now I don't know how to do things I am an bachelor an my remembering power and writing abilities seems to be depleted everday I think I am gonna be okay and evernight but things are not working and worried about things I only do self talk and don't even talk to anyknow in the fear I will say something that I don't wanted to . Even I am struggling writing my this situation to please help me I u can!
but how will i have time to excerise if i work 14 hours a day? is that considered a excerise?
I have equated the benefits of exercise with "its supposed to hurt". So even if I go paddleboarding or simply walk in the yard or stretch or bike or hike...if I don't feel heavy breathing or physical aches over it that or the next day I think I didn't do enough benefit and find myself in a trap loop of feeling down because I am not doing enough rather than appreciating that I actually did do something. So, help me end the battle? Is rigorous exercise the key to increasing willpower or is conscious activity without extertion effective?
I hope you're not in actual pain from exercising! The goal should be a higher heart rate. You don't have to overexert yourself every day to get the benefits of exercise. And you also need to give your body a rest every once in a while. Conscious activity is enough.
The path to willpower is hamon
How to be successful in work ?
How to get started on that big task your mind always denies !!
Willpower only exists in the minds of onlookers with a negative sum of values but a high perception of value for the goal achieved by some else. Willpower will never help you achieve anything on purpose. All intentional actions are the result of belief of values assigned to required costs vs potential reward. You literally will purposefully do nothing else. You cannot do something intentionally if you do not want to do it.
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i was hoping to find out how to have willpower. i can barely get out of bed except to eat or use the bathroom
Do you know where I can find slow breathing meditation guides here on youtube?
I'd probably start by searching for "slow breathing meditation" :) Sadly, I don't know what specific videos you're looking for.
Diaphram meditation. Mindfullness meditation to know all that goes through the mind does not define you and you dont need to do or feel that which is on your mind.
I want to stop eating fatty foods and want to be a vegan and go for a 3 day apple diet. I attempted for 5 times but max I did it for 2 days and I gave up! I can never ignore non veg!
I have read the book