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Komentáře • 692

  • @TheRamseyShow
    @TheRamseyShow  Před 2 lety +20

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    • @kevintewey1157
      @kevintewey1157 Před 2 lety

      Let me know where you're going to go cuz I may not want to be there

    • @kevintewey1157
      @kevintewey1157 Před 2 lety

      Problem with the marriage is simple it's capitalism and if you going to answer this put your money where your mouth is and get your facts SOURCED

    • @kevintewey1157
      @kevintewey1157 Před 2 lety

      Decapolis divorce courts favor divorce and struggles and struggling fighting and losing a lot of money this system absolutely sucks for families

    • @kevintewey1157
      @kevintewey1157 Před 2 lety

      Under capitalism disabled couples are punished they have Financial punishment for getting married and it's big poor people that are too broke to even own a home or even rent an apartment are even taxed so badly it often keeps them homeless

    • @kevintewey1157
      @kevintewey1157 Před 2 lety

      Capillus claim they have freedom but most of us take jobs that we don't want because we have no other opportunities and no way to improve ourselves

  • @boelawson1043
    @boelawson1043 Před 2 lety +121

    Your income is not enough, that is the reason she is leaving.

    • @FilthyMcNasty69
      @FilthyMcNasty69 Před 2 měsíci

      Where in the marriage vows does it say anything about income?

  • @Atlpctech98
    @Atlpctech98 Před 2 lety +42

    Dude just let it go. You’re 26 years old

  • @marcenelj
    @marcenelj Před 2 lety +71

    Sounds like a 90-day fiancée mess

  • @0num4
    @0num4 Před 2 lety +253

    She's incredibly sweet, until she's not.

    • @knowthyself8233
      @knowthyself8233 Před 2 lety +25

      I can't believe it the guy says she is sweetest thing when she is threatening him 😂😂🤣😂

    • @johnmitchell8925
      @johnmitchell8925 Před 2 lety +10

      Been there done that

    • @gamertechguy8898
      @gamertechguy8898 Před 2 lety +6

      Dave is hilarious 😂

    • @charlesg7926
      @charlesg7926 Před 2 lety +13

      This is why men should always get a prenup when they have a lot of money prior to entering the marriage

    • @hoangle2483
      @hoangle2483 Před 2 lety +9

      Until the money stop coming in to be precise.

  • @nodsib
    @nodsib Před 2 lety +235

    I don’t think he’s being honest about what he’s making, maybe those are sales numbers and his actual profit is half that or less, but it’s consuming all his time and energy.

    • @charlesg7926
      @charlesg7926 Před 2 lety +7

      But just from my experience, even when I was new, just starting out, I was making like 60K a year profit, my first year and I was doing business like a clown because I didn’t have any experience lol. So it’s hard to go broke with a business that ppl need

    • @jennlowetherapy
      @jennlowetherapy Před 2 lety +2

      Agree 100%

    • @SoManyRandomRamblings
      @SoManyRandomRamblings Před 2 lety +2

      He also mentioned that with the new job there would be job security...which means this current job doesn't have that since he mentioned that just in his initial description of the new job, before even getting into her reasons

    • @AnnaAtl
      @AnnaAtl Před 2 lety

      I agree.

    • @alp.9672
      @alp.9672 Před 2 lety +4

      You act like he said crazy numbers. If it’s half that she clearly is tired of being with a broke man.

  • @TheE4kid
    @TheE4kid Před 2 lety +133

    Problem is she’s making more than him (is the breadwinner) and she’s losing respect for him

    • @catherinenelson4162
      @catherinenelson4162 Před 2 lety +4

      She's a teacher, not an idiot, so she knows that businesses take time to build up. If he's making
      33K this past year it will likely be close to 40K this year, and then upwards of 50K for 2023. Then he will be making more than she is from that point on.
      They have enough money, why would he want to go to a place that doesn't have enough freedoms?

    • @GrnXnham
      @GrnXnham Před 2 lety +5

      @@catherinenelson4162 But it sounds like she wants it now. She's looking for instant gratification. It is very difficult for people of a certain mindset to understand that businesses take time to grow and then you reap the rewards in the future.

    • @exvan3571
      @exvan3571 Před 2 lety +8

      Hypergamy doesn't care.

    • @r.rodriguez4991
      @r.rodriguez4991 Před 2 lety +2

      That's her problem. If your marriage is about incomes you're doing it wrong.

    • @SoManyRandomRamblings
      @SoManyRandomRamblings Před 2 lety

      Exactly.

  • @martylts
    @martylts Před 2 lety +94

    Chinese culture is completely different than ours. It is about their immediate family and the husband is secondary. If the husband is not providing he is out and she will move on.

    • @youtubeuserzzzz
      @youtubeuserzzzz Před 2 lety +9

      Yup! Move on with her US Passport. Win Win for her.

    • @fdllicks
      @fdllicks Před 2 měsíci

      I was married to a girl from india. Total disaster. The father is garbage in their culture.her family and kids homework is everything. Father is a tool you throw away

    • @FrancesAn23
      @FrancesAn23 Před 7 dny +1

      Hi there, just watching this old clip on a Ramsey/Deloney binge 😅. Yes, I agree with this comment. Of course, I don't want to generalise to all Chinese people, but I'm half-Chinese (dad's side). My mum often complains that my dad respects his blood relatives more than her.

  • @SeanBaker
    @SeanBaker Před 2 lety +224

    I wonder if he made her promises he didn't keep before she came over.

    • @CajunSmack
      @CajunSmack Před 2 lety +17

      @@michaelpalumbo4880 Spot on. Especially a mail order bride.

    • @FJF119
      @FJF119 Před 2 lety +1

      @SMB Girly Girl A FRIEND IN NEED is a PEST : - ))

    • @racpatrice
      @racpatrice Před 2 lety +8

      @SMB Girly Girl if it was about the money then why would she tell him to take a job if he will earn less? The only reason I could think of is the stable income and benefits...in which case he could probably think about taking the job and operating his business part time and on weekends maybe..

    • @Naturefan354
      @Naturefan354 Před 2 lety +1

      @A H Get real. Everyone uses everyone for something. The problem is when someone has an objective to just use someone

    • @madlaz5795
      @madlaz5795 Před 2 lety +8

      @@michaelpalumbo4880 “greatest country in the world”. Yet you have so many homeless, poor education system, terrible health care system, police killing people, teenagers shooting schools, the most racism in any country, extreme poverty living next to the extremely wealthy, the most suicides, the most homicides. I don’t think America is the best country in the world. It’s far from it. The only thing impressive is your military

  • @samcassie9192
    @samcassie9192 Před 2 lety +145

    It’s pretty clear that she’s been carrying the financial weight and supporting his “entrepreneur ambition” fluctuations. He couldn’t deliver financial stability and that’s obviously a deal breaker for her.

    • @captainsisko7629
      @captainsisko7629 Před 2 lety

      Yeah Dave and the other guy are eliminating the most probable cause , because they believe women are so Good they never leave a man over money

    • @KiltBill2
      @KiltBill2 Před 2 měsíci +6

      Yeah, I cannot understand why all 3 men are puzzled by this. If she wants to have kids, she needs medical cover and reliability. He's not providing that.

    • @patriciaalbertson5183
      @patriciaalbertson5183 Před měsícem

      Maybe she married him, FOR the money she "Thought" he would make

    • @Scarface_445
      @Scarface_445 Před měsícem

      Exactly. Dude makes 33k and keep emphasizing 26%. (Means dude was making 26k, literally starving). He’s delusional to say “competition is crumbling around me”. Yes this can be seen as a positive, but guess what…if turds are on fire around you and you are a turd….you might catch fire soon…

    • @SRTBOAT
      @SRTBOAT Před měsícem +3

      @@KiltBill2If someone is running a "business" and only making $38k, it's borderline a hobby.
      Go get a career job and double your income along with benefits. Security and peace is a womans best friend. Having a volatile income that peaks at $38k is just.....

  • @LoVe-kl4zl
    @LoVe-kl4zl Před 2 lety +219

    Open your eyes, once the money's not coming in, she's gone.

    • @richthepup
      @richthepup Před 2 lety +18

      He’s not making any money

    • @RAZASHARP
      @RAZASHARP Před 2 lety +1

      Fax!!

    • @TheRealCcE
      @TheRealCcE Před 2 lety +12

      No money, no honey.

    • @RAZASHARP
      @RAZASHARP Před 2 lety +3

      Some guys have no clue!!!! 😭😭

    • @et5895
      @et5895 Před 2 lety +6

      He doesn't have any money coming in.

  • @takeastandorbeenslavedby-left

    Tell her goodbye, she doesn’t really like you

  • @too-da-loo
    @too-da-loo Před 2 lety +20

    She is from a culture where the man provides and in her view, she is the provider. She is done unless he earns more..

  • @ellicemcfarlane6010
    @ellicemcfarlane6010 Před 2 lety +91

    I think she's clear about what she wants and he's stuck in a dream and not listening to her. Definitely talk to a Counselor.

    • @dinarachel7
      @dinarachel7 Před 2 lety +3

      @Joshua Bailey exactly. I call BS on her, no good woman will leave a hardworking man. She’s a flake.

    • @nobleinthought8019
      @nobleinthought8019 Před 5 měsíci +1

      ​@@dinarachel7She will if he spends all his energy in a project leaving her feeling lonely.

  • @princessbitchess
    @princessbitchess Před 2 lety +85

    She’s Chinese so her cultural taught her to become better and have a successful partner and she needs stability . It’s more than obvious that she wants to better herself and he’s not doing it.

    • @Luther_Luffeigh
      @Luther_Luffeigh Před 2 lety +3

      You probably right

    • @exvan3571
      @exvan3571 Před 2 lety +1

      Then these "Christian" hosts should advise her to get a "Christian" divorce attorney. Cuz King James Version.

    • @r.rodriguez4991
      @r.rodriguez4991 Před 2 lety +3

      If she wanted to better herself she wouldn't be wanting to leave her husband because he doesn't make as much as she wants. She wants to enrich herself.

    • @SoManyRandomRamblings
      @SoManyRandomRamblings Před 2 lety +3

      Exactly, especially since in his initial description of the job he mentioned job security meaning his current one does not have that... it may be a pay cut, but at least it is a guaranteed paycheck

    • @chadberles2056
      @chadberles2056 Před 2 lety +1

      Must be nice being a woman nothing matters a man can't dump his wife for gaining weight or not doing wild bedroom activities o.o well. But woman can leave if he doenst excite her anymore or money or name Any thing

  • @pwnageproduct
    @pwnageproduct Před 2 lety +52

    What he’s describing is a wife who’s threatening him because she doesn’t see him succeeding long term. This is the fork in the road, if he’s being honest with himself/the show then he may prove her wrong and increase that income (stability for her). But I can understand her fear and frustration if years pass and he doesn’t get past 40k a year. Running a business is not a 9-5… it’s 24/7. WITHOUT benefits, the securities offered by an employer, with ALL the liability and burden. Only 25% of small businesses survive past a decade.
    There are thousands of entry level positions starting at ~$40k/yr with little to no requirements.

  • @keyroncampbell
    @keyroncampbell Před 2 lety +55

    She don't respect him... Simple as that and he don't really know her.

  • @jjman533
    @jjman533 Před 2 lety +128

    She got her green card so now its bye.

    • @Winnie-Kay
      @Winnie-Kay Před 2 lety +6

      Yep

    • @tombob671
      @tombob671 Před 2 lety +5

      Exactly

    • @mallabiss6772
      @mallabiss6772 Před 2 lety +4

      Exactly

    • @jumpiam8477
      @jumpiam8477 Před 2 lety +11

      Green card has an expiration date. It will be terminated right away without the sponcer unless he is an abusive person.

    • @Luther_Luffeigh
      @Luther_Luffeigh Před 2 lety +3

      She is probably a citizen by now

  • @MrTmenzo
    @MrTmenzo Před 2 lety +68

    Not the first time I've heard of foreign women saying this to their husbands when arguing.

  • @ominous450
    @ominous450 Před 2 lety +23

    It's over bro. She wants to go home. She doesn't love you. He couldn't provide the life she wants so she's out

    • @hoangle2483
      @hoangle2483 Před 2 lety +3

      Dude knows it deep down inside but he is still in denial.

  • @Rob10288
    @Rob10288 Před 2 lety +81

    The streets are waiting for her! Move on!

    • @ragequit7389
      @ragequit7389 Před 2 lety +5

      Facts bro lol

    • @andrew8168
      @andrew8168 Před 2 lety +3

      Red pull guys versus Ramsey and crew is epic. Dr John knows EXACTLY what these girls get up to. Dave once told a young guy with no debt and a good job to marry a woman with $350k debt haha!

    • @aislcsales
      @aislcsales Před 2 lety +5

      She belongs to the streets. These beta males are so cringe

    • @KH9th
      @KH9th Před 2 lety +1

      She's for the streets.

    • @jacobmullins8280
      @jacobmullins8280 Před 2 lety +2

      It was from there she came and from there she will return

  • @pawelwisniewski6849
    @pawelwisniewski6849 Před 2 lety +6

    His problem is he thinks he’s doing good financially

  • @TheDjcarter1966
    @TheDjcarter1966 Před 2 lety +28

    Hard to tell but my guess is after expenses some months he is barely breaking even then has a couple good months but can never sustain it. Sounds like she is working and has the benefits and is trying to figure out why she needs you, doesn't sound like love was ever really a thing. Which can be OK if you grow to love each other but sounds like she has been busy supporting you for a lot of those years while you get your business going but it's not really going anywhere.

  • @dawnt5587
    @dawnt5587 Před 2 lety +14

    She’s going to work everyday making more than him. He’s living in a dream world working from home not making much. She’s not going to stay.

  • @Cicero82
    @Cicero82 Před 2 lety +42

    Let her go then. What’s the problem here?

    • @tkdevlop
      @tkdevlop Před 2 lety

      Ya

    • @marywebb9127
      @marywebb9127 Před 2 lety +2

      @@michaelpalumbo4880 Both are Christians and God does not like divorce. Why are you watching a Christian channel if you don't agree with the biblical Principles taught?

    • @Cicero82
      @Cicero82 Před 2 lety

      @@marywebb9127 primarily for financial advice.

  • @Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries
    @Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries Před 2 lety +127

    Cultural differences are yuuuge...anyone considering marrying someone from another culture should read up on the roles men and women have in their sweetie's culture...they should have asked how long he was trying to get this business going before he actually made any money...sounds like she's been carrying the weight $ wise and about ready to have a breakdown...not saying it's good to issue an ultimatum just sounds like she is at the end of her rope. That's not a healthy relationship. Counseling or cut ties. He is way too young to be in a miserable marriage.

    • @youtubeuserzzzz
      @youtubeuserzzzz Před 2 lety +1

      Elizabeth, you are correct. I cautiously extend your comment to US American Women.
      I know of several US Women, who were blinded by the upfront money offers from Men, for marriage. And in some cases ones who we would think is a genuine relationship.
      In these situations, I'm referring to marriage to some Middle Eastern Men.
      I told them, nevermind the money. Study the culture of the man you are marrying. Usually after marriage, these Men want their new wife to "visit his Country, to meet his family".
      It's a trap. As these Women fail to understand, those Countries automatically make foreign Women married to their Male Citizens, Citizens themselves. They don't care if you are from the US, Canada etc. You are automatically a Citizen of that said Country.
      Which means, you need your Husband's permission to leave the Country. Basically you need his permission to do anything. Domestic violence is "normal". You, as a Woman have NO rights. He holds your Passport. You don't know what is being discussed because the local language is NOT a dialect of English.
      It is extremely important for US Americans in general to understand this, but Women definitely more!

  • @thegenxgamerr
    @thegenxgamerr Před 2 lety +139

    Better advice, skip the marriage counseling call her Bluff right away. Anytime you’re in a relationship and a partner gives you an ultimatum it’s essentially dead. To get to that point means you’ve either lost respect or given up on the other person. Save yourself a lot of time energy and money call the bluff now. Good luck

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 Před 2 lety +8

      Yep. Never accept an ultimatum

    • @jarelchico
      @jarelchico Před 2 lety +5

      Harsh but truth.

    • @ShockinglyBleh
      @ShockinglyBleh Před 2 lety +6

      Considering she's got Chinese citizenship I would 100% call her bluff, no way she's going back there unless she's got ties to big money or the Communist Party. But I bet that she 100% has another guy on the plate and wants out.

    • @theflyingsmiley01
      @theflyingsmiley01 Před 2 lety +3

      @@ShockinglyBleh I can see that. That is monkey branching 101. She made an ultimatum that she knows he will not take.

    • @luitgi
      @luitgi Před 2 lety

      I agree with you...If what this guy has described is true, call the bluff and see where it goes...In addition, if she wants to leave the country, that is a bad sign

  • @Damien8212
    @Damien8212 Před 2 lety +47

    She checked out a long time ago Greg. You were a means to an end. She never had respect for your. Let her go, and focus on your life. Learn from this experience.

    • @derekd1510
      @derekd1510 Před 2 lety

      I think you kit the nail right on the head there.

  • @christianmoldes9561
    @christianmoldes9561 Před 2 lety +20

    Cultural differences. Money is very important for Chinese people. Usually, Chinese men are not marriage material until they have a house. The really have to talk about financial expectations short and long term. Chinese expect for children to take care of their parents later in life. His wife may not only be concerned about their current financial situation but long term as well.

    • @Kaodusanya
      @Kaodusanya Před 2 lety +3

      Money is very important for Americans too that's why we are all here watching Dave.

    • @waterheaterservices
      @waterheaterservices Před 2 lety +1

      @@Kaodusanya Chinese culture is utterly obsessed with money

    • @Kaodusanya
      @Kaodusanya Před 2 lety +1

      @@waterheaterservices so is american culture or we wouldn't work so hard or spend our time watching Dave. There is nothing wrong with that.

  • @christophercarrigg3775
    @christophercarrigg3775 Před 2 lety +46

    Yeah she totally seems like a sweetheart

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Před 2 lety +4

      😂

    • @jeremyrogers200
      @jeremyrogers200 Před 2 lety +6

      Ditch her and marry someone who's not entitled.

    • @eckankar7756
      @eckankar7756 Před 2 lety +10

      I always wonder about men that feel they have to find and import a wife from another country.

    • @superblump87
      @superblump87 Před 2 lety +8

      @@eckankar7756 it's not a red flag, it's a whole entire fireworks display.

    • @waterheaterservices
      @waterheaterservices Před 2 lety +1

      @@eckankar7756 I am one of those men, and sometimes I wonder too. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

  • @front331
    @front331 Před 2 lety +124

    I'm with her. Get the pay cut with good benefits and reliable income and paychecks as opposed to volatile and roller coaster profits of a business. Sounds like he doesn't know how to run his business or make it bigger and earn her trust from it.

    • @drtij_dzienz
      @drtij_dzienz Před 2 lety +26

      If your total income in Portland OR is 36k your good months aren’t actually good months

    • @r.rodriguez4991
      @r.rodriguez4991 Před 2 lety +2

      Between the two of them they're making about 80K a year. This isn't about reliable income.

    • @gladlock
      @gladlock Před 2 lety +2

      @@r.rodriguez4991 $80k is nothing

    • @r.rodriguez4991
      @r.rodriguez4991 Před 2 lety +2

      @@gladlock That's ridiculous.

    • @michael7264
      @michael7264 Před 2 lety +4

      It's not fair for that kid to call it a pay cut.. he's not making any stable money, has no healthcare, benefits, 401k, etc..

  • @moicus29
    @moicus29 Před 2 lety +30

    Poor girl been contributing more than he for YEARS, all she asked him was to get a real job. And he's willing to throw it away: "Nahh I'm good." Was he raised in a school where everyone's a winner or something?

    • @r.rodriguez4991
      @r.rodriguez4991 Před 2 lety +1

      Poor girl? They make about 80K a year and she only makes about 5K more than him. She's not some poor put upon wife. She's unreasonable.

    • @moicus29
      @moicus29 Před 2 lety +3

      @@r.rodriguez4991 She's making closer to 10 more, with real benefits That is when he has money coming in at all. I'd ditch him as well. Tired of listening to him already.

    • @r.rodriguez4991
      @r.rodriguez4991 Před 2 lety +2

      @@moicus29 You'd divorce your spouse over money? Does that sound like something a decent person would say?

    • @moicus29
      @moicus29 Před 2 lety +3

      @@r.rodriguez4991 This saint of a lady is STILL willing to compromise with him if he actually got a job. And people are crapping on her.

    • @r.rodriguez4991
      @r.rodriguez4991 Před 2 lety +1

      @@moicus29 "Do what I want and we can work things out."
      That's not how marriage works.

  • @Epidombe
    @Epidombe Před 2 lety +68

    I think I remember someone saying it’s embarrassing in Chinese culture for a man to make less money than his wife.
    It sounds like she misses her home though. Sorry to hear it.

    • @brenolad
      @brenolad Před 2 lety +1

      That's a good point about income inequality in the marriage, although she wants him to take a pay cut which is really bizarre

    • @Epidombe
      @Epidombe Před 2 lety

      @@brenolad Forgot about that part. Good point.

    • @StLouis-yg8jp
      @StLouis-yg8jp Před 2 lety +18

      It's embarrassing in every culture

    • @racquelholness169
      @racquelholness169 Před 2 lety +3

      @@brenolad he is not being honest..... no one is would ask you to take a pay cut.... I think he is not making money from his business so for security to get back into the game that a 'pay cut' and have security

    • @antonelladmcassia1157
      @antonelladmcassia1157 Před 2 lety +1

      It's embarrassing in every culture in the end...

  • @maybug88
    @maybug88 Před 2 lety +66

    "This sucker's on life support"
    I know it's not supposed to be funny, but it cracked me up 😂

    • @Neilram2001
      @Neilram2001 Před 2 lety +2

      This needs to be on hodgetwins man. Not Ramsey show.

    • @gamertechguy8898
      @gamertechguy8898 Před 2 lety +2

      😂

    • @johnlanier3616
      @johnlanier3616 Před 2 lety +3

      She sounds like a nightmare

    • @gamertechguy8898
      @gamertechguy8898 Před 2 lety

      @@johnlanier3616 absolutely

    • @maybug88
      @maybug88 Před 2 lety +6

      @@johnlanier3616 He makes less than her and she came from another country and makes every excuse for it. He does not seem to have a backbone which he probably exibits on a regular basis to make up for the fact he isn't successful or confident. Women usually aren't crazy about guys like that. He needed someone else to confirm she is being mean.

  • @Bestfriend-650
    @Bestfriend-650 Před 2 lety +49

    A lot of people are pointing finger at the wife however if I were to act as devils advocate, the wife is working and contributing more than him to the family. He says he makes 30 but that could be topline and at the end of day he doesn’t earn much and she feels the whole experiment phase is over and he should better take a job with a bit less pay but is stable and they can plan future together.
    Leaving your home and country is hard. Not everyone is ready to get married just for green card and leave their family behind, come to a place where you don’t know anyone. It seems to me that the marriage isn’t working due to financial reasons and so she feels home sick and would rather leave US and go back to her family.

  • @rickm6076
    @rickm6076 Před 2 lety +87

    Well if you promised somethin you haven’t delivered on then I get it. Otherwise let her run. Don’t marry the one you think you love, marry the one who loves you.

  • @marcus3457
    @marcus3457 Před 2 lety +35

    Top reason to not apply to be on 90 Day Fiance.
    Seriously, there is stuff on both sides that we aren't hearing here. The wife sounds like she has ulterior motives, but I do not think he is seeing himself clearly either. Sounds like a nice guy, too nice, with blind spots in his own life. I know, because that used to be me.

    • @Just_Hu
      @Just_Hu Před 2 lety

      What advice to stop being a nice guy?

    • @marcus3457
      @marcus3457 Před 2 lety +1

      @@Just_Hu You don't have to stop being nice. Look to God to help you see yourself as He sees you. After that, prioritize things as God would prioritize them.
      Honestly, it took years of getting knocked down for me to figure it out, so I get it. But when Christ has His proper place in your life, and you make all things subject to Him, life will start to fall into place.
      And if you need help understanding, as I often do, listening to podcasts from people like Dr. Tony Evans and Dr. Charles Swindoll serve as a tremendous resource. All the best with everything, and I hope you are encouraged.

    • @racquelholness169
      @racquelholness169 Před 2 lety +1

      nice is not always good.... he is not being honest

    • @marcus3457
      @marcus3457 Před 2 lety

      @@racquelholness169 I agree. I think he is not honestly looking at himself in the mirror, so he thinks he is more of a "good guy" than he really is. That being said, using your marriage as a weapon to strong arm your spouse into doing what you want is absolutely wrong, I don't care what the excuse.

  • @PInk77W1
    @PInk77W1 Před 2 lety +34

    Same thing happened to me
    except we had a baby involved
    I ended up sleeping in my car for
    8yrs to pay child support 2000-08.
    Now I have my home paid off and
    Doing very well

  • @michaelmclaughlin261
    @michaelmclaughlin261 Před 2 měsíci +2

    "26% of Zero is still Zero." LOL...Dave is hilarious.

  • @quarterlimit5838
    @quarterlimit5838 Před 2 lety +36

    Did she get her citizenship? Cause she sounds classic chain migration.

  • @98nathan1
    @98nathan1 Před 2 lety +1

    Hey Dave. I’m from 37013 as well! Pebble creek circle off Una Antioch pike! I love you Man and consider you a blessing from and a mercenary of God. You’ve inspired me to change my life, and for that I owe my life to Jesus and my appreciation to you Sir 🙏🏻 please never stop delivering the Truth

  • @kakusei3672
    @kakusei3672 Před 2 lety +31

    Met my Japanese wife in college. She's been in the USA for half her life now. I would move to Japan before she would 😆. Still has her green card only for ease of entering Japan (her parents are still alive) and for our kids to have dual citizenship.

    • @EricZAchille
      @EricZAchille Před 2 lety +1

      In which state did you go to college?

    • @ClaxtonBay123
      @ClaxtonBay123 Před 2 lety +1

      Random question. If she decides to get citizenship in the US does she have to give up Japanese citizenship?

    • @kakusei3672
      @kakusei3672 Před 2 lety +1

      @@ClaxtonBay123 yes. And my children get to pick at 18 if I remember correctly.

    • @Luther_Luffeigh
      @Luther_Luffeigh Před 2 lety +1

      Japanese women are the best!

    • @googlemail7934
      @googlemail7934 Před 2 lety

      @@Luther_Luffeigh Why is that?

  • @gypsylamb9502
    @gypsylamb9502 Před 2 lety +112

    There are two sides to every story (at least) so it’s unfair to say that she’s not a nice person. We don’t know what’s really happening behind closed doors.

    • @Luther_Luffeigh
      @Luther_Luffeigh Před 2 lety +6

      True that

    • @SoManyRandomRamblings
      @SoManyRandomRamblings Před 2 lety +3

      Especially since even before he started delving into her reasons against the job....just in his basic description of the new job he mentioned that the new one offered job security. Meaning this current one does not, so it might be a pay cut, but it's a guaranteed paycheck

    • @pattyajones
      @pattyajones Před 2 lety +2

      Really?????????????????? Like Immigrants don't marry Americans to come here. You are some kind of special.

    • @gypsylamb9502
      @gypsylamb9502 Před 2 lety

      @@pattyajones Really. I take it you've met EVERY SINGLE immigrant that has married an American and determined that they were looking for a green card, right? Of course you have! It's nice to know there are people like you on this planet. Makes me feel safe & warm inside... I mean, this "American" man is being taken advantage of by this mean immigrant woman... let's all get together and save him from this witch! He is quite a catch making 36K per year!!! Let's find a good American woman for this jewel of a man!

    • @hellothere3587
      @hellothere3587 Před 2 lety

      @@pattyajones She was already here. He bring her here.

  • @ZeeS3313
    @ZeeS3313 Před 2 lety +7

    It seemed like maybe he didn’t give the full picture, I’d also consider cultural differences in work ethic. If his income is always up and down but doesn’t put effort in to make it more stable then I’d get tired of it too.

  • @kirkraszman7998
    @kirkraszman7998 Před 2 lety +26

    LET HER GO! You don't stand a chance.

  • @brandonhooper7748
    @brandonhooper7748 Před 2 lety

    Great advice good to learn from

  • @richcreager7877
    @richcreager7877 Před 2 lety +14

    BYE FELICIA

  • @bencarter8423
    @bencarter8423 Před 11 měsíci +2

    This is part of the reason I’m still single. I’m trying to start my own business, so someone who just wants security, and is unwilling to support my goals is a dealbreaker for me. I’ve made that clear with a few women who didn’t like that.

  • @GardenerEarthGuy
    @GardenerEarthGuy Před 2 lety +4

    Many times it's cheaper to rent than own....
    Never buy a house until you can afford it.

  • @Imtje_
    @Imtje_ Před 2 lety +7

    Let her go big dawg. Never stop chasing your dream for anybody

  • @DonDiego724
    @DonDiego724 Před 2 lety +42

    Yeah. Marriage in almost all Asian countries is still very, very traditional. Very close to what it was 100 years ago in the Western world as well. Family is extremely patriarchal micro cosmos. Mens are valued a lot, but ONLY if they can provide for the family. Thats all, really. It's not communist background as Dave mentioned. It's really the old traditional patriarchal family values. Women are mainly expected to be more passive then their western counterparts and to take care of the husbands family, bear children, etc., you get the point. This is very simple. If you are able to maintain a family (financially) by yourself, you will have a wonderful life with Asian woman. Real values as they come from the ancient world :)

    • @shelley8211
      @shelley8211 Před 2 lety

      I agree.

    • @paulaaquino
      @paulaaquino Před 2 lety

      True

    • @shrujay4035
      @shrujay4035 Před 2 lety +2

      AND he's bloody 26. He fell hard too early. Rookie mistake.

    • @Kaodusanya
      @Kaodusanya Před 2 lety

      That's how it should be, maybe if men could squeeze a baby our their poop hole but if they can't then you need to atleast be able to provide when she is preggos.

  • @KH9th
    @KH9th Před 2 lety +6

    Issue number one is he had to go over seas to get a woman. Young simp. Let her leave and focus on your purpose, AMS.

  • @frankl6831
    @frankl6831 Před 2 lety +4

    Couples in a healthy marriage don't throw around terms like "ultimatum" and "bluff" on each other.

  • @user-jy7yw5kw3w
    @user-jy7yw5kw3w Před 2 lety +35

    Sounds like she's realizing the American dream ain't what it's made out to be.

    • @Billman8686
      @Billman8686 Před 2 lety +7

      It sounds like she wants communism.

    • @jumpiam8477
      @jumpiam8477 Před 2 lety +1

      Especially with a wrong American man. No future.

    • @jendiaz4718
      @jendiaz4718 Před 2 lety +1

      She’s working and making more money then him

  • @joncalh7928
    @joncalh7928 Před 2 lety +4

    Someone get this man a Red Pill!

  • @rachelclare1398
    @rachelclare1398 Před 2 lety +1

    I looked directly at John when he said “she’s the sweetest woman” and was not disappointed by his reaction

  • @markg999
    @markg999 Před 2 lety +6

    Let her go you have no kids.

  • @TheBoringLameInvestor
    @TheBoringLameInvestor Před 2 lety +5

    She got her green card. She is gone

  • @jonathanstoll1402
    @jonathanstoll1402 Před 2 lety +12

    The moment she starts earnings more then him he is a gone for her.. it doesn't matter if he is a good guy or not... In her eyes she is better then him and she deserves something better there for she is gone. Sad truth.

  • @AtotheZ7
    @AtotheZ7 Před 2 lety +18

    How did they meet? That is my biggest question. It does make a difference.

    • @commonsense6967
      @commonsense6967 Před 2 lety

      Yes, exactly. How did they meet? Neither John nor Dave asked the most important question.

    • @MayaKanaKa
      @MayaKanaKa Před 2 lety +1

      I was going to add a similar comment…. Is she a mail-order bride?? Dave and John should have asked him….

    • @medusa8019
      @medusa8019 Před 2 lety +2

      Probably online.

  • @CPTZK11
    @CPTZK11 Před 2 lety +4

    Don't be a simp, man up and get a woman who you can lead not one that leads you!

  • @elizabethdazell4426
    @elizabethdazell4426 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Cultural issues between China and US are huge. They need to have very deep conversations about things like obligations to family, money and savings, crime and what marriage means. She may also just be homesick

  • @Justme68ification
    @Justme68ification Před 2 lety +16

    Praying for this guy. 🙏🏽

  • @Originalman144
    @Originalman144 Před 2 lety +46

    She’s probably already got another guy in her sights - and you helped her get a US passport so she can jump ship any time. Never accept an ultimatum - let her go.

    • @probablynot1368
      @probablynot1368 Před 2 lety +2

      I didn’t recall him saying anything about her becoming a naturalized US citizen. Perhaps she’s only got her green card?

  • @eckankar7756
    @eckankar7756 Před 2 lety +28

    Will she take my wife with her?

  • @wiiiz3
    @wiiiz3 Před 2 lety +10

    there is something going on...It's called 90 day fiancé.

    • @vaska1999
      @vaska1999 Před 2 měsíci

      Pay attention. She's been working as a teacher in the US for years, supporting this guy's fantasy of being an entrepreneur.

  • @benjaminhough8804
    @benjaminhough8804 Před rokem +2

    I once had a friend that started a business and it took some time for the spouse to feel comfortable, before he quit the "regular/stable" job. I can understand the fear she must be feeling and the uncertainty that is probably causing a lot of stress. I have a feeling she's been voicing this stress for some time and he's been ignoring them or is not in tune with his wife to know she is stressed. Clearly they are not on the same page and she probably feels she has nowhere else to go but to leave.
    There are two sides of every story and we aren't hearing her side, but I kinda feel like he could be ignoring or pushing off her needs; her needs for stability, her need for her extended family. I have a feeling there's a lot she is feeling that he cannot understand or he is ignoring.

  • @spasian27
    @spasian27 Před 2 lety +16

    You can do way better dude!! Leave her.

    • @amandafoster24
      @amandafoster24 Před 2 lety +1

      He can’t leave her when she the one leaving! 👆🏼

  • @esmeseyfried6394
    @esmeseyfried6394 Před 2 lety +5

    Oops.
    90 day fiance gone bad.

  • @SUGAH92
    @SUGAH92 Před 2 lety

    i love this duo

  • @alicestanley177
    @alicestanley177 Před 2 lety +7

    Chinese likes to have "face", a steady titled job has more prestige and face than a fluentuating job.

    • @ckookiemonster
      @ckookiemonster Před 2 lety +1

      Yea. its probably because she makes more money than him

  • @Positiveenergy68
    @Positiveenergy68 Před 2 lety +14

    I think the problem is that they live in Portland. Yuck!

    • @oceanside88
      @oceanside88 Před 2 lety

      I love Oregon💕

    • @marywebb9127
      @marywebb9127 Před 2 lety +1

      @A H Portland is a place to go for nature 😅😂🤣 That's like going to LA to be a cowboy! 🤣😅😂

    • @meggrotte4760
      @meggrotte4760 Před měsícem

      Another thing is china's a very convenient place to live in
      I lived in Taiwan for 20 years, and i am goi going back here.I can't function
      I was born raised in the US.
      It's just hard to live in a place.That's gotta poorly done infrastructure.
      The other thing in asian standards they really require men to be able to provide greatly
      Her bringing her more money is not a good thing
      I hope this kid makes it.

  • @Zero-gh9lp
    @Zero-gh9lp Před 2 lety +19

    With co-vid and inflation making her feel insecure, she may just miss home (you do get obsessed with fond memories of home when you are overseas. Income may be low, or her discontent with that may be an excuse.

  • @vaska1999
    @vaska1999 Před 2 měsíci +2

    This is about reliability and stability. I'm not Chinese (I'm a European) and I suspect most American women would agree with his wife, too.
    It's obvious what's going on here. She's been making more than he for years, subsidizing his business, and now wants him to get a steady job with a reliable income. She can't begin to even think of having children in the current situation and is fed up with his financial flakiness and unreliability.
    The funny thing is that both of the hosts have completely failed to see any of this, and, as Americans, they don't understand that life in China today can be a lot better than life in many parts of the US, which is why she's also suggested they move to China. I hope this guy doesn't lose his marriage and a good wife because these two are totally out of their depth here.

  • @anthonykence9954
    @anthonykence9954 Před 2 lety +5

    She does not feel secure Financially or shes high maintenance.

  • @petittall557
    @petittall557 Před 2 lety +2

    Seems like this guy must read "Unplugged Alpha" of Rich Cooper.

  • @k.s.k.7721
    @k.s.k.7721 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Having grown up with friends who were Chinese immigrants (American citizens), they are obsessive about hard work and keeping the family on a good footing. The culture is all about making sure that there's money in the bank, money for the future and security for old age. Having a "so-so" business that is not earning well, and a husband who doesn't seem to be taking it seriously, or making the necessary changes to improve things is hugely frustrating to a traditional Chinese person. Parents will literally sleep on the floor of their business and put off even renting an apartment until there's enough funds saved. Financial security is a #1 priority, with education running a close 2nd. His wife is not bluffing.

  • @djpuplex
    @djpuplex Před 2 lety +28

    Help her pack. And schedule a party. I have a funny feeling more red pilled guys are calling with "stories" for Dave to see if he changes his tune. And John Daloney full of bologna it's always something else always the man's fault.

  • @yoshit9819
    @yoshit9819 Před 2 lety +2

    The title of this video should be "the luckiest man alive". I would buy her the airline ticket

  • @compassandradio6261
    @compassandradio6261 Před 2 lety +1

    Over half of my emergency fund is in cash. Should I convert it to something that's not dropping in value?

    • @xterra4hire
      @xterra4hire Před 2 lety

      At this point is there anything not dripping

  • @johnsteele8073
    @johnsteele8073 Před 2 lety +3

    she makes more than him. its basic hypergamy here

  • @brandonmcmillan9641
    @brandonmcmillan9641 Před 2 lety +1

    She got with you because she thought she was going to be living a rich life. She is realizing she got with the wrong American.

  • @Beachey
    @Beachey Před měsícem +1

    Well im American and would leave too. The entire marriage the most he's made is 34k? Stop it. What is Dave talking about??

  • @tonimilstead5089
    @tonimilstead5089 Před 2 lety +1

    Living close to Portland would be enough to not feel save.

  • @youngmystery8417
    @youngmystery8417 Před 2 lety +2

    Dude needs to get red pill

  • @Santaheckler
    @Santaheckler Před 2 lety +7

    Her leaving the country isn’t a threat, it’s a gift. Reach your potential!

  • @catherinenelson4162
    @catherinenelson4162 Před 2 lety

    He said he's on the Oregon coast. What he's making isn't bad for the Oregon coast. What they're making together is quite good for the coast. I lived there for years.
    Marriage counselor is the best plan.

  • @dialac1
    @dialac1 Před 2 lety +1

    She has her green card or citizenship and she doesn’t need him anymore. Period.

  • @TheLuxeTraveler702
    @TheLuxeTraveler702 Před 2 lety +12

    Sort of seems like they are in alot of debt, his jobs are inconsistent, she's bearing the weight of the bills and is scared. He should get the job that is consistent and they start working together. They are operating on two separate pages.

    • @ayannamarie123
      @ayannamarie123 Před 2 lety +8

      I was wondering how all these comments completely missed that. Quick to call the immigrant woman a user but not acknowledging that she makes more, the uncertainty of his income and how she might feel in this.

    • @TheLuxeTraveler702
      @TheLuxeTraveler702 Před 2 lety +1

      @@ayannamarie123 Very true. Most of their money is probably trying to keep his business afloat. They are drowning right now. I would take the job, work to get out of debt and revisit the side business at a later time.

  • @Mr_Fairdale
    @Mr_Fairdale Před 2 lety +8

    Getting walked all over my dude

  • @pammccutcheon9648
    @pammccutcheon9648 Před 2 lety +18

    She wants to bring her family over here.

    • @kagnewcobra5228
      @kagnewcobra5228 Před 2 lety +3

      Good possibility.

    • @Kysen10
      @Kysen10 Před 2 lety +3

      and he cant afford it

    • @pammccutcheon9648
      @pammccutcheon9648 Před 2 lety +3

      @@kagnewcobra5228 I know because my brother got burned and so did my brother-in-law. And if they stay with you for 10 years then they can get your social security as well.

    • @kagnewcobra5228
      @kagnewcobra5228 Před 2 lety +1

      @@pammccutcheon9648 I didn't know that. Holy smokes. I sure hope the caller reads your comment and checks into that'

    • @vaska1999
      @vaska1999 Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@Kysen10And she can't afford it, while financing his fantasy of entrepreneurship.

  • @mojojojo8213
    @mojojojo8213 Před 2 lety +6

    It’s giving 90 day fiancé …

  • @MR3DDev
    @MR3DDev Před 2 lety +8

    This is the problem when marrying people from abroad, sounds like she did not adapt to America and wants to go back

  • @raallen1468
    @raallen1468 Před 2 lety +23

    Dave says to take a woman from a Communist country to a Christian counselor?!?!?!? 🤣

    • @jazzyj6640
      @jazzyj6640 Před 2 lety +1

      Forget that 😂

    • @TheHoriginal
      @TheHoriginal Před 2 lety +3

      There are many Chinese people that are saved. In fact many of them have been persecuted for their faith and are WAY stronger believers than many of us are. Of course I don’t know her just stating facts …

    • @monie3558
      @monie3558 Před 2 lety

      They still have traditional values.

  • @deardaddyforever305
    @deardaddyforever305 Před 2 lety +1

    the guy couldn't provide the stability she needs.

  • @anthonywebster8638
    @anthonywebster8638 Před 2 lety +17

    When are men going to learn to not be suckered into marriage? There's no benefit, only lie-ability.

  • @dia9073
    @dia9073 Před 2 lety +1

    take a red pill, stay away this marriage and do not marry again.

  • @kleindropper
    @kleindropper Před rokem +1

    She wanted a guy who already crossed the finish line like they all do.

  • @meggrotte4760
    @meggrotte4760 Před měsícem +1

    What it is, he doesn't have enough money
    I lived in Taiwan for 20 years.I pretty much understand a lot of asian cultures

  • @jaqueitch
    @jaqueitch Před 2 lety +1

    She didn't leave her family to shack up with a dude making $35k. Well, she did, but that's not what she wants.