I've experienced both. Growing up poor, I always wanted Gundam Model Kits/Figurines but we couldn't afford any. Finally got some money and I bought a ton of those and just collected them. They made me feel good for the time. The last few years, I've just lost any joy I had in having them and started selling them off slowly. I don't spend much money nowadays, just saving cause of the fear of losing everything. Gym, food, a game here and there...That's the most I'll spend on now.
let me be honest. i havent watched one of your videos in years due to life and I realized all of my OG CZcamsrs are in their 30s like I am and are literally going through the same things that I am going through and being able to articulate it. i was crying while washing my dishes listening to you because you were hitting everything so hard for me!! the not making my place a home, the house warming gifts (I gifted my friends a shower filter head, some face masks, laundry detergent and sih soap), the fighting the insecurities of comparisons of being broke or fulfilling that childhood desire and now at a point you're down ith it. David, thank you so much for this. Thank you. you really spoke your heart and mind out and it just makes me cry with both joy, sadness. a bittersweet moment of growing and realizing through life experiences.
There's a weird peace you get when you sell/lose your possessions. I was in a 6 year relationship that ended abruptly, and instead of fighting and arguing for weeks over furniture and tvs and dinner plates, I just packed my clothes and laptop, and left, never to return. I let her have everything, and it gave me a sense of relief to not have to worry about "stuff". It's weird too...now a year later, I still have a hard time wanting to buy anything.
Same thing I did ..I let her have it all and I bought all of it too.. all the tvs all the furniture everything really.. I live a minimal lifestyle now and won’t look back. As far as David selling his kicks I did the same and made basically my money back on shoes I had worn so I got a good return on my Js and classic Lebron etc and designer stuff
He is 1000% right. I spent thousands on shoes just for me to wear at casinos where I lost even more money. I bought em because I wasnt able to get myself the nicer stuff when I was younger. Now it dont matter to me... Even bought myself a nice rolex and that dont mean nothing either. The relationship and bonds you have with people are more important. Our time on earth is all finite. Its up to you to determine where you want to place your time, money, and energy. Thank you David for passing along this message.
I've spent too much money buying gifts for those who aren't good people and those I don't care about. I'm still struggling to fight against myself searching for approval. Those who are important in my life, I've neglected to show thanks, worst part is I don't know how. I've spend a few thousand for a tongue split, just got back yesterday, it's a procedure I've always wanted for a spiritual and anesthetic reasons waited for 15yrs. I'm truly happy. I've stuck with buying things associated to people who I trust and who've helped, tattoos, peircings, band shirts, going to concerts, it's not a financial smart choice, I do it to extend memories cause tbi doesn't let me keep memories. I'm constantly scared and running, but for me that means going out to eat to create the illusions things are ok. One bit I really hate about gifts giving or receiving, it's buying a person. I've tried explaing, I've nothing to give but my time and conversations, however it's not recognized hense buying materialistic objdcts, funny bit is I truly dispise it.
Love it when you talk about real-life shit in a comfortable setting. Sometimes it's hard to speak about these things with friends because we keep the vibe up but this is why these deep chats hit harder. And I like the way you're able to articulate and be honest with the things you're noticing in life.
I always appreciate how unapologetically yourself you are as a person David. It's something I've always appreciated and respected ever since I discovered you and JK back in 2012. I know there are a lot of people who don't agree or dislike you for whatever reason, but to me you've always had pretty reasonable opinions, and always do your best to learn from your mistakes and grow. I always enjoy when you do your solo podcasts, and get into talking as I feel it brings about an even more down to earth and raw version of yourself. I'm also at that age when I'm seeing how finite life is and how one day we all will eventually pass on. It just makes me think about all the good people I have in my life right now and how I must do my best to cherish those moments and experiences as best as I can. Thank you for another great episode David 🥹
And so true when you come from not having money there's always the two extremes. Either someone who ends up spending like crazy being reckless or that person who maintains that level of chasing value and bargains and what people would deem "broke behavior" even tho realistically its a good trait to have coz lord knows we waste so much money on a lotta superficial stuff so it's always nice to see those are able to appreciate the blessings and realize that you can still find so much value in stuff that you dont have to overpay for even if you got the ability to.
dudeee i used to watch you back when i was in middle school! Now i'm 26 years old and this video just popped up im my recommendation, i'm glad you're improving yourself even more. I'm pretty much going through the same thing, realizing what matters the most in life and appreciating it more. Once again, thank you for keep making videos david!
Talking about your parents almost brought me to tears. I lost my father around this time last year to cancer, and it puts everything into perspective. And then having to live without him? It gave me a kind of hindsight I wish I had earlier. Spend more time with your family, show them love, and make sure they share stories with you. Really liked this episode David.
So glad to see you pop up in my YT after all these years. I resonate so much with all of what you said. It is sad that it’s the nature of our society, you’re going to be put in a box and people will always have their version of you in their heads.. no matter how you try to show up. Also, agree our time is loaned and now in the that era of discerning where i should spend my time & money. I will show up for people who genuinely cares for me to be there and lastly, to experience love is a brave thing to open up to because when you lose it, it’s the same great pain you feel. How lucky are we to come across it? That’s life and suffering and it’s worth it. ✌️
Absolutely! A big part of my healing from LA-living into a more self-honoring perspective was realizing that I don't need to wear things that are uncomfortable or aren't expressions of my soul and spirit. No more chasing after trends or trying to impress strangers who don't contribute to my life!
wow i cant believe you got lost in my algorithm, but i love this more mature content. between us u were always my favorite member of jk news. super inspiring video especially since i grew up in sac
Been subscribed a long time, since UCLA girl XD, and I don't get a lot of your videos in my feed but i always appreciate when i do. Just always big moments for you that speak to me on various levels. Been dealing with some of this myself as i finally after years of issues have like an actual adult job. Went crazy with videogames and like steamdeck type things for a bit and honestly i gave them all away and now im just finding peace in learning art and having meals with friends. Nice to know im not the only one making it out :)
I really resonated when you said "you enjoy being around people because simply they are good people" because that's how I go about things as well. I'm friends with my friends because they are good people who understand me and I feel like I can be unapologetically myself around them.
Not even 3 minutes in and I knew David was going to spit facts. Truly relatable to how i grew up and what i currently am experiencing in my life now. Some people just wouldn’t understand
Sacrificing one's personal joy and satisfaction to impress others never reaches fulfillment. If anything, it's like drinking to get drunk and feel happy/carefree, but ultimately further pushing you away from true personal joy. Loved the anecdotes you shared, David! Cheers to more reflections and shedding of the old.
I'm 37 and this is the type of thing I think about a lot. I have a large collection of random crap that is worth a bit of money. I'm also in the process of getting rid of these items. All I want to do is be able to eat well, pay my mortgage and drive my pos civic. I'd definitely like to travel more and see the world. Life is just too short. Thanks David for an eye opener video.
David- thank you for sharing. Mortality is always a difficult conversation. I feel that our loved ones are always with us and this took years for me to realize this. We are all here for some type of purpose but you’re doing a great job progressing through your journey!! Keep it up! Enjoy your content on all different channels.
Yeah... my gundam shopping spree is heavily affected by me not having the ability to do so growing up. The "not wanting to spend a lot" portion is what makes me go to dollar stores for the simpler stuff. It also affected my clothing choices. Reel life shirts from sam's club are a bargain compared to other brands, and I can wear them all year. I don't particularly care about good clothes as long as they are comfortable. To this day, I still don't understand what looks good on me. Instead of buying clothes, I buy a ridiculous amount of art supplies. Kinda in a "one day I'm gonna lose all this money, so I need to store these for that moment" way. As an only child, I couldn't give away my dog's puppies because of attachment, and I was using them to fill my loneliness. Sometimes, I feel like I'm not good enough out there... so I stay at home with my dogs.
This episode hits close to home to me. Our road maps were nearly identical. I’ve been doing the same thing, getting rid of certain things that don’t matter anymore to me. Similar thought process, who matters as you get older, especially with our parents getting older and realizing our time with them is running short.
Thank you for this David ❤ I recently am a post-grad and struggling to find a good job in SoCal. I struggle & compare myself wanting the next big jewelry or makeover. This reminds me to be with content with what you have! Also to not diminish our happiness by comparing it to others’ happiness 🙏🏼
David, I have been watching your channel from the start. I like your recent self reflection of life. Keep mixing it up in between the normal genius podcast. It's a good break for us to know where you are in life and to help us think about our life
Same as you...the things also represent the unhealed version of me so I'm slowly getting rid of things + my parents are getting older and are starting to offload their things as well. Thanks for this ep David 🙏
Kind of irrelevent to the video topic, but just thought I'd mention that I always enjoy listening to you speak David!! You're very articulate and eloquent, and a master at telling engaging stories. Speaking and getting to the point aren't my strongest points, so I look up to you a lot!😄 These solo podcasts are great, keep up the awesome work :D
I'm going through a lot of life changing career stuff (might have to move across the country) but these solo pods are really helping me stay grounded in who i am as a person.Thanks David!
Warning to listeners, he's finanically free and he doesn't need to play the game anymore as a means to surivial. so becareful to take all his advice. At the end of the day, he's right and has good values but that's end game talk.
this advice would make sense for people who ARENT financially free. Wouldn’t it? If you ARENT financially free you definitely shouldn’t spend money on things you can’t afford and should spend it where it matters, which is kind of the point I was getting at. You might not have listened to the pod.
@@silvercity6516you can’t take the excerpt out of the quote lol hahahahaha The first sentence insinuates the advice only works if you’re financially free which has nothing to do with the podcast lol. SO the second part of the message stating it’s good advice is negated. The advice isnt given for people with financial freedom so I would only assume if that’s what was taken form it… then the podcast wasn’t listened to in its entirety.
@@DavidSoComedyohh no. Don’t get caught up with the people in CZcams commentary. You did good, you gave good advice, and the criticism that was given isn’t specific enough to warrant a response. Dude never even said which advice specifically was bad.
great video david i haven't commented in a while but this video felt like you were talking directly to me everything you said and your emotions were spot on
costco gang ftmfw. that moment when you shift from the name brand clothing to whatever just fit and works for a quarter of the price is a new type of euphoria.
Damn, I get exactly what you’re saying. From collecting sneakers to being older now and appreciating what really matters in life. Appreciate loved ones like your parents while they’re still around and not live with regret when they’re gone.
Definitely relate to this a lot in terms of clothes, it was all just filling a void from my past. It's like I was buying for my past and not my present. But I think we all go through this (and need to) so we realize things and have an awakening. I still buy clothes, but now it has to be for now, not the past nor the future.
Bruther u got my manager asking if im sick with all the sniffing I was doing throughout this podcast, having a granparent that had dementia really sucks and I always think about them. Everything something reminds me of them i feel my heart tightening.
Similar upbringing, i knew at a early age to save money , so much where i couldn't enjoy my youth at its fullest . Im on the path of wealth knowing my parents will be retired soon with little to no savings . In my 30s i feel like its time to start splurging but with that upbringing its very difficult . Its time to spend on building memories with the ones we still have
It's honestly so hard to find CZcamsrs who are real asf. I can really sense that David is speaking from his heart but also from his experiences. This video spoke volume.
Hey David, I remember the very first videos you put out years ago. Our life is ephemeral and everyone shares the same destination. Love hard, forgive often, and focus on the things that matter - you've embodied those qualities in this video. May God bless you and use your testimony to inspire others in a time of need.
I absolutely resonate with that one David - I too feel at times I don’t deserve cool shit in the present, and in the future, because of how I acted in the past. Breaking out of that though. Grew into my own skin, and that has helped in this department. Thanks for sharing bro. Edit: you should totally do more of these. Huge fan of your work, mate.
This podcast has to be one of my favorites so far. It shows just how far you’ve come as an adult and a human. It’s strange because lately I have been on a similar journey myself. The things that I previously I would go crazy for now don’t really matter so much to me than the memories it takes to get that thing. I don’t know if it’s just that we are getting older or we know our time on this planet is very limited and now I much rather fill that time with family friends or whatever that brings myself happiness and not so much on the materialistic side of life.
I'm 42 and only within the past year came to the same understanding and realization as you did about the significance of time. Every day is a gift because you're right man - we don't know when we are going to die.
When you realize that all the shit we value as people are just material items that don't go with you when you die your outlook on life changes for the better. Stay blessed bro!
It’s not just LA and thanks to social media it’s not just in major cities. We compare ourselves to strangers online and participate in hobbies that were meant to create a sense of community, but we never actually participate outside of the purchasing aspect. Sneakers, clothes, watches, cars… etc. It’s a tough cycle to end.
This one hit home! I’m literally going through the exact same process in this stage of my life right now almost identically. Sold my over 100 pair sneaker collection to Sole Supremacy, sold my 2 Rolex’s, and in process of selling my BMW right now. When I realized pretty much exactly what you realized that it all meant nothing, a major shift happened in my thought process of what life actually means. Man… this the one video where I truly felt not alone. Thank you 🙏
I remember you working out with me and told me you got fit to spite someone. After my heart attack and quadruple cardiac bypass graft, I realized health is wealth. You gave me gold that took perspective to become wisdom. Much love and respect. I now feel rich also when I buy new underwear.
I remember those shoe haul days. Gosh that feels like so long ago. Definitely as I’ve gotten older I think less and less about what people think of me. Obviously I’m still stuck in that same mentality a bit on some things. But I think especially weight-wise (which I know you’ve struggled with too) I’ve finally gotten to a point where it’s for me and for having more time long-term with my son than it is me feeling like I have to get skinnier for society or because I’m not desirable above a certain poundage.
As a 2nd gen middle aged Korean guy in his 30s growing up in North America, I can totally relate to your story. Unfortunately I never had the opportunity like that was a success like a hit youtube channel like you. I never owned Jordans in my life.. Im a size 9. Id be more than happy to take a pair off your hands. Lol.
Now that social media has rooted itself in everyones lives, I feel that flexing has become an all-time high. Now there is over consumption and waste, all to show off "wealth" to people you'll probably never meet in real life. I've done it before too. I'm a collector of manga. I've grown this collection since the 90s and though I'm proud of it I've had my thoughts in the past of where I could have been if I had saved everything I've invested in this hobby. Now that I'm older, I've made peace with a lot. I've chosen to invest in other areas of my life like my health or having memorable experiences or even the small art business I'm trying to grow now that I have more income than I did in my early 20s. What becomes important to us changes as we get older and start realizing that life is going by swiftly. What do I want to do with time afforded to me?
This video hits home as i am also in my late 30s now and the past few years got the news that classmates from my high school passed away. Its just surreal to think they are gone now after so many memories from high school which was not that long ago.
That last part about a house is so relatable. I never decorated or made my room or house because I am scared of moving. I never created a homey home because I'm scared it's temporary and it would hurt if I lose it
I feel better when I buy something for someone else. I feel better when I can help. I feel proud and wanted when people come and ask me for help. At the age of where I am know (40) I know who is taking advantage of that and who truly need the help or the knowledge I know. By the way, nice seeing you again on CZcams. I can honestly say I kinda stop following you for a while now, not because I didn't like you but due to the pandemic, my attention went somewhere else. Still living here in South Sac, Arden Mall is still boring, I really hope the old Florin Mall will get rebuild and become something great. Still waiting for H Mart to open on Valley Hi! Stay humble!
I really enjoyed this video. I'm also in the process of getting rid of things that aren't of use for me. I cannot keep holding onto miscellaneous stuff and clutter my house. And with the gift thing too! I prefer to give and receive practical gifts nowadays because it would be used vs sitting on my desk etc.
I totally felt both sides of the spectrum when it came to money, and still trying to balance it out. I also felt it when you said "look at the price firs," cus that's why I opt for drinks (coffee, etc) since they're already expensive as they are nowadays!
I don't like the question about the job for social status gauge either. I'm currently in the transition of selling things, but.. hopefully, I get to find myself at a mental space where I have a solid couple of people who want to truly be better people than simply for a social status reflection on them.
hey david, i think we're around the same age and we grew up in a very similar background and i def understand everything you're talking about. now that i have a child i've learned to enjoy life a lil bit more and stop working as hard. its hard to change our mindset of one day we could be completely doomed if we get fired, lose our jobs, gets cancelleed ... etc. but i think we have to learn that we have made it to where we are bc we found a way to get there and if god forbid it happens again we will find our way out too. we have to enjoy life a bit more bc we have to remember that we worked hard for what we have and we deserve to enjoy what we have a little bit. its okay to slurge here and there and we have to remember to not lose focus and keep grinding. love your content and the way we both love to say whats in our minds. love the unfilterness of you and hope you keep grinding. enjoy life a lil! stop caring what people think and buy the things you like bc you like it and not bc thats what everyone is doing
and im starting to learn about the friends thing too. start to cut out ppl that aren't willing to have open conversations anymore and bring a lot of negativity around. they talk about day 1 and day 2 friends. i do see people start to grow apart and opinions change and sometimes ppl are able to separate ideas and people but some people are not, and you end up just growing apart after that. people tends to get stuck in their thinking due to the bubble/community they grow up in and stay in. great example is the US potliics happening and people are uncomfortable and unable to tallk openly about what is going on and is afraid to express their feelings or even just ask questions. i have been having all these conversations with myself recently as well and i think we call this mid-life crisis hahaha would love to chat with you if we ever get that chance. i am based in nyc so that might not ever happen. may peace be with you
My desire for minimalism and living below my means has come from traveling and experiencing different cultures. Thanks for sending out this positive message
💯 on everything said, people are way to focused on valuing others based off material goods - material goods only show how much a person spent but have no way of revealing what a person truly has
I’m the same way David, it’s the way momma raised me lmfao can’t find my self to buy spend my money always looking for the cheaper option in a way like looking in offer up etc . I’m from sac too btw !
David, I've been watching you since I was a kid, and genuinely, I feel as though you have taught me a lot, and I've grown because of your videos, even the funny fat fit ones, haha, This was a well needed therapy session. 🙏🏽
So I currently live in OC. Not far, or far from LA, depending on how you see it. My parents came from Vietnam and my parents, specifically my mom, cares about social status a lot. As I got older, I started to care less and less about it and my mom would get mad. On the flip side, the less I cared about it, the happier I got. My family didn't grow up with much. Even when it comes to buying my own stuff, I'm always looking for deals or see if I can find it used. As of right now, I'm pretty happy with what I have and what I do. I play music and do audio, and I have what I want and need. With what I wear, 95% of the time, it's usually t-shirt and jeans. I didn't care too much about dressing nice to impress unless it's for a specific event or a dress code involved. For now, I'm gonna keep living life until I need to adjust.
Doing what makes you happy is the most important thing. We are proud of you David and I’m sure this will help a lot of people that share this experience
I still live in the same apartment with my parents but in a different "door" which is separated from theirs. But yes, I get it, and I'm somewhat in denial that they're getting older whenever I go and let my daughter greet them every other day or when the time permits. It hits different when they don't or can't do the things they usually do anymore. I feel you, David. Just do what you can, say what you must. Don't let the "time is passing" make you overthink. It is inevitable, but so is love. :)
Always enjoy these ones David! The topics you discuss and the insight and personal perspective you share. Always a good watch 👌🏽 Time has always been the number one currency for me. 💯
People saying is LA, no is not! I grew up in a third world country and we were poor to the max. I moved to the usa 15 years ago and I always had this mentality of that one day I was going to be able to buy anything I wanted when I didn’t have any money. Now that I'm doing good I been buying crap that I don’t need just because of that.. That’s a really bad habit that I also need to work on.
ive been watching you for like 10 years when you were davidsocomedy. havent seen much of you since, but it seems like you've come a long way. congrats for figuring your stuff out!
Loved this episode it was exactly what I needed to hear. I grew up poor with immigrant parents. When I was immature I often resented my parents for not having a lot of money. Looking back I realize how stupid that was and money comes and goes. I’m still learning to not care what other people think but hope to eventually feel fulfilled outside of money.
My husband and I sold our belongings and stored the little valuables in storage. We set out to explore the US in our little 10 year old car. We realized in that journey that we don’t need many physical things. So long as we have shelter, food, health, and love that we would always be happy ❤️❤️
I live in a small town in Wisconsin but I can admit to myself that all these model kits I buy is a "bad thing" and I should ease off but I always tell myself so long my bills are paid and everything is taken care of "why not drop almost $200 on a gundam". it's very double edge
The LA trajectory is almost comedically predictable
It's LA. The lifestyle breeds insecurity, pettiness, and arrogance. Good to see you breaking free David.
It doesn't matter where you live now. Social media will make you feel like you need to live a certain way.
I've experienced both. Growing up poor, I always wanted Gundam Model Kits/Figurines but we couldn't afford any. Finally got some money and I bought a ton of those and just collected them. They made me feel good for the time. The last few years, I've just lost any joy I had in having them and started selling them off slowly. I don't spend much money nowadays, just saving cause of the fear of losing everything. Gym, food, a game here and there...That's the most I'll spend on now.
let me be honest. i havent watched one of your videos in years due to life and I realized all of my OG CZcamsrs are in their 30s like I am and are literally going through the same things that I am going through and being able to articulate it. i was crying while washing my dishes listening to you because you were hitting everything so hard for me!! the not making my place a home, the house warming gifts (I gifted my friends a shower filter head, some face masks, laundry detergent and sih soap), the fighting the insecurities of comparisons of being broke or fulfilling that childhood desire and now at a point you're down ith it. David, thank you so much for this. Thank you. you really spoke your heart and mind out and it just makes me cry with both joy, sadness. a bittersweet moment of growing and realizing through life experiences.
Distancing yourself from loved ones because of constant fear of loss/death is something I relate to and it really sucks...
The menu thing is still something I struggle with even though I don't have to worry. Trauma is a strange thing.
There's a weird peace you get when you sell/lose your possessions. I was in a 6 year relationship that ended abruptly, and instead of fighting and arguing for weeks over furniture and tvs and dinner plates, I just packed my clothes and laptop, and left, never to return. I let her have everything, and it gave me a sense of relief to not have to worry about "stuff". It's weird too...now a year later, I still have a hard time wanting to buy anything.
Same thing I did ..I let her have it all and I bought all of it too.. all the tvs all the furniture everything really.. I live a minimal lifestyle now and won’t look back. As far as David selling his kicks I did the same and made basically my money back on shoes I had worn so I got a good return on my Js and classic Lebron etc and designer stuff
He is 1000% right. I spent thousands on shoes just for me to wear at casinos where I lost even more money. I bought em because I wasnt able to get myself the nicer stuff when I was younger. Now it dont matter to me... Even bought myself a nice rolex and that dont mean nothing either. The relationship and bonds you have with people are more important. Our time on earth is all finite. Its up to you to determine where you want to place your time, money, and energy. Thank you David for passing along this message.
I've spent too much money buying gifts for those who aren't good people and those I don't care about. I'm still struggling to fight against myself searching for approval. Those who are important in my life, I've neglected to show thanks, worst part is I don't know how. I've spend a few thousand for a tongue split, just got back yesterday, it's a procedure I've always wanted for a spiritual and anesthetic reasons waited for 15yrs. I'm truly happy. I've stuck with buying things associated to people who I trust and who've helped, tattoos, peircings, band shirts, going to concerts, it's not a financial smart choice, I do it to extend memories cause tbi doesn't let me keep memories. I'm constantly scared and running, but for me that means going out to eat to create the illusions things are ok. One bit I really hate about gifts giving or receiving, it's buying a person. I've tried explaing, I've nothing to give but my time and conversations, however it's not recognized hense buying materialistic objdcts, funny bit is I truly dispise it.
Love it when you talk about real-life shit in a comfortable setting. Sometimes it's hard to speak about these things with friends because we keep the vibe up but this is why these deep chats hit harder. And I like the way you're able to articulate and be honest with the things you're noticing in life.
please continue this David.. this is exactly what I needed and what I've been searching for.
I always appreciate how unapologetically yourself you are as a person David. It's something I've always appreciated and respected ever since I discovered you and JK back in 2012.
I know there are a lot of people who don't agree or dislike you for whatever reason, but to me you've always had pretty reasonable opinions, and always do your best to learn from your mistakes and grow.
I always enjoy when you do your solo podcasts, and get into talking as I feel it brings about an even more down to earth and raw version of yourself.
I'm also at that age when I'm seeing how finite life is and how one day we all will eventually pass on. It just makes me think about all the good people I have in my life right now and how I must do my best to cherish those moments and experiences as best as I can.
Thank you for another great episode David 🥹
And so true when you come from not having money there's always the two extremes.
Either someone who ends up spending like crazy being reckless or that person who maintains that level of chasing value and bargains and what people would deem "broke behavior" even tho realistically its a good trait to have coz lord knows we waste so much money on a lotta superficial stuff so it's always nice to see those are able to appreciate the blessings and realize that you can still find so much value in stuff that you dont have to overpay for even if you got the ability to.
dudeee i used to watch you back when i was in middle school! Now i'm 26 years old and this video just popped up im my recommendation, i'm glad you're improving yourself even more. I'm pretty much going through the same thing, realizing what matters the most in life and appreciating it more. Once again, thank you for keep making videos david!
Talking about your parents almost brought me to tears. I lost my father around this time last year to cancer, and it puts everything into perspective. And then having to live without him? It gave me a kind of hindsight I wish I had earlier. Spend more time with your family, show them love, and make sure they share stories with you.
Really liked this episode David.
At first guess, before watching the vid, I would say so if you ever move again you have less stuff to pack, move and unpack again at the next place.😂
So glad to see you pop up in my YT after all these years. I resonate so much with all of what you said. It is sad that it’s the nature of our society, you’re going to be put in a box and people will always have their version of you in their heads.. no matter how you try to show up. Also, agree our time is loaned and now in the that era of discerning where i should spend my time & money. I will show up for people who genuinely cares for me to be there and lastly, to experience love is a brave thing to open up to because when you lose it, it’s the same great pain you feel. How lucky are we to come across it? That’s life and suffering and it’s worth it. ✌️
Absolutely! A big part of my healing from LA-living into a more self-honoring perspective was realizing that I don't need to wear things that are uncomfortable or aren't expressions of my soul and spirit. No more chasing after trends or trying to impress strangers who don't contribute to my life!
wow i cant believe you got lost in my algorithm, but i love this more mature content. between us u were always my favorite member of jk news. super inspiring video especially since i grew up in sac
Been subscribed a long time, since UCLA girl XD, and I don't get a lot of your videos in my feed but i always appreciate when i do. Just always big moments for you that speak to me on various levels. Been dealing with some of this myself as i finally after years of issues have like an actual adult job. Went crazy with videogames and like steamdeck type things for a bit and honestly i gave them all away and now im just finding peace in learning art and having meals with friends. Nice to know im not the only one making it out :)
I really resonated when you said "you enjoy being around people because simply they are good people" because that's how I go about things as well. I'm friends with my friends because they are good people who understand me and I feel like I can be unapologetically myself around them.
Not even 3 minutes in and I knew David was going to spit facts. Truly relatable to how i grew up and what i currently am experiencing in my life now. Some people just wouldn’t understand
Sacrificing one's personal joy and satisfaction to impress others never reaches fulfillment. If anything, it's like drinking to get drunk and feel happy/carefree, but ultimately further pushing you away from true personal joy. Loved the anecdotes you shared, David! Cheers to more reflections and shedding of the old.
I'm 37 and this is the type of thing I think about a lot. I have a large collection of random crap that is worth a bit of money. I'm also in the process of getting rid of these items. All I want to do is be able to eat well, pay my mortgage and drive my pos civic. I'd definitely like to travel more and see the world. Life is just too short.
Thanks David for an eye opener video.
David- thank you for sharing. Mortality is always a difficult conversation. I feel that our loved ones are always with us and this took years for me to realize this. We are all here for some type of purpose but you’re doing a great job progressing through your journey!! Keep it up! Enjoy your content on all different channels.
Yeah... my gundam shopping spree is heavily affected by me not having the ability to do so growing up. The "not wanting to spend a lot" portion is what makes me go to dollar stores for the simpler stuff. It also affected my clothing choices. Reel life shirts from sam's club are a bargain compared to other brands, and I can wear them all year. I don't particularly care about good clothes as long as they are comfortable. To this day, I still don't understand what looks good on me. Instead of buying clothes, I buy a ridiculous amount of art supplies. Kinda in a "one day I'm gonna lose all this money, so I need to store these for that moment" way. As an only child, I couldn't give away my dog's puppies because of attachment, and I was using them to fill my loneliness. Sometimes, I feel like I'm not good enough out there... so I stay at home with my dogs.
Watched you for years and it’s great to you grow and gain better perspective of life. Enjoy the ride cause you don’t know when it’s going to end.
This episode hits close to home to me. Our road maps were nearly identical. I’ve been doing the same thing, getting rid of certain things that don’t matter anymore to me. Similar thought process, who matters as you get older, especially with our parents getting older and realizing our time with them is running short.
Thank you for this David ❤ I recently am a post-grad and struggling to find a good job in SoCal. I struggle & compare myself wanting the next big jewelry or makeover. This reminds me to be with content with what you have! Also to not diminish our happiness by comparing it to others’ happiness 🙏🏼
David, I have been watching your channel from the start. I like your recent self reflection of life. Keep mixing it up in between the normal genius podcast. It's a good break for us to know where you are in life and to help us think about our life
Same as you...the things also represent the unhealed version of me so I'm slowly getting rid of things + my parents are getting older and are starting to offload their things as well. Thanks for this ep David 🙏
This therapy session was much needed David 💪 I also love the solo podcast , it’s like you give me Therapy sessions haha
This pod cast made me cry thank you for telling me what i needed to hear just thank you David just thank you 💚💚💚💚💚
Kind of irrelevent to the video topic, but just thought I'd mention that I always enjoy listening to you speak David!! You're very articulate and eloquent, and a master at telling engaging stories. Speaking and getting to the point aren't my strongest points, so I look up to you a lot!😄 These solo podcasts are great, keep up the awesome work :D
I'm going through a lot of life changing career stuff (might have to move across the country) but these solo pods are really helping me stay grounded in who i am as a person.Thanks David!
Warning to listeners, he's finanically free and he doesn't need to play the game anymore as a means to surivial. so becareful to take all his advice. At the end of the day, he's right and has good values but that's end game talk.
this advice would make sense for people who ARENT financially free. Wouldn’t it? If you ARENT financially free you definitely shouldn’t spend money on things you can’t afford and should spend it where it matters, which is kind of the point I was getting at. You might not have listened to the pod.
"At the end of the day, he's right and has good values... but that's end game talk" Sums it up nicely- I think he listended.@DavidSoComedy
@@silvercity6516you can’t take the excerpt out of the quote lol hahahahaha The first sentence insinuates the advice only works if you’re financially free which has nothing to do with the podcast lol. SO the second part of the message stating it’s good advice is negated. The advice isnt given for people with financial freedom so I would only assume if that’s what was taken form it… then the podcast wasn’t listened to in its entirety.
@@DavidSoComedyohh no. Don’t get caught up with the people in CZcams commentary. You did good, you gave good advice, and the criticism that was given isn’t specific enough to warrant a response. Dude never even said which advice specifically was bad.
Super weird comment lol
great video david i haven't commented in a while but this video felt like you were talking directly to me everything you said and your emotions were spot on
Good morning from Texas, great video this morning have a great day!😎👍🏼
costco gang ftmfw. that moment when you shift from the name brand clothing to whatever just fit and works for a quarter of the price is a new type of euphoria.
Omg David, finally someone that gets my gift preferences - yes buy me that Dyson vacuum 😂
Awesome episode! I've heard you talk about this story a bunch of times but I'll never get sick of it!
Your "Marie Kondo" moment 🔥
Damn, I get exactly what you’re saying. From collecting sneakers to being older now and appreciating what really matters in life. Appreciate loved ones like your parents while they’re still around and not live with regret when they’re gone.
Definitely relate to this a lot in terms of clothes, it was all just filling a void from my past. It's like I was buying for my past and not my present. But I think we all go through this (and need to) so we realize things and have an awakening. I still buy clothes, but now it has to be for now, not the past nor the future.
Bruther u got my manager asking if im sick with all the sniffing I was doing throughout this podcast, having a granparent that had dementia really sucks and I always think about them. Everything something reminds me of them i feel my heart tightening.
Similar upbringing, i knew at a early age to save money , so much where i couldn't enjoy my youth at its fullest . Im on the path of wealth knowing my parents will be retired soon with little to no savings . In my 30s i feel like its time to start splurging but with that upbringing its very difficult . Its time to spend on building memories with the ones we still have
It's honestly so hard to find CZcamsrs who are real asf. I can really sense that David is speaking from his heart but also from his experiences. This video spoke volume.
Hey David, I remember the very first videos you put out years ago. Our life is ephemeral and everyone shares the same destination. Love hard, forgive often, and focus on the things that matter - you've embodied those qualities in this video. May God bless you and use your testimony to inspire others in a time of need.
I absolutely resonate with that one David - I too feel at times I don’t deserve cool shit in the present, and in the future, because of how I acted in the past.
Breaking out of that though. Grew into my own skin, and that has helped in this department. Thanks for sharing bro.
Edit: you should totally do more of these. Huge fan of your work, mate.
I am crying while watching your video. Man you are on point on so many things. Thank you for sharing your story.
This podcast has to be one of my favorites so far. It shows just how far you’ve come as an adult and a human. It’s strange because lately I have been on a similar journey myself. The things that I previously I would go crazy for now don’t really matter so much to me than the memories it takes to get that thing. I don’t know if it’s just that we are getting older or we know our time on this planet is very limited and now I much rather fill that time with family friends or whatever that brings myself happiness and not so much on the materialistic side of life.
Been outta of the loop, but I'm glad to catch back up
I’ve been doing the same with my fragrance collection and it feels great!
I'm 42 and only within the past year came to the same understanding and realization as you did about the significance of time. Every day is a gift because you're right man - we don't know when we are going to die.
When you realize that all the shit we value as people are just material items that don't go with you when you die your outlook on life changes for the better. Stay blessed bro!
It’s not just LA and thanks to social media it’s not just in major cities. We compare ourselves to strangers online and participate in hobbies that were meant to create a sense of community, but we never actually participate outside of the purchasing aspect. Sneakers, clothes, watches, cars… etc. It’s a tough cycle to end.
This one hit home! I’m literally going through the exact same process in this stage of my life right now almost identically. Sold my over 100 pair sneaker collection to Sole Supremacy, sold my 2 Rolex’s, and in process of selling my BMW right now. When I realized pretty much exactly what you realized that it all meant nothing, a major shift happened in my thought process of what life actually means. Man… this the one video where I truly felt not alone. Thank you 🙏
I remember you working out with me and told me you got fit to spite someone. After my heart attack and quadruple cardiac bypass graft, I realized health is wealth. You gave me gold that took perspective to become wisdom. Much love and respect. I now feel rich also when I buy new underwear.
damn, i dont even have the attention span to listen to a podcast but this episode hits home!!!
I remember those shoe haul days. Gosh that feels like so long ago.
Definitely as I’ve gotten older I think less and less about what people think of me. Obviously I’m still stuck in that same mentality a bit on some things. But I think especially weight-wise (which I know you’ve struggled with too) I’ve finally gotten to a point where it’s for me and for having more time long-term with my son than it is me feeling like I have to get skinnier for society or because I’m not desirable above a certain poundage.
As a 2nd gen middle aged Korean guy in his 30s growing up in North America, I can totally relate to your story. Unfortunately I never had the opportunity like that was a success like a hit youtube channel like you. I never owned Jordans in my life.. Im a size 9. Id be more than happy to take a pair off your hands. Lol.
Now that social media has rooted itself in everyones lives, I feel that flexing has become an all-time high. Now there is over consumption and waste, all to show off "wealth" to people you'll probably never meet in real life. I've done it before too. I'm a collector of manga. I've grown this collection since the 90s and though I'm proud of it I've had my thoughts in the past of where I could have been if I had saved everything I've invested in this hobby. Now that I'm older, I've made peace with a lot. I've chosen to invest in other areas of my life like my health or having memorable experiences or even the small art business I'm trying to grow now that I have more income than I did in my early 20s. What becomes important to us changes as we get older and start realizing that life is going by swiftly. What do I want to do with time afforded to me?
I don’t think I can ever look at menus without looking at the price first, even with more money. Love this pod
This video hits home as i am also in my late 30s now and the past few years got the news that classmates from my high school passed away. Its just surreal to think they are gone now after so many memories from high school which was not that long ago.
That last part about a house is so relatable. I never decorated or made my room or house because I am scared of moving. I never created a homey home because I'm scared it's temporary and it would hurt if I lose it
I feel better when I buy something for someone else. I feel better when I can help. I feel proud and wanted when people come and ask me for help. At the age of where I am know (40) I know who is taking advantage of that and who truly need the help or the knowledge I know. By the way, nice seeing you again on CZcams. I can honestly say I kinda stop following you for a while now, not because I didn't like you but due to the pandemic, my attention went somewhere else. Still living here in South Sac, Arden Mall is still boring, I really hope the old Florin Mall will get rebuild and become something great. Still waiting for H Mart to open on Valley Hi! Stay humble!
When you were talking about your parents and how short life is hit hard thank you David
I really enjoyed this video. I'm also in the process of getting rid of things that aren't of use for me. I cannot keep holding onto miscellaneous stuff and clutter my house. And with the gift thing too! I prefer to give and receive practical gifts nowadays because it would be used vs sitting on my desk etc.
I'm 38 now and also grew up in South Sac. I miss Florin Mall and the old arcade center there. The nostalgia is all too real in this one
the whole distancing from others is a real thing...fear..same here..but after my daughter was born i just enjoy evefyday on this earth
I totally felt both sides of the spectrum when it came to money, and still trying to balance it out. I also felt it when you said "look at the price firs," cus that's why I opt for drinks (coffee, etc) since they're already expensive as they are nowadays!
I don't like the question about the job for social status gauge either. I'm currently in the transition of selling things, but.. hopefully, I get to find myself at a mental space where I have a solid couple of people who want to truly be better people than simply for a social status reflection on them.
hey david, i think we're around the same age and we grew up in a very similar background and i def understand everything you're talking about. now that i have a child i've learned to enjoy life a lil bit more and stop working as hard. its hard to change our mindset of one day we could be completely doomed if we get fired, lose our jobs, gets cancelleed ... etc. but i think we have to learn that we have made it to where we are bc we found a way to get there and if god forbid it happens again we will find our way out too. we have to enjoy life a bit more bc we have to remember that we worked hard for what we have and we deserve to enjoy what we have a little bit. its okay to slurge here and there and we have to remember to not lose focus and keep grinding. love your content and the way we both love to say whats in our minds. love the unfilterness of you and hope you keep grinding. enjoy life a lil! stop caring what people think and buy the things you like bc you like it and not bc thats what everyone is doing
and im starting to learn about the friends thing too. start to cut out ppl that aren't willing to have open conversations anymore and bring a lot of negativity around. they talk about day 1 and day 2 friends. i do see people start to grow apart and opinions change and sometimes ppl are able to separate ideas and people but some people are not, and you end up just growing apart after that. people tends to get stuck in their thinking due to the bubble/community they grow up in and stay in. great example is the US potliics happening and people are uncomfortable and unable to tallk openly about what is going on and is afraid to express their feelings or even just ask questions. i have been having all these conversations with myself recently as well and i think we call this mid-life crisis hahaha would love to chat with you if we ever get that chance. i am based in nyc so that might not ever happen. may peace be with you
you explained how i feel about spending money perfectly. i didn’t know why until this video…great content man
I agree! I’d rather get a meal from a friend or family member then things I don’t need!
My desire for minimalism and living below my means has come from traveling and experiencing different cultures. Thanks for sending out this positive message
Got me in the feels about the parents part
💯 on everything said, people are way to focused on valuing others based off material goods - material goods only show how much a person spent but have no way of revealing what a person truly has
I’m the same way David, it’s the way momma raised me lmfao can’t find my self to buy spend my money always looking for the cheaper option in a way like looking in offer up etc . I’m from sac too btw !
You hit it on the nail. Will be rewatching 🙏 thanks for this
David, I've been watching you since I was a kid, and genuinely, I feel as though you have taught me a lot, and I've grown because of your videos, even the funny fat fit ones, haha,
This was a well needed therapy session. 🙏🏽
This is so relatable and something I really needed to hear. Thank you for this video, David!
So I currently live in OC. Not far, or far from LA, depending on how you see it. My parents came from Vietnam and my parents, specifically my mom, cares about social status a lot. As I got older, I started to care less and less about it and my mom would get mad. On the flip side, the less I cared about it, the happier I got. My family didn't grow up with much. Even when it comes to buying my own stuff, I'm always looking for deals or see if I can find it used. As of right now, I'm pretty happy with what I have and what I do. I play music and do audio, and I have what I want and need. With what I wear, 95% of the time, it's usually t-shirt and jeans. I didn't care too much about dressing nice to impress unless it's for a specific event or a dress code involved. For now, I'm gonna keep living life until I need to adjust.
Doing what makes you happy is the most important thing. We are proud of you David and I’m sure this will help a lot of people that share this experience
I love the solo edition!!!
Man these videos are therapy
Thank you bro for just having this platform to share words of wisdom and knowledge!! Don’t stop creating 🔥🔥
thank David! It makes so much sense and i needed to hear this!
I still live in the same apartment with my parents but in a different "door" which is separated from theirs. But yes, I get it, and I'm somewhat in denial that they're getting older whenever I go and let my daughter greet them every other day or when the time permits. It hits different when they don't or can't do the things they usually do anymore. I feel you, David.
Just do what you can, say what you must. Don't let the "time is passing" make you overthink. It is inevitable, but so is love. :)
Always enjoy these ones David! The topics you discuss and the insight and personal perspective you share. Always a good watch 👌🏽
Time has always been the number one currency for me. 💯
really want more of this! i did that whole shoe phase and felt insanely dumb afterwards. thanks for this david.
This was perfectly done. Described/ articulated . Just here snapping fingers like yaaaas David. yasssss 🫰🏽🫰🏽
People saying is LA, no is not! I grew up in a third world country and we were poor to the max. I moved to the usa 15 years ago and I always had this mentality of that one day I was going to be able to buy anything I wanted when I didn’t have any money. Now that I'm doing good I been buying crap that I don’t need just because of that.. That’s a really bad habit that I also need to work on.
ive been watching you for like 10 years when you were davidsocomedy. havent seen much of you since, but it seems like you've come a long way. congrats for figuring your stuff out!
I really needed this, David. Thank you so much.
Loved this episode it was exactly what I needed to hear. I grew up poor with immigrant parents. When I was immature I often resented my parents for not having a lot of money. Looking back I realize how stupid that was and money comes and goes. I’m still learning to not care what other people think but hope to eventually feel fulfilled outside of money.
I'm going through the same situation like you. What you said are totally relatable You're not alone David
My husband and I sold our belongings and stored the little valuables in storage. We set out to explore the US in our little 10 year old car. We realized in that journey that we don’t need many physical things. So long as we have shelter, food, health, and love that we would always be happy ❤️❤️
Woke up feeling like shit today…your video randomly popped up. Thanks for the talk….
Thanks so much of this video! But yeah forget what others think. Keep doing the thing you love/like. Much love ❤
I live in a small town in Wisconsin but I can admit to myself that all these model kits I buy is a "bad thing" and I should ease off but I always tell myself so long my bills are paid and everything is taken care of "why not drop almost $200 on a gundam". it's very double edge