How to STOP Having Imaginary Conversations in Your Head! || Free Yourself

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  • You owe it to yourself to be present to the moment! Not running circles around some imaginary negative interaction...
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Komentáře • 284

  • @waxydiction
    @waxydiction Před 3 lety +231

    I told my boyfriend I do this and he laughed at me. Thats why I talk about him with him without him around.

    • @Evesseve94
      @Evesseve94 Před 3 lety +17

      Lmfao I feel this so fucking hard

    • @anisaalija5825
      @anisaalija5825 Před 3 lety +5

      Felt that

    • @shakurimad1556
      @shakurimad1556 Před 2 lety +12

      "I talk about him with him without him around" that's so funny so sorry but u got a point I hope u doing great now, talking to urself is not wrong but he's taken from u much time

    • @ThomasDoubting5
      @ThomasDoubting5 Před 2 lety +10

      Get another boyfriend one that will talk to.

    • @chubbybunny465
      @chubbybunny465 Před 2 lety +4

      Read this like 10 times, because it legit hit so hard and articulated my “loop”.
      Ty 💕

  • @cristymahinay1868
    @cristymahinay1868 Před 2 lety +104

    It's easy to say "STOP IT" but the truth it it's hard to stop. I tried avoiding it but just a minute later i found my self making imaginary conversations AGAIN. But deny it or not i know that, that's feels so good

    • @Atilaurakiss
      @Atilaurakiss Před rokem +9

      Because it is a habit we have created since we were kids. And just like stopping any habit, it takes vigilance and time. I usually ask myself questions outside of the "imaginary conversation". Is this helpful right now? Is this truthfully preparing for conversations with this person? Don't I have better use of "this time" rather than writing scripts that are obviously not entertaining to anyone but myself? Is this being passive-aggressive against myself? Wouldn't it be better to go cook, study, read, do a project?

  • @ModernHomeZAREEN
    @ModernHomeZAREEN Před 3 lety +140

    I’m laughing and sad because I waisted the whole day talking to myself. I never told anyone and I decided to search today in order to stop this. Literally running on a hamster wheel. Thank you

    • @amberarts7356
      @amberarts7356 Před 3 lety +5

      OKay same as me i was also embarrassed at first to tell this to someone but now as my family knows it( almost), i dont feel it as bad thing to share it is a problem that has been with me for longggg ago i wanna leave it if i dont accept it i wont be able to leave it , we missss the present situation , that is the worst part of it, i hope we all et rid of whatever bad has been stick with us for so longgg

    • @amberarts7356
      @amberarts7356 Před 3 lety +1

      Finally I m finding people with same problm , he explained it so well

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem +3

      I can relate. I feel like I'm busy all day and in reality have gotten nothing done. I've decided to "forgive" myself and just heal.

    • @darianparrish3666
      @darianparrish3666 Před rokem

      Me too.

    • @miriamllamas224
      @miriamllamas224 Před 16 dny

      I feel the same listening to this video. I'm laughing and crying at the same time.

  • @ghaithobaid6397
    @ghaithobaid6397 Před 3 lety +108

    Express yourself
    Forgive yourself
    Forgive others
    Breath deeply

    • @Rotan_Paska
      @Rotan_Paska Před 3 lety +2

      i start thinking that too much so it wont work

  • @BrianDodl1
    @BrianDodl1 Před 5 lety +167

    I think it gives me a false but real seeming sense of control over the situation. As if I think about it enough times it will go the way I want it to. I also continually repeat past conversations in my mind.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 5 lety +13

      Does repeating the past conversations help you in some way? Are you looking at yourself to see how you could have handled the situation better?

    • @BrianDodl1
      @BrianDodl1 Před 5 lety +17

      @@lukehasideas It hurts me in that I constantly worry about what I said, what they said and repeatedly analyze every word of the conversation. I go through various scenarios of how it could have gone and what the other person thinks of me. In short, it's torture.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 5 lety +14

      @@BrianDodl1 That is the worst! I hope that we all do that, as humans. Otherwise you and I are rather strange! :P
      Have you seen these yet? It's what I use to help with that same issue:
      Replace the thoughts: czcams.com/video/F2R3rVnit_s/video.html
      Train yourself to not think those thoughts in the first place: czcams.com/video/rtbtE8qdksU/video.html
      Good luck and best wishes!

    • @madan9668
      @madan9668 Před rokem +1

      Is it normal now?? Or are you struggling till now? I'm having the same issues. I can't even sit still for a minute without recalling the past and imagining conversation. I tried so much and it has gotten worse. I can't even study and talk properly.

    • @antonmusicals
      @antonmusicals Před rokem +1

      @@madan9668 I also have the same problem while I'm reading after 1to 2 minutes unknowingly i'm starting to create fake conversation in my mind. I can't concentrate on my studies it destroys and wasting my time .how to get out of this illness . sometimes I harmed my self. Need a solution for this please ...!!!

  • @infiction7651
    @infiction7651 Před 2 lety +13

    3 minutes in and I’ve had 2 imaginary conversations while listening. Sometimes I have a conversation in my head while I have a real one and pay complete attention to both. Only problem is when I start mouthing it at work.

  • @0mgskillz96
    @0mgskillz96 Před rokem +8

    I’ve been thinking through conversations for so long that it’s sometimes literally hard for me to just think for myself by myself. I might ask myself a question like ”what should I do?" and I run into a mental block, just silence. Like it’s so weird to just think for myself and not through a conversation with an imagined third person. Then I will have a conversation with that imaginary third person (a therapist, psychiatrist, all-knowing thing, it doesn’t really matter) about this and how annoying it is. I don’t have anyone I am able to open up to about these things, except my psychiatrist whom I get to rarely see, so I just open up to myself and it drives me crazy. It takes so much mental energy and time, just opening up to myself and ruminating on the same things everyday, and don’t get me started on the imaginary arguments, dissecting of past events and practicing for future convos. Daydreaming and imaginary conversations can be fun sometimes, but I just wish I can get to have these conversations in real life and live out my dreams and be healthy, not just imagine it and how it would feel like.. i want to live man

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem +1

      I really related to a lot of this and I hope you're doing well! Man that can be tough sometimes. Good luck on your journey!
      My mother used to say, when talking to herself, that at least she was speaking with someone reasonable. Hopefully that gives you a reason to smile. :)

  • @evon0406
    @evon0406 Před 3 lety +57

    I thought i was loosing my mind or stg. People have caught me doing this thinking i was talking to myself....🙁 but im actually having a conversation with an imanginary person... which is bad too. Sometimes i feel like i cant get out of my own head and its frustrating.

    • @amberarts7356
      @amberarts7356 Před 3 lety +4

      Samee but I am trying to rewatch this video again and again to hate this habit cause I love it and its hard to leave ,best of luck to u as well

    • @happycrystals
      @happycrystals Před 2 lety +1

      Same. This is what happen to me everyday. Even though I want to stop it. I love doing it. I just don't understand 😐

    • @mariagarcia-hd5tc
      @mariagarcia-hd5tc Před 2 lety

      @@amberarts7356 i love doing this and my imaginary boyfriend ( louis tomlison ) is so cute and supportive i don't want to stop talking to him

  • @i.m.2bizee569
    @i.m.2bizee569 Před 3 lety +29

    It usually happens when I’m alone but not in a public setting. I don’t know why but it’s a reflex.

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem

      Right. I have no control over it. It's automatic.

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem

      I never really understood the fight, flight, or freeze phenomenon either until it happened to me. One minute I was in one place and seemingly the next I was sitting in what I considered a safe place at work trying to explain what I was doing there. I had no idea because it was automatic.

    • @i.m.2bizee569
      @i.m.2bizee569 Před rokem

      For some reason when I'm in the kitchen doing dishes I talk to myself through a refrigerator which my reflection facing me

  • @java3621
    @java3621 Před rokem +3

    People also have imaginary convos with others in the their minds bc they have no one to talk to. No one to express themselves to. That person might have some friends they are comfortable with but that number is very low. They might not see their friends often so they have convos in their mind. This way they are not completely "alone". They express themselves to themselves. (speaking on this from personal experience)

  • @AntOn-nf9fi
    @AntOn-nf9fi Před 3 lety +17

    50 years of my life now looking for the 2.0 in me. You have to be the first person who has explained a problem I have had since a kid. Thanks Luke!

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      Glad to help out! I hope you're doing well :)

  • @whatadaytobealive
    @whatadaytobealive Před 3 lety +45

    My boyfriend confronted me on this since he catches me. I will work hard to live in the present and not repeat these negative scenarios in my head.

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem +4

      I really hope you don't care that he confronted you. You're not doing anything except taking care of your own mental health.

    • @whatadaytobealive
      @whatadaytobealive Před rokem +1

      @@sweetpea3153 Absolutely!

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem +1

      @@whatadaytobealive That's wonderful. Thank you so much for letting me know!

  • @HanaHana-sb5tp
    @HanaHana-sb5tp Před 4 lety +39

    I Imagine some people talking to me and then i start talking to them i felt weird but at the same time i felt like it's fun so i didnt stop until now and im worried about myself . But the good thing is i talk to them with my problems since i cant talk to anyone i learned a language fast because i talk to them with that language . I literally dont know whats going on with me i think im going crazy . Its so hard to stop because my mind just cant stop creating this imaginary people talking to me .

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 4 lety +10

      Having and using your imagination isn't weird! The video was meant more to help people move away from patterns of repeating toxic conversations. Don't worry about imaginary conversations in general! Enjoy them! Just don't let them ruin your day. :)

    • @mirandaromero1454
      @mirandaromero1454 Před 4 lety +5

      It becomes an issue when let’s say you have an opportunity that you really do think about, and it gets in the way and actually become unproductive to the point that you become a different person in your head rather than the person you are in reality. Just bring your dreams to reality basically. There is a name for this (I have this issue as welll lol) : Maladaptive Daydreaming. I think anybody could have this and probably more than you think

    • @jackcrump6020
      @jackcrump6020 Před 3 lety

      @@lukehasideas you’re fucking crazy

    • @Rotan_Paska
      @Rotan_Paska Před 3 lety

      Same 😭😭😭

    • @lalajean452
      @lalajean452 Před 3 lety +2

      one time my mom caught me . urghhh ..... cant stop but so far i know what reality is and the imaginary

  • @nadzapaintings937
    @nadzapaintings937 Před 3 lety +15

    It starts suddenly, but when you notice it, it is hard to stop. Such advices can't come from a person who hasn't been struggeling with this. Watching this video was both comforting and helpful, especially because of the sincerity you spread by every word and gesticulation you've made. The saying "The toughest battle you'll ever fight in your life is the battle within yourself" crossed my mind and it will always be accurate, and we should try to make the battle a good and not a destructive experience.

  • @deadchannel443
    @deadchannel443 Před 3 lety +3

    I’ve been now pointing out when I do this. It’s so sad because your detached from reality. But mental toughness is riding a bike. Read up on it, but until you’re out there. Nothing will matter.

  • @manishj3080
    @manishj3080 Před 5 lety +49

    If I meet a good person and talk to him or her then I keep repeating the past conversation with this person and can't just get rid of it. If I meet a bad person then I keep repeating imaginary conversation as in how would I get back to this person. I am clueless about what to do in these situations.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 5 lety +3

      Try to connect with the person that you had a good conversation with! Also try to forgive and forget the conversation that went badly. If you have to make space between that person and yourself, do so!

    • @hemakabir8736
      @hemakabir8736 Před 3 lety

      Happens wid me

    • @poornimaramesh5709
      @poornimaramesh5709 Před 2 lety

      @@lukehasideas I don't know how to get close to a person! There are usually long chats and then long breaks. There is no frequent interaction. I don't know if that makes us close or not!

  • @angelinavasquez4964
    @angelinavasquez4964 Před 3 lety +35

    I've been having these imaginary conversations all the time lately! I've been by myself lately too. Makes it worse. Its driving me nuts! It's about past conversations I had with my toxic family, and things I wish I would have said at the time. I'm rehearsing what I'm saying back to the original conversation, then what I should have said. Now rehearsing what to say in the future.. I can hear what the people in my family are saying and what I'm saying. & The sad part is, I won't ever have these conversations with them because its best to cut them off anyhow as the interactions are very negative. I keep telling myself to stop it!!! It won't stop LOL. I have been doing this for a long time. I thought this was just me...

    • @smileyface5350
      @smileyface5350 Před 2 lety

      omg same

    • @fearless_stellar2944
      @fearless_stellar2944 Před 2 lety

      I hve had a group of persons inside my head talking to me too like the movie inside out.

    • @Kanishma658
      @Kanishma658 Před 2 lety

      I needed this. Thank you.

    • @reeya_official3427
      @reeya_official3427 Před 2 lety +1

      Have an idea why don't we all people create a fb or insta group and talk about this matter

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem

      I've been rehearsing conversations that will most likely never happen and I know this, but have been unable to stop. I had a person tell me to stop ruminating because it's unhealthy like I don't realize this. I also just had to go no contact with a family member whom I love very much because of her narcissism, but it's not her I'm having conversations in my head with. I hope you find your answer. For me, it was giving control over to God. He certainly can't do any worse than I have!

  • @shanice8351
    @shanice8351 Před 3 lety +9

    This has been such a struggle with me ever since I cut my abusive family out my life. I've been replying past arguments in my head, thinking about things I should have said to stand up for myself.

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem +1

      These comments are eye opening to me as I also had to cut out an abusive family member from my life recently. Thank you for sharing.

  • @coko3124
    @coko3124 Před rokem +4

    I wonder if this is what the Bible is referring to and it says vain imaginations. So much wisdom in this video. I didn't realize this definitely is pride. This is a defense mechanism to play out the scenario in your mind. Almost like you are trying to convince yourself that you are in the right and that you have done nothing wrong or will do nothing wrong.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem +1

      Definitely good stuff to consider and think about!

  • @mkmllrc
    @mkmllrc Před 3 lety +4

    I just make some random stories in my mind and even when something happens past few sec I think about it too much and make bias stories about how it should be.

  • @meaghansoria3336
    @meaghansoria3336 Před 2 lety +5

    I struggle with this daily, I think it's because I was bullied so bad all through school. I don't like last minute plans with people and it's hard for me to leave the house. I was so happy when they started putting self checkouts in stores because having to prepare myself to interact with a cashier would make me not even go sometimes.

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem +1

      I believe you may be right. This could be from past trauma.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      Did you find ways to get past the thoughts?

  • @bombayblur3797
    @bombayblur3797 Před 4 lety +20

    The zen is strong here !! These imaginary discussions are seriously getting in my way. I'm learning software development and they are sapping away my mental resources. Leaving me little to work with. Thankyou for making the video. And Thankyou for being a guiding light.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 4 lety +1

      Thank you for the kind words and for watching! Good luck with the development! :)

  • @Shanaevaz
    @Shanaevaz Před 3 lety +7

    this started when I start talking to god about stuff I want to stop but i feel guilty when i don't pray. it very abnormal because when i talk to my self i switch characters and it makes me look crazy I'm done praying an i laugh at my self when I'm talking crazy as hell. im done talking to my self

  • @andywiggens1069
    @andywiggens1069 Před 2 lety +3

    I'm a 60-year-old man and I felt like you were talking to me personally, my ego has kept me from learning anything new from a young person, but I learned a lot from you. This is a very refreshing video and you've made me feel like I'm not crazy. The only bad thing is my wife has caught me having these conversations and she thinks I'm crazy. I have no idea what your background is or your level of education is, but you help me a lot.

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem

      Everyone needs to take care of their own mental health and it sounds like you're doing this. Isn't Gen Z awesome? A large majority in the psychology courses I've taught are from this age group. Reminds me of our generation and our desire to right the world.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      Glad to be of help! You're not crazy, you're just talking to someone reasonable... yourself! My mother used to always say that. :)
      Hope you're doing well!

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      Another great compliment! I think I'm technically considered Gen Y/Millenial, but your point is still valid. Thank you!

  • @deadlyram2k6
    @deadlyram2k6 Před 3 lety +4

    I'm very guilty of this. Sometimes I do it to the extent of actually making myself genuinley angry. I've always got quite a contentious viewpoint that I know the other person will disagree with. Kind of like devils advocate. I started tracking how much I do it recently, and I have to stop myself pretty much every other hour, maybe even more frequently since I don't even notice myself doing it at times because I'm so used to that narrative.

  • @SylvieTheBlessing
    @SylvieTheBlessing Před 3 lety +4

    I hold a lot in. I’m going to learn to let my emotions out in a healthy manner & forgive myself. Thank you for this video.

  • @Slevencolevra
    @Slevencolevra Před rokem +2

    Severe overthink is better than severe underthink

  • @aryishs
    @aryishs Před 4 lety +3

    Hey Luke, I’m not the sort to ever comment on videos but surprisingly you’ve kinda actually helped me. I’ve been thinking about conversations every night for the past week and nothing actually made a difference until I came across this video. Hope you’re happy and do well in life. :)

  • @jenaskumbi
    @jenaskumbi Před 3 lety +1

    The imaginary thought that’s in my head kinda helps me with my life. It’s like a homie/guardian angel. I don’t if that’s weird but it’s really just myself helping me😅

  • @niharmehta6086
    @niharmehta6086 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Luke! you didn't just save the day but many more to come..

  • @xwd7973
    @xwd7973 Před rokem +2

    I am having a imagined conversation while watching this x)
    I don't really mind these conversations and scenarios i imagine. I do it all the time.
    It all depends how you do it.
    I go through a lot of imagined conversations everyday.
    I get a lot of inspirations for future conversations. Or just entertainment
    I never plan conversations. Planning conversations never works. Too many variables.

  • @abbys7519
    @abbys7519 Před 3 lety +1

    Thankyou for letting me know that I’m not the only one. This consumes every moment of my day sometimes. I have not shared it with anyone. It’s the ego within that want to give that perfect snide reply to someone who has not been nice to me. It comes from the fact that I could not use the best comeback during the actual situation.

  • @realswobby
    @realswobby Před 2 lety +1

    I think I was running away from reality around me and locking myself in my head as a child and now the constant inner talking is a result of it

    • @arunshankars8398
      @arunshankars8398 Před rokem +1

      This is exactly what I do. I don't want to face the reality, so i cook up imaginary scenarios, and talk about them to myself.

  • @phillyfan-182
    @phillyfan-182 Před 3 lety +5

    I’m 27 and I struggle with this all the time

    • @sweetpea3153
      @sweetpea3153 Před rokem +1

      I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing.

  • @enriconolastname3471
    @enriconolastname3471 Před rokem

    Thanks so much Lucas! I have my imaginary world all made up so that i can fit perfectly in it, this resulted in social anxiety when having real interactions. Thanks for your video! I’ll look for help and work in this!

  • @yopg2747
    @yopg2747 Před 2 lety +2

    It is just crazy how you exactly explain what I’m going through right now! It is kind of relieving that I’m not alone with this. Thank you very much for this video.

  • @nickwildmedia
    @nickwildmedia Před 4 lety +4

    Thank God for this video ! ❤ God bless you all

  • @alyssacastillo853
    @alyssacastillo853 Před 2 lety +1

    This has been the most helpful CZcams video I've ever encountered. I don't see much videos about this topic, and you were able to really capture what I needed to hear. Thank you very much Sir!

  • @billywagner8633
    @billywagner8633 Před 3 lety

    holy shit dude i cant even describe how on point this is, and how calming it is to hear that you are right there with me. I have tried to many times to explain this to people and i end up sounding so crazy. Everything about this hit me hard and so heavily resonated with me. I appreciate this video and you so much

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      Glad it was helpful! No, you aren't crazy: Apparently it's fairly common! Hope all is well. :)

  • @chrisdavidson8525
    @chrisdavidson8525 Před rokem

    Really well articulated, thanks for this!!

  • @Usman786....
    @Usman786.... Před 13 dny

    Thanks for make this video. I really needed this ❤

  • @arnavipatkar5962
    @arnavipatkar5962 Před 3 lety

    I'm going to try my best to be in the present....Thanks bud, you're helping me a lot

  • @thotkilla4203
    @thotkilla4203 Před 3 lety +2

    I have this problem currently, I am currently building a new lifestyle of sorts. It’s starts with me stopping masturbation, I know it’s a little weird to mention it in a yt comment, but there is nothing wrong with admitting that you have a problem, another thing I’m ridding my self of is something called “Asmr audios”, it is essentially just a person who pretends to care about you, weather they be pretending to be your girlfriend, wife, friend etc. I know it’s pathetic but that’s why I’m leaving it behind, along with these fake conversations. The whole theme of this is to stop the fakeness and to clear my mind, I don’t need someone to pretend to care about me, or a invisible person to talk to, or a woman to expose herself to me on the internet. I hope by the end of my journey that I will have achieved the thing I require most, complete inner silence. I am keeping track of my days without these things, I will update this comment on day 100 to show you that you can achieve your goals, you just need inner strength and fortitude.

  • @nicholasdold4835
    @nicholasdold4835 Před 3 lety +3

    Dude, you're a zen master 🙏🧘🏻‍♂️

  • @jussaracamuso9940
    @jussaracamuso9940 Před 2 lety

    You have been so helpful.i loved hearing u out cause its been hard and I need to work on fogive myself and them.and gound myself by saying no the the bears and standing up for myself and be happy.so thank u I'm glad there r people like u out there that help and encourage us in life.So thank u!You are appreciated!!!

  • @gr33n3ggs4
    @gr33n3ggs4 Před 3 lety

    I can not emphasize how much; I needed this...right this second ( 11:52 p.m. Christmas Eve 2020)
    Has been a constant battle for a very long time. appreciative

  • @ajayjosemedia
    @ajayjosemedia Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you. I hope you choose to keep creating. Cos ik these will help somebody like or more than it's helped me

  • @ak40_eringaming83
    @ak40_eringaming83 Před 11 dny

    Thank you brother.

  • @mohamedalaa1206
    @mohamedalaa1206 Před 4 lety +9

    its the fires time to hear an ohnest person on youtube it feels like a friend is talking to you. really keep going i know the number of subscribers might not be what you deserv but you have a grate way of talking so pleas keep going you will do a grate job
    sorry for any spilling mistakes
    all love from egypt

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 4 lety +2

      This is exactly what I needed to hear right now! Thank you so much for the support and positivity! Your English is just fine, very understandable. :)

  • @TeriGigi
    @TeriGigi Před rokem

    Thank you for this video. TRUTH! You’ve helped me so much today! ❤

  • @Pimp-Master
    @Pimp-Master Před 3 lety +3

    God was really with you when you recorded this. I've looked at other video titles on this subject, and none see the subject like this. Eckardt Tolle uses conceptions to try understanding his "conceptual mind" concept! Me doing this talking out loud thing was toxic to my entire life, so I'm glad to finally face the addiction to it.

  • @sarahperegoy3483
    @sarahperegoy3483 Před rokem

    I can so relate and so glad I this video just showed up on my home page

  • @MrSophieo
    @MrSophieo Před měsícem

    Wow thanks for that I need these wise words today

  • @jameschesney8777
    @jameschesney8777 Před 3 lety +2

    So helpful!!!

  • @Visionary-cx5dw
    @Visionary-cx5dw Před 3 měsíci

    I feel that if you're experiencing built up emotions its best to release it through the visualization technique, that way you don't need to remove out the frustration physically. The same goes for pretty much any emotion.
    Just to add, I did the visualization technique for my obsessive conversations with myself, and today I managed to heal them entirely from the system. Thanks for the video, it clearly was a tool to encourage me to heal.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 2 měsíci

      I agree! Visualizations are powerful! Glad you found peace in that instance. :)

  • @21stcenturyGguy
    @21stcenturyGguy Před 9 měsíci

    THIS!!! I feel ya happens too much to me, which is why I’m here.

  • @poornimaramesh5709
    @poornimaramesh5709 Před 2 lety +2

    Very genuine advice you have shared with us all. Thank you. 🙏I think the first step is the most important. Expressing yourself. For that other people around you should be kind enough to let you express yourself instead of telling you to stop thinking about it. Because you stop thinking about it only when you express it and just leave it out of your body and mind. For that people around you have to be kind and supportive.
    Maybe another way to take the advice would be to express yourself in that moment of conflict instead of keeping silent. Ofcourse, how you express your emotions matter a lot! But a decent expression of what you are feeling to that very person will help you avoid toxic situations later on. Because that is also living in the moment.

  • @vivekkailash9308
    @vivekkailash9308 Před 4 lety +5

    Every word by you is for me..i have downloaded this video..i listen to it everytime i do this..

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 4 lety +1

      You are so kind! Thank you! Glad to hear that it helps. :)

  • @adzrodz2008
    @adzrodz2008 Před 3 lety +1

    I do this too much! I literally have looked at people differently because I imagine something they would say in a scenario. It's not right and I'm aware I need to stop!

  • @danielfeldman526
    @danielfeldman526 Před 2 lety

    Thanks Luke

  • @ananyaalwayssmiling
    @ananyaalwayssmiling Před 4 lety +2

    Oh so cute and true.Second is soooooo true.

  • @Squamata_Mama
    @Squamata_Mama Před 2 lety +1

    Hello Luke! I'm very glad to have just stumbled across your channel while googling about this topic. I think you've got a nice format here with explanation & steps, lots of wisdom, and your personality really tops it off. Well done!
    Also, you've got a wonderful smile -
    "...imagination loop. I don't remember what I called it 😃"

  • @debbie3630
    @debbie3630 Před měsícem

    Soooo,,, i’m not crazy after all, i thought i was the only one who does this, seems to be a common thing, being present is hard to start with, but it’s great when your there 😀

  • @JTK639
    @JTK639 Před 4 měsíci

    After years of suffering this.
    The anwser is Self Observation,most illuminating 😊

  • @siri8240
    @siri8240 Před 2 lety

    Thanks you’re the best

  • @roshanmahabir257
    @roshanmahabir257 Před 10 měsíci

    Great video

  • @marcrocksus
    @marcrocksus Před rokem

    Thank you Luke. I kept imagining people talking shit about my work and I just can't concentrate on my own projects. That wouldn't had happened if I take control of my head. Thanks

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      If nothing else works, cardio always helps me to get past such things. Good luck! :)

  • @---cx1ly
    @---cx1ly Před 3 lety

    That was real good. I had never thought of it that way. I get lonely is what my problem is.

  • @izzyali1545
    @izzyali1545 Před 3 lety +1

    Fkin amazing video man 🔥

  • @sosiu0
    @sosiu0 Před měsícem

    الخطوة الاولى :(عبر عن نفسك) عبر عن جميع المشاعر التي تعتريك، سواء ضحك او احباط او حزن لاتدع شيء في داخلك
    الخطوة الثانية:سامح نفسك

  • @drishyasivanandan6737
    @drishyasivanandan6737 Před 3 lety +1

    Thankyou💕

  • @halimakimathi4189
    @halimakimathi4189 Před 3 lety +1

    I have legit ptsd And I keep arguing with the flash backs. This helped me . Thank you very much friend. Ty.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      Glad to hear it was helpful! I hope things are going well for you now. :)

  • @manicmermaid513
    @manicmermaid513 Před 2 lety

    Thank you

  • @helinnn47
    @helinnn47 Před rokem

    The best 10 minutes in my life😭

  • @sarah._.idk.
    @sarah._.idk. Před rokem +2

    Thank you... I've struggling sm for 6 years I've stuck in my brain talking and living I've laterally lost myself didn't take care of myself my health my life just sitting and imagine myself living... But lately I realized that I waste a lot of my time not interact with anyone and don't do anything i regret that but I promise to be better... I'm working on that rn but I need to fix things as fast as possible cuz my final exams which will decide a lot in my life is in 17th days and I have a lot to do... Im ganna try to be better and do good in my exams.. Thank you again 🤍🤍🤍

  • @n.w.aicecube5713
    @n.w.aicecube5713 Před 3 lety

    You are not alone. Yes you would overcome it one day

  • @deadchannel443
    @deadchannel443 Před 3 lety +1

    this is so me it actually hurts

  • @kushalverma2523
    @kushalverma2523 Před 3 lety +2

    I literally wasted a lot of my precious time in that nonsense....
    Thanks a lot brother for making a video on this topic.... 🙂

  • @flyinghighagain7712
    @flyinghighagain7712 Před 4 lety +2

    This helped.

  • @zahra-gy9fn
    @zahra-gy9fn Před 4 lety +11

    Oh my god its 01 am where I am from and I was thinking about my life and what's am doing with my time , and that am living in a storys and scenarios that I made it in my head (and for sure I played the princess role, the most beautiful amazing and confident girl hhh 😞poor me ) am doing it bc am a lonely person I don't have a real friends ... you know what Maybe bc I don't have the life I always wanted and when I look all over me I starte thinking like that's not fair and from this point I began to make a fake world for me where I can be anything I want ...that's sooo rong so I will stop doing it from this moment.. i want to live my real life and change it and invest this waist time to educate my self learn new language study harder and achieve my goals . Thank you a lot ❤❤ (excuse my English , am French and I have 22 years old ) thanks I hope you read my message

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 4 lety +1

      J'espere que vous etes bien! (Je ne sais pas faire des accents avec cette 'keyboard'. Desole!)

    • @zahra-gy9fn
      @zahra-gy9fn Před 3 lety +1

      @@lukehasideas merci de m'avoir répondu Luke , et oui je me sens largement mieux dans ma peau j'ai arreté les conversation imaginaire depuis un bon moment , vous m'avez bien aidée avec cette védio , like it was a wake up call thank u so. much i hope everything is going well for u , keep up the good work one day u will get where u want

    • @batman5796
      @batman5796 Před 3 lety +1

      When you literally can't control it I believe it's called maladaptive daydreaming. It's not a mental disorder but it's a condition, maybe you have that as well

    • @mkmllrc
      @mkmllrc Před 3 lety

      @@batman5796 I think bro, Been having for 4months

  • @LARZBOY
    @LARZBOY Před rokem

    thank you

  • @pauldermutz1721
    @pauldermutz1721 Před 3 lety

    that was perfect!!!!

  • @sweetpea3153
    @sweetpea3153 Před rokem

    I've gotten help by watching Les Carter, Wayne Dyer, Joel Osteen, and music videos. There are some days that watching these videos is all I'm able to do, but I get some comfort. I consider it part of my recovery and my "medicine".

    • @CDF936
      @CDF936 Před rokem +1

      You are consuming too much information from watching these people, if you find yourself repeating the things they say in your head afterwards I can guarantee you that this is why it's happening, try to spend more time doing activities (particularly ones that require longer attention) instead of consuming information. Back in the days before the internet and before reading books was common, most people would only learn about things they needed to learn in their lives, but today people consume an amount of information that is way beyond their capacity to actually understand.

  • @godlymusicreater
    @godlymusicreater Před 2 lety

    Thanks buddy :D

  • @djsdesignsandcustoms4779

    I don’t know why I talking to myself to me it’s scary and creepy . I just needed to stop and clear my head and stop imagining things . The things I always imagining things is not going to happen for real it’s all made up . But this video is very helpful.

  • @lilxo1065
    @lilxo1065 Před 3 lety

    I typed this up for fun to see if anyone else have it. Idk about u guys but I love doing this. I really dont care

  • @kshatriya9921
    @kshatriya9921 Před 3 lety +1

    😂 love you brother... 😂

  • @prettylethal1286
    @prettylethal1286 Před 2 lety

    Conversations in my head and playing pretend started this but at this point I do it 24/7 when I'm alone, I even do it at work. For me I almost always do it out loud now although it started internally, honestly tonight I was starting to think I was crazy and I'm so glad I started typing this type of shit into CZcams.

  • @adhya.s8359
    @adhya.s8359 Před 3 lety +1

    Being busy is best solution for this issue 😂

    • @user-hq2pc5yz6p
      @user-hq2pc5yz6p Před 7 měsíci

      Like how even if I'm busy I'm gonna be procrastinating because of this

  • @casey4664
    @casey4664 Před rokem

    I thought I was alone. I only got 1 hour in at my remote internship today because I lost so many ranting in front of the mirror, in the shower, pacing around the house acting it out… Never have this problem when I stay outside or work an on-site job but I can’t chill at home for even 10 minutes without this happening. Have to not linger and force myself to run back out the door again.
    Someone should invent a buzzer that detects these thoughts somehow and zaps you back into focus.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      If you're still working and get distracted, try doing 10 jumping jacks or pushups or something. Sun salutes followed by toe-touches. Get some blood flowing and then try jumping back into focus-mode! You got this!

  • @japanesety3404
    @japanesety3404 Před 4 lety +11

    Why do you have so little subs????? I don't get it. Your contents are quite awesome and helpful! Whyyyy?

  • @shyletzulu8305
    @shyletzulu8305 Před rokem

    Myself literally I think i can write a novel on each and every chapter I imagine myself in only that I'm lazy to write it down but trust me I knoe very well where I left the last conversation in my head from where and when it started sometimes I can even change places and responses characters in which it played but trust me I can still do everything I want to do in it like if I'm having a thara Cleaning or some work that needs only my energy and not mind to focus on I'll just find myself deep in my thoughts but at the same time busy pushing my work I'll even wonder that I'm already done doing what I was? But I've noticed recently that I'm forgetting things at times like where did I put the keys etc at times the conversation and everything will be really nice that I can laugh inside I can feel good from inside but my expressions remains the same or even cry inside to the repeated touching scenes that I just imagined but my facial expressions remains the same only I'm mostly src as some pple say and another thing I've grown to enjoy myself company I enjoy being alone like I'm anti-social got no much friends... And I like it like that also I wonder if I'm not really normal Or what ....

  • @TheScratchyCat
    @TheScratchyCat Před 2 lety

    so relatable

  • @Mariacamargo189
    @Mariacamargo189 Před 3 lety

    These conversations is the same as manifesting it can negatively impact u and be positive as well. So be careful

  • @aidanburns5713
    @aidanburns5713 Před 3 lety

    So happy I found this video

  • @bartuhkiss
    @bartuhkiss Před 2 lety

    I started doing this like 4 hours ago and I tried to stop so many times it doesn't work because my brain decided to be tangential. So I looked up why I do this and now I'm here. Good luck guys. Hopefully we lessen this so we can be more present.

  • @MysticRubber
    @MysticRubber Před rokem

    This is some good quality shit

  • @shyletzulu8305
    @shyletzulu8305 Před rokem

    And the times that I've noticed I don't imagine those things alone are when I'm exercising, or sitting around with pple talking sharing ideas and laughing recently I also noticed that I'm enjoying being with kids playing with them running around laughing actually doing some activities have been much helpful but not when I'm alone again doing nothing. Also in most cases I find myself trying very hard to create this moment of myself in my own real world continuing from where we left if it were plans or whatever it is.... So from my own point of view I think this may be reduced by finding some activities to do that may need ur full concentration for example if you are playing with kids it needs ur whole u, if u are talking to some pple or friends it also needs ur whole you doing some work that requires ur brains fanctionality will also need u to be fully there reading novels as well might help cz as u are deep into the story ur whole mind is focused on the story movies series etc just try being busy most of the time busy doing things that requires the whole u let's say u can't be with more pple like me or u can't be with kids too like myself try find a pet maybe that will keep u accompanied playing with it running around bla bla bla be busy with things that can fully occupy ur whole you get tired and sleep. This to us who loves creating such unrealistic scenes and moments from past present and feture repetitively 😂😂😂😂anyway thanks dear for sharing with us such a wonderful video I got shocked after searching for some ideas on this problem too like ohhh my Godness I'm not alone in this and I'm not really crazy as I thought I might be running mad😂😂😂😂

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před rokem

      Very great points! You're definitely not mad, no. :)

  • @indistinctreality
    @indistinctreality Před 8 měsíci +1

    God I really thot I was the only one that does exactly this.

  • @pualo9263
    @pualo9263 Před 3 lety +5

    Because im sick of being alone. Im sick of being somones emotional punching bag.

    • @lukehasideas
      @lukehasideas  Před 3 lety +1

      Have you seen: czcams.com/video/iboaQNJclZo/video.html ?