The Secret Life of Walter Mitty | Overcoming Maladaptive Daydreaming
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An analysis of maladaptive daydreaming and how it’s present in The Secret Life of Walter Mitty.
Featured films, in order of appearance:
The Secret Life of Walter Mitty
Music;
Silent Partner - Grass
Ross Bugden - Reverie / @rossbugden
Whitesand - Everland / @whitesandcomposer
To learn more on maladaptive daydreaming, visit;
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Hi all, this was an interesting subject to tackle as I tried to make it insightful/helpful for those who are experiencing maladaptive daydreaming while also trying to provide you with a new perspective on The Secret Life of Walter Mitty which I think is a highly enjoyable film (with a fantastic soundtrack!). If you want to learn more about maladaptive daydreaming, please refer to the resources I put in the description. Thanks!
is there any Solution?
pakter yomgam It actually tells you the solution. Acknowledge your feelings and find ways of experiencing and expressing them in your real life. If you are interested in someone, be courageous and express that feeling instead of fantasizing about it. If because of circumstances, you can't express that feeling then, still acknowledge it but find other ways of expressing it, like artwork.
You did a great job. Describes how a daydreamer feels perfectly.
Thank you LSOO, it is highly helpfula nd motivating to live my life in reality and acheiving my goals. I am watching this video almost evry day. Thanks a lot.
Pakter Yomgam, there is a solution: kindness and acceptance. Day dreaming is a symptom of our crippling perfectionism. Perhaps in childhood we were not allowed to be flawed, make mistakes and had to please. Which resulted with giving up trying to live an actual messy life. Daydreaming is safe. You can deserve the love, attention and admiration. In real life you have to be rejected, hurt etc. and then be kind to yourself while you heal. If nobody thought you that... at any point in life you can teach yourself.
Yep, ironically, daydreaming is the only time in life that I really feel alive.
It's a living death
Exactly what I feel
Sleepwalking
Andrei de Los Santos exactly I looked this up because i literally rather be in my beautiful day dreams then deal with this part of my life. I have been to sleep a lot more than I have in a long time and of course not really sleep . I am deflecting. I know this year will be a make or break when dealing with this certain issue in my life . So instead of having to worry about it i day dream . I find myself day dreaming while trying to pray even . It is a really big part of my life since I was kid in foster care . I don’t wanna give it up and it scares me so much . In my dreams I good enough and yeah I get to live out things in my life that I don’t wanna do in the present . Say that I have done something I’m not supposed to do in a marriage years ago , I do it in my daydream so I don’t do it in real life ( don’t judge me please ) . I’m scared of myself . I’m scared of what I could do again . A terrible mistake that could have cost me my marriage . I have been very depressed and that’s what I turn to . I don’t know what else to do , I’m scared
Mykiea Mcafee hey, I’m glad you pray. Because I noticed the ONLY thing that can truly help me with this issue is God. And yeah it definitely interrupts my prayer life unfortunately, but I’m gonna keep working at it. It doesn’t sound like you’re ready to get better. I guess that’s the difference between us, I really WANT to give it up so badly. I’ve wasted years and relationships and opportunities because of it. I feel like I have no value in this world and I’m just a useless bag of dirt. I’m a tree watching the world change and watching my life go by without me in it. But I’m holding on to Jesus and I know that’s where my true value lies. And I trust if seek him hard enough, one day he’ll deliver me. I would recommend watching Michael Christwell, he’s helped a lot of people with addiction who are seeking God. I hope things work out in your favor and remember, you are enough. May God bless you!
i daydream about telling others about my problems. that’s when i found out how bad it was.
i do that also
Same pal. Same😔
Did this last night until three in the morning and realized it was an issue
Same
All the time. Because that's the only sort of context (aside from a constructed one, like therapy) where doing such a thing makes sense. What right do I have to inflict my problems on someone else? I sure wouldn't want to hear that shit, so why would they want to hear mine?
"the issue of you not wanting to be you" that made me cry .
I started working out, maybe the "muscles" will help me like myself i guess
@@Spacespacespacewaste thank you so much for saying that, means a lot to talk to someone relatable and I hope writing helps you to appreciate yourself more.
Wish you all the best in life.
@@sangitadongre5396 yes, i started working out too. For making my mind shut up about thinking anything else.
Yes sometimes we reject our own selves.
made me cry too
My problem is I want to stop daydreaming but I don’t at the same time. It’s like the only thing that keeps me sane.
This is exactly how I feel
It's a very effective coping mechanism and escape, while being addictive and wasteful both at the same time
Same
@Resilient Z me too
Jesus is your only way out. God's been helping me a lot. We are battling with dark powers of the unseen world. I invite to read the Bible, starting with the Book of Matthew. You will began to understand who Jesus was and what he taught. He is the Way the Truth and The Light. God loves you and wants to help you.
The comment section feels like a therapy session cause it makes me feel like I'm surrounded by people who actually understands what I'm going through
I feel exactly the same
Yes it feels good.
Exactly
i always go to mdd vids to read the comments when im feeling low
@@asri1361 sameeee
that moments when you daydream during this video😂
Truuuee 😂
DBZ AMV I often have to watch videos more than one time because I overhear most of them 😂😪
DBZ AMV czcams.com/video/ULo8sPCDzig/video.html
Ohh man I'm so sick 😭
Exactly! I actually started daydreaming a little and thinking about my characters at 4:26 because of the landscape. I absolutely love wide and lengthy areas and it sparks ideas on what to daydream and which characters should be there.
It's only in those daydreams that I have experienced true love, true acceptance and no judgement. Pure happiness.
Same.
This is really sad.
Same
Same
Same and thats why deep down inside me, i dont want to stop daydreaming even though i am waating my time
Realising that spending half of your life inside your head imagining the perfect scene for each moment and not actually living them was an acknowledged disorder relieved me. I thought everyone daydreamed this strongly, and I was just being weak for not constantly snapping out of it. Thank you so much.
Now I want to meet other daydreamers, share my feelings with them
same here!
Same here
While this doesn't mean you're weak, it sure means you have a problem that you should fix. It's not something written in stone and you can change it by doing the things that you dream about.
Aknowledging that it's an actual disorder can be reassuring but it shouldn't make you complaisant about your problem
I want to meet you too!
To those going through this, I suggest you take up writing, acting, some sort of outlet that allows you to create.
I've also found that D&D is a great outlet for this. It helps you build real-life relationships while engaging in a shared daydream of sorts.
Lol I've tried but then I just start day dreaming about that activity. Or I'll stop in the middle of it just so I can day dream. Or even better, I've learned how to mutitask so sometimes ill just daydream while I do things.
it's the only thing that seems to work
True. I somehow manage this daydreaming by attending classes and some workshop.
@@rebeccaschulz2571 what is D&D?
"For maladaptive daydreamers, giving up daydreaming feels like giving up a part of themselves"
YES YES YES! You've hit the nail on the head with that quote! I've never been able to put into words why it was so hard to give up until now! For me, since I've been daydreaming for basically more than half my life, the thing that kind of scares me the most is that it almost feels like I have no life or personality without it. Almost everything that makes my day interesting seems to come from daydreaming, so if I was to one day step back and actually face what I really am, the unfortunate answer would be, "not much."
I know one day I'll have to stop since it really is ruining my life, it's just I don't know how.. I think like Walter, I just need a purpose but honestly, nothing seems important enough to me that makes me want to drop all the stories and characters I've been building all these years, you know?
aprilblenk same...that's so true...I can't stop it because I have nothing to replace it with
"I think like Walter, I just need a purpose but honestly, nothing seems important enough to me that makes me want to drop all the stories and characters I've been building all these years, you know?"
Agreed. We need a story of the world we actually care about, and modern society is failing to offer such a thing. Dedicate yourself to finding and contributing to that story and you'll come alive.
I have this too. What I learn is that I have to analyse the daydream. They normally form around missing desire in my life. After I recognize these desires be it relationships, adventures, love, you start to set minor goals of including more of these things into you're real life. With time and effort we will get there.
It really does stiffle real life development. I feel like a shell while my character has such a deep personality and backstory. It haunts my self esteem because I haven't been building up this person that is me, but rather running away and be this super person inside. Today is the day I try to redirect my passion into reality. I'll miss it but I know I'll be on my deathbed regreting I didn't embrace MY life and ME more than this fantasy world.
I have the same thing every fuckin day it does effect me I didn’t know till now that it was a condition.
I’m afraid of giving up my day dreaming. It’s the best part of my life.
Also those imaginary friends you make along the way. It feels like breakup to leave them.
@@sidney6522 They are family.
@@shakirawright6350 It helps me find a way out of pain…
@@sweetestvein4805 My Paras are my angles. They started to randomly show up when I was in the fourth grade. They are with me till this day. They have been helping me to cope with this world, and they will be with me until the day I die.
@@shakirawright6350 You will live 🦋
I’ve been a maladaptive daydreamer since I was a toddler. My earliest memory i have of it was when I was 6 and talking to Scooby-Doo, but even then my mother told me I always did it. I always “entertained” myself is how she put it. But as I grew, this video is correct - it became like an addiction. As a teenager something would trigger a daydream and I would have such an URGE to act it out. At times I would catch myself mumbling to myself in public or while with friends and realize I was slightly acting out a daydreaming in the middle of a conversation. I didn’t realize this was an actual psychological thing and I just thought I was crazy lmao and never talked about it.
Even now at 20 years old I still daydream. However, at 17 it started driving me nuts because I constantly felt so stuck in my head and yet I couldn’t stop daydreaming because when I day dream, and I feel like others in this comment section can relate, I feel alive, I feel hopeful of possibilities for the future. But it keeps me from living in the present sometimes.
If I were to stop, and I’ve tried before many times, I feel as though the color is drained out of my world both inner and outer. I have lessened it more and more, only acting out my daydreams when I’m alone and bored. But it’s still constant in my mind.
But it’s also helpful. That’s the thing, I’ve discovered and worked though many traumatic memories though my maladaptive daydreaming. Talking it out with a silhouette of a comfort character enable you understand the situation better myself, because in a way, you’re almost talking to your subconscious if you think about it - trying to get to the root of what you’re feeling and what happened.
That’s why I think that MD calls for a specific balance. When life gets too much, I’ll slip into my mind. But I can’t stay there, so it’s only temporary. And I can’t allow it to take up my life and keep me from living in the moment. A balance is what it needs at first, as does everything - until you can finally live in reality more and more comfortably.
This is the biggest reason why this movie is so impactful for those who understand what it’s like. It shows us the potential we have if we were to leave our heads more and live in reality. It was a bit of a wake up call for me and I hope it was for others too.
I do apologize if this was lengthy, but I felt the need to express this after so many years of trying to understand it. I hope this helps anyone who reads.
I understand you I usually do it at night before sleeping or in the morning and if I want to relax I just daydream I never find it as a problem tbh,even so is so much fun reading books or watching a show with it
Thax
I've heard fax before but this is my first time seeing them
totally relatable buddy
Hey you are not alone I daydreaming when I was class 7 and i also try to overcome it.......
How strange it feels to have my being described to me for the first time.
Patrick .R exactly it hit home ... I looked this up because i literally rather be in my beautiful day dreams then deal with this part of my life. I have been to sleep a lot more than I have in a long time and of course not really sleep . I am deflecting. I know this year will be a make or break when dealing with this certain issue in my life . So instead of having to worry about it i day dream . I find myself day dreaming while trying to pray even . It is a really big part of my life since I was kid in foster care . I don’t wanna give it up and it scares me so much . In my dreams I good enough and yeah I get to live out things in my life that I don’t wanna do in the present . Say that I have done something I’m not supposed to do in a marriage years ago , I do it in my daydream so I don’t do it in real life ( don’t judge me please ) . I’m scared of myself . I’m scared of what I could do again . A terrible mistake that could have cost me my marriage . I have been very depressed and that’s what I turn to . I don’t know what else to do , I’m scared
Its been 2 years..
So did u stop?
@@efzedlr3536 I did.
Patrick McGurran can you give advice on how you stopped ?
@@zainss9626 That's a good question. Radical realism. My maladaptive daydreaming was a function of, probably, different factors than your own. It's an ailment that, for me, began from true desire of something good but festered and grew through my shadow desires. You really have to tear your psyche apart. Observe yourself from a third person perspective. Ask: why you are doing what you're doing at every moment. What are you not letting go of? What is an actual goal you have vs. a fantasy? Journal. Read more. Understand that life is lived outside of your own head. Find something to build towards that is tangible in the world and go forward and train yourself to be stalwart to saving yourself from yourself. Honestly, what else is there to do than that?
My best friend has this and he turns his daydreams into short stories. Im glad that he turned this into something productive.
I've wanted to do this too but I cant focus enough to write it. Plus the day dream I wanted to write about would have been a whole series.
mine too,
i wanted to write down all of my daydreams, i had a name for the series i was going to write and had told myself i was gonna write it but i never did.
i'm still wasting my time.
Yeah, I do that, but fanfiction
I keep it strictly non-sexual, non-romantic, don't worry ;)
@@GoofballLtG Maybe you should get a digital recorder and speak what you want to write.
I need to do this I've always had a desire to creat which perpetuated the day dreaming maybe if I can focus it it'll be better...
“Beautiful things don’t ask for attention” such a gorgeous line in itself.
Which is in stark contrast with Instagram generation
@@moving.quotesthey are still a lot better than daydreamers
the one quote that really stood out to me in the film.
the moment when you start maladaptive daydreaming about how you have maladaptive daydreaming .....and it goes even deaper
edit :
thanks for 1k likes xd ...
Stonks™
literally was happening
Inception intensifies
Yes :(
Omg I thought I was the only one going through this. I think my daydreaming got even worse when I learned that it was maladaptive, maybe imo we tend to daydream more and more because we don't feel ashamed that there are other people who are doing the same as us..?
For the past months I've been searching what this certain disorder is called. I got curious because I thought that this level of daydreaming was normal and got surprised when i opened up about it to my close friends. I am pretty sure I have this and I've been doing this kind of daydreaming ever since I was a kid and now I'm an adult. I would always talk to myself pretending I was talking with someone from my daydreams and act out situations when I'm alone. Music is the greatest trigger for me. I would always play a certain part of a song and act out my daydream. Everyday during my commute I would daydream, even as I walk wherever to. I only realized it now that literally almost 80% of my day is spent daydreaming. I would daydream while cooking, exercising, eating, and even when I'm taking a bath or shower and would only reenact my daydreams when I'm alone.
It will be so hard to give this up it's already like a part of me.
Cel im exactly the same. My life is not mine anymore. First i did it for fun. Then it became a habbit. Now it is like a cancer.
Me too, i need it to stop, I’ll try to seek help with my boyfriend.
it's exactly what iam experienced. ..my life totally control by my dream...every one thinks iam nothing but a meaningless corpse
Perfectly normal // Read more books// Philosophy etc// You can create wonders// Majority of geniuses are maladaptive daydreamers// Research more about the Universe
Cel i do the same things you do as well, it’s so weird thought I was alone
I just can't stop daydreaming because I have nothing to replace it with ...I can't find anything interesting in my life ...plus I'm so perfect in my dreams...who doesn't like that???
It's getting to a point that I don't have a life anymore...I'm even scared to drive cuz I can't focus on what I'm doing😭😭😭😭
One time I stopped daydreaming for one day and all day I was frustrated and bored and ashamed of what I am(like when you're addicted to drugs and you can't get it anymore you can feel the pain in your body).all day I was like I'm missing something...like some part of me is missing and I'm not allowed to get it back...you know?
Esm Famil aaaw
Hi Esm famil, i feel the same way. i even act out my characters. i did not find anything interesting in my life and this has become my life. im trying to reduce it and really need help. if you don't mind you can talk to me about it since we are going through same thing and we could try to recover from this condition. well this will keep you occupied too. you can reply to this for futher information. stay strong
Maya Navreen please I want to talk to you same problem with me ..can we talk please?
Some say maladaptive daydreaming is bad, but having it shut down for good can lead to depression. You won't enjoy music, TV, reading or whatever inspires your daydreaming. You listen to music and that inspired feeling does not come.
Maybe. I drive for a living (used to work two full time jobs as a driver), so I would spend a good 8 hours listening to music to inspire my dreams along with movie scenes I had stored in memory.
In early 2014, I became overwhelmed with the conflict between my dreams and reality. I was losing my mind. And one morning, I simply turned the music off and found peace in the ambient noise. The tires humming on the freeway became my music. The MD came back a few months later when I met someone I became infatuated with and again the conflict between my dreams and reality became too much. It was then I noticed something changing in me. Every time I began dreaming, I would think "this isn't reality. This will never come true and will only bring pain in the end". That process continued for about a year until the dreams dwindle to nothing.
So I do think space from what inspires us to MD is necessary, but that will come automatically if we focus on how our MD's are not true, has never come true and will never come true, only bringing pain.
Once the MD stopped for me, I became very tired and fatigued due to the lack of internal stimuli. I would replace dreaming with playing games on my ipad for hours on end, which helped me to avoid facing reality like MD did. I'm currently in the process of kicking the habits that have replaced maladaptive daydreaming so I can focus on fixing my life before it's too late.
It's very difficult to have nothing but reality, but I have no choice but to face it now. Maladaptive daydreaming is permanently gone. I miss it, but something in me simply began rejecting it in favor of peace, internal silence. That peace did come, but it was followed by the current storm of facing my life as it is and the struggle of finding ways to deal with that reality. We have to play catch up with everyone else and that means we have to face a lot of the issues we've been running from in a very short amount of time.
I honestly started daydreaming while watching this video.
Haha
Same
I love the relatable energy here
I turned 20 last month and just last year realized I've been maladaptive daydreaming my whole life.
Good. You're young.
Me too I’m 20
I just turned twenty and just realized it. It’s 4:46 in the morning and I don’t know if I can go to sleep anymore
Yooo I turn 20 next year and I’ve been doing this since I was in elementary school, I need help, I pray to God I get over this
@@teddy.yellowbuckets Don't worry just try to engage in some activities, gradually you will adapt.
God this hits so close to home I'm tearing up
I am also a maladaptive daydreamer...when try to study..I get obsessed with this dreams...which is ruining my future...when I day dream I make gesture with my fingers..and if I get caught I feel embarrassed..😞
I'm not sure but I may be a maladaptive daydreamer, I've never heard of the word or term until today after reading one of the comments, I do the exact same things you mentioned not regularly but often, I just thought I had a vivid imagination or active mindset which may not be the case, I'll do further research if these symptoms are indicative of a maladaptive daydreamer.
I do the same honw do I stop?
I am exactly the same. Although I can focus on my studies, I daydream whatever I can - while walking from one place to another, while just having free time and so on. Feel ya bruh
Either make it intresting or try and gain specific important skills
Like building stuff
Picking up books on interier decoration and then using them early on to gain money by helping you neighbours
I kinda whisper to myself and pace around my room or basement. Sometimes my dad hears me so I just tell him I’m on Snapchat
Stopping maladaptive daydreaming really can feel impossible. I often feel like a drug addict, with the problem that the drug is always accessible in my head and can not be locked away from me. The only thing that helps is keeping myself busy, slowly starting to do the first steps to becoming the person I was dreaming of and trying to focus on reality as much as possible. Even if it is hurtful at first, because it feels so dull and boring, it really, really pays of to spend less time in ones head. I often now force myself not to listen to music when I am commuting and just focus on the people around me.
in the same boat as you. hope you are doing well
Yeah me too, also Mindfulness can help you.
I've started doing the same with car rides and no music. Trying to focus on what I'm doing, where I'm going, and who I interact with. Hope you've been making progress. Its okay if you've fallen off here and there. Life's a journey, not a race!
Yeah. I think it helps to write a daydream journal cause it puts what you focus on paper. It’s difficult cause it might trigger the daydream but helpful since you see your thought patterns, your triggers, and maybe you can find a common problem the daydreams are solving. Maybe you need more connection, maybe you need more adventure or maybe it’s something negative like paranoid of strangers. It all there.
Maladaptive Daydreamer: I believe this person could also be called an author, a director, an artist, a creator! The difference between a gift and a curse is, can you channel those daydreams into something that you can show to others and inspire them? Can you funnel your strong imagination into creating something truly original? I have had daydreams all my life, along with vivid dreams and nightmares that have inspired me, horrified me, lifted me, helped me visualize worlds and people that will never exist. And through these daydreams, I have created written stories that I am very proud of, even if they never get published. To me, leading a life without daydreaming, without my imagination, would be a life without passion. Living a life without my inner world would not be a life at all.
That counterpoint you make there seems to be the missing piece that turns the whole discussion into something fruitful.
And the alternative: Obsessing over perceived disorders seems like a disorder in itself. It's so strange to watch ...
Underrated comment i'm about to cry i started to feel like i'm going insane but now i know i'm not the only one!💕
Yes! This is what keeps me from feeling bad about my MD!
getting it out!
I AM CREATING, I AM REALIZING MY DREAMS, I AM!
I feel literally the same, I'm an artist and character designer. If I think about making my MD "disorder" dissapear.............I cry. I literally cry. Because sometimes these daydreams are what helps me create an character.
But the counterpoint is, I have several problems related to anxiety and past traumas, and sometimes, for me, having MD is a helping hand, because sometimes I can go face those past problems slowly, little by little, and learn things about myself to help me face my anxiety problems......
I don't know what to write more, but all I can try to resume in some words:
If I did not have MD, I'd probably would have already given up on life too long ago. My characters (inside and out of MD, since I do art) are what keeps me moving foward, because I believe that if I can make them grow, develop, and mature, I can do that with myself too, and for me, there's nothing more sad than a character who is left without a meaning, without a purpose. So I gather forces to keep on living, trying to develop and find a good purpose for this character that is wrinting this text: myself.
Yes, I see it as a gift
I like the LIFE magazine motto in this movie...
“To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other and to feel. That is the purpose of Life”
Hey, I don't understand the quote and English is not my mother tongue. Would you explain the meaning to me? I would be so happy
@@claudiadacapo it's basically saying that the purpose of life (as well as LIFE magazine) is to explore the world around you and to see behind the walls people build around themselves and get closer to who they really are. Both are dangerous in different ways and both are explored in the film: Walter is in physically dangerous situations (e.g. when he jumps into the ocean or has to find shelter from an exploding volcano) as well as emotionally dangerous ones, where he has to open up to other people (e.g. confessing his feelings to his coworker). But when he does these things, he finally lives the life he always wanted to in his daydreams. Hope this helped!
I have been suffering from this disorder,since I was ten year old, now I am 19 .... and I think I have lost so many important parts of my life.....my study, parents, friends ....it hurts...but I cannot control it 😢😢😢
Shehnaz Hussain I’m 33 years old this disorder has robbed me of my entire life
grs010 yeah....same here....I have seen my friends enjoying their life .They are doing great in school,they are happy in their relationships...whenever I see them...I feel really bad....I could not enjoy my teenage life....
Hey guys, could you help me out? When on long walks I accidentally zone out into different worlds/scenarios I’m imagining and lose where I am for a split second... is this ok?
Ryan Powell uhm no its not
celica caranto shit 😐 it’s kinda just like string daydreaming?
We werent born as daydreamers. As kids we never daydreamed. When we were kids we lived in present. Never thought/worried about future at all. It all started in teenage when we started realizing the world and fantasies begins because we're unable to control our mind. Reasons for maladaptive daydreaming:
1 impress someone,prove someone, past incident you wish you could change and want it your way. Maybe impress someone who broke up with you or someone who treated you badly or your crush.
2 social media is one reason. You might want to show off maybe pics,chill life, travel, gf/bf etc. Honestly people lived a happier life before social media. Harsh truth. So I quit social media.
3 Thinking about your future. None of my daydreams came true. NONE. I repeat NONE. Instead things got worse day by day. It ruined my passion for studies, I stopped going out, my social life got so bad that i have no friends rn. I never lived a happy life while day dreaming. I feel sick of wasting my time in day dreaming about future when it's never ever going to happen. That guilt prevents me from daydreaming again.
4 you sometimes wish you were someone else/some big celebrity/ someone who achieved a lot and do miracles, save the world and you imagine entire world praising you in your fantasy world. This clearly shows the need to become famous.
My conclusion after daydreaming during lockdown: DONT ever give a fuck about impressing others. Nope never ever. Beware of what you load into your brain. This is the root cause for maladaptive daydreaming. Stop loading garbage from your phone.
How to overcome:
Dont stay alone at home. Never lock yourself alone for too long. Go out maybe park,libraries ,friends house .
If you dont have passion in anything then start doing small task like cleaning your home, redecorating. Or hobbies which are easy life trying new recipes. Learning painting or some musical instrument. Trust me it works. It helps you keep your mind occupied in present task.
I did this as a kid, would daydream and play for hours doing repetitive movements playing out fascinations in my head. I did this for HOURS.
I still do it as an adult but out of shame started doing it much less. It's interesting to see there are people where it is adult onset.
@@Spudst3r ye same i used to do it alot as a kid it was more like a fantasy world but i think it also had to do with the feeling off loneliness or just being alone existing but now its like worse more out of insecyrty its not as fantastical anymore
❤
Explained in great detail... Thank you 🙏
Thnks you so much ❤
"The issue of you not wanting to be you"that hit hard
Another thing is , and what everybody should pay attention to : MDD IS YOU NOT WANTING TO BE YOU . FIND AWAY TO BE COMFORTABLE BEING YOURSELF!!
sometimes my mdd gets so bad that I cant concentrate on anything else,for ex I just try to read or study or watch a movie but i just cant there is this scenario in my head that keeps on playing. There was this one time where I was sitting in class and I just suddenly started crying because I imagined a bad plot. And it happens all the time, I am not even sad but I cry with my characters
mdd means major depressive disorder
Same with the movies... I try. But I've also never been able to read many books either. I get strongly distracted. also tfw music is a trigger, but you love music.
*When you're stuck in a neglectful and abusive household, this can feel like the only way to keep yourself going. By the time you're an adult, this and similar defense-mechanisms, become detrimental to your success & societal integration,* but it's all you have, all you are.
I started daydreaming excessively around 2015, when I was in 5th grade. For years, I thought this was normal and just me being plain imaginative. Then one time, around this year I think. I searched on the internet "Is daydreaming too much bad?" And I was shocked that there's a bunch of articles saying that this is a disorder called Maladaptive Daydreaming. It has negative effects, but this thing actually helps me to be happy and creative. And since I don't want all my imaginations be a waste, I promised to myself that I'll create novels about them. Now, I am currently starting to build up my first story from my daydreams. Hope it end well.
update?
Good luck. I’m working on my own boon that’s going to have my past maladaptive daydreaming fantasies in it.
same, I completed my first book. working on 2nd one. but the problem is I don't get that old satisfaction
I always thought my daydreaming was because I should be a writer. But there have been times where I wasn’t in touch with reality in times of great stress. All my life I’ve had movies in my mind, even my dreams are extremely vivid.
Exact same
Me too
Me too :(
I'd like to offer my 2 cents on this topic. I used to have severe maladaptive daydreaming and now I've grown out of it. I think this video is good but offers wrong advice at the end. I developed maladaptive daydreaming because of abusive parents, bullies and no friends. I used to hate myself for daydreaming all day and used to hate myself more because society criticized me for it. But one day I just stopped caring what others think of me and fully embraced my daydreaming habbit. In the end I realized that this is a coping mechanism of the brain so I could thrive in this world. Its a blessing in disguise, it gives a poor man a luxury ride on a private jet. And it is then when I finally embraced who I am, maladaptive day dreaming just faded away, now I have to actually think to daydream but on the bright side my daydreams and super vivid and fun compared to my early days. So I just want to send the message across that if you suffer from this condition then 9 out of 10 times the society is to blame. Ironically after embracing myself and after the maladaptive dreams faded, I took cruel revenge from a lot of people who wronged me. So, if you suffer from maladaptive daydreaming then it is time to look at yourself with kind eyes and time to kick some ass instead. Hope my experience can help someone, thanks
Rahul Bhatia this is freaking beautiful! You made an exit out , so there’s hope ! I’m waiting on my exit out it !❤️
Thank you for sharing
@John Marston *cruel revenge
It started out positive but then you spoke about revenge. If revenge means, living your best life: more power to you. If it is actually getting back at people...that's not cool. I have big issues with the way I have been treated by people in the past. But I HAVE to forgive them. Because the pain they inflicted on me has already been repaid in my demise. My maladaptive behaviour is the result of their mistakes. Just as much as they are products of their experiences. That's a LOT to take and it is not fair to hold them solely responsible. The pain I unintentionally caused them as a result, is 'revenge' enough. The ones who 'hurt' me the most, are the ones who also love me the most. They are looking from the sidelines,watching me stumble through life with my head in the clouds towards a cliff and there is nothing they can do to stop it. That is painful enough as it is. So when you gift yourself a better life; why don't you share it with them? I hope 'revenge' is not what I think you mean. If it makes you feel good to take revenge, know this: what you feel isn't real.
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wow never realized that my daydreaming had such a tie to my mental status. I grew up in an abusive home so daydreaming became my escape and now, even though i live alone, I still find myself escaping into my daydreams throughout the day.
My daydreaming is mostly infused with current events, it's a peek into what could be usually. I get so frustrated when reality doesnt match my daydream outcome. My other day dreams are excessively bizarre, in those I'm a football player, representing my country or my favourite team. But like the movie, most of my dreams are about the life I would like to live...
Nice video, this is something about me that i have never explored...
Vengeance Vengeance I feel you . I looked this up because i literally rather be in my beautiful day dreams then deal with this part of my life. I have been to sleep a lot more than I have in a long time and of course not really sleep . I am deflecting. I know this year will be a make or break when dealing with this certain issue in my life . So instead of having to worry about it i day dream . I find myself day dreaming while trying to pray even . It is a really big part of my life since I was kid in foster care . I don’t wanna give it up and it scares me so much . In my dreams I good enough and yeah I get to live out things in my life that I don’t wanna do in the present . Say that I have done something I’m not supposed to do in a marriage years ago , I do it in my daydream so I don’t do it in real life ( don’t judge me please ) . I’m scared of myself . I’m scared of what I could do again . A terrible mistake that could have cost me my marriage . I have been very depressed and that’s what I turn to . I don’t know what else to do , I’m scared
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This might seem dramatic, but this is such an important video to my life and my recovery from my addiction to maladaptive daydreaming. Thank you for this
i am suffering from daydreams so hard everyday, they make me angry and i get caught talking to myself and acting out body postures and facial expressions everyday! and i can feel the solution through my mindfulness practice, and also learning to let out what's in there, letting go of holding my emotions and beliefs / opinions locked up inside, and maybe tell somebody a joke about what my daydream is about... how i rescue some girl in a snow storm or save people from a plane crash, or fends off a grizzly bear attacking some hikers, or the angry ones about teaching my friends a lesson or two about their stupid and obnoxious behaviours.
i guess somewhere it could all be a problem with fear and anxiety..
these different kinds of daydreams could some days occupy hours upon hours and disturbing me when i study, hanging out with friends or well doing anything.. they come and go, they can start off happy to end in anger where i feel as if i could hurt somebody, and sometimes the daydreams are so cruel and horrible i scare myself abit!
but i always manage to come back down from my own facet of reality and i use vedantic teachings and zen/ mindfulness practices to let go of my fears and just starting to let out what's on my inside... and holy shit, what comes out is emotions and .. it's genuine!
thanks for this video it made me cry! i will sort out what the cause of my daydreaming is!
love and best wishes to all out there who suffers from this!
Thank you for sharing that!
popcornmaskinen84 how I made it better was going to University. I found more interesting people so I didn’t want to zone out in convocation so much.
i act out the characters too, it occupies almost the whole day. i mean i can act out the characters anytime anywhere if there are no people. it feels real.
I know where u are coming from but daydreaming is really bad for you if you do it for too long. It can cause all kinds of psychological problems. Trust me.
Sometimes I even laugh or cry during a daydream
I suffered this for many years, very intensely. At first for several years it was protecting me from toxic and abusive reality, it was saving me from a suicide. But it was also always in a way of reality, productivity... living in general. I spend so many years just frozen. It caused me insane ammount of issues at school, made my insomnia worse, unable to focus and remember ANYTHING at all. I mistook it for creativity and at one point thought that I could be a designer because of it. But when I moved out into healthy environment and dealt with many issues and became heathier mentaly, daydreaming stopped and I lost that ilusion of creativity. I had to give up that career path but now I live healthy life and don't need daydreaming anymore. Because I got my life together and it's good as it is.
i remember when i told my mom about maladaptive daydreaming and she laughed calling me dramatic..
now that i think of it maybe thats the reason why i always daydream about people giving me the care and attention i never had.. and yet she just laughed like its not a big deal when it's literally making me forget who am i...
parents .. please give your children care they dont deserve to suffer
i feel like i do it cope with the insecurities that i have but in the end i doo nun so its more suffocating
I was on the verge of a tear as I realized a name for what I experienced and the entire time I felt like you were speaking to me about something I have kept from others for so much of my life. You did an elaborate breakdown of my personal growth, most of which I wasn't even aware of. I feel called out, almost attacked, over how accurate this description was and I haven't even seen the movie but now I feel I must.
In my childhood I was not confident, easily scared and not athletic but I daydreamed insistently all day if given the chance to waste away hours upon hours. Often times it was during classes I didn't find interesting but it mostly happened when listening to music where I would physically move my body to the rhythm or actions of the characters I imagined but not in a form of dance but a cinematic trailer or use my pen like a plane much like an preschooler would all without realizing it. My teachers or peers teasing me would snap me out of it but I still persisted in my privacy. Such imaginative ventures inspired my artwork as an artist and motivated me to pursue anything in life that scared me, seeking to live out the dreams that I had so vividly.
Now I teach gymnastics, dance and practice martial arts. I love pushing my limits and living like I'm in an action movie with parkour and freerunning any time I can but I still hide away and listen to music every night for hours just like an addict with no productive value at all sometimes. It's so...embarrassing and disappointing sometimes but still a major inspiration for my artwork. I have to be careful though. I really try hard to make my real life exciting and interesting because I don't see my hands moving in front of me, they are replaced like shadow puppets of all the characters and features of my imaginings. It terrifies me that if I don't keep doing new things that I may slip away into the "other world" and not be able to come back. I am afraid I won't want to come back when it's so appealing and captivating. Out of all the fears I have overcome, this is the one that persists and truly shakes me to my bones. I don't want to disappear or make the people I love think I don't find them interesting enough. I have a son and a wife I truly love and I don't want to leave them but my mind feels so compelled to abandon all reality at the drop of a hat.
Oh I been crying as well it feels horrible
@@coralvillain490 Thanks for bringing me back to this cathartic post. It is my son's 4th birthday today and I now also have a second son. I find myself most in the moment when playing with them both.
How are you fairing?
I hold therapy sessions in my mind. They are surprisingly effective, they sort through my emotions and the relief is astronomical.
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A really great video about a really great movie. You put into words why this movie affected me so much when I first saw it. Thank you.
Divayth I loved it when he showed her kid how to do a kickflip with the skateboard ! I thought it was a daydream at first :)
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This is insane, I feel insane struggling with daydreaming, it is an addiction, had this since I was 5, Never knew there were others who struggled with this as well until recently
I quite enjoy it actually. I typically zone out when listening to music and I consistently go out to the shops 15 minutes away from my house just to listen to music and daydream. It's a good way if passing time and ,for me, it's like watching TV without actually having one. Cool to see I'm not the only one who has this. However, I don't do it to the extent to which it becomes an issue like in the film.
its not maladaptive daydreaming if its not extreme. Everyone daydreams but if you aren't doing it enough to the point where it interferes with your life, its not MD.
I have come to realize that I am a maladaptive daydreamer. I daydream to escape boredom and, more often, loneliness. It’s nice to imagine someone to talk to. Recently I’ve been trying to take steps to lessen its grip on me, even if I don’t abolish it altogether. I am very fortunate to be surrounded by lovely family and friends, and so I’ve been trying to reach out to them more as I may instead of imagining people to talk to. I’ve realized through doing that that a decent amount of my loneliness has come from a sort of self inflicted isolation, so texting a family member or something like that every once in awhile has actually helped a lot.
A lot of my daydreams are about myself in the future, in which I’ve got my act together, lol. I’ve been trying to figure out how to make realistic changes to gain some certain positive qualities of “Future Tava” instead of waiting around for them to just happen, and that has been improving matters as well. This is all my just my personal experience, anyway.
It’s been cool to see that other people in the comment section that have had some similar experiences with this condition. Sorry for the long comment, haha.
i am happy someone said this cause from me too its a way to isolate and jsut like u i image the future where i have everything together and i now how to do shit like how to talk with people and i have this nice life without any of the actual struggles u go through normally to get there i am indenyl for who i am rn (someone insecure full of fears anxious for the future and feels left behind, lonely and alone. i fear isolation in social situations for my lack of speech or cause i am someone unworthy of love) its like i cover up these parts of with daydreaming i honestly feel stuck now that i am not i feel paralyzed afraid i mean i do have support within fam but i mean like at school or friends like i dont wanna face being alone and a looser at school it makes me anxious i am not sure f i am someone fun to be around i also feel that fun part of me cant/wont come out when i am in school i berate myself for anything that doesnt feel stable/validates me my esteem ig is low and i am lost on how i should face all of this idk what to do i eel numb in a way sad in another my heart feels so happy i comfort myself sometimes shallowy and sometimes in a good way and things do come better but i still hear the voices maybe i am trying to make things go quick when it takes time but i really wanna prove i am someone
i hope things got better for u i wish for u to update me if u can!
Brilliant video! I can't be the only one that feels like they are also a maladaptive daydreamer. I really enjoyed the film, and didn't pay any attention to this side of the story, I just enjoyed it for what it was. I think i'll give it another watch after seeing this, it might even help me pay more attention to my own life.
It's funny, I do have something pretty much like this and I thought making those daydreams reality would solve the problem. It doesn't. I wouldn't be surprised those whose dreams that were far more ambitious than mine (say... like Elon Musk's ambitious goals that he's working on) actually achieve them. They may be rich and powerful, have the love of their life and maybe even the perfect life. They'll still have this condition and daydream of another life they'll never have lived. I still do it, myself. I don't allow it to rule my life, though, anymore.
If you can find satisfaction in both "lives", then I think that's the best way to live as a maladaptive daydreamer.
I'm certain I had this through high school. After I joined the Navy, though, I was able to get over it for two main reasons. First, the Navy is such a social and demanding workplace that you can't afford to zone out. There's so much going on and so much to do and think about that I didn't have the spare thought processes to daydream, and I loved that. It was liberating to be so busy that I didn't feel the need to daydream. Second, I feel that I got over it in large part because I was now living the adventure. Going to foreign ports, going on adventures all over the world with my best friends. Who needs daydreaming when you've got that? I think that being a maladaptive day dreamer is a great thing because it proves you have the thinking capacity to do great things in the real world. The challenge is applying that power to real world projects.
Yes, you got that! For me it is music. When I daydream, I often daydream about being the producer of the song I listen too in that moment. And I am really talented in music, I just have to make it happen.
The last two sentences 👏👏👏👏
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This video makes me sad. I identify so much with Walters predicament, being miserable and forced to find some way to cope with disliking yourself so much. I daydream less these days but I still find it hard to look back at all the years I wasted desperately daydreaming every second of the day away to avoid feeling the shame, guilt, loneliness, crushing depression, addiction, low self-confidence and general lack of self worth that was my life.
i feel like that too some days. but i always remember “it is okay that i daydreamed. the world still spins. my actual life really is no different” you don’t beat up drug and alcohol addicts for being addicted. so don’t beat yourself up.
As much as I want to stop maladaptive daydreaming to have more focus and time to attain my goals, at this point in life, it's the only thing that makes me smile and keeps me sane. And realizing that makes it more sad
Also, I realized this can also be connected with genetics as I have observed that my late grandma, my uncles, my father, and my brother also do maladaptive daydreaming. Something I think we all know that each of us have but never talked about. I know this because we have the same gestures when we daydream. At first it was a relief for me to know that Im not the only one in the family that do this but damn it makes it so hard to focus and its slowing me down. Its very addictive (ive been daydreaming since I was in grade school).
Maladaptive Daydreaming is a great thing for me, it actually doesn't affect my life too much when it comes to realationships. Yes I spend a lot of my time Daydreaming, but the things I can create with my mind are so amazing. I can replay movies that I love it I'm bored and I can also make my own at that. What I love I can make stories and worlds of in my head. To be honest, the only real life thing it affects is my ability to focus in school or on something important. I would never give up Daydreaming because it is not an "addiction" for me. Again, I do spend a lot of time in my fantasy world and with two mind created animals. To be honest I can create fantasy in the real world and not be destracted or akward in chats. I can use it in my writing and create the most unique stories. Infact some of these things can help me stay focus and learn what I missed. I cant be the only one who loves this as more than just " an addiction ."
Most humans day dream occasionally, the point here was, imho, the reconnection to reality if day dreaming takes over your actual day.
Shazzine, I can completely understand what you're saying. I had similar views on daydreaming like I'll write a movie or book or something. I even tried writing a book. Not only the book was not finished. I suffered a lot in the end. Because that's not how you actually write something. Real writing consists of lots of spaces into thinking and it does not have the same energy behind it, it's way more considerate.
This daydreaming is sort of an emotional wound. Don't think that you can turn it around into something healthy and live with it. It's an emotional issue and we have to heal that. Earlier you realize that better it would be.
Shubham Mittal As someone who likes to write and draw, I can tell you now that the daydreams that actually end up on paper and the overly complex ones I have in my head are completely different. I’ve managed to write a book before but that not only required my imagination but a lot of time management. That being said, when you visualise a novel with the intention to sit down and write it, you’ll realise that it’s not in the same sort of vivid detail. There are blanks to fill and concepts to flesh out. The thing with MD is that it can start with a strike of inspiration but you won’t ever get it out properly unless you sit down and start when the idea hits. I love writing because it can act as an outlet to me but it takes more than just daydreaming to do it. It also takes dedication, passion and most importantly, the vocabulary. There’s no point in having a plan in your head if you don’t know how to express it on paper.
Shubham Mittal I think that’s unfair of you to say. Just because you weren’t able to utilize it to make art doesn’t mean she can’t.
If it’s not a problem for her why try and make it such.
The trouble is when it begins to destroy your productivity, for example, if your a busy student and finals week is approaching.
My problem with seeing a movie about maladaptative daydreaming is that with all the music and emotions and so on they put on them is exactlly what triggers my maladaptative daydreaming. I don't enjoy it at all, but just like you said, I feel erasing it from my life would be like erasing the only part of me that is real. But it makes me anxious, depressed, euphoric, is not good for my health.
I’ve been a maladaptive daydreamer since I was younger than three. Only recently I’ve found a name for my disorder and I can not tell you how good it feels to know I’m not alone. This strangely hits me hard because it’s so scarily accurate but I’ve never thought of it like this because I enjoy it so much
To those struggling with maladaptive daydreaming or any form of frequent, excessive daydreaming I would recommend the following from personal experience:
Meditation - helps to focus the mind and engaging with all your senses can bring you back to the present moment... really hear, feel, and smell what’s around you for the meditation to be effective.
Socialising - rather than just listening to people which can cause you to zone out, actually engaging with people in a conversation means you have to think about what they are saying and further think about possible responses. This means your mind will be so focused on the people your engaging with you won’t zone out.
- Set your self daily tasks - if you’re daydreaming Is quite severe set your self daily tasks and activities to do from making the bed to shopping for things you need. Even when engaging in simple tasks like making the bed make sure your talking yourself through the process so you don’t become distracted.
Drawing from my third point about setting daily tasks one of the most important things you can do is talk to yourself in your head regularly. Talk to yourself about what’s around you, what your going to do throughout the day, and with everything you engage in talk to yourself about the process of doing it. For example even when putting on your shoes just say “slip shoes on, tie laces in a double knot” this will keep your mind focused even when doing things with minimal effot that could cause you to daydream.
Hope this helps in some way 😀
Actually all of this dosen't worked for me
this is a problem that i want to get rid off, but also want to keep it because reality is worse
Imagining in our daydreams, the live we haven't lived, things we haven't said, the love we haven't been able to give or receive...that's a powerful concept.
Since my childhood my parents always fights I was running away from problems imagining a better world and today I became unable to differentiate between the two worlds the world that I created saves me from pain I am always shocked when I return to reality I am a discreet personality I always feel it is wrong to talk to people about my problems so I talk on my own about my problems and this helped me to understand myself more, but it caused me problems in concentration next year last year in high school and I have to pass a national exam to enter the University and don't know how I will focus I was always the first in my class now it became difficult I am tired.
I never thought there was other people out there in the world that day dreams the way I do I never thought that it was known. I don't feel alone anymore about this
I just found out today. And I feel the same way. I thought it was just me and I was crazy.
Me also
Man you nailed it so hard in this video! I can't tell enough how much this is exactly what I suffer from.
Same here.
Watching this made me sad....why couldn't I just be a normal kid growing up ....
It's okay. They can't hurt you now. Let's just stop now. It's been too long. I want my life back.
I started a story when I was 12 or 13, that I would continue in my head over the years, whenever I could, in class or at night before going to bed. It wasn't about me but real people I saw at school, crushes, celebrities, actors with fictional personalities or names and I lived through each of them, could change pov. I was completely obsessed with it. If I had a good plot to add to the story and I started daydreaming about it during the day and someone woke me out of it I would usually snap at them and return to it as soon as I could. It stopped gradually when I entered high school though. I wish I could write a serie out of it so all this time spent developping the story wouldn't go to waste 😂 I actually tried a few times when I was 14, 15 but just ...couldn't because it felt weird.
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Thanks! That's exactly what I'm hoping to provide with this channel :)
I have always had a big imagination, but I have been dealing with maladaptive daydreaming lately. I think you're right that it is brought about by dissatisfaction and disconnection from reality. I have suffered from chronic fatigue for years, but the last seven months have been particularly tough. I'm retreating more and more into my imagination because at least in those worlds inside my mind I can have some semblance of a life, I can go on adventures, I can socialise with fictional people, and most importantly I don't feel tired or sick, I can be superhuman if I want.
actually, before i watch this video, i didnt even know that what ive been doing for my life is maladaptive daydreaming. literally, i would daydream EVERY SINGLE DAY WITHOUT FAIL. before going to bed, in my room alone, when i want to study..everytime! these days i cant get myself to study or get my stuff completed because of this problem. i think i got into MDD because of my past traumatic experiences like bullying, having toxic friends, divorced parents and family problems. i couldnt really get to express my feelings and emotions a lot because i was scared and i dont want to make my mother worry a lot about me.
tbh, MDD is how i get through my days. without doing it, i feel like something is missing. everyday i feel restless if i dont daydream. my roommates started to feel like im weird or some shit because in the middle of the night, i would constantly get up and move around my small compartment while listening to songs, and my roommates probably noticed.
whenever i feel depressed i would daydreaming about me expressing my feelings to someone and thats how i cope with my depression. after i act out all of the scenarios in my head, i would feel much better. i kinda hated that i would overthink about my thoughts or past traumatic events and i have to daydream about them to make myself feel better. to be honest, i dont want to have this kind of mental disorder, heck, i dont want ANY mental disorder. i want to be happy and normal. i really reallyyy hope that i can defeat this mental disorder in the future.
Not only does the film make me weep, this review does.
This was an amazingly done video!
I learned a lot, learned that I may have a mild form of maladaptive daydreaming.
Looks like there was a reason why I fell in love with this film.
Thanks, and yes I definitely think there are different levels of severity when it comes to maladaptive daydreaming, I guess one of the reasons it's not officially recognized is because it is so hard to determine when exactly daydreaming becomes maladaptive
I had this my whole life and it was only in my late teen I found it to be a huge problem. Thankfully through a lot of work and will power I overcame in the past 2 years. Oddly enough I miss it though... It really does feel like I gave up a huge part of myself. Whenever I'm writting stories I can get back into to it, making what was once a very inhibiting trait of mine very useful for creativity. But watching this video made me realize it's still there in a milder form. "Im not here but I'm not there either" is a spot on discription. Thank you for this video. To my knowledge there are no other videos on this topic. I need to watch this film.
I don't really remember when I started but I started at a very young age, am turning 18 this year and I wanted to stop, this stuff eats you up and let's be fair to ourselves those unrealistic lifewe crave for in our daydreams can't happen. In my case I daydream about dating some kind of celebrity like bts and kpop stars when I can't even speak Korea and haven't been there .
I imagine being a very beautiful girl that no one want to take their eyes of her, and guys always fighting for her, but I got to stop went I accepted myself for who I was and stop creating an image of some girl I would never look like or some guy that I might never come across.
The worst thing about day dreaming is that it eats your time, makes you to procrastinate.
I feel this is the first stage of your healing getting to know that you have this problem and finding your own solution, different things work for different people but one thing that helps a lot is to know your trigger and try to avoid it. You have the power to control your mind .
For me my trigger was music (kpop example bts songs) I couldn't get it off my head , and Korean movies
, I deleted all my kpop songs and stopped watching those movies , sometimes you need to break off from your comfort zone and face the reality which is create your world , the world you want to live in(reality), rather than some imagination.
The danger of this is if you don't break off early sooner or late you will discover that your reality is the complete opposite of your imaginations, causes depression, you discover you begin to hate your real self chasing some shadows.
Wake up boy , wake up girl IT'S ALL ABOUT THE MIND, YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CONTROL YOUR MIND , KEEP TELLING YOURSELF THAT.
I went and located The Secret Life of Walter Mitty watched it and absolutely loved it now I need to locate a portrait of a lady on fire and watch that too you're an amazing writer and I'm looking forward to everything coming from you in the future
I didn't even realise this was a thing. Dang.
Dude, this was terrific! As most of my subscribers know (or probably ALL OF THEM at this point), I'm a huge fan of The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, as it seems you are too. In fact, I recently did a Film Workshop episode breaking down what makes the movie so great. I'd love to teamup with you sometime!
HoustonProductions1 Yaaaaas lol I don't think it a big deal but maybe it something I should try to work on.
Since i was a tenageer i've been imagining all sorts of stories where i'm a better version of me or a totally different person, sometimes i act some scenes when i'm alone (just through gestures) i have created characters, i live nonexistent lifes, i just recently got really worried about that. I used to abstract myself for several minutes and in situations i should've been present, but now i only do it when i'm listening to music or alone in a place i feel confortable and safe. Is this a bad thing? Because i'm starting to feel a bit scared. Btw this movie is BEAUTIFUL. It insipired me to do more, to live more.
This made me cry, thank you for helping me towards clarity and a better understanding of myself. I'm fighting against my fear right now and expressing how I truly feel. Thank you.
Great video! It helped me in surfacing what I didn't like about the movie:
That it felt in itself like a daydream of a daydreamer - the fact that the main character (Walter) snaps out of his daydreams to actually go out there in the world and do these amazing things felt... so romanticized, like... it's something we (daydreamer) actually do fantasizes about: to stop the daydream and go live on adventures (or at least to find a good reason too). To a point at the end of the movie I couldn't keep out of my mind that we were probably about to learn he never actually did any of that, and that it was just a massive delusion. So I'd say the movie didn't really help me in this realm. It just seems like another fantasy - which I know is unfair of a criticism for a movie because it never promised me of a cure in the first place. But a part of me just wishes it would have ended with "yeah well we can't all be the main character" or something like that.
Ultimately I liked the movie as a whole, I loved the story and the 'twist' ending, the cinematography is incredible and the premise is a really good one for a 'whimsical movie' but as far as 'maladaptive daydreaming' I guess all I can say is that it didn't bring me the support I didn't even know I needed before seeing the movie, ahah.
Thank you! I do agree the movie simplifies actually overcoming maladaptive daydreaming; if you check out the resources in the description you'll see that in reality this is a proces that may take years for some, even with professional help, but I also have to give the movie credit for at least exploring the issue
beautiful choice of background music.
very clear and coherent voice work, and on point visual representations for each changing topic.
_can't decide which one of your older videos watch first or leave for last_
Thanks! Very constructive feedback, love it :)
Well, i agree that daydreaming is a kind of addiction. It's hard enough to fight by itself, but it's even harder when the underlying issue is not dealt with. I remember when i realised, that my daydreams are bad for me. I saw how they ruin my personal life and sabotage my life goals. And for some time i just stopped engaging into daydreaming (or at least i stopped dreaming about fantasy worlds and highly unrealistic situations). It worked for about a year. But i took me a couple of really stressful and disappointing events to slowly return to my old ways. Because it's faulty, yet effective coping mechanism. And in times of stress it seams so easy to just give in and escape reality for a while.
One thing I noticed whenever I day dream is, I always want to be either famous,rich and a hero in every dreams. I always do that as a coping mechanism during an upset or painful event.
I love human brain... everything IS because of it and it's way more powerful than we perceive...and really beautiful too.
You make me want to see every movie a second time.
Advice overcome MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING and build healthy relation between our inner life and the outside world:
1- Avoid trrigers.
2-Meditate (praying).
3-Focus on the present moment and catch yourself when you're drifting off.👍😍
I loved this movie so much and find myself going back to at least once a year. I started daydreaming as a child, creating stories that I'd then write down. It was a great outlet. However, as I got older I began to daydream the same stories again and again and again on loop. For a while, I stopped daydreaming but as Covid hit it came back as a coping mechanism against the insanity. I'm trying to change the stories in my head and have began to write again in hopes I can change the narrative in my mind. Watching this movie felt like a reflection of myself. I didn't know others went through the same thing. Thank you for making this video. Amazing work as always.
Does anybody have trouble going to work or school because of this condition?
As someone who has this and goes to college, sometimes. It's difficult to concentrate when there's something triggering at the moment. Because it's basically living 2 lives. And you can't help it, it just happens. There are times that you can control it, but others... you would need help to "Snap Out"
Anyone who has this will experience it. You just described maladaptive behaviour.
i cried watching this ... i'm a maladaptive day dreamer and it's realy ruining my life well i don't have one in the first place , in this movie he returned to reality and started living life mostly coz the characters in his daydreams are close people to him so he only had to start expresing his feelings to them also he had things that he could live and enjoy in his real life , my daydreams characters are people that i could never reach the literaly live in the other side of the planet and the worst is that i've fallen in love with them ...in my real life i only have studeying(a majora that i hate but i'm forced to study by my parents) and my famely , no relationships that could make me happy , so daydreaming is my escape from this lonly reality and my comfort zone, but i feel like i'm loosing life more and more everyday , if i stop i become fealy lonly and sad and i'm afraid to full into depretion again ...but i'm so much scared that i would spend my hole life this wey and never live in the reality coz instead of trying to make better reality i'm more happy dreaming of it and maybe coz i belive that the life that i dream of will never come true and the me in my daydreams is no where to be fond in reality ...but i realy need to go out it's a never ending cycal that is ruining me ..
I used to be a maladaptive daydreamer and this movie went straight to my heart - it couples travel, love, and real human experiences with a meticulously thought out script, soundtrack and cinematography. A few interesting things I noticed during the movie:
- Patterns: in the beginning of the film, Walter is surrounded by grim-coloured patterns everywhere he goes; the lights in his hallway, the buildings on the street, the budget book he carries everywhere are all filled with monotonous patterns and dulled colours.
- Soundtrack: whenever Walter is in a situation in which he is conforming to societal standards, the background music contains a ticking sound, like that of a clock.
- Script: the dialogue in the movie is limited and used only where necessary, especially towards the end. The prolonged periods of silence allow us to focus on Walter's development (and the beautiful scenery!)
There is so much more to this movie but if you have any issues with maladaptive daydreaming, or if you just have a desire to travel, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty is one of the most inspirational and most well-composed movies you will ever see. Worth the watch!
Thanks for the video. This was me in my youth to early twenties. I don't know when it ended, but I look back on how much I struggled with daydreaming, and how it would always ultimately leave me feeling deflated... The awesomeness of my daydream-self was so much better than the real me. I can't even remember when I last had that kind of daydream (where I was the hero of some amazing scenario) but it is such a relief that it is past.
how u stopped MDD plz help me it effects my life😭😭 i need to stop this
@@rozaanabdullah3636 For me, it was having other things that were more important. Studying at university, having children, and hobbies... I have a gazillion hobbies, my brain is too busy learning things and organising my life to have time to daydream anymore. When I have time to myself I do not want to day dream... I want to spend time planning my next race, or appreciating my new skills, or creating something with my kids.
I daydream about passing my college exams and getting awards and giving speeches because I made a (non-existant) scientific discovery. I daydream of having my parents proud of me. However, these daydreams take some time away from studying. And points out that I am not satisfied with myself without achievements. This is coming from someone who has parents that always compare me to other people.
Idk, it seems pretty cool to be able to activate vivid hallucinations on demand. I mean, you could stay away from the drugs and still experience some pretty cool things. When I daydream... I actually can't really daydream, I feel cemented in reality, but I imagine it would be cool to sometimes be able to venture off into the mind at will.
It is cool at first,which is why it becomes so addictive. But it comes to the point where you may not be able to control it. Reading,listening to music,movies etc. They can all trigger long and immersive day dreams that are hard to come back from. You start doing it in front of family members and friends and it becomes apart of you so you don't want to stop.
+FunnyBunny It is not fun when you talking to yourself sitting alone. I've been called "crazy" too many times.
It gets to a point where it isn't at will anymore, though.
It’s cool in the sense that you can see and vividly experience things that are impossible for anyone else to. But it’s bad in the way that giving a crackhead and infinite amount of crack without the consequence of death would be bad.
I don't know how to thank you for all the effort and the love you pour into your work and your videos...I rarely feel that sense of peace and wisdom combined in one video, and you do that perfectly. I learned so much from your videos and as a daydreamer myself, I felt a sense of comfort and peace, knowing that we can be understood is more than enough... I wish you all the best of luck for your future projects and hope you continue to pour from your soul!
One of the best movies I have ever seen.
I daydream when I go to sleep. I can't sleep if I don't.
I don't think I can stop.
If only the movie's execution was a as good and effective as your explanation, then maybe I would have felt some sort of emotion, (and I'm a maladaptive daydreamer). But I'm baffled by how these video essays tend to move me more than the movie itself in some cases, just goes to show the video essay is an art within itself. Keep it up man!
WHAT. I literally told my therapist YEARS AGO about me "daydreaming" that scares me sometimes and how its like flashbacks but not things I've ever did, I called them "flash dreams" and then i randomly find this video. this is creepy, weird, amazing. wow.
My goodness, I've never seen a movie or review hit exactly what I've been experiencing. Although not to this extreme, but it does enlighten why I connected with this movie so much and the other struggles of my life. Thanks for creating this video and speaking a lot of truth about life and the human experience. Keep up the fantastic work!
I remember seeing this movie with my stepmom as a teenager and I didn’t focus on the psychological stuff back then. Now I can relate
In my 40s, unfinished education, destroyed career, jobless, screwed up relationships, less than average skills, thanks to this. Yet 70% of the time I would be daydreaming of what could've been to what will happen. Unable to concentrate on anything, ready to blame others. This is very eye opening. Yet don't know how to deal with it.
its like i feel let go off it i am exposed with all my fears insecurities and now there is no excuse its veryy hard hopefully uve gotten better
Sounds like ADHD
I had alot of problems with (day)dreams until only a few years ago. Life in the suburbs just seemed so boring and even when I started studying in the city there was nothing that could compete to my own fantasy. The problem with this is that I didn't do it on purpose, I'd just start having vivid illusions and because they seem so real I preferred to be in them constantly over what's in front of me. I even started writing them down, planning out towns and even wildlife. It was only later I realized that it was a coping mechanism, once I started studying in the city it was obvious that my fantasy no longer could keep up with reality. And I couldn't handle it. I spent almost two years in isolation, playing World of Warcraft and only going out for parties. I knew it was wrong. I didn't want to end up like a bum in my mom's basement, so I started studying photography.
One of my teachers saw what was wrong with me and actually guided me, without putting it into words, back to reality. The last two years were a serious test for me to actually break the chain and I feel like I have finally started a new chapter in my life. I make photographs whenever I get triggered to have fantasies but now it's very much controlled. I recognize the situation and I recognize that what is in my head does not necessarily correspond with reality, yet this is what makes it so interesting to photograph. Because a photograph isn't real either, it's just a piece of the puzzle. Like a haiku instead of a myth.
This is just so beautiful 💜
The video, the movie, the comment section.
I never realised, but when I look back now, it seems I was going through this and used it as my defence mechanism to escape the pain I was going through. But now am over it and it was like going through a deaddiction process. Now I have learned to be in the present and live my life fully.
I love to daydream, but this is a reminder to get out and actually do something to make those dreams a reality. Thank you. :) (And I gotta watch the film!)