When Children Act Out | Dealing with Challenging Behaviors (feat. Tracy Schreifels)
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- čas přidán 11. 07. 2024
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Learn how to deal with a child who acts out during transitions. We use a role play example to clearly demonstrate interventions that can help manage acting out behaviors.
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I worry about my nephew doing this kind of behavior.
My sister was murdered and he was in the room so even though he is currently 3 years old I know there is trauma there.
I hope I can find him a local school like this so he can get the help he needs and hopefully work through the tragedy of losing his mom so young. Thanks for the insight!
Oh… I’m so sorry for your loss and that’s so horrible he had to go through that. I wish nothing more than light, healing, and happiness for you all, especially your nephew. I hope he finds a great community at school and has great support from teachers
my son is experiencing this type of behavior right now in pre-k. I am extremely overwhelmed and disheartend that this is my son doing this at school. His teachers do not know how to handle him at school. I have a meeting with them soon to discuss his behavior. This video is amazing. I will have to show them this. Thank you.
@Jessica Gutierrez they moved him to half-day pre-k because we agreed that he was not socially & emotionally prepared for full day even though he was up to date cognitively. He is doing amazing now. See if you can do the same :)
Love to see this conversation! Thanks for the comments, and for supporting each other in trying to get what your kiddos need. Sending my best to you both - I hope things have gotten better!
@@DeveloPlayLLC He digressed. I am completely lost and do not know what to do! 😪
I’m having the same issue with my son. It’s stressful not being able to understand what is going on with him.
I'm having issues with my child. She is in pre-k, and we moved her from full time days to full time half days. And these last few days have been so bad that school principal in now involved
This is SOOO HELPFUL. Thank you!!!
Really good strategies, however most challenging behaviours are not that easy to to work with.
great video... thanks for the demonstration
Awesome video! Going to use as a staff development tool for my teachers.
eye openeing about when kids open up about jail situations where it's confusing for them. That would be overwhlmeing, how are their parents bad. Having that safe area to explore and process through stuff is so powerful.
I love this. I'm foing to use this in my classroom.
As a parent with physical disabilities, my physical disabilities didn't occur until after pregnancy and postpartum. This creates a very tense situation for both caregiver, unable to extend themselves with pain , inability to get down and spend the energy, etc(even if controlled and cared for by drs oversight, flare ups occur often).
My son definitely tries to be in control, at 6. He continues to lay on the floor despite my attempts to help him, team work, explain that we have this amount of time and we already spent time on distractions and redirection...
I want my son to feel confident and be independent but he persistently refuses this independence, despite us being right there with him , it's "easier " for us to do it, but this doesn't help anyone especially for future situations.
Great video -- very relatable for parents out there!
Thanks for watching! Great to meet you over on WeCreateEdu! :)
I love this video! Have you ever worked with middle school children and made videos about their behaviors?
Great for daycare teachers. Used this many times
Glad to hear it!
this is solutions is good, but so ideal. the reality is there are more than 20 students in the class, and more than one students like this. being a teacher, you really really have no that much time to deal with one student like this. ....
I lovei it excellent presentation
This is kind of unique that a 14-year-old girl was role playing in this kind of classroom. It is NOT to judge her academic or behavioral ability. It is so she can give the idea how kids normally in their single-digit ages act when they get a little frustrated with the instructions that are given to them in class. Maybe she wants to be an elementary or kindergarten educator.
I could remember trying to conduct myself that way with my pops. It felt like 8 arms coming at me all at once. I never tried to behave that way again.
Wish all teachers could use this strategy …. Most don’t
This is fine and dandy when you have no other kids in the class
that's when you create a safe space/calm corner to send the child to when things get tough. Teach the kids what the corner is for and how to behave in that corner. Deal with the child when the other children are busy completing a task
Luna, I definitely appreciate when you've got a full classroom, it can be tough to spend this kind of time and energy with one kiddo. Taryn has some great suggestions here for ways to build some of these approaches into your classroom for the longer term. And in the meantime, just doing your best is the best you can do - and that's okay.
My child is having a hard time being in class with other classmates(Pre-K). He is often hitting them and nothing I do seems for help for a long period of time? Any other tips?
Thank you
Great for out of school hours care too- technique works with their activities too.
Absolutely!
2:06-2:29 - It makes me laugh and is very funny
Its funny because it actually happens lol
I would've love to see this done on a real kid ! Are we helping clean with every situation ?
Thanks for your comment! Yes, I agree it would be most helpful if we could film with a child that age, however for a variety of reasons, we weren't able to do that for this video series. We used cleaning as an example, but this kind of interaction can be applied to a variety of situations you might encounter where you're asking a child to engage in something they're resistant to for some reason.
What if you offer and suggest all those things and the child is still refusing?
How do you deal with that. Because trying to give them the choice, only to rip away their power to make that decision when they're not making "the right one" feels even worse than not giving them the choice in the first place.
The kids feel treated unfairly and to be honest I think they're in the right. But sometimes you just need to get things done. Do you have any tips?
Thanks for your comment - great question! My apologies for the long delay in my reply! I think the thing we sometimes need to reinforce with kiddos is that refusing is ALSO making a choice. Sometimes we only say - you have a choice of A, or B. But what we actually need to reinforce is that they have choice A, or B, OR they can refuse to make a choice which is really choice C, which results in a consequence.
It's also understanding that sometimes decision fatigue is REAL. Is this a case where a child is overwhelmed and having trouble making a choice? Are they being defiant to push boundaries and see what you'll do? For the first situation, you response might be "I see you're having trouble making this choice. Can I help you to choose?" For the second situation, it might be more like "I see you're choosing neither A or B. You can do choose neither, but here's what the consequence of not making a choice." That consequence isn't necessarily a punishment, but it's definitely not them getting whatever it is they want out of the situation. Does that make sense? I hope that's helpful (even though it's a really late reply!) 😬
@@DeveloPlayLLC No that makes sense. Thank You very much ☺️
@@DeveloPlayLLC Ok, late to this conversation but i had the same question! in my situation: Even after making it clear that there is a consequence to refusing to make the better choice, the child STILL says no. the child will say “i am not going to do *consequence* i am going to sit here and keep playing.” how do i redirect that? Because if i do something like- take them on a lap around the building to calm down, the other students see that as special treatment and not a consequence. this child will also refuse to take deep breaths in order to identify their feelings, they will refuse help with cleaning up. and now other students have fallen in his footsteps because he gets no real consequences. even calling the child’s mother to pick them up early is not a consequence because he does not enjoy being there without being able to do whatever he wants. i say hello to him every morning, say that i am happy to see him, ask him how he is feeling, and i validate his emotions every time he is frustrated. we even do group lessons on how to deal with anger. i am at a loss here. the mother does not give any context to the behavior so no luck there.
@@Sarah-lh4jm Sarah, this is happening a lot at the school where I work. You are definitely not alone. The problem I see is that there are no real consequences, which isn’t equipping these children for real life adults situations 🤷🏻♀️
They're over stimulated in those preschools. And, they're under supplied and under staffed. And everyone of these places have "teachers" using controlling techniques with negative tones.
Hello! Would you have feedback on a teacher making a newly 5 yr old girl pull up their pants after pottying for 33 minutes. The teacher said it took her 33 minutes to do it herself because she has to learn to do it herself, pull up her pants. The 5 year old is my daughter who has Trisomy 21 and is working on her fine motor skills. The teacher said she kept refusing. Then my daughter ended tearing up a classmates art work at their desk and threw her shoes. Ty
This is really tough, and I'm by no means an expert in Trisomy 21. I'd encourage continued conversations with the teacher about how your child's needs can be better met and supported as she's learning some of these motor tasks especially. I'm guessing tasks she finds harder are frustrating for your kiddo, and that may be some of what's contributing to her reactions. Focusing on ways to help reduce her frustration, while giving her a little extra help while she's learning to do some of the tasks that are more challenging may help.
@@DeveloPlayLLC Thank you! I guess they were using ABA with her and the hold demand method. We expressed that this type of behavior modification method not be done in this setting. Plus my daughter had just woke up from a nap and most likely was super tired. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to my comment.
We agree the teacher could use more effective strategies by assisting her and making the task easier so it can get done easier. It would be a win win situation. In our daycare we lessen the take, assist the child and get on with the day.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🚀 Understanding Children's Challenging Behaviors
01:09 🧰 Relationship-Based Approaches for Helping Children
02:04 🧒 Roleplay Example: Dealing with Transition Challenges
05:17 🏗️ Understanding Transition Challenges
06:54 🗝️ Addressing Trauma-Related Incarceration Play
07:23 🛠️ Resources and Support
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Maybe play together with the child and blocks before it’s time to put away.
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I was a bad kid and all it took was that look from my mom to behave quickly or a belt on my butt from my dad and ild never do that again! Today's problem is we cuddle kids! We are raising snowflakes.
Dude the reason why kids are like that is because they’re being hit. Never breed.
@@Peekabye I have 7 children and they are all grown . They where great kids and awesome grown up responsible adults! How bout you never breed! Troll
Pandering to the child again
As opposed to torturing them?