Challenging Childhood and Battling Depression with Ruby Wax | Happy Place Podcast

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  • čas přidán 28. 05. 2024
  • Have you noticed yourself repeating negative patterns of behaviour throughout your life? Comedian and best-selling author Ruby Wax has become aware she was doing this in order to feel safe after a tumultuous childhood.
    In this chat with Fearne, Ruby acknowledges that her depression will most likely always come back, but working to understand it means she has the tools to cope a little better each time it does. They also talk about why it’s so important for mental health that we allow people to be multi-faceted humans.
    You can pre-order Fearne’s new book Speak Your Truth here: amzn.to/2HwAkek
    Listen to the Happy Place podcast here podfollow.com/happyplace or you can watch it on CZcams here: bit.ly/3pSerHr
    ABOUT HAPPY PLACE
    Fearne's HAPPY PLACE is a place to celebrate honesty, authenticity and community. Fearne delves into life, love, loss and everything in-between by chatting to inspiring individuals who have made a change in their own lives or help other people to find different ways of seeing life as she reveals what happiness means to them.
    Happy Place is a space that is safe for all where difference is celebrated and the extraordinary is discovered. A place to focus on the positives and to help you find the joy every day - big or small.
    Still haven't subscribed to Fearne Cotton's Happy Place on CZcams? ► bit.ly/371zqza
    ABOUT FEARNE COTTON
    Fearne Cotton is an English television and radio presenter, mother, broadcaster, writer and founder of Happy Place, a place where Fearne holds difficult but important conversations to encourage self-care and self-appreciation, creating a positive impact on the world, giving everyone a voice and actively listening.
    CONNECT WITH FEARNE COTTON
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Komentáře • 68

  • @voulafisentzidis8830
    @voulafisentzidis8830 Před měsícem +6

    My understanding is that the voices in our heads telling us we're worthless, replace the negative voices of our parents or other adults around us, when we were growing up.
    I've not heard them since my midlife crisis 30 years ago. As part of my recovery, when I'd initially hear them, I'd thank them for sharing and respond that it's not quite that way. I've been the sanest I've ever been for 20 years.

  • @redcropuk
    @redcropuk Před 6 měsíci +9

    Didn’t know she’d had recent troubles and didn’t know she’d written a new book. I’ve just ordered a copy.
    I’ve read them all.
    Fern Cotton is a great interviewer, something else I didn’t know. Her ego doesn’t get in the way. Breath of fresh air.

  • @daniel11v33
    @daniel11v33 Před 9 měsíci +27

    Thoroughly interesting interview. Fascinating lady. I was intrigued by Ruby Wax in the 90's, still am. A person who you could sit down with and listen to for hours and be thoroughly entertained. Hope she finally conquers her demons and finds peace.

  • @1Thedairy
    @1Thedairy Před 8 měsíci +7

    I really like Ruby Wax as she’s so honest and funny. She has done very well to survive such a dysfunctional childhood.

  • @Lilaplaytime
    @Lilaplaytime Před 8 měsíci +8

    Have ptsd an bpd, living is so difficult 😞 I was meditating before an I am just going to surrender to my feelings instead of constantly fighting them, a bit like the 12 steps

  • @Catty_1133
    @Catty_1133 Před 8 měsíci +3

    That separation from being famous and looked after to having to then go to being on own sounds like the ptsd that ex soldiers experience after leaving army

  • @carolmccabe4359
    @carolmccabe4359 Před 9 měsíci +31

    Ruby is so transparent and human. I’m mad about her. Fearne let the convo flow …….

  • @dawnbowdich8992
    @dawnbowdich8992 Před měsícem +2

    I could listen to Ruby all day i find her so interesting.

  • @susancoffey419
    @susancoffey419 Před měsícem +1

    Simply brilliant interview. Ruby is a gem and so brave. Fearne is a revelation and the best interviewer. Thank you ladies.

  • @tinagriffiths7593
    @tinagriffiths7593 Před 8 měsíci +4

    Love Ruby Wax she’s so honest & strong which is so refreshing it just shows you how her parents damaged her as a child .

  • @lifeontheround
    @lifeontheround Před 8 měsíci +7

    So love Ruby. Tears of a clown like many comedians. Excellent, informative interview ❤

  • @lottiebutcher9711
    @lottiebutcher9711 Před 8 měsíci +11

    Thank you both. My Dad has battled depression for many years - we need to talk more openly about it to fight the stigma.

    • @charlie_says3841
      @charlie_says3841 Před 4 měsíci

      I'm sorry. Seeing someone you love suffering is so difficult. X

  • @rose_quartz_loveandlight
    @rose_quartz_loveandlight Před 9 měsíci +13

    love ruby so much, so sincere and talented ❤☺

  • @clarabow11
    @clarabow11 Před 16 dny +1

    Great interview with two strong women who are openly sharing their own lives and the conversation is so easy, such a flow. I've recently wondered about some of the great interviews I've seen and felt saddened by the fact that there is a big empty hole in the industry for people to interview, Fern , has really surprised me, what an interesting lady, such depth and sincerity in her way of interviewing. Ruby is heartfelt, real, broken yet unbroken, she opens up in such a way that she normalises depression and takes away the horror and shame of it. Ladies thank you for your honesty and being so utterly real. ❤️

    • @CJ-ft9yo
      @CJ-ft9yo Před dnem

      It annoyed me when Bill Bailey roasted her regarding his time on a music quiz as if she was nothing, but I’d never seen her before.

  • @sneshead3326
    @sneshead3326 Před 8 měsíci +3

    My mum loves Ruby Wax absolute legend!

  • @allan4054
    @allan4054 Před 9 měsíci +11

    I've got PTSD and bi polar and Anxiety.What keeps me as sane as possible is exercise. It works properly 70/80% of the time. Love your podcasts because you can always learn new techniques to keep on living the best possible life 💖

    • @dottieparker7274
      @dottieparker7274 Před 3 měsíci +1

      I don't exercise regularly at all, but whenever I've had little spurts of wanting to exercise and actually doing it, my mind felt SO much better in every single way. This needs to be talked about more often and openly. However, there's an awful lot of money making involved with improving mental health, and I sometimes this is purposely kept a secret so that people continue spending money on therapists and meds.

    • @Tawadeb
      @Tawadeb Před 7 dny

      ​@dottits true exercise is an antidepressant. ieparker7274

  • @happygoat28
    @happygoat28 Před 8 měsíci +9

    That was fantastic. Ruby's honesty and compassion touched me deeply.

  • @izindawo8363
    @izindawo8363 Před 8 měsíci +5

    Beautiful, honest convo between 2 resilient, real & gorgeous women!

  • @karentonks7581
    @karentonks7581 Před 8 měsíci +8

    Depression is not quite understood by mental health professionals in many ways

  • @helenamccullagh9553
    @helenamccullagh9553 Před 8 měsíci +7

    Ruby rocks. What an inspirational woman. ❤️

  • @simonjones3871
    @simonjones3871 Před měsícem +1

    Ace is the word ❤🌻♥️🌻♥️

  • @tehteh25
    @tehteh25 Před 9 měsíci +10

    she is sadly hilarious! a turly inspirational woman, thank you for this!

  • @ingridmagee
    @ingridmagee Před 8 měsíci +2

    I love Ruby. I loved her interviews too. So funny and asking questions normal people would ask. She is still so entertaining and seems so genuine.

  • @sallydacre438
    @sallydacre438 Před 8 měsíci +3

    That was so interesting. I can empathise with Ruby. I wish I could be so free.

  • @janegoodfellow1529
    @janegoodfellow1529 Před měsícem

    Incredible insight and self-awareness.
    I'm in that tribe.

  • @IrishSuzyAM
    @IrishSuzyAM Před 9 měsíci +6

    Great chat! Enjoyed attending Ruby Wax’s talk in Dublin this Summer and got my copy of her book signed too ✨😊

  • @railwaychristina3192
    @railwaychristina3192 Před 8 měsíci +5

    So many gifted comedians had depression..Tony Hancock Spike Millligan, Hattie Jacques.

  • @rms4406
    @rms4406 Před 24 dny

    I’ve done the TMS ruby. I didn’t finish my sessions but It
    Was helpful.
    It hurt so bad. It was as if someone was tattooing the left side of my head.
    And they map out how often the taps need to be done in a minute.
    EMDR is a whole
    Other thing. My brain has had a rough time with EMDR.
    My brain/body doesn’t want to touch the trauma that I somehow have managed to block out in order to stay alive.
    I’m gna buy your book.
    Thanks for bringing the awareness.

  • @haleemahsaida9772
    @haleemahsaida9772 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Fearne let ruby finish a thought!!!

  • @mathewhalpin
    @mathewhalpin Před 8 měsíci

    I loved Ruby as a kid and she is still wonderful!

  • @lisaharradine5208
    @lisaharradine5208 Před 8 měsíci +4

    Love Ruby 🥰

  • @teresamuriniti5026
    @teresamuriniti5026 Před měsícem

    Love Ruby, great interview, this young lady looks and sounds like Kate winslet🥰

  • @justinegowers6542
    @justinegowers6542 Před 8 měsíci +2

    i met ruby at wimbledon when she came with ben elton and jeffrey archer cx

  • @ambershepherd2389
    @ambershepherd2389 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Ruby Wax is such a magnificent woman x

  • @susangargett2185
    @susangargett2185 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Thank you ladies, just what I needed ❤

  • @spokeinsight
    @spokeinsight Před 8 měsíci +1

    Loved it! ❤

  • @normasarsby1350
    @normasarsby1350 Před 8 měsíci +3

    ❤ruby two

  • @shelaghward9621
    @shelaghward9621 Před 8 měsíci

    Such a great interview !

  • @patsyballantyne9886
    @patsyballantyne9886 Před 8 měsíci +3

    ❤Ruby

  • @phylliscove6919
    @phylliscove6919 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Amazing.intresting.❤

  • @wonderwoman5528
    @wonderwoman5528 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Ruby’s depression sounds like how Denise Welch described it; Extreme depression, debilitating and a serious illness that a human being could only go through once or twice in their lifetime

  • @ncurra
    @ncurra Před 8 měsíci

    Love Ruby Wax 😊

  • @Everyone_Everyone
    @Everyone_Everyone Před 8 měsíci

    I Love Ruby Wax ♥️ an amazing lady.

  • @railwaychristina3192
    @railwaychristina3192 Před 8 měsíci +3

    If it's not one thing it's your mother.

  • @sophieWright-di8xn
    @sophieWright-di8xn Před 8 měsíci +1

    I like ruby was nice lady great interview

  • @Tawadeb
    @Tawadeb Před 7 dny

    My mother treats me like an idiot too and always replaces me as a daughter.

  • @BrightEyes5555
    @BrightEyes5555 Před 8 měsíci

    If you get chance, see if you can interview Bruce Lipton. Another wonderful human who changes lives oh and Dr Joe Dispenza ❤

  • @bryan7938
    @bryan7938 Před 8 měsíci

    I’m in the UK so counselling and therapy are, in the mainstream, a new medium. I had loads but ended up being given psychodynamic psychotherapy. Like Ruby says, and they did warn me, my memories started to change. I know who abused me but I was starting to see other things which I knew were untrue but if they were….I didn’t want to know. So I left as I would’ve killed myself.

  • @rachelle88818
    @rachelle88818 Před 8 měsíci

    Does anyone know what poem she was referencing?

  • @centralviva
    @centralviva Před 6 měsíci

    Does anybody know the name of the poem that Ruby is speaking of starting at 18:15? Thanks

  • @aka44441
    @aka44441 Před 11 dny

    I sometimes wonder if the depression could also be linked to borderline autism ?!

  • @carolburke9153
    @carolburke9153 Před 8 měsíci +4

    I enjoyed listening to Ruby... no time for fearne cotton...

    • @BrightEyes5555
      @BrightEyes5555 Před 8 měsíci

      Why no time for Fearne? What are you thinking Carol?

  • @davidlee6720
    @davidlee6720 Před 8 měsíci +1

    it's obvious looking back knowing what we know now - Ruby gotta be a manic depressive - Remember her crazy skits- very funny but obviously on a high - counterbalance then to come down - no in between- no normality - suicide often the outcome - glad she has come through - such a nice person - my favorite comedienne - but what a price she has had to pay -

  • @sararichardson737
    @sararichardson737 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Sound quality on Fearne is yuk

  • @grai
    @grai Před 8 měsíci

    the mic is right in front of her face

  • @georginahartsuiker8812
    @georginahartsuiker8812 Před 8 měsíci

    ruby..you cool, but you should give more kindness to this lovely interviewer, less me me me