PARENTS CHOOSE THEIR NEW FAMILIES OVER ME | REDDIT

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[@ryuugaeisen8946]

When I was in grade 5, my parents got into a big argument, they had me go to my grandparents home. The next time I came back, they were already proceeding divorce, and had me pack up and leave the house. None of them even volunteered to have me stay at their place. And when I finally asked, they just look at each other if the other was willing. The alienation, as if I was neither their child. It's like they don't want to play house no more and that I wasn't needed. My mom only contacted me when I started senior year, and she was in a relationship then. She had no blood relations with her partner's children but was thinking buying them gifts so she could build good relations with them. She didn't get any for me since, just question how have u been, how's mom and dad... and the next time I met dad was at his 2nd wedding. I came early to attend, but the bride's side of the family asked me to sit at the farthest from the altar. I kept asking why but they wouldn't answer. I don't know why but it felt like my presence made them feel embarrassed, that I felt ashamed coming. They were saying I was ruining Dad's special occasion and it was better to leave.

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

Wow. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I've been through some similar stuff. I hope you get to heal and create your own loving family, if that's what you want. Regardless, I hope your present life and your future are full of the happiness you deserve.
If your egg and sperm donors try to contact you again in the future don't let them guilt you into anything, especially taking care of them or any kids they now have. They did not pour into you, they are not entitled for you to now pour into them.

[@jameslyons6655]

That sucks. I’m sorry you had to got through that. The only positive thing about it is that when you eventually encounter people who really love you and treat you right you will be able to recognize and appreciate them in ways other people never would. Hope things get better for you.

[@targaryenxmandi]

All I can say is damn. I know the feeling OP is experiencing as I am going through something similar minus being sent away when they're not wanted by either parent. My mother passed recently and I have two adopted sisters both over 21 now. I turn 35 in four days but I noticed how they treated me as well. I am one of my mom's biological children as well as my older brother. My sisters are adopted but their behavior has worsened two weeks after mom's passing. They act like I cause them problems by being there and I know my dad told me that no one argues when I'm not there. Dunno if this is similar to the teen OP here but I can sympathize and hope they're doing great with their aunt.

[@kevingriffin3628]

This story has a follow-up. The half-sister had medical issues & OP was a viable donor. Her aunt was talking about adoption. That was 4 yrs ago with no more updates. This is the kind of story you hope is fake because it is just too horrible.

[@tinaspice]

Think the comment about wanting a live in babysitter is spot on. I can see the selfish parents realizing their little ones are growing up and want the extra free help. Sad this happens.

[@3173alejandramartz]

Story1: dad got a new wife & family
Mom got a new husband and family.
It seems kinda logical that OP has gotten herself a new family too in her aunt.

[@grannydyess]

They didn’t want you because of their new families but got police involved when you ran away. Glad you went to live with aunt

[@grannydyess]

Keep very low contact with parents.

[@bodnica]

How terrible 😢

[@perryshaffer8358]

This is BS. If you're looking for problems with ANY relationship you can find them, no one is perfect. The fact that the OP portrays all the problems as originating with the parents is a clue that it's not really that way.
OP doesn't really need an excuse not to maintain a relationship with people with whom she doesn't live. There's less drama of course, but she could just be done by refusing any overtures. No need for a reason beyond 'I don't want to', no fuss, no muss.

[@ryuugaeisen8946]

Idk about u... I can relate to OP and sympathize...it's not that they were looking for problems, it's just that there were too many problems that outdid the good ones. Living with a broken family, both parents immediately went on their OWN two lives. When they should have also let the child adjust and move along with them. That's the problem, they were thinking about the lives they have to live. They didn't think about Op nor they wanted Op in the picture.

[@perryshaffer8358]

@@ryuugaeisen8946 All of which is reasonable.
The problem is that OP is not here to justify herself or get advice. Her mind is made up.
Then there's the whole laughable idea that her aunt can somehow keep her against her parents' will. That's not how that works. It might fly if the Ps agree, but once they change their mind, it's all over but the shouting.
This is a girl indulging in some wishful thinking.