Transactional Analysis Drivers. Which One Are You?
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- čas přidán 27. 06. 2024
- Are you one of those people that have to please others? Or maybe you need everything to be perfect? In the school of psychotherapy called Transactional Analysis or TA we call these aspects of your personality “drivers”. In this video I’ll explore the 5 personality drivers, explain how they develop, why they hinder autonomy and how to step out of them.
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🔵 CHAPTERS
0:00 Be Perfect Driver
2:14 Please Others Driver
3:15 Try Hard Driver
4:26 Be Strong Driver
5:25 Hurry Up Driver
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🔵 THE BE PERFECT DRIVER
Lucy is a chartered account, arrives to work early every day, is immaculately presented at all times and sets very hight standards for herself. As an accountant Lucy is in high demand as she has a reputation for producing accurate work, set to high standards and never misses a deadline. It sounds like the ‘be perfect’ driver is great but it’s not. Lucy is overly critical towards her co-workers, she is tense, exhausted and struggles with boundaries.
🔵 THE PLEASE OTHERS DRIVER
Mark manages a small care home for the elderly. Residents and staff think highly of him as he is very empathetic, tolerant and flexible. On his daily rounds of the care home he talks to all residents and staff to check they are happy and have no issues. On the down side Mark likes to gain the approval of others and doesn’t challenge anyone even if they break the care home rules. Mark never says ‘no’, allows people to interrupt him and lacks assertiveness. Mark’s please others driver is rooted in his early experiences.
🔵 THE TRY HARD DRIVER
Tracey is a school teacher, she is enthusiastic, gets involved in the after school activities and is the first to volunteer to run new projects. She is popular with her students and colleagues as she is always willing to help others. On the down side Tracey leaves work incomplete so she can move onto to another, more exciting project. Like all drivers, Tracey’s ‘try hard’ driver is rooted in her early experiences.
🔵 THE BE STRONG DRIVER
Kurt is a police officer and stays calm in situations such as road traffic accidents, arresting criminals and even working on murder cases. On the down side, Kurt really struggles with the emotional impact of policing but never asks for help. As a child he received the parental message ‘To be okay around here you have to be strong’. To break free of his be strong driver Kurt needs to remind himself, ‘It’s okay to show how I feel and be open about what I want’.
🔵 THE HURRY UP DRIVER
Christine is a project manager, she enjoys completing projects in the shortest possible time frame and seeks out the most efficient way to do work. She is know for being enthusiastic and action-oriented and often manages several different projects at a time. On the down side Christine is impatient, gets easily agitated and makes a lot of mistakes. To step out of the hurry up driver Christine needs to remind herself “I’m okay if I take my time’.
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Teresa Lewis is the founder and Director of Lewis Psychology and a Senior Accredited psychotherapist with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP Snr. Accred). Qualified in 1995, Teresa has been providing counselling and psychotherapy treatment for nearly 30 years. Teresa holds a masters degree in counselling and psychotherapy and is a qualified EMDR Practitioner having completed training accredited with EMDR Europe. Teresa is also a qualified adult educator and an accredited Mindfulness teacher As a recognised expert in her field Teresa is frequently asked to conduct editorial reviews and endorse counselling and psychotherapy books for international publishing houses.
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Be Perfect Driver
Be Strong Driver
Helpless, confused, critical, envious, Catholic single mother.
5 drivers:
Be perfect.
Please others.
Try harder
Be strong.
Hurry up.
I love being auto didactic and learning therapeutic measures to improve my life, emotional intelligence, and boundaries. This is empowering material that allows me to become a more self actualized individual, or at least have that goal. Or individuate, positively disintegrate, become enlightened, whatever you wanna call it. My ego likes to think about it like that anyway
Be Perfect driver has been hurting me since the day one as an artist. Im okay as i am is what ill be repeating. Thanks for a great video Teresa.
Thank you EMEK. Best wishes, Teresa.
I love being auto didactic and learning therapeutic measures to improve my life, emotional intelligence, and boundaries. This is empowering material that allows me to become a more self actualized individual, or at least have that goal. Or individuate, positively disintegrate, become enlightened, whatever you wanna call it. My ego likes to think about it like that anyway
Also helps me apply to JUNG & generalized mind matrixing
Oh wow. I'm all of these. I'd a terrible childhood. Only now in my 40's am I realising this and working towards uninstalling these drivers. Very helpful. Thanks again.
I’m sorry to hear about your terrible childhood Trevor. Although you can relate to all of the drivers you may find that you have one or two primary drivers. I hope this helps. Wishing you well, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology Thanks Teresa. Its all about finding the most dominant I suppose and working on each one.
@@come.tothinkoffit yes, there is usually one or two dominant drivers.
Your videos are the best! Clear and concise - thank you for creating and sharing
Thank you for your kind words Jayne. Best wishes, Teresa.
Wait. You just blew my mind. I have always had a tendency to not complete tasks. I was just telling someone that i subconsciously choose the harder way to do things.
How can I five more deeply into the try hard/harder driver?
Yes, drivers are called the mini script. For more information watch my video on Transactional Analysis life scripts. Best wishes, Teresa.
None of these are me. My driver is "go away"
I am coming back to TA, after taking the C-PTSD journey. Got a lot of help from a physiotherapist- who helped to get my breathing in order. Now in a better frame to think clearly- and to pick up on stuff that one only lay in the woolly wilderness of brain fog,,,.
It's great to hear you are coming back to TA, it's my favourite theoretical model. Very interesting that you used a 'bottom up' approach to tackle your CPTSD (working on the body first). I actually talk about this in my latest video which you might find of interest: czcams.com/video/9G2QUpHExjk/video.html Best wishes, Teresa.
Yes, this is the path on a healing journey, you were taking your power back by gaining tools to self heal. I believe in you and you matter, love you
You are awesome:-)
Thanks!
Thank you so much for your kind monetary support, greatly appreciated. Best wishes, Teresa.
With the be perfect driver, isn't it more of a double edge sword? How do you produce excellent work at an exceptional level while maintaining your well-being and avoiding the negative aspects of perfectionism?
All drivers are not helpful. Have a look at my video on the life script, this will explain in more detail. Best wishes, Teresa.
Great video, thank you for the clarity. I am wondering, how about having multiple drivers at play same time? How do one step out of multiple drivers?
Thank you. You may notice elements of each driver but you will have one primary driver. Best wishes, Teresa.
very nice video. I didnt understand how the "be perfect" driver hinders autonomy? I think I am that kind of driver and I do struggle with autonomy. Thank you
Thanks for your comment Rya Rya. Drivers develop from internalising messages from others. They are unconscious and kind of like a computer program running in the background. They operate from the Adapted Child ego state and an unhealthy ‘I’m not ok’ life position’. The idea is to step out of your driver and behave with more flexibility, freedom and self-governance. I hope this helps.
@@LewisPsychology yes , it does thank you
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How about all of the above.....
There are consequences.
And they aren't remotely enjoyable.
I have none of those drivers.
That’s great. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology Thanx🙂
I found these concepts in PCM. Would you like to make a video about it?😃
These concepts are from Transactional Analysis. What is PCM? Best wishes, Teresa.
Is it possible to have more than one driver, or even all of these?
You can have more than one driver but you will have one primary driver. I hope this answers your question. Best wishes, Teresa.