9 Reasons Why Highly Intelligent People Prefer To Be Alone
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- čas přidán 25. 06. 2024
- Why do smart people like being alone? There are several reasons why highly intelligent people prefer to be alone. Based on their habits, personality traits, and characteristics, it seems as though some individuals were born to be alone. In fact, studies suggest that the happier you are with less social interaction, the higher your IQ is.
Of course, just because you like to be alone doesn’t automatically mean you’re highly intelligent. Having a high IQ doesn’t mean that you are anti-social and completely avoid people. Similarly, if you like to hang out with friends doesn’t mean you have low intelligence. Nevertheless, these are interesting findings to consider.
This short video explains why very intelligent people prefer to be alone.
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Absolutely true. I am a 74 year old writer, and have spent most of my life alone. I feel lonely in a crowd, but totally at home when alone. I don't regret my life at all.
Hi Sarah. I'm a year older and a writer. I also still work every day building websites and online training. I love working from my home office. Guess I'll keep doing that as long as I still find it stimulating and rewarding.
@@dagordon1041 Morning D. A, I've been a writer since I was 42, my four books covering a wide range of topics. The first took me 22 years to complete, and the manuscript I'm working on now has taken me 7 so far. Still have a long way to go. Reading, research, writing, and evening needlework while listening to the classics and walks in the woods are my world.
@@greensprout65 Hi Sarah. You appear to have lived and continue to live a very rich and meaningful life. As Viktor Frankl observed, the crisis of modern man (and woman) is a crisis of meaning, life in an existential vacuum or, as Thoreau put it "the majority of men of all times have lived lives of quiet desperation."
I have mentioned here today Anthony Storr's book on Solitude which you might find interesting. Your needlework is probably a good exercise in mindfulness.
@@GordonSou Yes. I have read and reread Solitude. Somehow though it got lost in the move to this apartment. A book published twenty years ago is another favorite of mine - A Pelican in the Wilderness: Hermits, Solitaries, and Recluses. A grand collection of histories, writings, life experiences, poetry from solitaries all around the world, from the far East to Wordsworth, the Transcendentalists, and Thomas Merton. Just love this book. Each time I read it, new passages stand out. The first time, I knew nothing of Ivor Gurney, but now, after studying WW1 shell shock for the book I'm writing now, I understood him more. The opening quote from the Chinese hermit tradition sets the tone - My master went to gather herbs / He is still somewhere on the mountainside / So deep in the clouds I know not where.
I love being alone I can exhale relax and actually get a little excited that I have my peace....
Most of the stress in life comes from other people so spending time on your own is the best way to reduce stress. Being a lone wolf is wonderful.
But what if you are in a terrible situation and getting out of it alone is impossible
There are friends who geniunly care for us ,finding these friends requires luck ,but such friends are necessary
Well - maybe, but most friendships have become transactional and non reciprocal
@@rahulverma8774 What if, what if?? C'mon.
@@granthill2980 So u hv never faced situations when help of friends or family is important ??
I could not have stated it better.
I feel that when I socialize in a large setting, where tons of people are, I actually need time to recover from it afterward by being alone or with only one other person.
this video resonates with me because I am comfortable with myself, which a lot of people I know aren’t. I have been told by people that they don’t like themselves, aren’t ok with their own thoughts, get bored easily etc.
I can honestly say I don’t understand how anyone in this world who owns a smartphone could ever be bored. There’s always something to watch or read
I have to do the recovery time, too.
It is physically and emotionally exhausting to spend time in larger group settings.
I attribute it to tuning in to all the energy in the room.
I agree.. you can't mix low vibrations with high vibrations... They suck your energy to bring down your frequency. ENERGY VAMPIRES... even in crowded events, I find the quiet lonely place to protect my high vibrations. 🙏
A Kayfabe, exactly!!!
I agree, but would not label myself as highly intelligent. I get so tired of inane conversations, people endlessly talking about themselves or others. I'd like conversations where I learn something new, not how their uncles brew beer. Every now and again I stay in the house for two or three days because I simply can't put up with people.
@@jeannetteviviers9851 yeah I don’t know if I would call myself highly intelligent either, but I’m also not low intelligence. I just agree with much of this
Thanks for this. People think I'm weird for wanting to be alone all of the time. A little validation puts a smile on my face. 🙂
I know my parents keep forcing me to see new people and it annoys the hell out of me
that s a wrong perspective you do not need validation from other you actually do not care.... the validation is within yourself and comes from the things you do!!!
There's a huge difference between being alone and being lonely: one does not always equate with the other.
Katherine, That is so true! Sadly, there are some who cannot grasp that basic concept.
I live alone but am not lonely i own 2 dogs who are always there for me
@@dbc120 It's a good time in your life to get involved in the community. You are needed! One thing that is missing in our modern age is a reverence for age and experience. We seem to value youth and beauty over the beauty of experience. I say it's time to change that dynamic. Volunteer, my friend. Your community, and the world at large, need your voice and wisdom.
@@dbc120 It's a good time in your life to get involved in the community. You are needed! One thing that is missing in our modern age is a reverence for age and experience. We seem to value youth and beauty over the beauty of experience. I say it's time to change that dynamic. Volunteer, my friend. Your community, and the world at large, need your voice and wisdom.
@@derektaylor1527 I have 2 cats! And I've had enough "company" to last me 3 lifetimes. I value my solitude.
Being alone allows you to think objectively, without other people trying to influence you emotionally.
Exactly
Exactly! Explains why I get distracted easily when people are around
I’ve always fealt that if people saw how I did things they’d think I was odd! Simply because I’m a perfectionist and most people don’t think at that level
That’s right
Feel like an anomaly
This speaks to my soul, I wish the overwhelming majority wouldn't let their insecurities harass, ridicule, and terrorized intelligent ppl and let them live a life of quiet dignity🙏🏽
I've noticed, however, that more intelligent people also tend to deal with depression more often, but it's more existential. The state of the world, politics, human rights, and violence can cause more intelligent people to struggle with ways to solve these problems and/or cope with the issue, and if they cannot find a solution after what should be an acceptable amount of time, the anxiety and stress of the problem weighs on them and they have physical symptoms: insomnia, irritability, and often an inability to be tolerant of other people's bad behaviors.
True. I experience this
Agreed! Insightful
really well said storm
Very true ...
They also have insight into how people and society as a whole are manipulated to look in the wrong direction when it comes to who to blame, and as to where the solution lies, which can strain relationships when what seems prima facie to them is invisible to others.
This is surprisingly accurate. I like a calm no drama life, most people have lots of drama. I find it tiresome
Welcome to the intelligent club 😃
Guess they seek comfort knowing we are laid back my mother always said misery loves company. But most people need to fix their problems. Not us. We can and do love them and help if it's a dire situation. Most get themselves in a mess and as someone said being stupid. We have a brain we need to use it. Some people I truly have very low tolerance for. Just plain stupid things they do.
Bravo … agree… people w drama are draining
many in the mob need drama (or pink hair) to convince them they have a personality
Agreed!!!! 100%
It’s refreshing to hear that people who enjoy spending time alone are smart, rather than psychopathic! Society really gives loners a bad name and label.
I think it is because they are not smart enough to figure out that not everyone has to be like them. It is a very immature response to their own discomfort about the lifestyle.
I'm positive that this idea was put out into our society for a reason, and not a good reason.
@@garybrowning3574 They are basically ''Co-Dependant' on others to make them feel comfortable with themselves...
@@gwens5093
Sounds like you not understanding that not everyone has to be like you and enjoy constant socializing and being immature about it.
You insulted their intelligence then discredited and their way of living and feeling. You have plenty growing up to do yourself.
That is not what it said, you committed an obvious and common logical error in coming to that conclusion.
I don't consider myself to be highly intelligent, but I relate to a lot of these points. I like my space, my quiet, time to do my own things and focus on my hobbies and needs. I can just get up and travel or go where ever when ever, and I love that freedom.
I can relate to this. As a mother Even when my children were younger at the end of the day I just had to have my quiet time to be by myself and connect with my true self.
I fit into this category. My motto is "better to be alone than in bad company." I have friends but can only handle contact in moderation. Too many social commitments at a given time is a real drag for me.
When you’re alone you have a chance to listen to your higher self - your intuition - and that’s where ideas can come through like a light bulb turning on!
yes and eventually you and your higher self become You..no need to listen to it anymore because the gap between you and it closes
We are not better than others we just like our down time we need more than others. We don't like the hustle and bustle some others do..as one person posted we are tired of some annoying people. I also hate when I have to sit and listen to people who do not give one iota of care about me or my family or anything I go through and proof of this is as they say is in the pudding. Not one phone call no visits. And I've been at deaths door many times there is my answer .this is Why I love being a loner. My way to live my own life and be away and free from having to conform to their ways. Do as I please that's what I love about being a loner. Don't try to hurt others. Just answer for my self .love my time for my self. Most people do.too years out in the work field was accused of being on something was friendly happy .was not on drugs. Loved my job got a lot reward for it when others did not. I feel I've earned my.alone time. Working and longing so many years to be home. Love every minute of it. It's a jungle out there.
@@gayhutton2462 The biggest problem with going out in public is..... The public is there. 👍😎
Great to be alone living in own world iam gifted
Yes! And there’s nothing worse than spending time with shallow superficial people
Conversation is interesting, but most the time people are just making long boring statements about their new kitchen remodel, how fast they got somewhere in their car, their pets last cute thing, their lust for the next purchase of something, or the worst of all....some sports event. Shallow are those who lust for amusement, deep are they who muse.
Oh my stars! No kidding! I could puke every time someone begins with “ so and so…”! I don’t care!! Talk about something real or don’t talk at all, simple!
The worst!!!
@@WildernessMusic_GentleSerene “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss other people
@@goldendusty1951 Is this comment in agreement, an addition or a opposition?
It’s actually refreshing and revealing to see myself described so accurately in this video. I don’t feel any more or less “ intelligent” than anyone else, though. I just see the world a bit differently than others, I think. Maybe more than a bit, actually. And ironically, I don’t feel like a loner. I really do love people, just as this video describes. The reading part of this video had me laughing, as that is definitely “me”, also. Also, there’s zero ego in what I just wrote. I am just comfortable being me.
I'm exactly the same to be honest with you.
In general, there's a correlation with how intelligent people are and how self-sufficient they are. This includes being emotionally self-sufficient, which is tied to being self-validating. Integrated into this makeup is their greater ability to govern their emotions, which keeps their intellect-led thinking elevated and decreases the probability of a decision being made based on emotion-led thinking.
I have told family and friends in the past that I am not lonely, just because I am alone. I am content in my solitude. When I need to socialise I do, but don’t need other people around to be happy. As Jean-Paul Satre said “Hell is other people” and I have found that to be so true. Loving my own company keeps me sane.
It's hard to find common interest in conversation of science and intellectual topic's with family and friends as they are really not interested. The only things that we can discuss is normally sports. I love football and baseball and check out stats and facts everyday it's like I'm still in school for an hr. a day for sports. Then research another hour on my field of expertise and then work for seven hrs. sometimes more for our company. Then a couple of hours on entertainment TV. There are not enough hrs. in the day for me to meet all my objectives since I have aged. But I still know I love my family and took my grandson to his first MLB game and now giving him his first glove. Raising boys was fun and adventurist. I guess since I never had girls and now have a granddaughter I have to learn more. NEVER STOP LEARNING!!!
But Sartre so aptly coined it:
Hell Is Other People.
And no Time like Now...
This is the mantra my husband uses on a daily basis! I wish I could provide him with more. He’s still the best man, even when he ignores me.
_"I have found little 'good' about human beings. In my experience, most of them are trash."_
-Sigmund Freud
_“Earth is the insane asylum of the universe.”_
-Albert Einstein
_"I love mankind; it's people I can't stand."_
-Charles Schulz
@@emmabovary1228 I'm sure he's not ignoring you. Misunderstood.
I completely agree. Social settings can be draining and pointless most of the time. Most of the times there's nothing objective to socialize about. I find that solitude recharges my energy more than any kind of socializing.
I loath working in groups.....plz just let me do mine alone
This is cope. You're coping
I would love to work in a group, but they don’t get it. I end up having to do my work alone
I loved working in groups when it came to managing IT projects. Very complex stuff. Lots of high IQ types involved with different areas of expertise. Those projects can be very difficult, but I was a natural at figuring things out and working with groups of different experts to solve tough problems. It was a lot of fun for me. These days I like to watch How the Universe Works videos. I love the topic and the passion that the scientists have for their work.
Yes and what a lot of people (not all) call "socializing" is just gossip and I don't want any part of that
I fit into all of these traits - I just wish that I could encounter more like me. Too many people that I come into contact with are dolts.....even my family members.
Every one thought that I was weird (when I was a kid) because I would sit and read everything on the cereal box when I was eating breakfast - that is where it all
started. I now read almost everything I encounter. Later, during my working years, I found the job as a long-haul trucker, gave me the quiet and solitude that suited
me very well. Additionally, the adventure of being someplace different every day was good. I am now retired and live alone - in the country - away from people and noise.
I damn near chose the life of a rig-pig...I started out with long hauling horses 🐎 but then opportunity to set n live on rolling horse breeding farm pulled me another way, glad to hear ur life has been successful with what u mostly wanted...we r lucky few eh!?!!
Thats funny about reading everything on a cereal box. I remember I used to do the same thing.
It has taken me a lifetime to accept that I am different. When I was younger, I used to try to work with groups but it is frustrating to see that the group may not see all the issues of their action. I would then have to walk away. It has been useful to see other points of view and so long as I have highlighted the possible flaws in thinking it is easier to leave the group to learn from experience. Time is a great educator which has taught me to be confident in taking different courses of action.
me too, and, Im very very different
Beautiful. I love everything in this message.
This explains so much for me. I prefer to be alone and feel drained after being with people
Same. I get so excited to go to family get togethers, then end up leaving a couple hours into it, when everyone else stays. It is draining to make small talk, keep fake smiling the whole time. I feel relieved and at peace when I get home.
Same hete
We are high in introversion those of us like this. When you look for a mate, be sure to look for someone similar in this trait...extroverts will be frustrated leaving parties early etc they NEED that stimulation, we dont. I was with an extrovert who kept dragging me to things I didnt want to do. I love conversation, but only with intelligent thoughtful people and it is rare.
@@latinaalma1947 You are so on point. Its very rare to find people with high IQ.
I get depressed around people and my brain shuts down. I only really function alone.
I've battled being alone since I was a child. I always felt - different. Awkward in social interactions and avoid them at all costs. I've made so many plans to do something with friends and ended up cancelling at the last minute as I just didn't want to go. The closer it got to go, the higher my anxiety. Now I'm retired and I love the fact that I don't have to go anywhere if I don't want to. I've lost friends because of this and it made me sad but I'm much more happier being alone working in the garden, taking care of my animals, reflecting on myself and mistakes I've made along the way so I can be a better person. I enjoy just sitting with a cup of coffee watching the flowers bloom and hearing the birds singing, this is my peace. I always thought that maybe I had a mental condition of sorts, a personality disorder of some kind. Thank you for this video! It made me realize that it's OK to be like this. I wouldn't say that I'm highly intelligent but it's nice to hear it! LOL
I am a clinical psychologist Mary and can say with authority it is your personality and that is all!
Thank you! I feel better now! lol
I was also a people pleaser, not anymore I feel free to do what I want for a change. It’s my life now.
all i can say there so many things to work on which cannot be done when you have company
Hey, you are like my twin! I'm kinda socially awkward. Don't like groups and always have a different perspective and find few people that I can totally relate with. I have just retired and spend alot of time alone and gardening. When I still had my pets, they were everything to me. A highlight in my day is literally watching my plants and watching how the birds in my yard fly and play!
This is a good list of why I prefer my solitude. I've always been different and had a small social circle. Thanks for making this video.
I've chosen a life of quality over quantity...has been my saving grace thru out my life...n I was lucky to have successful career with animal husbandry...most of them r capable of unconditional love...once u experience that...u never go back to settling for anything less!?!!
Someone who understands the struggle is real.... It is hard knowing everything and still being surrounded by idiots all the time.
This is absolutely true. I've never needed to be with other people in order to feel "whole". I've always enjoyed my own company.
Back in 1993 people flipped out that I went to Australia by myself. Believe me, I had a blast. I didn't have to argue with someone on what to do on a certain day.
I've done a number of driving vacations by myself. With no one there to argue with or disrupt my plans, I had a very good time.
@@jefffuller9918
I need my alone time, but don’t like traveling alone. I thinks it’s more of a security thing with me though; I don’t always feel safe alone. I imagine that might not be such an issue with men though.
But do you feel highly intelligent
I am now 71. I have been this way all of my life.
This felt like being seen for the first time in a while. Even as a child, I preferred being alone or with one good friend. That's my husband, now. I found lockdown to be so comfortable, and quiet. I know lots of people were anxious, bored, lonely, depressed and I couldn't relate. So much fullness in life comes from solitude and I can't imagine being bored, honestly.
Idk if your a believer but I truly believe a lot of people reconnected with GOD and some for the first time.
It's much, much easier to hear the voice of I AM THAT I AM in a calm, peaceful, quite environment.
Relate to you 100%. People exhaust me and lockdown was a blessing.
Same. Im an only child and have one child. I tend to attract social ppl tho and they dont understand my homebody nature because they met me out once. Smh im heavy on leave me alone
My wife and I have always been solitary. This gave us a lot of time to read. It wasn't a change from our normal behavior.
I agree. I always have preferred being alone and just despise large crowds. Ironically, for decades I’ve played guitar in bands in front of large crowds and that’s one of the most satisfying things I’ve done. But I was never into the after-parties. Once the show’s over, I’m gone. Back to my studio to work on more music until the wee hours. Alone.
My “social life” is 8 hours with co-workers and that’s about all the social interaction I can tolerate every day. Maybe a few beers with a couple guys after work, but I secretly just want to go home and read a book or do my arts.
Every sport I’ve been into was an individual sport. Surfing, fishing, hangliding, martial arts, hiking, camping, etc. Never been on any “team”.
If I “win” at what I’m doing, I earned all the credit. If I “lose” at what I’m doing, I’m solely responsible for that.
I’ve had a few surfing partners and fishing partners and partners who shared a common interest but we are still individuals in it.
My idea of company, involves one other person. The old, “Two’s company, three’s a crowd” philosophy.
My girlfriends have always liked my style in that all my attention is saved for them. I don’t get distracted by other people and don’t like social gatherings, so there’s nothing but eachother to share.
I’m sure you’ve had friends call and ask what you’re doing, and you say “nothing” and they feel sorry for how bored you must be and want to come over. Nope. I’m never bored when I’m alone. I get bored of other people very quickly though.
I agree with almost everything mentioned here. Yes, I am a loner, and I thoroughly enjoy my life. I guess I am as intelligent as the next guy but my advice to people is to live in the moment, don't grasp and clutch at things in life, just be in the moment because that's all we have, this present moment!
I'm having a difficult time with this. People tell me I'm intelligent. I don't think I am. I just listen and learn. Yes I prefer to be alone, but it's because people don't understand me. I'm dyslexic, so I automatically have a different thinking process. I rarely sleep. I think too much about things.
Thank you for undergoing my ranting.
Love you all ❤️❤️
I’ve wondered for the longest time why I wasn’t like most of my friends. I’ve tried to be more involved with others, be more extroverted but ultimately it was too exhausting trying to be someone I’m not. These days, I’m just comfortable in my own company , doing things at my own pace and enjoying myself. Never been happier. ✌🏻
Wow, this sounds amazing.
@@jamesweymouth652 reading you guys' comments is like receiving a big, warm hug.
Wauw! Yes exact same story here!
Same with me
Now I understood why the Lockdown from the Pandemics did not bother me at all.
Hooray!
Yes I’d rather be alone than to be with friends even when I was younger.
I can relate to what you wrote!
..Ditto....
@Biology Discussions Experienced similar situations myself!
We prefer to not be forced to converse with others so mercifully free from the ravages of intelligence.
@@justicegusting2476 Great way to put it!!
This nailed me on every point! Each point kept shocking me, and when the one about late nights came up, I could’ve been blown down. I always have done my most surprising work like between midnight and maybe 3 or 4 am. Many of my very best papers in grad school were filled with things I came up with not during an evening, but in the early morning hours while everyone else is sleeping.
Sadly, having alcoholic spouse requires early to bed and up at 4AM. Affords me 12 sanctuary hours per day.
The part about being up late at night. Hit me. The most as well. Thanks for your post.
Yes, I most certainly do like spending more time by myself! I find average people's perspective on things somewhat naive and incomplete. In addition, I was raised in hyper intelligent family and taught manners and respect. I go CRAZY with people who are crude and insensitive. Getting much older now, I find myself wanting to learn more as my mobility has decreased and spend lots of time reading news, viewing documentaries and things on CZcams and other streaming media. I'm always thrilled when I do learn something new. It doesn't really matter what others think of what I do, only that I approve of it. As I've gotten older I'm far more compassionate than I used to be, but really get angry when someone is cruel and insensitive to others! Excellent video guys, it describes me perfectly!
Being alone allows you to make all the mistakes you need to make in order to fulfill your purpose well without anyone carping about them. It doesn’t matter what your purpose is; what is important is that you have one. Purpose allows you to overcome loss, sadness,, disappointment, even death. For an old person, just making your bed and watering your plants can be a purpose. Being alone allows you to fulfill that purpose at your own pace, to reflect upon what you are doing, and to learn who you really are if you are honest with yourself. There is no way you can buy this freedom. It is not for sale.
Well said; and true.
Beautifully said!
I love you for this… you get me so thank you
I agree, I live alone, cooking different types of food, I can experiment with seasoning of my food that I enjoy.
I don't care for going out to restaurants like I use to.
When I was in my 20s I depended others for cooking not now.
Freedom is great!!
As humans we're not abandoned with the soul responsibility of making a purpose of life , the creator, the almighty God himself has already designed a purpose for us , and identifying such purpose and living on it is sufficient for maximum peace of mind . We're not just created for no reason. And the result of sticking to our purpose is way beyond this world we are living.
I love being alone, it's so incredibly freeing. And when I'm with friends, while I enjoy their company, I look forward to coming home and enjoying my own time. I don't understand how people need to be in the company of others almost constantly, it's really weird to me, and honestly seems unhealthy. I'm incredibly grateful to enjoy my happy freedom to be alone whenever I want to, which is often.
Agreed. I find that I'm happiest with my own company and really only associate with people when absolutely necessary. I am rarely ever bored. I love to read alot too.
Ann: So nice when my male friends finally go home, especially the romantically inclined ones! I spend the whole time counting the minutes.
@@littleaussierippa Have you ever seen “When Harry Met Sally?” I’m the female version of Billy Crystal in bed having his leg touching the floor wondering how soon he can leave!
It’s cool you enjoy being alone but that doesn’t render another that likes companionship as unhealthy and weird. Introverts are more sensitive to dopamine. Extroverts have more dopamine receptors. When we engage with another human we release dopamine.
@@littleaussierippa fck.... Same here.
I thrive when I'm alone. I could go weeks or longer without seeing or talking to others. I don't even like going to town for groceries, and will only go when I absolutely need to re-supply. I'm happy and content being alone. I agree with most of this list.
I’m so emotional I pick up people’s feelings and pain and i take it with me.
Thank you for the video it reminds me that I’m not crazy it’s just people cannot see what’s around them or what’s happening or even read someone’s face. It’s really debilitating and I haven’t learned how to have their feelings bounce off back to them they just instantly overwhelm me and I feel like I’m in their situation. Super big empath I try to help everyone before myself and I am still considered weird and it’s OK because one day soon they will see that maybe I wasn’t so weird it worked to my advantage
I don't consider myself highly intelligent but this list describes myself. I like to socialize occasionally with just a few good friends or family members. I prefer to be by myself especially at work cause it's rare to find co-workers who are sincere and supportive.
Those who consider themselves highly intelligent , usually aren’t ; they are just trying to validate their importance. Those who belittle others, want to make themselves look superior. Intelligent people don’t feel the need to do that or boast . YOU show ALL the signs of someone with great intelligence and self worth.
@@kalintini yes, Elon musk does and so Bill gate , mark zuckerbergand zeff bezo , to name a few They think they are the smartest and they really are. When people are smart they know they are and proud of themselves. Some say it out some remain quiet
You are smart and so many others. That's the common traits of smart people. Smart doesn't need to have a degree. Any class in society can be smart without highly educated. It's in the brain and Gene
@@Hippy2021 Actually @krnvalentini is right.. There are people who do learn something new and insightful then think they're so smart but still ignorant the vastness of knowledge they don't know. It becomes very humbling the more you realize this. That's why people who "others" consider as smart just don't care enough about being smart to boast it because it's so childish. Sometimes "rich" people say smart things just to point out the faulty or difference in thinking of the other party, it depends on their political agenda regardless if they are truly smart or not. But Elon (for example) himself says he has to work hard just to not to be wrong. So he does have some credit albeit I think it's a bit overhyped.
Guess what you are highly intelligent
When I was a boy, I once overheard my grandmother describe me as "always been a loner." She said it in a disparaging tone, as though it was a character flaw. I wish she could have seen this video.
Don't feel bad bro
My Gma used to tell everyone the same shit about me but she would say it in a bragging manner. She would say, “he likes to be alone leave him alone he doesn’t like a lot of noise.” It’s weird cuz that’s exactly how I am. Don’t feel bad, she just had trouble with communicating bro.
A lot of creative geniuses in history are loners, which gives them the traits mentioned in this video.
My grandmother was troubled by my being alone.......If only she had known this.....
It’s definitely not a flaw ! People can get uncomfortable being around people who are sure of themselves . My own mother gripes about me wanting to be less social then most people . She would say some negative things about me . Which is not true . I’m just happier this way , I don’t need attention , I don’t care what people think of me . I’m sure of myself and that’s all that matters for me .
I thought everyone was like this. I keep forgetting they aren't. It doesn't make sense to be other than this way. I cherish my late in the day/night time to work things out, understand, settle, explore, and research something new. Its comforting... until my wife says I broke my promise and stayed up late again. So now I often have to go to bed, close my eyes, and spend time with myself undetected. My wife is very social and knows everyone's names, their kids names, and who had a cold 5 years ago. She thinks I don't care about other people, but it's not true. I do. I just don't want to spend time with that level of detail. Oh well.
I love my alone time and always knew I was basically a genius, so this is just the confirmation I needed. I'm going to share this with all my friends and family so they can eliminate any doubt about exactly how smart I am. Super smart!!
Love being alone. People have constant self-drama they create, and are in denial of that self-creation. Majority are not intelligent with repeating same situations and expecting a different result. They are exhausting. Prefer peace and serenity.
there are alot of rude people in this world 🌎
So well said!
Did I ever tell you the definitiom of insanity? It's doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
@@ricardolozano5356 Lots of dumb people, too.
Absolutely. That and as the video said, it seems modern society is obsessed with social acceptance. Going out of their way to make everybody like them. Whereas, I truthfully could care less and I was like that as a kid. I’d much rather have a few good friends then a ton of drama from a bunch of them.
I think there are 2 things at play here. Intelligence and maturity. At my younger age, I liked to be with friends a lot. But in the last 1/3 of my life, I embrace solitude. I still enjoy others, but have solid boundaries where I did not when I was younger. So I guess there are two ways to view this. I don’t consider myself intelligent, just smart and mature.
I get your point, but in my opinion, maturity and intelligence are not two distinctive topics, as you suggest. I think they go hand in hand. Intelligence grows as you mature. It has to do with the connections in your brains. If you decide to give your mind good input, your brains will grow and that makes you both more mature and intelligent. On the other hand, if you feed your brains with mind numbing material such as soap series on tv, that will kill your brains and you start acting more and more like a baby, only responding on your circumstances without reflection, and your intelligence will drop overtime.
I believe this video is talking about a select group of people who *always* value alone time despite age, maturity, etc.
I couldn't have said it better myself! Maturity and boundaries bring security within yourself; I wish it hadn't taken me so many years of strife to reach that place of peace--God helped me get there!
@@emkepeterson5984 Well said!
Very accurate I can relate to that
IDK if I'm intelligent, but I love being alone. I totally agree with the 9 reasons 100%. Every reason you gave for being alone is why I love being alone. I love my family and friends but I need my alone time. It's a must. I also have just so many words to use in the day and once they are used up, I'm done talking. Nothing personal, just the way I am. I'm a thinker. I love to think and read and educate myself. Especially history and culture.
I found this video insightful. I love being alone. I never thought of it as me having a high IQ. I have older half brothers & sisters but I wasn’t raised around them. It was always me, my mom & dad. I enjoyed keeping myself entertained as a child. Now as an adult I crave being alone, so much so that it does interfere with personal relationships.
I love being alone!! So much so that I don’t even want a relationship! I travel alone, watch movies alone… it’s such a wonderful feeling 😌
Same boat as y'all. A great resource is found searching "16personalities" and no, this is not an ad. My lil sis had me take that personality test. I didn't take it seriously till a few months later. Then went back and read through all the pages in detail. Its insane how precisely it placed me, and accurately named everything I've experienced, and my preferences and habits, good and bad. Placed me as an INTP and it could not have been more accurate.
There has to be a balance. I prefer to be alone but occasionally with people, also as long as there's no drama.
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I enjoyed this, and laughed out loud at the sleep cycles one. I love staying up late and sleep in and also nap during the day. At night it is quiet and I can read and think and be undisturbed, uninterrupted. I think one thing the video was perhaps too polite to mention is that a lot of social interaction is simply not interesting, or mentally stimulating. People talk about their mundane lives, what they like and dislike, and a lot of it seems designed to enhance their ego. Also, you can have a very rich and active inner life that is largely non-verbal, and people talking talking talking can be a bit mind numbing and exhausting.
Definitely.
A favorite past time of my Wife and myself may seem weird to some and not to others
On some warm or slightly cool nights we like to take a blanket out into the back yard and place it by the lake.
We'll stretch out and enjoy a close cuddle while talking about anything or nothing at all, or just enjoying the peaceful sounds of nature.
And on occasion we will laugh at ourselves if we just happen to nod off and are awakened by the rising sun all covered in morning dew.
That's what we call relaxation.
Lol
At work, i get criticized for trying to find a quiet place to read at lunchtime. But it is so draining to sit in a room of people talking about the latest episode of 'the Bachelor' or some other useless TV show, or gossiping about other coworkers.
Absolutely True. You said exactly the things I was thinking.
I feel that a large percentage of the population uses about half or more of their brain filling it up with what I call social knowledge. Detail after detail of everyone in their lives and how they interact with them etc. etc. Rather than actually using their brains to learn useful information for actually accomplishing something, moving forward in their lives, educating themselves, becoming an expert in one or more things. Or just to be interesting people to talk to about subjects of substance. If I am around such people I get bored really quickly. Yes some social skills are necessary, but people of average or below average intelligence tend to stay in that frame since that is about all they can really process. I don't thumb my nose down at them like I am some superior human being, because being contemplative I am well aware of my flaws, but I am just on a different level and it is easier to cope being alone.
On a few side notes, I don't like people making rash judgments about me just by looking at me or interacting with me, without them really having a clue what is going on inside of me, in my body in terms of health, in my mind, in my heart, in my soul. I am the result of a very unique set of experiences that have made me in some ways how I am, and they really don't have a clue. They don't have any past frame of reference to "figure me out" because they have never met anyone like me, not even close. I also absolutely don't like people telling me what to do. Or what to say or not. And yes, I do most of my best thinking late at night, and get up late and nap during the day, now that I am retired and don't have to keep a day job schedule. Was also that way in college.
hanging out with my friends is mad stressful to me. theres only 1 or 2 friends i have that don't totally drain me when we're hanging out
The key is learning to accept and enjoy your own company. Being introverted and preferring to be alone but feeling overwhelming emptiness and restlessness as a side effective is something that needs to be overcame
This is so true. People with mediocre intellectual capacity can never handle being by themselves. I personally spend 95% of my time alone... by choice.
I WISH I could say the same. I've got persistent neighbors/friends who just. don't. get it.
LOL, I see you consider yourself highly intelligent, even more so than others. Interesting. Intelligent people actually recognize the intelligence in others and respects that. Lack of knowledge isn't lack of intelligence.
I've arranged my life so that when I want to be around others, I can and when I want to be by myself (which is also 95% of the time), I can do that too. My own peace of mind is the most important thing to me.
_"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."_
-Agnes Repplier
@@tans3015- Generally, I’ve found that the more I learn, the more I realize how little I know... That’s why being social is important, to a degree. Otherwise, the more one studies and learns, it can create feelings of agitation and frustration.
The Duke of Talleyrand described it most eloquently:
*”When I examine myself, I worry. When I compare myself... I am assured.”*
*- Charles-Maurice de Talleyrand-Périgord*
Me too!
The number 1 benefit of being a night owl is how quiet, calm, and relaxed you can be at your peak alertness time. The fact that you are not going to be bothered by anyone and the only ones who could potentially try to reach you are like minded people who are very likely to understand your methods is just incredible. Every other point on the list is spot on, just wanted to make a point about this particular mattter.
The same could be said of early risers.
I disagree. Early morning is best for me 4:30 - 8:00 am is my time when I contemplate and make my decisions
@@tans3015 it’s very easy to change that verb to highly sensitive people .. can anybody give me a definitive answer to what is intelligence . Having to lump myself into high intelligence to comment favourably on this video is a mistake .. but I’m sure it was done with intention .
I don't claim intelligence of any degree but I am most creative at night.... and busy.. I fall asleep about 4 -5 AM.
@@OOICU812 sure, but early risers will be under pressure to get their productive day started, shower, get ready, so once the world is going they're ready to join. As a night owl your only concern is when you go to sleep.
I too have always been a loner. I don’t have a need for anyone so don’t bother with people.
I would go as far as to say that the past few years of the pandemic haven’t affected me as much as most people. I am very strong without company.
Pretty much spells our my life. 71 now and still going strong. What few friends I do have I dont interact with all that much, because they have a hard time understanding on my level. It wasn't until I went to college and my Engineering Professor explained it to me and helped me understand why I get so frustrated with being in large groups. He said my 3 dimensional thoughts process are a rare gift. I have a 3000 square foot machine shop / labritory behind my home and that's where I prefer to be. And with music playing I am comfortable out there for hours on end by myself. I build some very unique stuff out there. My wife spent her career teaching gifted students, so she understands it.
Agree 100%. Intelligent people are usually less impulsive, thoughtful, weighing out the ramifications of their decisions/actions before coming to conclusions. And to do that, you need lots of “me time.“ I love my own thing, my own routines, and my own company. I’m comfortable in my solitude. Great video, thanks.
It's often mentioned that such individuals are more prone to depression from being able to work out clear solutions to world problems, but finding human incompetence or ego at every institution.
The best thing you can do, which you've probably already done, is explore your own ego and crawl through broken glass to keep it from developing vain self-importance.
Peace is just around the corner of self-deprecating humor.
Dont agree with 'less impulsive". Creativity is nearly that.
But living with others is a skill; if you don’t practice it you can become irritable and more impulsive if they come around. I guess the key is to be with high quality people
Agreed. It's interesting to me that so many intellectuals are chess players, which requires
a lot of thought to create a winning strategy and to implement it against a strong opponent.
Not having to fit in to another person routine is WONDERFUL!!
I love being alone because I get frustrated if I have to deal with people for too long especially if they keep interrupting my thoughts. I feel I'm at my best and get the most done when I'm alone especially at night. Great video, thanks!
I don't exactly consider myself to be a genius, but I can relate to this 100%.
Every time I've tried to be part of a social circle I've ended up walking away. If you're the kind of person who keeps a lot to themselves and is private, so-called "normal" people who love to wear their hearts on their sleeves and discuss everything openly invariably clash with you. I think the problem is that such people don't fully understand or respect the privacy of the introvert and so when you're not telling people stuff about yourself, they arrogantly start filling in the blanks with unwelcome speculation and gossip, almost in a "well if you don't tell us these things we're just going to fabricate them ourselves" kind of attitude. I hate it. I always, always clash with the kind of nosy people who think it's their God given right to poke and prod even when you're giving them all the signs that you don't appreciate it. I also hate how if you don't abide by whatever arbitrary social conventions they've decided upon, they try to paint you as an asshole. For instance, some people love going back and forth endlessly by text, almost like it's a real time conversation. I don't do that and will sometimes leave texts for hours, not feeling any obligation to answer them ASAP (unless it's an emergency). Conventional people get annoyed with this and act like you're being rude.
I learned to call it "my perrsonality has past the point of being pleasant" excuse to forewarn/explain why I will not be tied to my technology...esp when dealing with the whiny/princesses of the world attempting to guilt/manipulate u/me!?!!
I can relate to this very strongly. Even as a teenager I just preferred my own company. I found that my mates just were not thinking on the same level as myself and I don't intend for that to come off as condescending. My interests were always seeking KNOWLEDGE and soaking up as much information as possible. I'm a reader. I LOVE reading and Art, history etc.... I found that most people I've come across just don't seem to have nothing in terms of conversation that stimulates me. I only related to adults as a boy because they had a wealth of knowledge, experience and wisdom to impart. And now as a man I'm grateful for that. I never feel lonely because I'm quite fine with enjoying a good book and outdoor activities . Not anti social ( I have a lady friend) but very selective with whom I interact. And let's face it, in today's society a lot of people just bring too much negative vibes and baggage.
Well said
Me too
A book lover? There's someone after my own heart.
The way you are, it is the way go. Your thoughts have also described me. Take care my friend!
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“The thing about smart people is that they seem like crazy people to dumb people.”
-Dr. Stephen Hawking
Oh ya
But everyone looks crazy to someone so I guess were all geniuses
-Albert Einstein
I relate so much to this. I'm happier when I am by myself, doing whatever I want, reading, studying, writing, etc. People in general, create "noise" that I simply don't care about.
When you are very intelligent, statistically there is a higher probability to be in the presence of less intelligent people. There is little reward in such company, better be alone. However intelligent people are eager to engage with other intelligent people.
So true!! 👍🌹
Absolutely! All the so-called "friends" I had yakked too much, were less intelligent, and turned out to be users anyway. No wonder I cannot connect with most women. Both my husband and I met & married later in life, which is just fine; less pressure from others to have children (too much anymore). We pamper each other & our cat. Ideal situation for us...
Agreed !
@@christyviolet926 so how many true / good friends do you have ? And how many name sake ones ?
@@AYNTK9 Only a couple of them; my husband is the main one.
I am Kenyan young man, I like being alone to the point other thinks I am crazy, but as you say I rarely don't care because I am validated by what I do in private like reading philosophy, watching documentaries, and seeking enlightenment like crazy!
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I’m a loner just been through a lot.. but I was also a psychology major and people are not meant to be alone. There are studies that show people have a higher stress when they’re alone.
There is a lot of cofitmation bias going on in the comments. For all these " highly intelligent " people thats surprising.
Then you understand the concept of projection.
@@2anthro What are you referring to?
I enjoy company with others but also like my own space. Having control of your own space is paramount.
I have been alone pretty much all my life...parents that were best avoided, a workaholic husband who was rarely home, self employed, traveled solo for 5-7 months...I always had lots of projects, put myself through University rather than socializes with housewives. I qualified for Mensa but didn't join. I live in Mexico and have joined into groups to meet people but most just aren't worth spending much time with. I much prefer my own company; the internet offers unlimited research into everything. Being able to live alone is actually very productive.
How old are you ? And what do you do in your idle time ?
We are each other's treasured companion.
"No man is an island."
I sincerely believe so.
I value the presence of my family,friends and "foe".
Their presence "grind" me from my "callous"
behaviour, I learn from them and with them.
I value their presence.
I try to live a harmonious life with them, specially my own personal family.
100% Accuracy and truth. You literally just perfectly explained me...I am so misunderstood by family, friends and co-workers and this video literally described every aspect of my being in 6 minutes. Wow.
I thought they've been watching me, then they made this video. Even the hair dye matches
@@leihejun844 Me too--... never bored ... i want be alone most times ... and early morning is best part of day... just nature, woods and birds,,, This is wonderful life,
Don't worry, 99% of the people in this world feel like you each time they watch this type of video. And most of them are stubburn, not very bright, boring and bored. If you have friends, it means that you are understood by someone. And family issues are extremely common on this planet...
Awesome! Me too. It feels so good to be understood.
@@janjakolic3252 100%
I agree with this info. I socialize when the mood hits me. When I’m alone I’m not lonely
I’ve always enjoyed just being by myself . I was married back in the 90s for less than a year . I’m almost 50 and I enjoy every single minute by myself .
It makes it a lot easier just to avoid certain people altogether
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For many of us older introverts, we often find it frustrating/irritating watching the devolution of humanity. I was more extroverted as a young person, but now frustrated at the lack of respect humans give to themselves and others. It’s only recently that I taught myself how to draw and now I only venture out when needed. Dan would rather not even be bothered. ✌🏽🦋🧘🏽
Rather than "devolution of humanity" shouldn't it be the decline of humanity?
@@saintnash1 For me devolution has always meant "the movement of power or responsibility from one person or group to another:"
it's funny, when I was younger I tended to be a MUCH more outgoing, loud, abrasive, YOLO type. Then I grew up. And I discovered the _real_ me: much more introverted, introspective, think a lot, read a lot, my life exists mostly between my ears. Sadly finding others of a like mindset/similar hobbies is next to impossible, plus I tend to be drawn toward extroverts or more livelier people (opposites attract?), so even most of my friends aren't like me. But I wholeheartedly agree about the devolution of humanity. Like a slow-mo train wreck from which you can't look away. Technology was supposed to expand our minds, make us reach for all that is excellent, and make us strive for the better good of all. Instead we've become small-minded, shrill, shrieking, sex-obsessed, hateful armchair quarterbacks about any and every issue. God help us all.
@@saintnash1 I’m as dumb as they come and no one likes me. Does that mean I am intelligent in a different way?
It's not so much I want to be a loner, I have to be. I do not belong in this world. I'm an intelligent person who's forced to live in a stupid world. I've had the police called on me over innocent misunderstandings. I'm seen as a social misfit and people make fun of me. People do not understand my sense of humor. People are scared of me because I'm smarter than they are. Most of all, I cannot fit in with everybody else, because in various situations, nobody understands where I'm coming from or my ways of looking at things. Women shy away from me, too. My so-called father Herb was jealous of me, because I was smarter than he was. Teachers in school paddled me left and right
I love being alone. You described me in those 9 reasons. From a young age I read everything I could, even Chaucer, (updating one of his poems to modern English out of curiosity what it would sound like -- terrible). I often find late at night a hugh time of reflection, especially if I have been mulling something around in my head for a while. Being married is wonderful & a challenge as someone who enjoys the peacefulness of aloneness. Thanks for the video.
"I owe my solitude to other people." - Alan Watts
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So true on all of this, and also I would rather be alone than with most people because they are just not at the level of thinking as I am and it becomes very frustrating when you can't communicate with like minded people. When a topic is being talked about that you know very well and they just don't know much about, and you try to tell them the truth, they get offended. So most of the time I stay quiet when people are talking out their ass. it's very frustrating, ...I'd rather be alone and not have to deal with it.
I so wish I could stay quiet. It would have saved me a lot of grief. When people never get things that are absolutely obvious to me I get sooo annoyed. And, I get annoyed because this happens all the time. I don't know anyone who's on my so called "level of thinking" so I'm always frustrated. Makes me want to be alone so I don't have do deal with unnessessary drama. The endless dramas that people pull me into drains me of all energy and it's such a waste of precious time.
In Utah, there were actually people I could Talk to on the same level. I made a huge mistake and moved to southern Indiana. You can hear crickets in attempted conversations. I have to get out of here.
my thoughts exactly....
@@jonsobieralski6053 After all these years I still talk too much. People really don't care what I have to say for the most part. Because they like to stay in surface thinking and if I am trying to delve deeper into a subject they just get annoyed. Better to just shut up.
As a fairly intelligent person myself, who also actively engages with the world, perhaps I can add some perspective. Oftentimes intelligent people are extremely pedantic, and to others, your theoretical book knowledge doesn't hold much value. When you pontificate endlessly about a subject that you've "read everything there is to read" on the subject, but have never experienced the reality of that subject firsthand, you're really just a know-it-all, and that annoys people. Most people don't want to be corrected and instructed unless asked for . That's a fairly one-sided conversation. In short, a gathering of written things remembered does not constitute knowledge. Knowledge only truly come through experience.
I have recently been introduced to the concept of fasting. Being alone, not distracted by the cumbersome duties of preparing meals/ weighed down physically and mentally having to digest food... it is actually quite liberating.
I too have been doing some fasting recently. It is like removing the burden of what to eat all the time. "Fast This Way" by David Asprey is a good one on the subject.
It's definitely true. Even when I was teaching, I hated staff meetings as emblematic of collective stupidity and time-wasting. Most decisions are better made individually. A "think tank"is easier to drown in, than to extract productivity from.
I prefer being alone because so many people are negative, self-absorbed drama queens that think nothing of dominating every conversation. What many people really want is someone to just listen to them talk. Usually, about things that are no where near as horrible as they make them out to be. I find it energizing talking with intelligent people that know how to have an actual two-way conversation, but it’s exhausting and frustrating being stuck in a situation having to listen to someone blather incessantly about insignificant drivel or problems that they likely created themselves that they have no intention of resolving. It sucks all the energy out of me and makes me sad to know that they care so little about me that they won’t allow me to say anything without interrupting and making everything about themselves. I don’t talk a lot, but if I am talking, it’s about something important to me. When the other person interrupts me to change the subject to themselves, it’s really hurtful.
Drama queens 🤣🤣🤣so true
I feel the same way
Well said. I really relate to this x
I totally agree. I thought it was me but you made me realize that it's not. You made me realize that it does hurt. I kept feeling angry actually every time someone would just interrup t me never finish explaining anything to them. By the time that I was able to explain anything to conversation was so so long long to think that they were that they would tell me I have to go now. I felt like they could care less about what I have to say. Me learn so it made me learn made me learn so it made me learn that no matter what I talked about to somebody whether we had a problem or we had to talk about something else, they could give a rats ass about it. I thought it's too much energy I'd rather just ride to my damn letter and if they don't like it they can tell me or if they appreciate it they can tell me they don't, but I simply just got tired of trying to explain myself and not be listened to. It's nice to talk to share this with someone like you because nobody understands it because they're all like that. Thank you for helping me feel better God bless you. 🥰
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I prefer being alone due to the fact that many people's everyday conversations bore me to death, I'm always in awe as to how people find the topics they choose to converse on interesting. It's mind boggling at best!!!
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U r a 1000000% right. I dont hv 2 tolerate others stupidity.
After a few minutes of listening to the truly small talk others find so entertaining, I’m cringing inside and find an excuse to get away. Sometimes it actually feels mentally painful to listen.
One of the challenges that I have in this is that I often put a lot of pressure on myself and also that pressure would normally come from high expectations put on me by other people. We have to remind people the we are not robots or automatic machines. We are human like everyone else.
I'm the happiest when I'm alone. And personally I need to be emotionally and intellectually stimulated during conversations, so if I'm not I'd rather stay alone. That's why I don't have friends.
Better alone than in bad company. I don't want to hear other people's problems, but will help If I can.
Even as a toddler I enjoyed being alone. Mom told me she finally realized “go to your room” was not an effective punishment for me because I LIKED being alone, reading. Much more punishing to make me sit in the midst of lots of activity…it’s overwhelming for me. 😝
Yes! My mother also found it challenging to "punish" me, the rare times she found it necessary, and for the same reason. She could only punish me by talking me to death.😆
My daughter love being in her own room her own little space .she loves her alone time now but has so many friends. Can you.beiieve that?
Well, that was eye opening. Never thought of myself as highly intelligent, but that explains a lot about me. Thank you!
I’ve spent my life being alone and learning to love it. I’ve always been a night person. I had to learn not to try to teach others my way of doing things. I’ve had deep friendships that last for years, while I seemed to have grown in maturity they have stopped progressing or settling with what they had or where their intelligence level was. I’ve always been inquisitive and I have to KNOW about how things worked, and the where, when, and what of it all. I learn every day.
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
Thank you :)
Thank you, Chancellor, for the reminder.
Thanks. 👌
Thank you, I needed that reminder. 💓💓
Thanks 🥺
This is me. I like to be alone because i can do things perfectly without distraction. For me, there is a time for socialization but for a limited time only. Going out with friends to shop is a no no for me. I can finish everything on time when i am alone. Time is very precious to me.
Interesting. I thought girls prefer to be in groups. So do you shop alone ? And what about the beauty salon ? 🤔
Oh my God that's exactly the way that I feel. I have a friend who likes to see me at every week and wants to go out and eat and shop and it's like hello I don't have enough money to be freaking eating all the time I got better things to do than going out shopping all the time and I've got a lot of things to accomplish. Man there's so many comments here that I so appreciate thank you so much. I thought I was the only one that felt this way. Boy this is such a relief thank you. 💖
I'm soon to be 70. I've been a night owl for years and years. Part of the reason I like my solitude is from the years when I didn't have it. When I had kids to raise, a disgruntled husband and around people at work. Just watching people and the crap they do and the neediness , it makes me want to run for cover. I love my quiet time. It's a wonderful gift in a hectic world. I love the internet age where you can see other lands right from home. Funny thing is it doesn't make me want to travel thousands of miles to do the same old thing one can do from home .I like people I perceive as kind and givers in this life. I like watching videos on inventions and technology .
That is absolutely what I do, so now I understand why I acted like those mention. Thank you very much for that video.♥️💯
When I am alone I feel free to truly be myself. I don’t have to answer or adjust to anyone. I dance, paint, ponder, and exist. I find that I can experience the world more without the distraction of others. I see, hear, feel, taste, smell more, I can pay attention to the world around me and go deeper than the surface level existence. Don’t get me wrong, I have friends, family, and colleagues that I interact with and enjoy, but ultimately, I prefer to be alone.
This hits home on every account. I just wish more people would understand this..because I constantly feel like I have to defend myself to others..when I don't feel like interacting or basically participating in group activities.
I am a loyal friend, but I
resent having to explain myself, and being pressured to participate, when spending time alone is a part of who I am as a person, and literally something I need, like I need oxygen to breathe..being alone is freeing to my soul.
I am a proud Introvert. I cherish my alone space. I fight for it. 😄
Me too! As the saying goes, different strokes for different folks.
I'm with you i know-how annoying it is.
I totally understand and don't want to be talked over by loud people.
Exactly. I'm happier and have more peace in my life as never before was always worrying about what others.thought or feeling less approval am free now to do as I pretty much please those who made me feel like that are gone out of my life for good folks I call this sweet liberty. I am a night person in these my sunset years. And can sleep in as long as I like. Freedom sweet freedom. Wasn't always loved by many but am a free person now. Hope many others can find their peace too
Most of these things apply to me, but I have never thought of myself as very intelligent. I seem to fall right down the middle as far as looks and intelligence goes.
I agree most of the points you made here and I am doing most of it. I don't socialize much, and yet I don't feel lonely. I always have things to do at home or outdoor with my wife. My two hobbies, bird photography and listening to music, don't need other people except myself.
I don't consider myself an intelligent person, but I did all the things mentioned. As I grew older, I realized that I am different from others. I studied subjects considered difficult by most people but to me it's easy and fascinating.
you are wise and more intelligent
I don’t consider myself intelligent either…always felt out of step with everyone else but didn’t mind… so many things in this video describe me. Small circle friends, loves quiet and solitude, reading. Thanks for this
@@millylagat Wdym
I am a loner by nature and at school i was called anti social because i was spending time alone ,plus that my parents were never pleased with my report cards because i wasn't an excellent student ,apart from the subjects i was really interested in.
I have to admit that i relate to all those characteristics and this video changes the spectrum i look myself in . Thank you so much!
Ya I can relate to what you are saying. I was told the same thing about being anti-social in school. Hell even now I'm a huge anti-social person. But there are things influencing that now. I was called a "Hermit" or a "Loner" as a child and as a teen. Because I decided to take on friends I met some really horrible people in the process. These people interfered with everything from "what I planned to do" to physical activities. The reason they were horrible was that they were also the people ganging up on me and beating me down. So I grabbed on to the purpose of bulking up so everyone would leave me alone again. I can't say everyone was horrible because I met a family who treated me like one of their own. It taught me about real friendship, real respect and real brotherhood.
Same here! I have too many interests to care about things that don't interest me, and that was a big problem in school, and in a social life where people expect you to listen to endless chit-chat about nothing.
I was like that with classes in high school. I actually dropped out in 9th grade. I got my GED 3 months later, 5 years after that I had my BSN ( bachelor in nursing) and my BA in chemistry. I was labeled learning disabled. I actually have dyslexia. I'm not learning disabled, I just learn differently. I believe if you really want it, people will help you get there!
@@angelaf5040 you are so right.
@@cassandramalvasia3629 It's not easy when you're younger. Adults and peers are so quick to tell you what's "wrong" with you, I think in reality you haven't figured yourself out yet and you think differently than most. I told my kids when they were growing up that's what made them exceptional!
Wow - now I get it - always wondered about these attributes and what they may signify - thanks very kindly for posting this - it revealed a LOT !!
I can relate to this. Great Video! I agree with almost everything said here.... The older I get the more I'm realising it. I often get stressed, anxious and annoyed in social situations and with people in general, leading to a desire to be alone in peace where I can make all my own decisions and not have to deal with the burden of other peoples problems, opinions and....well....Bullshit!
Romantic relationships, it seems, are almost impossible for me! Though, in my early 30's, i'm not sure if this is how I want to be forever......
This has answered a number of questions for me.I am so tired being around people.for the last twenty years I love just being on my own.lockdown was heaven in my eyes.😃
I didn’t mind the lockdowns either. I still went to work every day but I had an excuse for not socializing. I still can’t fly or travel on public transit but that’s okay
Sounds familiar... 😊
Same here, I had family members going nuts cause they wanted to get out and do stuff, I live alone and it was heaven for me as well. Retirement is going to suit me just fine.
Total heaven !!!
You're the first I've heard that actually enjoyed the lockdown 2 years ago.
I like being alone, but I’m not lonely. I identified with many of the points mentioned in this video.
There is a difference between being alone and lonely. Im often alone but never lonely
@@michaelmcanally2406 Same. But here is the quirky one: Basically now and then you really need friends. Especially when *hit hits the fan and you need run to your old ones, the ones you grew up with and proved to be stayers or other stayers after years of trial. Those are friends you no need or want socialize with on the average day but only on occasions and now and then. Still you can pick up a conversation, despite it was years since last time, like it was yesterday. And they stand up and YOU stand up for them. They are hard to find but the key is whenever you meet someone, whoever it is, be NICE. It doesn't mean you mandatory need put them on your "daily bread".
If you move around a lot, you're kinda doomed. If you stayed nuff time.. i.e. 5-10 years in one place, you can make one or three keepers.
I have no time fluff shallow everyday life "social" blah-blah or interest in so.
Am I a "highly intelligent person"? Neh.. Me score was 136 twice. Make me neither a true "eejit" or a MENSA candidate but smart nuff.
I'm a lone wolf, maybe not so lone after all. And VERY happy as single. :)
This surprisingly fits me. Makes a great deal of sense. Thanks for putting this together
Completely agree! This video made me feel better about my sleep schedule of 3 am to 10 am:) thanks!
I love solitude.
When I bought my first house and lived on my own for the first time at 26 I realised just how much I hated noise and chatter!!
I come from a very loud, chatty, argumentative family, and as I’ve got older I’ve got less and less able to be around them all for long periods.
Just drains me.
Love my dogs though❤️
They are perfect company