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Taruri Gatere is not afraid of people who judge her simply because she does not want to have children. In fact, she says no amount of shame, exclusion or name calling will make her change her mind.
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Taruri Gatere Interview: Why I Never Want To Have Children | Tuko TV
Pliz Tuko bring this girl while she is old enough to understand nature
@@nancynjeri2857 there are many women out here who dont love children,,,, why bring someone in this world to suffer
Hildah Olesi, they love kids but they don't that maternal I don't know the best term to use. I'd say they don't want any of their. Am approaching 40 I knew from my last teens I didn't want to have kids of my own despite the only son in a family of 5 girls. Am a very proud godfather love them to the moon
Swahili spek
Lol
Wow n I have been trying to have just one kid please God bless me with one can I get AMEN
Amen ul get one in Jesus name
Amen
Amiiin
Amen
Amen
Just like marriage is not for everyone so the same as being a mother. It's a choice and we all need to respect it
That true
Well said
For sure!!
True indeed
Yeees . So true
Having kids doesn't necessarily mean that they will take care of you in old age..
But wait;
How many parents are sleeping hungry and living a lonely life yet they gave birth to 6-10 children?
Interesting
Ur R right they suffer to an extend they regret y they gave birth
True my late father Married 4 wives he had alot of childrens but he died alone and lonely some of his kids did not even attend his burrial 😥😢
She doesn't want kids...NOT A BIG DEAL, PEOPLE...Its her life...
Add volume please. I don’t want kids either. Thank God Almighty I have realized am not abnormal.🤣😝😂😊😎
Those comments with the idea that children should be born in order to take care of their parents is disgusting....
Yes. Thats extremely "19th Century and before" kind of thought.
It’s this idea people have that since your parents raised you with all their might, that in return the child or children should pay gratitude to them.
Which this creates codependency between parents and their children.
Not an ideal concept.
I see nothing wrong with it. It teaches us that nothing in life is free!
@@nelsonkiiru7252 please work hard and make it life.do not depend in your kids.they will have kids too.
@@priscaooko4626 I get u but realistically nothing in life is free!!U can't just come into this world without giving something back and if u do that u never go far or u tend to die young.(Nature's way of eliminating that which is of no use to others or community)
She is very beautiful 😍. My friend also is 33 and she don't need kids . It's good to know africans are getting to follow their desires rather than the imposed society expectations.
She is not alone tuko wengi
Hahaha
What are you scared of.
😁😁😁😁😁 you are funny
True dear
😹😹😹😹
It would be so nice to have fellow childfree African friends like her. Thinkers, positive, still loving to others.
rtoriq I agree. It would be nice.
I don’t know why she got so much hatred in the comment section. Women cursing her out and men ridiculing her.
And of course others are using God as an attack tactic.
Pathetic fools who can’t give someone their space and let them be.
I am here. Let's be friends
Having children is not all there is to-femininity and Womanhood.
What else is there seriously?
I love and i’m inspired by women who live their truth, and don’t let society define their choices for them! To anyone praying for a child, may God bless your womb. To anyone who feels motherhood is not for them, big up to you! na mtu asikutishie ati ‘ooh 50’s..’ there are 50 year-olds who are happy without those children, and there are people who have those children and they are not happy. To each their own.
Finally, a woman of principle who lives according her desires. There are also women who do not desire marriage and there is nothing wrong with it. Big up sis!
B5hhb farq
I do not want marriage. And I want kids. And now I know having kids out of wedlock is not God's will
@Linet Akinyi my mom raised 7 of us well i have friends with both parents who utterly disrespect people, I do disagree on that single motherhood theories . Trashy kids and families do that not children from single motherhood.
@Linet Akinyi I. Think. Those in two parents households are more messed up than us. And those in single households their mom are that way because they are broken from what their baby daddies did. So I my goal is to be a good happy mom not a broken one.
I am 34 years old, no child and not planning of having any.
I am a great aunt, though.
🙄
otieno oduor What’s your problem?
I'm 29 no kids no husband yet and I'm not sure if I'm getting any in the future
Sina
@Nyakojo Michael may He forgive you first, you judgmental excuse of a human being
I do not want kids and everyone has judged me. I have no maternal instinct and I don’t think I want to get married or have any intimate relationship. I admire and love her confidence
Me too
Me three
nice
There's no put off. Some of us just DO NOT want children
nice
This looks like it posted was a year ago...maybe things have changed?
motherhood is not for everyone and she definitely has self awareness. Good for you dear....
Her body her choice she does not owe anyone any explanation. Why are people so concerned she will regret in her old age whatever that is? Kwani hiyo regret itakuwa ya umati?
IKR? There's plenty of elderly people with kids who can't be bothered. Also parents don't hope to be a burden to their kids. Personally as much as kids are supposed to be a blessing, for me the cons outweigh the pros. I'm not at all against having kids, I want kids mainly for selfish reasons. But as time goes by it doesn't look like it's going to happen.
Feminists in Kenya copied from the West.
Maybe her nieces or friends will take care of her when she old.My cousin is the same.Been wrong by a man that got her pregnant. Lost the child.And never had children after that.She is s retired RN.She clinges to her nieces thats only after her money.People still need someone to care for them in their old age.
@@toheaveninjesusandmary.3781 And your point is? Christianity in Kenya is copied from the West, Democracy in Kenya is copied from the West, The English you used was copied from the West.
@@goldcascade3455 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Finally someone who shares my sentiments, greetings from Namibia.
I'm a guy. Same situation. I have no interest in having kids. I'm single and very happy.
I am in my mid 40's, I love working with children but right from childhood,I knew that I never wanted the responsibility of being a father. I am a great uncle, a wonderful brother I suppose but I have no desire to father. Even in my early dreams,I do not remember ever planning for kids and am so happy about it. I enjoy the freedom.It allows me to be the best at my work with children as I see it as a ministry to take some burden off the parents and carers for the day. #Tuko #Tuco
You and I can make a good couple
Now you got 2 choices to choose from @Mary odipo or gatutu yal on the same page 😁🤗
You just selfish nothing else
Afraid of taking responsibility
Sikieni huyu
There’s nothing wrong with not wanting kids. At least she’s honest about it.
876🇯🇲🇯🇲At this time, I'd like to thank🙏 my ancestors who were stolen from Africa and brought to JAMAICA. Girl if you were living here...you wouldn't have made the news...nobody would have been hanging you out to dry here. We don't give a fly, it's your life and you are allowed live it as you please 👍👍. This is how I live....what people say about me, it's none of my business. So let them talk and burden themselves . Nuff respect to you girl who dared to take charge of your life and dared tell Africa that you don't want children. Wake up Africa, women choices must be respected and not seen as breading bags.
My lady, you are powerful and I hope all the young women who watched this takes the time to change their ways of thinking and know that they too can take control over their lives and children don't make you, you are already made. ❤❤❤❤👏👏👏👏
This is called UNTAMMED. Being you, doing you and choosing you. Not following societal rules. I have children and i really support your choice.
Gatere God bless you classic example of the empowered woman knowing thyself and being bold enough to walk the road less travelled
Wow! I’m shocked that men like you exist.
Where have you been?
That's the problem with us Africans. We want everyone to draw their life from the same stencil. We all cannot be the same and its important to respect other people's desires. Our uniqueness makes this world beautiful. Own your truth girl!
We should learn to respect her life's decision. I'm sure she is so comfortable with it.
my take is dont have kids if u know u cant narture rather than having kids then they become something else
John it's TRUE. Pipo get children for the sake of having them that's the reason why we have so many on the streets.
A lot of bitter jealous women in the comment section.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Probably got pregnant in order to conform to society but they didn’t want children to begin with. Now they see a woman who has a say and is destined to live her life and enjoy her pursuits and are bitter!
Waangalie! And they are using Christianity to curse her out! What hypocrites. Yet in the same bible majority of Jesus’ disciples didn’t have children.
Hao ndo wale wanahangaisha watoto ni kama ilikuwa lazima wajae.
Women..... Why do we put each other down? It's her life! Let her be. The other day I heard my work colleagues complain how they dnt like when their kids wamefunga shule cs expenses zinaenda juu. Wanataka wakae shule. Yet they will judge those who do not want to have kids. Why then have kids if you keep on complaining about expenses and how your life is miserable? Lets be honest most of us women have kids because of societal pressure. Why use the bible and Christianity to put other women down just because they dnt conform to your values. It's plain pathetic.
@@LolaBugzy85 well put
@Mary. Your lucky your not a kikuyu man when he dies "mekagira muhu itina". They put fire wood ashes to your Ar**h* women we dont know but as proper married or not a kid or children's is a must sio mbwa dio rafiki +44
And is very shameful to your family and community at large
My mother had 6 kids and in her old age, she feels like she only has one child. Having kids is really overrated and just like marriage, it is a choice to have or not have. This isn't a signficant achievement in one's destiny, if you were all honest with yourselves.
Finally someone who think and feels like me.
The female version of myself. I'm happy to be the cool uncle
Joe Kabuba if you are single and think she is cool hit her up. Would make for a good story.
@@xoxomacx2539 Thanks for the tip. I would definitely hit her up were I single.
I pray to get a man like you. At least we can love each other travel the world and enjoy each other’s company before bringing any of those little humans on earth.
You've undergone vasectomy?
@@otienooduor9702 Sure
Finally, someone who thinks exactly like me.
Me too... I don't want kids
Me as well.
@@VillagegirlinNorway don't say that come I'll give you just one beautiful baby
😂😂😂😂😂 okey
So nice to know that we are not alone 😀
I have children but totally understand this lady. I love her mind of thought on having children so that they take care of you when you're older. It's selfish.
If your parents love you enough to struggle with you.It the least people could do in return.
@@makedaeagle7023 they should do it out of love not out of obligation. My children don't owe me anything for what I do for them. They didn't ask to be here
Oh the comments section! Some real single minded people out there. Choices, people, choices!
It’s her choice. She doesn’t ‘have to’ have children. It’s her damn choice. In 2020, you lot are making me SMH. Chai!
Let her be...its her life
You do you girl! It's okay to go after your hearts desire...
Sure
There are women who don’t love children. And that’s alright ladies. You’re beautiful, you’re unique and there’s another assignment God has put in your life that will bring greatness and joy to your life and you’ll be a blessing to others. In fact you’ll be a huge blessings to the ones with children since they are the ones who suffer greatly when trying to look for resources to secure their children’s well being.
As for all the bitter, jealous, illogical, backwards thinking, men and women in the comment section, SHAME! SHAME! SHAME on you for projecting your fears and your insecurities towards this lady. She’s done no wrong to you yet you persecute her with words as if she’s the devil. Shame on you! As someone said in the comment section, children are not retirement plans. Children have their own destinies to live too thus don’t bring them on earth just to mercilessly assign them the task of taking care of you. How selfish of you. It’s rather this lady who’ll take care of HERSELF! Than you who’ll depend on your child to take care of you. Who is more selfish here? Yes you miserable parent with 10 children can’t even feed them.
I want to wish this young lady the best in her life and she’ll glow outshine and be a force to reckon with. I bet she’ll make so many women jealous since she’s not as miserable as them with their cheating husband and 5 uncontrollable children. Shine bright my dear. I know God has plans for you that will be of peace and blessings. And I pray you’ll get a loving caring sweet man who’ll love you even when you tell him you aren’t interested in children, he’ll love you and adore you for you and you’ll live together in peace and enjoy life. I wish you all the best lady in the video and all the women out there who don’t want kids. You aren’t alone. And don’t worry at your old age as long as you take good care of your body you’ll be healthy and wealthy and a BONUS Point, God will take good care of you. You’ll be just fine. Just respect your body and don’t eat too much junk food or meat, eat vegetables and drink plenty of water and exercise you’ll be fine at your old age. So don’t worry of what these miserable men and women are telling you, you’ll be alright and just fine.
Often it is asked, "Why don't you want children?", when the real question should be, "Why do you want children?". If you can find a reason that is not selfish and not centered around you like them being YOUR retirement plan, for YOUR entertainment, for YOUR happiness, for YOU to be accepted by a judgmental society, to save YOUR relationship... etc etc, then by all means, go ahead and have some. People always seem to forget that they are not raising kids, they are raising adults and they don't stop to question themselves on whether or not they are fit to become parents and equip the children with the tools they need to face their own lives in future.
Children should not be forced on people who do not want them. It does not help anyone, just the contrary. If you do not want children then don't have them. (Matthew 19:12). It is a choice.
(Luke 23:29 For a time will come when you will say, "Blessed are the barren women, the wombs that never bore and the breasts that never nursed!") For those who choose to have children, remember that they are a gift from God and should be treated as such. Heaven is theirs after all. Do all you can to be a good parent, do not let them suffer, do not neglect them and do not mistreat them. They are your God-given responsibility and I guess it goes without saying that you shall answer for this responsibility when the time comes.
I completely agree with you 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Well said 👏👏👏
Actually all reasons to have children are SELFISH. Its about me me me!
Your comment should be highlighted you have just done a summary on this topic.
Wow ! So well said 👍💕
Wish this interview will be done again in her 50's
Hihihihi
Me too
smh
i agree
Maggy Nish I agree with you because our enforcement it's our children.
2+4=6
3+3=6....respect peoples ways of thinking
One of the best interview I ever watched . Miss Gatere I am a mother and I have very great respect for you choice. A strong society is made of people like you who believe in themselves. You are smart and eloquent!
Motherhood is not for everyone... Huge respect for addressing the elephant in the room
Life is just for living live your life the way you choose. 👏👏👏👏There are Folks who have 6&7 kids and can't take care of them. 😎😎😎There are the Mothers who struggle to raised 8 and when She gets old they dump her in a nursing home. One mother can raise 10 kids and 10 kids can't take care of 1 mother. Come to the USA and see ✌✌✌❤❤❤
Bt could u be able to be married coz u don't want kids😡😡😡
Wow, someone who thinks exactly as I do. I believe as women we have the right to choose for ourselves what we wanna do with our lives. We don't have to conform to society norms. And having children doesn't prove any female's womanhood. A lot of women have children and can't even take care of them. What's the point?! You go girl, live your life as you want!!
Ps; I don't want children and I don't have to explain to anyone why I don't. Call me anything, my decision is mine.
Hi
Yess Girl
Do whatever makes u happy
What are you scared of
What if the baby comes in one way or another?
I met a 75years old white lady who was my patient ,she was in her dying bed, she cried every day wishing she had just one kid to come and see her.She told me she chose to travel because she was rich and she felt having kids it’s like a burden/too much work.Be careful what you wish for.But above all we respect your decision.
Then you meet the person who had a bunch kids they couldn't afford and made their children their retirement plan and spent their entire life quarreling with the other parent and barely surviving and then wonder why their kids don't visit them as often as they please? Because they think having the title "mother" or "father" is moral enough. Think about this topic throughly people.
There are also elderly parents who their children have abandoned them in nursing homes and no longer visit them
There are also parents whose children died before them and the mentality of having children so that they can take care of them during old age has to stop
At last someone who speaks my language
Am praying God to give me twins can u gatere pray wth me fr ths matter plz.😘
That's my prayer too may Allah grant us with them
Not everyone should be a parent. With the kind of toxicity people have in their individual lives and the refusal to come to terms with that and deal with it, parents transmit the same to their children.
Parenthood is tough and should be taken up by the most level-minded individuals. But it has been ingrained in our minds that it is some sort of goal.
This explanation is not related to her, just an observation but I applaud her for sticking by her decision knowing how harsh the society and family can be.
Whats wrong with not wanting kids? .... People just follow society expectations without even questioning about their happiness... Be happy girl
Love this woman she is strong enough to stand her grounds. decide for yourself honestly proud of you
PEOPLE HER REASON IS VERY CLEAR! SHE DOES NOT WANT KIDS! THUS IT THOSE WHO HAVE EARS HAVE HEARD IT WELL.
The Honest that is coming out from this kenyan lady its simply makes me support her in what she wants.Stay safe.
Lyne Ngugi you are beautiful and your voice is amazing.
Children are a special gift one can ever get from our creator,imagine having one of those days which never seems to end but immediately you get home,their smiles alone is a blessing,having them around can't be compared, its an ending joy...my case is different but at least i thank God i have them,they are all i have,they make me wake up strengthened each day but for Taruri,its her life and her decision,let us not judge her
My only and major reservation has always been wondering why it would be necessary to birth kids only to subject the little and innocent souls to the cruelty of life. I mean...NO.
Am 30yrs,i also don't want to have children but am a great aunt
Her body, her life, her right, her choice. Let her be.
I thought I'm alone but I always pray God aniondelee hiyo thought
Uko huku 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@nancy Mwangi eeeh
Am your twin but the prayer Nope 👎 am cool 😎 with it.😍
@@cynthiaabdi3350 surely it's not easy to fight it at all
Respect her Choice, do not try to insult her.
I agree with her. Some people have children right now in their minds they are thinking how they wish they couldn't have gotten them.
True like me i feel to give someone my kinds
@@christinemwangale6779 wow...that's sad. God has given you gifts which are your children to love and look after and you want to give them away. That's awful
"Wow that's awful". Thats it? Ok so what did your statement do to help change their mind to see them as gifts? Nothing? You see why you can't take the naysayers seriously when it comes to your personal life decisions?
@@rtoriq You're right. When I read my message back it did not seem sensitive. I read her comment and I was hurt and responded irrationally. I have children myself and I understand it's not easy to raise children so I can relate that it's difficult at times. I just found it sad she feels that way. But you're right the way I worded things was wrong. My apologies to the woman and thanks for making me reflect.
@@christinemwangale6779 I'm sorry for sounding harsh towards you in my first comment. I read it back after I was corrected and realised my message was insensitive. Sorry for offending you if I did in anyway. Please be strong and take heart. As I said your children are blessings and I'm not sure if they are young but are God's gift given to you ❤️I will encourage you how my father encouraged me. He said to make your children your best friends, raise them well and look to God for strength in times when it's difficult. When you feel weak in Jesus Christ you are made strong. 2 Corinthians 12:8-10
9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness
Don't worry you are not alone. Children can be challenging for us all at times but things will eventually get better. Please stay Strong.
Damn I thought it's us men who feel we don't want kids. You one of the few ladies. Live long and be happy
kenya has a great need of such people. One of the greatest challenges the country has is an unsustainable population.
Good interview. Not everyone wants kids. However in Africa is a big deal. I have one child, and when I tell people am done with just one kid, I always get a lecture. There is no guarantee that your kids would look after you.😂.
It is a good decision I cannot blame you my sister. Just serving GOD is my happiness, with no divided love between GOD and anybody.
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Good for you! It’s your life live it as you want to. Most people are used to living life the way everyone does, how boring. To be different takes a lot of courage.
I am near 50 and I never had a child,and it doesn't bother me...it's a matter of choice...what makes it worse I've heard parents speak about how their children are with them and it makes me even more thankful that I chose not to have any,,my mother had 12 of us,and it seems at times like am the only one doing the caretaking....
Taruri big up!!! I understand and respect your thoughts
Hata kama nimepitwa na wakati will still comment (23/03/2020)
First I wanna thank God that I'm a mother and I don't question Him at all for me being a mum at my age that I was getting my kids
But if i was the one asked before having kids I could defenetly say no till I'm ready to be a mother
To those with kids God bless you all and to those don't have and praying to have God grant u and to those don't want to have kids may God grant your desire
You go girl and live your life the way you want to live.
I am 41years old. A mother to a 12 year old. That being said I'd still have him a million times over and that's me doing me. Here's my point, my sister you are questioning why this is an issue for us yet you chose to come to the public to tell us you don't want kids. There are many women like you who have quietly made this choice. The minute it's placed on the public domain then be open for public responses which carry unreasonable responses too. I wish you well as we journey on in life 😁
Yeah, wish her the best, coz clearly people on her path are not wished well. By her speaking about this she is taking one for us who'll never have kids and will consequently be discriminated against. In short she raising awareness to reduce stigma.
Well freaking said!!!!!!!
Have you wondered why she decided a public forum might be where people can clearly hear her. They have heard her in private, that's her experience and we have no right to say it's wrong or right. She chose a platform that maybe she thought other like her need more than people like you who have found your path without being shamed.
Let just by example put a person who has been stigmatized for any other thing in the same shoes, would you question the validity of their coming to the public or would you say that was courageous of them?
Sasa huyu amesema nini. Somebody translate this bullshit
To encourage other women who feel judged for their choices
Me too...everyone has their choice and kids ain't in my life plan
😂😂😂😂 team no stress
@@cathy3842 👊🏿
@@gracejames2573 👊
how will you survive in your house without kid's noise
Why judge her? That is the life she chose......I only wanted one child n that's not being selfish, I respect her so much to speak out as an African woman. It's your life girl....live it. Jah bless
My sister I respect your decision as long as you wouldn't regret your decision in the later years. As long as this is what makes you happy and you are sure the happiness will last till you are gone. No problem
Watching this interview and am grateful she is out there. I have been feeling like am a weirdo person. Turns out am not.Yes am out here too n I don't want marriage or kids.
😂😂😂 to me marriage NO NO NO
We are many ooo .
This lady is soo real , follow your heart girl
If she does not feel like it now fine. If she changes her mind later in life too fine. Let's respect her decision.
atleast am not alone and av learnt to accept myself n not be pressured
I wish the presenter asked her if she can date a man with a child.
Why not ni malaya ya kawaida
@@billm7577 really 🤔🤔 what makes us so rogue
@@bw4423 he's in every comment, posting insults
@@billm7577 the fact that she doesn't want kids doesn't mean she's malaya, nonsense!
@@billm7577 wewe ukona acidity why lie 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
A lot of people who don't have kids say they don't want..just be patient and pray God's time is the best.Telling the whole world that you don't want kids is a terrible MISTAKE.
How is it a mistake? It's her choice.
@@gashafashi08 u have kids.. Stop misleading her
No mistake
It is her choice just like you have made your choice.
So many women out here have children who have no business being mothers.. I totally understand her...
You owe no one any explanation. Reproduction-these are trying times and people are wicked. The only one who has any say with reason over any of us is the almighty Yahawah. Unless he deems otherwise, live your best life! Blessings from the USA🤗
YiriYah ... aman.
I agree with her.....if you don't want kids, no problem.
You spoke to my soul Taruri... Will never stop watching this video w
I guess my concern in supporting not wanting kids is, why do we have kids? It's the giving life to another. It's a natural God-given instinct. These instincts enable us to continue. Since everyone is entitled to their opinion let me have mine too. Most parents don't make babies for them to take care of them in old age. However, the obligation to take care of your parent in old age comes in naturally. It's just the right thing to do. Breaking societal norms is one of the greatest lies people embrace today. However, as a wise man once said "Do you, but nothing in this world is without consequence." good or bad.
Go girl no one has a right to judge you am with you do what's best for you not other people❤❤
She will be happiest in a relationship if she meets a guy who also doesn't want children. But how common is that? How many Kenyan men don't want kids, and for what reasons?
I don't. Just never felt the need or urge
One who has older children living with their mother and is looking for companionship. May be?
If she meets someone who already has kids and doesn't want more, or is okay with her not having kids with him as he already has kids.
Many are out there.
Or maybe if the man's children are grown up. She can have a stable man
I have worked with old people who never had kids,not one or two but more. My dear,they are vey lonely crying and regreting the decisions they made of not wanting children. Too late they cant have them and i see the pain they go through.
tell them my dear they will come to regret
Anne sebree n I work with older ppl who are up today crying coz they had 3/4 kids n none of them looks after them,they living their own life. But u are rite in a way coz those with out kids are very lonely. But in our African culture 99% of kids looks after their older parents.
Bless their hearts. But remember they're not a representation of the experiences of the majority of those who don't want kids. Everybody has their own experience. Some will wake up today and say I wish I never had them, next day will be-I'm glad I had them.
Anne sebree then why not just tell them to adopt kids when they regret? So they need kids only to compensate their loneliness and need of some one to care for them at their weakest moments ?It’s not about having their own kid , we can share love to those who have no parents and make their life beautiful.
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If I was to do it all over again I don’t think I’d want to have kids. Kids are not the problem, everyone else is.
I relate to her 100% . I don't want kids either. However, I am a mom of 1 but I gave birth when I was naive and very young. Given a chance, I wouldn't.
Sidenote: I do not like how she was initially shown with her dog. Society, potrays women as these maternal nurturing beings all the time, and when a woman expresses the absence of a desire to reproduce it is always made to look like she has chosen to be a mother to something else; a career, a dog, a religious mission, a plant, and so on. Why are women always supposed to be mothers to something? Men do not have to be dads to anything, and their desire to not want marriage or children is often immediately accepted. Why? Why is not selfish and confused? Can't help but feel this anger and outrage people express when a woman says the same comes from the social norm of woman in kitchen and man at work. Well we're moving away from that, and while i'm sure the people in this comment section "ouraged" by Taruri's life will breed children who may share their sentiments, I am also aware that Taruri is not alone in her stance.
To you people making comments about her wanting to keep her body looking a certain way, there are so many reasons why someone would not want to bring children into this world. One simply being she's not interested, just in the same way that you may have never been interested in doing certain things in your life. I personally have no idea what it feels like to ever want children and I do not understand anybody who does; it is just like that, I do not understand your choice but i am also aware that it is YOUR CHOICE so i will not try to make sense of the dreams that you have for your life, our purpose is not the same. Society needs to learn to respect women's life choices. While reproduction has never interested me, every single day I am confronted by reasons why it is not an option to me and i would not wish this world on any boy or girl. Just so that thay could meet all the horrors of life, and especially as woman, knowing that a little girl from a young age would have to learn FEAR, BE ASHAMED OF HER BODY AND BE ATTACKED FOR HAVING A SIMPLE OPINION AND BEING STRONG MINDED. TO EACH THEIR OWN.
As an african woman who doesn't want to get married or have children, the opinions in this comment section are a constant in my life, and it pisses me off, but like Taruri said "no amount of shaming" will ever change my mind or any mind for that matter. It would be us living in these bodies and struggling with the choices other people forced on us while they are out there satisfied with their lives. ALSO. SELFISH IS BRINGING A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD WITH THE AGENDA OF HAVING THEM BE YOUR CARETAKER. SELFISH IS TREATING A CHILD LIKE AN INVESTMENT INSTEAD OF A PERSON. SELFISH IS HAVING CHILDREN YOU HAVE NO INTENTION OF LOVING OR PROTECTING TO THE FULLEST OF YOUR CAPACITY, JUST SO THAT SOME PEOPLE CAN BE IMPRESSED WITH YOU AS A WOMAN. SELFISH IS HAVING LIVED THIS LIFE LONG ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT LIFE CAN BE PAINFUL AND DIFFICULT, AND KNOWING THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE THE CAPACITY TO COMFORT OR BE THERE FOR ANOTHER SOUL, BUT YET CHOOSING TO BRING ONE INTO A WORLD LIKE THIS ANYWAY. THAT is selfish.
LADIES, IF YOU ARE READING THIS. LIVE YOUR LIVES. DO NOT LET SOCIETY DICTATE YOUR DECISIONS. SOCIETY DOES NOT CARE ABOUT US, YOU SEE IT FOR YOURSELF EVERYDAY, AND YOU KNOW I AM RIGHT. YOUR HAPPINESS MATTERS, YOUR SUCCESS MATTERS, YOUR MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS. YOU ARE A WHOLE, BEAUTIFUL AND WORTHY BEING JUST AS YOU ARE, YOU DON'T NEED ANYBODY OR ANYTHINGTO COMPLETE YOU. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
I feel you.there are soo many people out here,both men and women who don't want children.One of them a close relative of mine ,she lately stopped attending family gatherings coz everyone keeps on asking her when she is having kids?ati kwani wanaume walimkosea? So she just stopped attending those meetings and she even doesn't visit relatives anymore.I too think i'll follow suit because people are asking when i'm gonna have another kid!I was soo done with societal expectations kitambo sana!Right now,i do everything and anything my way and not because the society expects me to!
Angalia shepu 👍❤️
Well that makes the two of us... I love other peoples kids ,but I feel I'm too selfish to have my own kids ..i love my space too much ..
I would say "self-aware" [edit: -instead of- along with] selfish because A LOT of people who have children are selfish too, (especially those of us from eastern cultures) they just don't reflect long enough on it to see how.
rtoriq You’re an intelligent human being.
I love my space too.....so much😘😘
I respect her decision, I have seen very bad moms who lock their kids in the house and go off, I think those kind of people shouldn’t have kids, better not to have kids than have kids and mistreat them. Kudos to her, don’t have kids beautiful lady, that’s a good choice.
I would want her to do the same interview at 50...shes too young now
You are wise honest intelligent I support ur word
Typical kenyan
U are very right
Annie what are you insinuating? FYI, I have a friend who is 56 now, never wanted a child, and she loves children and people, infact she is one of those honourable human being. It is good to be truthful to youself
Elizabeth ..true.People just think everybody wants to be married and have kids etc.Like we are all the same or something 👀
Yes, Sister, I agree one can be helpful to a less fortunate child by helping with school fees or mentorship. A woman should carefully choose if she wants motherhood. Like the wedding vows, motherhood should not be taken lightly. I know. While I am very grateful to have had one son, 19 years of age is too young. Though I obtained two master's degrees, I wish I would have had my son at a more mature age and stage of life. Blessings to you, my Adrican sister!. From your Belizean sister
Its nice you have decided not to have children. Do not be guilt tripped by anyone who thinks otherwise. The world has enough children as it is.
True!
I think she can't have babies!! 😥
@@marywanjirumburu3482 Nah!!I don't think so it's a life choice btw. For some people believe it or not.
mary wanjiru mburu So what if she can’t? And if she can and chooses not to so what? Are you her god to judge her?
We can never go againist nature, so I am not judging or cursing her but somewhere along in her future she might adopt or cater for animals to fill that void, we can never fight nature 100% and succeed.. Unless she is the first one.. The love of the dogs is to fill that void.. What options? Adoption or animals! Anywei its a jungu thing tht we are trying to adopt.. Wish her luck..
we are many in this....marriage and having kids isaa no I don't desire any
Mimi mtoto ningependa kuona kaangel kadogo kananifanana.i would love to carry my own blood. Kile sipendi ni kuolewa nasiokutopenda fear.
It's depends girl. A better part of all the people who knows me sometimes thinks that my wife is my sister.so ni vile couples chooses to live
@@ndaromungai2309 woow really thanks dear for giving me hope lazima niolewe😀
I hope you have a man who has the same mind as you. Marriage can be very hectic. Your child will be lucky to have you
Hakuna ntu ata ku marry not by force+44