Blended Family Issues ~ how to deal with

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  • čas přidán 26. 08. 2024
  • In today’s video topic we talk about being in a blended family and the type of issues that could arise. You have to work together with your partner to avoid potential things that could be detrimental to the family.
    Let us know if you are from a blended family and what types of things you have encountered and why would you change.
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Komentáře • 90

  • @SheSaidHeSaid
    @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 4 lety +8

    Are you from or in a blended family?

    • @LoveBirdsCentral
      @LoveBirdsCentral Před 4 lety +2

      No on both, but I still appreciate these topics being raised. We were not blessed with human babies, so we spoil our lovebirds. 😍

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 4 lety +2

      LoveBirdsCentral we appreciate you weighing in on the topics. And yes we seen your beautiful birds🥰 Also subscribed back. Definitely will watch when we have the opportunity!

    • @LoveBirdsCentral
      @LoveBirdsCentral Před 4 lety +3

      @@SheSaidHeSaid Aww, thank you for subscribing back! 🥰

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 4 lety +2

      @@LoveBirdsCentral your very welcome!

    • @luluinterrupted9213
      @luluinterrupted9213 Před 3 lety +3

      My family is blended ❤

  • @Caribbeannking1011
    @Caribbeannking1011 Před 10 měsíci +4

    I think it’s good for blended families to get counseling. I’m glad you mentioned.

  • @luluinterrupted9213
    @luluinterrupted9213 Před 3 lety +13

    My husband is black and I am white. We have had some tough times with people. Mainly behind our backs but at the end of the day we love each other so much and have a beautiful little girl together. ❤ you two radiate with love as well. God bless.

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety +1

      Thank u so much!! And thanks for watching!! Stay blessed!!❤️

  • @jenniferp43
    @jenniferp43 Před 3 lety +12

    My mom was Italian and my dad was black. I'm always mistaken for a different race, mostly puerto Rican, im the youngest of 7 children and the only one with a different father, my siblings father was black as well. I never even thought about my siblings being half, it just never felt that way to me💙🧡💙❤🤎💚💛🧡

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety +1

      Thanks for sharing your story. ❤️
      Right!! They are just your siblings and that’s that!
      Thank u for watching 🙏🏽

  • @samwithoutlimits7766
    @samwithoutlimits7766 Před 3 lety +5

    I have 3 kids and they have never called each other half or step. They are all three grown up now and I am so glad we didn't make that mistake. They see each other as sis and bro and me and my husband as their dad and mom although my son calls my husband by his first name when he does refer to him. That is all. Also, on the subject of discipline and working as a complete family unit,, we did have an issue with my son trying to make me side against my husband in a disagreement they were having but that didn't happen until he was in his early twenties. It was very hard for me to do but I continued in the behavior that I had all through the family relationship which is that me and my husband - who is not his blood father but is the dad he grew up under - are a unit within the family structure and we head the family. So while I do believe that the discussion before or as early in the relationship as possible should be had, I think my situation was blessed in that for the most important parts my husband and I were on the same page where it came to our children. But it wont be that way in all blended families so the discussion is a valid action and something I would do if I had the opportunity to do this over.

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety +1

      You made some excellent points. We really appreciate you sharing your story and some insight on how you dealt with this yourself. Excellent job! Thank u for watching!!🥰🙏🏽❤️

  • @ThePrincessCH
    @ThePrincessCH Před 5 měsíci +2

    When you mention not using terms like "step" or "half" reminds me of something I heard about the Chinese language. There aren't any actual terms for stepparents, so a stepmother is addressed using the term for an aunt on your mother's side while a stepfather is addressed using the term for an uncle on your father's side.

  • @clarice7128
    @clarice7128 Před 3 lety +5

    I will keep watching..i like you two...🌿💖🌿Lewisville TX🌿💞

  • @CalandraF
    @CalandraF Před 2 lety +2

    I’m so glad I found this video. Thank you guys. We are just starting to blend our families and goodness - these tips are so helpful. Beautiful couple.

  • @valeriefullilove1031
    @valeriefullilove1031 Před 3 lety +7

    Family Counselling is key. As long as the parents are unified stand together and make sure both parents are respected as a parent. Communication is key, but so are boundaries.

  • @wynetteabc
    @wynetteabc Před 3 lety +3

    I would like for y'all to talk about specific challenges that were overcame with your blended family.💖

  • @carolosik8738
    @carolosik8738 Před 2 měsíci +1

    This is helpful

  • @terri6904
    @terri6904 Před 3 lety +1

    Ya'll are just a beautiful sight, I Enjoy just looking at ya'll. Hearing ya'll talk is Great & full of Very Wise Advice.

  • @BlendedLife
    @BlendedLife Před 4 lety +4

    We all have blended family issues!!! haha cool video you guys! Keep it up!

  • @JeroyW
    @JeroyW Před 4 lety +3

    Awww i love the part at 5:30 about everybody feeling that love! Took me home for alittle i was raised very similar

  • @FaithandNova
    @FaithandNova Před 3 lety +2

    I wasn't raised in a blended family, I married and we both had children. When we was together us as a unit had no problems we got along well it was family that played a huge role in what destroyed the marriage.

  • @cvzdez
    @cvzdez Před 3 lety +5

    Should you include the kids on the new rules? I believ in families meeting
    Spending individual time with each child is key

  • @loreanjenkins3777
    @loreanjenkins3777 Před 3 lety +3

    Keep it real. Love it

  • @sandrawoolridge4227
    @sandrawoolridge4227 Před 3 lety +3

    Your channel has grown since I started watching today

  • @mariapizarrosath8147
    @mariapizarrosath8147 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I’m sorry but I don’t find anything wrong by calling anyone step or half’s , because that’s exactly what it is, it doesn’t have to create separation. As long as there’s love and respect. I’m in a blended family and my step kids are steps and so vise versa. Im step mom, he’s step dad, im not taking nobody’s tittle and neither is my husband. We doing just fine

  • @cvzdez
    @cvzdez Před 3 lety +4

    This is a great conversation
    .. i will be getting a divorce.. never thought about this Wow

  • @theresamcdaniel955
    @theresamcdaniel955 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks for sharing this I hadn't thought about it. I am dating a man who is caucasian and we both have grown children and grandchildren so we need to think about them to

  • @LoveBirdsCentral
    @LoveBirdsCentral Před 4 lety +4

    You two lovebirds are absolutely gorgeous! ❤️ Love your positive vibe and awesome topics. Lots of wisdom! Binge-watching your videos. Just subscribed! ❤️👍

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 4 lety +1

      Aww thank you so much!! ❤️ That’s means a lot!!! Much appreciated!🙏🏽🤗🤗

    • @LoveBirdsCentral
      @LoveBirdsCentral Před 4 lety +1

      @@SheSaidHeSaid Aww, you're welcome! Btw, my husband is Caucasian and I'm African American. We will celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary in December. Looking forward to your next video. ❤️❤️

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 4 lety +1

      LoveBirdsCentral Wow!! Congrats to you both!!🙌🏽 That’s a big accomplishment! We just made 12 years married in August! Thanks for subscribing!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @LoveBirdsCentral
      @LoveBirdsCentral Před 4 lety

      @@SheSaidHeSaid Happy belated anniversary! ❤️👍

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 4 lety +1

      +LoveBirdsCentral Thank you!!❤️

  • @freebee7262
    @freebee7262 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Great couple and great vibes 🩷

  • @shuronshelton3240
    @shuronshelton3240 Před 3 lety +3

    Yes

  • @ayanam510
    @ayanam510 Před 3 lety +1

    I really like your channel. Great content. 😊

  • @AbenaAsamoa
    @AbenaAsamoa Před 3 lety +1

    I love your hair R & you are gorgeous!! New subscriber here

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety

      Thanks for watching and for subscribing. 💜❤️
      Thank about the hair🥰

  • @YOYO-kk9sb
    @YOYO-kk9sb Před 3 lety +4

    You said 100 subscribers? You have 2k subscribers and growing! That's awesome👍my bag that video was a year ago😂lol

  • @JeroyW
    @JeroyW Před 4 lety +2

    Great video guys👍🏽

  • @ashleyt6785
    @ashleyt6785 Před 3 lety

    Please do a part 2! Any stories that stand out from becoming a blended family? How is it co parenting with the kids other parents? What about the grandparents and family on the opposite sides getting attached to the new babies that entered the family? Was there fear that they may get attached and the relationship not work out? It sounds like your oldest kids were very young still when you two got together, was it easy to build those bonds as a family since they were younger?

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety

      Thank you Ashley for another topic. I believe I also messaged you on Instagram as well. Thanks!!🙏🏽❤️

  • @lydiam.godfrey8530
    @lydiam.godfrey8530 Před 3 lety +3

    After hearing your conversation on intimate conversations. The reason for lack of communication is lack of knowledge. Please listen to Jimmy Evans on youtube
    He has valuable information to help this.
    I like you guys and want your marriage to be its best.

  • @kathiduffy1723
    @kathiduffy1723 Před 3 lety +1

    Great advice!!

  • @lakishamorris1291
    @lakishamorris1291 Před 3 lety +3

    Beautiful couple!! ❤️❤️

  • @Teeezah
    @Teeezah Před 3 lety +1

    Just subscribed.... I am mixed as well... Many generations but I’m mainly Samoan/Japanese . Mainly Samoan! I think if I was to visit Japan It would be an issue since I don’t look Japanese lol I am very proud to be blended - chop suey mix lol 🤙🏾

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety

      Dope mix!! Have your ever been to Japan? Where do you live? Thank you for subscribing 🙏🏽🥰❤️

  • @freebee7262
    @freebee7262 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Ion even listen to Pandora is crazy😂

  • @daughteroftheking3974

    This is good information

  • @samc.3153
    @samc.3153 Před 3 lety +1

    God’s Blessings upon You!

  • @theresamcdaniel955
    @theresamcdaniel955 Před 3 lety +1

    I am new to my relationship with a white man and he has a son in law who he thinks may not like us dating even though he has told his daughter. He has a sister who he thinks might not like us dating, so how do you think we should go about things. My handsome man says he isn't worried about it but I told him I am not here to break up family but to love.

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety

      In my opinion I would do what I feel is right. No one is going to tell me who to love. If they have a problem with it then that’s their problem. If he’s not concerned with it then that’s great. I’ve experienced the same thing with family members not approving. That’s their problem not mine. I still love them but I won’t stand for ignorance.

  • @ladyvap5
    @ladyvap5 Před 3 lety +2

    How many children do you have together and in total?

  • @judithpaige4599
    @judithpaige4599 Před 3 lety +1

    How does the child or children feel?

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety

      We did a video on that topic also. Check under our videos tab

  • @summerbreeze3445
    @summerbreeze3445 Před 3 lety +1

    Which one of you has children from previous relationship....just curious

  • @jackiehazel1250
    @jackiehazel1250 Před 3 lety +1

    ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @florencekimondo1681
    @florencekimondo1681 Před 3 lety +1

    How are you blended?....

  • @clarice7128
    @clarice7128 Před 3 lety +2

    Oh you've cut your beard down.. Good.. Look. New to your video channel..do you have children together..🌿💞Lewisville TX..

    • @SheSaidHeSaid
      @SheSaidHeSaid  Před 3 lety

      Yes we have 4 kids. We have a video called how we met. Tells a little about us.