How I moved out of my parents house & started building my life
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- čas přidán 15. 12. 2022
- I’ve been asked quite frequently over the years, how to navigate the transition into adulthood when one has African parents & this video is an attempt to answer that. By sharing my experiences, I am trying to show that what is ultimately needed is wisdom from God on how to proceed because every person’s situation is unique.
“Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (Exodus 20:12)
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When it was time for me to move out of my parents house, I kept on hearing "And Abraham left his father's house" from many men of God. Like I will be listening to a preacher and the next thing is " and Abraham....I started wondering why I was hearing this word repeatedly. One day I was in church and the pastor also repeated that statement and added Micah 2:10 . I became scared. To cut the long story short, God told me to go and study Chinese language and 1year into studying the language, a job came that took me out of my father's house.
I still live with my parents (I’m 20) and sometimes I’d say today I’m going to stay in my room and pray all day but one of my parents or my brothers would come and start looking good for me. Or if I’m fasting they’ll be asking me why I haven’t eaten. So it’s hard to be separated and when you live in a large family. But God will always make a way ❤️
Thissss!,my parents can even get pissed that I’ve decided to stay on my own and not come out😭
The interruption during prayers!!!🥺🥺🥺🙍
I get it fr
@@martekimartey7649just endure it for the time being, I know it can be hard sometimes but with all humility,patience and love serve them for this period and learn the lessons that God is leading you to learn..
As long as God is still keeping you with them for this period,just know that it's part of the process that God is using to mould you into what he wants you to be ..
It was quite discouraging for me at some point that i didn't want to go home on breaks ..😂😂
The holy spirit was my help through it all , just depend on him 😊😊
Can relate
This is really helpful. I want to cry. Even though we have different lives. It's the same concept. I'm almost 40 living with my parents, never married. There is something that is holding me back from moving out. I'm praying about it and asking God to show me when it's time. It's been hard for me because I do feel alone and I don't know who I can open up to about this. I want to feel like an adult but as you say when you're living at home the parents will just want to treat you like a child. Thank you for the advice. I don't want to be disrespectful to them. Good reminder.
I'm sending you lots of hugs and love ♥️
God is with you ma
Hi, good evening, first of, sending you lots of hugs. I’ll like to ask: have you had a proper conversation with them on why you need to leave? You need to explain that your growth and self evolving is attached to it. At the end of the day, they want what’s best for you but sometimes the manner/method of going about it is what’s off.
Also asides from their approval, can you sustain yourself financially without them? If you can, then I think you’ve solved 80 percent of the issue.
Sending you all love❤
@@adewunmioyindamola6923 wisdom
I saved up and took the big leap. You are an adult and there's too much comfort that will breed in you as a result of staying with them at that age. Fellowship with the Holy Spirit on where to move, how to get start, be intentional and purposeful about it: eg. To grow less dependent on your parents and fully dependent on the Person of the Holy Spirit.
I'm the first born of my father who's a pastor. That comes with a lot of responsibility and patience. And I have friends who keep telling me I have to rebel in one way or the other,but I'm so grateful to you for adding that last point of applying wisdom through the Holy Spirit 🥺💓💓💓
I’m so happy you are listening to the Holy Spirit ❤️🥹, as a fellow commenter in this community, I will politely advise you distance yourself from such friends 🥺
This video is everything.🥺
I'm 19 and the pressure to move out is heavy, but I just understood that it may not be in God's will for me. Although my reasons for moving out are quite similar with yours, I know that if it is God's will, it will happen.
Thank you for listing the cons too, especially that last one.😂
I binge on Bible Diary from time to time, and it's always a blessing.
Thank you and God bless you!💙
I'm turning 21 next month and the pressure too is heavy.
I feel living with your parents for a long while gives you this sense of comfort.
Once you move out, you'd be pushed to leave your comfort zone in order to meet your needs.
I have put this in prayer and i really hope God gives me an answer soon.
I am 19 and I moved out for school reasons. I am struggling with loneliness.
I'm turning turning 20 next year😭😭😭
If it’s God’s will, you’ll move out yeah. I think it’s a matter of choice and how willing you are. If your reasons are similar to ezinne’s that means it’s good, thus you should pray for it and actively start working towards it
God’s will for you is to prosper. Don't settle for that lie that says “it may not be in God's will for me” Do You want it? Go for it.
Ezinne, you're too much!🔥🔥🔥
As I turn 22 in January, my greatest desire is to be independent financially and emotionally mature. God help me 🙏🙏🙏
My desire too
Thank you Ezinne! It's Christmas here and I choose to stay in school cos it's an environment I can control unlike home. People ask me if I've been kicked out. Lol. I just need my own space and time with just me and God. God bless you Ezinne. So timely ❤️
Your nails look beautiful ♥️
HolySpirit is wonderful! I'm sure I was led to watch you this morning; I've been sharing my lows and highs, my struggles since I got saved, I've been looking crazy doing it because many Christians don't do it and everyone is like be careful what you say; but then, I can't, I literally can't do without sharing my mistakes.
I also finally left my mum's few months back and I'm trusting God for a place of my own.
Thank you for sharing your experience so far.
I am 24 and I honestly don't want to move out of my parents house for now, I may not be where I want to be in life, but I know that I am a work in progress.
Moving out is good, however it is not what a young person must pursue without properly analyzing the responsibilities, loneliness and struggles associated with it.
If you are not convinced or you are not desiring to move out, please do not move it, because 'streets dey hard', but if you want to move out make sure that you have a worthy reason for doing so.
I pray that God will direct us Amen
Thank you ezinne for your sharing. God Bless You.🙏
Thanks Sis Ezinne. I thank God for the day I discovered this channel 🙌🏾You're a blessing to me. 🤍🤍
Sigh.. hello Ezinne. Thank you for this video. I'm 19 and I'm in the middle of making a decision that my parents 100% do not support. But I know that is what God wants me to do. It's quite a hard one, even for me. But man... I'm convinced that this is what the Lord wants me to do. The whole situation with my parents and the work He has given me has left me really depressed for a few days. I usually want to just sleep and not wake up because waking up brings everything back to mind.
I know what to pray for now, thanks to you.
I totally relate. Home isn't exactly fun, it's triggering and even makes my spiritual life to falter. I just graduated and am 22 and I do not want to go back home. I actually wrote a letter to my parents telling them that I want to look for a job cos the few times I have worked, they stopped me.
It's not easy, if I go back home I won't be able to attend church the way I have been doing. I'm from a Catholic home and I go to Winners in school and it help my christian and spiritual growth and my mum is strongly against it. And sometimes I don't even know what to do..... I actually prayed to get a job, so that I won't have to go home
Hi Vine, I'm 21 and not yet in school.
It's been a tough one and i really need my space already.
I also come from a Catholic background and finding God in November has really helped my growth.
Would love to connect with you if you don't mind.
Hey, I relate with what you are saying too. I'm hoping that God will hear me. Can we connect?
I'm from a Catholic background too but now attend Winners, staying at home doesn't help me well. I'm believing in God
Wow. I have always thought I was alone in this boat. I turned 22 last month,in 300 level, I go to school from home. I'm also a young Christian and home isn't helping at all. I don't have enough time for my quiet time, fasting and night prayer. I can't even attend programs cos of parents rules. It's devastating and I have been praying to God about it for days now.
May God help you sis❤️
@@kezibliss769 hmm may God help you sis/bro ,you can try the night time too, just a suggestion tho
The only thing wrong with this video is that it's too short
A very timely video. I'm 19 and have been wanting to move out because I feel like I do immature stuff because I have the safety net of my parents. But I'm the first child and everyday, I realize that a lot is riding on me and I can't achieve a lot in my parents house. I want to leave so I can learn to be mature and explore. But I have been wondering if it's the right time.
Thankfully, this video has confirmed a lot.
Thanks Ezinne
I have quite debated this pros and Cons quite well many times this year Ezinne.
But I still believe that I still need to move if I want to move forward with allot of things in my life and have more time.
Just trusting God for Financial growth in my business and he is doing it. Thanks allot for this video, it was sent for seriously. Was just looking through some apartments and decided to come to YT for a while and this video shows up.
God bless you Ezinne 🌹
Thanks!I really needed this,I celebrate the grace of moving out and yet being in Gods will,God bless you ma
I love how Ezinne continued asking us to like her videos after her mum told her she wasn't doing so and needed to.😂 That's honoring your mum right there.
I remember binge reading bible diary and I was super excited cause it answered literally all my questions and doubt at that time. I felt the Christian journey was hard because those I would look up to and those that would preach and advice on being a Christian and how to live were already established and nobody was talking about the struggles they faced until I came across Bible diary and it made me understand better and I thank God.
Hey where can I get this?
Check the description box, you’ll see a link the blog.
I don't live alone literally but sort of, just I and my sister stay together, and yes I go out more often than I did back home, being able to go out alone without anyone needing to escort me gives me a sense of independence cause I could remember when I was back home if I just wanted to Cross gate to buy something omo the interrogation 🤣🤣 but living alone is sometimes lonely but it helped me rely more on God, and I can say since I moved away from home, my relationship with my heavenly father has really gotten better, also very grateful that I found your CZcams channel earlier this year, it has really been helping too. God bless you ezinne ❤️💯
This video is timely 🥺🥺
Currently in my final year and the urge to move out is getting stronger. Parents love as beautiful as it is can be dangerous to one's growth but we will apply wisdom while moving out.
Same hereeee
I got saved a few years back and as a new convert, we don't know the reality behind being a Christian.
We kind of think it all Rosey. Maybe because people hardly talk about their experiences.
I was kind of lost and frustrated for almost 3years until I begin to ask questions with God's grace and mercy this year has come with a lot of amazing revelations for me.
To everyone out there who is confused like I was, you are not alone. Start asking questions and you will see growth in your Christian life. Of course, the Bible is your medium for answers don't joke with it.
Oh my goodness I feel God literally sent you to make this video for me lol thank you very much
I'm 19 as well and I recently just graduated/convocated a couple days ago.
I've literally been in this space where Im like confused on the next move to take as well.
Thank you fr sharing. I hurriedly subscribed because of this video 😂❤️
Please can you explain the education system in Nigeria to me. I feel you guys really graduate very fast😅 as compared to us here in Ghana
Lol ummm I attended a private university so it made things pretty easy there wasn't any strikes or complications along the line
My 4 years was 4 years do you get. Hope that answers your question
@@kessy4230 okay please. What age do you go to secondary school normally, and for how long ? Please
I started out secondary school at age 10 or so. Secondary school takes like six years so I graduated at 15-16 years old
@@kessy4230 wow. That's fast. Here in Ghana, we have junior high school before senior high school. Normal age for junior high is 11 or 12. They are both three years each, just that its not together, like in Nigeria, lol. So one finishes shs around 16 or 17. That makes graduating from university at 19 a bit early,😅, but I guess it's almost the same. Thanks for your help tho❤
That part of trying different jobs is the push I needed to make up my mind. Even during the lockdown parents have the image they want of their child. Sometime you hear of a job which they'll be like "you can't be doing that". Plus it's not easy to just be "roaming around" which happens a lot for a Nigerian youth seeking employment. Whether is roaming physically or on the internet. Being on your phone or laptop seems to make.chores materialize out of no where😂😂. Even in 2022, I had to run to my grandma's house to write my award winning story. Best decision ever! I'm Graduating in January, was seriously against working in my State cause I don't want to have any reason to be at home. But I'm sure it will all work out.
My hallelujah belongs to Christ Jesus!!! This is so timely for me. Well Balanced wisdom sis.
For anyone wanting to take the leap, have valid reasons and partnering with the Holy Spirit is a MUST..especially for my sisters.
For my brothers in Christ I definitely and strongly believe part of your maturity comes from partnering with the Holy Spirit as you move out and learn to effectively/spiritually run your own home before welcoming your help meet into it (Genesis 2:24).
And for those who've just moved: always remember, God is our Source and everything/everyone else is a channel.
Glory to God ❤
Ma Ezinne Zara is just one person I'm so grateful to God to come across in 2022,you're indeed a blessing❤️
I found this very relatable. Last year I started my first job and moved into my own place, and the pros/cons you've mentioned have been my experience as well. But I think, like you've shared as well, with the experience ultimately comes a lot of independence and GROWTH (if we're willing to submit to the process).
great points raised (as usual lol :) ) I would just add that living with your parents doesn't always mean that you are not living as a true adult. I think it has more to do with your ability to make mature, independent decisions. Living apart and financial independence helps with that lol. but when that can't happen for the time being, one can still "adult" :) hope that makes sense. At the end of the day, like you said, its all about applying God's wisdom.
Lol I live alone and I can attest to the temptation part. I however like the loneliness maybe because I really like my space. I do miss family especially now because this will be the first Christmas I'll be spending without them. Other than this I would say living alone has actually made me really responsible, aware of my finances and generally accountable for my own stuff.
Thank you so much Ezinne for this ♥️
I really appreciate the part you talked about applying wisdom with your parents when wanting to leave
God help me! 😹
I'm 18 and I feel too restricted, I've been thinking lately on how to get free. I think I'll just pray more about it.
Thanks for sharing ma'am. 🌹
It's your girl here 🤭.
God bless you. 💝💝💝
Thank you for sharing, currently 19 and saved and would really love to move out. I'll definitely pray to God for wisdom and provision on how to do it❤️.
Thank you , found this helpful , can you please to a video or a podcast talking about how to manage your emotions as Christians
Thank you for sharing!
You're a blessing!
The world is blessed to have you in it.
Finding your channel has been a blessing to my life. Thank you.
Wow Ezinne. This is more helpful than I thought it was going to be. Thank you so much!!! This blessed me so much and gave me lead to the answers my heart is searching for right now. You're truly a blessing to me🙏🏾❤
Thank you sist,this was really helpful.God bless you 🥺
This was so helpful and I could really relate to it alot.
Ps: Your nails are so pretty 🥺
you are honestly a blessing 🥹❤️
This is so timely Ezinne, it's been my deepest desire to move out of my parents house very soon. I'm praying for finances to be able to do that.
Thank you so much
Honestly same here, I really want to evolve
Same here. I pray for the finances to be independent and mature in my decision makings going forward. Amen
Thank you for this video. It was definitely a timely one for me personally. God bless you ♥️
Wow. I think it's amazing how everyone can easily relate to your videos... I've always wanted to move out. There's always this feeling that I'm not doing what I should because I'm restricted by being at home with my parents.
But this video has helped me a lot and I think I'm just going to trust God for wisdom. Thank you Ezinne❤
Zara never misses! I thank God for the messages He enables you to share with us
This video is timely. I'm at the stage where I'm about to move out. God bless you ❤
I can't express how much I needed this video,thank you so much.
This was really helpful to me❤
Thank you so much for always putting up great contents 😊❤
This Video is so timely. Thank you so much for this honesty. You are such a wise lady.
This is so well put. Well done Ezinne
Thanks Ezinne, this is so inspiring.
I feel like I can relate with most of the things you said. Living out of your parents house isn't an easy task, but you know if God is involved everything will definitely work out for good.
Thanks for sharing this ma'am 🥰
Thank you for this Ezinne❣️
your locs are flourishing🤩
Hmmm. I see a lot of work put into this video. Ma, You actually address the present dealings in my life. "The struggle between obeying ones parent and God while what your parents want or expected from you is different from the instructions God gave you".
This is a great blessing to Me. Glory to God. And thank you Ezine Zara for deciding to go this video using the wisdom of God.
Thanks for teaching us the mind of Christ concerning this topic.
I love you Ma.
Thank you so much Ezinne, this was timely
Thank you so much Ezinne ♥️, you have just provided me a very good information and education on what to do and how to do it. Thank you 💖💖
Thank you so much for this video, it really helped and has shown me that there's a right way to do things❤
This was really helpful, at times they feel like an hindrance to my own growth. But like you said, its always best to pray about it and apply the wisdom that comes praying!!
I’m glad that this was a well balanced video (as I would expect 😊)
God bless you, Ezinne!
This video couldn’t have come at a more proper time.
Thank you, Ezinne. 😘
Thank you so much Ezinne, for sharing.
God bless you sis!
I love you Ezinne! This message hit me very hard! Thank you for all that you do! May God continue to fill you up ❤
Amen! Thank youuu
Thank you for sharing this
Living alone for me is so hard and I cry most times out of loneliness and stress 😢
But I’ll definitely get through this 🙏
Thanks for sharing Sis. This is an excellent video.
Bible diary has blessed me!!! I can’t even say how much! I can’t say how much! I read it everyday because in this season I can relate everyday. I know that I’m not alone and I’m in the center of Gods plan when I read it. I can’t say how much honestly but it has blessed me❤️. God bless you for obeying the call on your life❤️
This video is so timely.
God bless you!
Thank you so much, ma’am. You’re amazing!🥰
Thank you Ezinne. I really doubt myself a lot and I worry about the future. Thank you for your videos, it encourages me
Thank you so much for this. Apply wisdom!!!
Zaraaaaa,oh my God
You know this is so much in time for me. All these you just said is what I'm going through presently. The feeling of doubt,fear of am I doing the right thing.
The wisdom on how to approach my parents,I thank God I involved Him.
It's the fear of taking the big step for me now.
I so much admire your unique lifestyle.
Thanks for this insightful piece 😃
This is really helpful. It made me consider what kind of relationship I have with God.🥰🙇🏼♂️💜
Beautiful and inspiring story. Thank you Ezinne
Thank you so much Ezinne❤.... This is so timely. God bless you
I always anticipate a video form you.
This video is serious for me!!!
Thank you for obeying the leading to make this video for a time like this for me
Yesss! It's been really helpful for me. I reallg wanted 'freedom' at a point when i was 19. I'm 20 and I'm glad i prayed to God to help me honour and respect my parents while living with them. May the Lord continue to fill you up Ezinne to keep being a blessing!
This video is a confirmation for me. God asked me to do something and as I watched and listened I got my confirmation.
This is really helpful. Thank you for sharing your story, Ezinne.😊
This video is amazing
Your hair,your nails
Thanks for sharing your growth❤️
Loved this video, I’ve been thinking to move out of my parents house and be fully independent and this video is really helpful. Please pray that I listen and follow God’s will. ❤❤❤
This is a big motivation for me already
I find ALL your videos helpful Ezinne, thank you so much ❤️
Wow!
So helpful.
Thank you so much Ma
Thank you so much ❣️ for this great words if wisdom
Thank you, Mrs Zara. I'm encouraged
This came at the perfect time. The pros are the exact words I have been looking for to describe/explain why I need to move out. Thank you so much Ezinne. God bless you. So saving this video.
Ezinne God bless you for all you do and I love love you and am so grateful for this channel
Thanks ma. This message came timely 🙇🏾♀️
Thank you for yielding and sharing so much
This means a lot to me right now…😢
Thank you so much, Ezinne💜
Ezinne Zara, thank you so much, like!!!. Im so grateful
I watched this video twice because I didn't want it to end . Nobody talks about these things as much. Thank you for sharing. I'd love a whole series on this! God bless you Ezinne. And please tell Somebi we miss her here on CZcams. No pressure tho, just sending our love ❤ 😊
Hi Ezinne! This video was really helpful. Thank you. I'd love if you could make a video on how to honour and maintain a good relationship with difficult parents. Thank you once again.
Thank you so much Ezinne!!!!
This was really helpful!
I really love you ma'am.God bless you for being such an inspiration
Hello Ezinne, watching this video was really helpful. Im in my 30's and right now I'm at that juncture where I'd love to really take this bold step and start being an adult. You see all those cons you outlined have being living rent free in my head and I can't just shake it off. But I believe with prayers everything is possible.
Hello Ezinne! Thanks for the video which was very interesting.
But, could you do the second part to talk about how you managed the loneliness when you moved out?
Thanks☺️
Thank you very much for sharing this!! I'm not particularly thinking of leaving my parent's house yet😂 but that financial independence thing hit me. I've started to see the importance of it and the personal freedom it brings. Thanks for also emphasizing on getting wisdom from God. Thank you!!
thanks for this ! loved itttt
Thank you for this video. It was really helpful 🤍
This video was so helpful. Thank youuu for sharing ❤️
❤❤❤ sending love before I watch
This video was really helpful ❤️
Thanks✨