What makes a narcissist revalue you after discarding you

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  • čas přidán 31. 07. 2024

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  • @louiseelliott6404
    @louiseelliott6404 Před 4 měsíci +13

    Saying no to the dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin hits and the narcissist is doing the right thing. Don’t give them any leverage over you ever again. They had their chance and they blew it.

  • @emmamonroe3311
    @emmamonroe3311 Před rokem +35

    Push people over the edge is an understatement for coverts.🤡👈🏻

  • @stylist62
    @stylist62 Před rokem +25

    Stronger then anything he can imagine,
    They live to push you over the edge, constantly picking at you, criticizing, expecting, then try to convince you there is something wrong with you. Unbelievable 🤮🤮🥵

  • @dawnhandelman308
    @dawnhandelman308 Před 6 měsíci +13

    I flipped the script, blocked him and am walking forward towards a beautiful new promise, on this journey of life on planet earth …. With a whole new awareness of “Wolves in sheep 🐑’s clothing” ✝️🙏
    🕊❤️

  • @trevorpenney823
    @trevorpenney823 Před 8 měsíci +12

    Say no to the narccicist drug. Nothing more true. Drugs are bad for you.

  • @runtheriver3670
    @runtheriver3670 Před 7 měsíci +13

    Just been through Christmas 2023. My ex Narc got in touch/hoovered before Christmas, gave me "hope" & "warmth" about us. The trauma bond is strong yet, after 1 year since I last saw her. After she started shaming me again today I told her to leave me alone if she doesn't have feelings for me. I finally have some control of the discard. It's all bullshit of course, having to play their games. I also chose to stay away from narc family member this year, which meant staying away from the whole family. Fucked up but had to be done. I've taken some control back. It's a new feeling. Also am 7months sober and smoke free. 2023 was a year fighting addiction. I just didn't realise I was addicted to my ex Narc. So I'll just say NO if she ever reaches out again. I tried for years, gave everything. It was never enough. It's pure torture. But peace comes dripping slow. I can attest to that. Have faith and best wishes to the community here at JoeBHouse. Have a safe Narc free 2024 everyone. We gonna be alright 🙏🙏🍀😇😇

  • @emmamonroe3311
    @emmamonroe3311 Před rokem +29

    Narcissists can’t appreciate simple things, they lie to themselves every day for their false reality. Let that sink in. Crazy making at its finest👈🏻😵‍💫👈🏻

    • @elinaselene
      @elinaselene Před rokem +2

      YEP!!

    • @emmamonroe3311
      @emmamonroe3311 Před 7 měsíci +1

      @BehindTheMaskJS2023 they are toddlers in adult peoples shoes. It’s not just crazy it’s odd as HELL.🤡👈🏻

  • @NickysWorld88
    @NickysWorld88 Před rokem +46

    This came at the right time! Having withdrawls from the narc now, in a few days itll be 90 days no contact and this is the longest we've ever been NC since knowing each other. Youre like my accountability coach thank you🙏🏽

    • @simjam1980
      @simjam1980 Před rokem +6

      If you expect them to come back after a week, this time they will wait 2 weeks..it gets longer each time. In the end they won't come back at all...and you will be left wondering in confusion. Just stay away.!!

    • @NickysWorld88
      @NickysWorld88 Před rokem +15

      @@simjam1980 I don’t want him back. My life has been peaceful. Yes it can get lonely at times but I would rather be lonely and heal than walk on eggshells with someone who will eventually leave

    • @samwellgent5221
      @samwellgent5221 Před 9 měsíci +6

      You got this! I’m NC from my narc now for 8 month, I feel weak at times but the connection you/we shared wasn’t real. Enjoy it for what it was but let it strengthen faith you’ll find it for real

    • @JoseeRobitaille-id9zy
      @JoseeRobitaille-id9zy Před 7 měsíci +3

      I know what your going through I was in the same thing. Plz listen healing journey for me was many UPS and downs and you think your not going to make it but trust me you can over come the trauma bond but the most important thing for you is NO CONTACT of any kind trust me. Stay strong and you will have a life again

    • @kaitlynmarie4483
      @kaitlynmarie4483 Před 6 měsíci +4

      i’m only on day 10 and i’m suffering..

  • @Job.Well.Done_01
    @Job.Well.Done_01 Před rokem +14

    If ‘the Narc’ approaches me again in physical form after all they put me through……..
    They’ll return to their demon realm sans-face.
    Bet it.

    • @CitiesOfAsh
      @CitiesOfAsh Před 7 měsíci +1

      Honestly all the advice says to forgive move on blah blah blah but how does that help future victims? How does that stop the spread of this brain disease?

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 Před 7 měsíci

      @@CitiesOfAsh agreed. Also, for those who have been through it with a truly narcissistic-abuser won’t likely ever heal. That’s the big problem.

    • @carolovesteven
      @carolovesteven Před 2 měsíci

      Take it to the Lord. Jesus heals and reveals. ✨💖👑.

  • @user-fk8rb8ue5h
    @user-fk8rb8ue5h Před rokem +11

    In other words the best thing you can do, is forget the bastards and just get on with your life

  • @Imnotyourdoormat
    @Imnotyourdoormat Před rokem +10

    George Costanza blew his top, shot his mouth off, and quit his job. After he cooled off, and realized what he'd done, that he'd only hurt himself, he came up with a new plan. The next day he just went to work as usual saying his quitting, was all a big joke, and tried to laugh it all off. But his boss, didnt go for it.

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 Před rokem +19

    Thank you 🙏 Joe.
    There is no going back. Never. Ever. There are no words or actions that exist to a person whom you did and would do anything for… even bring them back to life when they attempted to take their own… after 20 years of marriage…of life… never raising voice or hand to harm or to hurt… only to help and to hold as they broke down on your watch… from a past which you had nothing to do with… did not break… and can not fix. When they make the choice to leave you… and treat you as if you never existed… as if you are the enemy… as if you are dead, bury them mentally. Hold a ceremony if you must. Place their false self into the ground… along with your old self… wish them well on their journey of envy, shame, guilt, emptiness, fear, anger, hate, rage, resentment… as you break on through to the other side.

    • @pamaylward
      @pamaylward Před 10 měsíci +1

      THIS!!! When you know, you know. Please don't keep waiting for confirmation that they're a wolf in sheep's clothing... when they reveal themselves without the mask - you can't unsee it. Bottom line is... they are abusive. No further confirmation is required!

  • @user-cy9in5ry9c
    @user-cy9in5ry9c Před 8 měsíci +4

    He is big mad that I’m holding up my boundaries.

  • @komarac55555
    @komarac55555 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Why can't they say, like; "Hi, i am a narc, could you supply me please?" Why don't they go clean from start?

  • @helenbardakas1321
    @helenbardakas1321 Před 8 měsíci +3

    I worked hard in two years moving forward. 🎉🎉🎉❤

  • @amitsalaskar1024
    @amitsalaskar1024 Před rokem +22

    Folks .. u have been played.. conned.. duped.. by a player. Dont go in the ego battles .. understand your ego is hurt how can a human do that.. well its done.. u have been conned and played with.. there are many things in this world thay will be against u and u wont understand y.. its like a healthy person goes to see doctor for common cold and comes out hearing he has cancer.. same question.. y me? Kill thay ego.. a piece of you has to die.. that memory has to be locked up.. dnt stroke egos and keep addicted to watching such videos to understand their minds .. this is giving you a daily dose.. u feel u are still with them as u are dissecting their brain.. let it go. No goods gonna come from this i guarantee. U are only loosing out the limited time u are given on this planet.

  • @elinaselene
    @elinaselene Před rokem +14

    Really timely again Joe its like you have a view into my mind. 3 months of NC I was ok at first relief from blocking to stop them from contacting me digitally. However just recently I am going through a deep phase of remorse, remorse for myself and the people who got caught in the crossfire of this relationship and its toxicity. I left an already established life behind for that sucker. The grief I feel for losing the people and my pets hurts me the first and one pet unfortunately passed away 9 months after I left for the Narcissist. So now dedicated to educating myself and seeing everything clearly how the Narcissist ensnared me for their own needs which I have linked back to my toxic family my mother who is carbon copy of the ex Narcissist, it has been a painful day today realising these family dynamics - My next steps are re-establishing myself out there in the World believing in myself again... Thankyou💜for your videos they are helping me to stay strong.

  • @ct00001
    @ct00001 Před 5 měsíci +3

    My narcissist ex has been married twice in last 5 years. Just burned her third marriage to the ground and then hit me up on social media again recently lol. They just do the same dumb shit over and over and over.

  • @FrankGarciaVideos
    @FrankGarciaVideos Před 7 měsíci +3

    Your videos are the best I’ve found that really relates closest to my situation, and they really help me make decisions on how to deal with what I’ve been going true. Thank you!!

  • @opeloelijah4677
    @opeloelijah4677 Před rokem +6

    Oh my goodness...you always post the good vedios at the right time when I really need to hear your opinion. You are a life saver ❤️. Am on a healing journey from a break up with a narcissistic and your vedios are doing wonders for me. God bless you 🙏

  • @OlBlueshound
    @OlBlueshound Před 5 měsíci +1

    I enjoy your video presentations and I'm amazed how accurately you describe the narcissists behaviour patterns. I never new what npd was until after we broke up after 7 years. But thanks to yours and some others videos and the viewers comments, I am now really switched on to npd and those around me. I just can't understand how these people can be so selfish so petty and so evil basically. What ever happened to the peace and love in people?

  • @bustermarch8005
    @bustermarch8005 Před rokem +2

    This reminds me of what happened to me 38 years ago. He couldn't quite bring me down enough to discard me. It's a long distance relationship, and last 5 years. I was in the dark, ashamed of myself for being with him, but unable to bring myself to leave, not until I met someone new. Your words help me understand the pain I had there and then.

  • @jmarietv
    @jmarietv Před 8 měsíci +5

    my narcs first wife died so he didnt have to worry about her side of the story (bet its a doozy) he drove her to booze and an awful death...i am alive so he acts like i am dead and never existed for 10 years....that is how he can maintain his sanity and new supply by pretending i am dead....he will never hoover has to maintain he made the right decision....i am smeared all over his friends and family....no one talks to me he has them convinced i am crazy...meanwhile i did not put him in jail for physical abuse (mistake).....i really hope he gets his karma

    • @shawnpullen9517
      @shawnpullen9517 Před 8 měsíci

      Thank you for your comment 💯❤️🙏🙌

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline Před 17 dny

    He’s 54 n cowers behind his 5 ft mother at 80

  • @emmamonroe3311
    @emmamonroe3311 Před rokem +41

    Saying no to them, infinity!🌈✨🌤️

  • @stylist62
    @stylist62 Před rokem +6

    Thank you 🙏❤️

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 Před rokem +2

    Loved that Magician with coffee pot, maybe its not coffee pot, but who cares , we make believe it is. This is all magic anyway !!! 🪄🪄🪄 10.9K !!! 👍👍👍 Thank you for fun, Joe !!! 🤗❤

  • @SherriBodds
    @SherriBodds Před 2 měsíci

    Great content! Thanks Joe!

  • @user-ts5qw6tr9b
    @user-ts5qw6tr9b Před rokem +3

    I enjoy your videos. I love the way they end its like poof your gone.

  • @tammybrasel2951
    @tammybrasel2951 Před rokem +4

    Thank you, that makes perfect sense and also thank you for the follow up of keeping boundaries strong! You are awesome!!

  • @JenJen-80sbaby
    @JenJen-80sbaby Před rokem +3

    Thank you

  • @bklynqueen5928
    @bklynqueen5928 Před 6 měsíci

    This is is true. I watch him befriend a mutual friend of mine. He triangulated me n started hanging out with them. It’s was even better his so called best friend James was there. All hell broke loose n now he lost both supply for doing us wrong. I’m moving in and healing while I have this time. So he will know to tread lightly around town. He dug his own hole.

  • @donnadaniel4448
    @donnadaniel4448 Před rokem +6

    Ok so i was devalued and discarded but i get a text every holiday wishing me a happy whatever. I never respond but they continue to do it😢. Why would anyone do such a ridiculous thing. I cant figure it out??

    • @IAdryan
      @IAdryan Před rokem +3

      They are crazy. Unless you want to understand crazy (and become a little crazy in the process) forget about them.

    • @sharon_rose724
      @sharon_rose724 Před rokem +2

      ​@@IAdryan Sound advice lol

    • @heavyweight1028
      @heavyweight1028 Před rokem +3

      Hoping one day you will and staying in your head. Just means you’re still in their head.

    • @user-qs5hz4mf3p
      @user-qs5hz4mf3p Před 6 měsíci

      With time and space you become new and exiting again. You maintained mystery about you. Your recharged ready for another round...

  • @trinitristant3527
    @trinitristant3527 Před 4 měsíci +1

    🙏💙

  • @user-ie7cs6yk6g
    @user-ie7cs6yk6g Před rokem +2

  • @Bo00si33
    @Bo00si33 Před rokem +5

    Is it possible for narc to revalue someone who testified against them and were found guilty after trial ?

    • @Ladyjojo695
      @Ladyjojo695 Před rokem +2

      Only to get revenge

    • @Bo00si33
      @Bo00si33 Před rokem

      @@grit1679 thx for the attention, wh0re ❤️

    • @nappyfries
      @nappyfries Před rokem +1

      @@grit1679 that’s a really shitty comment to make. This person is obviously going thru something.

    • @nappyfries
      @nappyfries Před rokem +1

      I’m kinda in the same boat. I turned him in, he reached out to me when his brother died & all kinds of other things when I thought he was gone for good considering what happened.

    • @Bo00si33
      @Bo00si33 Před rokem

      @@nappyfries How long has it been sinceE u turned him in and he reached out ?

  • @jason_v12345
    @jason_v12345 Před rokem +3

    What if you let them back in, but you keep them at a safe distance and take their words with a much finer grain of salt?

    • @UncannySense
      @UncannySense Před rokem +1

      they will place 2 more bags of salt on your back to carry no matter how fine a grain it is...there is no 'safe distance' only another reason to punish you...

    • @nopereradicator
      @nopereradicator Před rokem +14

      Why would you do that? Play stupid games and you’ll win a stupid prize. GOSO.

    • @wilfridjoseph6172
      @wilfridjoseph6172 Před rokem +10

      You'd be a fool to do so.

    • @jason_v12345
      @jason_v12345 Před rokem +2

      @@nopereradicator Well, in my case, it's basically family.

    • @Woman156
      @Woman156 Před rokem +6

      NO. PLEASE.NO.😢