FRENCH VS AMERICAN DATING CULTURE | French people don't date !
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- čas přidán 18. 06. 2024
- Dating differences can be quite fun to learn about, today I share with you some of the biggest differences between the American and French way of dating. I myself lived in both countries so I can really compare what I have seen and experience in my own life, and bring to you some fun differences.
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The best decision I ever made was to fall in love with a French woman. In all honesty, her sincerity and undivided attention are what spark my interest. As a man, I always pay for the meals because I want her to have a good experience. Sometimes, she insists on helping with the bill, but I accept her gestures on a few occasions to let her know I trust her. Communication is key for the relationship.
I'm American, I never dated more than 1 person at a time. Everyone deserves each others undivided attention, if it doesn't work out, you move on.
Yeah I don’t know where she got that from
@@Penpaper most likely though her college experience.
It happens a lot with the younger culture. As a younger American myself, my own adolescent experiences tell me *dating multiple partners* can also translate to *having multiple intimate relations simultaneously.* For example, last night you made out with (A) but today you held hands with (B) and conversed for hours. But tomorrow you'll be seeing (A) again because she is all about fun. Of course, your background and environment ultimately plays a part on your relationships. But I do believe young Americans seem to be more open-minded than ever before.
That's because you're a guy maybe. Women have more the habit of multi dating and exclusive is Anglo-Saxon thing probably
I would say if youre exclusive then yes. But if youre not exclusive you have no reason to only focus on just one. It's about communication and being on the same page with your partner.
Dating is so different in France. If an American guy really likes a girl, he will have the exclusivity talk really fast. It’s weird because in one respect there is more freedom to date multiple people without commitment, but! It also brings stress of not knowing. Now with the French , I think you can relax because it’s exclusive from the start. Love your videos! ❤️🇺🇸❤️
So great to see a new video from you Manon. Always love these kinds of compare/contrast videos. I learn a lot more and you always do it in a fun/enthusiastic way. Keep it up as always.
Thank you so much for your comment ! I'm happy you enjoyed it !
Hi Manon. The video was great. To your question on experiences, I would say your American experience on dating is on par with what I would say is the normal American college experience. And in particular college experience when you go to a college where people leave their home towns and live on campus. There will for sure be a difference between big city, to rural, to commuter college, 20s, 30s, 40s, and everything in between. But yes, this is what I experienced when I left my suburb of a big American city, and went away to school in a large campus with 30,000 other people my age just trying to figure out life. Keep it up, we all enjoy the videos!
Thanks ! Glad you liked it !
Thanks for sharing !! Yes of course like you say it can depends on a lot of things but my college was full of people who lived on campus and moves away from home to study.
I think here in the states there are a variety of factors that go into how we date. Location, up bringing, age, religion, and demographic cultures. I live in rural America, so the dating pool is small and folks tend to know one another through families or other relationships. Apps don't help in these areas so it comes down to folks you know from your hometown or nearby towns. If you don't meet someone in high school or shortly there after it gets harder to meet someone as you get older.
Yeah for sure ! All these factors are important to keep in mind ! Oh yeah that must be a little harder and a bit stressful I guess, I always lived in pretty areas so never had to experience this. Thank for your comment
@@manonbtravels6343Hello, nice to meet you
_Old_ at 20??? Not being able to “meet” someone after turning twenty is a bit of an exaggeration. I think it is kind of obvious to most boys (…of all ages) but the girls we fall in love with are in their teens and twenties. We are programmed to see everything about them as being irresistible . I think the interesting phenomena is that if we know them when they are in their teens or twenties, we can still fall in love with them in their eighties. I’ve seen a lot of examples of this. The _look_ of teens and twenties are so compelling to boys of all ages that the memory is still compelling to us decades later.
Personally, I was always chasing the girls that were a few (one to three, let’s say) years older than me. I think I liked the intellectual challenge that they presented, but, who knows. Once I got to thirty, I still loved all the great loves of my life (…who had all move on) but I never fell in love, again (…well, almost never). There were younger girls who I thought were very accomplished that pursued me when I was thirty-ish but somehow they weren’t enough and their youth actually turned me off (…which is not saying they weren’t easy on the eyes).
I think the moral of my experience is to “gather yee rosebuds while yee may”. Boys are put on this earth to fertilize eggs so girls can build their empires. That’s really all we boys are good for. Boys fall in love and the passion that follows when the girl lets them get close to her just reinforces that devotion (love=devotion). Boys have a limited amount of time to ‘seal the deal’ because the girls eventually get tired of one-guy. Once girls have babies of their own, they discover what love is and it is possible for them to fall in love with the boy.
Of course, once you are thirty, all bets are off. Everybody else has already paired-off. I remember being in Paris when I was in my early thirties and playing nurse-maid to a couple of 17-18 year old Dutch girls I met in Maisons Laffitte. I took them to a sous-sol in the Quartier Latin one night (…open from Metro closing to Metro opening). Frankly, I was a little too old for such shennigans but the girls brought back good memories. We were rousted by the flics at dawn while we waited for the Metro to open (…What is a thirty-something doing with a couple of teenagers in Paris at the crack of dawn) but the girls praised me to the skies. I had fulfilled their wildest dreams, it seems. Although, at times like that I remember thinking that there was nobody left for me.
Finding love is a numbers game. I mean, girls won’t actually return your love until you fertilize those eggs. In the meantime, you have to break a lot of eggs to make an omelet. I think it is much worse for the current generations. So many woman, these days, use the power of birth control and abortion to make sure that they are never inconvenienced by children. This seems to be vastly increasing the number of neurotic boys living in their mother’s basements. What’s going to happen to them when their mother’s pass on??? There will not be enough institutions to hold them all.
This was a good topic. The subject matter evolves with the progress of technology, quit a bit, so while it is bewildering to _me_, it was interesting to learn about the current state of affairs (…no pun intended). I was a soldier in the sexual revolution (…the French won _that_ battle) but the generation before could not get away with a fraction of what we could do. I kind of doubt I could date by the current rules of the day. I was never much of a rule follower and, in my day, the first rule was that there were no rules. But, somehow, I think I would get along fine - - up until the point the girl told me she was determined to never have babies [shrug]. What is the point of dating when you are faced with that???
Bonjour! I loved your explanation on the differences in dating. Interestingly, much of what I've heard from other French people in periodicals is somewhat opposite, that "dating" is very casual and flirting is abundant regardless of relationship status. It's quite common to go out to dinner multiple times together, but it's not considered dating. That French women are more interested in taking a lot of time getting to know the person before they consider dating them.
Personally, I do not fall into your experiences with typical American dating scenarios. I've never been interested in casually dating multiple women simultaneously. It makes me uncomfortable because if I do want to date someone, it's because I'm very interested in them, and not interested in dating others just for fun. Maybe I'm old fashioned that way, but I'd rather be with one amazing woman and devote my attention to her, than to a whole lot of other women that I'm not as interested in for a relationship. In fact, I've never dated 2 women at the same time, even briefly. It's just not my style. If I've found someone that I like so much, I'm not even noticing other women - only the one I want to be with. Oddly, my mentality is not commonly shared as you pointed out in your experiences. I'm more of a relationship guy. I'm not interested in going from one woman to the next. And most women here don't seem to be interested in guys like that. Which makes the right woman all the more special and why I'm interested in being with her than multiples others. Which is also why I've never once cheated in a relationship. I'm 110% devoted to the person I'm with. When you truly love someone, how could you not?
I'm going to France for 3 weeks, Paris included. I like your perspective on dating. And hopefully, I'll meet someone like you.
Hello, just watched your video and enjoyed it. Great information about dating.
Great video again !! 😊
Thank you !! Glad you liked it
Second request for a crepe video. I like the French custom of dating much more than the U.S. custom. And, I'm from U.S.. Another good video!
Haha I'm going to try to do one this weekend ! We have a three day weekend this week so maybe I will have the time. Yes I agree, I do prefer the French way of doing it, thank you !
Bonjour Manon! Great video! Always glad to see you upload! 🙂👍🏼
Thank you !! Yes me too, everytime I don't I feel bad, I love uploading content
@@manonbtravels6343 🙂 How are things in France? Still under quarantine, or no?
@@TroyPosey we are kind of on lockdown but not really, but our president should talk on Wednesday to have stricter rules and really be on lockdown 😭
@@manonbtravels6343 Sorry to hear that... That's rough. I hope it passes quickly.
i love this video 🥰 very well presented
Where are you from
Thanks for another great video, Manon! You always choose such interesting topics, and this one is no exception. I can't comment on dating because it's been such a long time since I went on a date. Here in Alaska, there are a lot more men than women, and all the girls I've been interested in are always already taken! :/
Thank you very much !! Nveer been to Alaska but that sucks if you cannot meet that many people, do you not do dating apps then to meet people from other states maybe ?
In the southern US it’s not very common to date around when you first start dating and you pick the girl up at their front door and you meet there parents so there dad can introduce himself usually cleaning a gun or something to intimidate the poor guy.
Haha that sounds like all the movies 😂😂 poor guy
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@@Walker_Bulldog yes there. that’s what I get for now proof reading before posting
@@manonbtravels6343 some stereotypes are true
I live in Mississippi and this is absolutely true. It was done to me and now I do the same to my daughters suiters. Nothing gets the point across better than a shotgun.
I'm from north carolina and You're my favorite CZcamsr and the reasons are:
1. I like france and i love your content
2.your a beautiful french girl that's really cool and interesting
Well thank you I appreciate it !! Let me know if there are some video topics you would like to see !
@@manonbtravels6343 your very welcome and je vous remercie for the reply. It would be cool to learn more about the loire river valley or just cool things france and more videos like these too
Hello again Manon, again this is another video that YT didn't notify me about...Nice to see you again so soon :)
As for dating here in the US I watch a lot of videos about how bad Tinder is and it is all about women and men really have no chance of meeting anyone on that app.?. They say it is all one sided and most men won't even try it any more partly because the standards that American women have developed over the last few years have become just to ex-stream for any man to meet.
That's what I see and hear anyway, it is mostly just a hook-up app and that's about it.
Are you seeing anyone special yet? Talk again soon Jon
C'est ouf ces différences ahah !!
Loyalty is a must.
Oh yeah for sure !
This is interesting, for some reason i thought the French were way more relaxed with seeing other people. I think i got that from movies lol
I love your French accent! I think it’s very cute.
Aww I love you France and the world from American ❤
Haha love positive comments ☀️🌟
same positive vibes are the best right now in the world no matter where you live and or from :) or moved too :)
Bonjour Manon! I haven't watched all your videos yet (new subscriber here), but I wonder if you would entertain the idea of speaking some French in your English videos from time to time (with some English subtitles maybe).
I am not a French, but I am learning french now so I just thought it would be cool to hear you speak in your own native french language too! Merci!
Hello welcome to the French side of the internet haha ! Well honestly I don't I'm thinking about incorporating a bit more French but I'm thinking more small sentences or words, I don't think I'm going to talk a lot in French tho, because my goal is to share the culture but not to teach French you know ? :) I think there are many youtubers that actually teach you the language and it's not my forte nor do I enjoy it, but yes I will try to incoporate a bit more words or expressions maybe :)
@@manonbtravels6343 Merci!
Yeah I am not looking for a French teacher out of you, but it's more like getting more exposure to new French words too! (Such as your French cities video; I didn't know those small cities exist, with unique names that increased my français vocabulary hahaha!)
Looking forward to more videos Manon! :D
Oh Manon!!! You are BACK! YAY!! My FAVORITE French Girl!! Say Manon...do you think you could do a video in the Future where you show your Fans how to make several types of Crepes?? If you do, you will then get to EAT what you MAKE at the end!! LOL
Hello mark ! Haha yes I am ! I would love to, I'm planning on it, just need to find time to cook and film ! But yeah of course I will have to eat them afterwords, no wasting food here 😂
@@manonbtravels6343 LOL! Yes, your Fans will be jealous as you eat your freshly made Crepes!! Still hope to see you visit le Mont St Michel someday too!
Great video manon! At what age do they start having school dances in france? Is that a thing there? In the US it's around age 13 in middle school
Thank you !
We don't really have school dances in France, I actually never really been to one until highschool graduation and it wasn't completely organize with the school. But yes in the US Ive been to a few dances during my senior year and it was a lot of fun !
I have never dated more than one person at a time.....if i'm with you....i'm with you.
That's much better I think !
@@manonbtravels6343 agreed...much less to keep track of.
I would be interested in the differences in faith and religion between our two countries.
Yes I am planning on making one on the subject ! Thanks !
Dating more than one person at a time sounds like the "hook-up" culture of the 2000s. It was a whole lot different in America before the turn of the century.
Honestly 98% of what she's saying about dating in America applies 1-1 like how she's describing dating in France. Also pretty sure NYC and Chicago have public transportation. She's comparing the most populated city in France with twisted walnut Iowa which isn't a fair comparison.
Spot on.
It’s been awhile, Missed U Manonb , love your cute accent & Vlog Content ❤️ xx 🚒 Jesse
Yes haha but I'm still here just sometimes a bit late 😂 thank you so much !
@@manonbtravels6343 🤗 I’m very grateful ❤️ your my favorite Vlog to follow 🤭 Ciao for Now xx Jesse
Comme un américain, j'adore écouter au ton perspective parce que aide avec apprendre de ton culture :-)
Merci, contente que le contenu plaise ! :)
Merci, contente que le contenu plaise ! :)
I must been French in another life because i love the Sharing Paying 😌😙
I would like the French way much better. Never experienced it, I am American. However the way you are saying it is in France is much much better.
Very good content
I'm not from the US. I came from Europe to live here, and dating is bizarre here. I even live in a conservative southern state, and the thing with dating multiple people exists here, too. It may be something true in small villages, but in the cities and towns near cities, the thing is dating multiple people. I stopped dating altogether, and going back to date within my culture. Cheers
Dating more than one person at the same time is not widely acceptable in the us. Sure some do it but most guys will dump you quickly if you date someone else
I think this is regional or maybe city vs suburbs, because in the big metropolitan city where I live, it's absolutely totally normal 🤷🏾♀️. I guess it varies from person to person but in general it'd be weird if someone was upset about casual dating. Especially the older you get.
We don’t do multiple dates at once much anymore because it gets complicated fast. Instead we tend to have one girl and usually it goes well. Trust me it ain’t worth it especially when you schedule like three dates on one night. Yeah complicated real fast. In Florida the gun laws are kinda hard on us fortunately most of the dates I had when I met the parents usually it goes quite well as as I come from a hard working family that owned it’s own business giving us good connections with communities and the local police who frequented us as support. The girls I dated were from hard working families that were mostly blue collar that worked offices or places that you know are middle class. Orlando is pretty middle class with maybe three areas that are higher end like rich minus the celebrity houses which we never see. You just need to see that’s all.
Haha 3 dates in one night is a nightmare, i was talking about multiple dates during the week 😂 but yes I think it's much better dating only a person at a time, i don't really get dating multiple people.
If men aren't dating more than one woman in a week, they certainly are texting more than one.
Americans treat dating like a buffet. lame. I was raised by French parents in America and I could never "date". It thought it was a gross turn off if a guy was "dating" other women. I like to be alone so I don't get together with men who cannot handle being alone. Romance and sexuality is VERY exclusive to me. Leave it to Americans to apply capitalism to picking a partner. They act like they need to "test drive" a lot of people....yuck. not sexy.
Bonjour Manon,
Je suis pas très d’accord avec le premier point, je trouve que les hommes en france (à paris en tout cas) parlent avec plusieurs de femmes en meme temps, surtout lorsqu’on est pas encore exclusive. Je trouve que les relations en france sont un peu difficiles à comprendre…
Am looking forward for the man of my dream, who is loving, caring and focus.
Where are you from
The idea of "dating around" during phase 1 sounds funny, do you mean just hanging out? Hanging out is not dating.
In the northern U.S. it's not common to date multiple people at the same time, it would be awkward and upsetting to find out that you are just one of several. We think French are more open about love and relationships because the movies depict it that way. There are always some sexy scenes or infidelity in the French cinema, as well as a culture which accepts mistresses. Maybe that is just for cool style? I'm not sure.
Think it depends on the person and stage honestly. Nobody would tell one person they are dating that they are dating other people but it goes on a lot with some people. It's not considered weird either because why put all your eggs in one basket before you really get to know someone. It would honestly be strange if a girl told me she's not dating other people while we are just in the dating phase. When things start to get serious that's a different story and things tend to evolve into either a conversation or it's obvious that you're each seeing the other person only. How is it obvious? Someone goes to a wedding/date function etc. with said person or you're spending so much time together it would be pretty hard to date someone else.
American women like foreigners of specific nationality?
I honestly don’t feel comfortable dating complete strangers
Im french and if i can date 2 or 3 girls in the Same Time i do it
I want a French girl after watching flyboys even though I didn’t like the end the fact that the guy and the girl never see each other in Paris
Manon! Why did you leave us?!?!?!
In the US the man should always pay for all of the first few dates. No exceptions!! It's the gentlemanly thing to do and after a 2 or 3 dates then it's OK to share.
I disagree I think either the person that ask the other for a date pays, or they share like one pays for the food the other for the activity 😊 I think it's fair
1. most Americans only date one person at a time. 2. in America, it's almost always the guy who asks.
Bonjour
Because in the USA not many relationships/ marriages last for years. They gotta celebrate something lol
Dating multiple people at the same time sounds insane.
Quand vous avez commencé à apprendre anglais? Je suis American et j’étudie français depuis deux années.
J'ai commencé au college (middle school) mais j'avais beaucoup de mal, c'est surtout quand je suis allée aux Etats-Unis en 2014 que j'ai vraiment appris la langue
@@manonbtravels6343 collège ou middle school? Je ne comprends pas
@@jjgg4931 in french middle school is called "college" haha that's why I put in parentheses that it meant middle school and not college like in the US (which we call lycée in french), confusing I know haha
@@manonbtravels6343 est ce que vous préférez hommes Americans ou homme françaises?
Hi sister
Hello, I am from Palestine, I am 27 years old. Dating a girl
Theres no difference dating in France vs US what so ever.. it just seems different in my opinion. Maybe the french know how to french kiss more passionately. The only difference maybe just the fashion, the food and the language. Maybe women are more open to meeting men in public than in the US?
I learned something new about the US today :)
I rarely hear of men paying for a date, usually it's split. It's pretty much women who want men with a lot of money who think the man should always pay. The women who don't exactly want a rich man still want the man to pay for the date. But I personally don't know any women or men that think the man should pay the whole bill of a date. The idea that a man should always pay for a date simply because he's a man is pretty unfair and unrealistic when most people in the US struggle financially. The women who insist on a man paying instead of splitting the bill think this is 'feminist' but I don't think it is. I think feminism is a belief that women should be equal to men in all ways in a culture with a gender gap - that means paying your share. To insist that the man pays alone every time isn't about equality, it's trying to be superior. Women in the US all have different ideas on what 'feminism' is and the sugar baby/sugar daddy niche has ruined dating because it created a demand that couldn't be met because most Americans are underpaid. Understandably this has caused quite a bit of resentment & frustration for American men that are actually very nice and would make wonderful partners. Everyone in America seems to have this fantasy of living in luxury and the pick-me culture caused by dating apps has made it worse in America too because it gave us too many options, so it feeds on our 'fear of missing out' or FOMO as it's called in business. Most have a certain 'standard' on what they want in a partner physically (men & women in the US are guilty of this) which is also unrealistic as well as childish since this standard is set by what we see projected by celebrities and appearance changes and it's not healthy to think change can be corrected with surgery (which is what caused unrealistic appearance standards in our partners in the first place. It's a toxic cocktail of many elements that ruined dating in America. Sorry, this is so long but I understand the frustrations we feel with dating in America.
PS I've never heard of a woman being naive enough to have their date pick them up from their home these days. That is dangerous. Should always meet your date at the location even if you can't drive. That's what uber, lyft & taxis are for.
Great video, warm regards ☺
hey, I love you.
haha I don't think so but maybe you loved the video ? ;)
@@manonbtravels6343 I meant you, you have your Instagram on your about?
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Hi my beautiful good morning How are you you are beautiful i liked your vídeo a Big kiss my Angel
Dating different ppl...sleeping around with differenr ppl...not my thing...that means that you are not ready for a serious relationship...on the other hand, competing with someone else for a girl is degrading
How about gay dating?
Hello my beautifil good morning you is Very beautifil ...are you from franch i m from Brasil i liked you a Big kiss darling
Les amoureux des bancs publics
Cute accent
Yes
Lmao I live in Brooklyn and work in Manhattan. Have literally seen tits out at a *nice* restaurant and the staff and everyone blatantly watching. They tongue kissed for like half an hour at least. I see people making out in the streets all the time.
In the US, we have a date classification called a foodie call. Woman will accept a date with a man only to get a free restaurant meal. The woman has no interest in the man other than using him for a nice free restaurant meal.
Well that sucks ! But that's why it's better to go on dates with people you've known for a bit so you know more their intention
‘There’s not much pda in the US’ you obviously have never been to a large city or an American high school lmao 😆
So many thirsty men on here, lol!
I think she was really sad about her dating life in the USA
I need a French gf
If the person has not accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour RUN !
ive heard that french girls surrender faster than american girls haha
Not a fan of these kind of jokes, but to answer it i don't think thats true, i think sometimes the French culture especially with french women is over sexualized when in reality it's really not like that.
No one do that in the world dude... Only US people... Just grow up, it's completely ridiculous... It's not a market...
This person gives me the impression that she hasn't done ANY research into how her own culture handles dating, let alone the MYRIAD of ways in which people approach dating in the states. Essentially, some just out of college kiddo giving an anecdotal account of "dating".... *yawn*
French dating customs will mirror American customs after internet dating increases in Europe. Not rocket science.
Am glad you lived in the USA.Go back until you learn to pronounce the name of the country properly.